Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehow

oddcharm · 2020-07-30T14:42:47+00:00

Then 2+ years later you MIGHT get a half assed apology as they think they've grown out of it, but their entire apology is one big word salad that could be summed up as "I'm sorry YOU felt that way".

manisfestationqueen · 2020-07-30T15:17:06+00:00

I had an ex tell me," idk why you think our relationship was that bad, I have pretty good memories of it". Of course he did I was nice and respectful, he was a pain in the ass. But it's ok, I'm thriving, educated and I give all this love to myself, none of it ever goes to waste.

modernmedusaa · 2020-07-30T16:06:00+00:00

Hey I’m just reaching out cos I’m feeling marginally guilty about all the women I damaged today..& also my lines kinda running dry at the moment & I’m kinda horny/lonely. Wanna unblock me & pump up my fragile esteem? K thanks

daisy_0720 · 2020-07-30T15:43:22+00:00

This is why it's a blessing when they DON'T reach out. Never hearing from these men again is literally the biggest favor they can do you.

applestorm · 2020-07-30T15:24:54+00:00

Legit all the male heroes' journey in books and TV shows/movies involve them getting character growth through the sufferings of a woman.

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2020-07-30T17:49:50+00:00

I had an ex call me to apologize a few years ago. In my religion, there’s a holiday where you’re supposed to apologize to everyone who you’ve wronged that year. Ex apologized because I was so helpful to him during our relationship, and he broke up with me as soon as his life got better and didn’t need me anymore.

By coincidence, I was having coffee w my religious leader a few days later and told him about it. He said the apology wasn’t good enough. EVEN MY RELIGIOUS LEADER WHO IS SUPPOSED TO PREACH FORGIVENESS ESPECIALLY ON A SPECIAL HOLIDAY SAID HELL NO!!!!

Elisa_LaViudaNegra · 2020-07-30T16:15:00+00:00

Wow. This hit me hard. My emotionally abusive ex emailed me 6 months after we broke up and went out of contact and said he was sorry IF he ever made me feel mad, bad, or sad inside, because it was weighing on HIM.

That IF and centering of himself in his apology made me want to throw my phone across the room. The gall. The audacity. It’s been 8 years and I still hear the cruel things he said to me in my head in my lowest moments. Fuck that dude for life.

didumakethetea · 2020-07-30T15:32:49+00:00

My ex can't do this because a) he's incapable of seeing himself as anything other than a perfect specimen of manhood, and always will be b) I have a restraining order and if he contacts me he's going to prison

Parking-Act · 2020-07-30T18:20:17+00:00

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watchyourspeed · 2020-07-30T15:34:38+00:00

Sorry if I should know, but what's FOS?

_nylea · 2020-07-30T18:41:14+00:00

HAHA this just happened to me the other day. Quarantine really has people messed up. I never dated him, or even flirted with him, but we used to work together. We were friendly until he made things super toxic by imposing his feelings on me. When I didn’t reciprocate, he was extremely whiny and angry. Always demanding my time and energy, and free therapy from me, and for what? I had literally just left an abusive relationship and didn’t need any of that crap. I told him that and cut off whatever friendship we had.

Suddenly, over a year later, he’s apologetic and “wants to be friends again”. Wow, so glad it took you that long to realize. Have fun with your new awareness and your supposed path to self-improvement. Bye!

CharTheCatMom · 2020-07-30T15:12:40+00:00

This is so true, it's sad.

Alma00019 · 2020-07-30T15:17:23+00:00

Literally this x 100000000000000

FodderFigureIllushun · 2020-07-30T17:51:03+00:00

If you have to take someone down just to feel good about how good you're doing YOU'RE NOT DOING GOOD.

AntWillFortune15 · 2020-07-30T19:14:54+00:00

This guy I was seeing for about a month finally found the cOuRaGe to tell me that he HAD A GIRLFRIEND. When I told him that it was completely unnecessary for him to bother me in the first place when he had a girlfriend, he had the AUDACITY to tell me that it was “necessary pain for GrOwTh”...you fucking bitch. Necessary for who? Him obviously. He then tried to BLAME ME for why it wasn’t working out, talking about “iT’s BeCaUsE yOu DoN’t BeLiEvE iN gOd”....😐

misoup9 · 2020-07-30T17:57:16+00:00

Did we have the same ex?? Because it’s just sad that there’s so many men out there that treats women like this

breadandbunny · 2020-07-30T19:24:10+00:00

It's fuckery. It's childish. I can't imagine being that emotionally unintelligent.

throwawaynevermindit · 2020-07-30T23:52:04+00:00

Society has a serious issue with seeing women as cannon fodder for male character development.

Please normalize the idea that no man who mistreats even one woman, let alone a string of them, will ever become a good enough person to fully make up for it.

'Cause it's true.

Like k Brock you don't get a cookie for not being an outright trash person anymore, assuming that's even true. I don't care. I don't derive any sense of fulfillment from being treated like a set of training wheels for your social skills. You're not absolved, go away.

randomgirlimok · 2020-07-31T00:15:09+00:00

I was literally told “I wouldn’t be who I am today if it wasn’t for you. You helped me become a better person.” Then he cheated and left. Never build a man.

hanjaporfavor · 2020-07-30T18:01:53+00:00

Every single response is golddddd.

rosyrosess · 2020-07-30T18:10:54+00:00

Lol my ex when he hit me back up ‘ Ik you’re going through a lot everyone goes through bad times even me’ LIKE BRO. You acknowledge that you messed me up but still do it again and again? 🤦‍♀️

hauntedkooshball · 2020-07-30T19:52:48+00:00

I got one from an ex who found out something bad had happened to me. His email said the news made him so happy and then he felt bad about that. So he fell to his knees at work and asked god to forgive him. Naturally god embraced him with total forgiveness and now he's pure and happy again. No apologies for the abuse or assault though. That was like 15 years ago

heythere360 · 2020-07-30T19:20:48+00:00

“You’d love my gf. She reminds me so much of you!”

BungalowBootieBitch · 2020-07-30T20:59:59+00:00

This has to be the best tweet ever twotted.

2020-07-30T21:41:00+00:00

Absolutely this. Like congrats on the character development, pos

Hionix · 2020-07-30T21:44:46+00:00

Apologizing and saying you've changed and then showing the same toxic traits as before. smh

AfraidofFollowers · 2020-08-01T20:29:56+00:00

Luckily, my ex’s are worse off without me. In and out of jail. Haven’t seen the kids in years. Living their best life homeless.

I dropped 200 pounds of dead weight in one day and it felt so good!

2020-07-30T17:25:58+00:00

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Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehow

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Title	Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehow
Author	TheOGJammies
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Date	July 30, 2020 2:32 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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