I was thinking - are people sometimes too hard on "nice guys"? The claim is that they expect their good behavior to be rewarded with sex, and that's an inherently misogynistic thing to do (which I agree, it is).

But I don't think everyone who could be described as a "nice guy" is only after sex. A lot of these men want to have a relationship and actually love a woman, they just don't have the social skills to come off as attractive to a woman. After a while the rejection might cause some of them to become resentful, and they erroneously start thinking that women are bad people because they aren't interested in them, when really they just need to work at making themselves more presentable. Either that or take the more realistic approach that out of every woman they like, it's possible as few as 1 in 10, 1 in 20 or even 1 in 100 will return the feeling.

The real fallacy nice guys make is that they think if they are nice to a woman they like, the woman will inevitably grow attracted to them over time. I admit myself that I made this fallacy several times with girls I liked, but only liked me back as a friend. It took a while for me to learn, and I unfairly got mad at them for it which I feel really shitty about, but now I'm a lot wiser. The truth of course is that attraction is a complex thing.

When I think of myself, I wouldn't grow attracted to a woman just because they were nice to me and liked me. They'd have to have a compatible personality and be at least somewhat physically attractive. Honestly, my personality type is pretty uncommon and I'm not the best looking guy, so it's no surprise that the majority of women aren't interested in me in that way. I've become quite happy with being single and while I'd still love to be with a woman, I'm not actively pursuing a relationship anymore because I don't feel like it's essential to my happiness.

So yeah. I think some "nice guys" are assholes, but not all of them.