Men are hypergamous, too.

abond0082 · 2020-03-13T13:03:27+00:00

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lKurome · 2020-03-13T12:30:31+00:00

Idk man. If I’m in a commited relationship, I don’t entertain being with other women. Maybe its a character thing.

2020-03-13T13:28:22+00:00

“Men are as faithful as opportunity allows.” - Gene Simmons

alilabelle · 2020-03-13T12:59:16+00:00

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Mrs_Drgree · 2020-03-13T10:03:47+00:00

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goneaway2thewind · 2020-03-13T10:55:53+00:00

I’ve “branch swinged” more than a couple times and so have most of my buddies. It’s hard as fuck to be satisfied with less when there’s a possibility of having better.

You and your buddies aren't in relationships, they are quasi relationships at best if you're actively looking for someone hotter to have sex with. And you also aren't latching on to women with higher resources and status, you just cant keep your dick in your pants.

And again, one persons experiences doesn't speak for what the average is.

Men CAN be hypergamous but often are not. Women CAN choose not to be hypergamous, but often don't.

brackenz · 2020-03-13T19:27:53+00:00

Of course, thing is most men don't have the option, but most women do, which is what makes low-level men salty

Cicero_Johnson · 2020-03-13T14:06:01+00:00

We feel guilty about it but it’s hard as hell to shake the animal drive of wanting better.

Sort of sums up everything one needs to know about you, doesn't it?

holym23 · 2020-03-13T13:12:07+00:00

Just say you didnt had any other option and you used her cause at that point you couldn't find a prettier girl. And saying that every man do that is just stupid,cause I know men irl who are attractive and successful and they are married with "plain" women even tho they could have an super hot girl.

Men who do what you did are just desperate guys with limited options.

WinterKold · 2020-03-13T12:30:33+00:00

Well, it's perfectly ok to choose better things for yourself. Doesn't matter who you are - a man or a woman - anyone would choose a good loking partner over a plain one.

TypesWithEmojis · 2020-03-13T09:43:51+00:00

No clue what in the fuck you're talking about in your edit.

Ugly women are in plenty of loving and committed relationships all over.

Nice troll attempt, but this whole post shows you know nothing about the sexual differences or just men in general.

Celestial_Europe · 2020-03-13T19:16:08+00:00

Ugly girls are invisible to men, but most women are not ugly, low status men are invisible to women, and there are many of those. But i agree with your statement although am sure "hot" is not what you think. I dont like those "hot" girls i see on tv, specially noisy obnoxious ones... a woman can very easily look pretty to me by just dressing modest and being well educated and not being fat. Most ugly women could step up greatly in attractiveness by not being fat - this is my opinion.

Eastuss · 2020-03-13T10:25:03+00:00

When you can't go quantity you go quality. Doesn't mean quantity isn't the primary incentive.

You probably branch swing for "quantity" and misjudged it as quality.

MilkMoney111 · 2020-03-13T10:31:02+00:00

TRP doesn’t “look down” on women, they simply state their nature. Do you get mad at a cat when it kills a mouse? No. It’s in their nature.

Other than that I’ll have to disagree. No matter how hot the girl is, eventually you will get tired of fucking her. It’s called the Coolidge effect. You just want something different, not necessarily “better.” Some men can keep it in check. But you’re much less likely to tolerate any less than ideal behavior from current partner if you know you have one or two wanting to get in. And you justify it by losing attraction to your current partner by being less tolerant of her behavior.

DevilishRogue · 2020-03-13T10:43:56+00:00

That isn't hypergamy. Male doctors marry female nurses without a second thought, female doctors do not marry male nurses correspondingly. That is hypergamy.

PPD-Angel · 2020-03-13T17:30:51+00:00

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ILikeToArgueALot · 2020-03-13T14:59:39+00:00

Ah yea you are an attractive guy so since you have never had to work at a relationship it means you dont appreaciate them like us average looking guys.

Its like rich people can break a ferarri and not care because they never worked for every dollar to buy that ferrari

When things are handed to you, you dont appreaciate it. Youre a guy that will "fall in love" when a girl plays hard to get.

MDBVer2 · 2020-03-13T19:40:07+00:00

Maybe someone can clarify something for me: What counts as objectively plain/unattractive? The problem with this entire argument is that it assumes that there is one, well-defined, and immutable metric by which we all rank attractiveness. What is it, and how do we know it works?

Bntt89 · 2020-03-13T20:11:45+00:00

If someone had 10 bucks and then had the opportunity to get 100 bucks which person would say no to 100 bucks? Everyone wants better, if ppl have the opportunity to get better they will go for it. Hypergomy isnt unique to women its human nature.

xThicc · 2020-03-14T10:42:27+00:00

Simp

Folknust · 2020-03-13T09:46:12+00:00

What a troll. Women who aren’t top tier are in relationships with men.

rreot · 2020-03-13T11:18:16+00:00

Cheating is not branch swinging
Branch swinging is not hypergamy
How many men have occasions to cheat on their partners in comparison to females? That's the crux here, you're already making apex fallacy at this step.

2020-03-13T15:50:13+00:00

Yep. Just about every guy it seems would be have sex with as many women as they could if they had to resources to do so or weren't in a relationship. Even of the ones in a relationship most men are fine with cheating if they wont get caught. They have no reservations or loyalty.

DontNeedMuchMoney · 2020-03-13T09:45:46+00:00

Never branch swinged or become less satisfied with my partner if someone else came along, this post in nonsense

Psych0_W0lf · 2020-03-13T10:46:09+00:00

Let's say 4 girls are interested in a guy. All of them have decent personality, common interests etc. Their SMVs are 8,7,6,5. The guy goes for the girl with the 8 SMV. That's not hypergamy, that's because of forced monogamy!

In the biological perspective ideally he would fuck as many women as possible. ''Men are wired to scatter seeds at as many places as possible ''.

Because he can't go for quantity he will be looking for quality.

goldmedalflower · 2020-03-13T11:56:49+00:00

A super successful male physician, CEO, lawyer, etc, wouldn't date a minimum wage fast food worker, but he absolutely would date a teacher, flight attendant, office manager, etc. A female physician, executive, lawyer wouldn't dream of dating down like this. Only women do this

TheJim66 · 2020-03-13T10:27:40+00:00

You and your friends are outliers and weird.

Men are polygynous ,not Hypergamous.They want to fuck a lot of women all the time .Women are Hypergamous ,they only want to fuck the best man they have available.

killthenerds · 2020-03-13T18:42:16+00:00

I don't think so. What is meant by the term hypergamous is that if a rock star is doing a concert he can have sex with trains of women afterward backstage if he wants to. Personally as a male though I would rather fuck and date a woman that is about as attractive a J-Lo but not as rich and famous as her, over J-Lo any day of the week. I don't want my life's achievement to ever be that guy who briefly was photographed by paparazzi because I dated a famous women. But women aren't like that and they would die to be paparazzi fodder and fight other women to be known for being arm candy for anyone famous and to be provided for financially.

Also I rather have a homely looking girl who will surprise me with how good she looks naked rather than an ultra-exhibitionist woman who is very conventionally attractive and always shows excessive skin. The problem with ultra attractive woman is often their biggest hobby is being an attractive woman -- because guys will let them get away with it and they don't have to have anything else going for them. Too often women like that get positive feedback just because of their looks no matter how dimwitted or uninteresting they are, so they have no reason to change as long as their looks hold up for them.

wtknight · 2020-03-13T11:14:27+00:00

Men are hypergamous in your relationships, not hypergamous in their sexual attraction. There’s a difference, and the latter is what TRP means by hypergamy. Wouldn’t you prefer to have sex with both the current woman and the new woman if you could?

-Siptah · 2020-03-13T11:48:58+00:00

The thing is Hypergamy isn’t based on looks alone. Women go for men who are ‘better’ than them in every category once they feel like they deserve ( are entitled) to better. The typical example being going for men who make more than them. You make less than her? Good luck. Of course attraction & character traits play a role too. The key difference is men go for attraction not giving a damn how much or how little she makes In the end. With women on the other hand you need to satisfy her checklist, also keep in mind her wants and desires are ever changing. Her attraction for you can and will die for a magnitude of reasons, not only because she found someone better looking.

For centuries men were the breadwinners in relationships. Because women today have more access to all kinds of men their standards are being raised. And their egos are being inflated due to the constant validation they get from men on a daily basis so naturally they’re going to want the best. Not to mention feminism , women empowerment, no fault Divorce but that’s en entirely different conversation.

Ultimately women are rewarded for such behavior. It’s in their nature. The same cannot be said for men because we’ve been taught to believe that masculinity is toxic in its entirety.

DeepCrimsonPill · 2020-03-13T12:08:05+00:00

The problem, as usual, is that what you are describing is not hypergamy. Hypergamy specfically describes women being attracted to men of higher STATUS. Now, looks are correlated with status, but they're not the primary issue when we talk about women's hypergamy. Everyone understands that men are tempted by beautiful women. What Red Pill reveals is that women are tempted by powerful, successful men, in ways men can never relate to (as shown here to be honest).

This is a major problem when you are trying to sell us on equality between the sexes. If equality between partners isn't attractive, then feminism decreases the happiness of both sexes in the romantic sphere. A woman is not going to want a vulnerable meekling like she is, and the man is left wondering what he is doing wrong, why he is abandoned by her in his hour of need. In fact, the severity of men's polygamy and women's hypergamy is enough to really paint the anti-romantic notions of our ancestors in an understandable light. If love isn't distinguishable between will to lust and power, then it is important for family and society to diminish it in favor of what's more important - childbirth.

wtknight · 2020-03-13T12:17:43+00:00

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G77R23D · 2020-03-14T00:04:40+00:00

Speak for yourself bud.

TheBookOfSeil · 2020-03-14T00:19:15+00:00

I’m just going to leave this YouTube link here for anyone who’s interested in watching it. It’s about a 20 minute video of Professor David Buss giving a Ted Talk on conflicts in human sexuality. We watched it about two weeks ago in my evolutionary psychology class and I found it very interesting. It highlights many of the things commonly talked about in this subreddit.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mu4Uki8VyLc

Sid_Insidious · 2020-03-14T01:51:20+00:00

You guys are making TRP look so bad here.

Stop branch swinging at once! AT ONCE I TELL YOU! ;-)

RedPill_Dragon · 2020-03-14T02:17:35+00:00

I would say that the OP is a Chad and women should avoid him.

Good guys don't do this. My dad always told me that I would have the following problem: I would grow richer and attract hotter women while my woman grew less beautiful and more expensive. He said when this happens, go home and enjoy your wife since if I "Upgrade" I will still have the same problem later on.

Good men have fathers who teach these kinds of lessons to their sons. Good men already know this and accept this BEFORE they meet the girl and they are ready for this BEFORE the first date

LadyFerretQueen · 2020-03-14T14:20:14+00:00

Well it makes sense if you talk to your friends that they might agree but it's a huuuge leap to generalise that to all men.

fishy2525 · 2020-03-14T23:41:57+00:00

Sounds like a "Chad" problem

moldovan0731 · 2020-03-16T01:02:50+00:00

Speak for yourself man.

OpenURMind1 · 2020-03-18T00:39:34+00:00

Shallow immature pathetic

BlackEmeraldMoon · 2020-03-18T03:14:25+00:00

Well duh, a lot of men like to go on about 'muh female hypergamy' even though men are statistically more likely to cheat.

It's just a cope and bullshit excuse for treating women like shit.

wtknight · 2020-03-13T10:19:47+00:00

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Pastelitomaracucho · 2020-03-13T10:42:28+00:00

Yes sure, but that notion has never, ever been challenged. We have always known this.

TRP challenges the idea that women aren't.

WarrenGFarting · 2020-03-13T12:13:04+00:00

Must be nice having girls attracted to you

wtknight · 2020-03-13T12:28:31+00:00

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bonusfruit · 2020-03-13T13:35:49+00:00

Men do it to should have it's own flair so those posts can be more easily ignored

MrHerbSherman · 2020-03-13T13:50:20+00:00

Question

Have you ever just been able to keep the lesser girl as a side chick and if you had that option did you do it

KYSFGS · 2020-03-13T14:07:16+00:00

Physiological differences sister, not that hard to understand :/

BumblingBeta · 2020-03-13T14:11:55+00:00

Men will fuck anything pretty much. Men would rather be fucking an ugly woman than nothing. Women would rather be fucking nothing than an ugly man. That proves men aren't hypergamous.

Mafiale · 2020-03-13T09:56:12+00:00

I know that this is seen as the worst part about female nature

Hypergamy is not seen as bad by TRP. The fact that TRP says it exists is rather frowned upen by BPers.

Your post is full of moral statements with lots of implications.

a lot of the things TRP looks down on women for

TRP doesn't look down on women. BPers think we do.

So besides all your moral implications I can agree with you. I was always a firm believer in general hypergamy though there is an important difference.

Female hypergamy is greater than male hypergamy. By far.

-Mavs · 2020-03-13T09:56:29+00:00

We all know how stupidly picky a lot of women can be so when guys experience rejection after rejection of bitches with too many demands having even an ugly partner with a vagina becomes welcoming.

Sure men are hypergamous but because pussy doesn't necessarily come their way as often as women, they're less so by nature.

zino193 · 2020-03-13T14:13:53+00:00

No, it's not. It's not even a bad part of human nature. It's as natural as hunger. Would you curse yourself for not being satisfied with last week's lunch and having to eat every day?

The culture of ugly and content, relationship at any cost is like every cultural staple a rule of thumb that can work for everyone. It's a solution to be applied to even the most ugly, and lazy...so they don't become sociopathic nutjobs. But it's a bare minimum rule. For those that can barely walk themselfs to the bar and not need CPR. From everyone else, your instincts and genes will make sure you negotiate the sexual market and get something better.

When you judge instinct based on the standards for the lowest common denominator you are just shooting yourself in the balls, or lady balls.

TPastore10ViniciusG · 2020-03-13T14:46:41+00:00

Can confirm.

ComplexProjection · 2020-03-13T14:51:51+00:00

Would you have dropped the first girl for the second if you could get both?

majani · 2020-03-13T21:51:39+00:00

You and your friends are bitches. A real man would fuck both women

vtribal · 2020-03-13T23:10:03+00:00

Obviously, but most aren’t nearly as hypergamous as females

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