There is a case for the first explanation: repeated romantic or sexual rejection can be painful, isolating, and humiliating, especially when someone’s self-worth is tied to being desired. “Angry because I’m not getting laid” is basically a villain origin story that most people can understand on some level. Not endorse, obviously, but understand. Chronic rejection, loneliness, shame, and unmet intimacy needs can turn into resentment when someone has no healthy way to process them. That does not mean anyone is owed sex, and it does not excuse misogyny, cruelty, or violence. But acting like rejection has no emotional consequences is also not realistic.

The reverse is also true: anger, entitlement, contempt, and blaming women are not traits that make someone feel safe, attractive, or emotionally available to date. In engineering terms, this can look like a positive feedback system for personal downfall. Rejection increases anger and bitterness. Anger and bitterness make future connection less likely. More rejection then confirms the person’s worst beliefs, which creates even more anger. At some point, the original issue may not even be lack of sex anymore. It becomes a self-reinforcing worldview. The central claim is that both causal directions can be true, and the important question is where someone interrupts the loop before loneliness hardens into hostility.