Guy asks for advice because he thinks his pregnant girlfriend cheated on him and the baby isn't his. Gets told he's being a paranoid asshole. This is the update.

RXRob · 2015-08-16T08:19:16+00:00

If something feels wrong, then it is wrong. Always trust your gut.

Manmore · 2015-08-16T07:37:31+00:00

she plans to pass it off as mine

HOW can you do such a thing?

quelques_heures · 2015-08-16T08:37:26+00:00

Lesson: Never trust the hivemind.

It's like reddit is made up of children who have no experience in the real-world or with other people. People on here are so gullible and credulous. They'll believe a dog can talk before they'll believe a girl can cheat on her boyfriend! smh

BeefJesusMaker · 2015-08-16T08:36:40+00:00

Jesus Christ. Sometimes the shit I see on here really makes me fucking sick. It really is a cruel world out there and you really need to watch your own back. A friend of mine said this to me a while back and it really stuck with me:

"There's a reason for that feeling you get in your gut. If you're picking up a certain vibe, almost every time, that's the vibe you're supposed to be getting."

Good thing this guy trusted his instincts. If he would've listened to the shitty advice he was getting here on reddit, he'd be raising another man's child. Sometimes accepting "advice" from people is the worst thing that could happen to you. Be careful, guys.

lmaoo-sure · 2015-08-16T14:33:50+00:00

Always get a DNA test. There's no reason to assume a baby is yours because your gf got pregnant.

What a heartless bitch. The fact that someone could sign up to live a lie for the rest of their life is disturbing.

DreDawgg · 2015-08-16T07:11:36+00:00

This is gold. Trust no bitch.

celestial_scientist · 2015-08-16T08:48:37+00:00

If you've made a baby with someone, you don't fucking go speak to your friends first about your pregnancy or what not. A bitch who values her friends more than the man is never LTR.

Absinthe99 · 2015-08-16T12:45:07+00:00

IMO she pretty much planned this whole thing from the getgo... that is before she even moved in with him.

Note:

I met my girlfriend when I was away on business across the country. We hit it off really well and started a LDR, visited each other around 6-7 times a year, usually lasting a week.

Well in June she decided to quit her job and move across the country to live with me. She has been living with me in my apartment but has yet to find a new job. She has no family or friends in the area. It's a brand new start for her and she is completely dependent on me financially. I am the sole earner and pay for everything, while she takes care of the housework.

Assuming that this "6-7 times a year" has been for probably a bit over 2 years (and I'd bet most of those "visits" were actually less than a week, he's idealizing it) ...

I'd also be willing to bet that she's been seeing other guys, and/or in other "relationships", and assessing her various options throughout the whole time frame.

Dude was determined to be the "winner" of her own special "pick the best beta bux guy" version of eenie-meanie-miney-moe.

So... she'd made her choice, decided the time was NOW to lay her claim to the "nest" -- which she did in June.

She has yet to "find" a job, because she hasn't even been looking for one... instead she's been flipping through Tinder accounts looking for the right "Chad-the-sperm-donor/baby-daddy" candidate.

She got the lingerie, and slutty clothing so that she can get Chad all hot & bothered and willing to do her raw -- promising him of course not to worry because she's got the whole "birth control" thing all taken care of -- which isn't exactly a lie, because she has also bought/prepared all of the other accessories... to be "in control" of her pregnancy (i.e. the "beta boyfriend" has probably also unwitting been the funding source for an ovulation test kit, in order to properly time the several hookups with "Chad"; as well as a "multi-pack" of home pregnancy tests).

To her mind this has all -- so far -- worked out exactly according to plan. Provider "hubby" is in place, has nice home, good income, etc -- the proper sperm-donor was selected, met up with, did his job of impregnating her (right on schedule), and now she can settle in... having established her life/family on a solid basis.

Or at least so she thought.

Also, interesting that the \r\relationships forum deleted the following subthread of comments & replies: https://archive.is/9CZHD including some pretty SOLID advice on what this guy needs to do ASAP (before even blowing her little "game" wide open) to cover his arse legally:

DO NOT HOLD YOURSELF OUT AS THE FATHER (don't think you would, but needed to be said). You can never undo that. You may need to see a family lawyer to see what you need to do to prevent being listed as the father.

The more I think about it, the more I need to say this: Get evidence of EVERYTHING. Go take it to a family lawyer - a damn good family lawyer, and see what you need to do to protect yourself from a false allegation of fatherhood / child support. A lawyer can tell you want to do and what not to do. Mention nothing to your soon-to-be-ex-girlfriend about this. You want the element of surprise on your side. If she makes a child support claim, you want to be able to ambush her and legally crush her as easily as possible.

Hegemott · 2015-08-16T07:54:08+00:00

How can she have sex with a guy, get pregnant from it, and wait 2 weeks for the test?

She has unsafe sex, waits 2 weeks, gets the test, and still has 6 days left.

KarYotypeStereotype · 2015-08-16T12:42:35+00:00

If you read the comments on the update, there are a bunch telling him he doesn't need screenshots of her texts and Facebook messages, because ultimately a paternity test will save him... This is just about the worst advice you could give, since in the US a paternity test does not get you out of child support. Proof of this girl's intent will go much farther in the court room.

Polaris382 · 2015-08-16T07:18:05+00:00

He's a man, no one cares. Nothing new here, we must think of the womyn.

monsterhunter32 · 2015-08-16T17:08:07+00:00

No matter how many times I read stories like this, and no matter how much I know it's just in their nature, this still truly disgusts me. I feel disgust for both the woman who was going to cuckold the guy, and the original posters who told him he was paranoid. As a man you truly walk this earth alone.

bidi123 · 2015-08-16T08:08:58+00:00

Lesson learned: Never listen to the bluepillers (males using woman crazytalk).

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-08-16T13:27:54+00:00

As for the pregnancy she confessed to him two weeks ago she's pregnant with his kid and how she plans to pass it off as mine.

Because it's MEN who are the crazy ones. LOL

RedBigMan · 2015-08-16T09:59:35+00:00

Lesson: Never trust the hivemind.

Lesson: Trust your gut. That's several millennia of evolution in your lizard brain telling you the truth. Also ATP (Always Test Paternity).

dashing_nash · 2015-08-16T13:35:44+00:00

Well he asked for advice in r/relationships.. Wtf was he expecting.. That place is overrun with hamsters and white knights.

Personally I think his story shows a lot of wisdom. On his part.. Yeah she tried to cuckold him but he's no fucking mug

abetterarsonist · 2015-08-16T15:57:36+00:00

I read a book called 'I am Asher Lev,' which was about the Jewish artist of the same name. There's a quote in the book attributed to Russian Orthodox Jews which states that "every murder is a genocide."

The idea being that in murdering someone you're not just killing the person but all of his unborn descendants as well. I like the quote, and I beleive something similar could be said of cuckolding.

fickle_fuck · 2015-08-16T09:41:15+00:00

If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, looks like a duck...

BladeEmperor · 2015-08-16T18:16:43+00:00

I said it once and I'll say it again: relationships are TERRIBLE for men. LTR's aren't worth it anymore, let alone marriage. This infidelity shit happens more frequently than you expect.

It's a new age. Don't wanna get hurt? Don't commit to any girl.

thegr8b8m8 · 2015-08-16T12:41:18+00:00

Not trying to state the obvious here but do we really need any kind of reminder of who the average reader of reddit is?

JohnPeel · 2015-08-16T14:10:37+00:00

Dear god those people are idiots.

They're actually arguing the science of how possibly she could have tested positive for pregnancy in 3 weeks. Aside from the fact that it is actually possible, which whilst demonstrating further how retarded they are, is a complete red herring...

...She was simply lying.

darkshine05 · 2015-08-16T13:39:36+00:00

Ever ask women for advise. They just keep on with the pedestal mentality. Ask a guy for advise on women.

Chopin_ · 2015-08-16T14:49:32+00:00

"Also, just as an aside I got pregnant even though we used a condom, even though it didn't break. It can slip or have a small tear that might not be obvious during/after intercourse. It would not be the first time for this to happen."

No it wouldn't

alclarkey · 2015-08-16T10:16:17+00:00

Okay 3 weeks ago he just started noticing strange things, the cheating could have been going for far longer. Oh the hamster.

TheEssexian · 2015-08-16T16:59:36+00:00

As many as 5% of children are misattributed to the wrong father. That is 1/20. 1/20 men out there are raising somebody else's child because a woman lied to them.

If there was a phenomenon like this that men were guilty of, feminists would be bemoaning how evil patriarchy is.

This is straight-up sociopathic behaviour. Emotional manipulation. It's evil. It's disgusting.

bea5tly · 2015-08-16T18:00:03+00:00

Any one who is dumb enough to not get a paternity test when a kid is born deserves it. Walgreens sells them for $24 and you can do it fast without the girl knowning. All results are emailed to you and there you have it.

Note: Yes I've had my friend do this before so I know how easy it is.

silver_nuke13 · 2015-08-16T20:05:45+00:00

Ugh so many "man-eaters" and apologists, that sub is kinda cancer

Liverotto · 2015-08-16T12:53:38+00:00

I'll take "Am I a beta cuck?" for $400, Alex!

qdegtjulo · 2015-08-16T16:23:59+00:00

My favorite part is when they attack the timeline, nobody thought it might have started sooner and it was only when it intensified (as it did) that the guy noticed?

All-DayErrDay · 2015-08-16T17:50:35+00:00

At this point unless you straight up saw your girl being fucked by a guy, no one ever wants to believe that the girl was in the wrong. There's always so many 'variables' that these obvious red flags could be about. Who cares about the 'variables' when the most obvious and likely cause is what should be on your mind.

ItsCold_ItsCold · 2015-08-16T18:49:31+00:00

Please update when the hivemind justifies her actions.

alphbux · 2015-08-16T20:54:03+00:00

From one of his comments later:

I pay the bills completely, I pay for all of our food and necessities. I feel humiliated that I paid for her new jewelry clothes and lingerie, all of which she wore just to look good for the other guy.

__528491__ · 2015-08-16T09:28:05+00:00

If he's smart he will keep quiet until an abortion is no longer an option. Then he dumps that cunt's ass for full effect.

bloodfoxtrue · 2015-08-16T16:22:41+00:00

Feel bad for you man! It's disgusting she cheated on you and (presumably) wants your support for the child, so I'm glad you know the truth now.

The-Ban-Hammer · 2015-08-16T19:01:46+00:00

Yup. All the women couldn't wait to tell him he's paranoid and/or misogynistic for thinking she couldn't just "like lingerie for herself" or whatever silliness they say aloud when lying to others and themselves.

trudatness · 2015-08-16T20:42:01+00:00

People forget when there is smoke there tends to be fire.

We see too often the fedora tipping excuse makers on reddit m'ladying all over themselves trying to protect the poor helpless womyns - even ones they've never met before or will ever know in their entire lives.

Meanwhile dude has seen some changing behavior patterns and sneaky behavior that troubles him enough to come online and ask people who he believes to be impartial the question of "I'm not crazy am I? This isn't happening is it?"

People (read: men) sometimes have a hard time wrapping their heads around the idea that someone could be that selfish and dishonest as to live that kind of lie and to lie to their own children about who their father is, just to escape blame for their own bad decision making. Unfortunately, the truth is it happens more often them people like to think (or know about).

Furthermore, people also dismiss the damage this does to people's lives - to fathers and children - for the sake of safeguarding the woman' interest at all costs.

The denial is deep and troubling for us observers in the know.

For me, this is just another wood on the pile. We've seen this so, so many times here on reddit (and elsewhere). I'm no longer shocked at any kind of revelation. I just shrug in acceptance.

This is how people are: the womyns who selfishly lie for their own benefit - and the dumbfuck white knights that defend these liars.

FutureLawyer1989 · 2015-08-17T03:21:31+00:00

He's still keeping up appearances? Why not just drop the bitch?

RP_Ese · 2015-08-16T17:51:02+00:00

She was cheating on me.

Done. You dont need any other fact, any other reason. For christ's sake. And if you need validation from the internet for this FACT, you are a goddam bloody idiot.

EurasianAesthetics · 2015-08-17T02:06:08+00:00

Fuck it. I'm gonna cuck some beta sods and laugh as they invest all their time and resources into my spawn. I will chill with my feet up on an island sipping pina coladas whilst my legion of children will be raised by a number of men who know nothing of it. LOL

IronMeltsinmyHands · 2015-08-16T15:40:45+00:00

Just lie down on the floor like the carpet you were taught to be and fucking pull out every excuse in the book out of your ass. Cuz that's not weird.

I fucking hate excuses and the people who look for them.

Shitlords_Rule_2 · 2015-08-16T19:06:56+00:00

She suddenly quits her job and moves to him in June. Maybe the reason this happened so suddenly is because she found out she was pregnant then. I know she said in the text that the other guy she was seeing was the father, but what if she lied to him too? Maybe he was her first choice of betabux?

Nicholas_ · 2015-08-16T20:13:57+00:00

I'm glad I don't take relationships seriously any more and just fuck girls around.

jdw101 · 2015-08-17T00:54:54+00:00

Wow man I am so sorry to hear this. You did dodge a bullet, you found out and she didn't try and pass off his offspring as yours. You are free and have learned the lesson a lot of us have. I wish you the best.

heretogetbetter · 2015-08-17T00:56:06+00:00

That is fucked up. Makes me distrust everything.

Upvote_To_The_Left · 2015-08-17T17:48:08+00:00

whats insane here is that OP just dodged a bullet that would have totally changed his life.

Imaging if he remained ignorant and ended up raising the kid. Insane how his entire life could have taken a COMPLETELY different course if he didn't snoop a little and listen to his gut.

BlackHeart89 · 2015-08-19T01:17:02+00:00

The post seems fake to me. Its too perfect of a redpill example. Especially with the update.

What got me the most was all the information he managed to find in such a short time frame after she changed her password. He found out everything, even down to the number of times and when this and that happened.

1v1mebruh · 2015-10-16T08:01:43+00:00

oooooh my god look at these comments

"To be fair, if somehow he'd been wrong (a similar scenario has played out on this sub before), it would have devastated their relationship and tainted the joy of their pregnancy if he'd asked for a paternity test for the child if she hadn't been cheating and the condoms simply failed. I think the snooping was a good choice, to confirm whether or not she'd been stepping out, before moving forward."

MobilePenor · 2015-08-18T00:10:59+00:00

There is a book called "Female Infidelity and Paternal Uncertainty: Evolutionary Perspectives on Male Anti-Cuckoldry Tactics". It is a book published by Cambridge.

It confirms almost all of the red pill theories regarding cuckoldry, and it was published in 2006 (so, you nobody would dare to say it is a product of the "internet redpillers mentality").

This story fits perfectly what it's explained in the book. If you read this book, you won't be surprised when stuff like this happen, but you also understand why and how it happens.

It is also very well written (one of the best I've ever read and I used to read a lot of scientific publications). Precise and complex, but never to appear smart just because it is required by the arguments and facts exposed.

I swear I'm not shilling for the authors, just wanted to share a really awesome book.

LondonChap86 · 2015-08-16T07:47:29+00:00

The other day I saw a RP post celebrating a guy who was cheating.

Edit: I expected the downvoting, but it would be good if someone could explain the logic there. Just wondering why it's celebrated when RPers cheat, but not women.

jmg83 · 2015-08-16T12:20:55+00:00

Personally, I'd have not revealed any suspicions, waited until the kid was born, done a test, and if it isn't mine, fucked her and the kid out of the house. There are enough women's refuges around. Or she could go back to her parents' house. Not my problem.

Jack_Sophmore · 2015-08-16T14:02:30+00:00

It's sad that so many of you can't tell that this story is obviously fake.

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