Do people really have amazing sex lives and adventurous stories from college? I feel like I'm missing out a lot!

Silly-Employment · 2022-07-21T11:09:02+00:00

Some people do, we hear the most about them.

Most people don't.

Exmerus · 2022-07-21T11:22:52+00:00

lol movies like the American Pie series create high expectations, but the reality is different. Now the college hook up culture is mostly dominated by dating apps. Only the top 10-5% college dudes can brag about their crazy college experience. I asume it used to be slightly better for the average Timmy back in the 80's-90's.

No_Load_7183 · 2022-07-21T11:25:17+00:00

My man I am just trying to get through getting my ass kicked by STEM.

Darius-Egan · 2022-07-21T11:01:15+00:00

Don't get mad at yourself... You are doing great. Some of us never had a girl in our apartment during college years... You are doing perfectly fine...

PelletsOfMescaline · 2022-07-21T11:51:48+00:00

When I was on Montreal for 2 years I found women were a lot more wild and wilding to experiment. So it depends on where you are located as well and the culture of the city.

bigmanpav · 2022-07-21T11:41:02+00:00

It's not common at all to have loads of sex. Check out these studies:

New Data from the Telegraph indicate that levels of sexlessness among young men are still steadily increasing, just 34% of male University students report being sexually active while studying at University and 43% report never having had sex

https://www.reddit.com/r/virgin/comments/nu0204/new_data_from_the_telegraph_indicate_that_levels/

Extra-Boysenberry · 2022-07-21T14:30:35+00:00

I graduated from a party school in the US. While people definitely had sex in college, its not like the movies portray it. College parties are overrated. Bunch of people standing around drinking, and talking about life. Yeah, you might meet a girl and take her home, but the biggest “chads” I knew rarely got laid from these parties.
Most of the hooking up at the parties is basically some grinding and a quick make out session before her friends pull her away from you. A lot of the girls you meet at these parties revolve their whole personality around blacking out drunk every weekend. Don’t want to sound like an incel, but I found this incredibly annoying and unattractive. This was the case even if I just wanted to sleep with them.
Like I said, the overall experience is overrated, but I think you should at least go to one or two. This is so you don’t feel like you “missed out.” Don’t get me wrong, I had fun in college, and got my numbers up, but most of the girls I hooked up with I met in classes or clubs. Have to give an honorable mention to Bumble as Tinder as well.

OptimalChicken324 · 2022-07-21T12:46:56+00:00

I was in uni in the 80s, never heard any of that stuff and I had a good social circle. I do remember dorm seshes in which two couples would hook up, but it wasn't a foursome thing. Pretty sure that is still a thing. Also remember walking into a lecture hall with a couple going at it on the front lecture table.That was pretty funny

MattPruga · 2022-07-21T11:20:06+00:00

depends

What I want to know is how common are wilder kinky stuff like threesomes, gangbangs and such in college?

depends on where you live, I imagine in the US it's much more common. Here (Eastern Eu) most people never have a threesome.

I'm in college, never had a hookup but did have a couple of FWB. You are not missing out on a lot except probably the potential STDs

GreatScotRace · 2022-07-21T13:41:09+00:00

Not at all common. University isn’t much like American pie to be honest. Many people struggle their way through uni sex life wise, and most are too shy.

I find that things change in mid-late twenties, I find women particularly start to get more comfortable with their sex lives (I’m a straight woman). It wasn’t until I got to 25 I started paying an interest and actually worked out what person I genuinely am in the bedroom

hagakurejunkie · 2022-07-21T15:24:48+00:00

I didn't. I didn't make it to a 4 year university until I was 26, prior to that I worked full time and went to a community college (walked out the door with 196 credits haha)

Had a mediocre body count until around mid to late 20's, then things started to take off. I worked as a nightclub bartender for a couple years and really got into my stride, my 30's were amazing, started a business and hit it all out of the park.

Basically what I'm saying is, go to school and learn. Get your training in, formulate your future and build your arsenal of skills. You can date of course, but don't make it the only thing you do in life because at 42, I can absolutely tell you that the losers who spent their whole lives chasing tail usually stay broke losers with a bucketload of illegitimate kids.

Do you my man

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-07-21T14:55:31+00:00

I've hooked up more in this calendar year than I did in all my college years combined. Don't worry, things will get better provided you're improving your game.

SurfaceAspectRatio · 2022-07-21T18:31:25+00:00

Mine was really good, I literally got a girl to lick my balls without wanking or any of us touching the shaft at all, until I came. Fuck that was good.

The girl later in life decided to become a pescatarian, and she owned a Sabaru WRX fitted with a fake STi spoiler.

Another time a girl looked at me across a chicken rice stall and she said how about you taste my breasts and thighs and I was like oyea baby. Then we bought the chicken rice to go, and went to my place and fucked for 3 hours, 2 rounds, and then ate the chicken rice for desserts.

unnoticed77 · 2022-07-21T15:24:19+00:00

My college life was dreadful. Didn't talk to anyone. No parties. No sex. Ate in my room. Studied in my room. Watched Highlander: The Series in my room. One girl on my floor invited me out into the common room, but I was too shy to go. I went to a fairly expensive college that gave me some breaks because my mother was a nurse at the affiliated hospital. Personally, I had no money, so I felt poor and awkward.

moonfanatic95 · 2022-07-21T17:11:06+00:00

I'm in STEM, no time to fuck around or even socialize in class. Try working and being in school full time, you'll quickly find that going out on dates is a luxury you can't have. My days off are just another study day.

Nimitz_68 · 2022-07-21T12:28:41+00:00

I would f*ck my GF in front of my dorm window which faced the girls dormitory. Their building was taller and when my GF was over we would not close the shades. We would do it against the window, cow girl, missionary, doggie etc. The amount of girls with binoculars were amazing lol

Romantic_Adventurer · 2022-07-21T12:25:05+00:00

Yes. You can have amazing sexy adventures any time in your life. It doesn't matter if youa re single or in a loving relationship. You just gotta go out and do it, like everything else in our life (money, health, etc)

Stay grateful, Romantic_Adventurer.

Snakehead004 · 2022-07-21T15:09:36+00:00

That stuff isn't that common but wild shit does happen, especially if you have fun friends

clutchutch · 2022-07-21T16:48:53+00:00

Definitely happens but much more the exception that the rule. That’s true outside of college as well, a small percentage of men having most of the sex

cronasminate · 2022-07-21T17:39:02+00:00

Didn't go to too many wild parties, and didn't do any threesomes or gangbangs. I personally just talked to a lot of girls and fucked a lot in my car, bathrooms, tents and shit like that. Fucked girls from different campuses, in dorms, and I'd pick them up wherever. The process is not what they show you in movies. It's more like running a business than anything. Keep your pipeline full and the sex will come.

Parties seem like too much work just to get laid. I go to parties to hang out with people. To get laid I just talk to girl and do the work.

I was invited to frats and saw their social media posts and it's always like 10 dudes and one pudgy looking girl. Once in a while they'd do parties with sororities but I won't pay their ridiculous fees lmao.

Tbh most dude I met in college, even the attractive ones just looked absolutely clueless on how to get laid, so I understand how they just think partying and drinking is their only chance at getting laid.

V4refugee · 2022-07-21T19:38:14+00:00

I did reach a point where my game was good enough to where I was dating like three girls at once. It consumed a lot of my time and the sex got boring and impersonal but it did increase my confidence to know that I could. In the end, I chose to be with one awesome girl instead of choosing to keep dating the crazy girl that was down with having a threesome.

dryo · 2022-07-21T21:05:48+00:00

To be honest, as a guy who didn't seem to feel the urge to brag about having sex, that same quality (not bragging or telling) got girls gossiping about it, so it was mostly looks, confidence and keeping it cool and comfortable to talk with, without being too much of an asshole or putting them on a pedestal.

So don't sweat it, it's not entirely up to you most of the time, you'll have a lighter time once you graduate, all that partying and drunken shitload, don't matter, Life! Is where the real fun is,you know why!? Cause good looking douchebags never get the girl that is meant for you! so have fun!

SPENCEandtonic · 2022-07-21T21:25:42+00:00

I didn’t explore a lot sexually in college. Other than a few girls that were interested in me, I didn’t hook up much. I just didn’t know how it all worked.

It’s important to remember, if you’re thinking about fun, sexy, kinky, threesomes then so are the women you are meeting. We’re not all that different. But the one thing I didn’t realize until much later in life is it’s a man’s job to escalate at each point in an interaction.

So.. talk about threesomes more. Joke about sex more with the girls you talk to. Talk to more girls in general. Most importantly, don’t be afraid of rejection or that what you say will make them think you’re weird.

Sure, some might think it’s too much, but some won’t. Those are the girls you’re gonna have a good time with. They have the same sexual goals as you do.

Good luck. Go be an animal my man!

Alecstocker · 2022-07-21T15:42:09+00:00

I was in a fraternity and orgies were common. My roommate was a college athlete and that alone at a big ten university got him access to the hottest girls. While it does happen a lot depending on what circles you run in personally I think it's gross for both sexes. Rampant diseases stopped no one. And stds were so common. It's stupid. I don't care how hot a girl is. I couldn't be serious with the greatest girl that made a habit of 4 ways etc. It just shows lack of self respect. I was in the minority but I never no matter how hammered participated in those.

ilovefootball49 · 2022-07-21T17:16:14+00:00

You should be worrying about studying and grades and essays and midterms in college. Do you want to be unemployed in your 30's, wishing you tried harder in school, or do you want to remember those 2 threesomes you had, but now no girl calls you back because your career is nowhere.

TerminatorReborn · 2022-07-21T17:33:10+00:00

Got zero action with girls from college while I studied there. I had zero confidence and didn't work on myself back then, I barely dated anyone.

A few years after I graduated I fucked two of the hottest girls that attended law school at my college. Got really a big confidence boost now but looking back I could've gotten at least some action

maxpossimpible · 2022-07-21T14:25:20+00:00

wilder kinky stuff like threesomes, gangbangs and such in college

That stuff is really not that common. When you're in your early tweens you're really not comfortable enough to do those things. You barely know how to even have great sex 😂

grod_5377 · 2022-07-21T20:27:35+00:00

My experience I think was pretty average during college.

I went to probably the biggest party school in Indiana, IU Bloomington.

I had two long term relationships each lasting a year and a half. And one short term lasting just three months. Between those relationships I had about 6-7 girls that I only hooked up with once or twice over the course of 4 years.

Then there was one friend with benefits that Id regularly hit up. No feelings involved or anything and that went on for the last year of school and a little bit after I graduated

Some of these encounters (especially the hookups) I had to go out and seek. The relationships just gradually developed after hooking up the first few times.

I was very shy at the beginning of college but I learned to get out of my comfort zone talking to girls after doing ROTC (they often put you in very uncomfortable positions and make you practice public speaking and how to be assertive). After that Id find hookups every few months or weeks nothing crazy.

One of my buddies who went to the same school graduated a virgin. However he was very afraid to talk to girls and also afraid of what the rest of the friend group would think if he hooked up with an unattractive girl.

Darius-Egan · 2022-07-21T11:07:38+00:00

Exactly... It seems like they are the choosing ones... Meanwhile, some of us are mainly spectators

Separate_Taste3428 · 2022-07-21T16:50:58+00:00

A lot of them regret not wearing a condom(was told this by a nurse while getting tested)

Bernache_du_Canada · 2022-07-21T13:00:01+00:00

Which university? It really depends on that here in Canada.

creamyturtle · 2022-07-21T16:59:29+00:00

orgies, not common at all. if you want to get laid, you gotta be that guy that stays up super late talking shit and getting wasted with random ppl. or join a club

hoothoot6996 · 2022-07-21T17:22:44+00:00

Nah fam don’t believe everything guys say,

Sometimes they be saying that they fuck every week or something but it’s really like they have fucked once and never after

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-21T17:25:36+00:00

College is hyped a lot in the media. It's not really that common given that most people in school are there because they want to be, and it costs money. I was fortunate to have a job in college doing promotions which had me talking and doing some moderate travel. I can revel in that experience more so than what came from parties out of frats. It was fun either way, and usually there are specific events rather than reoccurring weekends. Like St Patrick's Day in Chico, or Halloween in San Diego. Because of the promotion job I was frequently on the phone with many women all over the state. I dated a lot to, but only a few of them ever had sexual relations with me. I was very cautious about Stds and pregnancy, at this age. I was never tied down in college with a girlfriend, although there were plenty of girls who were adequate mates, I just couldn't commit at that age.

Doctor-Rich · 2022-07-21T18:11:37+00:00

Loving yourself is the first step to loving on the ladies. Look up self compassion it’s better than self esteem and it helps your confidence a lot. Just shoot more shots and love yourself especially when you fall down.

syntheticmedicine · 2022-07-21T18:12:47+00:00

No-Tomato668 · 2022-07-21T18:52:14+00:00

I had great fun when I was younger but now I'm married.

stefan00790 · 2022-07-21T19:04:20+00:00

In my uni every hookups almost happen from dating apps and social circles , parties and social activities i don't think there are as kinky as threesomes or gangbangs almost non-existent but between 2 people yes like alot .. i've been seeing hookups of same-sex aswell at very high rate especially between women .

SaquonB26 · 2022-07-21T19:11:54+00:00

I’m in my 40s now and look back fondly at some of the romps and hook ups I had. It’s rose colored glasses though because I did go through a dry spell or two. I was a STEM major as well.

mjornir · 2022-07-21T20:06:00+00:00

Like a small but outsized portion of college students do, and then they settle almost immediately after college. Some people hit their stride afterward. Go according to your timeline, don’t worry about others

optionemperor123 · 2022-07-21T20:32:22+00:00

Yes, after all you are spending 60000 bucks. Sex is included in the price

Aliciaalt · 2022-07-21T20:34:53+00:00

What sexlkfe?! Im there for college. The occasional hookup consisted of dinner and a HOT make out session. It used to be called a date I think! Lol! Definitely a myth babe!

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-07-21T21:15:28+00:00

Dude. Don’t worry about it. I didn’t have a truly amazing sex life until after I had graduated and got into a serious relationship.

grindforthegold · 2022-07-21T21:33:19+00:00

maybe if you’re in a really good social frat. i was in a co ed one and i had a lot of fun, parties hookups and relationships , no threesomes or crazy orgies for me lmfao i don’t think that’s normal. but yeah try to get involved

Omark9667 · 2022-07-21T21:53:11+00:00

Feel like the collage you see in movies only in US not Canada there’s really no fraternity here

H8beingmale · 2022-07-23T13:32:13+00:00

i would believe many don't

Title	Do people really have amazing sex lives and adventurous stories from college? I feel like I'm missing out a lot!
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Date	July 21, 2022 10:54 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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