How to deal with shit tests about age differences ?

DaemonBlackfyre515 · 2024-05-01T17:30:12+00:00

Unless you're Chris Hemsworth, some women just have a hard rule about age and there's nothing you can do about it. Some do like it, they're the ones who are interested. Concentrate on them and disregard the ones who go "Eww".

No point in hiding it, you just look insecure. I'm 38 as well, but i take solace in knowing i'm in the best shape of my life and still have most of my hair, though receded.

VrilHunter · 2024-05-01T18:26:33+00:00

Cant force seduction if age is a deal breaker to them. Be with ones who dont mind it.

Also maybe you say it in an insecure way which can be picked on by girls. Reveal it non chalantly with confidence after you ask her to guess it wrong.

chonglang_tiancai · 2024-05-01T18:36:52+00:00

I’m in my early 30s and have been dating girls around 21-25. I always jokingly say I am an old uncle, they always laugh and say I am not that old. Own it and joke about it.

Far_Marsupial8572 · 2024-05-01T17:26:22+00:00

I mean it comes with the territory If you want to go for 20 year olds then this is what you should expect When I was in my early/mid 20s if a man told me he was 38 I would run for my life I’m still about 10 years younger than you and it’s only in my late 20s that I would be sexually down to be with older men

brandonmadeit · 2024-05-01T16:56:19+00:00

I too look a lot younger than my actual age so I play around with it. When a girl asks how old I am, I ask “how old do I look” in a joking kind of way with a sly smirk. They’ll guess something low and I’ll laugh and give my real age and they’re shocked but by that point if they really like you they will overlook it

unskilledexplorer · 2024-05-01T17:04:48+00:00

I let them guess and then at first I add at least 10 years to my real age, simply exaggerate enough so they don’t believe it. then I say “but I have a good skincare routine”. Usually you get laughs or even compliments like “I can see that”. Then you beat around the bush a bit more and say your real age, at this point they don’t care that much.

But I am only 30 and honestly never got a bad reaction even from 19-20yo girls.

LucariusLionheart · 2024-05-01T20:27:19+00:00

ask them "how old do you think i am?" they guess. you say "close!" and laugh it off if they press you just keep it light and say something outrageous like 68 or 15. so you can tease them about being a cougar or say you're a vampire or something. this is my advice. take it with a grain of salt tho. i am bitchless 😭

poly_nerdy_panda · 2024-05-01T20:32:36+00:00

also something your saying is giving off older dude vibes

Viktor2500 · 2024-05-01T19:36:10+00:00

It's not a shit test, it's a genuine concern and an important factor knowing if the other person is older/younger and by how much. You're almost twice the age of these girls. And given the fact that most people really start living and experiencing life after 17-18 years of age you have ten times more life experience than them. Just see which girls vibe with it and which do not and don't give it a second thought.

Dynamix86 · 2024-05-02T08:09:39+00:00

Tell her that you’re looking for a Bingo buddy

Holiday_Treacle6350 · 2024-05-01T17:39:52+00:00

If you don't look bothered by it, she won't be bothered by it

Queen_of_Dragonsss · 2024-05-02T13:59:07+00:00

I actually like the age difference! is quite hot tbh 🔥

Love_JWZ · 2024-05-01T19:40:55+00:00

Just tell her the Holy Prophet Mohammed (SAW) took Aisha's virginity when he was like 50 and she was 9. Then ask her if she is an Islamophobe. Works every time.

edit: just to be sure, don't actually use this

asanskrita · 2024-05-02T04:45:49+00:00

On the flip side, plenty of women dig older guys. Those are about to start standing out much more as you start showing your age. It’s best just to own it. You can keep dating women 20+ years younger than you for the rest of your life if that’s what you want.

Whiskeybaby22 · 2024-05-02T14:53:18+00:00

I love older men! I’m 24 my parter is 35 doesn’t even feel like he is that much older than me

jjwondor · 2024-05-01T22:26:09+00:00

I feel like we project our own thoughts. When I was 20, I wasn’t even into having friends in their 30’s let alone older. Now at about 40, I kind of assume everyone younger has that same attitude, which isn’t accurate. But yes, own up to your age, I like what the one poster said about making a joke, or calling yourself the old uncle, it playfully sets the stage so the actual age isn’t as surprising.

Samuraibeb0p · 2024-05-02T06:16:01+00:00

As you are I was, as I am you will be but grayer

Sensitive_Map_6767 · 2024-05-02T15:22:13+00:00

DUDE! Get over it. Look at it this way… It is their loss and your gain. “How is it my gain?” You might ask me.

You might have just “DODGED THAT BULLET”. Girls like that, are only interested in your bank account, what you drive, where you live, what you do for a living. Get the drift? Girls like that, apparently, have not graduated from Junior High School as of yet. You will find someone, regardless of the age.

shresth1_2_3_4 · 2024-05-02T19:30:00+00:00

i think you should ask them to guess...whatever they guess...tell her well if you think that way,so be it

and dont answer until she makes it really obvious if she is curious

and rest bro...level up each day...physically and financial

unevendopamine2 · 2024-05-01T19:38:33+00:00

Use it to your advantage

Whenever she wants to do something you don’t say “I’m old”

And treat her like a child she will hate it but love it

Ask her if she wants a sippy cup when you get her a drink

pejetron · 2024-05-01T23:28:22+00:00

Minority of 20s girl would go to 38s...they just think that later in future they don't want to babysit an old papa when they'd be your age....go for 30s and you won't have that problem

JXphile4 · 2024-05-01T17:06:21+00:00

In a joking manner say “I’m 62” and then look at her with a side eye. She’ll laugh or say “no way!” or “liar!” or something like that.

Then you laugh with her and ask her what age she thinks you are. Let her guess a time or two, and then just give a hint….”I’m in my 30s” and leave it at that. Continue to tease and play but don’t reveal the exact age. Change the subject after enough times telling her “I’m telling you, I’m in my 30s!”

nijasumer · 2024-05-01T19:26:20+00:00

Tell her 38 is the new 28 !

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-05-01T18:48:01+00:00

Tell them they are too young for you and can't handle an older guy with experience like you.

ClitPlayaBootySlappa · 2024-05-01T19:23:37+00:00

tell them your age and then tell them from now on, to refer to you as "Daddy" or "Monsieur"

Traditional_Curve401 · 2024-05-02T13:14:08+00:00

I heard a psychologist once say, a young woman( 18-25) with a who had a healthy functional male role model in her household/as a consistent in her life does not naturally view a 35+ year old man as sexually attractive. The ones that do, have a distorted or dysfunctional view due to trauma they endured growing up.

On the flipside, a man who is 35+ who has a functional healthy relationship with his daughters, nieces, etc. does not naturally view 18-25 year old women as people they want to have sex with. The ones that do also have some distorted or dysfunctional view.

So if women are "freezing" up it's likely a sign they see you in more of a father like light and aren't turned on by that thought.

Also, you may want to do some self-reflection about why that's the age range of women you're solely attracted to. It's curious that you want to mainly or only deal with women who don't have fully developed brains and the ability to reason.

Blackmetalpenguin90 · 2024-05-01T21:55:44+00:00

MaN iF YoU aRe a 38 yO mAlE YoU aRe A pEdO iF yOu DaTe AnYoNe yOuNgEr tHaN 49

Sudden-Conference-65 · 2024-05-02T02:51:56+00:00

If they’re on their own it won’t matter as much. In a group, it’ll be tough. It’s just society deems it pretty cringey for an older guy to be going for much younger women. If you have the lifestyle and mindset it won’t be a big issue but maybe avoid, distract or blur until it actually wont matter ie. after you’ve hooked up or slept with them

Maybe something like, “I’ll tell you once I can trust you” then change topic or “Are you hitting on me? OMG you are!”

Use it to your advantage too, what could a 20 something year old possibly lose knowing an older established guy. You’re actually the prize!

CometPB · 2024-05-01T21:31:00+00:00

Say your age just means that you can get it up multiple rounds

tantinsylv · 2024-05-01T23:00:38+00:00

They start shit testing you because it's generally considered creepy for men to hit on women much younger than themselves. It's not the age that's the problem, it's your perceived intentions. I've never been into older men, and I don't think I ever will be. Most women in their 20's are not into men who are more than about 5 years older than them. It's a minority who are. If you want a relationship, just show them that you are legitimately interested in them as people, and eventually age won't matter. But if all you want is hookups, then the question becomes why would they hook up with 38 year old you when they go could go hook up with an actual 25 year old instead?

Badguy60 · 2024-05-01T17:49:47+00:00

You kinda asking for it man

wappe97 · 2024-05-02T05:04:57+00:00

So i think we need an example of what they’re saying. I would probably push on the “with age comes experience” thing if i were op and escalate from there.

aaamiriii · 2024-05-02T21:50:47+00:00

Same as any physical disadvantage (short, fat, bald, ugly). Extreme confidence, and agree and amplify and change topic inmediatly.

BellBRabbit · 2024-05-02T23:48:27+00:00

Sometimes you like what doesn't like you. And that's ok. The best thing to do is increase your age range.

The older you get, the harder it is going to be for you to date women 5-7 years younger than you.

Also, I think a lot of young women will be turned off by the fact you are 38, but living as if you are in your earily 20s. It's a red flag.

Mr-Kabuki · 2024-05-03T00:29:55+00:00

The owning of your age has to come from a genuine and authentic place. Anyone can tell you to agree and amplify or flip the script and make it seem like she’s too young for you but this is all meaningless if deep down you have a belief that being older actually is a valid excuse for you to be rejected. Sure you can agree that women may not find and older guy attractive and you can accept that. But it’s more important to accept that you deserve to feel confident and worthy regardless of your age. If that true inner knowing of self love is intact, the shit tests pass themselves without gimmicks. My own personal experience has attested to this.

epimpstyle · 2024-05-03T11:07:21+00:00

I'm 45 and I don't care anymore about this aspect and always I take it like if she is mature enough to talk to me - not the opposite like I am too old for her. I'm not sure if that's a strategy or not, because if I get rejected, it doesn't matter what I say, but if everything goes well... again, it doesn't matter.

aznbrotherhood · 2024-05-06T16:50:20+00:00

Would you let your sister date a much older guy?

aznbrotherhood · 2024-05-07T05:48:04+00:00

Would you let your sister date an older man?

Affectionate-Ant4888 · 2024-05-07T06:37:23+00:00

Don’t tell them, give them a range, do a lot of fractionation is what Ross Jeffries teaches go from topic to topic interesting stuff back and forth with great questions games, hmm hard to explain here but currently studying that stuff hard but it’s lovely, David frángelo is the other one who teaches how to dodge those questions and reality is, women like older men, they are more experienced more mature, they sexual use and escalate more, more courageous, all of that in theory lol

kuteguy · 2024-05-07T08:40:02+00:00

Let's put it this way. There are more girls in their 20s interested in you than there are good eligible women your age.

So you just have no choice to wade through the girls in their 20s and find the ones that like older men. It's a win win.

I just honestly state my age and move on to next topic. I look great for someone 10-15 yrs younger than me anyway.

kuteguy · 2024-05-07T08:40:19+00:00

Let's put it this way. There are more girls in their 20s interested in you than there are good eligible women your age.

So you just have no choice to wade through the girls in their 20s and find the ones that like older men. It's a win win.

I just honestly state my age and move on to next topic. I look great for someone 10-15 yrs younger than me anyway.

kuteguy · 2024-05-07T08:40:30+00:00

Let's put it this way. There are more girls in their 20s interested in you than there are good eligible women your age.

So you just have no choice to wade through the girls in their 20s and find the ones that like older men. It's a win win.

I just honestly state my age and move on to next topic. I look great for someone 10-15 yrs younger than me anyway.

kuteguy · 2024-05-07T08:41:37+00:00

Let's put it this way. There are more girls in their 20s interested in you than there are good eligible women your age.

So you just have no choice to wade through the girls in their 20s and find the ones that like older men. It's a win win.

I just honestly state my age and move on to next topic. I look great for someone 10-15 yrs younger than me anyway.

Efficient_Aside_2736 · 2024-05-13T01:56:49+00:00

Worrying about age gaps is not a “shit test”, it’s a genuine worry some women have, me included. However some women might not care about your age as long as you have money. Just being honest.

GameGodsOfficial · 2024-05-01T22:47:26+00:00

Tell them between 25 and 35 and let them take a guess. Have fun with it. Then tell them if they wanna know more you might tell them a few secrets back at your place.

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-05-02T00:30:35+00:00

Yes . You should call me daddy :)

Sapper501 · 2024-05-02T03:48:10+00:00

Possible response: "I'm trying to be like fine wine - I just get better with age."

Yea or Nay?

Eternallynumb954 · 2024-05-02T12:15:26+00:00

Why don’t you try going for older ladies at the retirement home, grandpa?

GreedyLime49 · 2024-05-02T14:55:19+00:00

I'm 27 now and I've always liked girls around 28. Curiously, everyone I come across are around 21-24 so I'm always older. When I'm with these people I always talk saying things like "when I was young I used to...", "I remember that 20 years ago...", "when I was young I remember that ____ but you probably have no idea what I'm talking about. You must've been just a baby back then". And they always laugh and say things like "you're not that old!" I totally know what you're talking about". It's like they try to convey that they're contemporary to me.

professorc · 2024-05-01T22:46:34+00:00

you're an old mf taking advantage of young girls, of course they freeze. the decent age equation is half ur age + 7

Night_Hawk1 · 2024-05-02T02:03:17+00:00

They are testing you because THEY are the ones insecure about your age, the age difference, and the social implication that someone else might judge them. So they project the insecurity at you. If you crumble, how on earth can they stay strong, when their supposed man can't stand in the face of someone busting theirs? Bust their chops. Laugh it off. Be carefree about it so they can too.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2024-05-01T20:31:06+00:00

I just turned 42 I love to have sex with younger girls but I just don't want to deal with there fucken drama! its a ton of drama all the time about dumb crap totally not worth the headacks you can find 25-30 year olds who have more life experience just as hot and way less drama. most girls I mess with are around 28

atomant88 · 2024-05-01T20:53:21+00:00

Stop being a creep and going after young girls 🤮🤮🤮

TurtleMOOO · 2024-05-01T20:26:26+00:00

Just comes across as very creepy of a 38 year old man to be chasing women in their 20s and there is nothing you can do about it because it is creepy

thots_nprayers · 2024-05-02T08:05:36+00:00

It’s really, really creepy to be 38 and still be interested in women in their 20’s. And having all your friends be in their 20’s. You’re almost middle-aged! I think you need to take a hard look at yourself, because you seem like a textbook case of Peter Pan syndrome.

And leave the 20 year old girls alone, for fuck’s sake. And stop lying to them about your real big age.

Elbynerual · 2024-05-01T20:02:55+00:00

Si vous recherchez uniquement du sexe, dites-leur à quel âge vous ressemblez. Si vous voulez quelque chose à plus long terme, vous devez être honnête avec eux et espérer le meilleur. N'ayez pas honte de vous. S'ils n'aiment pas votre âge, passez au suivant.

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-01T21:08:18+00:00

and at the moment they hear my age they starts shit testing me

This is not true. They were already not interested in you. When they ask you is when they've had enough toying with you. They know you'll fumble and that's their way out of the interaction.

In other words, they pretend that's the reason but they were just enjoying the attention you give them. They had no intention of going further with you.

caiki94 · 2024-05-02T05:43:10+00:00

Nonomnis128349 · 2024-05-01T19:03:30+00:00

Pedo much

Title	How to deal with shit tests about age differences ?
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Date	May 1, 2024 4:48 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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