Women will respect your courage

TheDoctor_2014 · 2021-04-26T14:45:06+00:00

Any tips about how not to turnt that courageous approach into a creepy one?

Also, I am curious to see what do women think about that.

Kidcouger · 2021-04-26T15:56:22+00:00

Lol this is facts, Told my female friends i have had a few dates recently and they just defaulted to "oh, did you meet her on bumble?" Nope, Told them I met these girls going up to them etc. And they were all surprised

Just do it fellas, Don't cock block yourself

quantumactual · 2021-04-26T17:14:25+00:00

100%. I made a few friends last night, and have a date lined up this weekend, for simply enjoying a night out with my friend and taking turns taking our shots at getting phone numbers.

Not only is it fun, but it helps to practice your confidence in talking to strangers & women, and you might just make something of it!

honeybobo100 · 2021-04-26T16:30:03+00:00

A woman here and as long I’m not feeling threatened, like you’re following me, and you’re being respectful and not creepy, I love being approached by men out of the blue. Weather or not it goes anywhere beyond a hello it’s very flattering and confidence boosting.

Bitter-Window-4532 · 2021-04-26T16:47:57+00:00

The trick is be outcome independent. Don’t approach her with the intention to get her number. Have a conversation with her, and focus on just that...a fun/engaging conversation. If it leads to a deeper discussion, her her number. If not wish her well and move on

shaniatwainforever · 2021-04-26T20:55:59+00:00

Eehhh ok I just had someone approach me (20 something woman) on the street and it was ducking CREEPY and I did NOT appreciate the “bravery.” I was walking my dog on a fairly remote street and this guy slowed down his car and rolled down his window to say “hi, it’s good to see you” and when I asked where I knew him from he said he had seen me walking my dog there last week. WHAT. STRANGER DANGER. So now I am not walking my dog there anymore.

What the FUCK was he thinking? I did not feel safe at all. It was not a high traffic area so he could have kidnapped me and my dog and no one would have seen.

My advice: Have some common sense and don’t approach someone in a location where they might feel like you are going to kidnap and traffic them. Stick to public well-lit areas. Consider the power dynamics. Don’t ask questions that a murderer might ask like where she lives or works or when she goes for solo walks.

I’d you want to keep in touch, consider offering your number rather than asking for hers. If she likes you, she can text you. If she doesn’t, she can throw it away without worrying that you’re gonna come find her.

And really watch for body language and eye contact and take the L if she doesn’t seem interested.

I see a lot of comments in this thread whining that “it’s brave if you’re hot and it’s creepy if you’re not hot.” It’s a bit more complicated than that and to me it comes across as you thinking women are shallow for not liking you. Someone’s appearance is definitely a factor, but it’s also a factor if we enjoy talking to you and if we feel safe and respected. It’s a factor if you seem like a self-respecting and confident man who has his shit together. It’s a factor if you are pleasant and funny. Honestly the other standards are probably lower for super attractive guys, especially in the initial interaction. I’m not a guy magnet either myself, but that’s life.

Anyway, I also see some good advice on this thread about how to read the room and approach people in a respectful way. Good luck out there fam.

NightHawk085 · 2021-04-26T17:01:48+00:00

I live in a small city now and it’s even rarer here. I do remember one time i went to Chicago for vacation and I approached a dime while down the street. She said “ you must have a lot of balls to do something like this” . At that moment I realized that this is my shit .

RipMankind · 2021-04-26T19:38:39+00:00

lets not be delusional. might want to provide real context about #1 HOW you say something to her #2 that you need to be dressed/statused/fitness/cash/alpha #3 you can read her body language to even know its a good day to even look in her general direction.

this type of advice is gonna have a lot of creeps feeling suicidal and pepper sprayed in no time

neverhadnoonever · 2021-04-26T18:38:41+00:00

This is true! We get approached at parties and bars sure but almost never during the day.

The times when men asked me out during the day are the most memorable and honestly the most flattering because you’re not expecting it! It really does give off alpha energy lol

MrShawHere · 2021-04-26T19:54:59+00:00

There's this cute girl I met in college during my last year(let's call her Z). She was super nice to me and often tells me about her feelings, what made her happy, sad, how her day was going etc. I had a girlfriend at that time and she was a but possessive so I couldn't talk much with Z but I respected that Z trusted me with those things. My girlfriend and I broke up last year and it was a messy one. Z was there for me this whole time. We live in different cities currently and she often asks me to come there to meet her. But I gained weight since last year and I don't want her to see me like this. She asked me once to let's go on a trip after covid reduces here, I replied "sure but after I lose weight" and she replied "It doesn't matter, I like you this way". Recently, we started watching movies together ( Netflix party and stuff). I don't know if she likes me or not but once I get into shape, I'm definitely gonna ask her out. Why do I wanna lose weight before asking her out? Because that'll make me be my best self and I think she deserves it.

ugglygirl · 2021-04-26T23:33:12+00:00

When I was younger (30s) a guy followed me out of a bagel shop and said, hey you left your wallet. Well, I didn’t really leave my wallet.

He used as way to get my attention. Flattered to the moon. Dated for a few months! I loved his boldness.

bananagii · 2021-04-27T01:33:11+00:00

Oh my god yes PLEASE this post makes me so happy as a woman, i’ve never used dating apps and I refuse to because I want a guy to approach me, just like they would’ve before so much technology. Please do this gentlemen :))

Busy_Stay6027 · 2021-04-26T23:56:02+00:00

This post just pissed me off because it reminded me of earlier today when I talked to this cute girl on a bike asking for directions to the subway. She was bubbly as fuck n it seemed like she was kinda interested(I had a mask on but I got nice eyes lol), so instead of doing my move and asking how do I know you, then take off my mask to see to ask if she knows me and then get her number, I just convinced myself not to do it and walk away. Idk wtf is wrong w me I was 90% there but convinced myself to walk. Why? Why??

Mrdinhdinh · 2021-04-26T15:20:40+00:00

Basically you miss 100% of the shots you never take. Shoot your shot, learn from each moment, and gain confidence then improve.

2021-04-26T15:51:36+00:00

Sponsored by Nike! Great tip

KeepMirinBrah · 2021-04-26T16:21:44+00:00

Do you go direct or indirect in your daygame approaches?

Help_Me___666 · 2021-04-26T14:52:35+00:00

Thanks

_BrownPanther · 2021-04-26T15:41:21+00:00

This is gold dust and I can vouch for it! Jacks up your SMV and the ladies love it

Vyrus_ · 2021-04-26T17:20:02+00:00

Okay so this actually just happened to me yesterday.

Cute girl at work, known her for months but never had a conversation. I started crushing on her a couple weeks ago so each day that passed by that I said I was too ugly, too weird.. I'd kick myself because dammit I know I'm a good guy and I really just want to talk to her.

So I'm working overtime and didn't expect her to come in, and I didn't really take the time to wash my hair or look nice.. and just my luck she's there too.

But I didn't care anymore, I just needed to be honest with myself and just put myself out there, and really exist in the moment without worrying about everything.

And sure enough this girl way out of my league is chatting with me, having a good time, even tho I look like ass. I can't wait to see her again today and ask for her number or to hang out with her sometime.

Just believe in yourself! You can be capable of so much more than you'd think. We are all human :)

Starshiee · 2021-04-26T19:48:26+00:00

Was hanging out with a group of people the other day. Amongst the crowd was a girl who I knew was trying to get at me about 2 years ago, But between my bashfulness, mixed signals, and the fact that I'm an idiot, I didn't catch on, and nothing ever came of it. As a matter of fact, a coworker at the time had hooked up with her, giving her plenty of reason to never stop by my workplace again.

Anyway, I didn't expect to see her with this group but I thought I would use it as a good opportunity to open the door, so to speak. Unfortunately I did not. I DID think about what I was going to say, and in the weirdest ways, it felt like I had multiple opportunities not get a good conversation going, but I chickened out lol.

I'm sure her and I will connect in some way eventually, maybe third time's the charm. But I told one of my very confident and conventionally attractive friends about this and he responded "bro you got to stop doing that", And of course I knew what he meant. " Girls LOVE being approached. It shows confidence, and it makes you stand out. Will it go anywhere? Maybe not, especially if you fumble in the moment, but she'll probably think about you later"

Noisy_Plastic_Bird · 2021-04-26T22:06:54+00:00

Did this on friday, like 2nd time ever. Had a great talk walking around the supermarket together and she said "I've never had anyone come up to me like this and talk to me, you're so brave" And "I prefer this, I'm not on Tinder or social media" and she was 24 years old

Appeal-Mobile · 2021-04-27T00:42:37+00:00

It's also a sign of both respect and honesty from a Man. If a man can put aside his insecurities to say something that lifts someone else up, that's an indicator of a genuine person.

Abject_Scene_5271 · 2021-04-27T01:03:01+00:00

I am a woman and I love this! With so many people easily offended or upset, it must be difficult to approach a stranger you find attractive. Since I’m not on OLD at the time this is one of the few ways I have to meet my match. Worst case scenario, I’d take it as a compliment!

Thank you for sharing. Approach us, some of us love it! :)

MILF4LYF · 2021-04-26T15:26:02+00:00

I can't stress how much this was true in my experience. Even girls way out of my league said yes to me when I approached them outside clubs/bars. Also it's a numbers game, always speak to multiple girls, don't just settle with one number. Good luck gentlemen!

opeitschristine · 2021-04-26T16:07:48+00:00

Yes to this!! One of my previous partners came up to me (in a non-creepy way lol) and asked for my number! We started dating soon after that!

rivetcitymayor · 2021-04-26T16:54:12+00:00

Women don’t even get approached at bars that much either

HeavenPiercingMan · 2021-04-26T18:34:34+00:00

This is the worst comment feed ever. FDS escapees, blackpillers, and memelords replying "hurr durr rool 1 n 2 hehehe so ebin"

DajuanKev · 2021-04-27T01:52:09+00:00

Girls used to approach me when I was in high school and I took them for granted. Now its my turn to approach them, not gettin' no younga.

DukeCummings · 2021-04-26T16:04:24+00:00

On the contrary: approaching women to ask them out is superficially courageous but a bit empty. The real courage lies in asking out or confessing your feelings to amazing women already in your life (who aren’t coworkers or daily commuters) that you know on a personal level and risk losing something through rejection

shicole3 · 2021-04-26T15:01:46+00:00

As a woman I will say I disagree and I don’t like being approached as I’m just trying to go about my day. Rejecting a stranger is awkward. And it happens often enough. I guess it depends where you live.

macroxela · 2021-04-26T17:19:19+00:00

The effectiveness of cold approach depends a lot on the local culture. Cold approach in the US or a Latin American country? Moderately effective at worst. It is expected in those places. Cold approach in a German speaking or Scandinavian country? Barely at all.

goforasolution · 2021-04-26T19:20:26+00:00

Woah 1% I mean really? Making observations living in a highly populated area and just generally reading anecdotes would really resonate contrary this opinion. Don't get me wrong, I want to hear the truth is more in line with 1% of the time women get approach or talked up. But the general vibe I get is that women are almost always wearing headphones and overly masked up lately because they are too easily approached

Flexitarian25 · 2021-04-27T06:42:29+00:00

I(m29) Was sitting by the river+love music with a couple of female friends and this super cute girl caught my eye a couple of times, came closer to where we were sitting and I may have mistakenly smiled at her direction and she gave me a full blasted smile back... I now realise I should’ve gone up to her and spoken. Instead I am back in my cave. :/

Zemtex · 2021-04-27T07:11:31+00:00

I approve of this post. Met my girlfriend in a local bar where I live. She was sitting with a male friend and I approached her to talk after that we went for drinks. That lead to a date with wine and chess, after that we were together. Approach! Do it! :D

step_aside_butch_ · 2021-04-27T11:39:02+00:00

OP, I thanks for your post, but you do agree that the vast majority of women on Reddit will emphatically disagree. Their advice and we read it over and over again, is do NOT approach unless we're at an approved social event and even then you must read her body language first.

Afarr988 · 2021-04-27T12:18:56+00:00

Yes! I %100 agree. As long as your respectful and keep your hands to yourself I love being approached. As an independent woman who runs her own business I am always taking the lead in my life. There is nothing sexier then a person who has the confidence to make the first move. Even if I am not interested in giving the person my number, I will respect them for having the courage to come talk to me.

If you never ask the answer will always be no.

Mr_Bad_Example20 · 2021-05-27T20:38:23+00:00

This is how I met my wife. She was with her mother at the store I worked at, I thought she was a babe and I interjected myself into their conversation. Had her phone number that night, and rest is history.

SalesAficionado · 2021-04-26T15:40:30+00:00

Me who got rejected by the same girl 4 times.

I think it's just me who's ugly.

L3MMii · 2021-04-26T15:05:23+00:00

Plenty of times I've read in forums, woman do not like to be approached during the day...

-WolfieMcq · 2021-04-26T18:10:48+00:00

“She can’t do nothing about it if your not harassing her.” You’re just the dude women want hanging around. Considering you’re just there for quick anonymously check-she can’t “do nothin” if she’s not interested.

SalesAficionado · 2021-04-26T14:53:42+00:00

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Fist0fGuthix · 2021-04-26T15:46:42+00:00

I asked a cute pharmacist out today while getting my 2nd covid vaccine shot. She checked me in at the first appointment, too, and we bantered a bit both times, so it wasn’t exactly a cold approach. But, even so, they still respect the courage and, in my experience, react positively. Pharmacist has a boyfriend, sadly, and I believe it. Nonetheless, my feelings aren’t hurt, and shooting my shot felt incredibly invigorating. Get out there and live life with no regrets, boys.

Curia-DD · 2021-04-26T15:02:26+00:00

Woman here and you're totally right

rhytmecatcher · 2021-04-26T15:02:02+00:00

Respect your courage... that's a trap to be considered creepy.

ayush_gond · 2021-04-26T16:57:54+00:00

Just don't be a simp.

JenGerRus · 2021-04-26T17:49:39+00:00

Ew. And then when you’re told “ew no” the courage leaves.

MisterShogunate · 2021-04-26T19:25:13+00:00

You are all over-romanticizing this. Approaching a girl just helps you get in front of her so you can determine if she likes you or not. If you don't do that you will never know. Her liking a guys courage is just cognitive dissonance from the fact that the guy is her type.

2021-04-27T08:21:43+00:00

Funny thing is, the more online dating apps become normalized, the easier day game becomes because of how much it makes you stand out.

CenaSmackDown · 2021-04-27T01:37:43+00:00

Then you gotta go through rigorous screening to get laid. Easier to get a loan from the bank. Maybe just settle for getting high

Dutchcat1077 · 2021-04-26T14:53:26+00:00

Yeah... nope. Life is not a constant dating scene. Leave women the duck alone and instead generate interest in yourself. Entice women to approach you.

Allevon · 2021-04-26T18:57:58+00:00

Love this...

Impressive_Pie5018 · 2021-04-26T22:09:02+00:00

Hello I need sexting guys

MattsFace · 2021-04-27T04:58:21+00:00

No they won’t, I either make to much money, too old, or have to many hobbies. I can’t stand how bad I do with women.

SageSeed1 · 2021-04-27T06:16:43+00:00

As someone who naturally suffers from RBF, yeah it's quite admirable when someone can approach me with out getting intimidated. I'm not that hard on the eyes either by my blank stares can be scary lol.

shaggy2gay · 2021-04-27T06:17:00+00:00

The conscientious ones do admire it. The smart ones, the nice ones, the humble ones. Don't expect a parade though. Be ready to have a big chunk of the women you approach treat you like you were lunging at them with a dog turd on a stick. You have to grin and bear that pain as part of the process.

TheTrueNIOH · 2021-04-27T06:51:28+00:00

1000% straight facts

iebcmole · 2021-04-27T09:13:27+00:00

You gotta be attractive first. That's where it all starts.

theotherversionofu · 2021-04-30T01:39:19+00:00

Yo jus stop. This a two way street man. We’re all busy during the day. Women need to start picking up the slack, basic social responsibility

TyphoonSubLover · 2021-04-30T13:45:27+00:00

i just never understood the logic behind this, why does approaching indicate strength in a womans perspective when the guy does that? does it mean he would be unable to protect her, if he can't approach? or other things?

Arganos9217 · 2021-05-06T12:42:01+00:00

I'd rather not. I have trust issues with women so i'm happier being alone

trythisonceagainn · 2021-05-08T08:40:04+00:00

This is all nice and fine to say sitting at home typing away. Go to live street right now and ask a woman anything and look at you with a "what the fuck is this guy doing? I think he wants to kill me or rape, i can't figure out which? Go away! Your scaring me! How dare you talk to me in public!" Face. If your not REALLY good looking. You'll probably have the cops called on you. As soon as a woman steps foot outside her door, their guard is up and at max because they've been taught every male is potentially her next rapist or stalker especially if they approach you. Because only killers and rapists are crazy enough to do that. The only safe way to approach a woman is when she is in a work environment that deals with the public because shields are forced to be lowered or commerce can't be conducted.

trythisonceagainn · 2021-05-09T07:23:40+00:00

This coming from someone who reads comments on the main subject and thinks they're about him.

NewGrad222 · 2021-05-13T21:51:41+00:00

Meanwhile, here I am getting laughed at and eww'd at by at least 25% of the women I approach.

It's so over bro. Any day now will be my last.

TheGestaltFallacy · 2021-05-15T04:03:39+00:00

Yeah, no.

Women will respect the opportunity to receive your attention as well as the power to reject you based on their shallow & petty criteria*

Other-Temporary-7753 · 2021-05-23T17:56:28+00:00

Don't approach random women on the street wtf this is awful advice Also self proclaimed masculinity isn't a big turn-on for a lot of women. It's just annoying when men exude toxic masculinity.

heavykick89 · 2021-05-24T03:19:04+00:00

I find it difficult to approach woman on the streets, many say they are annoyed by that and now the whole harrass thing and feminists and whatever makes it even harder. Women are more defensive when approached on the streets. On malls I do not know if she is waiting for someone or whatever, and if she is with some girlfriends it makes her even less approachable.

KGBebop · 2021-05-26T21:01:28+00:00

You are delusional.

Women will respect your courage

GO FOR IT

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We're ALL KINGS NOT MATTER WHAT

GO FOR IT. DON'T EVEN THINK.

Title	Women will respect your courage
Author	SalesAficionado
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Date	April 26, 2021 2:39 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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