I am lurking in this forum for a while now. I was divorced after a year of marriage. No kids, nothing. Lost nothing financially except some small wedding expenses and gold jewelleries, which I told my ex-wife to keep. It was a random out-of-the-blue "We can't click" divorce, initiated by her. I was left devastated.

I am too scared to even look at any woman as marriage material, since I lost trust in women. I had fun in Thailand and Indonesia with female escorts. (Oh boy, the comments on ladyboys and men!.. You know there are a lot of straight female escorts in both countries right?) Anyway, that was enough to keep me satisfied. Had my support network as friends for my depression.

I had divorced/separated women showing interest in me, but these were women who went through abortion, and severe heartbreaks (nothing compared to mine). We went on one or two dates. I just realized I am leading them on and ended up just wasting both of our time. It's still bewildering to me that these women, moved on and they actually found another boyfriends to live with together.

Reading this forum, I realised some of the men here were in second or third marriage. How did you do it? Other than the supposed consistent sex and societal status (questionable) that comes with being a married man, what else made you remarry? Why put yourself through that?