Masturbation requires porn apparently

Sage_Planter · 2021-09-25T17:20:54+00:00

It's so wild to me how intertwined masturbation has become with porn.

Masturbation is normal and is in no way being unfaithful. No arguments there.

There's nothing normal or natural about having unlimited access to millions of hardcore porn scenes in the palm of your hand, though. Men masturbated for thousands of years without porn...

Muffcakelord · 2021-09-25T17:58:47+00:00

Noone thinks wanking isn't ok? Some people just think porn isn't ok. Unfortunately men tend to be dependent on porn.

annrike1 · 2021-09-25T17:07:48+00:00

Women were never against masturbation. Like ever.

They don't want their partners to consume porn, thats it.

They can't even masturbate without trafficking hub..

lightcobaltblue · 2021-09-25T17:03:46+00:00

Why does she seem so angry though?

ello-motto · 2021-09-25T17:12:24+00:00

Ok, idk who else agrees with me.

But it's the misogyny and cheapening the meaning of sex for me that disgusts me about those that use porn to masturbate.

It's the problematic themes of incest, rape, sexual harassment, degradation, choking, punching and torturing women that make 95% of the videos on a porn homepage.

It's also how porn is filmed in a way that trains men to expect women to put in all the work, and men to just sit back and do nothing, or thinking jackhammering like a lunatic is job done.

It's the fact that it creates demand for trafficking and women getting into an industry that only lasts 10-15 years, and will leave them with a host of psychological trauma for the rest of their lives.

It's the fact that men in a overly sexual state (which happens with continued porn use), either are hyper fixated on seeing sexual scenarios in real life, and/or get deeper into sicker fetishes, that may put your future children and their friends at risk from his perversion.

There's just sooo many fucking reasons why porn is problematic, and this pick-me or LVM, literally thinks it's a jealousy issue.

anxious-american · 2021-09-25T23:54:11+00:00

VERY interesting how right after he says (since this 100% reads like it was written by a man) "cheating involves another person," he says "porn isn't cheating"... It's telling into how they view porn stars as objects and not people

TieDieEye · 2021-09-25T18:45:58+00:00

A man wrote this lmao

brylm92 · 2021-09-25T17:16:12+00:00

TIL that boundaries and self-respect aren't mature or healthy and that getting defensive and nasty about being a doormat is where it's at. FOH. Ugh. And she really said "he is relieving himself".

Lumplebee · 2021-09-25T17:44:18+00:00

Yeah a man definitely wrote this.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-09-25T17:53:44+00:00

I love how she's admonishing others to grow up but still uses the word wanks.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-09-25T22:54:22+00:00

"involves another person" "in a sexual context" ...

Exactly what the man is doing. So it's cheating by this own fake woman's post standards. "Girls"

Technical_Moth248 · 2021-09-25T23:02:36+00:00

Cry harder, pickme. You don't get to set the standard for relationships you are not a part of when you can't even set a boundary for yourself without worrying about a man's feelings. Also seconding that masturbation does not require porn. Having to see barely legal anal to feel anything because they are so damaged from addiction is a newer development 🙄

xfelugirlx · 2021-09-25T17:31:34+00:00

Why so angry? She don’t buy it either huh☠️

brylm92 · 2021-09-25T17:33:13+00:00

"Cheating has to involve another person" okay, so, err, the people involved in porn are not people...??

"Cheating is an emotional or sexual thing" okay, so, err, having what is essentially virtual sex with another woman is not a sexual thing...?

Pickme is angry cos she knows she's talking rubbish and doesn't want to face facts that her Nigel is a disrespectful, cheating, gaslighting scrote.

dembar126 · 2021-09-25T19:11:35+00:00

Men masturbated for thousands of years without internet porn, but now all of a sudden they literally NEED extreme visual stimulation and to see a different naked woman every single day to cum lmao. And they expect us to put up with this.

Defiant_Error_ · 2021-09-25T17:08:31+00:00

Saw this before, feel like she seems very aggressive towards women...

If she accepts this, that's her choice, but doesn't mean others can't have boundaries or agree on stuff as a couple to what they are happy with, that's the main thing really isn't it.

I think it's a very adult thing to state your boundaries so you can find a partner who fits you.

Actually if a man wrote this, the aggression makes sense 🙄.

IDontAgreeSorry · 2021-09-25T18:47:06+00:00

Hey there, pickmes of Reddit. Yeah, pickmes, because no adult, grown sane woman thinks like this. An adult, grown, sane woman KNOWS that women are allowed to have boundaries and dealbreakers and that it’s totally ok for a woman to not want her man to jack off to other women, support female exploitation, risk limp dick as a result of a porn addiction, perform badly at sex as porn prioritises male pleasure and not what women like. And thus simply not date men who watch porn. None of us, women for whom that is a dealbreaker, are actively searching for men who watch porn to then tell them “nope, you can’t watch it”. We’re vetting against such men and simply stay away from them when it comes to romantic relationships. It’s our right. Cry about it. Why would you push your fellow women under the bus to protect men who sexually objectify the female class and support female exploitation? What is it you gain from it? I promise you, you won’t gain the male validation you’re after. They might see you as an easy target to take advantage of. Men don’t even like “cool girls” when it comes to serious relationships. They might say so because it benefits their willies, but it’s not true. Just take a look around you.

If a person decides that their partner cumming to someone else is cheating, that is for them to decide and you can cry about it.

Grow the fuck up.

If you want to date a man who does that, go ahead and do it. I’m not stopping you, I don’t care. Go do that and be happy. But I have different standards and values. Is it that hard to grasp?

Sincerely, a woman who is VERY happy to have a man who doesn’t need to objectify another woman’s ass and boobs to sexually please himself :)

Oh yeah, one more thing. I’m 100% sure that if porn was based on objectifying men the same way it’s objectifying women, and majority of women would masturbate to porn actors with six packs and big dicks as opposed to the porn that is catered to the male gaze, men would have a different tone LOL. I’m so sorry but I’m just SO sure of it. Of course they’re ok with women watching porn that caters to the male gaze, it benefits them and their willies. (Ofcourse here I don’t have to add that not all men are like that and that men with the same values and wishes as us exist. They exist and I’m more than happy that they do, otherwise I’d simply resign from dating and relationships)

If it’s acceptable for men to say “I’m not dating a woman who is a porn actress”, why should it not be acceptable for women to say “I’m not dating a man who consumes porn”? Because men say the former all the time and don’t get criticised for it.

CuntWaffe · 2021-09-25T17:33:55+00:00

When did masturbation suddenly become non-sexual?

East-Willingness513 · 2021-09-25T23:53:32+00:00

Yeah this is a guy larping as a woman lol

IgetUsernameScraps · 2021-09-26T01:54:20+00:00

CoOl gIrL alert! 🤡

CloacaDiddler · 2021-09-25T19:34:06+00:00

Great, so if he hides in the bushes and beats off to his neighbor who doesn’t know he’s there, that’s fine

BasieSkanks · 2021-09-25T19:53:33+00:00

This was definitely written by a man. A pornsick man.

Typical_Candle_5627 · 2021-09-25T20:09:37+00:00

omg he is just “relieving himself” like he’s literally going to the bathroom? why even have sex then, if it’s just a bodily compulsion like taking a shit? this wording is so gross.

no connection, nothing deeper from sex? our hormones and neurotransmitters would beg to differ. i’m literally sickened by this, ew. go take your compulsory “sperm dumps” in peace then dudes, i’m good ✌️

also i’ve never heard a real woman use the term “wanking” non-ironically. even when i lived in the uk. nice try, “sincerely a scrote.”

GabbaG0ul · 2021-09-25T19:56:33+00:00

People masterbated for all of human history without porn. Streaming porn is very recent. But hey, if you don’t value yourself enough to want more respect from your partner, not my problem.

throwaway-fds · 2021-09-25T21:08:43+00:00

Hey there, pickmes of reddit. It feels great having a boyfriend that doesn't watch porn or wank, because the only time he wants to get off is with me. And we both have an orgasm, because he cares about my pleasure. I feel great every day knowing I'm not a doormat to a guy, and that he makes sure my every need is met because he loves me. When's the last time your scrote put effort into your birthday?

SiNcErElY, a WoMaN

OptionalCookie · 2021-09-25T18:23:45+00:00

You know... I've never needed porn to masturbate. 🤔

sassyheather · 2021-09-25T21:14:22+00:00

“mEn NeEd PoRn” explain how they were able to wank in the 1700s without porn and still survived, Shadanda

Loud_Foundation_9300 · 2021-09-25T20:48:52+00:00

Side note…how completely in-compassionate can you be to shame women who actually do have self image issues, or suffered sexual abuse, making it hard for them to masturbate? What a horrible person.

ExistentialJelly · 2021-09-25T18:44:53+00:00

I am fine with masturbation. It's normal, it's healthy, and women do it too. My problem with porn is how it fuels the sex trafficking/tourism industry, abuses women, warps viewers sense of intimacy and destroys relationships, and how it takes advantage of the vulnerable.

It doesn't take a genius detective to find the scientific journals that have explored in depth, the damages(financial, physical, mental, emotional) caused by the porn industry. Hell, ask police officers who work on sex crimes and human trafficking to see how they view it.

But these days people are trying to justify it because they never have to worry about being a victim of the industry, they only benefit from it. They won't watch interviews of these women and children(those girls are not all legal adults), and they won't read the scientific journals. They won't put the time or energy in to looking at anything that would call them out from their comfort zone.

FDSfollower1 · 2021-09-25T20:05:35+00:00

I'm extremely suspicious of these sorts of posts and think many if not most of these posts are created by employees of organizations that financially profit from the commercial porn industry.

PicoPicoMio · 2021-09-26T02:46:01+00:00

A man masquerading as a woman wrote that shit.

Ambitious_Flamingo93 · 2021-09-25T17:57:07+00:00

Sincerely, a woman... doubtful.

Nonsluttymen · 2021-09-25T20:02:46+00:00

You know, women being angry with their male partners obsessing over porn is more common than previously thought. I did a Reddit search for something completely irrelevant and lacking in the right keywords, but I kept coming across posts about couples arguing because of excessive porn use by the male partner. Granted, there were a lot of pickmeishas trying to give their male partners the benefit of the doubt and stooping to their level, yet the situation still would escalate despite her efforts (as we knew it would), and in one instance that I read, to the unwarranted point of the man hurting his partner over her disapproval of porn use.

Anyway, I agree with others that this was written by a man.

Hikari3747 · 2021-09-25T19:13:28+00:00

Look at all that gaslight! Yes the pornstar are aware people are watching them. That how they make money.

Also all mature grown women find porn a problem because porn addiction is a problem and can cause mental health issues.

Stop trying to gaslight us nmv. Honestly, all women deserve better than a man who can't be happy with the women in front of him.

sewingmachinesavior · 2021-09-25T19:45:50+00:00

Sooo, we are supposed to accept men getting off because…they are too lazy to have sex with us?

Bahahahahaha.

NO.

Pokegirloras · 2021-09-26T03:22:03+00:00

Women don't write like this lmao it's obviously a man

Shot_Presence_8382 · 2021-09-25T19:55:06+00:00

She should've signed it:

"Sincerely, A Pick-Me"

🤭

MACMUA · 2021-09-25T22:37:34+00:00

Her bf f*cks all her pick-me friends lmao

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CynicalSucculent · 2021-09-26T04:46:08+00:00

"A woman"

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-09-26T06:46:07+00:00

if he watches porn, he's not "your" man.

seriously// pickmes and their property!

shedipity · 2021-09-25T20:54:23+00:00

This is so embarrassing!!!

Sheravenous · 2021-09-26T13:00:36+00:00

Sincerely, A Pick-me

🙄😂

AntiqueGhost13 · 2021-09-26T15:03:49+00:00

The edits were even more aggressive and pickme 😩 Although I must say I was very pleasantly surprised by the comments.

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-09-26T16:35:13+00:00

This is the most pickme thing ever.

In a few years this dumb woman will be either asking for relationship advice because her partner has been cheating or she'll be seeking support because she's grown insecure that her body is no longer as sexy as the porn stars her partner jerks off to.

Have at it, bitch. Encourage him to watch all the porn he can.

ChocoBananza · 2021-09-27T13:59:10+00:00

Oh honey…

LadyGrimes · 2021-09-27T14:59:08+00:00

Says the man.

doc-2-be · 2021-09-26T08:01:17+00:00

The fact that a woman wrote this?😱😱😱😱😱😱

Title	Masturbation requires porn apparently
Author	Middle_Ad2224
Upvotes	537
Comments	90
Date	September 25, 2021 4:54 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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