How does your PPD persona differ from real life when it comes to relationships?

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-05-23T07:36:01+00:00

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boofthegirl · 2022-05-23T09:44:37+00:00

I’m annoying af here but not in real life.

In real life I’m in a happy, loving and generous relationship. We’ve been together for 7 years. We express each of our desires outwardly and honestly and support each other through everything.

For example, I’ve seen my fiancé cry many times but I still find him as hot as ever. On here I might say that crying makes you a beta just to stir shit. It’s a hobby, I guess.

2022-05-23T07:07:45+00:00

Within my relationship, I'm pretty much the same here as with my bf.

Concerning family, I also present the same albeit less vulgar language.

With friends, I monitor my speech closely. I make a point not to outright lie to anyone, but I will be very selective about who I share certain thoughts and ideas with, and am very particular about how I express my ideas to make them as palatable as possible. Again, dependent on which friend and what their beliefs are.

With aquantainces, coworkers, anyone else practically, I don't normally talk about this kind of stuff. But if anything even tangentally related pops up, I just read the room and go from there. No need to start debates at work or college or some shit like that.

vivvienne · 2022-05-23T09:47:07+00:00

Reddit in general feels like me yelling common sense into the clouds, figuratively. In real life nowadays I feel most kids around me are so much more tolerable than the ones I see online. Otherwise I'm happily married so I'm glad I'm not dealing with the dating culture of today. Something that bothers me is how outraged people get while demanding something from me, then gets their panties in a knot when I respond with sarcasm or condescension.

wtknight · 2022-05-23T11:17:00+00:00

Well, I don't present myself as intolerant of promiscuity. Promiscuous women are usually fun people to talk to. But I'd never date a formerly promiscuous woman, and I don't even like casual sex so I wouldn't sleep with one either.

2022-05-23T07:30:18+00:00

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purplish_possum · 2022-05-23T08:49:34+00:00

I'm a quiet introvert IRL.

chalkandapples · 2022-05-23T07:18:58+00:00

My persona here doesn't differ much from my IRL personality. There's nothing about my personality I want to hide or think is negative, so there's no reason to be different. I don't worry that people would lie to me, usually obvious lies are easy to tell. Not obvious ones can be discovered after a while of getting to know them.

TermAggravating8043 · 2022-05-23T07:44:36+00:00

To be honest, whenever any guy outwardly judges women harshly on having a high body count or a sexual history, it’s obviously he’s just jealous of her history or pissed off that she’ll have sex with loads of people but not him.

doshkhaleesi · 2022-05-23T09:18:23+00:00

I try to be smilier in real life. I’m also rather quiet.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-05-23T09:27:53+00:00

I talk to women once in a blue moon, not by choice. Add the INFP into the mix and thats how I am in real life. Most times women only come to me only when they want something (that will benefit them).

chingness · 2022-05-23T09:40:30+00:00

I think I’m pretty much the same but for sure I’m kinder to awkward men I meet in real life that I am on here, and a lot more trusting of people in general

localmicrodosechamp · 2022-05-23T20:05:19+00:00

what people post here is who they are.

Alfalfa2-Throwaway · 2022-05-23T21:51:21+00:00

I largely avoid or don't engage men in casual social settings like bars and clubs so that's true.

When it comes to gender politics I usually don't engage - i don't have the time, energy or interest to argue with people in my life about this shit.

If I met a PPD IRL who told me he believed that women with an N count >3 isn't a viable partner I'd probably just say something like "that's cool" and walk away. i don't care enough IRL to get into heated arguments day to day.

I usually come on here in my downtime or when I'm bored between cases but it's ultimately a thought exercise - my views on men are the same IRL and I don't hide them but nor will I passionately advocate for them either because I just don't care enough, I've too much other shit to be doing.

AelfredRex · 2022-05-23T12:06:16+00:00

I don't give a shit who's she's slept with. She's wanting to sleep with me and that's what matters. My ego is secure enough to date a porn star.

HazyMemory7 · 2022-05-23T10:07:00+00:00

I don't talk about body count at all irl. Nor do I talk about stuff like being overweight or being a single mother being unattractive, or women's standard's being delusional. I don't say things that contradict what I say on here, I simply don't talk about those things. If I won't date a girl seriously for any of the aforementioned reasons, I don't explain why to her, I just tell her that I'm not interested. And honestly...why would anyone talk about those things? lol

When I'm hanging out with a girl I want to keep it positive and light-hearted. To get to know each other and genuinely enjoy our time together, not talk about dating and gender dynamics or double standards.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-05-23T11:02:14+00:00

This is what I call pulling the truth. It's a little sheisty but sometimes men have to do this shit to get a real answer.

MasterTeacher123 · 2022-05-23T11:06:48+00:00

I’m the exact person

FineDevelopment00 · 2022-05-23T11:25:11+00:00

What persona? Lol what you see is what you get with me, although I am usually a bit less blunt about sharing my opinions in person to those who have a harder time handling them. Ofc my husband doesn't fall into that demographic though; he knows and loves (and even agrees with) me as is.

Lysa_Bell · 2022-05-23T11:45:54+00:00

I show my partner my Reddit history and we talk regularly about the things I see on Reddit or irl. I don't hide my opinions. I might be more diplomatic on a professional level if I don't know someone well and work with them. But everyone who knows me knows who I am.

ZealousidealAd7191 · 2022-05-23T12:10:42+00:00

I don’t have a PPD persona. I have some of the same Red Pill discussions with my wife that we have here.

343_peaches_and_tea · 2022-05-23T12:35:02+00:00

I'm probably slightly more argumentative here than IRL. But not by a lot.

I'm also much more "men's issues" here than IRL. I think that's largely because dating has a huge negative impact on men that isn't reflected in other spheres of life.

But it depends on the group.

I have a very leftwing friendship group where I once said that men were probably better at most sports than women (with exceptions of things like gymnastics, archery, endurance sports). I was jumped upon like a pack of wolves by the entire group.

Apparently my point was too similar to misogynistic men who didn't want to pay women as much for sports. I never said anything of the sort but my view was associated with the "other side" 🙄

I tend to toe the line with that group and watch my speech closely.

With other friendship groups I'm pretty similar to how I am on PPD.

wingbark · 2022-05-23T13:00:46+00:00

I try to shoehorn in aviation in conversations irl just the same as I do here

social_mule · 2022-05-23T13:01:58+00:00

I no longer date in the traditional sense. My sexual "relationships" with women consist of ONSs, escorts, FWBs and the occasional short term fling whenever I travel. I'm not willing or able to provide the type of emotional connection and support that's necessary for a LTR so as an act of kindness I've decided not to waste any woman's time (and more importantly my time) with the pretense of a relationship.

I'm less opinionated in real life. Well, kinda less opinionated. I still have strong opinions but unless someone asks for my input I tend to keep to myself. I'm very much an introvert. PPD kinda asks for people's opinions so I find myself being more outspoken here than I ever am in real life but that's just the nature of the internet. Otherwise I'm pretty much the same offline as I am online.

Key-Selection-522 · 2022-05-23T13:12:34+00:00

I am way more open about being a virgin on here than I am in real life. I keep that card close to my chest until I know that the guy is trustworthy and not some weirdo.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-05-23T13:24:41+00:00

I talk more like I do with my fraternity brothers or at the gym here than I do at the office, or in real life professional settings. It’s Just nice to be able to go, “the fuck is that?” You know? Besides most the young dudes IRL don’t seem to be struggling nearly as much or seem as confused as some dudes here.

lilickybitch · 2022-05-23T14:14:24+00:00

People not being honest about views, goals, and actions are one of the main reasons the dating scene is failing, In my opinion. Relationships need communication and honest ones at that. If I can't even get the person I want to date to be honest, how will I expect them to be honest as my partner.

Stunning-Potato-1984 · 2022-05-23T15:15:31+00:00

I'm a huge bitch here, especially to people I consider massive delusional assholes who refuse to confront their own failings.

In real life I just ignore those people. I'm very soft with my partner and friends. I'm actually more adoring and effusive with my partner in real life. I hate the idea of him not knowing or doubting how amazing he is.

I just want everyone to feel secure and happy. It really bothers me when people refuse to confront their own issues though and blame women for why women don't want them.

Orange_Paisley · 2022-05-23T15:15:52+00:00

They wouldn't necessarily lie but they probably just would lose interest in you.

Anyway, in real life I am very quiet and much nicer than I am on PPD. I look just like my avatar though.

midwesternMD · 2022-05-23T15:19:19+00:00

I’m relatively authentic with my opinions here, and I share them openly with friends/colleagues who I’m close enough to share those kinds of things with.

I genuinely don’t care about her sexual history/n-count because I think it’s hogwash.

To your credit, I might be a little more dramatic here with respect to not caring about her career or education. While it’s absolutely true that my decision to swipe/meet/fuck isn’t swayed by those at all, I do think about them more closely if I’m considering a future with her. Still, I maintain that if she doesn’t have expensive tastes/happily lives within her budget, I earn enough to comfortably support a family.

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-05-23T15:21:30+00:00

It doesn't really different terms of the views, I may be a little more blunt about things just because of the anonymity but outside of that I can't think of any area in my real life versus on here that I differ in my views

NewWayNow · 2022-05-23T15:25:43+00:00

Thing is though, If I were as open about this IRL as I am on here women who would want me to see them as relationship material would simply lie.

I have bad news for you: They lie anyway.

As a man, if you gain enough experience, you can pretty accurately guess who has the high numbers. You won't need to ask. You have to be able to read the signs yourself; you can never depend on a truthful answer.

Pro tip: They all have a number higher than 3 unless they're very young.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-05-23T15:35:52+00:00

I’m just as insufferably cynical irl.

sarkington · 2022-05-23T16:42:05+00:00

I’m blue pill and blue pill is mainstream, so I don’t have to change anything

Sad-Program-3444 · 2022-05-23T17:03:10+00:00

I'm mor talkative here than IRL.

MrMushySauce · 2022-05-23T20:21:21+00:00

I am such a bigger asshole in text than in real life, point blank lol. I am a thinker and a free-spirit, and I spend a lot of time assembling theories and the like. As such, I speak with a lot of "certainty" in the language itself but my tonality/demeanor suggests my openness to other ideas and whatnot. In real life I think I come across as a passionate person with a lot going on in their head that's really open to a lot of new ideas and stuff. On here if I say, for example, "women are worse at X" it just comes across as "psshhhh, women suck." My voice irl conveys more like "haha yo ur baddd at this sux2suck lol"

I also probably come across a lot more confident on here than irl, tho this is true in both directions sometimes more than others. Overall, I intellectually/logically know that my success with females is "good." And I logically know that more of it will come and whatnot. And again, logically, I know this is because I am "attractive." So that is what you hear from me in writing mostly, because I stick to facts and it'd just be dishonest to portray that I'm not what "the world" would say I am.

That said irl it's not like you'd meet me and go "damn, there's Chad." I get nervous around attractive girls sometimes, some days I don't "clean up" (my appearance) as well as others, I doubt myself like anyone else would, I have bouts where I'm not getting laid and wonder what's wrong with me or if "it was just a fluke" before... I mean, me saying all this with the self-awareness to realize it is why so many people online say shit like "bro I am average and I have fucked 100 girls you could do it too!" But it's like... you're probably not average if you're doing that (not that I have either) you just lack the self-awareness to see you aren't average. As an example.

Pretty much everyone has insecurities, someone who bullied them, "hidden flaws," things they're not proud of... all of it. But that can definitely get lost when we go online just streamlining "the important info" about ourselves.

Any_Drama3272 · 2022-05-24T01:01:27+00:00

I’m a little more harsh in real life and more willing to discuss or respond to people on PPD than real life.

For example, if someone says something stupid in real life, rather than trying to explain or make counter points, I’m more likely to just stare at them or repeat what they just said very very slowly so they can hear themselves.

I also don’t take the time to encourage people in real life, so I guess I’m actually a lot nicer online than I am in real life toward men and women, alike.

I’ve also verbally more likely to verbally annihilate someone in real life for saying something to me—for example, I’ve told someone in the middle a date that they were ‘worthless as a man’ for refusing to help their elderly father move and set up a Christmas tree during the holidays and having the old man do it himself, or I’ve lost a chick friend by telling her she’s an ‘actual child who needs to grow up and I’m afraid talking to her will make me dumber’… so yeah, reconfirm, am way more mean in person.

I guess I’m nicer in text and more conversational because I feel when I’m typing things out online, I literally am taking the time for this shit rather than not having time for it.

Key-Selection-522 · 2022-05-24T03:55:32+00:00

You're right about the secual reading strategy. You keep it vague and seem like you're cool with it. She'll let it out on her own.
It works for everything really. You make your decision after that. You either ghost or stay.

At work. I don't talk about personal life past surface stuff. I don't discuss any views at all, I keep it vague. I don't hangout with co workers, I don't add them on social media (if they can even find me.) I'm there for money not to make friends.

Personal life, people know my views. I got more feminist leaning friends who argue with me but that's cool because sometimes they change my view sometimes they don't. I got some female homies who are straight heauxs, some who moved and reinvented themselves as the PTA moms which I kind of laugh at the husband's because they don't know and he's getting a full scam ran on him.
My shorty and past shorties know my views, which is weird when they try to hide things like it's not going to come out. They're prolonging the inevitable of getting sent back to the streets and wasting time, playing games. Granted the way my words come across on here aren't going to sound the same as I would speak them IRL. The words are the same, but the voice and manner spoken are going to be different. On here it's going to come off as more combative, aggressive or offensive.

RottingVillain666 · 2022-05-24T07:00:20+00:00

Exactly the same. I say exactly what i think of someone or something or my honest opinion if asked. Fun thing is, i could say the worst shit imaginable, but then just a x hint like “you could do y to improve” will make people be grateful for my honesty Edit: or also dish it out as a joke

bussy_decimator · 2022-05-23T07:25:48+00:00

I am very supportive, kind and compassionate towards women irl

melody_of_ · 2022-05-23T09:41:08+00:00

I dont express redpill ideas in rl. In rl I spout the zeitgeist rhetoric that is common when pressed or claim to "not get that stuff". Until I stumble upon men who need it. Then I give a trickle of rp advice until they are able to emotionally handle more of it.

The women in my life are doing just fine in terms of intimacy, most women do.

In my own relationship, I cherish my partner. From conversations she openly admitted she feels shes getting more out of the relationship then she thinks I am. That's fine to me, it means at least some level of assumed loyalty.

I dont expect her to love me with the same conventional dog like loyalty/love that men have for women and I don't punish or get mad at women for being incapable of loving men in the same type of way men can love women. Men and woman love differently and it is possible to love someone even if they might not love you in the exact same way.

I wouldn't say its briffaults law exactly. I believe traditional morality has for a long time suppressed that dynamic. We will definitely see more of it to come.

I go to the gym every day level up in other areas and always try to give more than I get back. I'm still getting a lot. She's happy, I'm happy. I get attention so If she trades me out anyway I'll have options

Guys if you somehow happen to strike gold, lock that down and treat her great. Dont play the long game hoping things will change. Being "kind and loving" isn't enough their are plenty of men like that who will spend their 80 years undesired. You have to be try and be exceptional too if you want something lasting.

You dont want to be in your 30s or later dealing with women you thought would be "easier". From adulthood to grave they have endless options and their dynamic with men reflects that. You are comically replaceable. Find a woman who doesn't see you that way if you are able too.

no-304s · 2022-05-23T08:48:14+00:00

I don't talk about any of this in real life. If a girl has a sexual past, I ghost her. If I'm already having sex with her, I stop replying to her texts slowly. I don't want drama.

I friend zone women in real life. I meet girls through them. They have female friends who hang with them at bars and clubs. It's guaranteed sex.

I get along well with women in real life. I have a problem with feminists. I avoid them or ignore them if I can. For dating, they have mental problems. They're not worth the trouble.

I share my opinions only if I'm asked. Women act submissive when you share your views without reservations.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-05-23T11:03:33+00:00

I find this hilarious. So let's say a girl has 3 digits. By sleeping with you now she becomes a dirty disgusting promiscuous whore leaking diseases out of her pussy. So wouldn't it be better to not sleep with her at all (that's a hypothetical question because I doubt you sleep with any women)?

Apprehensive_Boat_70 · 2022-05-23T12:26:20+00:00

I find it therapeutic to throw insults towards the women i detest here, it feels relieving to do so, also i have the hope that there is a little chance of a man that has a similar background to me to see my comments and clears his doubts to stand up against the gaslighting the crazies might throw at him, outside of reddit, well since i got a girlfriend that i cherish and she fits all my personality standards, i dont talk about anything related towards PPD nor i worry about the shenanigans ppd hoes come up with, not that it crosses my mind anyways since my girlfriend is nothing like that so... Ppd women are stupid if they really believe i would talk about the stuff i say here outside of reddit, like come on, anyone with a minimal treeshold of social intelligence knows that it is better to not talk about certain topics even if you re in the right, im not gonna talk about how racism is bad in a room full of white supremacists, im not gonna talk about how gangbanging and gangsta rap only ruins the youth in a room full of thugs who re all strapped.

modidlee · 2022-05-23T13:18:31+00:00

This is exactly how most men are. But women in here think the men the men in here are just super judgmental and the men they know irl are accepting. The fact is the men irl feel the same as men in here but they know they can’t be honest about what they think of what they see women do. Women don’t realize just how much men lie to them and tell them what they want to hear.

cuckedalt · 2022-05-23T07:43:02+00:00

Cucked = what (mostly) guys on this sub call my opinions... Not literally into cuckoldry

MelodiousTones · 2022-05-23T14:42:19+00:00

Most redpill men hide their misogyny. This is because they know it’s wrong.

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ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-05-24T01:24:17+00:00

Not at all. I am willing to say the exact same things in real life and I do -- although couched in less incel adjacent terminology hahaha. I've picked up the lingo too much here, I have to use more normal sounding terms.

But yeah no, same exact personality and persona

CFinCanada · 2022-05-24T11:29:57+00:00

IRL I wouldn't bother hanging out with, talking to, or debating with conservatives or incels.

neolib-cowboy · 2022-05-24T19:30:07+00:00

I use this forum as a vehicle to express my frustrations because most people around me are blue-pilled and would be extremely put-off if I tried to talk like I do on here. I pretend to be blue-pilled. Occasionally I have asked my guys friends, many of whom are successful with women, about dating, but they usually just give me generic blue-pill advice. Then again, almost all of them are either normal weight or very fit, while I am obese, so I don't think any dating advice to me besides "lose weight and get fit" will help my situation. To prevent be ostracized and labeled a weirdo, I maintain an appearance of normality & being blue-pilled. I never say anything about the RP.

None0fYour8usiness · 2022-05-24T22:32:26+00:00

I hold the same views. I just don't go spouting them around unless the topic shifts to a conversation where I have to express them.

Potential_Respond224 · 2022-05-25T04:19:23+00:00

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Title	How does your PPD persona differ from real life when it comes to relationships?
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Date	May 23, 2022 6:31 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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