I’ve seen men online and had them tell me IRL that they reason they can’t please a woman or are bad lovers is because women haven’t taught them how to do it right. Countless men have just thrown up their hands and stopped even attempting to please me in the bedroom because I refuse to explicitly teach them how to be good at sex. I’m willing to give general instructions on what I like and give plenty of nonverbal clues as to what is working and what isn’t but that’s as far as I will go.

Men don’t seem to want to read a book, talk to other men, or try things and see what the reaction is. Because it is easy for them to orgasm, they won’t put in the effort required to learn to please a woman. They often say it’s too hard because women are all different.

I became a good lover through trial and error. Men need to do the same thing and take responsibility for their poor performance in the bedroom.