What are some arbitrary things that make you immediately swipe left?

hudibrastic · 2022-01-09T16:06:16+00:00

Bios like “I'm looking for a real man” “Tired of boys” or similar shit

I don't really care about the pictures composition and wouldn't be a turn-off

duffmanhb · 2022-01-09T15:24:05+00:00

The sorority girl and plastic surgery types. Instant left swipe. Both have too much ego... One stuck in a cookie cutter traditional lifestyle, and the other stuck in obsession with material.

Hoopy223 · 2022-01-09T15:59:41+00:00

Whenever I see someone with a massive list of likes/dislikes it makes me think they’re a nutcase or they have spent way too much time dating online.

ThatgodHermes · 2022-01-09T16:50:10+00:00

Guy here, attracted to men and women.

Women - too many alcohol pics - purposely shoving their ass/chest to photos (I immediately think they’re trying to promote something) -no hobbies - “I’m not like other girls” - “boss bitch” in profile

For men -too many alcohol pics - too many gym/shirtless pics - no book interests - says “females” - fish/boat/car pics (more than one) - “polyamory” (usually just DL dudes not admitting to their so’s they like men)

Devourer_of_felines · 2022-01-09T15:37:53+00:00

Any iteration of “I’m a foodie”

ThisTimeForRealYo · 2022-01-09T18:10:43+00:00

Any type of filter.

TotalTravesty · 2022-01-09T15:26:39+00:00

Height requirements - even though I met most height requirements, I didn’t have high hopes for someone who didn’t know how to state what they want tactfully. And she’d probably be superficial about a lot of other things too.

Bikini pics, believe it or not - I used to think they indicated they want a man who post shirtless pics and I’m not the type to pose shirtless pics.

Lists of what you don’t want - way too negative of a mindset for me. I know they do this to filter out guys they aren’t interested in but who wants to date someone who seems like they’re looking for reasons to say no?

Stupid snarky jokes like “I only swiped right for your dog” or “I’m more interested in the dog than you.” - Ha ha ha. Ladynegging doesn’t work.

Short profiles - at least pretend to give a shit.

hudibrastic · 2022-01-09T16:00:44+00:00

Hats in every photo... Wtf??

goatismycopilot · 2022-01-09T16:58:09+00:00

I would say: likes to go with the flow, ask me anything, my friends made me do this, bad spelling or grammar, bad pictures, wearing a MAGA hat.

ididntwanttoexist · 2022-01-09T17:04:33+00:00

No profile.
Entire profile is a copypasta joke I've seen 1000 times before.
Not looking for serious, being non-monogamous, or not sure what they want.
Mentioning a recent breakup.
An air of desperation or "I can't afford to have standards" attitude. Bland interchangeable profile that seems constructed for mass-appeal and what they think the average woman wants to hear. Allegedly "looking for something serious/real", but has nothing to say about what that entails.
Listing their height followed by: "because apparently that's important".
Partying pictures, drunk pictures, smoking pictures, or their entire personality is "I love beer/420/eating garbage"
Nothing but gym pictures or sports pictures.
"I'm laid-back/easy-going/don't take anything too seriously/positive vibes only/here for a good time, not for a long time"
References to being non-judgmental, optimistic, or a people person.
Any reference to their sexual prowess.
Country flag emoji spam and bragging about number of countries they've been to.
Bio is nothing but rants about the low quality of people on the app. I often agree with what is said in these, but ranting about it isn't going to make those people go away and I'd rather the limited space was used on relevant information.
"Spirituality". Writing out their entire astrology charts. Even if they're just telling theirs because women keep asking, I wouldn't want anyone who'd entertain people who took that seriously.
Pictures with children. Saying they don't have kids "yet". "Family oriented".
Political or ideological references I don't agree with, or people stating their views and values are somehow irrelevant and everyone else is "too political".
Profiles written more like resumes applying to be the victim of the next gold digger.
Repeating basic stats that have dedicated fields.
"Sorry I'm 36, not 26. Made a mistake, can't change it!" lol sure.

TheGnosticCouncil · 2022-01-09T18:20:50+00:00

I would argue that the degree one is senseless. A degree does not define someone’s intelligence. If anything a degree proves you successfully completed and conformed to someone’s curriculum. Not to mention the amount of snobbery that colleges produce.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-01-09T16:34:37+00:00

r/whereareallthegoodmen

That sub has a million reasons why I would swipe left

CimZim · 2022-01-09T16:30:28+00:00

The things I used to swipe left on were anything hunting/fishing related, posing in lots of exotic or expensive looking locations, standing next to expensive cars, any references to drugs, more than one sports related picture. Also anyone with kids in their pictures.

januaryphilosopher · 2022-01-09T17:19:28+00:00

Smoking, drugs, being heterosexual, listing relationship preferences as anything other than monogamy, looking like they're dating a man in their profile pictures, having NSFW references or risque pictures on their profile, having children, not being within a couple of years of my age, political views in their bio, empty bios, astrology/paganism/witchcraft, listing things they didn't want.

(As a bit of explanation, I used an app for a bit just to look for women. I'm a bi woman.)

Mosagun · 2022-01-10T05:39:29+00:00

If the first picture is just a dog, a landscape, a meme, or some other photo that does not contain him. If I see that I assume he’s just on here for entertainment or he’s ugly and he knows it.

If his bio is a thinly veiled complaint about women on the app. If it’s something along the lines of “actually hold a conversation with me” or “message first so I don’t have to” he sounds negative and whiny. Those are valid frustrations but putting them front and center comes off as bitter.

If his profile is pretty much all overtly sexual. If his bio is only a single quip about being a daddy, he uses mostly or entirely shirtless photos, and things of that nature, I can telling matching with him is not a good use of my time.

cowfishAreReal · 2022-01-09T14:59:51+00:00

I don't use dating apps but some irl things that would make me not want to date someone, and that could be demonstrated by pictures are: drinking, smoking, being conservative, being more than 3 years away from my age in any direction, having kids...

And I totally agree with OP on not dating people who post shirtless gym pics, dead animal pics, or pictures with your boat/car/plane. Dog pictures on the other hand are always welcome

louplop · 2022-01-09T15:26:10+00:00

"i am a feminist", "I am sapiosexual", height requirement (not that arbitrary since I am short but I would do the same if I were tall, I don't like women who show off only one type of man), "impress me", long list of requierments.

I am off Tinder/OLD for 8 months so there might be stupid trends I would swipe left on!

EDIT. On a side note : I don't understand your"not sure yet". Every time I am on a dating website I am open to multitude of things. It depends the person I meet

AreOut · 2022-01-09T17:03:43+00:00

I don't have a dating profile but dang I guess we would make great friends solely because we are so insanely incompatible :)

CandleLess · 2022-01-09T18:08:20+00:00

Any girl with astrology or her IG in the bio is a swipe left.

pinkakatsuki · 2022-01-09T20:23:53+00:00

My friend let me swipe for her on tinder because ive never had one and was curious. I swiped left on men because I found them unattractive, so about 90-95% of time.

OmegaBaby · 2022-01-09T22:34:26+00:00

“pics with big cats”

Uh…excuse me while I take down the pictures of me with my Maine Coon.

ObviouslyAnAltAct · 2022-01-12T17:59:14+00:00

Although I met my current partner before the mass proliferation of swiping apps, an instant swipe left would be a woman with lip or mouth piercings of any kind. If she likes that kind of thing all the more power to her. No judgment from me. But I find them viscerally repulsive and couldn't be with a woman who had them. Shallow? Yeah probably, but I find those sorts of oral piercings so disgusting. It is just a "me thing" I guess.

Forsaken_Software394 · 2022-01-09T15:22:09+00:00

-Nothing in bio (what’s the point?)

-Shirtless pics

-Photos holding fish (I understand it’s a competitive hobby for many but the only people that care about fishing is other men)

-Every photo is him at his buddies wedding (this could honestly be good or bad because I know a lot of men that rarely take photos)

-More than one dog picture…..we know what you’re doing sir lol

-Cops 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

-Let’s see where it goes/here for a good time not a long time (please save time and hire an escort)

-“I’m {insert height} since it matters”

-Quotes from friends or the office …..because yeah

-Negativity disguised as sarcasm

-”Looking for a woman that can take a joke” (he is the joke)

-Listing specific qualities he wants in a woman like height, weight, age (why not save the effort and get a mail order bride?)

-Photos containing guns

-”not my kid” (why would you use photos of someone else kid for your dating profile?)

openthecannedpeaches · 2022-01-09T15:57:14+00:00

shirtless gym pics

Sorry, but that shit works. It worked for me when i was a gym rat in my early 20's. But i don't know, females are not very sophisticated at that age, so there's that.

AquaChip · 2022-01-09T15:14:12+00:00

Automobile pics are fine if they’re not show offy
fish pics are fine because I also like fishing.
big cats are big no.
too many pics with alcohol also a no
shirtless gym pic. No.
group pics are fine as long as you also have solo pics.
one doggo pic is fine. More than one doggo pic and we know you’re using him to get pussy instead of using your own physical and mental attributes. This also goes for pics of you with babies.
talking about spiritually. No. I’ve found that people who make spiritually the forefront of their personally are narcissistic manipulators. Some of the worst people I’ve ever met.
no effort in profile=no attention.
“not sure yet” on relationship goals is stupid. Be definite about what you want. Nobody likes indecisiveness or worse lying about not being sure just to get laid.
no degree. Is fine as long as you have a career and marketable skills. No degree but you own a moderately successful mom and pop. Yes. No degree and you work at McDonald’s. No.
not vaccinated. Not getting a date.

WilliamWyattD · 2022-01-09T14:50:37+00:00

These are not really entirely arbitrary things. Guys need to look at things through the eyes of women sometimes.

A woman is swamped with messages and options on OLD/Tinder/Bumble. And she doesn't want to spend forever thinking deeply about each profile. So she is gonna need some quick and dirty heuristics to trim things down. They won't be perfect.

Orange_Paisley · 2022-01-09T15:26:37+00:00

“Good Christian Man looking for Godly Woman.” I got a lot of those in my short time of OLD.

DeadArtistsCantPaint · 2022-01-09T15:59:55+00:00

Teachers, lawyers, bankers, government employees, corporate wagies. Get a job.

CosmicBioHazard · 2022-01-10T00:09:43+00:00

Pronouns in the bio

“BLM”

“If you can’t handle me at my worst…”

Single mother

“Here for a good time not a long time”

“Done playing games”

my-spotless-mind · 2022-01-10T02:38:25+00:00

•Likes Marvel (that’s ok but in your bio?) •Says something about them being good a head •Overly revealing •Has kids

Swans-r-cunts · 2022-01-10T10:28:42+00:00

Literally anything negative. You have a couple of sentences to write in your profile and you choose to talk about what you don't like? Nah.

Anything about being a nerd or liking gaming and anime.

Not smiling.

social_mule · 2022-01-11T02:25:19+00:00

Transvestites

ObviouslyAnAltAct · 2022-01-12T17:32:45+00:00

What's wrong with having more than one photo of your dog? That's crazy that it would be a red flag to me. Like what?

LiaraLynx · 2022-01-09T15:59:06+00:00

I’ve never been on a dating site but if I was I would swipe left on men with tattoos, piercings, fat, disabled, dark skin, curly hair, dirty background.

Liberal_On_Guns · 2022-01-09T17:23:47+00:00

I think it's pretty funny when women attempt to seize control of their loneliness by creating arbitrary red flags to rule out literally every guy so they don't have to cope with rejection and future abandonment.

It's a red flag if you like fishing, working out, boats and dogs. lmao.

Notsonewguy7 · 2022-01-09T18:03:14+00:00

Anything crystals.

Any Religiousness (especially Christian).

Green/Purple hair or Fake Blonde.

Drinking alcohol.

Weirdly sexual photos.

Cats & dogs talked about like children.

TakeTheVaccine · 2022-01-09T20:18:36+00:00

If a woman rejects me based of a fucking minor detail in a photo then I think I dodged a bullet myself.

cuckspace · 2022-01-09T21:02:49+00:00

Fish and gym selfie pics has been a common pet peeve of women for years. Everybody who is not deaf or dumb knows about that. But you don’t hear often how bad women’s profiles usually are.

No bio is the rule for women rather than the exception, so I wouldn’t put that in instant left swipe category. Just wanted to put that out there, especially for those who judge men for the same.

Too much alcohol in pics or listed as a hobby
Any filters
Weird piercings in the face, esp. those horrible septum rings
Large tattoos. I don’t like any tattoos but smaller ones can be forgiven
Vaccination status
Political announcements, esp. of the woke or feminist kind
Pronouns
Exotic locations in all photos
Luxurious lifestyle / high maintenance indicators
No full body pics
No face pics
Inspirational quotes / sad lady reassurances in picture form
Group pics where she is the least attractive. You wouldn’t believe how common this is

daddysgotanew · 2022-01-09T23:05:32+00:00

“My kids are my world”

“I’m a boss bitch”

Any professionally taken pictures with her around expensive equipment (yachts, planes)

Any mention of wanting to be “spoiled”

Link to onlyfans

Excessive tattoos

Professionally taken ass pics. She’s a ho looking for a Chad way out of her league.

Not that I get many matches but these are automatic no’s

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-01-09T15:50:06+00:00

nothing in the bio
not having full body pics
" I'm not here to play games"
anything implying she's a feminist
pronouns in her bio
" my kid and I are a package deal" , I see the package what's the deal?
having a list of things that you don't want, that just tells me you're looking for reasons to say no
"if you can't handle" I discussed this in the daily chat yesterday if a woman says something like that in regards to her personality, that means you're in for some major annoyance and diminished peace

JoanGreenCat · 2022-01-09T15:33:39+00:00

Picture of whatever that isn't the pic of the person.

Every picture with their pet.

Only group pictures.

Lying about age.

Some copy paste cringe stuff as a bio.

Interests: Foodie, beer, netflix

purplish_possum · 2022-01-09T17:52:50+00:00

"looking for a generous gentleman"
No education, no career, lots of tattoos but "I know my worth"
loves to laugh, travel, and eat (like who doesn't)
Over 30 and still using Snapchat-type filters (dog ears on an adult -- really?)

anonymousUser1SHIFT · 2022-01-09T17:53:22+00:00

Ahahahah, no degree. What is this a job interview?

manfrom-nantucket · 2022-01-09T18:59:50+00:00

Single mother
Obese
Filters
Hyper-political
Astrology/crystals

PopularBug5 · 2022-01-10T09:22:03+00:00

Any bitching about being hurt or breaking up in the bio.

Alpha widows are dime a dozen, but admitting that part just makes it very easy for me to spot them and then swipe left at them.

There is no winning with Alpha Widows. They are the flakiest, most fickle women they are out there.

Retro-Ranger · 2022-01-09T17:55:26+00:00

Let me guess, you're the kind of person that gives one word responses and "idk"s when asked about hobbies if you do match with that 6'2 Armenian hedge fund manager that popped up while you pinching one off between your shifts on the cam site.

"Arbitrary" to you is just a laundry list of "shit I don't know or care to to understand because it's outside my comfort zone and I don't want to put forth the effort to change"

Modern women (and most modern men) are failures in every respect, and we deserve to go extinct. Stop swiping. Delete the app. Meet people. Jesus christ.

Feisty-Saturn · 2022-01-09T16:19:01+00:00

I would swipe left on no degree and also if the guy is in a dead end job like something minimum wage with no room for growth.

A guy under 5’8 I would swipe left on. Swipe left on anyone not Christian. Swipe left on being out of shape.

To each their own but kind of crazy to me how people have these long list of reasons not to like people.

kyjolski · 2022-01-09T16:47:38+00:00

Religious, fat, snarky bio, kids, pseudo-artist, pseudo-intellectual, dog/horse obsessed, no bio, no pics, negative/jaded bio, thinks sarcasm/Netflix/sleeping are hobbies, 'I don't know why I'm here', 'I'm looking for a husband', anti-vaxx, intentionally oversexualized photos, IG/snap advertisement in bio, astrology, Kardashian wannabe types (fake lips, fake hair, fake lashes, fake nails, fake XYZ etc).

Sadly, this disqualifies 70% women on OLD, but I consider that a bullet dodged - IME OLD is a lot like reddit. You know exactly what I mean.

DarkSp3ctre · 2022-01-09T16:49:30+00:00

The only one that confuses me is the cat one. What’s wrong with big cats? But I digress.

For me it’s

alcohol in every picture (I don’t care if you drink but if it’s your only idea of fun then I’m out)

-every picture is a group pic.

-conservative politics

-I tend to swipe left on the cookie cutter Kylie Jenner type of look

TrueStorms · 2022-01-09T23:27:06+00:00

It’s been a while but motorcycles, “sapiosexual,” group pics with other women, atheist

Smitten_Squire · 2022-01-10T02:57:27+00:00

If she has rainbow or crazy colored hair, just like in nature animals and bugs do that as a warning sign that theh are toxic. Lmao

"Ethically non monogamous" whatever the fuck that means. And she has pics of her chubby boyfriend.

If shes obese, shows a lack of self control and no self respect.

If shes a radical lefty type.

If shes a super alt righty where her entire persona is about guns, confederate flags, lifted trucks, drinking with the guys.

Puts zero effort in herself.

Every pic is with the same group of girls and i have no idea if shes the ugly one or the good looking one. Lol

All insta left swipes

Harambe-2036 · 2022-01-10T05:19:25+00:00

Dog owners that lean heavily into the “dog mom” aesthetic.

Mittelfingerhoch2-6 · 2022-01-09T15:50:20+00:00

A shame. We'll never meet.

So contact me only if you have less 25% bodyfat, min B cup 5'10 min and HWR better 0,62 .... and you are commitment orientated, rich and not prenup orientated....

I think i qualify

I have no old profile at all :):)

But stop !

I had covid already so i am not vaccinated..... ......???

Does this disqualify me now?

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Tusnella · 2022-01-09T16:29:14+00:00

Do you mean a picture of just the boat/plane/bike or any pic containing them? If the second whats wrong with a pic with soneone on a bike or in a boat/plane?

TakeTheVaccine · 2022-01-09T20:13:01+00:00

We don’t have to abide by your standards ma’am we have other women on the app. Thank you for the information.

wtknight · 2022-01-09T23:14:46+00:00

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Vicky-3 · 2022-01-09T23:37:51+00:00

Single moms Super SJW stuff Fat Arrogance

Decent_Foundation_62 · 2022-01-10T08:18:08+00:00

Tinder and Bumble penalize you if you swipe right or left on to many people, and it's all a crap shoot anyway, so I like to do a left swipe then right swipe pattern while doing something else. Sometimes two right one left, sometimes two left, one right, sometimes right right, left left. Gotta keep the algorithm guessing, also never look at the screen.

May the online dating gods smile upon you

Soon-to-be-Catlady · 2022-01-10T12:51:56+00:00

Many things, but here's one my friends made a lot of fun of: When they didn't crop their pictures. If you are that useless handling a phone, no thank you.

orangerose18 · 2022-01-11T07:27:55+00:00

I was only on tinder while in college, so these may be college specific

no evidence of being currently enrolled/graduated in/from college (usually a "[school] 'year" would suffice)
vaping, squinty, in the passenger seat of a car, camera below your chin
excessive alcohol use, drug use
emaciated body / unhealthy facial features such as ashen skin or sunken eyes
heavily filtered / black and white shirtless pics in a dirty bathroom mirror – a tasteful shirtless pic in normal color taken by someone other than himself would be attractive
sullen facial expressions. aren't you happy sometimes?
obesity
unkempt facial hair – i get my brows done, you can shave your chin too buddy
"let's go with the flow" wear flowers in your hair if you're into that "no life plans" lifestyle, I'm out here to get a boyfriend then get married then have kids before I'm too old to sir
humanities majors – I'm out here making 150k/year after graduation. Do I have to help you make rent so we're not in a long distance relationship, or are you going to pull your weight and we gonna put a down payment on a sweet crib for our future family?
white/black/Middle Eastern (only east and south asians got right swipes, I'm an east asian woman)
visibly short (can usually tell from clothing proportions / other people's heights if group photos)

Luckily nothing bad ever happened to me on these apps, just a colossal waste of my time. Sticking to my boundaries and listening to my gut always turned a "polite, good guy" into a raving, whiny bitch boy before I got in too deep with them.

To men who are inevitably going to complain that I'm unreasonable. My pussy is not an NGO. I'm not a charity. I'm a cute Asian girl who's a virgin, highly educated, and a loyal friend and lover. Why shouldn't I ask for a premium?

hhhhhhikkmvjjhj · 2022-01-09T16:18:37+00:00

Women with dogs or horses. My mom raised me to be someone’s pet and being with a woman who wants someone obedient is creepy. I do like cats though.

I would also add obesity and children to the list. I want my own kids and I have no relationship experience so it’s too much to start with. I’m almost 40 so being newb I recon the first couple of relationships will fail. I don’t want to be used for money.

Mark_Freed · 2022-01-09T15:42:28+00:00

It's never arbitrary, there is always a hidden reason.

For me I don't know why exactly but seeing a girl wearing dog filters irks me. I hate all filters but somehow the dog filter holds a special place.

I swipe left on girls who put pics of the duck face, pouting.

rivetcitymayor · 2022-01-09T15:58:24+00:00

What’s so bad about gym pics ?

Title	What are some arbitrary things that make you immediately swipe left?
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