I know some of us genuinely enjoy debating and treat it as an intellectual exercise etc, and some people have one toe dipped into it for mild amusement every now and again. But without doubt there’s a lot of frustrated men on here and a lot of them are arguing as if we can find solutions to the “problem” and maybe change things on a social or cultural level.

Ive got two points that need to be hammered home to these guys in the middle, not the very unattractive guys who accepted they’re probably going to die alone, not the guys who are successful or who have a good shot at fulfilling their sexual and romantic imperative.

No, the frustrated guys in the middle who are struggling hard but still hold onto the idea that maybe one day it’ll happen.

It won’t. And the likely hood of it happening is getting less as the years pass, due to your age and all the factors contributing to the “problem” only getting magnified without any sign of stopping.

The problem is simple, most women are not attracted to most men. And if you’re the type of guy I’m addressing in this post, then the vast majority of women see no value in you for relationships or sex. You need to internalise this and comprehend it and accept it.

You then need to do your mental health a favour. Disengage from the debate. Its pointless and achieving nothing. You need to either really lean into acceptance of being alone, and find fulfilment elsewhere, or really put effort into improving and making yourself as attractive as possible.

My CMV is men on here are spinning their wheels moaning about the problem. You need to fully comprehend that a lonely future is ahead of you unless you improve or learn to cope with that lonely future, otherwise its just going to be sadness and frustration for the rest of your life.