What are some good plausible deniability ideas (excuses) to bring a girl home?

Both_Assumption1275 · 2022-07-29T01:30:31+00:00

See your pet, watch a movie, eat a food, drink a drink. Pretty much anything you can bring your homeboy over for.

mhastings_ · 2022-07-29T05:55:40+00:00

I have a card game that’s like deep philosophical conversation cards. Many girls have came to my apartment to play the game. I have never played the game in my life.

Nocturnalist · 2022-07-29T01:32:46+00:00

Make your home as unique/exceptional as possible. Have some interesting shit to do that no one else has. However, you shouldn't need any plausible deniability, here are the main options:

a) Let the vibe/sexual attraction lead you home together naturally
b) Legitimately be interested in sharing a unique experience that you/your home provides
c) Be direct about your intent (advanced)

If she accuses you of just trying to get her home to fuck, there's a good chance she's flirting with you. All you need is a witty response to deflect it.

premedchunsa · 2022-07-29T02:37:09+00:00

Wanna come check out my new sofa? It always works.

lildudefromXdastreet · 2022-07-29T03:37:05+00:00

I have a balcony so I mention I have a sick view and they always know what’s up

DontTakePeopleSrsly · 2022-07-29T12:57:03+00:00

The reason is irrelevant, if she wants to have sex with you she will put herself into a situation to facilitate that desire.

“I just needed to go pee, then we had a drink & one thing led to another”.

“I wanted to see his cute puppy, then we started kissing & one thing led to another”

If a woman wants to fuck you she will find a way to fuck you.

Off2damoon · 2022-07-29T04:21:39+00:00

Alot of comments here saying just be upfront with intentions.. This does sometimes work but more often than not, it's shit advice and your "plausible deniability" title is more in line with the vibe of how things will go.

It is unfortunately true that some if not many women play this innocence game where they want to do the same thing as you but it's the thing with the name of which shall not be named.. It's the little secret we don't want to spoil out loud.

For reference - I just met up with a girl a few days ago that I went on one date with. She was at a bar and wanted to hang out after like date number 2. Well, I didn't even have my condo available because I had family staying over. She was from another city and staying at a friends apartment for her short stay. We both didn't have a place to go but I still banged her that night in a hotel room. Yes that's right.. There are ZERO subtleties or plausible deniabilities about what's going to happen when I book a hotel room.

So.. Do you need an excuse? Kind of.. She's either coming back with you or she's not. In other words, she's either down to bang or she's not and more than likely you will not be "cleverly bait and switching her".. She knows what's going to happen if she agrees.

However, just because she's open to it doesn't mean you don't need to be smooth and calibrated about the transition.

To smoothly transition you need three things: Seeding, logistics, and of course pre-established sexual chemistry.

With sexual chemistry in place, making out, light groping, dirty/ flirty/ sexual banter, about 75% of the work is accomplished. You no longer will need to wonder if she's DTF.. She basically has shown she wants your shaft throughout the date. Trying to pull back to your place without the sexual chemistry pre-established is borderline useless (although it can be done).

In addition, you should be seeding by organically bringing up topics in conversation throughout the date that can be expound upon back at your place. Examples are cool things such as a collection of something, art, musical instrument you play, foods/ drinks/ etc. If you have it at your house, talk about it in an interesting light during the date and then later mention how to want to show her said thing in an upbeat excited playful tone. "Ohh you gotta let me play my fingerstyle rendition of the Mario theme song for you!", "you gotta come try out the smoothie recipe I invented", "I have to show you my German Polka Album collection". Doesn't matter! You could even use the house itself as a seed if you own it and you did work to the place "just redid the kitchen you gotta come see it!". Just make sure you vibe on the topic and then you have a transition. Also notice that you should not "ask" her, rather make it an excited statement "you gotta, you have to, you should..".

Logistics need to be established to gauge her availability to come over. Make sure your date spot is close to your place or at the least make sure she can hop in your car to drive over. Driving in separate cars is not a great idea as this kills sexual tension but if she's showing enough chemistry it might be fine. Also ask about her plans/ schedule for tomorrow as you want to ensure there's no schedule hindrances.

If you've successfully built the sexual chemistry, screened her logistics, and excited/ motivated her with your seeded topic, you should have the green light to continue your date-adventure back at your place. From there, spend about 5-15 minutes acting cool and normal showing her your seeded topic and pouring you both a drink. Then, just mention how you can't resist those lips any longer, make-out, lick her ears and put her hand on your dick (assuming you're erect.. If you're not erect do not do this!). You should be able to figure out the rest from here.

Hope this helps!

P.S. - it may also be worth exploring the option of simply going to her place. There is an inherent sense of comfort and convenience for the girl when she pulls you back to her spot that can't be overstated. Seeding may be a bit more challenging and there is this perceived sense of "lost value" because she's hosting but ultimately I think those are trival excuses and it's still worth pursuing. In fact, as of recently I have set most of my dates up with logistics favored towards her spot and have had good success this way. The downside risk is that her spot isn't available (assuming everything else is in order from the items mentioned above) and you've now inconvenienced yourself. The art of closing is truly a game of chess!

mrbrown1980 · 2022-07-29T10:20:21+00:00

Before “Netflix and chill” became a thing I’d ask if she wants to come over and take a nap.

lefthandedaf · 2022-07-29T01:33:14+00:00

“Do want to come back to my place and fold my laundry?” Someone else here had this idea, but I love it.

ProbablyAutisticMe · 2022-07-29T02:30:10+00:00

Anything. She knows why you're really asking. Plausible deniability? They aren't stupid, most of them, anyway. If you are able to glean something about their interests and have something to share about it, that might help. Like if you both have Chihuahuas or like Pokemon, a common interest you can share, you might have a better chance, but they still know what you really want

mattyhopey1992 · 2022-07-29T09:47:32+00:00

One that has always worked well for me does so because it is a genuine passion.. I love music and my sound system is my pride and joy, planting the seed that they'll hear their favourite songs like never before is a beautifully subtle way of getting a cute girl back to your place dancing around having a good time.

Edit: my atrocious spelling.

Powdered_Toast_Man3 · 2022-07-29T03:15:04+00:00

What works for me a lot of the time is I just say towards the end of the date that I have to get home and do x. Work, a chore, whatever. I say, you're welcome to come back with me but I have to leave. It shows youre just indifferent to whether they come back or not with you. And the fact you don't give a fuck is attractive

Deanwinchesterr67 · 2022-07-29T07:50:00+00:00

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froze_gold · 2022-07-29T11:00:59+00:00

Idk honestly all the girls I've brought home must've been easy or really liked me because my offering of deniabilities have been stupid i.e "I got a new fridge come check it out"

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-07-29T01:44:42+00:00

If you pay her outcall price she will defo come back to yours, no excuses needed

SkatingOnThinIce · 2022-07-29T08:56:09+00:00

What happened to the good old "cup of coffee"? 🤣🤣

Seriously though, you should set up a date situation where, if you ask her to come home with you, the internet is clear.

Consent is #1 guys. If you are not clear on consent, don't proceed.

SigmundFreud · 2022-07-29T09:02:06+00:00

Tell her your apartment is filled with bees.

321gumby · 2022-07-29T09:58:26+00:00

If she likes you it can be pretty much anything...

that_italianoguy · 2022-07-29T05:48:39+00:00

All you have to do is beat her to the punch " nothings gnna happen"

BrummieAMN19 · 2022-07-29T03:13:34+00:00

"Drinks are expensive here, let's grab a drink or two at my place and then come back I only live a few minutes away" this is for the first half of the night mainly as an alternative you can use a compliance ladder for the second half of the night and on a date

If there's a food place nearby use that as an excuse, buy some food near your place and take her back so you can "talk".

If you're a uni student you can use halls and accommodation as an excuse by saying you wanna see a quick tour and acting as if you've never seen the place before.

Always be prepared for objections however and be able to handle them when going for the trigger.

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-29T06:37:55+00:00

Going to my place is closer. Going to my place is private. Going to my place is relaxing.

She is conscious of her decisions and mutually involved; wants to come over.

SaintMurray · 2022-07-29T21:34:45+00:00

There was a period where I would just say "I need to charge my phone, let's drop by my place"

great_account · 2022-07-29T03:10:45+00:00

"Hey you wanna come home with me?" You don't have to pretend. She already knows what's up.

WarWinRepeat · 2022-07-29T22:21:55+00:00

I keep a pretty expensive tequila on hand that most women have never tried (Clase azule), and invite them over to try it. I’m passionate about this anyway because it’s a realllllly smooth tequila. I love it

EDIT: So I suppose my idea would be, to keep a couple different exotic liqueurs on hand, find out what they like (whiskey, vodka, tequila, etc) and invite them to try one they’ve never had that you think they would love

EDIT 2: I also have a shot glass collection that leads to a shit ton of stories to talk about. Shot glasses from many places I’ve been or related to particular experiences I’ve had

EDIT 3: I’m going to give you one of my biggest secrets here. Mortal Kombat or Mario Kart. Seriously. I like to flirt by saying something like “You look like you’re great at sex but terrible at Mario Kart”. They either defend themselves saying they’re great at Mario Kart. Or they’re awful. Either way, I’m either their coach or challenger. And then I turn Mario kart into a fun drinking game, and start playing “Strip Mario Kart”, literally didn’t work only once or twice.

EDIT 4: I know a guy who used to just find out something random she likes, like butterflies or something. He would then talk about how he had a butterfly collection at home or some nonsense. When they got to his place he would jokingly admit there was obviously no butterfly collection, and sincerely explain how he just really wanted to bring her home. At this point she will laugh and you will immediately find out if you are on the same page. You’re welcome. EDIT 5: This is the perfect moment to deliver that kiss.

neversleeps212 · 2022-07-29T05:42:41+00:00

So I’m a huge cocktail nerd and actually have a pretty impressive home bar and can make a lot of craft cocktails, so if the date is going well I’ll suggest a venue shift from the cocktail bar to my home bar under the auspices of making a cocktail customized to her spirit and flavor preferences. And most of the time that ends with not only cocktails at my place but my cock getting some tail too.

Dizzy-Job-2322 · 2022-07-29T03:17:38+00:00

OMG man, what are you going to do to them when you get through the door? You shouldn't need an excuse. This sub is about seduction not dungeon.

ouwesnoepert69 · 2022-07-29T06:16:56+00:00

I live in the street with all the clubs in my city, so I just say 'Oh your house is so far away, luckily my house is right there' works pretty good.

Comfortable-Rule-854 · 2022-07-29T12:14:13+00:00

"Let me show you my puppies" or "I have an impressive stamp collection"

Jokes aside, sometimes jokes are the way to go.

You shouldn't have to have to sell your place or going there. The intent has to be there before, you just "need an excuse" which makes the whole thing less binding and direct.

LordPoopyIV · 2022-07-29T13:16:33+00:00

Stamp collection

ImAGhostOooooooo · 2022-07-29T15:15:45+00:00

Tell her you think there's a monster in your closet and need someone to keep watching while you sleep 😜

Jay-Ames · 2022-07-29T15:45:59+00:00

Just make up any excuse. Girls kind of like that silly excuse thing. It makes it playful. And she already know what's up.

beveragegod · 2022-07-29T16:48:10+00:00

"So I got this kickass new flatscreen... ...wanna see?"

earsurgery9 · 2022-07-29T18:50:29+00:00

you don't really need one.

If you are her type and she is attracted to you, she wants to bang.

Just be like 'lets go back to my place for abit for a drink' etc

Red_Cat69 · 2022-07-29T20:20:45+00:00

You got many answers.

But you can as well just say "wanna come over 5 minutes".

Say it smoothly and if the date went well and she feels comfortable with you, chances are high she'll want to join you

Charge36 · 2022-07-29T21:03:38+00:00

bottle of wine. listen to music. watch a video. If the girl wants to be alone with you you could say almost anything here

learnbyrepetition · 2022-07-29T04:37:00+00:00

“I have a Lightning McQueen twin bed”

RSNK10 · 2022-07-29T05:04:25+00:00

I can’t believe I’m sharing this, but ask her if she likes candles

FlatDistance5 · 2022-07-29T04:41:32+00:00

If first date and depending on age Mario cart, my favorite anime/show, my fish tank, my dog………. Anything except, come over so we can duck.

If second date, let’s have wine at my place, let’s watch a movie together, Dinner at my place…….. Anything except, come over and duck

coming2grips · 2022-07-29T06:15:59+00:00

Dude, creepy AF vibe

__snipes__ · 2022-07-29T04:49:19+00:00

Wanna go listen to slipknot?

Logan777778 · 2022-07-29T04:49:32+00:00

Not that is exactly the same because it was on a cruise so a tad easier but I've literally just told a girl about my pet luckily it was a puppy. So ofc she wanted to see a picture but my phone died so i told her lets go charge my phone and ill show you.
Never even got a chance to plug the phone in

wenjtap · 2022-07-29T13:32:45+00:00

Don’t do any of that. Be direct, and honest if there is sexual chemistry. If there isn’t then try to make some. Of it doesn’t spark then say goodnight and go home alone.

Jaunty_Re-Bijou · 2022-07-29T15:25:54+00:00

IRL example that worked on me - my current boyfriend (then date) got locked out of his car so I offered to drive him home. That worked out well for him (and me!).

Additional detail: he parked in a garage that closed while we were out at Karaoke… it wasn’t obvious the parking garage closed after a certain time and I did actually walk around it w/ him to help him get in. He didn’t ask me for a ride and was going to Uber but I offered/insisted. I was not planning to go to his place that night and normally would not until I’d known him better and had at least 5 dates plus a background check and googling, etc.

2SIX5 · 2022-07-29T09:03:06+00:00

This sounds like some dennis reynolds shit, you know, because of the implication, Hahahaha

tlthang · 2022-07-29T03:21:38+00:00

Watch Netflix and fuck

ftdrain · 2022-07-29T04:10:08+00:00

Im always straight forward: come home so you can bounce the chocha on my sausage works

ikeepon · 2022-07-29T04:32:02+00:00

No plausible deniability. Your intention should match your action. That being said, invite her over confident she wants to and will come over, otherwise don’t. Or wait until she suggests it.

2Lazy2beLazy · 2022-07-29T12:51:15+00:00

What's up with plausible deniability. That sounds creepy AF. Assuming we're talking about pick up from a bar or party, why not offer up food, or an activity. I'm heading home and going to cook up a post party meal, and watch some Netflix, then pass out on the couch. Would you like to join me? While not very epic, and works only some of the time, its not concocting some false scenario.

These-Calligrapher · 2022-07-29T02:28:15+00:00

One. You’re a cling man. Just begins her men, brocembrsd you’re being,fuck, be you, sill be appreciate for man. Problem solved. She wants you do to be small

eieuxezyk · 2022-07-29T05:05:39+00:00

I would be indirect and subtle and easygoing. I wouldn’t say, “want to come over tonight and…” but instead, “you are welcome to come over to my home anytime for a casual get together. Maybe we can make some popcorn, or order a pizza and watch a movie.”

AxP3 · 2022-07-29T10:28:20+00:00

I personally have no patience for plausible deniability. I usually just take them in my car after the date and drive straight to my apartment while talking a bunch of shit and they just comply. If they say something, I might tell them not to worry, I'm just a sex trafficker or some BS that comes to mind. If the vibe is cool, they just laugh and go along with it.

If I use an 'excuse,' I might tell her I'll take her to my apartment to watch a movie, but I absolutely don't have sex on the first date, so she better not interrupt our movie watching experience making advances. Sharing a bottle of wine also works. Tell her you're a man of God and God will be watching if she tries to take advantage of you in your drunken state.

Sex will be in the minds of both of you in the first date, so there's no harm mentioning it jokingly. As long as you're unapologetic and humorous about it, it never backfires.

You really can't go wrong if you let nothing break your cool. I once took a girl to my apartment on a first date. She says she won't be having sex on the first date. After some flirting, touching and kissing, I take her up my arms to take her to the bedroom, and she starts yelling. I put her down, apologize, and tell her to sit on one corner of my sofa. I sit on the other corner and whip my dick out. I tell her I'm just leaving it there to show her how excited she makes me, but wouldn't move an inch closer to her from that point on and it'd be entirely on her hands. I start talking about completely unrelated shit with my dick out the entire time. We're laughing. Not 10 minutes later, she comes to me and starts teasing me. A few more minutes and it's in her mouth. A few more minutes and I'm deepthroating her in the bedroom.

You don't need plausible deniability. In case shit goes astray, you just tell her she's absolutely gorgeous and she got you too excited. It's her fault really, not yours for having a dick. You're just a victim of her beauty.

Choice-Artist7427 · 2022-07-29T05:45:16+00:00

Too many pussys on here , I always thought men hinted on dates or nights out their intentions. many a time I’ve had get me in to your bed asap , want fuck you right now , you’d better dry bum me later !! All this dancing around the elephant is bizarre 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

Keithlct · 2022-07-29T02:30:25+00:00

I have a cool stuff to show you at my place.. My 🍌

heyyou11 · 2022-07-29T10:33:30+00:00

It can be anything that was a topic of conversation before (pets, apartment view, cooking skills to show off, artwork, new AV/electronics thing, a game, etc).

The centuries old is “Would you care to come up and see my etchings?”

But what works best is escalate before taking her home. If you’re far enough up the ladder, it can just be as fingersnap as “my place?”

SeanBatemanJr · 2022-07-29T15:25:21+00:00

First of all, it’s always preferable to start a date at your house. Second, in my opinion the whole «innocent pretext» to get back to your house is a little childish and in my opinion reason like drinking a bottle of whiskey, which is a little more direct, is preferable.

hartfordclub · 2022-07-29T15:48:59+00:00

Basically anything will work if there's some chemistry.

The line, if you want to call it that, is so the girl doesn't feel like she's a ho going to get wrecked...instead she's going to check out your new kitchen, Pokémon collection, etc.

quinntuplets · 2022-07-29T15:51:57+00:00

Also on the flip side, if you want to get back to her place - walk or drive her home and say you need to use the bathroom

willgo-waggins · 2022-07-29T19:50:34+00:00

Why would you need to make an excuse?

Nominay · 2022-07-30T00:03:46+00:00

Netflix or Video Games

RobbyRock75 · 2022-07-30T00:30:21+00:00

Don’t make it an excuse, make it an intention😉

Title	What are some good plausible deniability ideas (excuses) to bring a girl home?
Author	Deanwinchesterr67
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Date	July 29, 2022 12:47 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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