The Manosphere is a consequence of the current climate, NOT its cause. Men are lonely, depressed, hopeless, neglected, and attacked. This causes a void that anything can fill so long as it makes them feel better. The blue pill, and women generally, response has to been bash men even harder and continue to talk down to men about their problems. This quite literally emboldens Manosphere. It validates what Manosphere says women and BP do, because women & BP keep doing the same things hoping something changes. If you do not like Manosphere and men’s conscious choice to continue to follow it you must offer an alternative that isn’t: “I choose bear/ men, do better/ male loneliness is self inflicted/ women have it harder/ you’re a misogynist/it’s your own fault” any variation of blaming men, not acknowledging the real hardships and men face, and deflecting about how hard life is for women will only dig this hole deeper- assuming you really care about it.

If the Manosphere scares you and you want men to separate themselves from it you will need to do better than the same old routine of telling men to shut up and sit down. The tired old advice has stopped working for one reason or another, otherwise we would not be here. Men have a problem and they have chosen their solution. If you do not like it, offer an alternative that doesn’t start with “men need to…” it’s time to step up and tell us what you need to do as women and BP to fix the problem that doesn’t water down to lecturing men. If you’ve got a problem with how men handle their problem, you need to do better than that. If you see men engaging with manosphere as a problem for all of us you should put forth some ideas on how everyone can work to solve it.

So, women and BP, what is your solution to the Manosphere? Do we double down on what hasn’t worked or try to appeal to men for the first time?