Problem is that Chad doesn’t need anything from women below his SMV besides easy sex. He has friends by virtue of being Chad (most Chads get easy social circles because having a hot guy in a friend circle is so valuable). He can pay his bills (easier to get job as a Chad, my HS Chad friend did Abercrombie on the side), and he can get validation chasing Stacy’s and models. The one valuation thing that average girls offer Chad is easy drama-free sex on demand.

So if you’re an average woman and you match with a Chad, you have to acknowledge that exclusivity and courtship are remote possibilities. Maybe he decides he’s gonna ditch his other options for you, but you’re playing roulette.

Women on OLD seem to think they can manifest courtship and exclusivity from Chad. “Mean what you say,” “no hookups,” “dating intentionally,” “life partner”. Chad reads this, matches with you, invites you over, and gets his nut, but he has no obligation to keep the relationship going. Only way to prevent getting pumped-and-dumped is to withhold sex, but then you won’t get Chad. Lots of betabuxx goobers will wait 7 dates to have sex with you, 6’5” blue eyes finance Chad just won’t, there’s plenty more where you came from (apps).

Just sad to see girls getting frustrated over this fact, if you’re getting pumped and dumped and Chad won’t commit, it’s because he knows he can do better. Guys tend to wifey the most attractive woman they can get (or in that zip code).

On the flipside, if you’re a guy and girls won’t have sex with you unless you go on 5 dates and pay, you’re an oofy-doofy. Chad fucked her in the bar toilet or she went straight to his place. Or maybe you’re in a religious subculture in which case disregard.

Better to accept this and move up the SMV ladder with self-improvement, than to write “no hookups” and “seeking life partner” on your OLD app. If you show up to Chad’s house and drop panties, he knows everything he needs to know, your desire for a relationship is a non-factor.