Female hypergamy is a lie. The reality of the "80/20 rule" is that 80% of women are quite literally equal in value to the top 20% of men. This is why we are seeing so many single high value women, and single low value men.

Edit: fun fact! This post has been crossposted to r/ againsthatesubreddits for "promoting hatred and prejudice against men". Remember ladies, reddit thinks it is hateful for women to know their worth and to refuse to date men who do not meet their standards (so, basically most men). Refusing to tolerate abuse and low effort from men is LiTeRaL VioLenCe, MiSaNdRy, and makes us an iNceL sUb 😂😂😂

Anyways, thanks for the laughs male lurkers, now back to the actual post:

The manosphere likes to point to studies such as these as "evidence" that women are hypergamous.

The definition of hypergamy is forming sexual attraction only to those with higher status, better looks, and just overall higher value than themselves.

According to the manosphere, the reason why average men such as themselves struggle to attract women is because "80% of women only go for the top 20% of men" instead of going for their "looksmatch" (meaning someone of equivalent physical attractiveness), which they claim unfairly sidelines average men.

This belief relies on the assumption that both men and women have a similar distribution of attractiveness and overall value.

This assumption is false.

The reality is actually much simpler: only the top 10-20% of men are equivalent in value to 80% of women.

Let that sink in: The average woman is quite literally just more attractive than the average man.

As a bisexual woman, I'd say approximately 40% of women in my area meet my standards of attractiveness and personal character, whereas maybe less than 1% of men meet those same standards.

The average woman I know (at least in my social circle) has a face and body that is pleasing to look at, puts effort into her appearance, a warm and inviting personality, good emotional intelligence, at least some education and a job, a clean and well-decorated home, basic life skills such as cooking and time management, a wide variety of interests and hobbies, and a compassionate, loving, and high empathy nature.

In contrast, the average man nowadays is quite literally the opposite of what I just described. Dad bod but no children, ugly face, puts zero effort into their appearance, contrarian and offputting personality, poor emotional intelligence, no education and minimum wage job (or no job at all), lives in moms basement or with roommates, filthy living space with zero attempt at interior decoration, struggles with basic life skills, their main hobbies are porn and video games, and a nature that is domineering, hateful, misogynistic, and lacking in empathy.

When held to the same standard, it is so obvious that there are far more high quality women than high quality men. The reality is that it is men who are hypergamous. The male sex is the one most likely to pursue a partner with superior value.

By acknowledging this reality, so many aspects of dating culture just start to make sense:

Why are men so desperate to be with women whereas women are just kinda "meh" about men? Because women have more to offer men than vice versa. Men benefit from relationships more than women.

Why are men more obsessed with sex than women? Because women are AMAZING and having sex with women is AMAZING. Whereas men are "meh" and having sex with men is "meh"

Why are women so much more picky than men? They only go for the top tiny percent of men, but men seem happy with just about any woman? It is natural for women to expect to be with someone of equivalent value as themselves, and it just so happens that only the top tiny percent of men have equivalent value as most women. In contrast, men are happy with "just about any woman" because even "average" looking women are still quite pretty, whereas "average" men are not.

Why should men pay for dates? To show his date that he is high value, and therefore capable of adding value to her life. Women have so much more apparent value than men that it is practically a self evident fact that women don't need to go into the first date trying to prove their worth. Whereas men have a much worse proven track record and therefore must put more effort into courtship to prove themselves.

Why are women these days so wary and untrusting of men? Because we know. A woman is more likely to improve a man's life, whereas a man is more likely to ruin a woman's life. Women give men joy and pleasure, whereas men give women trauma and pain. So, women need to be careful.

What are the implications of this?

First of all: Ladies, know your worth. Don't ever let anyone make you feel ashamed about having high standards. Don't EVER let a man convince you to lower your standards for him. You are an amazing human being just the way you are, and you deserve to be with another amazing human being!

Second, this means that there are going to be a lot of lifelong single high value women, and lifelong single low value men (provided that women stick to their standards and refuse to date down).

This is already a growing trend in recent decades. Intelligent and accomplished women are realizing that most men have little to offer them, and that it is better to stay single than to settle for a LVM. Meanwhile, there's an army of incels, redpillers, and MGTOW dudes who are forever alone because they are too low value.

This is a reality that is difficult for many people to accept. Humans are social creatures after all, and it is completely normal to crave companionship and intimacy.

Unfortunately, our society's romanticized idea of men is largely a fantasy. The men you see in romance novels and hollywood movies do not exist in real life. Most men IRL just want to dominate and use women, and are willing to deceive us and pretend to be HVM as a means to that end.

Sure, there are a small number of genuine HVM, but revolving your life around finding a HVM is like making a budgetary/financial plan that is dependent on winning the lottery. You can have a wonderfully happy life without winning the lottery, and you can live a wonderfully happy life without a HVM.

You may never find a HVM, and that's okay, your life will still be complete without a man.

Lastly, I just want to acknowledge that this whole post is probably really hard for most men to wrap their head around. Their misogyny tells them that women have no inherent value, so the notion that most women are actually above them just does not compute. In general, it is really hard when someone holds up a mirror and you don't like what you see. I expect that most men reading this are just gonna end up doubling down on their misogynistic worldview, because it is easier to believe comforting lies and blame everyone else but themselves, rather than admit that they are flawed and commit to self improvement. Oh well 🤷‍♀️