What should a single man do to fulfill his sexual needs if a relationship is not possible at the moment?

wtknight · 2020-12-22T19:13:06+00:00

[removed]

thedeadpill · 2020-12-22T18:37:46+00:00

Sex - even casual sex - is part of dating, IMO. If you don't have time to date, you basically only have time for a sex worker or porn.

Atlas__B__Shruggin · 2020-12-22T19:01:11+00:00

literally why prostitution has always existed

midwesternMD · 2020-12-22T19:32:29+00:00

Jerk off. It’s worked for centuries.

If you don’t have time to date, you sure as shit don’t have time to swipe, have conversations, and deal with ghosting. Jerk off. If you have the means and find your hand inadequate, go find an escort.

If your life isn’t stable, fix that first. And jerk off in the meantime.

If he can’t find a LTR, welcome to dating as an adult. It’s a shitshow out there. Oh, and jerk off.

Honestly, purely sexual needs are easily met with masturbation. If it’s the intimacy you crave, there’s no way to do that without putting in the time and effort into forming a relationship of some sort. Casual sex doesn’t fill that need. Certainly none of my hookups have.

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2020-12-22T18:10:49+00:00

Have you tried a warm cantaloupe in the microwave? Or a lukewarm raw turkey? Oh là là.

GridReXX · 2020-12-22T20:14:00+00:00

Escorts.

Masturbate.

Get attractive enough to attract women for casual sex.

Mayhem977 · 2020-12-22T20:15:24+00:00

Masturbation, porn, sex dolls, or hookers. That are your only options.

Genetic_Prisoner · 2020-12-22T18:59:19+00:00

[deleted]

ex_red_black_piller · 2020-12-22T18:31:42+00:00

Use porn.

A bit silly to think you don't have time for a relationship but you have the time to scour the bars and internet in hopes of a one night stand.

Mimoxs · 2020-12-22T19:08:17+00:00

Why do rp men make men out to be these wild animalistic cavemen that are so barbaric that they can't just... Go without?

Didn't you spend your middle/high school years masturbating?

It's not a need for men or women or anyone.

spacechicken1990 · 2020-12-22T18:27:38+00:00

No idea. Me?

If he’s someone like me then consistent fwb or wanking.

ex_red_black_piller · 2020-12-22T20:50:55+00:00

[deleted]

East-Panda9284 · 2020-12-22T18:30:02+00:00

[deleted]

simeneta · 2020-12-22T18:20:45+00:00

The bar for casual sex is not high. I have a friend who's a 5'4" skinny Indian guy that regularly has casual sex. It works for him because he's exciting--traveled the world, very extroverted, funny, etc.

Too many men here think it's their looks when it's really their boring introverted personalities.

Selene378 · 2020-12-22T18:11:31+00:00

Sex is not a need, I suggest he get over himself?

East-Panda9284 · 2020-12-22T22:30:31+00:00

Get a fuck buddy and masturbate.

MaggieAndTheMossies · 2020-12-22T22:38:33+00:00

Wank, it's free and you can do it in your own home

beyond_relevant · 2020-12-22T23:54:45+00:00

Your name is stupid and it tells me that you dont understand reality and how cause and effect works.

Reality determines the mind, not the other way around.

You are asking on how to fulfill the sexual and emotional intimacy in the same way as if you had a girlfriend... while not having a girlfriend.

Look, if you dont eat, you end up hungry. This isnt up to interpretation being hungry or not is an objective state of reality.

In the same way if you dont get sex you end up a ....... fill in the blank.

Let us also assume that he is ok looking but far from a Chad, and is not hateful /incel or anything, just a normal guy.

Also stop being a tool.

East-Panda9284 · 2020-12-23T00:07:50+00:00

A sex worker is your best bet, but don't expect her to be excited about fucking you.

Like anything in this world, anything worth doing never came easy and vice versa. If you want to have sex with women that you share a mutual attraction, it's going to take some work on your end.

There are no two ways about it.

SaBahRub · 2020-12-22T18:05:04+00:00

Porn/sex workers

These are multi-trillion dollar industries. Why do men pretend that they have no options when entire economies are devoted to their sexual desires?

Or, of course, casual sex

RandomUsernameSkrrrt · 2020-12-22T18:22:57+00:00

Marry me.

Jk. He should masturbate, and while he does that (not necessarily simultaneously, unless he wants to) he should work on himself until he can find a suitable LTR to have 50 children with and build his empire.

Cimorene86 · 2020-12-22T18:50:03+00:00

Depending on where he lives and whether it's legal or not, hiring a sex worker might be an option.

But watching porn and masturbating is much easier, cheaper, and something I am very much in favor of for everybody. Then again, I make part of my living selling these toys/masturbation aids, so could be a bit biased lol. Seriously though, masturbation is how I didn't go completely bonkers from hormones during my teenage years and early 20s.

East-Panda9284 · 2020-12-22T19:07:30+00:00

Well, a few of these answers say porn. None say no porn. So I guess I'll say it.

Probably not video porn! Definitely not overdoing it on porn. Less is definitely best.

https://neurosciencenews.com/neuroscience-pornography-brain-15354/

Wank to imagination when you need to. Same thing I did. I survived. For most guys, I get the feeling that's not going to be all that often. If it's not hurting your body, and it's not impacting your ability to keep your friends and family and hobbies, you're probably fine.

If you're never wanking, and you're instead dumpster diving for casual sex, well that's kinda nasty. You do you, like one commenter says, but I don't have to like it. I'm not particularly fond of men who have a lot of casual sex.

Why not, you ask? Well, relationships ARE usually possible for men who are college aged or older. A man who finds fulfillment in relationships will most likely have relationships a lot more than he will have casual sex. If you're able to just get out and have casual sex, I don't see why you wouldn't be able to also get a relationship. It takes time for a man to find new casual sex partners.

I spent the first 20 years of my life without any sex. Then, after I found my husband, we even did some time long distance. I don't think this is a very hard question to answer. It's easy enough. However, my husband maybe didn't view it the same way.

flamingoinghome · 2020-12-22T19:36:17+00:00

The bar for looks in "casual sex" is not that high--assuming, by "casual sex", you are willing to look at things other than swipe apps.

Our brave hero has a few choices. The one I'd most recommend is a FWB. Someone he's legitimately on friendly terms with, but they're not suitable for something long-term together (different goals, one of you is moving in a few months, etc.). Be as upfront as possible about the situation. Note: this does not work for men who do not have a social circle with women in it. Other note: if the lady in question is non-monogamous, so much the better. And remember, women are MUCH more open to offers of casual sex from friends than from strangers.

Option 2: occasional trips to your local dive bar to see if you can "pick up chicks" for ONS. Sounds depressing, but some men seem to like it.

Option 3: Go where the sex is. Kink events, swingers, hotwife couples, etc.

Option 4: buy a small sex toy and deal with it.

2020-12-22T18:53:21+00:00

Prostitution. Simple as that. Or move to a country where prostitution is part of the culture, and there aren't sex negative feminists.

deathbecomesme123456 · 2020-12-22T18:22:28+00:00

Get male friends to set you up with a woman. What did men do for centuries before now?

NotGoingoutofMW · 2020-12-22T19:28:49+00:00

Just lead her on if your urge is so big why care, if your life situation is unstable then you won't see her. If it's not that big then don't waste time chasing pussy.

AutoModerator · 2020-12-22T17:51:20+00:00

Attention!

You can post off topic/jokes/puns as a comment to this Automoderator message.
For "CMV" and "Question for X" Threads: Parent comments that aren't from the target group will be removed, along with their child replies.
If you want to agree with OP instead of challenging their view or if the question is not targeted at you, post it as an answer to this comment.
OP you can choose your own flair according to these guidelines., just press Flair under your post!

Thanks for your cooperation and enjoy the discussion!

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

_mwk · 2020-12-22T19:37:02+00:00

the reasons matter here. is he too ugly to get any woman ? then his best bet is to pay for it. is he too ugly for a woman to fuck him with no strings attached right when he winks at her? then he has to make casual sex a second job. is he too beta/ugly/shy whatever for casual sex but can get a low quality relationship ? then he should get a short term relationship with whoever is willing to be with him.

is he above all of this in his head ? then he should pay for it/find release in something else.

is his life so unstable to get any of this ? he should focus on getting that in order first.

crookedsummer2019 · 2020-12-22T20:27:15+00:00

Casual sex arrangements with no strings attached. He can find that on any dating website. There are women who are fine with this.

He can also pay for it. No shortage of that if he can afford it.

Reisiluu · 2020-12-23T00:37:53+00:00

Same answer. Masturbate, use toys and focus on raising your value and finding the right people.

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-12-23T03:54:43+00:00

Channel allhis sexual energy into developing muscles

BrownEyedGringa · 2020-12-23T05:27:16+00:00

you were inspired by my post :)

To answer your question, besides the obvious self-improvement stuff, I'd say you do have the option of lowering your standards to fuck someone casually. not sure how low you can go though, since I'm not you. What's interesting is that some women can become more attracted to a man when he's indifferent towards them (not saying they're quality women), so there is that edge you have if you're looking for something strictly casual.

Or hire an escort, which is probably easier.

wildpsychoanalyst · 2020-12-23T06:25:46+00:00

A lot of women aren't into Chads.

I think, in order to find casual sex, one should like casual sex. It's an art and investment on its own. It involves being open about it, okey that it's not for everyone (aka not taking rejection personally), open-minded in general while knowing own borders, interested in mutual pleasure, practicing consent and safer sex... Otherwise it's ranging from abuse/being abused to a lazy masturbation with another human body. In my personal opinion, one is better off in ones own hands then. And I'd say it to anyone, of any gender.

CowboyBebald · 2020-12-23T22:28:28+00:00

masturbate probably or wait until the dating market crashes

EffectiveBlackCat · 2020-12-24T15:13:58+00:00

Landwhales

short-cosmonaut · 2020-12-25T19:14:29+00:00

Abstinence and sublimation.

Emberily123 · 2021-01-15T19:33:32+00:00

Get drunk, buy a hooker, watch porn, masturbate or eat avocado

lilastr · 2021-02-11T13:39:41+00:00

Sorry but your entire post and comment section screams “hateful or/and incel”

So that ^ might be your problem.

neetykeeno · 2020-12-22T19:26:27+00:00

Well if you don't have time for the possibly lengthy process of reaching an understanding with someone that you mutually meet each other's needs...you are left with two options...buy it or do without it. Or I guess you could find the time.

You get 24 hours in a day just like everyone else.

Title	What should a single man do to fulfill his sexual needs if a relationship is not possible at the moment?
Author	ex_red_black_piller
Upvotes	10
Comments	291
Date	December 22, 2020 5:51 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/kia95x/what_should_a_single_man_do_to_fulfill_his_sexual/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/PurplePillDebate/what-should-a-single-man-do-to-fulfill-his-sexual.730618 https://theredarchive.com/post/730618

Comments