Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

pickmieshaexorcist · 2022-03-15T15:22:13+00:00

I heard so many of these stories in the military. One guy was talking up his buddy who was hanging out with us in the group, like “Jones here, he’s a great guy but has terrible luck with women, wish he could find a good woman, etc”. Stuff like that. And this buddy was sheepishly agreeing, yeah it’s so hard out there. Woe is Jonesy.

So I was curious and talked to him more and it turned out he had a “crazy” (of course 🙄) ex that he was still sleeping with on and off. According to him, she was a stripper with a drug problem who keyed his car and had a bad temper. I told him, first of all, you’re not single if you’re constantly going back to your ex so why should a “good woman” waste her time on you? And he said he’d totally drop his ex for the right woman immediately! Yeah right. And I asked, if she’s so awful, why don’t you just be done then? And….he said she was smokin hot, the hottest girl he’d ever seen. I basically called him an idiot.

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2022-03-15T15:13:34+00:00

Oh look at that! It’s the consequences of my own actions!

Carneliancat · 2022-03-15T16:19:10+00:00

All this tells me is that these men could not be bothered to find the humanity in their pretty wives. They married their wives for her looks, while completely ignoring everything else that was there beneath the surface. Just because he treated her like all that she had to her was her looks does not make it so.

All this tells me is that they were so wrapped up in dick feelings, that is all they WANTED to feel. I'd like to know what these wives' experiences were like, and how they felt knowing that their husbands did not give one good goddamn to get to know them as full and complex individuals, with inner thought processes and full personhoods.

23eggz · 2022-03-15T15:39:53+00:00

"Her looks won't raise your children"

Hmmm sounds like a woman he marries for connection isn't getting a good deal either

Fiebre · 2022-03-15T15:33:00+00:00

"Find a connection other than looks" - it's you, dumbass.

polyjuicie · 2022-03-15T15:00:47+00:00

I resent the idea that these women who are beautiful are just incapable of a conversation, or are so brain dumb these men are now miserable. Just say you chose someone who was incompatible personality-wise, but you were the shallow jerk who ruined an innocent woman’s life. Don’t diminish her intelligence and character because you chose someone who you knew was not right for you. I don’t even feel vindicated for these men failing. I just feel crushed for these women who were led on thinking a man loved them, but he just took advantage of their beauty. Then, goes on to bash her personality instead of owning up to his own shitty behavior.

Edit: grammar, spelling

berrylikeova · 2022-03-15T23:16:37+00:00

“But no one ever compliments meeeeee “

barbedwiredaisycrown · 2022-03-15T16:23:48+00:00

So did any of these scrotes quit chasing looks after this? 🤔 Or is this basically them trying to further the hypothesis that every attractive woman is vapid and stupid?

millennialpink2000 · 2022-03-15T15:22:06+00:00

Does anyone else hear the world's tiniest violin? These fools don't deserve an ounce of sympathy for thinking with their dicks. Serves them right

MsWriteNow07 · 2022-03-16T01:45:47+00:00

Even when men tell their truth, they're still lying. Like the guy who said he can't have a conversation with his wife. I bet she's wanted to have lots of conversations-about the division of household chores, where the kids should go to school, or even what's happening in Ukraine. For many men, probably most, "conversation" is a euphemism for listening to him monologue, fake-laughing at all his lame jokes, and letting him teach you things you already know. It's crazy. It's just that Cool Girl mentality. I was re-reading GG the other day and I realized Nick literally says, "one of the things I liked best about Andy is that I could still teach her things." He prefers his 23-year-old mistress because she's a little girl in awe of him (or pretending to be) and not a grown woman demanding he step up and met her needs like his wife. It's no fluke Amy is older than Nick and Andy is so much younger. Men either idealize a woman like Nick did Amy, make her a goddess or they infantilize her like he did Andy. But either way the woman still isn't seen as just human.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-03-15T16:24:34+00:00

I STG these men are like:

"Hehe she make my PP hard...Grug like."

Anything else?? Hello?!

"Beauty fades but dumb is forever"

Right back at you pals, your wife is going to look good even as she ages and you're going to still be thinking with your junk.

Determinedblonde · 2022-03-15T16:10:17+00:00

The wife who became a pill head was probably unsupported.

No-Village-3946 · 2022-03-15T14:52:57+00:00

I don't either. The funny thing is they wouldn't know a decent human being if it hit them in the face anyway. It's rich when men pretend to be arbitrators of good character and decency. It's funny because the average woman is at least 100x more decent than the average man. It's funny when men pretend they don't select women based on what they think will get them fist bumps from other men. It's also funny when men pretend they care about women's personalities beyond what serves their own selfish interests. The only personality quality they value in a woman is subservience. Most likely, these women just weren't the doormats these men expected after marriage and so they resorted to misogynistic stereotypes that paint women as one-dimensional and that everything revolves around a woman's appearance. Besides, for every story about a men getting stabbed by his wife or whatever, there's a whole other side of the story that's mysteriously absent. I don't trust she went homicidal over nothing.

malibooyeah · 2022-03-15T18:26:41+00:00

Can you have negative sympathy? That's where I'm at.

poison_snacc · 2022-03-15T18:01:44+00:00

Uh, by the way, men who disclose being the victim of attempted “murder,” why don’t you ever include the part about it actually being self-defense?

GoldandGlowing · 2022-03-15T22:15:32+00:00

Not the man complaining about his shallow ex wife not being attracted to him and only marrying him for tall beautiful babies when he did the same damn thing 💀 Men don’t deserve women

melonsoda- · 2022-03-15T18:57:29+00:00

And if they don’t go for looks, they’ll just keep negging her and whining 24/7 about her appearance. They’ll most likely cheat too. It seems like women are doomed either way in marriage. No matter what we do, scrotes will find something to complain about

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2022-03-15T21:44:29+00:00

Men created a society and the standards for dating where they don’t look for a compatible partner and then screech that the divorce rate is high and mostly initiated by women.

The same men marry women with no career prospects who become a SAHP and then whine that they have to pay alimony and child support.

Oh look, the consequences of their own choices.

alpinepunch2021 · 2022-03-15T15:03:39+00:00

Ahh finally a warm and fuzzy FDS post

StrawberryMoon3 · 2022-03-15T16:16:57+00:00

In her new song Grimes says : "Young men's love doth lie never in their hearts, only in their eyes" It definitely applies to this. Men use women for their looks and can't look past that.

simplicityduplicity · 2022-03-15T20:15:05+00:00

Here’s my take: some of them (maybe more than some) wanted to “ruin” the hot girl by baby-trapping them. She gives you children, but her body ages and isn’t the same anymore. She gains weight that is hard to lose with little ones in the picture, and you won’t lift a single finger to help. She gets resentful, as she should, and she finally leaves you.

I’ve never been more thankful than now to be sterilized. Fuck these guys.

slayeroftruth · 2022-03-15T20:50:51+00:00

It looks like to me about half had people tell them to not marry for looks so they were told to try find other things to have relationship with. Very few people can't have conversation unless they have mental illness or is with someone very incompatible. Did he even try to take interest in something she liked? It seems to me these men did not take time to get know their wives and only wanted them as status symbol. Your average person can hold conversation about something. That's why you date so can get to know person. If they got to know the person to see if they have stuff in common and stopped wanting attractive wife as status symbol this would not have happened.

teatimebiitch · 2022-03-15T15:48:30+00:00

omg thanks for the award guys!!

DisastrousSundae · 2022-03-17T19:03:40+00:00

Do men even like women?

Title	Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Author	teatimebiitch
Upvotes	986
Comments	88
Date	March 15, 2022 2:37 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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