Looks are everything until it’s an inconvenience 🙄

Seraphinx · 2020-05-14T17:39:07+00:00

This is an excellent article on this matter, though is more related to the size/weight aspect of beauty than anything else. https://thenewinquiry.com/blog/youre-right-i-didnt-eat-that/

neatsqueefs · 2020-05-14T22:05:12+00:00

I'll always remember the AITA, where the boyfriend got mad at his girlfriend taking too much time getting ready and spending too much money on makeup, haircuts, etc... so she straight up stopped doing it... all of it. No makeup, no haircuts, no shaving, no dressing up, etc. He then asked her to go back to doing it, and she refused unless he wanted to pay for half of it. He thought he was in the right and she was being an asshole by not going back to her old routine.

persephones_torch · 2020-05-14T17:11:10+00:00

"Effortless beauty" has always been a lie propagated and strengthened by the "cool girl" persona.

StupidHappyPancakes · 2020-05-14T17:54:23+00:00

This is also the kind of man that harasses his wife about her weight who just had twins a month ago. "Babe, isn't it time you get back in the gym? Haven't you been laying around doing nothing long enough yet?"

ghostieonreddit · 2020-05-14T16:59:49+00:00

Where did this idea that attractiveness should be effortless come from? Men say they want a woman who takes care of herself and then act like this when she does.

gigababejfl · 2020-05-14T17:26:39+00:00

Where are the panels where she stops, gets fat and happy, and he seeks other men to tell him it's ok to cheat or "drop that bitch"

And since many these men don't cultivate personal relationships with other men, you can find them in various misogynists subreddits in between angry fapping sessions lubricated with their tears

Cause, effect.

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-05-14T22:13:51+00:00

If the effort you're putting into your health and appearance is for a man's benefit, you've already lost. Take care of your body and look good for yourself, queen. Treat yourself like the high value woman that you are. If he likes how you look, bonus! If not, who cares? You're not doing all that for him to praise or criticize. It's your body, your face, your hair, and your life. Take care of yourself because you're worth it.

seraphinelysion · 2020-05-14T18:11:26+00:00

Much like their mental and emotional state, men don't take care of themselves, and so they cannot fathom how or why women take care of themselves. They think it's all natural like how money grows on trees.

hotbird1212 · 2020-05-14T21:16:05+00:00

and they start getting mad about you looking good in any setting other than just for them. thinking you’re trying to attract other men and getting jealous of other men, thinking you’re cheating or something. so you want a beautiful woman but can’t handle the other eyes on her? fucking babies i tell ya

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-05-14T21:19:25+00:00

And then they try to police/nitpick at your clothes:

"you're going to wear that?? outside of the house???"

Then they'll hit you with "who are you trying to look good for??" when you wear your makeup and do your hair to go to work or to go shopping or to go out

Then they'll criticize the time you spend in nail or hair salons/spas. Or the money you spend at dentists, dermatologists, gynecologists, etc.

They chip away at your hotness and by the time they're done with you, you're no longer the super hot GF. Then all of a sudden, after they've moved to cut off all of the activities you used to do to spruce up, and you actually give in and give up all beauty routines to accommodate HIM, he'll hit you with "you've really let yourself go." Then all of a sudden, he's going to hit you with "I'm nOt AtTrAcTeD tO yOu aNyMoRe".

kittypoison · 2020-05-14T19:54:20+00:00

OMG the amount of men I've gone on dates with who like my body... but try to encourage me not to workout and diet. Like which is it????

faircreditscore · 2020-05-14T22:59:35+00:00

Getting into fashion and recently realized that I was worrying about having a future relationship and getting called materialistic or narcissistic for spending money on nails/lashes/clothes. Then I remembered there are actual men out there who admire that effort. It’s sad that my childhood and exes taught me to think that way. I am glad I am aware of this thinking though and that my life doesn’t have to be like that. There are good men out there, and if I am wrong in the end, then I would not be at any loss being alone. I am so happy right now, I just got my lashes done, I am wearing a flowery shirt today and I feel amazing and feminine! It’s not even for a guy, I do this for myself because I love how fashion and beauty make me feel and what energy it cultivates within me. I used to think I was so cool for dressing like a tomboy and that I was not like other girls, ironically I was doing that because I was raised to believe that being girly was selfish and toxic, it wasn’t me being my true self. No! I love being a woman and embracing my femininity! I used to hate being a woman, now I feel so lucky that I am one. I have finally found an energy I thrive in. I seriously am so happy at this point in my life that even a HVM seems like a bit of an inconvenience, I have way too many things going on that I genuinely enjoy (job, hobbies, friends, alone time) I wouldn’t want to give up any of that time for a guy.

Theory: The more you take care and show love and appreciation for yourself and your health, the harder it is to end up with a LVM. You won’t care because you are so strong and happy as it is that you could drop a man and live on like nothing even happened. Plus, the more you value yourself the more precious your time and energy is and you aren’t willing to waste ANY time on people and men who just drag you down.

hellau1234 · 2020-05-14T23:55:15+00:00

My mother always said: Beauty is 10% natural and 90% effort. 💁🏻‍♀️

Davina33 · 2020-05-14T19:08:13+00:00

Oh yes!

shakethat_milkshake · 2020-05-14T21:27:24+00:00

This was exactly my ex down to the cartoon guy's hair.

VivaLaSea · 2020-05-14T21:13:14+00:00

Why is this so accurate???

Lala00luna · 2020-05-15T01:11:21+00:00

“Why do you get so much attention from other men 😡” Cue Men destroying a woman’s confidence, financial independence and bodily autonomy.

uselesssdata · 2020-05-15T02:44:13+00:00

"You already know you look good, you dont need to hear it from me"

flvctvatnecmergitvr_ · 2020-05-14T22:13:16+00:00

Yeaaaaap.

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-05-14T21:58:34+00:00

I seen some of you ladies comments are you sure your not talking about abusive assholes? a lot of the comments sound like emotional abuse.

radical__daphne · 2020-05-14T23:09:36+00:00

This is the truth

Title	Looks are everything until it’s an inconvenience 🙄
Author	ghostieonreddit
Upvotes	2481
Comments	121
Date	May 14, 2020 4:53 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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