& that’s on porn addiction… SMH

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-03-30T05:00:28+00:00

I feel like it's either ~~I'm unhappy~~ degraded and violated or he's unhappy

ButterfliesHurricane · 2022-03-30T06:00:15+00:00

Domestic abuse is heartbreaking. I hope she finds the strength to leave and eventually finds a decent guy.

2022-03-30T11:50:37+00:00

He told me that when... we're doing the stuff he likes, he doesn't [watch porn] at all

Lies, lies, lies. It's a lie to train her to keep letting him abuse her.

4E4ME · 2022-03-30T04:57:51+00:00

He's literally making up new ways to degrade and humiliate her every day, but she doesn't want to kinkshame him.

Huh.

bookworm1896 · 2022-03-30T06:17:56+00:00

Why, why, why has it become the norm for women to just accept to get hurt and degraded during sex?! He needs to spit in her mouth to get off or to choke her? That's deeply disturbing! And why is it socially less acceptable to kinkshame than to insist that you don't want to get abused during sex?! It's so sick and I am glad that when I was in my teens and twens porn had not infiltrated sex life in that way. I am so scared for every young women, who gets coerced to accept stuff like that.

ImpatientMudcrab · 2022-03-30T07:18:22+00:00

"He never used to be this way" Words from almost every victim of domestic abuse. This woman has been manipulated and groomed for this. Our culture helped groom her for this. She has been bullied into thinking that kink shaming her husband is worse than being degraded, hit, and raped by her husband. I hope she's looking into escaping that nightmare.

PerspicaciousCat · 2022-03-30T05:59:38+00:00

“I feel like a kink shamer which I don’t want to be” 🤦🏻‍♀️

It’s so so sad how in every post like this women feel the need to say that. This is not a normal and healthy relationship and she shouldn’t have to explain herself.

millennialpink2000 · 2022-03-30T05:28:02+00:00

Let me guess: the comments are screeching to communicate and compromise?

mothertuna · 2022-03-30T12:37:45+00:00

In my less enlightened years, I did ask guys for choking. When I asked for that they looked at me like I had three heads and said no. That’s when I realized I was brainwashed to think wanting that kind of aggression was normal.

That type of sexual activity is based in degradation and the kind of way you’d treat someone you hate. There’s a reason why people pay to treat others like sex dolls. I hope that poster leaves. Her husband already seemed disgusting but mentioning bodily fluids makes my skin crawl.

rainbowhelix · 2022-03-30T07:09:19+00:00

I really feel for her and she's been so brainwashed. "No shame to anyone who likes that." NOPE! ALL the shame to them. Honestly, we need to bring back shame. The no kink shaming "movement" is ruining relationships and making life even MORE insanely difficult for women. Kink shame early and often!

Maingurl · 2022-03-30T13:19:26+00:00

I have no probably kink-shaming. In my opinion, more women should do it lol.

I hate that she's second-guessing herself. Good luck to her.

Coffeecatssunnydays · 2022-03-30T05:41:55+00:00

I know we don’t want brigading but at a certain point how do we let this go? She needs help

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2022-03-30T07:12:13+00:00

I always say "my kink is kink shaming" when they start frothing at me. OP, can you send this woman an FDS rescue?

windowseat4life · 2022-03-30T07:25:51+00:00

Omg I HATE this whole "don't kink shame" movement. It's just fuel to allow men to treat women poorly in bed & act out all of the porn shit they watch.

seekingcodingjedi · 2022-03-30T07:57:00+00:00

I know so many things pass in the name of 'kink'. But if u need to choke, piss, spit, humiliate anyone to get pleasure, then that just spells psychopath to me. People like this need to be in prison.

intergalacticanon44 · 2022-03-30T11:43:57+00:00

I feel like if your kink involves violence against another person you SHOULD be shamed.

anne-goldy · 2022-03-30T08:25:59+00:00

I can’t imagine touching someone somewhere where it makes them uncomfortable in bed, meanwhile men out there be full on abusive.

lostmillenia · 2022-03-30T13:49:21+00:00

I cannot believe they say/do these things and then society lets them roam free. No wonder things are so fucked up.

drowsypillowprincess · 2022-03-30T15:27:48+00:00

If you need to hurt a woman to get off, you’re a predator.

I’ll kink shame every single person who likes to receive or inflict pain on their partner during sex. It’s fucked up. Go get some therapy.

tzijo · 2022-03-30T08:09:22+00:00

This is sexual assault. Kink shame and divorce him

Bleep_bloop5678 · 2022-03-30T08:36:51+00:00

When you’re saying “our marriage shouldn’t be this way” and it’s that way. Divorce!

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-03-30T10:27:48+00:00

kinks and fetishes are not examples of a healthy sex life.

if you cannot get it up without kinks or fetishes, you do not have a healthy sex life.

they are paraphilias aka sickness.

the only kink I am endorsing is kinkshaming. vanilla sex is love! gentle sex where both partners respect each other's bodies and boundaries is healthy. sex that doesn't result in an STD, STI or a fatality is healthy. boring lovey-dovey sex is the way.

do I need to make a hypno session of this?

vanilla sex is the best sex

cue zombie intro ...

well, do I?

FantasticBlood0 · 2022-03-30T08:44:40+00:00

Girl I’ve got a solution for you: divorce! You are a person, an actual human being and you deserve way better then this. If you by any chance see this comment, please leave this piece of garbage. Porn addiction or not, he is a terrible person who doesn’t care about you in the slightest.

MamaGia · 2022-03-30T17:20:24+00:00

Why should there be no shame attached to wanting to choke, hur, gag, degrade your sex partner? That is shameful

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2022-03-30T08:55:55+00:00

everything he wants hurts me in some way.

That says everything we need to know sbout men's kinks. The kinks are just the excuse to make women suffer, which is what these porn-addicted pieces of shit really get off on.

jaqjaqz · 2022-03-30T10:26:02+00:00

But sir, would you dress up as a schoolgirl, slave and be a walking punching bag for me!? Be a living dildo and vibrator with no dignity!? It's my kink :'(

sleepysiri · 2022-03-30T17:50:58+00:00

This is so degrading. I don’t see how one can have a loving relationship that simultaneously involves violence and humiliation and power imbalance during the most intimate acts.

ifhewantedtohewould · 2022-03-30T11:14:11+00:00

“No shame to anyone who likes that” … if someone has a Catholic school girl kink, yes I will shame them.

Platipus6 · 2022-03-30T05:02:45+00:00

Stop marrying serial killers.

2022-03-30T18:32:58+00:00

Shame kinks. SHAME THEM. Gross and violent kinks are what a guy wants to do to you, sex or no. Serial killers got sexual gratification from their acts, too. It ain't just a kink.

idestroythingsfora- · 2022-03-30T10:04:34+00:00

Ugh women should get more comfortable "kink-shamkng", if a guy gets hard pissing his pants he deserves to get bullied for it

hakunnamatatamfs · 2022-03-30T17:44:40+00:00

Those are not kinks, that's abuse 😂😂

spinsterchachkies · 2022-03-30T08:16:31+00:00

Spitting in my mouth? The fuck???

dragon_wolf4 · 2022-03-30T10:38:30+00:00

Can someone DM this lady who desperately needs to be saved by FDS?

I'd recommend using a throwaway to DM her because sometimes even women are so brainwashed that they might turn on us when we try to rescue them.

JulyParade · 2022-03-30T15:56:06+00:00

He's just not that into you....

fuckbeingautobanned · 2022-03-31T05:15:44+00:00

"I feel like a kink-shamer" 😂

"AITA for not going on hormones so my bed partner can drink from my tits like the toddler he is?" /s

Am I... kinkshaming?

smart-tart23 · 2022-03-30T23:16:22+00:00

What the actual effff

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Title	& that’s on porn addiction… SMH
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Date	March 30, 2022 4:47 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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