Where's the lie?

_tinyimp · 2021-01-05T06:25:14+00:00

So true, never thought about comparing these two. I’m sure deep down sex-positive feminists know something is wrong with men watching degrading porn, but society has managed to cloud women’s intuition. Glad the fog is lifting, and I feel hopeful about the future with traffickinghub finally being held accountable

Borokque · 2021-01-05T07:53:59+00:00

Ikr I found it disturbing that some of the main comments on an AskReddit question that asked what was the weirdest times guys got hard was when their SO looked vulnerable ugh

khaleesiqwn · 2021-01-05T06:51:43+00:00

Having sex with NVM/LVM and participating in their misagonistic kinks, made me dislike sex. Seriously, I don't want to have sex, all thanks to scrotes

glad_sunflower · 2021-01-05T10:54:13+00:00

Ugh this is honestly so upsetting to realize. I was manipulated and groomed into thinking I was into bdsm and being abused by a 25 year old when I was 19. Just got out of the relationship after 2 shitty years. I feel sick thinking about all the ways that I degraded myself in that relationship. It's even more scary to remember him always pushing for sex when I was upset because me crying and feeling deeply vulnerable was apparently a turn on. oof 😣

VikingDotter · 2021-01-05T08:02:14+00:00

I feel like kink shaming became a thing to protect perversion. Literally nothing else. Soon there will be “don’t gamer shame me” if you ask someone to turn off their computer after 8 hours of gaming, “don’t unemployment shame me” when asked to apply for a single job this month, “don’t tax evade shame me”, bla bla bla. Why shouldn’t I shame someone who’s into disgusting and harmful shit?

Just say it like it is - please don’t call out my bullshit because I don’t want to be held accountable and it makes me feel shitty 🤷🏻‍♀️

Muffcakelord · 2021-01-05T08:16:56+00:00

Seems like the degradation of women really took off after LibFems started their “sex positivity” bullshit. Before men would degrade us and you found comfort in other women (not all, but your friends/family at least). But then women began to call each other “bitches” and “hoes”, mimicking men. Women began to say things like “did you fuck that guy last night?! Did you give him a blowjob?” mimicking men (once again), and women generally were encouraged to turn into a man’s sexual stereotype. So if women are brainwashed to talk about ourselves in degrading, detached terms, then it is easy to look at other women and be ok with them getting degraded. We have come full circle and internalized violent/rude/disrespectful/disgusting behavior. And the LibFems, instead of helping their fellow women, instead helped push it along 🤷🏻‍♀️

99power · 2021-01-05T06:28:09+00:00

“”Kink””

chainsawbobcat · 2021-01-05T10:03:05+00:00

3rd wave feminism has taught women to pay for half the meal AND have sex on the first date. In fact if you wanna be a real feminist, pay for the whole meal to show him how strong you are! Eventually have his kids and run back to work like a dog to cover your half of the bills, forever be his loyal roommate. Forget about the fact that you’re unpaid for carrying this child, birthing this child and eventually providing almost all of this child’s emotional needs. Women notice things men don’t, you’ll be doing most of the housework guaranteed unless he’s a house husband.

Half the shit the feminists spew in the 21st century would have real feminist rolling in their graves. The things they say align more with what Hugh Hefner was advocating for back in the 70s as he was objectifying women by photographing them as bunnies. Now these Gen Z kids are all “Release your nudes, liberate yourself before he can shackle you!!!” All you’re doing honey, is giving him and hisbuddies something to rub one off to for free.

No, men and women are not equal. I refuse to act in the role of a man. We’ll talk equality and split straight down the middle when men can go 50/50 on labor and birth.

MrAndMrsCremgroblin · 2021-01-05T14:49:52+00:00

My friend’s boyfriend got turned on by her bleeding... I tried to explain why this was nit okay and got blown off because “he backed off when I told him I didn’t like it!”

I told my older sister later expecting her to have the same “what the fuck” reaction as me but she didn’t thing it was a problem for the same reasons my friend didn’t.

_Amarantos · 2021-01-05T13:30:22+00:00

Thank God for this subreddit to make me feel less alone.

chasingastarl1ght · 2021-01-05T15:48:57+00:00

Yeah in retrospect, my limp dick ex getting a raging boner whenever I cried was definitely a red flag.

Diane9779 · 2021-01-05T14:55:58+00:00

Wait...what? There are people who think it’s normal and ok to enjoy seeing your partner distressed?

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-01-05T14:27:36+00:00

The lie is that our choices are forever or that they say anything about ourselves within societal constraints.

As women, it's damn if you do, damned if you don't.

Play by the rules, get burned, it's your fault. Play against the rules, get burned, it's your fault.

By playing against the rules I don't mean committing illegalities or moral crimes.

Either way you are f**ked if you subscribe to societal morale as it is now, and has been for millennia, patriarchal.

You are f**ked if you see yourself as they see you.

So see yourself through your eyes for a change.

EarthKveik · 2021-01-05T11:06:35+00:00

Seriously. If he has any interests in "kink", ditch him. He'll try to work it in to your sex life one way or another.

victoriaairotciv · 2021-01-05T17:17:45+00:00

adding on that first part- some men are actually nice to waitresses and other women but for some reason when it comes to their partner they treat them like shit

TheOGJammies · 2021-01-05T06:46:48+00:00

I mean where are the lies? Liberal feminists job is to help gaslight women into accepting left wing patriarchy.

ThisAintMyOnlyUN · 2021-01-05T16:24:23+00:00

I can’t stand all this astrology bullshit. If it were true, would mean people would have a better chance of trying plan out when they conceive their child to choose their sign. And then these types of people use their fucking signs as excuses to be shitty people. My nvw ex best friend always treated me like shit and she always used the excuse of “well I’m a Libra, it’s just how we are.”

BungalowBootieBitch · 2021-01-05T21:34:33+00:00

Omg omg so my sister was talking to this guy she met online. They started engaging in phone sex. There was a point where he started calling her ugly names and would say things like, "I'ma rpe that mouth of yours." Immediately she got confused and worried. She pretended to finish and hung up. She's 42 and has never met a man with a rpe fetish. I told her that he sounds like a man who has consumed a lot of violent porn and that it was right of her to block him. She has kids and doesn't want a man like that around them.

CrazyPaine · 2021-01-05T23:13:53+00:00

Whenever my ex and I would end an argument after I walked away upset, mad or angry. He would literally ask me if I wanted sex after the fact I have been hurt, upset or mad at him. Now that you mention it, I think he was turned on after I was in emotional or mental pain. He disregarded my emotions and feeling. He didn't care about that whatsoever.

Aina98 · 2021-01-05T11:49:46+00:00

I absolutely agree with the first post. The second one is kind of stupid though.

Title	Where's the lie?
Author	iamtoopretty
Upvotes	2247
Comments	105
Date	January 5, 2021 6:04 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/kqs34g/wheres_the_lie/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/wheres-the-lie.355115 https://theredarchive.com/post/355115

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