I'm not talking about looks, her "body count", her BMI, single motherhood, career, etc.

I'll use some quotes from bell hooks( The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love) that I found:

We construct a culture where male pain can have no voice, where male hurt cannot be named or healed. It is not just men who do not take their pain seriously. Most women do not want to deal with male pain if it interferes with the satisfaction of female desire.

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When I was in my twenties, I would go to couples therapy, and my partner of more than ten years would explain how I asked him to talk about his feelings and when he did, I would freak out. He was right. It was hard for me to face that I did not want to hear about his feelings when they were painful or negative, that I did not want my image of the strong man truly challenged by learning of his weaknesses and vulnerabilities.

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To heal, men must learn to feel again. They must learn to break the silence, to speak the pain. Often men, to speak the pain, first turn to the women in their lives and are refused a hearing. In many ways women have bought into the patriarchal masculine mystique. Asked to witness a male expressing feelings, to listen to those feelings and respond, they may simply turn away. There was a time when I would often ask the man in my life to tell me his feelings. And yet when he began to speak, I would either interrupt or silence him by crying, sending him the message that his feelings were too heavy for anyone to bear, so it was best if he kept them to himself.

This, dealing with male vulnerability thing, is just one of the things that women are usually shit at, but never get called out on. I just used this as an example. It's not just some "bad apples" that we're talking about. There's a good chance that most of the women around you are like this, if you're a bit unlucky, and most probably don't even know that they're doing it. Whatever thing that you don't like about how women behave in a relationship, lies upstream to these deficiencies in basic behavior.

It's so bad that a woman that's kinda cool is seen as something to celebrate. It's a bar that she should be able to roll over. It's crazy that some call these women "Pick Me's".

The main issue is that most men, red pilled, blue pilled and normies - all of them run defense for this behavior. RP claim that it's in her nature, BP claims that it's nurture and patriarchy, normies probably just mutter "b*tches be crazy" under their breath. The message is the same: She can't help acting this way. All stem from the patriarchal message that women lack the agency to control their emotions and reactions to outer stimuli.

Why aren't we calling them losers to their faces? That's what they are, and that's what they probably want to hear(after they calmed down at least), because most people probably want to be a better partner.

JK/ It's also important to be able to see her as a loser, because the inevitable temper tantrums won't have the same sting in them. Might even be a bit entertaining /JK