Don’t ever sweat the low body count.

OkAd7158 · 2021-10-16T15:49:15+00:00

I’m 31, my body count is 3. It’s okay to start late. I can’t stress this enough. I think there is this myth going around that if you don’t actively have numerous sexual encounters you are not attractive, valuable, or good in bed. So no worry’s guys, take your time and go for quality over quantity always.

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-10-16T17:25:20+00:00

I know dudes that are complete man whores and I wouldn't trade places with them for a second. The drama is just never ending. One man whore had a girlfriend he was living with. Several of his "side interests" got her number somehow and started texting and leaving voicemails telling regular GF she was a bitch, didn't deserve him, she should kill herself, was ugly, etc. You can imagine how that played out when he got home from work that day...

Several of his side girls had boyfriends too. They got his number and he started getting death threats and fight challenges. One BF even showed up at MMW's place while he was banging some dude's girlfriend. What could possibly go wrong there?

That and endless bullshit drama from women he really didn't like or care about in the first place. Or who really didn't give a shit about him. That seems a really steep price to pay for some sex.

Vegan_Otaku · 2021-10-16T14:50:47+00:00

If you have a low body count or high body count, be safe*

MasterTeacher123 · 2021-10-16T15:04:16+00:00

I know dudes who started late who became monsters compared to guys who lost their virginity in high school.

eazolan · 2021-10-16T17:30:47+00:00

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Night_787 · 2021-10-16T17:15:13+00:00

My body count didn't take off till my most recent ex, and its a very empty accomplishment. Before I only had 3. Now I have 15. And I don't feel "macho" or even fulfilled. Most those women I didn't even like. Just don't do it. It's not as glamorous as it would seem

reezy221 · 2021-10-16T16:13:41+00:00

It only takes one

FriendlyUckboy · 2021-10-16T15:45:03+00:00

People don't understand OP's message. It clearly says don't sweat low body count. That's it. Of course you could be bad person as virgin and great human as someone with high body count.

Whole message is here it doesn't matter! Don't let it influence how you view yourself or others. Judge people by their actions. Let's be good to each others, life is short. There is no second one.

BluePsychosisDude2 · 2021-10-16T17:55:54+00:00

I'm 29 and I'm at about 5, but I was with one girl (on and off) for 11 years. Sex in a monogamous relationship seems much better to me IMO, you both get what each other likes (ideally) and know what really turns the other person on, plus you're more comfortable with them, so you're more willing to communicate and try stuff.

truthbomb999 · 2021-10-16T19:06:36+00:00

I’m 57. I slept with exactly 7 women over a lifetime

That's the statistical average for men...congrats! You are average

A friend of mine who is 20 laughed at me

Sounds like your friend is kinda an immature jackass

He now has genital warts and genital herpes.

And is apparently an idiot and doesn't play safe.

It all works out.

This isn't always true either....

GhoulsDelight · 2021-10-16T15:11:00+00:00

I don’t think body count matters in seduction. Poor choices are what your buddy made. You can try it out but know the risks. What’s the risk to your physical and mental health? Is it worth the reward? I, personally, am a risky person. To each their own, good for you and yours. :)

quantumactual · 2021-10-16T20:39:06+00:00

I’m 21, somewhere around 12. It’s definitely not what it’s hyped up to be. I’m glad for my experiences, but I wish part of me didn’t do some of it to ‘fit in’ and appear to be ‘doing well’ amongst my peers. Women are great, but they can be very distracting for any young man trying to build his future. I’m learning these things through living.

Lost_Function_2590 · 2021-10-16T17:15:23+00:00

Im 18 and male and im a virgin alot of people ik have body counts over 30. And I dont stress it at all but sometimes I get sad

Radio_Unique · 2021-10-16T16:56:42+00:00

it’s boils down to contentment. if u have low body count and happy it’s great BUT in reality, girls and boys that didn’t enjoyed their youth then get married might probably cheat. So this is the concern. but if ur alright and contented it’s a win

byteseed · 2021-10-16T19:39:56+00:00

Yes it is true, quality over quantity. The goal of seduction is to be able to sleep with woman you want to sleep, and choose very carefully with who you are sleeping with. Seduction is about freedom,

you want monogamy? It is ok.

You want sleep with a lot of woman? It is ok as well.

As long as you can attract woman you like into your life, body count is irrelevant.

SnooDoughnuts4650 · 2021-10-16T19:29:15+00:00

Having a high or low body count doesn’t even matter tbh! Telling me you sleep around a lot thinking it’s something to be proud of kush shows the lack of emotional availability if you know what I mean

anoyingprophet · 2021-10-16T19:40:13+00:00

Bro the quality of partnerd.is way more important than quantity. Those ppl who have a lot, most of those are one night stands that lead to serious case of post nut clarity that make you regret.

andreecook · 2021-10-17T03:53:42+00:00

I’m 23 and my body counts 41. I’ve never had an std of any kind, I’ve done one night stands, casual, relationships. And I don’t feel I’ve ever felt like a slut or that my choices were dirty or disrespectful to myself. I enjoy having sex with hot girls and usually have fun with it. I don’t think I’m any better or worse than someone who’s body count is 5 or something.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-10-16T16:40:48+00:00

It’s not hard to have a high body count nowadays with OLD and the shift in societal viewpoints about casual sex and hooking up.

Keeping the interest of a beautiful, feminine, intelligent woman who has a good character traits is far more impressive, as an indicator of a man’s skill with women, more than a high body count.

Dating around does help you understand women better, how to look for behavioral patterns, and help build your core confidence, and I think guys should a experience a period like this at least once in their lives, but from experience I can say sleeping around gets old. It can be exhausting emotionally and in terms of dedicating your free time and resources to pursuing women. You start to feel empty and question your true motivations, and realize a lot of it is driven by ego and insecurity.

Ultimately, do what makes you happy.

catchingnails · 2021-10-17T04:34:20+00:00

I once dated a guy who said he was previously engaged and I was only the second woman he’d ever slept with after his ex-fiancé. That was kind of the hottest thing he could have possibly said to me. Clearly he’s had plenty of experience, but he was also the commitment type. I loved it.

Redis_Sara · 2021-10-16T17:26:44+00:00

I’m 18 and a virgin, I’ve had many opportunity’s but I’m waiting for the right one.

lewis2846 · 2021-10-16T18:43:35+00:00

I want my as low as possible 🤷‍♂️ currently at 2 at 25.. would hope to keep it way under 5 by the time iv married with kids atleast

tes_befil · 2021-10-16T18:14:02+00:00

Its all abstract anyway. You do you, but you have to understand yourself, and then it literally does not matter. Safe sex is important regardless of how many partners you have or will see.

MassiveRepeat6 · 2021-10-16T19:16:04+00:00

Low body matters when it's 0 in your lifetime.

norwegianmorningw00d · 2021-10-16T20:13:33+00:00

Damn your “friend” sounds like a future STD candidate

Edit: just read the second part lol

kbecel · 2021-10-16T20:38:12+00:00

I have no idea on what my body count is. Stopped counting at 3 or 4. High body count doesn't make you an expert at sex. I've hooked up with total sluts and they fuck terribly

topleveldating · 2021-10-16T21:20:34+00:00

Lay count only matters if you are a dating coach. Men, we've subconsciously made this a status thing because deep down we all know we'd sleep a lot of different women if we had the opportunity. We are hardwired to

iribi · 2021-10-16T22:06:43+00:00

Genuinely support OP’s mentality. I’m 24. My body count is 6. Had a tremendous crush on Number 4 but didn’t work out, he broke my heart. Slept with Number 5 & 6 just to forget and to feel something. The horrible and empty sex with Number 6 made me realize I don’t want to go down this route. Got myself a therapist and working through my shit. Lately I feel much happier just by myself. When I feel like shit, music or clothes or just dancing around, I’m able to shift my mood so much, learning to be comfortable being alone : )

2021-10-16T23:59:02+00:00

I know a guy who is constantly dating women off of dating apps. Like literally everytime I see him he Is with a new girl or telling me about his dates.

When he doesn't have a girl he gets so freaking depressed and nobody sees him for weeks. I honestly think there is something mentally wrong with people who sleep with a ton of people.

Keanuisawesome69 · 2021-10-16T18:35:49+00:00

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500Ovechkin · 2021-10-16T16:41:54+00:00

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ivanalesi · 2021-10-16T17:03:25+00:00

Wearing condoms & having high standards also helps 😜 You can have a new girl every night if you take the precautions. Also, the HPV vaccine!

thepangodango · 2021-10-16T18:31:06+00:00

I get numbers left and right. Following up and hooking up? Different story.

Keanuisawesome69 · 2021-10-16T19:51:21+00:00

Well you have to keep into account technology and how it has advanced from the time you were young and the time your friend who is currently young aka smartphones and tinder and such !

gillmanblacklagooner · 2021-10-16T20:18:28+00:00

Each one has a journey. There’s no right answer or funniest way... Let’s find what’s better, comfy and happier to our own lives. And use condoms.

leelbeach · 2021-10-16T21:43:55+00:00

God I really need this mindset. I feel so jealous, alone and frustrated with myself. I've only been with one woman and I'm 25 :/

TommyWilson43 · 2021-10-16T23:51:54+00:00

Just find what makes you happy and pursue it, fuck the haters

marcogreager · 2021-10-17T00:27:03+00:00

I’m at body count=2.

Turned down one girl on college. Too fast, sudden, uncomfortable.

Married my first. Divorced. Married the second. Happy, fulfilled. LUCKY.

Sometimes I would wonder. These posts make me grateful for what I have.

MentalCelOmega · 2021-10-17T03:03:21+00:00

Having a low body count isn't terrible if they are of high quality.

But having a body count of zero is soul crushing in itself.

katiuszka919 · 2021-10-16T22:17:24+00:00

Is it just me or is the term “body count” helllllla sketch and degrading? I’m more than a vagina, I’m a human…

InappropriateSnark · 2021-10-16T20:32:23+00:00

I wish people would stop referring to human beings as their “body count.”

cryeverydayhehe · 2021-10-16T18:46:33+00:00

I mean you can also get herpes and warts from sleeping with one person which I’ve heard of as well so…

xgozax · 2021-10-17T03:55:13+00:00

To each their own. Go for what you want and don’t shame others and don’t shame yourself if you haven’t reached a goal yet.

throwawayfffggj · 2021-11-14T06:43:46+00:00

Ive been the very same At times involuntarily Other times voluntarily monogamous because I dont want multiple people and I want something real or at least exclusive.

OilKnight · 2021-10-16T16:27:27+00:00

My body count is 0 and I’m 22 and I know that women will be turned off by that which sucks.

h2danny9 · 2021-10-16T21:21:17+00:00

My girlfriend wants to have sex with me I'm 23 she is 25 I've never had sex before and I dont know what to do

Sovereign1ne · 2021-10-16T23:06:48+00:00

Shit man, I thought my body count was low. I've smashed over thirty women. Compared to some guys I know that's nothing, but I guess I just hold myself to the high standards they've set.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-16T23:54:58+00:00

There's no right or wrong

If you want to be a one woman man all your life, cool.

If you want to sleep with 100+ girls a year, cool.

No need to push your agenda as the right way you should live your life.

InfernUs_1 · 2021-10-16T16:28:42+00:00

The hell is even a body count?

Unless the body is attached to the right person.....how in the hell does all this matter anyway?

500Ovechkin · 2021-10-17T00:34:26+00:00

Ok u/Pain_Tough

xhokolate · 2021-10-17T11:16:48+00:00

I’m a woman and i find men with low body count attractive. Men with high ones are to me very unattractive...

wondorous · 2021-10-16T17:12:46+00:00

I wanted to keep my body count at one, but when she needs to move on, what can ya do? But I hope to find the one and keep the body count at that number! Thanks for the encouragement!

Keanuisawesome69 · 2021-10-16T19:59:52+00:00

Wilt Chamberlain and Blue face have entered the chat lol 🤣

PlantainLow8715 · 2021-10-16T17:21:02+00:00

22 with 20 bodies. Never Fucked around caught sum crazy shit that can't be healed. Better be safe and take it 🦥 slow. I don't even like bragging about how many I banged. I like comparing who I've knocked down.

Tremaparagon · 2021-10-16T21:52:04+00:00

Well, I can't say anything against a guy or girl with a high count if they were safe about it and thus avoided the stds... good for them - But I do feel ya when it comes to the sentiment about there being nothing wrong with a low count.

Maybe I'm a bit not-conventionally attractive so don't do well on apps, but people IRL have said I'm handsome charming etc (just not a reality TV clone). So my 'count' might still fit on both hands, but certainly those relationships or FWBs each had their amount of longevity, adventure/exploration (sexual or otherwise), etc and thus a lot of fond memories of passion or laughter.

And getting inspired by this seddit stuff got me from being a hermit who couldn't say one word to a stranger to this point, so I still consider that appreciable progress so far; so not concerned about my count now or what it will be.

badman20129928 · 2021-10-16T22:07:30+00:00

7 Women. Stop !! You have to be lying

cunningcaring · 2021-10-16T22:28:33+00:00

Extrapolating from one to all? No logic here.

carissaxu · 2021-10-16T22:50:42+00:00

No body count. NEET.

Zach-carterz8989 · 2021-10-16T23:35:59+00:00

It gets to a point where it doesn't matter I stopped counting after 30. I'd rather just find someone I want to settle down with and get good with them. It's almost counterproductive to keep jumping from one to the next.

avrsn · 2021-10-17T00:31:54+00:00

Damn bro, ONLY 7?

wolfbee16 · 2021-10-17T00:32:11+00:00

I also tell people it’s really not all it’s cracked up to be. My bc is in the 60’s and mentally I’m at a point where I enjoy the flirting but get down on myself because I feel like girls never like me for me but just because I’m good looking… it’s hard to put into words and people think it’s bragging but it’s truly something that just makes me sad a lot

vLeskur · 2021-10-17T00:46:50+00:00

Your friends a hoe

FaithInStrangers94 · 2021-10-17T01:42:32+00:00

Well we should all be striving to feel fulfilled in life, not to boast the highest body count right? If the former requires the latter than a trip to a psychologist is probably in order because there’s clearly a serious lack of self-acceptance and self-worth

I understand some people just get a thrill out of having ONS; fair enough, but if you’re the type who actually judges yourself and others by their body count than there’s a critical problem.

LatanyaNiseja · 2021-10-17T02:12:45+00:00

This is true! Don't sweat it. I'm currently dating a man who I'm only his second partner to. I get to explore with him and teach him things. It's fun!

anon3451 · 2021-10-17T02:38:02+00:00

My body count is 0 I hope to die with 1 :P I want the intense long term bonding. Nothing good comes easy

LyghtnyngStryke · 2021-10-17T02:53:59+00:00

I'm 51, and my body count is one. Was with her for 26 years until I realized the toxicity of her and then going over old letters I missed so much from it. Still even if I had realized back then I'm still a monogamous man. I'm currently talking to one woman but only one. As that's all I need. Never be ashamed of low body count.

smith_and_jones4ever · 2021-10-17T02:54:06+00:00

That sucks to be your 20 y/o diseased friend. I was not expecting that at all but it's definitely something I will remember.

that1guysittingthere · 2021-10-17T05:42:44+00:00

After my first time at 23 (a bad hookup), I’ve had another two hookups. The second girl I wanted to see again but she texted me she just wasn’t into me, and the third lived a little far and she got a bf several weeks later.

I think I got attachment issues, because about 10 months later I thought I saw the 2nd girl downtown (she was wearing a mask and glasses so I wasn’t sure) with a bf, and I just felt a bit in shock while driving home, and then just felt dead inside during my night shift.

I had a high drive for the past couple years, being in a rush to lose the v card and raise my notch count. Right now, I don’t feel any regret because I guess sex is better than nothing, but I just don’t feel as good as I had hoped.

Evol_Etah · 2021-10-17T06:12:15+00:00

I'm 24 with 0. I just wanna die

bex_xter · 2021-10-17T07:48:10+00:00

"To be human is to have bumps." -Adam Ruins Everything

Adding in all of the details about this guy, down to the bumps on his dink, sounds a lot like you put a great deal of thought into his body count vs yours.

And what does it matter anyway? Are you happy in your sex life? Great. Do that. But don't slam other people for having multiple partners and living a full life of their choosing because you got married.

My partner is queer and owned a collective/party house with a group of anarchist friends. Do you have any idea the amount of orgies that happened there? The stories I've heard make me blush, and that's not an easy task.

I am married to, and have many friends, with more sexual partners combined than the milage on my car ffs. And I'm happy for them. Consensual sex is hot. Liberation is hot. It doesn't matter if that means one partner or 100. Let people enjoy things.

sunifunih · 2021-10-17T07:57:53+00:00

What for a work. Loads of work to work for a high body count. In a best and realistic way you get laid 4 times a week. In my commited relationship I get laid 2 times a day.

ZosoWicca · 2021-10-17T08:37:06+00:00

I had 2 when I was 20. At 25 I got 5, and then I started to visit pros. I didnt feel ashamed at all because I know that several girls felt in love with me. Taking into pros, I am almost 150. Pros are like fast food for me. Cheap, I enjoy the moment, then throw them away and leave. It is more enjoyable for me visiting a pro than faking that I am interested in a girl just to get sex. I cant.

At this moment, I would have prefered to just have monogamic relationships. The ideal case, just one.

I was fooled by p0rn and casual Sex narrative. But, as long as the dating scene is fukd up, I think there is no better alternative than this.

Hmmkey · 2021-10-17T08:39:01+00:00

It seems like you are moreso trying to convince yourself with your post, your reasoning that he has stds makes no sense. You could have gotten stds from the women you slept with and he could have had safe sex with 200 women and gotten nothing. Don’t be jealous of your friend and if you are unhappy with your situation change it.

NoOutlandishness9892 · 2021-10-17T10:32:22+00:00

I wouldn’t respect your friend lmfao. He clearly puts his pleasures above his purpose as a man

Somechords77 · 2021-10-17T10:53:56+00:00

Hello guys I'm 25m and zero body count. Decent looking dude and lascivious person. Had many girlfriends but never had sex.( Although I always wanted to) There's is one girl I've met recently and we made out on first date. I really want to do it. But she's 18 and little childish and I am her first boyfriend. She's at very young age . I am kind of concerned if thats gonna change her teenage. What should I do here?

-chosenjuan- · 2021-10-17T13:22:53+00:00

23 and my count is 5. Lost my virginity at 20 and I regret not being more patient. I basically just wanted to get it over with tbh because of the peer pressure.

KyCrippler · 2021-10-17T17:52:08+00:00

Quality is always better than quantity. You may not experience as many different ways to have sex nut then again you never know. I have been with a lot of women and learned something from each one of them. No std's thankfully and many tricks to get my partner off.I don't care how good it is, if you do the same thing every time it gets boring. Relationship sex in a rut? Watch porn for ideas

Throwawayact696969 · 2021-10-18T07:27:47+00:00

In an odd way I agree.

Different life stories though.

I'm 35, body count is no longer represented by real numbers XD.

I do however remember wayyyy long ago when my body count was 5. Crazy how life chnges man.

As long as you are truly happy with your sex life thats all that matters.

vinuracleo · 2021-10-22T04:58:17+00:00

Body count is 19 at 24 but tbh ignorance is bliss haven't gotten a nasty STD luckly only got chlamydia once but kinda just want someone to settle with I guess sleeping with all those women was nice but body count really doesn't mean shit lol

Snoo_96502 · 2021-11-14T02:13:48+00:00

Don't ever sweat having genital warts and genital herpes because having those don't make you a bad person and just because you don't have these things doesn't make you a good person.

Sandhawkfire · 2021-11-20T18:02:33+00:00

7 women by age 57 is decent. Especially in this day and age.

Awkward-Coat8652 · 2022-04-08T08:31:04+00:00

Still wish I could be like your friend. Beats being a virgin at 25. Some day I swear I'll beat Paddocks record. This seems more attainable to me than hooking up with a stranger in a public bathroom stall. See yall on the news ✌🏼

Title	Don’t ever sweat the low body count.
Author	Pain_Tough
Upvotes	1139
Comments	245
Date	October 16, 2021 2:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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