The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok chef’s kiss

quasarbar · 2021-10-22T15:13:36+00:00

I swear to God men who look for no-strings sex from women they know want real relationships are doing it for some sick little ego stroke.

She didn't want to have sex without love, but I got her to give it up 'cause I'm just that badass! Ha ha!

It's a characteristic of narcissism, and while not all of these men are necessarily clinical narcissists, they definitely have some of the traits.

Waste-Win · 2021-10-22T12:38:19+00:00

This reminds me to the men that ask their partners to open the relationships, usually because they want to cheat without risking their relationship. Sometimes the woman say yes, and men feel happy about it, until they discover they won't be having as many hook ups as they thought and once the woman start getting laid they panic, and say that's not what they want.

Jay-Qualin · 2021-10-22T06:42:07+00:00

Hoe-boys are not only looking for the privilege of easy free sex, cause if they were, they would simply seek escorts & sex workers...they are also looking for the EMOTIONAL aspect of intimacy and a good time. Basically these Fuck boys are benefiting off of women sexually and emotionally.

grandeoofs · 2021-10-22T06:14:13+00:00

“You want to initiate intimacy but you don’t want to share it.”

Fooken mindblowin y’all 🤯

Someone come pick my jaw off the floor please, I’m catching flies rn.

eyes_serene · 2021-10-22T10:38:59+00:00

Once upon a time I had a job where I worked with almost all men, men from one immigrant group, whereas I am from another. Many of them told me really personal things about themselves and their lives... It was an interesting experience, actually.

So this one guy had a whole bunch of "girlfriends". Not just one night stands or short flings, but ongoing relationships with many women.

I asked him if he was familiar with the English term of "polyamory", and as he was not, explained it to him. Initially his eyes lit up, and he was like "yes! Yes! This term perfectly describes me!" ...Until I got to the whole, well, the other people don't have to be monogamous either part.

He became quite offended at the idea that these women might have any sort of romantic or sexual contact beyond him. A guy with so many girlfriends that there's no way many of these relationships were given the time or attention to foster true intimacy and emotional depth. By sheer logical constraints, any relationship of depth had by him would take a serious amount of time...

He was just so insulted and offended by the mere concept. But I was flabbergasted enough that I persisted and began questioning him about the double standard and mental gymnastics on that one.

I was really floored at his audacity.

He never spoke to me again. Lol

KAT_85 · 2021-10-22T15:11:44+00:00

“It’s so easy to talk to you…”

I’m ☠️

If I had a dollar for every time a guy said that to me when I parrot back their anti social bs, like it’s some great epiphany… I’d be a richer woman than I am now.

lansburysoda · 2021-10-22T15:27:26+00:00

It’s not about sex for them, it’s about hating women

Ok_Passenger_5717 · 2021-10-22T09:26:54+00:00

Don't forget the unpaid labor of women cooking, cleaning, doing chores, planning for the future, such as making a groceries list or reminding men to go to appointments, giving fashion advice and organizing group events. Can't get that from a hook-up or fwb. That's why men who are not interested in serious relationship go after women who want a relationship. So they can exploit her.

S3ra-phina · 2021-10-22T13:02:02+00:00

Its like the men want 'girlfriend privileges' and her emotional labour of adoring/desiring him, but he's too entitled to reciprocate. And then when she tries to use him as a sex tool (aka disposable), he gets offended. He can't stand paying for sex, coz he isn't desired in that situation.

akashyaboa · 2021-10-22T18:41:41+00:00

They want harems, having all the women only for themselves while fcking around. What they forget is that harems are VERY expensive

saint-jezebel · 2021-10-22T12:11:19+00:00

I never tell men I want a relationship because they exploit you. Breadcrumb you and gaslight you to basically hook you and then never deliver. Or they want to rush and that’s a whole other red flag.

I’ve had women tell me that if I say I’m just having fun, no pressure, seeing what’s out here, I sound uninterested. That’s the point though? When men feel no pressure, they begin applying it like their life depends on it. The thing about game is the only to play it is by knowing how to beat it in the first place. Why wait for a man to gaslight me when I can just avoid it in the first place? One of the best ways is to not show your hand. There are 7 billion people this earth and at the end of the day, I will be one of them that will always show up in my best interest.

queeninprogress · 2021-10-22T12:50:36+00:00

FWB is just a straight up lie. The friends part is anyway. I think of a friend as someone I actually have a strong emotional connection with, and from my understanding that's something that separates an FWB from a lover/romantic relationship. You wouldn't treat someone you genuinely care about with like a convenient fuck while knowing there's a good chance someone will eventually get hurt. I dislike the bit at the end though, gives me libfem energy, and tbh it's something that annoys me a bit about FDS as well, whenever FWB is brought up even here there's always one woman gloating about being the exceptional woman who doesn't fall in love easily and who got to be the one who hurt the man instead for once, who "used" him for sex (yeah sure you did.) and like, good for you? But how is this helpful to the rest of us?

Otherwise I think the video is spot on: FWB is basically an emotionally abusive relationship where the man wants all the benefits of a relationship (sex, having his emotions catered to) but doesn't want to reciprocate. It's selfishness. And that's why the friends part is a lie, because friends should genuinely care about each other. The responses people have when their "FWB" develops feelings for them make that even more clear. The response is often annoyance, maybe even anger, blaming the other person for getting hurt because "you knew I didn't want anything serious, it's your own fault" and no emotional support whatsoever. If that's how you react to someone developing normal human feelings, you are not treating them like a friend who is hurting, you are reacting like a child who is angry that their toy got taken away, which makes it very clear how you actually view your "friend".

(Yes I do have personal beef with this)

funkepitome · 2021-10-22T11:40:57+00:00

Want all the benefits of a relationship minus the work.

Aocwannabe · 2021-10-22T08:49:32+00:00

PS being emotionally unavailable to a partner or compartmentalizing is not goals.

avocadobarbie · 2021-10-22T13:31:08+00:00

This is one of the most frustrating realizations about men. Their egos NEED you to need them. They have no intention of being with you but want you to want to be with them.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-10-22T07:13:22+00:00

Perfectly said

todaysthrowaway2307 · 2021-10-22T07:51:15+00:00

This is so perfect

Aocwannabe · 2021-10-22T08:47:41+00:00

Yikes. I like her intention but this gives me “cool girl” vibes. Do NOT share your body with men that are not committed to you. And no, beating them at their game doesn’t benefit women as a class. He is still getting sex! He’s not that pressed that she doesn’t want a relationship with him. (Which she prob does because we can’t override the biology of oxytocin with logic.)

It’s a myth that men fall for women like this. Instead they use her for sex and get their emotional needs met elsewhere.

hexriot2001 · 2021-10-22T22:37:40+00:00

i dabbled with fwb a couple months ago, and now that i discovered fds i deleted and blocked my fuck buddy, i got a message from him saying that i'm childish because i blocked him on socials. i didn't respond just blocked his number, but it proves her point they want validation and intimacy without giving it in return. he marketed himself as community dick and got treated accordingly and now his feelings are hurt? boy bye

kurikuri7 · 2021-10-22T19:00:10+00:00

I. Fucking. Love. This.

susjaguar · 2021-10-22T06:31:17+00:00

PREACH

xfelugirlx · 2021-10-22T13:00:14+00:00

I love her, she’s saying facts. Bad bish move

hyacinth_waves · 2021-10-25T03:07:36+00:00

Yep. They want you to treat them like a priority while they treat you like an option.

Title	The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok chef’s kiss
Author	thepsychopathhunter
Upvotes	1412
Comments	70
Date	October 22, 2021 6:01 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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