It’s sad how common this is, especially with older men with more baggage. I’ve taken to dating younger men now because every single one of them is still in love with their ex, or they didn’t have a chance with the one they truly want and would drop you for if that person wanted them.

I can’t say how many times I’ve experienced this with men I took the time to get to know, through celibacy and all. Eventually it turns out I’m just a rebound or second option. It’s scary how good they are at hiding it and lying because they want emotional support or attention from someone else.

It doesn’t matter how attractive or how much of a catch you are, there may be someone else at the back of his mind. Recently, I was slowly starting to open up to a guy 5 years older than me (I’m 27) and for months he was taking me on dates, we became close and he developed feelings understanding that I am taking my time.

The moment we have our first kiss, he cries about how he’s still in love with his ex from 5 years ago! Absolutely nuts. I had no hints whatsoever before. Men are sociopaths be careful and vet hard.