Girls don't do things by accident

blessedwiththecurse · 2021-04-18T14:49:47+00:00

She coughed... she must be telling me something

THC_YesPlease · 2021-04-18T15:20:11+00:00

What does it mean if they crop dust you?...

Efren_John · 2021-04-18T15:42:11+00:00

This girl back in high school, she would punch me on the shoulder for being a clown

I remember I was sitting next to her in class. She was cute, but didn't know each other as well back then. And our elbows would sometimes touch. Frequently. It was very subtle but I could definitely feel it.

Btw I did asked that girl out she said yes lol, went out for 1 year with her.

aaronj5467 · 2021-04-18T14:44:09+00:00

She slightly looked in my direction.

She wants to have my kids basically /s

alternatecreator212 · 2021-04-18T18:52:03+00:00

Once is an incident; twice is coincidence. Three times is enemy action. I think James Bond said that.

D_flower_me · 2021-04-18T14:34:50+00:00

That unnecessary physical contact feels like I am firing a canon to signal i am interested!

JustAnotherBAMF · 2021-04-18T21:11:16+00:00

Most guys don’t realize this lol. Women communicate WAY differently than men.. and they also see things in the environment that most men don’t (like body language).

Most men mistakenly think that women communicate directly like they do, and that they think just like they do.. but they couldn’t be more wrong. The way women interact with their environment is literally alien to the way that most males do, and you’ll have no idea unless you can naturally read the little body language/eye contact/verbal cues that they’re constantly putting off. It’s kind of crazy when you finally realize it and start seeing it unfold right in front of you at all times.

remarque55 · 2021-04-18T14:15:47+00:00

um.. this is not necessarily true. i am sure you know women are human beings and can and will do stuff without thinking or having a plan. you think a girl plans when to bump into someone?

i mean it's just not like that. we are not 12.

jazilli · 2021-04-18T14:32:33+00:00

I mean, fuck that? Men shouldn't play games, if a woman wants something she should be upfront with it.

Edit: I might be wrong on this one fellas. Carry on.

nam292 · 2021-04-18T15:33:01+00:00

Ugh she either tell me or don't. If I know that she likes me, yeah. But I always tell a girl that I like her whether signals or not.Cannot give enough shit about hints

Legal_Ranch · 2021-04-18T14:36:46+00:00

Nah, they're humans bro. Not every move they make is about the other sex.

honeynut_beerios · 2021-04-18T17:22:28+00:00

I’m guessing the guys who don’t get these aren’t that attractive /have weak outer confidence / are in terrible shape?

Plenty of times I’ve noticed girls do this. At my work building, there was this girl who’d returned to lunch right after I started walking back to the building and when she did, she hustled hard to catch up to where I was and started walking slow when near me. She’s done this sort of thing multiple times.

I noticed it and started chatting her up and surely enough SHE gave ME her phone # and wants to go out with me.

Another time I can think of is when I was in the men’s section of Sephora and a girl came up and started pretending to look at the men’s fragrances. She started a conversation with me and started chatting it up. When those things tend to happen, I tend to be dressed well, smell good, be in good shape and be in a cool&calm energy. Things that attract women. If you’re looking bummy , smell like a magic the gathering tournament or are way out of shape, you’re not as likely to get that.

Yes. It’s not every time these things happen that girls want to fuck your brains out, but women are calculated and this is how they tend to make their move. Women don’t really approach guys like that and they want you to make the move so they make it easier by going into your orbit. The more you guys actually work on yourself , more you’ll get these choosing signals where a woman puts herself in your orbit.

If a woman finds you repulsive,she’ll do her best to avoid you and if she’s heavily attracted to you, then she’s going to be more likely to put herself in your vicinity because that’s how women are.

Stop trying to shame OP because you’re not getting these results/noticing these signs and work on yourself and find out that OP is actually right. Idk about the club examples cause i don’t fw clubs, but in grocery stores and out & about, it’s definitely true.

ChrisOriginalName · 2021-04-18T18:35:35+00:00

Damn bro, I think you gave solid advice. When I've gone clubbing I've definitely noticed this. Occasional eye contact is important too. Maybe you came off too strong in your replies and that's why you're getting down voted to heck.

NickyD_ · 2021-04-18T16:17:37+00:00

So if she looks at me but walks faster in the direction she is walking does that mean she wants to play tag?

PenissButtt · 2021-04-18T16:21:58+00:00

How about they just fucking tell us guys that they like us? The hilarious part about all this is that women will continue to "give hints", but never be upfront with a guy, and then wonder why they're still single. Most Men don't go for that type of bullshit, so stop acting like you're 12 years old and actually talk to a guy like an adult.

ld20r · 2021-04-18T15:35:43+00:00

And by the same token humans aren’t Mind Readers.

Some of them may also have Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Autism or any type off disorder that clogs their head so people need to learn how to have Empathy.

A good teacher doesn’t do things by accident either. They purposely educate the student on the topic at hand but they also don’t use the same Approach for every student as they Understand and Acknowledge that every person Learns and figures things out differently.

The same goes for socializing and pick up. Not everyone is going to follow along how you expect them to and it is in that scenario where You need to tailor your approach. That is on You. Not the other person. You.

Both Men and Women need to know and learn this.

Bottom Line: Don’t hide behind signs and hints and games. Always be honest and Clear with your intentions from the Start.

KND_DNK · 2021-04-18T16:39:56+00:00

Once again, you can’t really tell. She might just be Canadian

eyesopen1111 · 2021-04-18T15:09:02+00:00

I'm glad people here understand that this OP doesn't know what the hell he/she is talking about.

noodleheadnat · 2021-04-18T16:41:28+00:00

Lmao this is so true I do all of this.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2021-04-18T14:55:20+00:00

Sometimes you’re just a new person that walked into the room, and she’s having a look because something about the scenery just changed. Maybe she’s bored of talking to her friends and just having a look around the joint. Maybe she’s just drunk. Maybe there’s something on the TV behind you. Maybe she’s looking just because she’s looking.

There’s a ton of reasons people look around the room. Women are human, for the most part they don’t plan all their actions around signaling sexual interest in someone. You’re over complicating everything with rationale like this, just go up and say something.

Goldenpanda18 · 2021-04-18T15:27:03+00:00

If she sneezes while looking at me, does she want to fuck?

macroxela · 2021-04-18T19:49:04+00:00

Depends on the girl. Many times it is an accident. However, you don't lose anything if you make a move as long as you're respectful.

Character_Fisherman6 · 2021-04-18T20:49:17+00:00

💯

sabbathan1 · 2021-04-18T21:30:22+00:00

What if, hypothetically, these things never happen to you? What then?

Deprofundix · 2021-04-19T07:05:58+00:00

Jesus dude .. you're overthinking it way too much. Just approach them with a nice vibe and you're ok.

alienatemebaby · 2021-04-18T18:48:10+00:00

This is r/menwritingwomen shit lmao

jaretok · 2021-04-18T15:21:05+00:00

This sounds like a gross generalization. You know women are people too right? Lol.

LucianoSK · 2021-04-18T16:47:27+00:00

Yeah, that's just plain stupid. I know it works like that but as person who is very shy at first but outgoing afterwards, this fucked me up

Stoner_skateboarder · 2021-04-18T14:50:34+00:00

Not always, a girl can check you out just to check you out.

thementalyogi · 2021-04-18T15:52:27+00:00

Makes sense though, I mean, how many of us guys do things by accident? They are humans too, with unique and powerful calibrating and calculating brains, they definitely act with intention, desire, and hope.

Jeshouane · 2021-04-18T16:34:49+00:00

This exact same thing happened to me. I made the move, got her number... but then when I asked her out, she says that she has just got out of a relationship and wants only friendship. I was like 'ok', friendship it is then. But afterwards, she backed off and now she won't talk to me. What the hell lol. Girls are confusing.
She never texted me first and I haven't heard from her for two weeks. I'm moving on and never texting her again. I don't want drama.

OJSimpsons · 2021-04-18T18:04:11+00:00

You seem like the kinda "alpha" who constantly reminds people youre the "alpha."

LakersAreTerrible25 · 2021-04-18T18:33:24+00:00

This is overthinking. You're always gunna have to make the first move, particularly with a 9 or 10. Girls don't care about dating and sex like us men do, so it makes us learn to approach. Contrary to popular belief, where most guys think every girl has been ran through. Not the case when you're dealing with quality women. A lot of them don't care for sex or being with someone nearly as much as you'd think. Hence why a lot of women are single

Dutchcat1077 · 2021-04-18T16:55:05+00:00

This is a very thin ice situation especially in 2021. Don’t assume anything just because someone has looked at you for more than 2sec or walks close to you. If the Me Too movement has taught us anything it’s that women are generally disinterested in men’s advances. How about men remain aloof and let the women make moves??? Wouldn’t that be a nice change of pace???

VogueCody25 · 2021-04-18T17:21:03+00:00

I have 0 doubt that OP gets absolutely no pussy and takes to seduction subs to tell us his fantasies :)

SithLordJediMaster · 2021-04-18T15:23:27+00:00

These are things I do by accident ...

RushilTheWeaboo · 2021-04-18T16:42:14+00:00

You are kind of Right but you have you judge this by your instincts.

SwaggySwagS · 2021-04-18T21:17:10+00:00

Wait so this girl in the 9th grade who sprayed me with her perfume DIDNT do it on accident??

TheJoeyJoeJoe · 2021-04-18T16:03:41+00:00

I see he's already been flooded with sarcastic exaggerated responses, and "not all women" replies.

When, in reality, what he actually said is mostly true.

toasty_toast18 · 2021-04-18T17:15:38+00:00

Yes they do, not everything that people do in public revolves around their attraction to you lmao

2021-04-18T18:09:58+00:00

Or simply looking at you, talking to her friend or whomever she is with, adjusting her posture to emphasize interest, telling her friend or whomever she is with that you are approaching can be indicators that she's approachable and interested. As you approach, keep it simple and don't mess up.

ZealousidealRecord87 · 2021-04-18T17:04:43+00:00

These points make sense 😁

PeperoParty · 2021-04-18T16:16:22+00:00

OP I agree with you. I always tell my friends that girls do the approaching first.

Unfortunately for you, many guys on this site dont/didn’t get any attention whatsoever from girls so it is just seen as girls “playing games”.

b1ngnx33 · 2021-04-18T16:34:25+00:00

Lies. All lies.

camcorleone · 2021-04-18T21:24:39+00:00

I pick up on shit like this, I’d approach a woman giving off these signals & from time to time they’ll reject. And I realize she was ego / thirst trapping me

MonkModeXay · 2021-04-18T15:20:47+00:00

Ik but I don’t care to act. farwell

Alpha-Charlie-Romeo · 2021-04-18T18:01:47+00:00

If anything I feel super uncomfortable when women (strangers) breach my personal space like that. I always without fail move out of the way if this happens. When it happens all that's running through my mind is "Uhhh I'm standing here, how rude." "Does she want me to move? Does she not know she's brushing against me? Does she want me to put my arms around her? What do I do?" "I was here first, but she's going to accuse me of groping her, isn't she?" and so on. It's just a very uncomfortable feeling.

If it's someone I know and am very aware there's sexual attraction between us, then yeah I'll take it as a hint to make the moves. But if it's a stranger doing this, I'm on full guard and completely confused. Perhaps if she waved at me or talked to me or did something to acknowledge my existence then I'd know that it's all on purpose and that I should make a move. But if she just backs into me (it's happened so many times before) I'm just stuck in planet wtf and move away.

handofking · 2021-04-18T18:47:18+00:00

They want you to make a move.

Yeah except when they're already married than it's just a fun distraction.

coldfire777 · 2021-04-18T19:44:56+00:00

Fuk yo science probalbullshit don't think about it too much. Shit trying to understand this shit is mixing a bungee cord with fate nibba yuuuuu<$;=,%[she wants to crop dust? ask her what the fu k dat is and if its anal eat her logs boi

raccLunatics · 2021-04-18T20:02:59+00:00

Men on this post no. Nothing about women and don’t want to try and wonder they never get laid or are empty but Get those clubs out fishing pole Harley and Forget again

sockaccount12348 · 2021-04-18T23:21:08+00:00

Yes they do. You just have to discern if it’s an accident or not which is quite easy to discern

Fecund_Sweet · 2021-04-19T02:28:44+00:00

Why are you at a middle school mixer, bruh?

Blaphrodite · 2021-04-19T02:45:55+00:00

This thread is hilarious. Probably true if you’re dealing with teenage girls. The last part about eye contact often indicates interest though.

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-04-19T05:07:39+00:00

Whether they do things on purpose or on accident, I don't really pay much attention to either of them for very long.

Walking too closely isn't a signal.

Bumping into someone isn't a signal.

Thinking that someone is paying that much attention to some random person walking by more than once is not a signal.

Unless you're constantly walking around looking for signals, which most people have other more important things to do, you'll probably miss these "signals," and it won't be your fault if you do.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-04-19T05:09:25+00:00

Thank you for stating the obvious. Now what about those who never see any of those signs?

Legitimate-Usual6118 · 2021-04-19T07:30:27+00:00

I, as a girl, can tell you that this is bullshit. We're just living our lives and there's no need to interpret our every movement.

PhantomLegend616 · 2021-04-19T08:50:04+00:00

im too afraid to flirt or make a move lmao

JuneBerryBug94 · 2021-04-18T22:18:18+00:00

She crossed your path in the grocery store.... TWICE!???

bridgetthebanker · 2021-04-18T23:18:06+00:00

Finally!!! Men!!! PAY ATTENTION!!!

We’re strategic as fuck but want the man to make the first move. Plus then we don’t seem too forward.

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-04-18T21:25:30+00:00

Defibitely not true. The idea of approaching a woman should be about taking her off ger pedestal but still appreciating her for who she is. This kind of thing is basically saying she's abpve making mistakes or even doing something she isnt sure about.

herendzer · 2021-04-18T18:59:22+00:00

There was this girl at the church I used to go to. I knew she was into me. She often stand by herself and look my way and one time I was working with a guy she kind of coordinate things with and intentionally bumped me. Somehow I didn’t find myself physically attracted to her and thanks to my lack of social skills, couldn’t say a word to her. Fast forward 2/3 years her Instagram is filled with her wedding photo....🤦🏻‍♂️

Gromann27 · 2021-04-18T19:15:01+00:00

How do I make the first move?

cloudfighter454 · 2021-04-18T22:43:03+00:00

What about if she hugs you alot or she hugs you then grabs your hand and guides you or what if you take her home and before she gets to her door she takes another look at you

vivi9090 · 2021-04-18T22:43:42+00:00

There was a bitch i used to work with who used to flash the Batman symbol into the night sky with a giant flash light. I made nothing of it assuming she was a batman fan girl and was just messing around with her cool toys until one day on my birthday of all days she bought me a Batman gimp suit with a strap on dildo attached to it. Five years later i managed to put two and two together and realised she wanted the D but by then it was too late and she had transitioned into a non binary, full blown transexual man who identified as a flamingo with cerebral palsy. Don't be me guys.

Kidcouger · 2021-04-18T22:51:39+00:00

Thank you for reminding me OP, I should've asked this girl to dance on Friday...

Context: At the bar with two of my female friends (old co-workers so no sexual interest) and I noticed these group of girls sharing our table (like atleast 4-5 feet away), Tried looking over and I think I caught the tall/cute one of them looking away when I tried to sneak some glances

Go to the dancefloor later and two of them (Tall girl and her shorter curly haired friend who was also cute) out of the group of 3 are dancing near me and kinda on me but don't try to move or say sorry for bumping into me, I tried to look for choosing signals or to make eye contact but I would get subtle/non selective so I took that as a "were trying to dance and you have female friends so we feel safe here" vibe, on top of that they rejected 3 other dudes who tried to ask.

In my defense we ended up at a club randomly that night and haven't been to one in over a year, and I was basically a shield to cock block some of the dudes trying to dance with my female friends LOL, They weren't the first girls ever I would've asked to dance at a club but I'm still kicking myself for not trying a cold approach atleast

Thank you for this insight OP!

JXMMY11 · 2021-04-18T23:52:53+00:00

I used to go to this gym and I got rejected by this pretty girl but I did in a way where she was happy to be “friends”. After a couple of weeks I heard her whispering to her friends when I walk by and tried to cross my path but when I say hey it didn’t feel like she was messing wit me🤷🏽‍♂️ so idk sometimes it happens sometimes it’s just a coincidence.

datkidjz · 2021-04-18T23:58:14+00:00

She happened to look at me then look away. That must mean something.

Kirbinator_Alex · 2021-04-19T00:12:13+00:00

Too bad I've never experienced any of these things

PostAndDelete · 2021-04-19T00:56:53+00:00

What about the if the retail worker gives me a free shirt lol , she was cute too I would’ve spit some more game but there was a family right behind me in line waiting

Enameloblast · 2021-04-19T01:39:38+00:00

What is your typical approach when you notice this?

ow3ntrillson · 2021-04-19T03:27:43+00:00

This

KingXenokai · 2021-04-19T03:47:26+00:00

A girl that I like does this a lot to me but it feels like are relationship isn’t progressing much I talk to her in school when I see her and we snap and have a streak and she is very hot and cold how should I deal with this?

TheeRickySpanish · 2021-04-19T05:21:55+00:00

Yep, Proximity.

gowatchanimefgt · 2021-04-19T07:09:27+00:00

I’m such a bitch when the girl starts slowly dancing closer to me I use to move away coz I don’t know what to do.

DragonCMob · 2021-04-19T08:39:32+00:00

A clear sign those types can't navigate life. She can't open her mouth to say hello? Hard Pass.

Linkinsuave · 2021-04-19T09:17:16+00:00

Well here’s my situation and I agree.

Went to an after party and saw this hot ass latina with a phat 🍑. She was a waiter and I approached, asking her name. She told me..but her tone turned me off, so I abruptly stopped and pulled all contact from her(turned my back on her). Yeah and I know, she was probably shit testing me and what not because this chick still hung out right where I left her. Like a few steps away from where I was. Your post just solidified my understanding where all girls do shit on purpose. Because why the hell would a waiter hang out around me for a good 5 minutes when there are a shit ton people in the spot and a whole lot of “waitering” to be done lol?

In hindsight, I should’ve went further and gotten her number. But hey, you live and you learn 🤷

BlackStarFamous · 2021-04-19T09:45:42+00:00

Tell that to my mom when she had me

rosequartz05143 · 2021-04-19T11:27:35+00:00

I usually move about an environment how I please. I guess I should start calculating distances so as not to give the elusive male the wrong impression by walking in his general vicinity.

blueskyin · 2021-04-19T11:38:35+00:00

This is very true :)

edgetheraited · 2021-04-19T12:22:04+00:00

Not necessarily, i had a girl do multiple things such like setting close to me , eye contact, change their seat with other people to sit next to me, look at me while i work. I said oh maybe she liked me so i asked her but unfortunately she said no. And this is how i learned through hard way and heartbreak.

theAliasOfAlias · 2021-04-28T22:10:16+00:00

That's the truth, Truth!

theAliasOfAlias · 2021-05-07T22:23:00+00:00

Bro they don't even fight/get emotional on accident. It's all an operational tactic designed to get you out of your frame and into hers.

Title	Girls don't do things by accident
Author	Ohyarlysmiles
Upvotes	1143
Comments	320
Date	April 18, 2021 1:53 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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