[FR] She bought another guy to the date.

Murmaider · 2012-12-19T00:43:10+00:00

WOW....I cringed at the title and my cringe didn't let up. So many things done wrong, where do i begin? Overly texting, clingy, dramatic, complying to her, allowing yourself to be walked on, putting her on a pedestal, being Beta neigh Omega, extreme oneitis.

We both fucked up really

Nope, YOU fucked up. You weren't even on a date. you were just tagging along.

Let this be the ashes you rise like a phoenix from. Avoid her, work on yourself, work on your game. Read the side bar, go out sarging. Next time the double date thing comes up, it will be you w/ a new girl and her with her "best" friend. Good Luck.

Upvoted for the newbies

korky1318 · 2012-12-19T01:37:17+00:00

Man I cringed so hard at the part when you actually left and WENT BACK TO APOLOGISE. I swear I felt like biting my teeth out.

At least you know your mistakes and you're better off next time! Oh yeah by the way; move on.

Cohan_Fan212 · 2012-12-19T04:17:45+00:00

Bro. As cringey as the whole post was, no guy can ever say they never did shit like this at least a couple times in our lives... Takes a few mistakes to become cool calm and collected and learn to play it right. Game can be fun!

Hurricane_Carter · 2012-12-19T15:32:36+00:00

Lets play a game and go through your Field Report and list all the signs that she wasn't interested, and what you did wrong each step of the way.

You had to put in a lot of work to get her as your date to the ball. You were probably her backup option, no?
She didn't respond to your first text. You should have dropped it there; instead, you not only sent her another text, but you escalated it by mentioning her staying the night.
She responds with a cold "maybe". Your response is to attempt to neg her with the snoring comment, which ends up coming across as a weird insult. If you don't know how to neg, don't even try. Seriously.
She doesn't respond to your weird neg. You again attempt to make contact, even though she has never agreed to go on a date w/ you in the first place. You've given her at least three openings to say yes and she hasn't. You tell her you're literally at the train station, waiting for her to get in, when she's never told you she's coming.
She tells you to come to her because she's 'poor'. You go, despite the fact that she clearly kept you hanging until the last minute without any previous agreement that you would see each other at all. You go to her, dropping all your plans.
She strands you in the city for an hour with nothing to do while she putzes around. You sit and wait for her.
She brings a friend. You immediately panic and act as though this guy is intruding on your date with her. She clearly does not consider this a date between you two. You still try to treat it as such and ask her what she's doing for New Year's.
She clearly states that she's not interested in spending New Year's with you. You still seem to think this is a date between you two.
She says she won't get rid of the guy on her bed. He's probably just waiting for you to leave, by the way. You still think he's intruding on your date, when in fact it seems the exact opposite way around.
She feels bad when you leave shortly after arriving, and texts you something polite. You're supposed to say "yeah, everything's fine." and leave it at that. Just walk away, man. Instead, you decide to bitch about how you're being jerked around.
She tells you not to come back. You come back.
You ask her "are we even dating". WHY WOULD YOU THINK YOU ARE DATING? You haven't been dating. You're the annoying clinger. You had one date, right? That's not 'dating'.
She doesn't call you. She's clearly not interested. You call her. Stupid, stupid, stupid.
She replies politely but without any interest of actually going on a date with you. You attempt to press her into dating you. She obviously will not respond positively.

Okay, here's the kicker:

How goddamn dare she bring another guy to a date.

SHE DIDN'T CONSIDER IT A DATE. Why the fuck would she? She never even agreed to meet you on Tuesday at all! She only got coerced into inviting you to visit her when it became obvious you wouldn't drop the issue. This is 100% your fault. Not hers. Get over yourself and realize that she's sent you at least a dozen OBVIOUS signs that she's not really interested, and given you ZERO signs past your ball that she's AT ALL interested.

Seriously, dude. Not her fault. Yours.

LoveandFreedom · 2012-12-19T03:01:35+00:00

WAS SO BETA. fuck the word beta, i was pathetic. NOT AWESOME as I usually am.

Man, this beating up on yourself is no good, no good at all.

You are learning. What's the big deal? Just let it go man, not worth getting all stressed about. There are so many women, so many potential partners. Ease up on yourself.

My biggest critique of /r/seduction thought system in general is that it makes guys dive into a spiral of self-judgment.

Anyway, buck up mate, all will be well.

Bout_It_Bout_It · 2012-12-19T05:36:28+00:00

First of all, hilarious story. Let us not forget that getting girls, while nerve racking sometimes, is also meant to be fun. You are going to laugh about this someday.

Secondly, i don't think anyone needs to point out where you fucked up. The very first time she ignored your text. The very first time she ignored your text should've been the time you started making plans with someone else.

One of the most useful parts of learning game is seeing things as they are and knowing how much a girl is into you. If a girl likes you, she'll make it abundantly clear.

[There is a girl who e-mails me unprompted to tell me when she might be out of town just in case i might need her. I.e., she wants to make it clear that in the event i call her and don't get her, it is not because she is ignoring me. She is not my girlfriend and she really has no obligation to tell me anything. I've never even replied to any of her im going out of town texts.]

Let me quote one of most useful (note, i said useful) articles on Game by Roosh.

It is called Be That Guy

"I want to share with you an epiphany I had years ago. I was trying to bang this girl and she was being very flakey and taking forever to get back to me (Sound familiar?). I asked my friend what I should do about it and we proceeded to go over my options after I told him everything that had transpired so far.

At the end I thought, “Is she doing this with her friends right now? Is she asking her friend how to get with me? Is she asking her friend how to get me to stop flaking?”

Of course not.

Even though she wasn’t treating me well, I was still chasing her. Even though she was barely encouraging me, (this line helped me reduce so much clutter in my gaming) I wanted her bad. It’s human nature.

If you eavesdrop on conversations with girls, you will hear them talk about guys that are flakes. Guys that don’t call. That put in the minimum amount of work. That don’t give much notice on dates and then cancel them at the last minute. That fuck the girl and then make an excuse to leave within minutes. You think that guy is stressing over the girl? You think he’s asking his friends for help? No, he’s too busy working on other girls. He doesn’t care about any of them. He has no attachments. With no attachments he doesn’t do the pathetic, desperate, needy shit that 95% of other guys do.

I realized then that I had to BE THAT GUY, and not the guy who plots and tries and talks about what to do next. Because the moment you have to try is the moment you care, and the moment you care is the moment she has you, and all you’ll have is your hand, waiting for the phone to ring. [Here he is referring to girls who are barely encouraging one on]"

Of course, the proper application of this depends on experience, but you should always have it in mind. Hope it helps in some way.

Edit: HHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH. I just saw the "i'm not giving up on you" part. LMAO.

Please, please, this is post of the month.

MyThrowawaySeddit · 2012-12-19T04:31:59+00:00

Stopped reading at her replying "maybe". Correct response to that is ALWAYS, UNEQUIVOCALLY, UNWAVERINGLY, "Ah that's too bad. Maybe some other time." And then you ignore her until she texts the shit out of you. PERIOD. She CALLED THE DATE OFF! I don't know what happened after that line, but that's the point you fucked up at. Don't be such a pushover sir!

Edit: Okay I read the rest and want to kill myself now.

Lampshader · 2012-12-19T05:32:58+00:00

This is actually one of the best FRs I've read.

You know what you fucked up, learn from it, don't make the same mistakes.

It's not necessarily a lost cause here, she might have been honestly (very badly) introducing you to her friend. Good luck, but try not to get too invested.

priceoflurkers · 2012-12-19T02:28:42+00:00

Man. There was a time when I probably would have done the same mistakes as you did. We all start somewhere, be glad that you learned it the hard way, cause thats when you dont repeat it. Well thats all I really had to say, thanks for sharing!

everyoneismyfriend · 2012-12-19T06:26:47+00:00

Whaaaaat. That was the most painful thing ive ever had to read here.

CitizenShips · 2012-12-19T06:03:47+00:00

Dude, I'm not even a PUA and I was cringing hard. Fuck up that badly twice and I would just drop it where it lies.

And yes, "maybe" as a response is bullshit and should be treated as such.

jewfro667 · 2012-12-19T06:48:13+00:00

Holy crap that was cringeworthy. I literally yelled out in my head when I read this. You'll laugh about this one day though.

sharperguy · 2012-12-19T13:51:03+00:00

Honestly the worst thing about this is your constant comments like "BETAAA" and "What a fucking moron I am". It just projects a negative self image.

Ok you fucked up. But don't sweat it. You mentioned some things you learned from this. Concentrate on them. You said you're normally awesome: don't lose that.

uberafc · 2012-12-19T14:16:42+00:00

Hey bro, props for posting this. I think it takes a great deal of courage to do what you did, and hey you fucked up but we all do. This is not that big of a deal.

Guess what you just learned a shit ton about yourself.

Plus by posting this you'll help a ton of other people learn from it as well. So thanks for being TRUE to your name and rising above it. PROPS!

Also i would have done the same shit, I mean if a girl invited me to her place i'd think i'm gonna get lucky and i would have hauled ass there too. After reading this I might rethink that. THANKS

2012-12-19T17:53:57+00:00

Holy fuck bro whole post was like a car accident you cant stop looking at. That being said you already know where you fucked up..and im already seeing the same advice id leave. So..best of luck

killjoy87 · 2012-12-19T23:31:48+00:00

It's hard to stop your emotions from controlling your actions especially when you really like a girl. But with time and experience you will learn to make the right decisions without letting your emotions take over.

RiseAboveIt · 2012-12-19T03:27:36+00:00

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JakeTheLog · 2012-12-19T00:27:17+00:00

I would of just been done with her if she didn't respond the first time...just let her get a hold of you.

cavalier2015 · 2012-12-19T04:16:23+00:00

I can't believe I read that. That was awful.

fartuckyfartbandit · 2012-12-19T04:39:29+00:00

tagged as Stage 5 clinger.

Nove_Znacky · 2012-12-19T15:38:27+00:00

Girls like this prey on guys that act like you did. Its a fishing game. Reeling you in and then throwing you back out. If they know they can get this kind of attention then they will abuse it. Always trust your gut instinct and walk away when you have any doubts whatsoever. After all, she isn't the last girl left on earth so she shouldn't be treated like she is.

nsgafc · 2012-12-19T04:20:19+00:00

You have to be prepared to leave the girl at all times. If she's worth it/attracted, she'll follow. That's game 101.

IntensePancakes · 2012-12-19T04:54:18+00:00

You shouldn't put forth effort and time for people that won't do the same for you. You seem like a pretty cool dude, there are plenty of women out there that will respect your time and genuinely want to be with you. Don't settle for someone who, by all accounts, was only marginally interested from the start. As for your experience, everyone fucks up like this at one time or another. Now you have a great example of what not to do. Get back out there.

FittersGuy · 2012-12-19T05:59:24+00:00

Hahaha, good read. I only really cringed once. A few fuck ups, but nothing tooooo bad until you turned around.

Thanks for sharing though! Always good to read other peoples fuck ups

RiseAboveIt · 2012-12-19T06:01:00+00:00

I'm glad you guys are having a field day over this haha. Love the responses. I'm still learning and hopefully other people can learn from my mistakes and other peoples advice. :)

oh84s · 2012-12-19T06:36:36+00:00

For the first half of the story it was her fault and you handled the situation in the way most people would, wouldn't rock the boat stayed cool, even you leaving was fine. But from the moment you texted her you were annoyed obviously it was all over. I'm a bit shocked in how far you let it go on though and that you kept trying.

No more talking to her dude, its done.

hug_me_tender · 2012-12-19T07:34:10+00:00

Reading this made me feel beta

kurvenwetza · 2012-12-19T07:47:36+00:00

the entire text i was like

http://a.imageshack.us/img842/4670/nooooo.gif

nittutt · 2012-12-19T12:58:16+00:00

Epic post. You realize and explain almost all of your mistakes while providing an entertaining but still heart-warming story that brings us all back to our chody days.

Good man.

charliedouglas123 · 2012-12-19T14:24:10+00:00

Buddy, first off, well done for posting this. Takes a lot of balls to do it.

I think that being able to write it down and realise where you messed up will hold you in far better stead than anything anyone here will be able to tell you. You know what went wrong and how to go about fixing it next time.

2012-12-19T14:34:28+00:00

This is atrocious, but I've been there, sorta.

You are letting this broad get away with WAAAAAY too much. First time she shows any lack of interest you need to push, but you keep pulling.

She isn't into you.

You are texting way too much also. You should text less than her. If you have to send her two to get her to respond once, she isn't into you.

In the time you spent writing this, you could have met 3 more girls, haha.

keptit2real · 2012-12-19T15:27:22+00:00

Its dates like these that will slowly remove the beta in you and in us all. I 've been there to Bro.

blue_sphere · 2012-12-19T15:31:12+00:00

You fucked up hard bro. You got balls posting it here though so kudos! Live and learn from your mistake. You haven't failed, just found one more way that didn't work :)

My best advice is to fake alpha status until it becomes second nature. That bitch was throwing you through hoops and you kept jumping like a dog. Should train her not the other way around.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-12-19T16:27:40+00:00

This is why you CALL a girl when you wanna ask her out, instead of doing it via text. It requires her to respond right away. None of this shit about you planning out a date and not even getting a response. And if the response is anything other than "yes", you assume the date's not gonna happen and make other plans. You could have avoided this whole awkward situation that way.

Live and learn, man. That's why we're all here.

leodoestheopposite · 2012-12-19T17:32:42+00:00

Wow, that was a wall of text.

I read all the way to I chose the first instinct. Damn. that's all I needed.

I personally think that this is one of the most wonderful thing that could happen to you. Did you learn the lesson??.

So, next time you know what NOT to do:

don't text her too much
once she says Maybe confront her, it's either yes or no, you are not waiting

My personal opinion: fuck everything that you think it's Romantic.. that's too long of a post and you are a newbie to go into this stuff now.

You're doing fine, as long as you do not continue to repeat the same mistakes over and over expecting a different result.

2012-12-19T17:34:23+00:00

Damn! i was preparing my self for spaghetti on your pockets at the end or something like that.

It's just a typical case of infatuation mate, it happens to the best of us, and the best way to get rid of it, is building Abundance Mentality, go out meet new girls, and forget about it.

Now on topic about this girl, yeah it was pretty crappy of her to bring a friend, but you overacted about it, you made assumptions about they being together (don't lie i know you did), and you got jealous, and that fucked up your game big time.

I could keep pointing what i think you did bad, but you already know every single think you did, so instead let me give you a piece of advice.

Learn how to calm yourself down, you panicked A LOT on this date, meaning as soon as you go out of "you" plan" of the date, you freaked out, learn to take life as it comes to you, and learn to /r/hownottogiveafuck, in moments of stress just pause all your thoughts and breath, and keep breathing until your heart rate slows, and you feel more at ease. This will help you to think more rationally and to not fuck it up so bad.

Also when you are in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, or it feels just plain wrong do this.

Look at the situation like an outsider, like you are watching a movie, let say when you where on the room, you breath calm yourself, and apply this, you'll see yourself, and everything surrounding you from outside, and will have a more objective perspective of whats going on. Remember when in the movies, you saw a poor dude getting stepped on and you felt like screaming to the movie, "COMO ON DUDE". its juts like that.

Finally, let all this just be another learning experience for future girls.

Also, i personally would dismiss the girl.

TL;DR: Close your facebook, hit the gym, lawyer up.

Cheers.

pickup_sticks · 2012-12-19T18:16:48+00:00

Thanks for being brave enough to share this. You obviously learned a lot from this experience.

2012-12-19T21:22:54+00:00

Oh, man this is hilariously horrible. I'm clueless about pickup, I just came here out of curiosity and even I can appreciate how royally you fucked up. I went "WTF" when you said your first instinct was to go to her and you actually did, that convo had me thinking "THIS BITCH IS CRAY CRAY"

Not talking in a mean spirited way, of course. This is just funny. Hope you view it the same way, have a laugh and simply learn from it.

maestroni · 2012-12-19T23:39:12+00:00

The most beta [FR] I can possibly imagine. Still upvoted because I used to be that guy as well.

Antebios · 2012-12-20T21:05:31+00:00

First, SHE fucked up by bringing someone along. Then YOU just exacerbated the fuckup-ed-ness by crawling back. You should have said, "Fine, we'll talk about it later. Good day. I say GOOD-DAY to you, SIR!" And walked off like a goddamn alpha.

Then you could have both had a reasonable and logical conversation about what went wrong and how to avoid further issues like this in the future.

BTW, we've ALL made mistakes like this! I'm sure I made another fucked up mistake with Wifey last week.

2012-12-21T18:02:25+00:00

Don't talk to her any more. There're 3 billion women on earth, you don't have time for one who tries to hurt you.

fappidyfappidy · 2012-12-19T00:29:46+00:00

Move on, man! As cliche as it is, there's tons of other awesome girls out there who DON'T bring other guys to a date. She wanted you to meet her friend? Why in the sam hell would she think that a date was the right time for this? Sounds like an excuse to me.

It's always shitty at first trying to let go, but after a week or so, you'll be back on your game.

MultipleMatrix · 2012-12-19T01:51:23+00:00

oooooooooooooo

I cringed. Hard. I mean, her bringing her friend sealed it for me though.

Furthur · 2012-12-19T05:21:07+00:00

me : I'm coming back

here is where you fucked up, plain and simple.

adanceparty · 2012-12-19T04:13:52+00:00

yea I thought it was bad when you went to her place and not the play. I saw you decided it was bullshit and left so I was like well good on you there I lost all hope when you turned around. Holy shit sooo bad. To be fair though I'm learning myself and with some girls I have been interested in, in the past I would probably have made a few of the same mistakes.

switch50 · 2012-12-19T06:26:23+00:00

"I came here to fuck! This is not fucking!!!" It's all good mate, now you can recognize that sort of bullshit in the future. Hope I never crash that hard though

wtjones · 2012-12-19T02:39:09+00:00

This post reeks of neediness. I'd want to bring another dude on the date. Have you read anything that's ever been posted in this subreddit? It makes me especially cringe because it reminds me of me when I was younger.

If I could give younger self some advice it would be: You need to go back and grasp the fundamentals, work on your inner game, and maybe take some time off from the ladies. In that time I want you to personify an abundance mentality. Actively look at all of the woman around you and contemplate how many beautiful amazing women are around you and think about how amazing it's gonna be when you can have any one of them that you want. Visualize being in the drivers seat in a relationship and not being treated like shit because you think this is the only girl that's ever gonna be, not quite, into you. I wanna see some FRs from you in the near future where you're fingering girls (multiple) in the hot tub, not making plans for the future.

HybridAthletics · 2012-12-19T14:44:53+00:00

I would literally never talk to this girl again. Just move on.

DanglezBarry · 2012-12-19T22:27:57+00:00

You initiate text conversation too much. You came off as kinda needy. It probably would have worked out in your favor if you had have been more patient and not smothered her so much.

In your defense she does sound like a total flake and sometimes there's nothing you can do.

Ramyth · 2012-12-19T05:24:37+00:00

OP, you forgot the abundance mentality. I think that would have allowed you to avoid all of this. Don't dwell on it. She's just another girl.

bl1y · 2012-12-19T05:35:01+00:00

Great work on recognizing what went wrong. That's a skill most guys can't figure out.

2012-12-19T05:49:10+00:00

You may have invested a lot of time into her... but she saved you from wasting a ton more. A girl like that is either manipulative or clueless. Not worth the effort. Learn and move one, mate.

RiseAboveIt · 2012-12-19T06:17:39+00:00

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oh84s · 2012-12-19T06:41:18+00:00

Dude you screwed up bad and i'm sure you think its the worst ever, everyone makes dumb mistakes. Ive been at this for a while and I had an interaction with a girl who was interested in me so bad I cringed for an hour.

The point is while you did fuck up, we've all fucked up. Fucking up is part of learning. Its not like you spent a month calling her or writing her 10 page long emails, i'm sure plenty of guys do that shit. You didn't cry. I'm sure 50% of people you meet on the street have worse stories.

Avoid her for the sake of your own respect and hold your head high.

Arto93 · 2012-12-19T07:30:51+00:00

Ugh..cringe worthy indeed. This reminds me of myself back in high school.

2udaylatif · 2012-12-19T08:03:12+00:00

You played it too cool from the beginning. You tried being too romantic instead of escalating hard. Escalate, escalate, escalate. If you ever feel like you are in a romantic movie type of scenario whip it out.

Gfresh404 · 2012-12-19T08:31:06+00:00

Just remember you'll learn more from your mistakes than you ever will from your successes. So I'd say you learned quite a bit haha

Ericgzg · 2012-12-19T08:34:31+00:00

We've all been there man. When you want a girl more than anything the best thing you can do is be ready to walk away at any time. It gets easier.

Jimbodogg · 2012-12-19T11:07:40+00:00

No dount you fucked up. But you know that.

Move on. Honestly it sounds like she's being a bitch. She knows she wasnt acting like a good date, nor was she acting interested or attentive to you prior to you leaving.

Ditch the broad and learn from the mistakes.

realtalk3 · 2012-12-19T13:10:15+00:00

"bet you're all cringing by this point" well you got that right at least

zedfox · 2012-12-19T13:58:59+00:00

Don't use "XD" "lol" or any emoticon bullshit unless you feel she is more attracted to 14 year old guys.

toysjoe · 2012-12-19T14:18:54+00:00

She bought another guy to the date? As in she purchased the services of a male person and sent him on the date on her behalf?

Wow either that date was really shitty or you've just discovered a new side of yourself.

sarcastic_response · 2012-12-19T14:22:57+00:00

She bought another guy to the date.

Yeah, because you guys had a date to begin with.

uberafc · 2012-12-19T14:38:53+00:00

I just have to ask this, did you think this was one of those "cute" girls who you thought was nice/good before this all happened?

SgtSplacker · 2012-12-19T14:40:57+00:00

Stop being so nice man! You have needs and desires too!!! TELL HER WHAT THEY ARE!!!

formerdigguser · 2012-12-19T14:55:28+00:00

Wow, that was awkward :D

But I liked your writing. I could really feel the awkwardness and cringed at every paragraph.

HSChronic · 2012-12-19T15:44:35+00:00

thanks for sharing, we all live and learn and it is reading experiences like this that help us all grow.

SupALupRT · 2012-12-19T16:06:27+00:00

One make out doesn't necessarily indicate dating interest. Made out with 2 girls last time I was out at the piano bar. (they didnt see each other obviously) One was no response on text, other seems luke warm. Do not spend a ton of effort on a girl you barely know, it comes off as very desperate and they can see that shit coming from a mile away. Next her and channel your energy on a girl that actually reciprocates.

2012-12-19T16:17:49+00:00

This whole thing made me cringe.

slaytalera · 2012-12-19T16:39:19+00:00

I'm saving this to read on the computer.

Honestly you learn more from failing in a grand manor like you have than you'll EVER learn on a subreddit, as long as you learned from this experience then it is only a good thing. And I think the noobs out there reading can connect better with this, rather then reading "alpha as fuck" threads all the time

ErnieJohn · 2012-12-20T15:24:37+00:00

Before the actual ball happened, me and her were in a hot tub and I told her the plan to go watch a piece of theatre at my old college, which was situated in her favourite small town which she loves and always wanted to visit. Came across instantly as a romantic classy kind of guy so this went well.

Don't make a 2nd date before you even start the 1st one. This kills any attraction she had for you.

Not a high status move. And really don't you want to do the date and see what she's like before signing up for another date with her?

This signals you're not making a choice based on how the date goes and that you like her.

Additionally it doesn't make you look intriguing and mysterious.

dyl3ted · 2012-12-21T19:35:41+00:00

Now you have an awesome story to tell to your kids. :D

2012-12-19T02:11:59+00:00

ouch.

RiseAboveIt · 2012-12-19T05:13:10+00:00

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n8dawwg · 2012-12-19T15:52:31+00:00

But first off the next time you see her just be honest. Tell her "Look, I fucked up, I amde this relationship out to be something it wasnt and got jealous. I like you and all but I realize I made alot of mistakes, no hard feelings at all I will see you around" The reaon you are saying allof this is becuase you dont want her telling all the other girls about how much of a bitch that you are. I know that sounds harsh but you dont want her fucking up other possible relationships for you in the future.

chaconne · 2012-12-19T02:30:22+00:00

Yeah you definitely went full crazy there. So she's sick and perhaps just wants to hang out, and decides to bring her best friend along, and you flip out?

There were some communication issues on her side (like failing to tell you that Romeo+Juliet was off), but you handled it badly and somehow decided to blame her for not following your unspoken rules. I could understand how she wouldn't want to keep seeing a guy who:

couldn't handle a minor deviation of plans (like the presence of a guy who she's known for years) without acting like it's the end of the world. Frankly if he's in the friendzone you have free rein romantically.
decides that she's somehow rude for daring to open her social circle to you. Why date a guy who can't stand to be around your friends?

Anyway, it's a long road - take heart. I like to remind myself that the vast majority of people in everyday life just want to be treated fairly, and you can get quite far in life by assuming that if they choose to spend time with you, they have good intentions.

JonnyPowerSauce · 2012-12-19T05:14:02+00:00

That whole situation is messed up. I don't even know how it got to that point if it seemed like she was interested at first. I wouldn't be too hard on yourself though. It's not like you can prepare yourself for something like that.

dking168 · 2012-12-19T06:15:09+00:00

I love how in your post you write points where you are like "I bet you are cringing like a beast and tbh, I was so disappointed the whole story."

You havesuch serious one-itis that I feel pity for you more than laughter.

The point of all this is to pick yourself up and dust yourself up and move on. You only get stronger with each rejection.

StubbA · 2012-12-19T11:28:00+00:00

Surely she explained who the guy was? You saw a guy and automatically thought she wanted to bang him...now think about if you were her boyfriend and you saw her with the guy, you would've acted the same way.

Need to stop acting like a jealous baby dude.

gausslaw · 2012-12-19T14:37:53+00:00

man you sound like a pathetic loser

rotating_pencil · 2012-12-19T23:32:06+00:00

She didn't fuck up, she can do whatever she wants to. There may be a reason she brought him; there may not be. Instead of being overly analytical, just be your usual awesome self and roll with the punches. That said, good on you to reflect

funkyjames · 2012-12-20T20:22:55+00:00

Man, i cringed a lot from reading this but ITS OK!! True, you did fuck up, but its good to see you realize that. Realizing your mistakes are the first steps to perfecting your game.

I hate when people take "be alpha" as "be a jerk." You should have befriended the guy and conveyed that he poses no threat to you. Additionally you should have rode it out; he probably wouldn't have stayed the whole night.

Another critique is that you're texting too much and sounding needy because she hardly reciprocated your flirting. Tone it down a bit. You may never get into this girls pants or date her - you did fuck up - but shes a valuable lesson for the next girl.

Title	[FR] She bought another guy to the date.
Author	RiseAboveIt
Upvotes	247
Comments	168
Date	December 18, 2012 11:51 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/152ui2/fr_she_bought_another_guy_to_the_date/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/fr-she-bought-another-guy-to-the-date.1308332 https://theredarchive.com/post/1308332

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