Gym Motivation

Jsutton3187 · 2024-03-17T21:03:13+00:00

Got on Test C and did an 8 week Dianabol Cycle, diet, etc. Dropped off cycle, kept pushing. That's what worked for me anyways. Just do your research, get blood checked, watch your hydration levels with anything like that. I went to the extreme because I felt I needed the extra kick. It worked well.

Joocewayne · 2024-03-16T03:27:30+00:00

Here’s something I do to cut through the mental crap that binds you to inaction.

You can do almost anything one time. You can do two minutes of almost any activity. The first step is drive to the gym. Go inside. No one is judging you but yourself, so just get there. If you manage that, you accomplished more than you have staying home on the couch.

Then go do one thing. Bench press. That’s it. One set wasn’t hard. You built the foundation of a habit.

Since you built momentum, you will likely finish out a few sets and maybe try some other stuff. Decide when you should go, set the days on your calendar and do it again.

The main thing is build the habit and have consistency. Don’t get too tied up in all the different minutiae of programs and CrossFit vs circuits vs cardio vs bodybuilding vs powerlifting… doesn’t matter. Now is the time to just get yourself there and doing something regularly.

Once you have that down, you’ll feel better and you can apply that same thing to anything you need to tackle. Cleaning, do dishes for two minutes. That’s it, if you want to stop, stop. Reading a book, again, two minutes. Hope that made sense.

probebeta · 2024-03-15T20:30:07+00:00

Listen to Andrew Tate in the morning, some red pill content and just love the pain the gym brings. Once you start seeing results and feel comfortable taking your shirt off in front of people (women), maintaining that that body will be your main motivation.

Thebadmamajama · 2024-03-15T06:37:44+00:00

The best habit I developed was daily pushups and squats.

I could only do 10 at a time. But I ramped up to 20. Then did that five times a day (takes a couple minutes each time). Suddenly that's 100 pushups a day. Did something similar with squats.

I don't need the gym.

I schedule it in, can do it pretty much wherever I am at the moment. Roll out of bed, pushups. Get hoke from work, pushups. Finish dinner, pushups.

Do this daily, and just write down your total each day someplace.

My arms, chest and legs are looking great even though I'm rocking the dad bod. It's kept my weight in check.

Try something like this. It's easy.

Gullible_Rich_7156 · 2024-03-15T02:50:09+00:00

I just look around at other men my age (42)-at guys who have just given up on any kind of meaningful physical activity and are content with the extra 30-40 lbs they’re carrying, the fact that they have no muscle tone and couldn’t run a mile if they tried, the fact that they’re headed for Type II Diabetes, etc… That gives me all the motivation I need. Putting aside everything that the gym does for your appearance and mental health, IMO your 40s and 50s are basically the last chance you have to choose to have a life worth living. When I’m in the gym I see a lot of men older than me (we have a few regulars in their late 70s and early 80s) who have great quality of life at their advanced age because they’ve remained committed to being physically fit. That’s great motivation as well.

-sweetchuck · 2024-03-15T00:02:09+00:00

You're fighting depression good sir.

whereami113 · 2024-03-14T21:53:13+00:00

people mix up motivation and discipline.

You need discipline to keep doing the same thing over and over. No one is ever truly motivated

randomly421 · 2024-03-14T21:36:49+00:00

I take a bunch of pre workout, and then I don't have a choice but to burn it off. Maybe it's all in my head, but I'm going with it.

I8erbeaver2 · 2024-03-14T20:09:06+00:00

I lasted 2 weeks. But my job keeps me very busy anyway so it helped.

chrishooley · 2024-03-14T19:50:33+00:00

I used to be a gym freak, the last year of my marriage and the year since has been so stressful I haven't been able to sleep and my motivation is near zero. Every single day one of my biggest stresses is that I am trying to motivate myself to get back in the gym cuz I know it helps my brain just as much as my body. It's been so hard, I wasn't able to get myself going.

My friend however gave me this tidbit which helped get me there at least sometimes. Said a little is better than none. You don't have to create a rigorous routine where you kick your own ass like you used to, Just get some push ups in. Just walk. Anything. 5 minutes is better than no minutes.

Since hearing that, I have gotten in a few workouts. Nothing major but I did pick up some weights. And with my body slipping as far as I let it in the past 2 years, it's already doing it's thing. Already feel like 5% better and slept a little more. I feel like I can ramp this up. No way I would have been able to jump back into my 4 day, 90 minute routine. But maybe I'll get back there. For now, doing 60 push ups was better than doing nothing.

proper1welve · 2024-03-14T19:04:05+00:00

There’s a million reasons to not go to the gym, you just gotta find the ONE reason to get in the car and go.

Emotional_Lettuce251 · 2024-03-14T19:03:01+00:00

One of my biggest issues is that I've been sleeping like crap. I know it's all intertwined ... diet, sleep & exercise. I'm either wide awake at 10:00 pm and then just lay in bed until I can't take it anymore (like 2:00 am), or fall immediately asleep at 10:00 pm, but then wake up at like 2:00 am. Either way, I'm always freaking exhausted.

I also just need my own place at this point. I was ordered out of my house on 02/01/24 and have been at my parents (which, is where I've pretty much been for the past 3 years ... we were separated for almost 2 1/2 years, and finally I told her it was ridiculous and I was moving back into the house. That was in September 2023. She filed the first week of November 2023). For the 3 years prior to that I was sleeping on the couch and the only space I really had to myself was my little corner office in our unfinished basement (which the stbx is now getting finished). Anyway, I basically feel like I've been homeless for the past 6 years (even though I've had a roof over my head). I've gotten way off topic from the OP. Sorry to hijack the post.

I guess what I'm getting at is that it's very hard for me to find motivation/have discipline/create a routine when there just doesn't seem to be any true normalcy in my life right now. My whole life has been turned upside down and my stbx is just chilling in our home, getting her legal fees paid for by an uncle, has the kids like 80% of the time ... I didn't even want this divorce, yet it's my life that has to be totally put back together.

DivorceTA1988 · 2024-03-14T18:52:59+00:00

Go, don’t stop going! Even if you just screw around on the treadmill for an hour just go on your gym day. If you miss a day try to go the next day. Work your way into a good heavy lifting routine but don’t skip a day!

I go three days a week and I’m pretty jacked. I’m not the biggest guy but I definitely have visible muscles and people definitely notice these days. And I feel so much better too.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2024-03-14T18:35:16+00:00

I always start small when getting back into a routine. I start with just walking on the treadmill and increase from there. The elliptical gives me the most endorphins with less wear and tear on the body. Start small with weights too and just start increasing. I also start with working out the glory muscles(biceps-triceps) first to get quick easy results. Get a dumbbell set for home if needed so it’s less activation energy to get started. Also as far as keeping the routine, workout to feel good. Make it an addiction like coffee in the morning. I work out for the stress relief and mental clarity. It’s become a drug at this point. Apple Watch is great for tracking your workouts too. Good luck and hope the advice helps.

yes2matt · 2024-03-14T18:09:26+00:00

Class reunion.

P_Galley · 2024-03-14T17:55:55+00:00

The motivation should be self evident. Discipline to go every day is what you need to develop. I have lost 30lbs , while gaining 12lbs lean mass this past year. We haven't officially separated but I am just doing my thing. Gym, focus on work and golf. My wife knows I am a good loyal boy. But it doesn't hurt looking strong again.

Specialist-Camp-3798 · 2024-03-14T17:47:21+00:00

At this point I work out to keep me sane. Trust me, a good workout doesn't erase your problems but you feel stronger and less helpless. I have really bad anxiety and its been the best medicine to alleviate it. Even if you just put in 30 minutes walking on the treadmill. Do it for yohrself!

Maximum_Use5854 · 2024-03-14T17:32:16+00:00

I read the power of habit book. Helped me note that coffee is a big driver /reward for me so I decided if I wanted my reward I needed to earn it with yoga and gym time.

Hope this helps you should you also want to try this mental trick to get you going back to the gym

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2024-03-14T17:26:31+00:00

I was pretty yolked before I got married worked out 3 4 times a week, then after I got married I put in a lot of hours at work, worked on the yard and the house to make it a perfect home for her, rarely worked out plus having her not cook and getting McDonald’s as a meal I begin to lose a lot of muscle mass. I struggle just to go 3 times a week, it’s pretty disheartening seeing yourself skinny when you were jacked before.

azwildcat74 · 2024-03-14T17:05:09+00:00

Motivation is fleeting. Discipline is what you’re lacking.

Stacking_Plates45 · 2024-03-14T16:58:13+00:00

I don’t. I quit lifting after the divorce and got into running, makes me way happier and healthier than bodybuilding.

MidniteOG · 2024-03-14T16:41:56+00:00

You need to build a routine, and understand that change wont happen over night. Set small goals

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-03-14T16:33:24+00:00

It’s difficult at first. You will be sore for the first month or so.. However once you get a few months into it your energy levels and mood will noticeably increase and you’ll start seeing changes in your body. It’ll become an addiction to see how much you can improve week to week.

The eye candy is also very nice. Some of these girls think they are at the beach and are apparently competing to see who can get as close to naked without breaking the law. Just don’t be a weirdo.

zauriel1980 · 2024-03-14T16:27:09+00:00

I’m in the thick of things with my divorce (she dropped the bomb a month and a half ago). I bought a couple dumbbells for home and have been using them but only for very short times. Nothing that’s gonna get me into shape (silver lining is all the stress from this led me to lose my appetite and within a few weeks I’d lost like 80% of my dad gut, so I’m trying to keep it off).

I’ve decided I need to work out properly in a gym, but the idea of just going alone is not appealing to me, especially because like you said, I don’t think I’ll have the motivation to go. I’ll make excuses.

And since I also felt that I needed something social to do with other people instead of wallowing in my self-pity so much (not that it’ll stop fully, but I need to find a way to lessen it), I started looking into gyms like CrossFit, where the workouts are done with other people and have coaches who are there to guide you and motivate you. That’s something that appeals way more to me than going to Anytime Fitness by myself and not knowing what I’m doing. Doing random workouts that may not actually show me improvement.

So, that’s an option. There are usually CrossFit gyms near you unless you live in a very rural area. Yes, they cost more than a regular gym membership. It’s about deciding if that self-improvement is worth it to you. I’m looking to sign up soon and start my journey to feel better and look better. I know it’s going to take time, and I’m not likely to be a muscle-bound guy by summer, but I feel like I gotta do what I gotta do.

Capable_Luck_2817 · 2024-03-14T16:24:59+00:00

Motivation follows action, not the other way around. Once you string together a couple of weeks attending the gym consistently, you’ll find that you can’t go without it.

Personally, I took up powerlifting post-divorce. Getting stronger, setting new PRs and competing against others is what keeps me going to the gym.

Fwooply · 2024-03-14T16:20:55+00:00

I do cardio daily on an old Lifecycle bike. I keep it very simple. 30 minutes. It's the only time I watch television. Fights depression.

Free weights are trickier. Goals are much more complex. Leg, push, shoulders, back. I guess it's one thing if it's maintenance. But long-term goals like building mass seem much more elusive in a depressed state. Maybe even back fires.

Gattsama · 2024-03-14T16:20:44+00:00

First, ask if the gym is the correct exercise for you? I personally don't like the gym. I do calisthenics, run, rings, and yoga; at my house. Weights are just not my thing.

Second, the most important thing is NOT motivation. It's discipline and consistency. Start small and make it something you do regardless of how you feel. For example, no matter the weather, do a 10-minute walk 5 days per week. Or 5 push-ups 2-3x per day (5 days per week).

These sound like nothing, and they kind of are, but the real goal is building a new lifestyle. In this new lifestyle this is just something you do. Same as brushing your teeth and wiping your ass :) Motivation will come and go, but if you stay consistent you will succeed.

The big mistake people make is aiming to high too fast. That results in pain, suffering, and failure before they have the discipline needed. And they quit. By aiming for sub-fatigue in the beginning you can build the skills necessary to ultimately aim super big.

Would recommend looking up David Goggins on YouTube. The biggest barrier to your success is your mind, once you learn how to just do regardless of feelings, shit really opens up.

Be safe out there...

SelectionNo3078 · 2024-03-14T16:14:12+00:00

I focus on knowing how much my mood improves after about the first five minutes on my warm up jog/run

My body doesn’t ever change much but I know I feel and look better if I work out nearly every day.

edr5619 · 2024-03-14T16:05:52+00:00

I have found starting small works for me. Finding the motivation to go for a short walk around the block is easier than a full-scale workout at the gym. Do that for a few days, increase the distance, etc. to build the habit and keep working up.

If it's the gym you want, don't feel obligated to go for a full workout every time. There is nothing wrong with going and doing a few curls or bench press, or a few squats, etc. at a time and then leaving after 15 minutes. Get some dumbbells for home if leaving the house is a problem, even.

I had the same problem. I barbell lift and motivation for such difficult work was an issue for me. I wasn't sleeping well, or eating well and so recovery was also an issue. Again, you scale back to what you can manage, recognising that it will take some time to get back to where you were.

huggsnkisses · 2024-03-14T16:01:55+00:00

Just make it a habit do it hiit at home Don't need any equipment even. To answer your question a couple years ago someone that I didn't know yelled from their car a really f****** mean thing to say and it was directed at me after that I just started working out again.

If you're serious look up Lebe Stark on YouTube he's the best workout influencer I know of. The best part is these days they really honed in on how to work out at home so you just need a kettlebell or like I said earlier no equipment at all

To further sell you on high intensity interval training it works well after work because you do it and then you lose fat while you sleep so you do this four times a week or three times a week also sand bags are f****** great for this anyway I hope that you experience what I have I don't like the gym at all I have a gym membership I use it for the pool with my kids I hardly ever go unless it's to like a class just to get some social stuff but yeah good luck brother

WittyBeautiful7654 · 2024-03-14T15:59:41+00:00

Rage and heart ache. Just go in there and fuckin do hammer curls till I go cross eyed.

DicksOut4Edamame · 2024-03-14T15:55:07+00:00

Realizing that motivation is irrelevant. Set a goal and follow through on it. Be disciplined — for yourself and your children

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