Apprently an old friend no longer wishes to have anything to do with me because I’m a man. Honestly infuriating.

2DogsCaged · 2024-11-01T23:54:33+00:00

Wow. That’s not even just sexism, that’s just pure hatred. She has to live with herself and you’re better off without her in your world.

Future-AI-Dude · 2024-11-01T23:52:23+00:00

That's pretty fucked up. Good riddance to bad rubbish. A lot of mental and delusional women these days...

darksarke · 2024-11-01T23:41:54+00:00

That’s not “boundaries” that’s just sexism💀

belody · 2024-11-02T00:11:19+00:00

She's a misandrist that will never admit it Good riddance

Billmacia · 2024-11-02T02:06:30+00:00

Thats not boundry that just mysandry. Imagine a Man saying that je don't want to be near women. Hé would ne call an incel on a heartbeat

MannerNo7000 · 2024-11-01T23:51:12+00:00

There’s a lot of mentally deranged people nowadays.

I don’t think it’s exclusive to women but definitely more instances of it.

The issue is this woman will definitely talk to men after she’s done being moody.

Ghost-Writer · 2024-11-02T00:27:41+00:00

Eh fuck em

foreverstudent8 · 2024-11-02T03:16:07+00:00

After she said, “ I respect the hussle, but I’d rather slit my wrist in a bathtub, than go near a man again”. I would’ve cut off all communication with her right then and there. You kept trying to talk to her. Big mistake.

mrindividualistic1 · 2024-11-01T23:52:32+00:00

this is so typical for a woman in 2024

pidgeyusegust · 2024-11-02T04:47:08+00:00

It’s not even worth your energy to be offended. Find someone who isn’t burnt out by countless wrong choices on tinder.

Komabeard · 2024-11-02T01:07:59+00:00

Not worth any effort. Cheers to a brighter future

T-72B3OBR2023 · 2024-11-02T02:00:04+00:00

Dont entertain her BS, she wanted you to grovel at her feet and beg her to let you be her friend, that you are one of the "good men" etc. Good on you for standing up for yourself and not playing her game, trust me she will be talking to guys in no time after her little hissy fit.

I personally would have been a lot ruder but sometimes they are not worth that.

i would have said "oh is that so? bye then, dont need misandrist garbage in my life".

The faster you move on, the faster you forget about them, the more it stings for them.

63daddy · 2024-11-02T00:20:47+00:00

Some answers seem to think it’s about you and her, not men in general, but her comment that she’d rather slit her wrists in the bathtub than be near a man shows she’s got a hatred of men in general and that’s it’s not about you specifically.

Perhaps she’s had a bad experience with a man or men but the problem I’ve seen is it’s become politically correct to hold all men responsible for the actions of other men whom we have no control over.

This is what patriarchy theory and all the related identity politics are leading to more and more: the actions of a few are being used to justify hatred and discrimination against all men.

Engudeor · 2024-11-02T00:35:07+00:00

Sounds like a typical B

introspectthis · 2024-11-02T03:36:52+00:00

When I see shit like this, it makes me think this person fully deserved whatever happened to them. I recognize that's wrong, I'm not a fan of it either.. But no matter how much you enjoyed clowns before, having thousands of them honking their noses in your ear every day for years will poison you to them.

Even then, at least the clowns wouldn't start spreading lies about how it was really you who honker their nose without their consent to ruin your life.

DivertismentChannel · 2024-11-02T09:00:30+00:00

This is the effects of her probably single female friends or the feminism propaganda

floridaboy202 · 2024-11-02T00:34:23+00:00

She sounds like quite the b***h

UglyDude1987 · 2024-11-02T03:47:31+00:00

Are you sure you were friends? The way she's writing don't sound like it. Also given that you guys haven't talked in years seems like you guys aren't friends.

walterwallcarpet · 2024-11-02T05:33:19+00:00

She's just bought her own house! So, of course she don't need no man! She'd rather slit her wrists in a bathtub than go near one again!

Until she needs a plumber for that bathtub.

anothermanwithaplan · 2024-11-02T00:44:28+00:00

Bad experience = all men are bad type of women aren’t worth the battery it cost you for that conversation.

timeteo_de_el_cielo · 2024-11-02T02:05:21+00:00

Fuck that

Averzan · 2024-11-02T00:42:37+00:00

That's perfect. No man will have to deal with her again, fortunately. If only more women were consistent with what they believe and applied it in real life.

Sad-Persimmon-5484 · 2024-11-02T02:32:19+00:00

This is so childish

CharlieUpATree · 2024-11-02T03:08:45+00:00

Yikes, have fun avoiding half the population

OnThatSigmaGrindset · 2024-11-01T23:57:23+00:00

never talk to her again. she clearly hates men

Elmoslightpole · 2024-11-02T00:03:04+00:00

Just curious why do you put xx after everything?

arialux · 2024-11-02T00:37:22+00:00

Hahaha she's just triggered

cheffy3369 · 2024-11-02T02:31:44+00:00

Honestly you were much nicer than I would have been. I would have had some choice words for that POS.

lifeISprettyok · 2024-11-02T03:28:34+00:00

Wow just wow! Listen let’s spin this, she did you a favor. People will show/ tell you who they are - believe them.

monkeyninja6969 · 2024-11-02T06:16:57+00:00

That person needs therapy. Bad.

caporaltito · 2024-11-02T08:20:24+00:00

Some /r/menkampf level shit right here

aBlackKing · 2024-11-02T09:09:02+00:00

Well dodged a bullet. At least you know to not talk to her again. She is a good example of why I don’t go out of my way to associate with females.

SEKenjoyer21 · 2024-11-02T10:27:02+00:00

God forbid you do the same tho , you would be a misogynist.

creamer143 · 2024-11-02T10:56:16+00:00

Nah, man, it's good to get toxic people out of your life.

Greedy-Ambition6551 · 2024-11-02T01:30:58+00:00

She’s saved you from a vile toxic friendship. Even though she’s a total misandrist who needs serious therapy~ she’s at least done you the favour of cutting the friendship short.

Honestly, when I see this, I just recommend men try MGTOW

jessi387 · 2024-11-02T01:32:24+00:00

I’ve already removed multiple family members from my life who are women. And would recommend any guy do the same. It’s actually made things much better for me .

jessi387 · 2024-11-02T01:35:37+00:00

What’s ironic is that she will probably try and force her way into male dominated spaces and run to whatever man she can for any assistance neccessary while also blaming “the patriarchy” for all her problems.

TheShyDreamer · 2024-11-02T03:10:14+00:00

Had an interaction with a colleague.like that . They are so engrossed in hate. They constantly tell men to not be hateful to woman because of past bad experience. But they are hateful about men. They tell not to stereotype women, but thet end up stereotyping men .One side they say not to call men superior based on biology but will scream about how superior women are because they give birth...Hypocrisy. Hypocrisy. Hypocrisy.

JeremyMcWinnin · 2024-11-02T06:03:27+00:00

I had to room with a lesbian couple when I split with my ex, when I finally met the one girl, she told me she would never respect me or treat me equally because I’m a man and I don’t deserve it

Alternative-Fee-60 · 2024-11-02T08:19:01+00:00

Pure autism

Idol_Four · 2024-11-02T10:39:00+00:00

She's hateful and you're better off without her
If this is an actual conversation, you come off as too needy, too much trying for someone who's barely responding to you from text n.1

Lolocraft1 · 2024-11-02T12:50:37+00:00

"Yeah sorry we can’t be friends, I’d rather slit my wrist in a bathhub than go near a black person again. Thank you for respecting my boundaries"

Superb_Raspberry_208 · 2024-11-02T12:51:24+00:00

Associating groups like race,gender, sexuality, or even religion etc with evil because of experience has always and will always be disgusting. There are millions of people who have bad experiences with mostly one group, and they still don't turn out racist, sexist, or discriminatory. It is NEVER an excuse, and anyone who uses their experience as an excuse just wants to take the easy way of being a discriminatory cunt.

TodoAo · 2024-11-02T13:21:42+00:00

Stay away from people like that. "Would rather Slit her wrist in a bathtub" just do not engage with someone like that.

whatwhatwtf · 2024-11-02T14:36:13+00:00

Honestly who cares? Just let it go bro. There are plenty of women I’d rather not hang out with. Wish her good luck and move on.

don_Mugurel · 2024-11-02T16:16:29+00:00

Dude, you should be happy she let you know so fast and so decisive. I’d take people like her over people jerking my chain and “leading me on” any fucking day of the week.

It cost you no time to find out you shouldn’t bother with her any more. Salt of the earth she is imho. You didn’t have to make tine to go out, ger dressed, pay for parking, pay for coffee/food etc etc etc and then waste effort on a connection that would prove not only fruitless, but costly with no benefits (ideas, friendship and/or romance).

You should have said: “thanks for being open and honest and not jerking my chain! Best of luck to you”

LibertarianLibertine · 2024-11-02T19:16:05+00:00

Dude. Why do you talk like that? Why do you end every message with 'xx' like some teenage girl? So you know some weird chick that doesn't want to talk to you, who cares?

No_Reaction_2168 · 2024-11-02T22:30:31+00:00

That's painful dude but at least you aren't desperate enough to keep being her friend, and I respect you for that. Much more men shouldn't accept being walked over.

Patriarchal_Shitlord · 2024-11-03T01:44:53+00:00

You used too many words. You should have just said "ok, good luck with that" and bounced.

eli_ashe · 2024-11-02T00:01:03+00:00

dang, they going all out on it.

Straight-Ad8059 · 2024-11-02T08:01:30+00:00

Wow that's fucked up but if she feels that way fuck her move on I guess

Fickle_Ad_2825 · 2024-11-02T12:00:47+00:00

Friend is one of the most important and powerful words. Don't waste it on a female like her, and this is good riddance.

CatacombsRave · 2024-11-02T21:53:40+00:00

You handled that really well, king. Don’t feel bad - who needs her?

Reasonable-Mixture81 · 2024-11-02T22:08:03+00:00

"bud"

roubent · 2024-11-02T22:25:38+00:00

It’s simply not your job to be her therapist. You probably dodged a bullet. Good riddance.

TERMINXX · 2024-11-03T00:01:07+00:00

Women saying "bud" is usually so condescending and you can tell when they say that they don't respect you.

Good riddance.

GodHand7 · 2024-11-02T01:41:25+00:00

The massive amount of misandrist propaganda has rotten people's heads apperantly

Lonewolf_087 · 2024-11-02T00:58:15+00:00

Boundaries. That’s a nice way of saying “wall”. “I’m putting you behind a wall. You don’t get to have me. I get the power, understand? You are nothing”. It’s the attitude many have. Let it go be a better person. It’s like 7/10 are this way. Even old female friends I had they have gotten so fucked up. It’s petty power trips that are making men go their own way.

Electronic-Quail4464 · 2024-11-02T04:36:08+00:00

Gosh, sounds like she's having a tough time.

You should post screen caps to social media where her friends are so they can see the real her.

_90s_Nation_ · 2024-11-02T07:03:46+00:00

She might be into girls, now

Dio_Landa · 2024-11-02T22:26:07+00:00

Dude, that's a trauma response. Just let it go.

AnySmoke2016 · 2024-11-02T22:43:29+00:00

Dude jus thank god you 're nota married to this, she reject you the way she did is a blessing

mrmensplights · 2024-11-02T02:23:04+00:00

Hey, at least she outed herself early. Imagine being stuck out and she lays all the self-hatred and the bitterness she has with life that she's projecting onto men all over you.

Bojack35 · 2024-11-02T00:06:01+00:00

Seems she interpreted it as interest in more than friendship.

Obviously we all lack the context you know on the friendship to date. But my read is that she took the offer to buy a drink as a date suggestion more than a friend situation.

The general point that it is far less likely a man (having just gone through a break up it seems?) would say he doesnt want anything to do with women stands. Equally, that man is probably receiving less unwanted new attention from women than a newly single woman gets from men. Probably just bad timing all round.

mrkanu · 2024-11-02T08:36:31+00:00

You handled that quite well.

Jabrark1998 · 2024-11-02T03:15:42+00:00

The lack of xx in your last text is not wasted on me. That must've hurt fr.

NoIndependent8505 · 2024-11-02T09:14:59+00:00

phle khud galat ladko k sath fas jao unki harkato ko ignore krdo baad me ye rr kro k saare mard ek jase hote hai

Virtual_Piece · 2024-11-02T00:50:48+00:00

Well, fuck her then (not sexual, I meant forget her)

PrimeWolf88 · 2024-11-02T13:17:33+00:00

"I don't respect your boundaries at all and do not wish to be friends with you going forward. You are a horrible sexist. Please delete my number and do not contact me again."

Treasure_hand · 2024-11-02T15:52:53+00:00

Let em cat out

outhouse_wholesaler · 2024-11-02T15:53:52+00:00

Wow such enthusiasm in her replies on the first page! You really get the sense that she’s happy to hear from an old friend.

Mnmsaregood · 2024-11-02T16:31:35+00:00

What a psycho

Mnmsaregood · 2024-11-02T16:31:47+00:00

Sexism against men is so in

prick-in-the-wall · 2024-11-02T17:28:53+00:00

What a sack of shit.

Comfortable_Change_6 · 2024-11-02T18:28:33+00:00

imagine the opposite

boatsndhoes7 · 2024-11-03T00:47:28+00:00

Take this as a lesson never be nice to women

passionPunch · 2024-11-03T01:01:58+00:00

What the fuck are the xx for? Maybe she just think's you're weird.

Playful-Connection12 · 2024-11-03T05:44:59+00:00

I truly believe that a lot of these women are just hateful and misandrist and use the guise of “oh I’ve been hurt by men” or “I’ve had too many bad experiences with men”. At this point it’s starting to sound like a broken record.

gowithflow192 · 2024-11-02T09:05:07+00:00

Women cannot be friends with men. You learned your lesson.

Proper_Frosting_6693 · 2024-11-02T08:53:30+00:00

The beta orbiter was done a favour by her!

deedara · 2024-11-02T14:06:23+00:00

That’s her right. Just like you have yours. Everyone can like or dislike anyone for any reason. You are also welcome to your own opinions about that, move on and don’t worry about it. It’s not affecting you, so who gives a shit?

gmnotyet · 2024-11-02T00:44:37+00:00

Why would you even want to associate with a person like this?

"Oh well, she was nice before she went crazy."

blonde_prince_pearl · 2024-11-02T02:49:18+00:00

She's a truly lost soul now

heywoodidaho · 2024-11-02T00:50:40+00:00

New house? I am genuinely curious about were she will find all girl general contractors and other home services when something inevitably goes wrong/ needs remodeling at the place? I'd love to know how far her hypocrisy will go when her toilet backs up.

Grudge76 · 2024-11-02T09:48:48+00:00

Something is going to break in her house, then she will want men to be around her.

lifemagiccat · 2024-11-02T07:14:42+00:00

As long as it works both ways perhaps. If this is acceptable, then a man can say he'd rather not have female friends/contacts other than occasional transactional. Of course, it would be seen as hateful the other way around. But hating and disliking are not the same thing. You can decide to withdraw from something because it doesn't make you happy and it can be positive. Perhaps she needed to phrase that better, like, 'I've been really damaged and hurt recently, and I'm going to stick to female freinds to protect myself.'

This could be the answer for many men. I'm older now and looking back over my female friendships, they never made me happy, I never enjoyed thier company deep down. Plus of course, in any dispute or conversation, you can only be wrong. I know women aquantances, and if they need something from me they will ask, but I don't want to spend time with them particularly as I'm at the age that I realised I'm happiest by myself, and if not then with other men, and it's not based on hate. I want to be able to voice this and for it to be acceptable.

I was body searched by the police once for sitting too close to a white woman (we were together, I'm not white) and the assumption was she must be a victim of me. Another time, a woman came up and asked the lady I was with if I was hurting her (I was holding her hand).

Yep. Happy with male friends/alone. But I don't hate anyone.

shivaswara · 2024-11-02T09:40:46+00:00

Thanks bud

TubularBrainRevolt · 2024-11-02T13:17:45+00:00

This is fucking delusional.

MysticPulse24 · 2024-11-03T04:55:23+00:00

You don't need that kind of hatred bro. Leave them be.

KastroFidel111 · 2024-11-03T06:42:29+00:00

I don't like women either who aren't slobbing my knob.

Upper-Ad9228 · 2024-11-03T07:35:01+00:00

i understand its infuriating, but she attleast being polite about it and i respect that.

theeightytwentyrule · 2024-11-03T11:26:55+00:00

I would tell her to feel free.

-MetalSonic- · 2024-11-03T11:41:12+00:00

Looks like simping.

American_PP · 2024-11-03T11:53:55+00:00

Delete the contact.

She's just a dumb c.

Zero reason to be talking to that ever again.

noregrets_12 · 2024-11-03T16:54:19+00:00

honestly she could’ve phrased it way better. It’s somewhat normal to have apprehension due to trauma based against male/female. In this case she clearly was not ready for more social interaction it seems sorry that happened

Non_intertainer87 · 2024-11-04T18:36:46+00:00

Ahem....

Woman BAD

SimbadLeuko · 2024-11-05T00:36:18+00:00

Honestly I currently feel like this H. feels about men but about women. Why? all the societal problems we are having and the way they vote can be track down to their choices which really makes me so mad because we as men have to pay the price. I am distancing myself a little bit from women at the moment.

random_ginger16 · 2024-11-06T00:36:07+00:00

Don’t be kind to these people

KorbenDallas_85 · 2024-11-06T01:23:41+00:00

These are the type of people you are happy to not have in your life years down the road. After she isolated herself she will have nobody to blame but herself. Take the high road and move forward.

Late-Hat-9144 · 2024-11-06T02:59:13+00:00

That's not a boundary, it's just her mysandry creeping through. Sounds like she's been on one too many an hating forums online and bought the bs hook, line and sinker.

Sounds like you've dodged a bullet, say by Felicia and block her... she's not worth the emotional effort.

timscarey · 2024-11-07T03:17:10+00:00

Bro. She doesn't owe you anything.

Her joke was actually pretty funny and you getting offended by it is legit creepy.

Are you pretending that you weren't hoping to hook up with her? No one is buying that.

ShutTheFrontDoorToo · 2024-11-02T01:54:56+00:00

Or was it the BF responding…????

soliton-gaydar · 2024-11-02T04:39:06+00:00

Maybe I'm just a dog, but anytime I'm asking somebody out to drinks, it's to bone them. Taco Bell is cheaper for catching up, plus I get to have my Crunchwrap Supreme.

Try that next time, OP.

Top_Professional4545 · 2024-11-02T06:23:17+00:00

Shit the whole tounge face prolly fucked the vibe up lol

Lovebomber777 · 2024-11-02T02:57:54+00:00

This is why we need Trump to win. Her way of thinking is exactly how the left thinks.

CardMechanic · 2024-11-02T01:03:33+00:00

You should have let it go after “goodbye”. That was a pretty clear message that she didn’t want to be bothered. She doesn’t owe you an explanation beyond “no”. She doesn’t want the company of a man. No need to be offended for yourself,or the rest of us. Let it go, she’s not into you.

ahedonik · 2024-11-02T14:45:10+00:00

why are you offering someone you thought was datin another man to go out with you. deserved humiliation

AirSailer · 2024-11-02T01:02:20+00:00

I can understand her reasoning and don't think it's being sexist. After my divorce, and up to this day, I keep women out of my personal life. Not because they are bad, but because my life is better without them in it. I interact with women at work and normal life activities and I'm pleasant and respectful to them, but I don't interact with them on a friendship or relationship level whatsoever. Does that make me sexist? I don't think so. But frankly, I don't care if it did either.

itiswhatitiswgatitis · 2024-11-01T23:42:17+00:00

Maybe I'm reading this the wrong way, but purely by intention I would have to disagree with you.

I don't understand the dynamic that there might have been, her reaction is kind of ridiculous but you didn't need to respond at all.

I don't see this as just friends, I see it more as looking for something more.

Economy_Machine4007 · 2024-11-02T07:12:48+00:00

Tips from a fellow Man. Your last message was unnecessary. You haven’t spoken in a few years, you’ve obviously had sex before and sexting was probably the only text communications you had with this woman. Due to that, your msgs are far too pushy. If she is not responding with a question to you then that’s it she has answered your question end of conversation. So that doesn’t happen and you don’t annoy someone by sending 45 single line text msgs, practice writing in one or two paragraphs and only sending 1 msg which will include your main question. Be honest as well don’t fuck around. Lastly, no one and I mean NO ONE likes a bitter man.

Be Better, not Bitter.

Accomplished_Owl_363 · 2024-11-02T00:40:35+00:00

God forbid a woman going thru depression

regrettabletreaty1 · 2024-11-02T01:36:36+00:00

She thought you were trying to fuck her.
Also don’t use that damn emoji when asking women out.

Use as few words as possible when talking to the next chick

iaspiretobeclever · 2024-11-02T05:49:31+00:00

From a woman's perspective, I've never had a guy offer to buy me a drink in a friendly way. It was always a prelude to a romantic entanglement. She likely knows she doesn't want that with you and feels it's unlikely you just want friendship. Honestly, I can't think of a single man who ever pursued me strictly for friendship.

Non_intertainer87 · 2024-11-02T01:54:21+00:00

Dude, flirting is fun and rejection sucks, ok? But did she only say no to meeting in the flesh, and you really had to assign sexism? Because if you value this friendship more so than a flirty chase, then why react all crazy?

It stands to mention this, buds of all 99K genders : people who refer to any friend-zones that you or themselves might be in, may not necessarily value you as a friend. That's truly hurtful.

Edit: I notice that OP's character was never attacked, but we're on this thread reacting fragile as tho it was. When I hear extreme "rather x than ever again" statements by women or by men, I take it to mean they have bottomed out and are feeling sleazy and disgusted with themselves. I bet if our boy hit her up just weeks sooner, he could have been on the receiving end of some abusive sh!t show that she would have blamed on him. OP might have overcome her objection, but it's probably for the best that he didn't. This sub is open to matters of mental health and social perspective, what's wrong with refraining from taking every emotional over reaction by a woman so directly to heart and personal?

And finally, TLDR: A furious reaction towards any lady's rejection has never changed her mind about it. Let it go, King.

Black-hercules · 2024-11-02T00:48:15+00:00

Did the definition for sexism change or am I tripping?

Brundibaru · 2024-11-02T01:10:13+00:00

Tbh we do not know what that woman went through and I don't think she deserves the hate without added context. Yes it is unnecessary hatred and sexism from her side and she could've gone a different way on saying it.

airplane_food69 · 2024-11-02T10:40:20+00:00

tbf if I was a girl and you texted me like that I'd say the same thing

vincentpheonix · 2024-11-02T06:19:38+00:00

My question is, why is it infuriating if all you wanted to do was have a conversation?

I highly doubt if a man didn't want to talk to you for any reason you wouldn't care you just wouldn't out the time in to socialize. So why can't we treat people with different opinions like this? Just stop giving the attention.

PhotographMyWife · 2024-11-02T01:31:40+00:00

Guarantee she saw you posted somewhere and bought every bit of slander that was applied.

Nillerpiller · 2024-11-02T03:02:20+00:00

She's just hurt and doesnt know how to deal with it. She deserves pity, not shame.

Title	Apprently an old friend no longer wishes to have anything to do with me because I’m a man. Honestly infuriating.
Author	Spifffyy
Upvotes	735
Comments	279
Date	November 1, 2024 11:31 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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