Throwaway acct for obvious reasons, but I'm a guy in his mid 30's with a bellow average penis size, and while I would consider myself a blue pill and a feminist, I can't help but feel a dissonance with how the culture et-large treats people with small penises, including other feminists.

Of course a lot of it can be chalked up to living in a patriarchal dominated society, which is to be expected, but I do feel like it is also somewhat common to see having a small penis used as a pejorative in progressive/feminist/left-leaning spaces, without criticism or reflection. When I see someone who previously I've seen say that "dick size doesn't matter" or "all penises are valid/beautiful", later say that some right-wing chud peacocking and bloviating, has "small dick energy" or that he "probably has a micro-penis", I read that as "dick size does matter, and I dont actually believe what I said earlier". Same goes for when people draw Trump and other MAGA influencers as having tiny/micro-penises, it reinforces the perception that having a small penis makes you a lesser than or worthy of ridicule, which the culture then continues to perpetuate through porn, sex toys, and pop culture.

Now is some of that perception linked to personal insecurity? Probably, while I can rationally understand that penis size in no way equates to self worth, as the saying goes "You are not immune to propaganda". Do I think people should be called out and/or shamed for making a joke about a persons penis? No, absolutely not, I think dictating feminist discourse so as to not offend male often self-inflicted insecurities would just be recentering men's grievances over womens. I just think it's counter-productive to perpetuate patriarchical values and/or sentiment arround penis size.