OMG. I saw a post on here about our opinion on male gynaecologists.. listen to this

NowTruly · 2021-01-09T18:07:51+00:00

And it wasn’t even in her medical record? He “cooked the books” with her medical record? 😣

He did this abominable thing ... and then hampered future medical diagnoses, endangering her in the future?

He didn’t even believe it was the right thing to do. If he did, it would’ve been documented. He would’ve gladly stood in front of a medical board proving his stance.

HE DID IT, AND THEN HID WHAT HE DID.

Please tell me this criminal is not still a licensed doctor.

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-01-09T16:59:06+00:00

Wow! That’s insane, but sadly not unheard of. So many doctors attempt to tell women what they can and cannot do with their bodies from the choice to become sterilized to her case where they try to refuse to help you have children. Time and time again people show their control issues over women’s bodies and choices like we’re just cattle to them.

veruscka · 2021-01-09T18:30:40+00:00

Holy fucking shit, my jaw dropped when she said he removed her tubes instead of tying them

Does anyone have any further info about what happened to this woman? Did she press charges?

sealcrab · 2021-01-09T18:49:56+00:00

This isn't as serious as what she's talking about, but last year I got a UTI. I didn't know I had it until I had severe lower abdominal pain which I mistook for possible appendicitis. I was literally told by 111 (UK medical helpline) to go to the hospital.

The male doctor who saw me asked me 'what do you want me to do about it?' and proceeded to patronisingly tell me that people can get stomach pain for all sorts of reasons including eating too quickly. He also criticised me for not taking paracetamol to ease the pain as if that would have solved the issue. I did not feel comfortable telling him I was avoiding paracetamol after a recent overdose for fear he'd section me tbh. He then examined me and the urine test came up positive for fucking blood. Only then did he dismissively give me a prescription for antibiotics.

A friend of mine suffers from incredibly bad gastrointestinal problems, to the point where she has thrown up blood. Repeatedly, doctors have told her it's psychosomatic and that she should use lavender oil to help. She ended up going to A&E where they were shocked she hadn't been given any treatment, and immediately referred her to a specialist.

Part of the problem is that doctors see young women as unassertive and naive. They think they can get away with fobbing us off and denying that we know what's best for our bodies because we don't fight back. This is one of the reasons why I'm determined to become more confident. I will never let a medical professional treat me like shit ever again.

Sad_Seaworthiness_ · 2021-01-09T18:55:06+00:00

I remember that once I had my second kid I told the male doctor that I wanted to get my tubes tied because I was done and he told me that what if your husband wanted more.

pipeormillwright · 2021-01-09T17:04:37+00:00

Male Doctors are some of the most godcomplex entitled men out there.

nonchalance77 · 2021-01-09T19:35:08+00:00

Ooooh yeah. I had a large fibroid that required laparoscopic surgery. I was 34 at the time and my male gyno was ALL about that hysterectomy. Was really blasé about it. I said absolutely not. I switched to a female and she was able to remove the fibroid and preserve my uterus as well.

I guarantee you if they had a benign tumor on their precious little ball sack ALL MANNER of preservation would be attempted.

Fitncurly · 2021-01-09T19:09:33+00:00

I will never go to a male doctor again in my life if I’m conscious and have the choice, I swear to Goddess.

TheOGJammies · 2021-01-09T17:17:36+00:00

THE FUCKING AUDACITY. I HOPE SHE SUED THAT MAN AND HOSPITAL WHO EMPLOYED HIM INTO POVERTY.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-01-09T18:15:05+00:00

I hope she sues him for everything he has. He should be jailed.

IAteTheDragon · 2021-01-09T19:34:10+00:00

Oh god, I remember how I once visited gynecologist due to an extreme, insurmountable vaginal/urinary pain- hoping he will diagnose the problem and treat me. I didn't know yet that the pain was purely neurological after my previous spine damage, so I really prayed he will just examine me, find the source introduce treatment. And I must repeat: the pain was so excruciating that I could barely walk, I couldn't think straight, I just wanted to be diagnosed, even with an STD, just to get treated and for the pain to go away. Anyways, the doctor, a 70-something old fucking scrote examines me, sees how awfully in pain I am, but is all joky and bubbly, says: "I don't see anything wrong down there. You vagina is squeaky clean- so clean that it's perfect for ORAL"-and wiggles his disgusting tongue. I couldn't fucking believe what I just heard. If I weren't in so much pain I would smack the perv accross his wrinkled face. What's even worse, he refused to prescribe me pain meds cause he 'didn't see the problem'.

coffeebeezneez · 2021-01-09T17:54:06+00:00

This is beyond insane that I’m livid after just watching this video. Heartbreaking that she had no control over her body in the most vulnerable state. It’s terrifying just imagining someone doing this and actually believing it was the right thing to do!?

yesmme · 2021-01-09T17:25:34+00:00

Not surprising at all because doctors have been sterilizing Black, Native, and Latina women for decades.

That’s how bad all of this is.

needsmoresilk · 2021-01-09T19:25:18+00:00

I have started treating my male doctors as service providers. I try to seek female doctors as much as possible, but I have a rare medical condition and most of the specialists in the area are male.

I had to do this to protect my sanity. One Dr got snippy with me because I “asked too many questions”. Another dr started yelling at me because I dared to postpone his appt for a work trip. During his rant, he told me he was yelling at me because he cared about me as his own child and that’s how he treats his children (WRONG! He spent our sessions staring at my breasts). He later claimed I had a tumor I categorically do not have to protect the person on his team who recorded it instead of my actual condition.

I went to see a male neurologist for a recurring minor hand and neck tremor (among other things). He asked me why my hands shaking bothered me so much. “What are you doing in your life that you need perfectly steady hands?” WTF, Dr Scrote?

I have so many stories, these are the ones that immediately come to mind.

So, these guys get treated as service providers and nothing more. I’ve educated myself on my condition. I take the time to ask questions- if they try to hurry me, I let them know I have no problem seeing another doctor who has more time. If they do not answer my questions fully, I let them know they did not do so and ask the question again. I weigh my options in front of them, fully knowing they cannot force me to do anything against my will.

It hurts their ego (which I could appreciate more if I were healthier, TBH), but it’s my life on the line and I demand respect and time. I have no problem imagining how their god complex bleeds into their personal lives and dear god, I feel for the women who deal with them regularly.

dollymyfolly · 2021-01-09T19:21:11+00:00

I’m stunned. He mutilated her.

AdmiralRando · 2021-01-09T18:12:06+00:00

This is why the anti-vax movement doesn’t surprise me. The actual talking points of anti-vax are absolute trash, but the underlying motivation is distrust of the medical system.

Who would trust them? Every woman I know has horror stories. Finding a good doctor is harder than finding a good pair of jeans. The whole system needs a reboot.

2021-01-09T19:24:26+00:00

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2021-01-09T17:42:22+00:00

Wow! This makes me so mad!

f_alt04 · 2021-01-09T21:44:24+00:00

I would never ever go to a male doctor especially gynecologist. I can’t imagine trusting a male to do right by me medically. absolutely not.

TheSuspiciousChard · 2021-01-09T19:06:35+00:00

What I don’t understand is why she would have to continue with him after what he said. As soon as she said that I was like why would you do that.

It’s like that bad horror movie where you keep telling the actress to stop trying to find the killer and just run but they don’t listen and die

carachu · 2021-01-09T18:51:22+00:00

I actually gasped watching that. WHAT THE FUCK?!

esterfanie · 2021-01-09T20:47:29+00:00

Male doctors have no empathy for women. I hope she sued his sorry ass, how can he be so entitled to permanently alter her body when she explicitly said that she wanted to have more children?? My dad is a doc too and even after enduring the women's rights crisis in my country (women from poor backgrounds were esterilized against their will by the government) he still believes it is unconstitutional to decriminalize abortions "because the 'baby' is alive and has rights".

pinkcloudzzz · 2021-01-09T21:47:22+00:00

He took her tubes out without her permission and didn’t even tell her or anyone else? What the actual fuck. I have no words. That’s... assault???

Starsuponstars · 2021-01-09T22:09:01+00:00

The most unprofessional thing a male doctor ever did was drag me out of a hospital bed and throw me to the floor. The second most unprofessional thing a male doctor did was grope my left boob while pretending to listen to my heart, and called me crazy for fighting back/reporting him. No consequences for either of them, and they're still practicing medicine. I wish I believed in hell, so at least I could believe there is a special place there for them, but as we all know, women frequently get no justice whatsoever.

Peachesndoublecream · 2021-01-09T17:23:47+00:00

What’s the original post?

PutSomeRespectOnIt · 2021-01-09T20:32:41+00:00

That is insane. I hope that she sued the physician’s governing body, the gynaecologist, the hospital, the attending staff at the surgery where the doctor removed her tubes and all their progeny after them.

ItsFreezen · 2021-01-09T22:02:46+00:00

And men think being told to wear a mask is oppression.

Danigirl_03 · 2021-01-09T20:21:43+00:00

And this why my Gyno is female and a feminist.

SamuelaTheThrifty · 2021-01-09T18:50:45+00:00

I’m horrified.

ldid · 2021-01-10T00:14:17+00:00

Violence against women comes in so many forms... Including doctors who take it upon themselves to complete unauthorized procedures on women and then try to hide it.

This video is absolutely terrifying to me.

missliberia · 2021-01-09T19:52:53+00:00

I have never known a man to be good at his actual job.

spicyspa · 2021-01-10T06:02:12+00:00

I was in college and was going into my first pelvic exam. The doctor tried to insert the speculum but it wouldn't go in. So after I got dressed, he gave me a bag of condoms as he was opening the door and said I need to have sex because that would open me up. I was flabbergasted. Oh and I also looked out the door and saw that the guy I had a crush on in high school was just sitting outside there. The doctor said "American college girls are loose anyway. Enjoy yourself." As it turned out I had an imperforate hymen plus vaginismus from being sexually abused as a child. You know by the time I was in college I was used to so much disrespect that I just had a sense of humor about it.

sillyceramics · 2021-01-09T18:26:41+00:00

WHAT THE ABSOLUTE FUCK!!!

BungalowBootieBitch · 2021-01-10T01:04:43+00:00

My mom had me when she was 40 and her doctor said the same thing. He said, "you have no business having a baby at your age. She might come out with down syndrome." To which my mom said, "well if she has any problems, I'm gonna love her even more." Also, my dad was ready to throw hands.

Plot twist: I don't have any development delays and I have a Bachelor's Degree in Ethnic Studies. Even if I did have something, he had no right to age shame my mom. Sometimes I wish I could find this dood and tell him to suck it.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2021-01-09T20:41:18+00:00

What the absolute fuck.

pastadedientes · 2021-01-09T21:36:11+00:00

Sorry, I'm a non native English speaker. What is she saying?

2021-01-09T21:48:21+00:00

How is this even legal? I hope she done something about this.

RojavaLover · 2021-01-09T22:28:15+00:00

Woaaaahhhh. Woah. I wonder if she took him to court? That piece of shit needs to be jailed for this and pay a hefty compensation to the women he did this to. I bet she isn’t the only one. Absolutely vile man.

sillychickengirl · 2021-01-10T01:32:10+00:00

I SAW THIS TOO

I sincerely hope that she reported that doctor and got his license removed because he has no right to practice on another person again. This is why we need a better health care system, I bet if that woman had another option, she would have changed doctors. Or someone should have been there to protect her after her first bad experience. Shame shame!

arleniezi · 2021-01-10T01:38:02+00:00

This is absolutely not acceptable! He did not get consent from you to remove the tubes, that is not okay! And even if it’s medically necessary during the c section. He still needed to tell you!

I don’t think we should generalize the experience to male obgyns vs female. I have seen very responsible male gynecologists and some terrible behavior from female gyns as well. Personally thou I prefer female just cause I feel more comfortable and I feel like they can relate to me.

ooftaboofta3 · 2021-01-10T04:27:01+00:00

"You're 29" damn that doc must be RLLY worried about her hitting that wall

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-01-09T19:40:28+00:00

OMG.

Blackrose_ · 2021-01-10T02:12:57+00:00

That is insanity. Fuck me that is insanity. By removing the ovaries he started early menopause for that women. Plus ethical violation and playing god much!!!!

Multimillion dollar law suit.

ThatOneCuteNerdyGirl · 2021-01-10T02:21:47+00:00

I had a female gyno ask me, aged 15, in an incredibly dripping-with-condescension tone, if I was TRYING to put on weight. (I’d put on something like 16lbs in a year due to a lot of issues) I asked if she was TRYING to be a C U Next Tuesday and reported her ass.

Anyway, she’s no longer practicing and her husband dropped dead of cancer. I stand by the fact that he caught it from her fucking cancerous personality.

waddamelone · 2021-01-10T00:24:00+00:00

NOOOOO?!?!?! What the actual fuck!?

honeybeeroll · 2021-01-10T06:39:30+00:00

What the FUCK, is she suing!? He should be in prison! I also don't understand why the fuck he was allowed to be involved in her birth after he already proved he was biased and unfit to work on her? He was reported to someone, wouldn't that someone be worried about a lawsuit and be like yeah stay tf away from her. Unless he was the only gyno available for the C section, but honestly I would've been like yeah I'm not even delivering at this hospital, because I don't want him anywhere near me, even in an emergency. I really feel like no one but the endocrinologist really cared about this woman's well being. What tf.

2021-01-10T08:05:45+00:00

I could feel the misogyny in this doctor.

IDontAgreeSorry · 2021-01-10T16:10:43+00:00

Damn do you women live in the USA? I’m from Europe and my house doctor is male and has always helped me with things like UTIs and a nipple infection without being creepy or weird (well it’s his job). And I’ve had 3 male gynos (for an unwanted pregnancy) and they were also all just fine.

I think it’s an American thing because here I doubt they’d even think about doing something like that.

lilneccowafer · 2021-01-10T20:38:07+00:00

Medical misogyny is something that absolutely burns me to the core. I cannot imagine anything that has hurt me more. Partners are one thing, a medical professional treating you wrongfully is another. It took me 6 months to get this lump in my breast checked out thanks to a male doctor that barely poked my tit, said he "couldn't feel anything," and told me it was my period/hormones causing lumps. Yeah fucking right...I know what my boobs feel like, period or not, you completely worthless jackass. Took a second opinion from a female doctor at Planned Parenthood (complete & thorough breast exam, TOTALLY different and longer than what the male doctor gave me?!) to know that I am in fact NOT crazy, and the lump is so big and defined she could see it moving under the skin when she touched it. I fucking despise male doctors and I won't see them. You'd best bet if this biopsy comes back as cancer, I'm suing. I have the time and motivation. Male doctors like these deserve prison. Fuck them. Rot.

ETA I don't know if I drove it home enough, how much you cannot trust a man to be your physician in any case. Fuck. Them. Are there good ones? Maybe, sure. Is your health worth the risk? Absolutely not. You'll have infinitely better luck with a woman, almost guaranteed, especially if it relates to your breast or reproductive health.

2021-01-17T08:05:41+00:00

This is battery.

yolosunshine · 2021-01-10T02:24:51+00:00

Dude’s a rapist

thenew-supreme · 2021-01-10T00:53:26+00:00

OH SHIT!!

cupittycakes · 2021-01-10T01:05:18+00:00

HOLY GD MF S***!!!

Title	OMG. I saw a post on here about our opinion on male gynaecologists.. listen to this
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Date	January 9, 2021 4:54 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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