Husband working 16 hours shifts for 7 days was told by his wife to sleep on the couch, then finds him dead the next morning.

Moonyu69 · 2017-07-11T15:31:18+00:00

And now the woman is the victim for being a poor helpless single mother

samsc2 · 2017-07-11T14:47:26+00:00

I love how they paint her as the victim almost immediately as if she's not actually the villain in the story. What woman starts an argument with a guy who just worked 16 hours that day FOR HER, and then makes HIM sleep on the couch? I don't understand that at all.

TwoTonJoe · 2017-07-11T17:54:52+00:00

beauty therapist Mrs Murrell

The fuck is a 'beauty therapist'?

I guarantee you it wasn't paying enough to help out. Which is why he's having to work so hard to provide.

GlassTwiceTooBig · 2017-07-11T18:44:12+00:00

“When he came home that night he was a mess, I have never seen him so exhausted. I couldn’t stand seeing him like that and I got angry. I was sick of it."

Yeah, fuck him for being exhausted, right?

"I didn’t feel like he was dead, I felt like he had left me."

It's totally his fault he died, and she's the victim. Women have always been the primary victims of war. They lose their husbands, their brothers, their sons...

"Losing Mikey has changed my entire perspective on life. Life is too short to go to bed angry and not to spend every moment you can with your family"

Sometimes your family has to spend time away in order to make the rest of you happier in the long run, but that kind of behavior is just selfish.

Then there's this:

“Even when he was at his worst he would push himself with work and any time he had off he’d be doing everything with the kids."

So he was doing exactly what you wanted him to do...

“I knew something like this was going to happen, I knew he was doing too much but you can never prepare yourself for this."

Yep, fuck her. She still hasn't learned anything.

adamdavid85 · 2017-07-11T16:04:54+00:00

Mrs Murrell said the post-mortem revealed that her husband had choked in his sleep but the cause behind it was “inconclusive”.

This really gives me pause.

rg57 · 2017-07-11T15:23:07+00:00

Losing a slave is always such a tragedy to the family.

ace_of_nations · 2017-07-11T18:02:31+00:00

This is a man who laid down his life for his family. Not on purpose, and not all at once, but still, respect is due.

She may or may not have been a heartless partner. All we really know about that is she was cruel to him because she was worried about him. But this is not about her. It's about a guy who gave away every last bit it was possible to give.

He deserves hats off and a minute of silence from us all.

CUNTRY · 2017-07-11T19:37:31+00:00

“When he came home that night he was a mess, I have never seen him so exhausted. I couldn’t stand seeing him like that and I got angry. I was sick of it."

I fucking HATE this woman. I hate her.

franklindeer · 2017-07-11T17:31:43+00:00

"You've run yourself ragged, now go sleep on the couch because the best way to get you to slow down is to be mad, but also not let you sleep in a bed".

Ixz72 · 2017-07-11T14:31:04+00:00

Another case of a man trying to do his family right but his wife is just all about herself.

The guy comes home and his wife notices that he looks more exhausted than she has ever seen him and then chooses to argue with him. What a piece of work she is.

TheJazzProphet · 2017-07-11T21:17:50+00:00

I didn’t feel like he was dead, I felt like he had left me.

The fact that she said this is telling. She didn't really care about him. She cared about what he could do for her.

mwobuddy · 2017-07-11T21:37:26+00:00

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ee4m · 2017-07-11T14:43:17+00:00

“He would work 16-hour shifts, seven days a week just so he could save up enough to take us all to Disney every year. He was so worn out but he would do anything just to see us smile.

At the very least, she allowed him to work himself into the ground so she could have a better lifestyle.

feedmecarrots · 2017-07-11T15:06:00+00:00

I think that she knows that she will never find another like him. I wonder how many other times he slept on the sofa?

HiredMind · 2017-07-11T16:13:16+00:00

Keep in mind, he's not here to tell his side of the story. We have no idea what really went on in the days/months/years before his death.

SculptedPizza · 2017-07-11T19:21:09+00:00

Obviously she doesn't have any fucking money as a "beauty therapist" and didn't pay jack shit for the bed; or that couch for that matter. Poor guy probably had to deal with her nagging about not having enough money, and then nagged even more about him not having enough time to entertain her fat ass. I'm sure he's in a better place now for not having to deal with her nagging ass. She deserves every struggling time that's handed to her. She should honestly be tried for some form of manslaughter. I wish he would've just left her ungrateful ass and never settle for this scum of a human.

serial_crusher · 2017-07-11T21:02:50+00:00

Does anyone else consider it poor etiquette to tell the other person to sleep on the sofa? If you're that butthurt about the argument, you should be the one on the couch.

ISOanexplanation · 2017-07-11T22:41:20+00:00

She honestly admits she "had a go at him" then lies by claiming it was over how hard he was working for her and their kids. Yeah, right.

I was in a similarly abusive marriage for years, doing 60-80 hours a week (plus commute) but I got a divorce and survived. My daughter being the most important person in my life I ended up sticking around years past that marriage's expiration date.

I normally hate the expression, "He's in a better place now," but in this case it might just be applicable.

OverWorkedCorpse · 2017-07-12T03:05:49+00:00

There was a follow up article where just after 2 months she started a relationship with...HIS BROTHER!! yeah disgusting. I wouldnt be surprised if they were doing the dirty the whole time behind the guys back.

thrway_1000 · 2017-07-11T17:17:07+00:00

https://archive.is/YNWPo

comicfitz · 2017-07-12T01:21:59+00:00

"I have never seen him so exhausted. I couldn’t stand seeing him like that and I got angry. I was sick of it."

What a cunt

2017-07-12T01:54:08+00:00

I understand being angry because someone is working themselves to death. In the months leading up to our daughter's birth my boyfriend worked himself ragged and I was always telling him to rest and relax because it was impacting his health, physically and mentally.

But I never told him he couldn't sleep in his own fucking bed. If I had you can bet he would have tossed me out onto the couch, and I would have deserved it.

Chezemunky747 · 2017-07-12T02:39:40+00:00

Unpopular opinion. If you don't have time to spend with your family. Don't work so much, even if you're working for your family. As a father and husband you need to prioritize. Disneyland is not that important. You can do cheap things and have great relationships by just spending time together instead of working yourself (literally to death) because you think the money is that important.

RobDog101 · 2017-07-11T18:58:49+00:00

Literally worked to death. I'd expect this here in America tbh, since we really don't have any respect for the necessity of sleep anymore. I guess I'm naive: every country still condones this barbarism no matter how much noise they make on workers' rights. Maybe we need to start focusing on the fact that it is a public health hazard; repeatedly getting that little sleep is no different from being blind fucking drunk all the time.

millymore · 2017-07-11T23:43:31+00:00

Now two months after his death she's dating his brother.

Sounds odd to me.

mwobuddy · 2017-07-11T23:43:36+00:00

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/wife-whose-husband-died-after-fight-finds-love-with-his-brother-just-two-months-later/news-story/fc86529ace12fa994bf3ef85d1f90c17

what the fuck

Griever114 · 2017-07-12T01:07:24+00:00

That fucking stupid ungrateful cunty stupid bitch. I dont usually wish death on people but i hope she dies.

Her husband SLAVED like a fucking dog every year to take them to disney and was working to bring her spoiled fucking ass to Prague.

FUCK YOU.

Bestoftherest222 · 2017-07-12T01:58:02+00:00

Another dude dies to provide for a high maintenance wife. Really makes you wonder why this dude had to work so hard, even when his wife was working. Makes me think the wife was outspending them both and the dude didn't want to stop her.

Bebop_and_Rocksteady · 2017-07-12T04:33:16+00:00

I used to work 12.5 hour shifts plus 4 hour drive (round trip). I get home go right to bed. She decides to throw my dirty shoes into the bed as a way to tell me not to leave them at the door. I almost murdered her.

2017-07-11T17:31:49+00:00

She says "Mikey was so caring, if he walked into a room and saw someone unhappy he would be the first person there trying to cheer them up."

Which she only realizes AFTER he's dead. What a heartless cunt.-

ISOanexplanation · 2017-07-11T20:26:21+00:00

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bakedpotato486 · 2017-07-11T20:13:32+00:00

Downvote me, but everyone is taking this story far too hard against the woman.

Yes, she shouldn't have started an argument with her husband after he had been working forever, but everyone does stupid things. You get mad because you care about them.

Does a parent feel bad because they screamed at their toddler in anger (fear) when they go towards the edge of a pool? Of course, but they do it for a reason, because they care about them.

Let's not circle jerk hate just because this woman fucked up. She feels horrible about it, no reason to be antagonistic. Horrible situation for her and I feel bad, sue me.

Surtysurt · 2017-07-11T19:05:12+00:00

If only there was some way to prevent this tragedy like picking up a skill you could work from home or working super part time... nope just get angry with the bread winner

dukunt · 2017-07-11T20:34:37+00:00

I was working 18 hour days at 4 different jobs. I last about a month and a half at that pace. It's slow pace suicide in my opinion.

2017-07-11T22:42:24+00:00

8 and out. Fuck that shit.

DeadeyeLan · 2017-07-11T23:47:10+00:00

What a despicable person this bitch is.

Sketchy_Uncle · 2017-07-12T02:38:32+00:00

I still find it so hard to think that my last words to him were out of anger.

Yeash...that hurt. I've thought about that a lot when I leave the house and go to work or put my kids to bed. Love your family and those around you. I'd hate to think that we separated on hard feelings over something so trivial.

SpidersBiteMe · 2017-07-12T07:11:52+00:00

Hows about the fact that she breaks the news to her 14 year old by running in the room screaming "You dad's dead!!!"... Jesus... woman the fuck up.

2017-07-12T07:34:53+00:00

This woman is a textbook full of red flags

Urishima · 2017-07-12T07:43:26+00:00

She had told him that she was worried he was running himself into the ground

Ok, good so far. Wife worried for her Husband's health, if we just look at this bit.

and told her husband to sleep on the sofa for the night when they failed to resolve the dispute.

Excuse me, what? So you say that you clearly saw that your husband was having problems... so you add to his problems?

And I would really like to be the fly on the wall on how that dispute went. 20 bucks say it was 'You are never here for us.' instead of 'You are working yourself to death, please stop.'

Even more tragically, she later discovered that Mr Murrell was working extra shifts as a carpet cleaner so that he cold save money to take her to Prague for their anniversary on July 3.

He would work 16-hour shifts, seven days a week just so he could save up enough to take us all to Disney every year. He was so worn out but he would do anything just to see us smile.

But the hours he was working were just getting too much. He was so exhausted all the time and he was running himself into the ground and his health was going downhill fast.

When he came home that night he was a mess, I have never seen him so exhausted. I couldn’t stand seeing him like that and I got angry. I was sick of it.

Ok, so she didn't know about that first one, but it never occurred to her to just go to her 'beloved' husband and say 'Honey stop, we don't need to go to Disneyland every year'. I mean, I guess props to her for noticing, but that aint worth jack if you then do nothing.

2017-07-12T21:00:17+00:00

And I'll bet if he had addressed her concerns and took shorter shifts, she'd be complaining about how she'd have no time for her "Beauty Therapy" and needing to pull some weight since shorter hours means less pay to live on.

NLWoody · 2017-07-13T07:55:57+00:00

/r/latestagecapitalism

silverhand21 · 2017-07-16T15:03:01+00:00

I can't help but feel that this really has nothing to do with this sub. People upset that she is being treated like a victim. Well she is. She just lost her husband. Now yeah he's a victim of an unknown death. It sucks so what are we supposed to take away from this? She dosn't deserve our sympathy? She shouldn't have had a fight with him? It was their relationship and what they fight about is their business. Why is this even a story! Their fight didn't kill him. This is such fluff bullshit. Lets keep to the stuff this sub is really about and stop bothering with these garbage posts

mwobuddy · 2017-07-11T19:32:32+00:00

I appreciate the purpose of this subreddit, but this is the most unbelievable and offensive reaction to a story I have seen here. The comments in this thread alone make me seriously question why I come here. This is disgusting. It's a tragedy all around, and trying to ascribe blame to the wife simply because she is a woman is the reason people are prejudiced against this movement.

kutuup1989 · 2017-07-11T19:21:02+00:00

Seems a bit unfair on her. She clearly cared about him a great deal. His long work hours and declining health were obviously putting a strain on the relationship and the argument started over concerns for his health. She couldn't have known what was going to happen. Seems like a tragedy for all involved. I wouldn't put blame on either of them.

Edit: his health, not hers

Meyright · 2017-07-11T16:06:13+00:00

This could have been prevented /s

2017-07-11T19:05:00+00:00

I hope he had no insurance- she'd just blow it on a boob job.

Mythandros · 2017-07-11T21:21:21+00:00

I just don't get that. Why do people let themselves be abused like this? Don't they have any self respect?

If I had just worked 16 hours... for HER.... and she told me I wasn't sleeping in my own bed.. I would lead her out the door, tell her "Good riddance." and lock the door behind her.

She can sleep on the sidewalk or go somewhere else. I wouldn't take that shit from ANY female.

jkarovskaya · 2017-07-11T17:14:32+00:00

Holy crap, just LOOK at that woman. I can tell just by looking at her face she has a HUUUGGGGEEE honey-do list for her servant/hubby,

He had at least 25 years of wage slavery in front of him before he could even think of taking a breather.

At least he gets some time off now /s

And women wonder why men are going /r/mgtow?

F4PPF4PP · 2017-07-11T20:57:30+00:00

This doesn't really belong in /r/MensRights ...

PowerWisdomCourage · 2017-07-11T17:28:51+00:00

This is clearly being misrepresented by OP. He was on the couch following an argument because he wouldn't stop working 16 hour shifts, which he was doing to save up money to take her on a surprise trip. You really can't assume she's some horrendous slave driver since there is 0 evidence here to support that. He made the wrong choice, for the right reasons; for a long time, and paid a steep price for it.

webleytempest · 2017-07-11T17:20:57+00:00

https://therationalmale.com/2011/11/14/appreciation/

knauziuz · 2017-07-11T20:27:16+00:00

That's honestly just a tragic story, why does everything have to be about someone's rights being hurt?

Husband working 16 hours shifts for 7 days was told by his wife to sleep on the couch, then finds him dead the next morning.

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