Blowjobs

sewingmachinesavior · 2020-09-25T13:01:15+00:00

I give men BJ rules. And if they violate them...BYE. No thrusting or touching my head. It’s that, or no BJs.

randomgirlimok · 2020-09-25T14:08:44+00:00

Porn has normalized deep throating and other painful sex acts

devilooo · 2020-09-25T13:25:06+00:00

Porn.

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2020-09-25T14:50:22+00:00

I watched a documentary about the porn industry called “Hot girls wanted,” and sadly there is a whole genre devoted to this. The purpose of the genre is to degrade the women and make them throw up.

They lure in teenage girls from rural areas, start by grooming them online before they’re even 18, then when they’re 18 get them on a flight to Florida. The first porn they do is “vanilla,” and then they have to do more damaging stuff. They had one girl who was 24, I think they called her the “grandma,” she was the oldest one, and she did this kind of porn. It was awful, it made her sick.

GlitteringAdvice2020 · 2020-09-25T12:54:02+00:00

The fact the degrading blow jobs even exist shows how UNsex positive we are as a society thanks to men and libfems.

I have never done them and I never will. Sex should be kind, mutually fulfilling and loving. I also would never put up with a man who wants a me to go down on him but won’t go down on me.

Betty_Bottle · 2020-09-25T15:09:54+00:00

This spoke to me. I've just cried at realising there are a TONNE of women who don't like giving BJs. I thought I was the only one! I thought I was boring or a prude or had some sort of mental block I needed to get over!

If I've initiated then I don't mind but if I'm getting "are you gonna put it in your mouth then?" or I feel like I have to do it then I suddenly don't want to.

Apparently I'm boring because I won't let a guy finish in my mouth. Apparently I'm bad at it because I gag easily and have to take breaks. Would guys actually prefer I vomit all over their cocks? I'm guessing guys don't want us to enjoy it as well?

I had one ex tell me I need to watch porn so I know what I'm doing. That says it all really. He was the same guy who said "I almost came in your mouth, what would you do if I did?"

Sorry I'm just rambling on now but I am so glad to have found FDS and find other women with shared views on this sort of stuff.

Also, for the male lurkers: if you know sex is definitely on the cards, have some respect for your partner and wash your bits!

peaka25 · 2020-09-25T14:42:17+00:00

They like it that way because they want it to be degrading as possible. They hate women so much and they want to see women humiliated and in pain as much as possible during sex.

It's despicable what sex has become due to the normalization of violent porn (which is a redundant term at this point.) 😕

azureangel35 · 2020-09-25T14:17:08+00:00

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inlieuofnothing · 2020-09-25T15:24:15+00:00

So, over the last 15 years what has changed? For starters in 2005 most people had flip phones. Smart phones with unlimited data were expensive and practically unheard of at the time. Porn viewing was limited to videos or websites that you had to access via desktop or laptop computer. It's much more difficult to hide and jack off in front of the family desktop. Plus battery life on laptops sucked back then so you still had to be plugged in. So the ease of porn access has dramatically increased. Also, the ease of creating your own porn with or without the intent of sharing has increased. Subscribing via social media or a set website wasn't a thing then. Those site where you watched women live weren't a thing. Anything similar was rare. Now you have instant access to free porn 24-7. Now women have to agree to do to weirder and weirder shit to get paid because the overuse of porn has made men numb to normal sex and it's a competition between sex workers, studios, producers to get that money. It's scientifically proven that the more porn you watch, the more desensitized, the more you gave to search out strange stuff to even get aroused. There's great sites like "fight the new drug" that have evidence based information for anyone who is interested:)

TL;DR porn.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2020-09-25T15:29:53+00:00

Whenever a guy sees a bit of the light and makes a post on Reddit saying he's very "dominant" but he feels sorry for the girl when he does that, LVMs and pickmes reassure him in the comments: don't worry! You'll find someone who is into that!

In other words: You'll find someone who has self-esteem low enough, lacks assertiveness or is outright afraid that won't tell you "no".

Telling LVMs that he'll find someone else who is into painful, degrading deepthroats is just telling him that there will be an easier victim next time.

GingeroftheDead · 2020-09-25T20:34:35+00:00

In my experience you can't give a man a slow, sensual blowjob anymore. Their pornsick limp dicks have lost sensation to the point that nothing but an extreme double twisty guack guack 5000 chokejob will even come close to getting them off. They literally need their peens treated like a bop-it. It's manual labor at that point and I'm not getting paid for it so...

ello-motto · 2020-09-25T13:29:35+00:00

I'm curious but where have you seen this? Dating or online? Sorry if I sound ignorant but I've not watched porn properly since my teens (in the late 2000s), and I've quit completely this year after FDS. Is this how bad porn has gotten?! 😳

TERVENCORRUPTOR9000 · 2020-09-25T17:08:28+00:00

Porn sucks all the fun and intimacy out of things and turns people into circus performers. I have no idea how scrotes find it in themselves to enjoy that, it's like their hearts are frozen and their brains rotten by their screen habits.

I actually enjoy giving sometimes, of course it's done gently, comfortably, and only out of my own volition, but the sole existence of degrading porn ruins this act somewhat.

lalalalaika · 2020-09-25T13:53:13+00:00

This why I stopped dating men. Even if some say "Oh I'm not like that", they do NOTHING to stop their peers. So they are all guilty in my eyes.

DadaExperiment · 2020-09-25T17:17:57+00:00

It's violence. Sex and violence are confluent for men. Crime statistics support this supposition.

2020-09-25T19:18:54+00:00

I feel like the forceful blowjob is also most popular with insecure guys who are worried about their penis size. They want you to “choke on it” and gag and vomit so they feel big. It’s sad that porn has made men so obsessed with dick size and given them unrealistic standards. You don’t have to have a huge dick to be manly or good at sex. It’s also always been men on the smaller end who have pushed this with me. Like I know your dick isn’t huge and I’m obviously okay with that otherwise I would simply not be sleeping with you. You don’t have to make yourself feel better by making me uncomfortable and making me throw up my dinner.

azureangel35 · 2020-09-25T16:32:15+00:00

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ModernDayOracle · 2020-09-25T20:30:15+00:00

I must have some magical sixth sense about partners (or its an age thing, I'm in my 40s), because I've never experienced this. It's horrifying that men are doing this. Ladies, the moment he even slightly crosses a boundary in bed, leave.

azureangel35 · 2020-09-25T19:07:21+00:00

I barely give blowjobs at all anymore because of this. Gagging and vomiting is a turn off for me, and I have literally vomited before from this. A male friend yesterday tried to get into a debate with me about some women “love throatf*cking.” I asked him which women and he couldn’t answer me. I don’t think these women existed. I’m sure a few people like it but probably a very small minority.

505ithy · 2020-09-25T15:19:42+00:00

The last time I had sex with an old ‘fwb’, after intercourse, he was like, “you should give me a blowjob” to which I said no because my front teeth will probably skin him (they’re bigger than the rest lol). He said let’s test that out to which I refused again and he said, “505ithy doesn’t give blowjobs!” Bothered under his breathe to guilt trip me. Lmao foh, even before fds I’m proud I at least got mine and stayed firm🤣🤣

umbralgarden · 2020-09-25T16:00:04+00:00

I plan to never give one ever again. I'll either find someone on my sexual wavelength or stay alone. They don't ever have to go down on me either. The man would have to be extremely hot, rich, loyal and kind for me to do circus tricks in the bedroom like that and let's be honest those men don't really exist. Eating a pussy is so much easier- nearly choking is for husbands only.

Solid-Liquid · 2020-09-25T16:14:50+00:00

I will never give another BJ again. The last time I did it with my ex, when I came up for air, he held my head down. He later apologized for “getting carried away”. He then wanted to “cum on my tits”. I stayed firm while he literally “cmon please”d me to death.

Peak_Tree · 2020-09-25T21:01:42+00:00

I have a Bj rule "You stay still and DON'T F*****G DARE TO GRAB MY HAIR/FACE" or we are over". I'll be dead before a scrote makes me his "face f*****g " sex toy.

mscristalconnors · 2020-09-25T15:01:31+00:00

Porn for sure. My scrotes know not to test me. But I tend to pick out very generous lovers so I don’t really give blowjobs...maybe here and there. But I run the show.

Lilybb16 · 2020-09-25T14:54:28+00:00

I will never give a blowjob. Porn ruined it for me. I will never get over the trauma that porn caused me lol its just so HUMILIATING just thinking about this makes me want to cry and i get anxiety attack so well heh fuck this ++ im not submissive and never been( and i feel alienated bc of this cause i feel like most womrn are submissive ot masochistic from what ive observed)

nr2596 · 2020-09-26T00:12:43+00:00

Also can we as women collectively please stop pretending to like it??? I’m not talking about the queens on this subs, but the pickmes who set unrealistic expectations by claiming to love giving head. We all know that’s not the truth.

notthatkindofdoctorb · 2020-09-25T20:50:23+00:00

Is this what it's like out their now? And what the hell with the stinky dick and ball sack?? Given the specifics of your description, sounds like you've experienced that horror show recently. As someone who gave their first blowjob in the early 90s, it horrifies and saddens me to hear that this shit is so common. It's not normal to consider gagging and snot a hot part of sex. But oh sure, porn is totally healthy and harmless right?!

CNhuman · 2020-09-25T16:48:57+00:00

If he does that to me I use teeth, and always keep a firm grip on his balls so you can pull down

pao664 · 2020-09-26T00:45:56+00:00

Porn. They all watch men throat raping women and think we enjoy this. Yeah no.

zombiessalad · 2020-09-25T16:00:14+00:00

I hate how giving oral as a woman is like a demeaning thing as opposed to the latter. I don’t think I’d ever wanna give someone a blowjob because of that... plus I don’t know how girls dont just bite their dick off when they are forceful... cause I would do that

thanarealnobody · 2020-09-25T18:52:23+00:00

When I had my first kiss, it was so amazing and I was so happy to be kissing him and then he immediately said “do you think you’d ever give me head?”.

I awkwardly said something like “maybe, someday” but it was kinda horrible to have that said to me after my first kiss. He continued to pressure me about it- constantly asking - but I always said no because it felt so ... degrading.

I still have never given oral sex and I’d need to be with a guy I really trust to do it and enjoy it.

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2020-09-26T14:30:56+00:00

Once it became clear to me that men enjoy this act precisely due to the fact that it's degrading, I don't do them anymore.

ThatGirl60 · 2020-09-25T18:04:17+00:00

I don’t really suck dick. Maybe for 30s but that’s more for my pleasure not his.

theglorybox · 2020-09-26T14:03:35+00:00

Yep. I hooked up with a guy a few years younger once and apparently, it’s called “face fucking.” I made him stop.

To make it even worse, those guys you describe are the ones who never return the favor.

2020-09-26T17:05:23+00:00

I only put that thing in my mouth if they go down on me. If not, no thanks. I also don't do it for very long because there's no pleasure in it at all. Why do something that isn't going to be fun for everyone.

Title	Blowjobs
Author	azureangel35
Upvotes	492
Comments	114
Date	September 25, 2020 11:21 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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