In shock. A post about a woman finding violent fantasies on her bfs accounts

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-08-09T08:21:24+00:00

There was a serial killer in my city who was reported by his wife to the police because of all the violent porn and stories he wrote on his computer. It's a huge red flag and a flashing red siren too, LEAVE

-Phoenix_ashes- · 2021-08-09T08:48:36+00:00

Omg I saw that post earlier! That was disgusting, and not surprising to see the reactions. If I see the word CoMmUnIcAtE one more time I’m going to flip. And honestly, scrolling through that awful sub today, it was literally 95% women complaining about truly awful behavior and acts men have done with like 5% petty complaints from men, no joke. Such a dumpster fire.

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2021-08-09T09:45:35+00:00

Yeah, I've just seen it and she's been gaslit out of her survival instinct. She's gonna end up just another story in the true crime shows she loves so much. 😔

canttouchthisnananan · 2021-08-09T13:01:33+00:00

I actually had a relationship with a guy who had the most violent and degrading kinks and unfortunately I totally fell for the whole ‘it’s just a fetish’ story and ‘don’t kinkshame me’ argument. He promised to always be careful and listen to my boundaries/ safety words. Well… he didn’t and ended up keeping me hostage for 6 months, abusing and raping me. I hate how I believed him and will NEVER fall for it again. These men want to act on their ‘kinks’ and whenever you have a vulnerable moment he WILL use it for his benefit.

Vmchik · 2021-08-09T11:12:42+00:00

She is in serious danger and people are telling her to communicate?? Reddit is another animal. That is not normal and she should be packing a bag and sneaking out in the night to get support to come back and get the rest of her stuff because he’s a potential murderer.

Either_Tumbleweed · 2021-08-09T12:54:34+00:00

I swear that sub was even more depraved than usual today! I read a post about a woman who woke up to her bf fingering her and the comments were disgusting. At least half of them were imploring the OP to cOmMuNiCaTe, saying "I'd love it if my gf woke me up with a BJ" or "Me and my gf do this and she likes it", or calling her insane/crazy/irrational. I saw one comment that said "consent is implied until an explicit 'no' is said" and I felt sick to my stomach. I don't know where they came from, but some truly deplorable males were on the loose today.

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-08-09T08:35:27+00:00

If I had a secret account dedicated to a fetish of the torture and sexual abuse of men, I would totally understand why a male partner would be disgusted, not want to have sex with me or even touch me again and leave me and want nothing to do with me upon finding it.

I always think if the shoe was on the other foot, would men be happy and tolerate it? And would I respect a man who did tolerate it?

LadieLemon · 2021-08-09T08:36:53+00:00

She's been gaslit by both the Redditors and her own damn mother that she overreacted, that his depravity is normal, and she'll now go back to him to CoMmUniCaTe.

This is literally, genuinely, absolutely fucking insane. The amount of people claiming it's JuSt a KiNk and FaNtAsY is highly alarming. Just say you hate women and GO!

I'm SO angry that yet another man's evil depravity is prioritized over a woman's sanity and safety.

SerenaFit · 2021-08-09T08:09:44+00:00

Perhaps because they are all a certain type men on that sub ?? Makes zero sense. Of course she should run. No brainer wtheck

creamtart_ · 2021-08-09T11:53:08+00:00

If she confronts him she is probably going to be killed or assaulted. This behaviour is extremely abnormal and deeply concerning. She has only uncovered the tip of the iceberg, his deviancy is likely much worse than what she has found.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-08-09T10:26:16+00:00

I wanted to post screen shots of the post but it wouldn’t let me.

It's meme free monday which means image-posts are auto-rejected

HE HAD PICTURES OF WOMAN BEING DECAPATED DURING SEX

Jesus Fucking Christ, no one in their right mind could ever protect that under the guise of it's-just-a-kink. These people are so so sick.

lessadessa · 2021-08-09T13:00:32+00:00

She should report him to the police because he is probably killing animals. Sounds like a legit serial killer in the making.

Honestly_th0 · 2021-08-09T10:21:25+00:00

Without linking to the sub or directly naming it, which one is it? I can’t find the post. Thanks.

ConstantNurse · 2021-08-09T11:53:42+00:00

If it were animal abuse photos, everyone would be disgusted and think the dude was a serial killer/psychopath in the making.

But if it is a sexual fetish with women involved, wE cAn'T kInK sHaMe!!!!

Fuck that shit, and fuck people that think that kind of shit is okay.

asteria2002 · 2021-08-09T13:05:32+00:00

Men are disgusting.

Davina33 · 2021-08-09T10:44:13+00:00

I give up with those subs, full of misogynists and Pickmes. Almost everything I say in them gets downvoted because women aren't allowed to have standards/boundaries according to the pond life lurking there.

CloacaDiddler · 2021-08-09T16:21:24+00:00

I hate it here. Im exhausted y’all. I just want men to leave us alone.

So I just read a post from a different sub where basically a gf locked her bf in a chastity belt, worked him up to wearing it for longer times, teased him a bit, he agreed to have it stay on a few extra days, he eventually called her and said he wanted it off now, she said “shit I’m out of town for a few days tho” he flipped out, blocked her, and broke it. Then their mutual friend called and said what’s going on, she said you’re mad and blocked her, he blocked her too.

Every single comment said the gf abused and tortured him, destroyed his trust, should never be considered part of the bdsm community, is a horrible cruel abusive monster. Fuck the friend too for asking what happened, they’re both probably laughing behind his back.

I’ll gladly agree that situation went sideways and could actually have been solved by COmMuNicATioN, but all the pitchforks were out for this lady yet we’re all expected to talk to, teach, gently guide, explain, help, encourage, and ego stroke every anger-problem Kyle that pretends to be a dom just to choke and beat on women. A man can have fantasies of women being decapitated during sex. Men can - on the regular - KILL women during sex, but it’s never bad enough. We expect men to be worse. Yet if a woman sneezes at the wrong time it’s straight to hell with her.

TVsFrankismyDad · 2021-08-09T15:01:43+00:00

And if something does happen to her people will blame her for not leaving.

shiningsuns · 2021-08-09T11:27:55+00:00

I wish kinks were shamed more. Just because someone gets off to something, it doesn't mean it's okay.

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-08-09T19:35:57+00:00

I don’t understand how the west went from “we need to accept women have desires” and want intimacy to it’s perfectly fine to fantasize about violence.

Im not sex negative. There’s nothing inherently bad about hook ups (other than women get the short end of the stick). But we should be able to recognize as a society that there ARE sexual desires that are inherently wrong. Like fantasizing about children/violence.

dogeatpawworld · 2021-08-09T17:42:06+00:00

Other than the obvious outrage I am feeling I really wanna know if she is safe. And that she left the dude.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-08-09T19:12:30+00:00

OP, it's better that there are no screenshots. we don't need that. also no mention of the sub where it was posted or anything. we do not need extra "publicity" since the ban of a certain sub.

I think we can all take a moment and appreciate what we have here in this community. sure, the rules might be tough but we are mostly similar-minded women who learn every day to see through the lies of a porn-consuming society and the insidiousness of a pro-prostitution society.

I understand your horror at seeing comments defending the man in question. I share it. It is objectively appalling.

Every comment giving her reasonable advise that it’s perfectly fine to leave him, the content she found was disgusting, etc was down voted

it all stems from male entitlement and from the centuries-old belief that women are inferior to men. we are suffering the last dregs of its consequences. and women might do so for generations to come if we do not nip this inequality in the bud by creating a resistance.

male entitlement that says men are owed sex, bodies, attention, thus a right to porn, a right to prostitutes and a right to sexual gratification by glorifying it is a need.

in reality, things wouldn't be further from that. what constitutes a person's entertainment under the label of "harmless fun" and "fetish" or "kink" could very well be the violation of rights of another.

We have literal crimes being reframed as kinks... I mean, come on. how numb can your sense of morality be if you're inclined to think this is normal?

How is this the new normal ? That anything can’t be covered as kink and it’s suddenly okay and should have no judgment attached!!! HE HAD PICTURES OF WOMAN BEING DECAPitateATED DURING SEX

Wild_Artio · 2021-08-09T14:57:12+00:00

If a guy is into anime this is a red flag for me.

iTs A CaRtOoN iTs NoT rEaL was probably one of the men’s thoughts. Just like gaming isn’t real when they get off on murdering others and getting the best guns… it’s not the creativity for these abusive fuckbois. Just like porn isn’t real when they get off on choking, assault and rape. They think bc they’re not committing the act they have no need for guilty conscience. The more cloaked the violence the more insidiously abusive the men are I think. Makes me think of the recent tiktok post of leftist vs right wing misogyny. This is an example of leftist misogyny worming it’s way in to warp the reality and further gaslight us.

XxShykatxX · 2021-08-10T02:37:21+00:00

I got shivers, serial killer vibes on high alert. You never know who and nobody thinks it will happen to them.

noseatbeltsong · 2021-08-09T18:19:02+00:00

How is this the new normal ?

Keep in mind you’re on Reddit. I don’t think most of the world thinks like the misogynistic Reddit hive mind. Everyone I know IRL would tell me to run from that guy.

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justsomeonenerdy · 2021-08-09T11:48:27+00:00

I would’ve started packing my bags when I got to the ‘decapatate’ part of it. Nope. Red flags for days.

keepcalmandFREAKOUT · 2021-08-10T10:34:18+00:00

even if God in person guaranteed me it will always be "only" a kink and he never acts on it (even though I do think this is questionable) - it's everybody's right not to date someone with such fetish. I would not date someone being into this kind of thing because I think it is disgusting and not understandable for anyone with empathy, and I think even if someone accidentally realized they are into this (which I kinda doubt, I think it's just porn gotten worse and worse and borders gotten lower and lower which is common these days) I would expect them to not DWELL on it. If I realized I were into this I would be disgusted by myself and try therapy and especially not feed that wolf by collecting a huge disgusting gore porn stash.

Title	In shock. A post about a woman finding violent fantasies on her bfs accounts
Author	Fetia_
Upvotes	1561
Comments	91
Date	August 9, 2021 8:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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