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[–]cherieblosumFDS Disciple112 points113 points114 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Anyone think it's weird that so many young women are "choosing" to be abused during sex, instead of loved and cherished?
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie78 points79 points80 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's being sold as choice and empowerment. Brainwashing. Peer pressure. If you read r sex, women come there questioning why it feels bad. There's a chorus of mostly men telling her to keep doing it. I always tell her, never do anything you don't want to do or that feels bad.
[–]mscristalconnorsFDS Newbie26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yes! I love feeling adored and worshipped.
[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Apprentice17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Scrotes: “You’re not a feminist if you don’t like butt sex!”
[–]granddaughterwitchFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And the sad thing is, when you genuinely enjoy some of those things, they take that enjoyment and run with it. I've literally stopped telling my partners that I enjoy anal because of this, because goddamn, I do not need this much stress in my life.
[–]happytollFDS Newbie288 points289 points290 points 5 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
It's messed up, there's also the consent defense which has been used too many times. You can't consent to being strangled to death.
Scrotes think they're gentlemen because they ask beforehand.
[–]AyemHerselfFDS Disciple182 points183 points184 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
They don't even ask. They just keep pushing until they hear a no.
[–]happytollFDS Newbie129 points130 points131 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I cut them loose the second anything like this happens. If he enjoys abusing me in any form or other, he obviously has the ingredients to abuse me, hit me and hurt me.
[–]HaveNoIdeaWhatToPickFDS Newbie94 points95 points96 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I've heard many times that I'm a "prude" because I don't want to be sexually abused. The insanity and the normalization of it...
[–]PollyannaPennyFDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've heard many times that I'm a "prude" because I don't want to be sexually abused.
I've been told that I must be "asexual" because I don't think sexual abuse is hot and because I've only had one sexual partner (my fiance).
Apparently, rejecting kink and choosing not to fuck everything with a pulse makes you an asexual prude. Modern liberalism has failed women
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Being a "prude" today is a damn badge of honor
[–]Equal-Ear2312FDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That's best case scenario. How about those who pretend they don't hear the no or they simply ignore it?
[–]happytollFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think both are awful. You're not exactly in a safe place in any case. I think girls should run away from both. If they don't hear the no, it's the definition of rape - consent is needed for every act
[–]Equal-Ear2312FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If course they are both awful. Please don't misunderstand me m
[–]tonha_da_pamonhaFDS Apprentice13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They keep pushing until they hear a yes honestly. No doesn't seem to do anything
[–]BBQCoolRanchQueenFDS Newbie162 points163 points164 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
TW; near death assault, strangulation, dv
The messed up thing is that there are actually criminal defense lawyers who are specializing in kink. My friend was almost strangled to death by her ex. She had extensive injuries. Her throat was bruised, she had red spots in the whites of her eyes, her tongue was swollen as well. She almost died. He did not see a single day in jail. His lawyer used a kink defense. He did this outside of sex, as an act of dv. He got 2 years probation. That is it.
Strangulation should always, always be charged as attempted murder. It is the number one predictor of homicide. I've been a victim of strangulation myself. Tried to fake going limp, he didn't release. Had to stun him with a right hook and run for it. Scrote used a kink defense as well. Got away with it. He did this as I was trying to leave him. It's amazing just how ignorant the justice system is when it comes to protecting women from the hands of violent men.
If a man is willing to cut off your oxygen, that man is willing to end your life, regardless if it's JuSt HiS kInK and that shit was normalized as fuck. Kink is a deal-breaker for me.
Edit; a word
[–]happytollFDS Newbie57 points58 points59 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am so sorry this happened to you. You're right, it is the number one homicide predictor.
This defense is used because it humiliates the victim even further and they think that will shut them up. Suddenly any time she got spanked is open for discussion, any time she tried something new.
The lives of women matter. If the guy tries to claim that most women like it, it's not true. Most of the women that have tried were pressured into it by false claims scrotes made.
[–]Shoddy_GlamFDS Newbie70 points71 points72 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes... I finally had to leave an ex. Not because he did this to me, but because he is a somewhat medium-profile defense attorney. We did not live in the same area. We were close when we were younger and reconnected after we got older. I got curious and looked up some past cases. Unfortunately for him many were televised. He defended these men. His defense tactics and the things he said about the women and the stance he took made me sick to my stomach. I seriously almost vomited the first time I watched these videos. It was truly heart wrenching.
[–]happytollFDS Newbie31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They do this and they know that they are defending scum.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
My ex boyfriend physically abused me. His number one thing was to grab my neck while I was slammed up against the wall. Sometimes I’d have bruises where his fingertips were. That was fun trying to cover up. While doing this to me he would usually spit in my face. I was 24 and trapped in an expensive city finishing my degree so I had very few options to get away (though I finally did, despite the super uncomfortable circumstances of my new living arrangement, at least I wasn’t risking death). I asked him one day if he was capable of killing me and he said “I honestly can’t tell you no”. I hurt for the sad young woman I was but I’d never been in that situation before and wondered if I was to blame. Typical of many women. I tried to change myself, tried to love him harder. Nothing was going to stop the abuse. I wish all women could know ONE thing. THEY DO NOT CHANGE. The first time they lay a hand on you, they WILL do it again! Women need to understand this basic fact and get the hell away. I thank god I didn’t have a child / children with him. I can’t even imagine.
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[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s horrific, I can’t imagine what that felt like to think you might even die, and these POS get off on that. So sorry you were violated by someone who was supposed to love and respect you. 😢 My boyfriend likes me to bear hug him when he’s on top, and he does that to me but gently ffs. I’m not sure why that’s such a thing with some guys? But the strangling shit is horrific and no good man would ever do that to a woman, period. A man you are sharing your body with should always respect your boundaries. If they don’t, they’re trash. Any man who ever violates a woman in any way under any circumstance is trash. Period.
[–]Kiddy_ice4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was my ex boyfriend too! He also liked twisting my neck to the point i felt it would break by pulling my hair back violently with his hand on my neck or contorting my body between the floor and his 200lbs of muscle. Either way I couldn't breathe or scream. He would tell me he should have killed me long ago and that my parents and every ex boyfriend I ever had should have killed me.
And I did have a child with him. Looking back I just feel bad for myself by how manipulated and mind controlled i was. I kept the baby literally because I thought he would kill me if I didn't. That's the opposite of a reason to have a child... I thought I had no other option. And obviously, he hurt the child too.
I escaped in the middle of the night with my baby and now he's suing me for visitation rights. Literally just because it's the last link of control he has over me, not because he gives a damn about his son. Guess what my lawyer said? "Unless your baby ended up in the hospital half dead because of his father, or he's molested the baby, he is going to have rights to the child. That's just how the law is with fathers."
It is terrifying just how little, if at all, abuse from men is ever taken into consideration. It is terrifying and disgusting how little, if at all, women are protected and listened to.
And this whole thing also made me realize it's usually LVMs who were so deplorable that they didnt get 50/50 who are the ones saying "the court favors women" as an excuse Because if that was true, they'd be sending my ex to prison, not handing him a baby.
Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
[–]dzgataFDS Disciple16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is it okay if I bitchslap you? Yes, so empowering 😍 a real man!
[–][deleted] 203 points204 points205 points 5 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
It's honestly terrifying how it became so normalized these days you can't find a single man who enjoys or practices "vanilla" sex. There has to be a slap somewhere, or a "lEt'S eXpErImEnT" suggestion to spice up the relationship.
Because apparently the days where a new nice lingerie set or staying at a fancy hotel just don't do it anymore.
The truth is men get bored so easily no matter what you do and the perpetual availability of choices makes it near impossible to have a strong, healthy relationship with any of them because they'll be constantly looking over their shoulder, wondering "what if", smelling the greener grass. The thrill seeking mentality is just that, and it fizzles out quickly, but that doesn't stop them because it's a never ending cycle.
[–]AustenmaFDS Newbie38 points39 points40 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah and in addition to boredom, they aren't seeking connection with another human. They are looking for an object. The reward center of their brain is messed up. It's sad. But I'm better off alone, happy, healthy, uninjured.
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie131 points132 points133 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Also, this new normal is not even good sex. You cannot beat intimate "vanilla" sex. It's the reason why they keep upping the anty. If the were having good plain old sex everyone would be satisfied but that takes feelings, mutual respect, comfort and true appreciation.
[–]Apricot_IbexFDS Apprentice58 points59 points60 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Good lovers are patient and enjoy satisfying their partner. Something tells me these narcissists don’t give a fuck if the women they’re with get off or not. In fact, they say as such constantly- that women are fuck-holes and objects expected to give them everything and get nothing in return but ridicule and scorn. They hate “vanilla” so much cause they’re just selfish and bad in bed.
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Truth!
[–]forgetsherpassworFDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i was explaining this a few weeks ago to someone. i feel like getting weird and kinky is a bandaid to mediocre or bad sex
having good vanilla plain sex, that’s a true hallmark of a good partner/lover
[–]Ok-Item300Throwaway Account43 points44 points45 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They'd have to spend money to stay at a hotel.
[–]throwaway75ge40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There are a lot of men who are porn sick and desensitized. They need the same violence and excitement irl sex to get/stay hard. Sex with them will always be focused on their erections. It's horrifying.
[–]misszazieFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is key. If you have a man who gets bored with vanilla, you're in trouble.
Why? Bc in a good relationship, with trust, intimacy, respect, missionary can be mind blowing. The best sex I ever had we rarely used more than two positions.
I think it's interesting what they've found about brain activity during the female orgasm. The part of our brain responsible for moral judgment gets switched off before climax. I do believe there are some women who get to that point through degradation and believe it's healthy just bc of consent.
But maybe it's also bc they've never experienced sex in a healthy, stable relationship where there is no morality to it. It's just two people free to do what feels good. So instead of kink as an escape, you can be present in the pleasure you're experiencing.
I have no idea what goes through men's brains during sex. Probably wouldn't want to, lol. But 100% I believe that if this body, this 🐱, and the shared emotional experience isn't enough for him? He's not for me.
[–][deleted] 42 points43 points44 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Porn has really fucked with our society.
I promise, men like that are out there. It might take awhile to find them, but they’re there.
My on again/off again guy is super respectful of me and my choices. In the past he’s choked girls, but only because they’ve asked. Didn’t really seem like he particularly enjoyed it. He’s also not into butt stuff. I wouldn’t call him totally vanilla, but I know if something made me uncomfortable he wouldn’t push, he’d take my “no” as law and stop. He also doesn’t watch porn, which I think is a big reason why he’s the way he is.
[–][deleted] 25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I don't get the choking thing AT ALL. I can wrap my mind around mildly rough sex if it's something both do, not just the man (although I don't enjoy it) but literally strangling the life out of someone is too much for me.
It's great that he's like that but why the on/off if you don't mind me asking? Sounds like maybe things could work out as a relationship. Feel free to ignore my question if it's too intrusive, I'm just curious because he seems like a good guy.
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[–][deleted] 18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't put yourself down! It's not something you can control, it's the way you feel and it's probably something you can only work out with a therapist. I would advise you to try, not only for this relationship but for yourself. Even if this guy ends up not being "the one" you should be able to feel safe and strong within yourself and on top of the world. Don't let something like that get between yourself and other people. It's honestly very rewarding when you can overcome your own fears and come out the other side feeling like a brand new person ready to enjoy life to the fullest. We let our fears and insecurity take control and end up on losing so much... Take it from me!
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you for being supportive; so many people go the “it must be all his fault” route when I vent my frustrations. He’s definitely not perfect, but he is a great guy. It really is mostly me causing the fights and stuff. I’m working on it, and even though he’s not always “here” he’s supportive and there for me when I need him. Even if we don’t worn out, I’m very lucky to have had him in my life. He is a great example of a HVM.
[–]worriedrenterTW1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Except 98% of men have watched porn in the last 6 months, and 80% in the last two weeks. This is not exaggerated, this is a legitimate stat that you can find by searched "how many people watch porn?". And the remaining 2% are 99% strictly religious, leaving virtually nothing but the hope that the already porn brained dude you get with stops because you tell him to (and likely starts again if you break up). Thank god I'm bi.
I also don't get how you're praising a guy for not being a rapist and "only" committing assault when it's "consented to". Like, that's not even the bare minimum, the bar is 6 ft underground. So many men are terrible that we fall to our knees over sub par, mediocre males.
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok so this is what REALLY worries me about dating these days. How do you know if a man watches porn? Or if he wants to do rough sex/kinks/BDSM/threesomes/polyamory? It isn’t like they are walking around with signs on their foreheads. I want to wait at least 2 - 3 months before sleeping with a guy but what if he turns out to be pornsick? In the last 5-10 years I have noticed a shift in sexual behavior. 10 years ago choking and trying to have sex without a condom on with a woman who is NOT an established girlfriend was not done. I am sure some people did it but it wasn’t as common as it is now. How do we get for sexual values?
Also side note young ladies always make sure he wears a condom! Unless he is your husband. I don’t care how long you and your bf have been dating - boyfriends by definition are temporary. HIV, herpes, and cervical cancer are forever. I know a girl who got one of those from her boyfriend, and guess who isn’t in her life now!
[–]withoutwingz2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Porn has ruined normal sex for us. Now we need to be face fucked until we vomit. No thanks.
[–][deleted] 159 points160 points161 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
What is up with men that like to slap our asses until there is a hand print?
[–][deleted] 127 points128 points129 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
It’s the only way they make an impact on the world. They will never do anything meaningful so they have to slap asses and rack up “body counts” to feel like they made their mark.
[–]sunset74420FDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think you hit the nail right on the head there.
[–]Ok-Item300Throwaway Account28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol that's a hell of a way to put it, dayum.
[–]Thejasminedragon1215FDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s the only way they make an impact on the world.
I cackled
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Porn sickness
[–]alien_aliceFDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Because men like hurting us
[–]poundlesspattiFDS Newbie30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
to them we're just heifers to brand obviously 🙄
[–]AriaLuzFDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s what I think. I guess it’s their way to “mark their property”.
[–][deleted] 346 points347 points348 points 5 years ago* (13 children) | Copy Link
Oh god, with these libfem types it is literally a dick measuring contest of who can sustain the most violence from men in the name of sex positivity, they are in-turn normalising it. “You don’t liked to be pissed on while your boyfriend kicks your ribs in, you just haven’t discovered the wonders of kink” it is so damaging ugh.
Honestly I am 19 and have been part of the tumblr generation, and I believe they have groomed a whole generation of young girls into thinking it is normal, because these were the woman who were supposed to be in your favour, and therefore if they think it is ok, then it must be.
[–]Eris_the_FairFDS Apprentice45 points46 points47 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You must be reading my post history from today. I really need to stop engaging with Libfems online. They're mostly men pretending to be women, anyway.
[–]_xyoungbellax_FDS Apprentice[S] 121 points122 points123 points 5 years ago* (9 children) | Copy Link
I'm 21 now but when I was with my exes in teenage years, I still didn't conform to their anal or choking kink. I have dead ass dropped them faster than anything. I was a pick-me sure but even these libfems couldn't deter me from my sexual boundaries.
[–]CloacaDiddlerFDS Apprentice160 points161 points162 points 5 years ago2 (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m 20 and was hella pickme. Had excruciating, no preparation anal sex that left me sobbing and shaking and the guy “didn’t know” I was in pain but kept asking for it, also didn’t even sit for one minute to comfort me while I was having anxiety attacks because of him. Thought there was something wrong with me because aren’t all girls supposed to love anal even when you’re crying, swallowing even when it burns your throat, choking even when your vision gets blurry, and being verbally degraded because you’re such a kinky minx? Even had porn videos playing next to my head while I was on my back so he could watch those during sex. Imagine not even being enough as a teen, the age when apparently people will do anything including break laws to fuck you.
So yeah now I’m bitter, jaded, cynical, and based as fuck. Men will take until you break and a whole section of feminism will encourage giving them exactly what they want “because it’s what YOU really want” even though for some reason you’re upset and hurt
[–]_xyoungbellax_FDS Apprentice[S] 92 points93 points94 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Girl, I am so sorry this happened to you. It is so painful to even imagine. Ugh, I hope something really bad happens to him, he deserves ten times the pain he put you through, idc even I've become bitter af. Also, about porn videos playing while having sex brings back terrible memories to me. A literal goddess is right with you and you still need to play porn just to get it up, why did I even let it happen, makes me so mad thinking back on it. It was so disrespectful and humiliating. No one should have to face that.
[–]PartypuppersFDS Apprentice13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Really sorry you went through that hun * offers you a virtual hug *. It sounds like the experiences he put you through may have caused you sexual trauma. Have you ever considered going to therapy? It really helped me.
Also, there are men out there who are gentle, patient and kind. I'm sorry you had to live through what that pig put you through.
[–][deleted] 29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly that’s really great, personally most of the guys I have been with have either chocked or slapped me without my consent, if they were to ask I wouldn’t have consented. Yet, I never realised how wrong it was because it is so normalised.
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[–]_xyoungbellax_FDS Apprentice[S] 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
When I first started being sexually active i.e. when I was (18-19) I had no idea there was more than just vanilla stuffs and kinks were a thing. So that's why I always expressed my disinterest to my exes from then onwards. Hope this cleared your confusion.
[–]_xyoungbellax_FDS Apprentice[S] 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, ikr? I have had heard many men boast that they've been watching since they were like 8 and I was floored. Where is the innocence?
[–]worriedrenterTW0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I read a study that found that 50% of 16yo girls in the United States had/have been pressured to have anal (whether successfully or unsuccessfully) at least once. The average exposure to hardcore porn is 11, and some newer studies indicated it may now be closer to 8.
[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was just on r/sex and a sex worker was finally getting the truth. I felt horrible for her, but she was genuinely frustrated that she couldn’t find a date for potential long term relationship, due to her work. She wasn’t shamed for her work, but it became clear to her that it’s not necessarily sex positive if you’re struggling to find a healthy partner - IMO a healthy partner doesn’t want me to have to pay a bill with my sex - that is ok with sharing the most intimate parts of their relationship with other people.
[–]TexiMcCraeFDS Newbie151 points152 points153 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
Anal is what I never understood. Why on earth did that ever become a thing?
[–]alien_aliceFDS Newbie30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Because it’s a tighter hole.” Obviously pain and degradation is worth it so they themselves can have a more pleasurable experience.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple155 points156 points157 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
It hurts us, and they like pressuring us into it. They think sex is purely about crossing boundaries. If anal gave us instant orgasms they wouldn't be interested. We don't have prostate glands. Some of these guys are probably closeted gays.
[–]Eris_the_FairFDS Apprentice72 points73 points74 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Some of these guys are probably closeted gays.
100% of the time in my experience, the butt guys are clearly at least a little bit into dudes. And super in the closet about it.
[–][deleted] 41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I remember this joke where someone asked why would you prefer going to a McDonald's alley dumpster (anal) when you could have a 5 star Michelin steak (vaginal) and I don't know but it cracked me up so much and to this day I completely agree 🤣
Some men just don't know what's good, I guess (or they really are into other guys!) I will use this analogy until the end of times.
[–]cherieblosumFDS Disciple48 points49 points50 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Porn.
[–]shrimpcakewithcrust106 points107 points108 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I hate to be "that person" but its literally the most unnatural thing you can sexually do in a heterosexual relationship.
[–]naiveradish1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And so unfair. So we both have mouths to pleasure each other. We both have hands. We both have genitalia. Why do they get an extra hole to play with? What’s our extra play thing from their body? Not only extra, but an extra thing that will cause THEM pain to bring us pleasure? Or one that takes days of preparation? Absolutely nothing they give us is the equivalent to anal. I don’t get it.
[–]melicious3570 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't get it either. My best guess is that some men actually want a gay type experience without actually having sex with a man. Also like some one else said, they just want a tighter hole or they are addicted to porn. Either way anal is a hard no for me.
[–]cece188FDS Newbie42 points43 points44 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I remember before FDS, I was trying to do kinky sex with my boyfriend, telling him to spank me, pull my hair, call me degrading names, etc. When we broke up, he told me he thought it was horrible that I ever asked him to do that. He didn’t think it was right to do and that he just wanted to love me in a gentle/ passionate way during sex.
He was extremely LV (long story), but it was at this moment that I realized I was socially conditioned to think this is what all men want so I have to like it too. Never again.
[–]noitapippeli33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
once I realized that my ”kinks” are actually trauma it has been really disturbing to found out how many of my friends without trauma ”like being on pain”
[–]moonartemis1989FDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
you mean without "trauma"
[–]happytollFDS Newbie68 points69 points70 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It feels like "rough sex" is a way to create fear. You already know they can hurt you whenever they feel like it
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Like we would ever need a reminder.
[–]BasieSkanksRuthless Strategist136 points137 points138 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
I had this discussion with a male colleague over the weekend. Sex work and violent sex cannot be empowering, because it diminishes women's power significantly even on a personal level. Sex workers face huge stigma, poverty, exposure to abuse and rape and loss of future opportunities. The BDSM subreddits are full of submissives who come seeking advice after their Dom had an "ooopssieee" moment that has resulted in the sub experiencing severe trauma, both physically and emotionally. It makes absolutely no sense to call something empowering when it leaves you worse off.
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie60 points61 points62 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Who can even lie and say it's empowering to get the hell beat out of you by someone who doesn't care about you? I can see if, for the most part, women were doms and men subs getting poked in bum but is this the case most often?
[–]Ok-Item300Throwaway Account32 points33 points34 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I have a female friend who used to dom men before she had children. She was abused as a child so for her it was an amazing healing way to take back her power. But in general I agree with you. Funny thing is I've never considered myself vanilla, I thought I was pretty experimental. But these days I guess not enough.
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm glad it worked for her. Maybe it could work for more women. Not necessarily being a dom but more of a you first type of situation lol, like you want anal...you first. I think the only thing that matters is pleasure and we've gotten away from that. You don't have to do crazy things to feel good.
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
a lot of male subs "top from the bottom" because even they can't stand to relinquish control
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What are you describing?
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
https://medium.com/@mardollgatsby/not-all-females-are-submissive-yes-male-subs-can-be-sexist-97fb4e968789
Last paragraph explains it better than I can
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I didn't know, but I shouldn't be surprised. A man is a man is a man.
[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie34 points35 points36 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This was my response to another comment, but firs here too. I was just on r/sex and a sex worker was finally getting the truth. I felt horrible for her, but she was genuinely frustrated that she couldn’t find a date for potential long term relationship, due to her work. She wasn’t shamed for her work, but it became clear to her that it’s not necessarily sex positive if you’re struggling to find a healthy partner - IMO a healthy partner doesn’t want me to have to pay a bill with my sex - that is ok with sharing the most intimate parts of their relationship with other people.
Sex work - the only industry that exist as a consequence to sexual abuse. They literally rely on girls getting abused to the point of feeling that their sex is their only worth.
[–]Apricot_IbexFDS Apprentice27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sex work is inherently risky to women, between the constant risk of STDs and the number of psycho males who are drawn to prostitutes because they have a fetish for hurting them. How ironic that they would avoid dating her, when how many of these guys have been “johns” or would be outraged if a woman wouldn’t date a guy who had been with a sex worker in the past, and call her an uptight prude, insecure, or a kink shamer for rejecting him on that basis. 🙄
[–]startrekfan98FDS Newbie31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I dated a guy who was obsessed with porn. Tried to coerce me into anal, rough sex, etc. He was seventeen (I was too). He cheated on me with another girl and I dumped his ass. That was a few years ago. I feel bad for the girls he’s been with because I know how aggressive he is sexually. He doesn’t care about his partners pleasure, only his own.
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist105 points106 points107 points 5 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Yep. But they don’t like to talk about “choice” when it comes to women choosing to be single, or childless, or with a man with money, or with a man who doesn’t watch Porn and ogle other girls, or who wants to be an engineer or astronaut or pilot, or who wants to not date etc. you get the picture.
We can question anything else, but when it comes to the objectification of women’s and girls bodies and men’s use of them, it’s all rainbows and butterflies and natural choicy choice blah blah blah. Over it.
I’m actually over now much this is overlooked. Even in the vegan community, you would think women there would get it, and understand exploitation, but no. Some of them are even worse. Because they are activists against animals, they also become lib fem choicy choice activists, and it’s scary because they have a large and usually young and impressionable audience. But they are beyond reproach because they are “doing good things in society.”
Stop the world. I want to get off.
[–]starburst411FDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I saw a video on Twitter where some male vegans were branding female vegans. Let's make a point about abusing animals by abusing women. And why only women? We know why.
[–]lavyebelFDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
From what I've seen, vegan feminists are more likely to be radfem than libfem. Veganism by itself is radical. I see vegetarians being pretty libfem, though.
[–]ThunderofHipHipposFDS Apprentice16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The vegans I knew were female separatists who lived on a dope farm.
They didn't actively harm or disrespect men; they just chose to only interact with them when needed. That choice was radical, but didn't harm anyone else, so I totally dug it.
If a bunch of men got a farm and said they would be polite, but only interact with women as needed, they'd have my blessing to go off without us.
But that's not the kind of choice libfem women and men want to talk about.
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This would be awesome - most of the vegans I know are the activists who raid farms and are all over Instagram which is why I think they all have their only fans accounts and strip for a living too
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s good if you’ve noticed that trend in your area. I wish it was like that. The ones I know are on Instagram and have only fans accounts. They will say they are feminists etc. and talk about the dairy industry not being feminist... but then they promote only fans and get VERY defensive when anyone calls them out on it. It’s very sad.
[–]myeggsarebigFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
some of the vegan people I know (I’m vegetarian so I get the health aspect) treat cockroaches better than humans.
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So basically they don't want us to make any choice that leaves us better off than we were before... got it
[–]denverkrisFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's manipulation and gaslighting at it's finest. They've managed to convince some women that they enjoy this crap when I can't figure out for the life of me how that's possible.
[–]amievenreal99FDS Apprentice68 points69 points70 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
My niece is 11 years old, and she told me that a classmate asked if he could anal rape her.
She also has an anorexic classmate.
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie48 points49 points50 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So young. This is beyond sad and disturbing. He needs help, she needs protecting, and it's a whole perverse mess
[–][deleted] 21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m 21 now. When I was in the seventh grade so maybe I was 12, I was (stupidly) becoming friends with these two boys and then one day, one of them grabbed me from the back and the other one grabbed me from the front and they were thrusting their hips into me for a few seconds and then high fived eachother. Everyone had their clothes on (obviously we were at recess) but it was still really violating.
For some reason, I didn’t tell on them but I feel really disgusted to this day. I feel like kids are getting worse.
[–]BorderszFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You're not stupid, you were only 12 and I think we were all taught to be friendly to everyone growing up.
Something similar happen to a classmate of mine back in elementary like when we were 7/8? I remember I got in trouble because I was one of the girls who yanked the boy off of the girl. I was "supposed to keep my hands to myself".
I was too young so the words "sexual assault" wasn't in my vocabulary but I remember telling the teacher, "he was hurting her and I wasn't just gonna stand there and watch it if I have the power to help her". NOPE, I was taught at a young age I was supposed to watch it, and then report it after the violent incident ran its course. Disgusting.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
All of the schools I went to are notorious for the zero tolerance policy. Meaning, Even if you were defending yourself or someone else, you’re in trouble. How convenient.
I only recently unpacked some trauma from public school where the teachers were gossiping about me me for being “desperate for boys attention” when I was 11 years old.
After that, any incident at school involving something mildly sexual made me feel like it was my fault for being friends with boys in the first place.
Up until highschool, a boy I thought I was friends with touched my butt and I instinctively just slapped him. Students in the class was screaming at me and saying I was “fucked up”. My teacher didn’t care and he just moved my seat (we had a good student teacher relationship, otherwise I could’ve been suspended).
Now, I’m really careful around men. They’re you’re friends they decide they’re confident enough to cross the line and then you’ll be blamed for it.
[–]Ok-Item300Throwaway Account19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh my gods! That's awful
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is horrible! Girls need protected from this shit. Girls need self defense classes and warned about the evil of men.
[–]shrimpcakewithcrust33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Child rape (rape done by children) and assult is SPIKING this decade. Or at least being more legally registered.
[–]Summerisle7FDS Disciple51 points52 points53 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Child rape (rape done by children)
I will take a wild guess that a more accurate way to phrase this would be: boys raping girls.
Get rid of that passive voice!
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[–]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Men don't rape because they have been raped. That's false. Most men rape and very few have been raped. Explain that.
[–]alien_aliceFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Not surprising when most kids have phones and accessibility to any violent and degrading porn they stumble upon
[–]shrimpcakewithcrust-1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Children aren't at fault for unlimited internet access.
[–]alien_aliceFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not blaming the kids, I’m blaming the vast amount of violent and degrading porn there is on the Internet
[–]annanorwichFDS Newbie82 points83 points84 points 5 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Its horrifying how choking is being normalized and if you dont let your boyfriend do it you are "boring and vanilla", its actually extremely dangerous and can cause sudden death due to the oxygen deprivation to the brain, and rough anal sex without lubrication can lead to serious fissures and tears that can lead to surgeries, many ex porn stars have needed it.
[–]Apricot_IbexFDS Apprentice48 points49 points50 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Notice that women’s orgasms aren’t even a factor in whether something is “vanilla”. I think choking, slapping, spitting, “painal,” degradation” and all that other porn bullshit is boring because it doesn’t even get 99.9999% of women off. It’s men getting off over hurting women and “punishing” and controlling them. Since when are losers who sit with their micropeens in their hands all day the arbiters of what equals hot sex for most women? 🤣 Hard pass, MRAs and libfems. 🤷♀️
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
They don't think of us as human. I wonder how many of the pornsick losers who want to abuse women would be up to a stun gun to the nads? StUn gUn Is my kINk 🤣
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
They think of us as disposable. Women taking back their power, unflinchingly reinforcing their boundaries, protecting each other, and above all showing up for themselves is my kink
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Amen sister!
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Newbie37 points38 points39 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I take pride in being boring. I'll grey rock myself to peace and happiness.
[–]moonartemis1989FDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
yassssssssssssssssssssssssssssss sis
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
We seemed to have pissed of some scrotes. They keep downvoting our comments.
[–]moonartemis1989FDS Newbie19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ikr but i shall grey rock them to my happiness and peace. i cant start to tell you how i do the same thing to ppl to talk abt libfem crap its just disgusting now
[–]chilitoverde11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I am really annoyed at how choking has become so normalized that men try it on me without even asking first. I’ve noticed this trend in the past 3 years I’ve been dating; it had never come up before. The minute I see their hand going towards my neck I have to say “NOPE! Not into that.” Responses have been mixed, ranging from a quick apology to the “well all the other girls liked it” knee-jerk defense.
[–]shoesfromparis135Pickmeisha™️1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve also noticed this is a recent thing. I took myself out of the dating pool and went celibate for several years. I came back and the first guy I hooked up with tried to choke me without my consent. I kicked him out immediately, deleted all my dating apps, and went back to being celibate. I thought he was just a psycho. Then I found FDS and was SHOCKED by how normal it is! What the fuck.
[–]WchijafmFDS Newbie20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Libfem- trying their hardest to make a safe space for ALl mEN that they are making even more women victims of violence and exploitation.
[–]draconicommaThrowaway Account16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
24, but I was 17-19 and 19-22 when I had my first relationships. Both mfs, despite being vastly different on personalities, wanted anal. I always said “Nope, unless you’re my husband then you don’t get access to that” and did they happily accept that answer? No. The first ex is a psycho, so I was CONSTANTLY pressured, constantly getting my b-hole touched. Second guy was disappointed and would bring it up occasionally, and sometimes touch it, but I never let none of them in.
These types of “empowerment” is embarrassing. Men begging like children for ass play.
[–]Concernedmama16FDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I am terrified for my daughters (10 and 4). How do I protect them from the brainwashing? I also have a baby boy. He needs protection too. It is all so sickening and heart breaking.
[–]partyangesagtFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s pretty much impossible to ‘protect’ children with how the internet is today, even if you keep them away from computers and don’t give them a smartphone until they’re in high school they’ll still be socialized into this stuff to some degree by their peers. The best thing you can do for them is educate them, real sex ed that focuses on consent and boundaries, and obviously not in the libfem way that leaves them vulnerable to being preyed on by men. It’s vital to teach them that they must have expectations in a relationship, or else they’ll become a pickme that morphs their personality/appearance around a shit dude’s flavor of the month and won’t get any happiness from a relationship like that. Teach them what objectification is and why it’s harmful. And teach your son the same things, but also be a little more stringent in making him understand that he must respect other people’s bodily autonomy, and how to handle rejection and all that. There are good book resources like Why Does He Do That and The Gift of Fear but I personally didn’t read any books my parents gave me growing up since I assumed they would be lame and boring and while you can still try giving them a book and hoping they’ll read it, to be extra sure you should read up on any pertinent literature yourself and try to bring up whatever point when it’s relevant or when you want.
[–]WchijafmFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have girls too 3 and 2. Advice I have gotten is make the sex talk an ongoing sex conversation. Make consent, respect and what healthy and unhealthy relationships look like, part of that conversation. Make them think about their boundaries, teach them to identify coercion and manipulation. Wish me luck.
[–]punyhumannumber2FDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How you encourage men to treat you affects all of us.
[–]barmitzvahmoneyFDS Newbie52 points53 points54 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
People don’t understand what feminism is. Feminism isn’t about personal choice it’s about dismantling the patriarchy
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. Pandering to patriarchy isn't personal choice.
[–]immortallogicFDS Newbie77 points78 points79 points 5 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
The best thing you can do as a woman is honestly not have sex in your twenties. "Lose" your virginity to YOURSELF via a toy/cucumber etc. (You're not losing anything, you're gaining it to yourself). I swear, this saved me from so much horror that I see women talk about here and other places (I'm 30 now). I read some of these things and can't remotely fathom how these poor girls would feel or even allow it to be done to them, but then I remember what a fucked up culture and society we live in today, where girls are groomed to essentially be sex slaves and let go of any autonomy, while being told that being half naked/being a sex doll is eMpOwErInG... And that they should inject every inch of their faces/bodies with something, in order to be worthy.
I refuse to allow guys to coerce me into anything, because I have clear non-negotiables that I will not relent to. I will never put a dick on my mouth (have gotten head regardless, dudes love to go down), and will not allow anything that even REMOTELY would disrespect me.
With the rise of porn and liberal feminism, along with social media and the commodification and sexualization of everything, young girls are more vulnerable than ever.
Ladies, please, PLEASE, protect yourselves.
Let's normalize THAT.
[–]azureangel35FDS Apprentice60 points61 points62 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
you're right. we need to normalize women masturbating and finding out what the fuck actually feels good and gets you off. cuz if you leave that up to men, well, look wtf happens.
[–]shutup201FDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Great post and I'm glad you have avoided bad situations.
Also, mental illness and trauma contributes to this behavior so I also say don't make any big decisions while you're dealing with things and if it's not a clear and happy yes, it's no. I actually didn't have these bad experiences until later in life when I was dealing with something so...any age should stick to these principles, for sure.
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Excellent point! Predators can smell the vulnerability. A man isn't going to provide comfort or help.
Exactly!
[–]alien_aliceFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Totally agree with this. I’m bipolar, and my bad episodes are almost always correlated with having casual, bad sex.
[–]PartypuppersFDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I remember when I was at uni, I was a 21 year old virgin and my classmate advised that I just find 'some random dude to hook up with and get it over with.' Even then I had the common sense to tell her that I wasn't interested in traumatising myself just to 'get it over with'. I said I'd want to find a man who would respect me and allow me to discover, over time, things about my body and my pleasure.
A year later I had sex with my then boyfriend (I made him wait like 6 months before I was comfortable and we both got STD tests done to be safe. He was always very respectful and never pressured me into anything even though I knew he desired me and wanted me greatly). The experience was a healthy one, I had some great sex and he took pride in making me cum over and over again. This may be too much information, but I think he once made me cum like 8 times and I needed a big mac after that exhausting session LOL.
My refusal to compromise on my boundaries, sexual health and the mental health and happiness that comes with that is something that I'll always cherish as a fundamental value of my personality. I think we all instinctively know what things dim the light inside of us, and what things make it glow brighter. Always avoid the things that make your light dim, always protect your inner serenity and glow ❤️
[–]snowwhite224FDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As a 23 year old virgin I approve this message!!
[–]HaveNoIdeaWhatToPickFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
THIS! It freaks me out how violent and porn-like sex became so popular, especially among young people. Now it's "weird" when a girl does not want to give oral or try anal. It makes me feel sick. Our culture truly, slowly imitates porn. It's everywhere. Music, articles with dating/sex "advice", movies, internet and then peers who copy everything and push it on other people.
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you! I wish more people would realise this. Things don't become magically okay because of "choice".
Sure, it's a "choice" to become an Amazon warehouse worker. Sure, it's a "choice" to go broke working for Uber. And yeah sure, it's a "choice" to wear make-up if you get fired without it.
None, of this is okay.
[–]sjefsiljuuusFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My first experience with sex was that sex was supposed to be violent, painful, the guy could do whatever he wanted, I didnt matter. In other words - rape.
He would watch porn, and I noticed that when he used porn more, he got inlufenced by it and wanted to do the acts he had seen on porn. It was brutal stuff, I told him no. He ended up with raping me, and he did all the stuff he had seen in porn, he chocked me more and more. He smiled when I was hurt at the beginning, because he told me that reminded him of «my innocence (referencing to that people still believe that it is supposed to hurt when you lose your virginity as a girl/woman)».
I was a teenager and I didnt have a choice, I got exposed to violent acts and rape. I have almost used 10 years in therapy to try to learn what healthy normal sex is, and it is still hard to accept that what people call boring vanilla sex is supposed to be healthy - while the kinks could be harmful or in worst cases, rape. However, I have a lovely boyfriend that has been patient with me and doesnt use porn and doesnt have those kinks. Sex feels like true love, and I can feel safe and close with him.
[–]BungalowBootieBitchFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's really this year I realized I'm not super into kinky stuff. Like I never enjoyed my ass being slapped like a punching bag. Anal has always sounded terrible to me. I think I was maybe 23 when I tried it cuz this dude pressured me into it (he had no condoms so he said it was the "best option.") It was awful. Just really awful.
[–]azngirl7689FDS Newbie56 points57 points58 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
We really need to bring back some little bit of kink shaming again. This stuff isn’t normal or natural.
[–]Eris_the_FairFDS Apprentice35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
I want to shame women who promote dangerous things as normal. In an effort to virtue signal to men and libfems and brag over their "not like other girls" status, they will promote obviously problematic ideas. For example, on reddit today: Because dudes penetrating/banging into a cervix brings 0.001% of women pleasure, then pointing out the possible repercussions (infections, pain) means I was "silencing women" by saying it's a fucked up idea. Manipulative gotcha BS.
Edit: Now they're talking about us and FDS in badfemaleanatomy and downvoting all of your guys' replies. I think I'm done with reddit for a few days.
[–]99powerFDS Apprentice14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Like, full-on penetrating the cervix? Not just hitting it for a little bit? Wtf is happening to some women
[–]Eris_the_FairFDS Apprentice7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think the implication from the "women" who say they enjoy it is that they like it to be pounded. I use the word penetration, because they mentioned it's a trope in anime porn.
[–]McccyFDS Apprentice19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Penetrating WHAT. Only a man could possibly believe this could EVER be enjoyable wtf.
[–]Eris_the_FairFDS Apprentice13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you! I love the people on this sub. They meant hitting against it, but cervixes tear easily, so I said it like that. (Also, someone mentioned it's probably from an anime trope where they show cervix penetration.)
[–]nosferatudeFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’m horrified by the experience of an IUD being put there, let alone a dick! Literally only men would think up shit like this lmao
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's like these psycho freaks literally want to cause as much pain as possible. When will they stop hurting us? I s2g their dicks belong in fucking cages. And to all the scrotes currently reading this while fuming... die mad about it while choking on your own slimy dick!
[–]SavingsStrength0FDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
NSFL SEX WARNING DO NOT READ ON IF YOU ARE SENSITIVE NSFW ughh I’m so disgusted..Just the other day there was a post on the front page of some Japanese porn or something and there was a woman getting some type of eel/worms creatures getting slugged up her butt through a funnel. Like wtf how the hell is that ever empowering??! She totally looked like she was enjoying it so much she couldn’t even look at the camera. Fun! Think she was saying something in Japanese about being so ashamed she couldn’t even look at them doing that to her. Anybody who tells you porn and sex work is empowering is fucking lying to you. There is so much disgusting shit women are asked to do that will leave you scared and needing therapy, and that’s just the beginning. Not even going to mention the sexual assault, the cheating, sex trafficking etc there is so much risk for literally less than you would get at a minimum wage job. There is nothing good that comes out of that shithole industry, don’t care what anyone says #sorrynotsorry
[–]AmazonRedditor2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think we live in a system that promotes violence against woman. I think is a combination of the western school system is saturated with patriarchal ideas so sex Ed classes promote the idea that because sex is only for reproduction men think women should be submissive towards them. You then add on the fact that there is so much porn that depicts abuses and it reinforces that idea that women are suppose to be submissive in the minds of men.
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[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist[M] 26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I’m sorry you need abuse to enjoy sex
[–]shrimpcakewithcrust9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What did they say?
[–]TheOGJammiesRuthless Strategist18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
More complaining about shaming abuse kinks being antifeminist
[–]SpaceC4seFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
>Shaming abuse is antifeminist
Lol citation needed
[+]kmblueFDS Newbie-9 points-8 points-7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As someone who was in the kink community before it went mainstream, this is correct. It is absolutely correct.
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