No words.

jalapenopancakes · 2020-02-08T16:01:49+00:00

Never date or marry porn addicts and ESPECIALLY those who chase instagram and snapchat pickmes

psychsense · 2020-02-08T16:06:24+00:00

STOP BREEDING WITH THESE LOSERS!

Every time I see these I think about that poor baby who will develop with broken parents, who will probably divorce when their child is no longer resilient and understands the trauma and suffering of this type of relationship.

randomgirlimok · 2020-02-08T16:13:36+00:00

They could be millionaires and she still has the right to be pissed that her husband is paying money to online thots

SarcasmSlide · 2020-02-08T16:45:39+00:00

She thinks it’s just $50. I promise you he’s hiding a lot more. Any man who would pay randos on IG is sleazy and stupid to his core. Lady better get her Detective hat on and get to work before she ends up on the street.

flandersmustash · 2020-02-08T18:13:14+00:00

Hits pretty close to home. My ex husband left me literally with zero money with a newborn whilst he was “donating money to church” but firstly to his own account, had gym memberships, lunches and dinners at fancy restaurants without me, sport club subscription, tv subscriptions etc etc

I didn’t even realise what was happening. It pains me now to think this was just straight up financial abuse. I was begging friends and family for money even looking up food banks. BuT OH hES sUCh a GoOd MaN FoR GoINg To wOrK was what i told myself. He made me feel like maternity leave was just holiday while he did all the hard work so he deserved all those things whilst I got the child.

Then had the AUDACITY to say that he was divorcing me because he was embarassed that I did not go to all the parties he did because I was at home with a baby. He shamed me for breastfeeding, not having sex after giving birth and eventually when he pressured me so much and i gave in he told me my vagina felt more open. I cried.

Don’t have babies with LVM. Don’t have babies with abusive LVM.

Women need this subreddit. We accept far too much bullshit because we have a “ticking clock” or we convince ourselves we need a man to be validated as a woman. FUCK NO. Vet, vet and vet again. Learn the red flags. Don’t believe sparks, you don’t know someone til months and months in. Manipulative men don’t always start by manipulating you.

ecopatricide · 2020-02-08T16:05:47+00:00

Financial abuse

Gentoka · 2020-02-08T16:17:50+00:00

She needs to re evaluate her life choice in partner. He’s putting himself above his family which is no less than selfish. He wants to do that? Be single and don’t fuck anyone else over just for his own needy needs. He made his choices to have a family, kick him out.

ceramicunicorn · 2020-02-08T15:56:33+00:00

“But I NEEEEED it!!” 🥺

venomous_g · 2020-02-08T18:26:57+00:00

If she has a family to go back to... she needs to take her child and go. Her part time job money would actually cover the expenses for her baby and she can start saving to get on her own feet.

This is the exact situations FDS is trying to prevent: being financially dependent on an abusive, selfish man with child(ren) and little means of escape. It'll only get worse for her.

lilythebeth · 2020-02-08T18:53:47+00:00

Unmotherfuckingbelievable

pissed_af · 2020-02-08T18:52:37+00:00

What the fuck. That's financial abuse and cheating. Oh God

LadyStain · 2020-02-08T19:12:57+00:00

This is why we walk away from men at the first sign of LVM behavior.

WestAtmosphere · 2020-02-08T19:33:15+00:00

This is a huge dealbreaker for me; he’s paying other women for favours essentially. This isn’t just porn now, it’s actually cheating. He is interacting with naked women, he’s probably paying them for specific requests.

It’s wrong on so many levels.

endorphins_ · 2020-02-08T18:51:44+00:00

And yet after having our feelings invalidated for so long, at the back of our minds we STILL think we’re overreacting

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-08T19:11:39+00:00

This is what you get with an LVM porn trash male. Holy shit this is ridiculous.

2020-02-08T16:00:34+00:00

He is selfish, not a team player

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2020-02-08T17:43:54+00:00

He is unsalvageable. Sorry. This character flaw cannot be fixed. He let you go without the small but necessary pleasure of a Starbucks or a Sephora trip so he could jerk to some strange woman’s nudes. Leave him. It will only get worse.

CeriseNoire · 2020-02-08T20:18:06+00:00

Still amazes me how they always leave in the possibility that they're overreacting.

This woman disrupted her course of life for that porn addicted couch creature. That is nothing short of terrifying.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2020-02-08T21:29:00+00:00

divorcehim

bitch_not_it · 2020-02-08T19:28:47+00:00

....... "Am I overreacting?"

SIS

RadarFemef · 2020-02-08T20:37:44+00:00

Trash. That man is pure trash.

KitKat1705 · 2020-02-08T16:36:13+00:00

Wow 😲 imagine being married to that man. And you actually chose him and chose to procreate with him wow.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-02-08T20:24:53+00:00

Un-fucking believable.

You know what?? I'm going to put this out there: NO WOMAN SHOULD EVER HAVE A CHILD WITH ANY MAN UNTIL THEY'VE READ "WHY DOES HE DO THAT?" BY LUNDY BANCROFT FROM COVER TO COVER, AT LEAST THREE TIMES.

Textbook "The Drill Sergeant" and "The demand man" right fucking there. She would have seen it coming at the dating stages if she had read that book. I feel so bad for her. SO SO BAD FOR HER. She ruined her life and is in for 18 - 30 years of nightmare involvement with this man, AND she'll be out about $400k for raising that child.

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-02-08T22:56:12+00:00

No, you are not overreacting. Murdering him would be overreacting. Telling him he's trash and divorcing his ass is a perfectly proportionate reaction.

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-08T21:22:44+00:00

give them an inch and they'll take a mile (or try to). i learned this the hard way. after i watched porn with my ex bf he actually expected me to do porn for him so he could make money off me. basically he wanted to pimp me out online... i didnt realize at the time that i had essentially given him permission to mistreat me in general by letting him have porn. i thought it was a "fun thing", that i was being the cool girl, but he not only got the message that he could cheat on me by watching porn, he also got the message that my body was for sale too. this is the thought process for men. if you come right out the gate letting them disrespect you on "little thing", they will disrespect you on big things throughout the entirety of the relationship.

lunamermaid · 2020-02-08T20:42:10+00:00

I listened to a podcast the other day about covert narcissists and the host encouraged the listeners to trust yourself and your body because it’s the best barometer in determining what is good. If it feels wrong and makes you have negative physical symptoms (tightening in chest or a lump in your throat) it is!

jetpatch · 2020-02-08T23:16:03+00:00

She's actually extremely under reacting.

Calm_Link · 2020-02-08T23:26:31+00:00

Soon it will be dates. Leave his ass.

ShuswapRose · 2020-02-08T23:39:42+00:00

Not for a second. He has responsibilities now, and he needs to grow on up!

bitch_not_it · 2020-02-08T18:20:26+00:00

No, not overreacting at all. Make sure to give him your money you set aside for the baby, after all his dick needs more attention and care than your child. Also suck his dick every day while you are at it.

Aan716 · 2020-02-09T05:10:17+00:00

As a literal cam girl..... I have to say I do not feel like you are overreacting. I think that his behavior is disgusting. If you’re a single man and you wanna buy this shit, fine. It’s your money, and your call. But if the mother of your child (or even if she hasn’t had a kid- If a woman you claim to care about) is struggling and you think it’s okay to waste money on custom porn (when there’s not even enough money for formula) you are a doing a terrible, terrible thing

boudiceanMonaxia · 2020-02-09T06:09:44+00:00

You know what they say: If he watches adult film, throw him out on a whim.

hyacinthgirl95 · 2020-02-08T21:03:56+00:00

Wow. Damn. Smh.

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-02-08T21:34:41+00:00

Ohhh fuck no.

AntiCircles · 2020-02-08T22:55:49+00:00

I have no words

Alymi · 2020-02-08T23:41:06+00:00

I guess I've been super lucky to avoid men like this. I've only ever come across one porn addict in my dating life as far as I know.

turquoiseblues · 2020-02-09T10:50:06+00:00

“Am I overreacting?”

noturbaby92 · 2020-02-08T16:34:50+00:00

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2020-02-09T06:28:21+00:00

TIME FOR A DIVORCE. Porn users are shit. NEVER date or marry one.

ivy176 · 2020-02-09T00:59:15+00:00

Sigh

delicateearthbabe · 2020-02-09T17:32:24+00:00

#DivorceHim2020

Title	No words.
Author	TheMarbleSlab
Upvotes	590
Comments	98
Date	February 8, 2020 3:53 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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