When he thinks one date will get him a ticket to pound town.

ScrappleSandwiches · 2020-02-04T05:38:23+00:00

“babes”

I would leave it at “no not really.”

curlygirl507 · 2020-02-04T05:45:49+00:00

I would've unmatched at "I was looking for a lil more than coffee." Gross.

Side note, I have a long list of horrible experiences with men that I've posted about here before, but every time I look at this sub I see stories that are so much worse and my spirit is broken because of it.

freerollerskates · 2020-02-04T06:44:50+00:00

I wouldn't have mentioned the number of dates tbh

closetskeleton_girl · 2020-02-04T06:03:43+00:00

I would've said "it's looking like you're not even getting coffee."

Annallve · 2020-02-04T06:12:06+00:00

Wow I hate him. I hate how we’re supposed to sleep with them after two dates or it means we’re weird prudes.

When I didn’t want to have sex after the first date with this guy, he asked if I was lying about my age lmao he couldn’t believe I was 25 after that. Okay.

LadyHormoneMonster · 2020-02-04T07:37:43+00:00

Never let a man know your personal timeline for sex.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-04T07:12:35+00:00

He really thinks he's going to get a prostitute for the price of a coffee.

Anyway five dates is not enough. That's mid-range.

Minute_Sign · 2020-02-04T07:26:26+00:00

"I was looking for a lil more than just a coffee tbh"

Oh cool! Why won't you take me to 'nice restaurant' and we can enjoy some dinner together? Your treat!

Seriously though coffee isn't a date, it's a way for LVM to feel obligated to your time without putting any effort in.

NoThisIs-Patrick · 2020-02-04T05:42:51+00:00

Five dates is old school?! Well, I'm a nun!

WOW, I haven't even seen his face or met this man and I already hate him.

PrettyCicada · 2020-02-04T07:23:40+00:00

Your first mistake was letting him get away with a coffee date. Coffee dates are for LVMs looking for a low effort way to get into a girl's pants.

purasangria · 2020-02-04T06:58:11+00:00

All they have is audacity. Wants to take her to coffee, and then hit it? Gross.

But so typical.

teeteereads · 2020-02-04T07:59:01+00:00

I like how not wanting to get fucked by a stranger at his place on the first low effort meeting is painted as this prudish act

CyanCayenne · 2020-02-04T06:25:25+00:00

How can you proposition someone you haven't even met???

And he has the nerve to keep pressing the issue, with "Is that okay? :)"

2020-02-04T06:31:43+00:00

Gross. He basically just said "I'm looking for a free prostitute." He probably wouldn't even pay for your fucking coffee. I mean...

2020-02-04T07:55:05+00:00

You don't even have to tell him how many dates until you'll consider sex, fuck that. And babes? Really? To soon for cutesie names. Buh bye.

hey-hey-how · 2020-02-04T08:16:50+00:00

honestly any guy who is dropping pet names names like babe, chick, doll, etc. on me during chat within the first 2 weeks is a drop. it feels like a player.

2020-02-04T09:19:11+00:00

I would have not bothered explaining anything. "say wha" sounded stupid, some fuckboys have no brain. They only understand insults

drslvtr · 2020-02-04T09:00:21+00:00

Men who type lol and incomplete words irk me to no end. Nothing can be less attractive than men who speaks like a teen.

lipgloss1000 · 2020-02-04T08:03:13+00:00

What a loser

CloacaDiddler · 2020-02-04T11:45:24+00:00

You know the coffee part is only so he can feel proud about “earning” his fuck, otherwise men would just want women to spread their legs on the sidewalk and call anyone wanting a coffee date first old fashioned. It’s all about the conquest, and once that becomes boring they’ll get more manipulative and degenerate

heartbreakandseance · 2020-02-04T10:31:38+00:00

A coffee date. 😭 Girl, you deserve better.

hazelbroom · 2020-02-04T10:53:20+00:00

Declining to hear “no” is a signal that someone is either seeking control or refusing to relinquish it. With strangers, even those with the best intentions, never, ever relent on the issue of “no,” because it sets the stage for more efforts to control. If you let someone talk you out of the word “no,” you might as well wear a sign that reads, “You are in charge.”

The worst response when someone fails to accept “no” is to give ever-weakening refusals and then give in. Another common response that serves the criminal is to negotiate (“I really appreciate your offer, but let me try to do it on my own first”). Negotiations are about possibilities, and providing access to someone who makes you apprehensive is not a possibility you want to keep on the agenda.

The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. Available as a free pdf.

thinkpinkhair · 2020-02-04T12:35:54+00:00

Don't explain yourself and do not play into it. As soon as he indicates he's not up to your standards just stop replying. You do not owe anyone anything, least of all an explanation.

kwallio · 2020-02-04T07:08:14+00:00

Gross. I would not show up to that "coffee date". Cheapskate guys aren't worth it.

2020-02-04T12:32:22+00:00

Ewwww put him straight in the bin!!!!

Yggie · 2020-02-04T10:41:50+00:00

Ugh, the texts and the use of smileys.. not even nice 'nice guy' who'll turn even more shitty after having sex with him. Or, best case, just disappears.

dr_fop · 2020-02-04T14:49:34+00:00

He's going to have to pound that cappuccino now instead.

ny-lady · 2020-02-04T12:21:25+00:00

I cannot stand babes, baby, sweetie!

I would have been like "Im not your babes" and ended it right there! LOL

streetveep · 2020-02-04T13:38:01+00:00

Why are you looking for a COFFEE date?? You’re just teaching them to treat you low value. And your timeline should be 3 months minimum!!

miz_nyc · 2020-02-04T16:56:05+00:00

Ugh, why is she still talking to him at all? We're coming in on the middle of their conversation and it's gross, so i'm pretty sure he's gross even at the start.

FodderFigureIllushun · 2020-02-04T17:42:29+00:00

Too much chitchat from the lady. I would have stopped at "just coffee for now" and left it at that. He would have kept on talking to himself in which case I would have nexted him. Too much energy expended on this fool.

TheObservationalist · 2020-02-04T18:08:47+00:00

What a crazy world we live in when a dude thinks he's gonna smash after one stupid coffee date.

classyhighstandards · 2020-02-04T14:07:17+00:00

Girl you’re much better than coffee. Go get the dinner you deserve - this will weep out those kinda boys as well.

em0873 · 2020-02-05T03:48:44+00:00

Since when does a $2 coffee = sex??? LMAO THE AUDACITY

redbirdflies · 2020-02-04T21:25:06+00:00

The moment you get the “Netflix and chill” vibe, next him. Block. Delete. He’s a fuckboy. Don’t waste your effort responding. You’re better than that.

Kitty015 · 2020-02-05T05:10:55+00:00

I also look for a bit more than coffee.

I want a full meal at a nice restaurant ffs

binahbabe · 2020-02-16T03:09:29+00:00

Old school, lol! Because having standards is out of style

purasangria · 2020-02-04T06:32:51+00:00

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Radtron3000 · 2020-02-04T22:03:23+00:00

Wow. A coffee date? I feel sick.

Radtron3000 · 2020-02-04T22:04:33+00:00

He's talking to you like you don't have a brain or any self-worth. Eff that!

thinkpinkhair · 2020-02-04T13:18:47+00:00

I wonder if I should just text him today and just say, “sorry something came up.” And block him? Might be better than him trying to charm me into a one night stand after coffee.

Title	When he thinks one date will get him a ticket to pound town.
Author	thinkpinkhair
Upvotes	286
Comments	91
Date	February 4, 2020 5:10 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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