You can feel as fake-empowered about hookups as you want. It doesn't change the fact that this is how men think.

cherieblosum · 2021-02-01T16:08:36+00:00

One of my Pickme friends was saved on a guy's phone as Cumdumpster Pig and she still kept sleeping with him, hoping he'd want a relationship.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-02-01T07:29:18+00:00

Yeah there's nothing "free and empowered" about fucking these dudes.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2021-02-01T12:10:49+00:00

Yep. Same. Found myself named in his pager as Pussy. But you know it was just a big ole joke, hahahaha./s Sweet hindsight has granted me more than two decades of watching this man from afar. Cheated on every girlfriend he ever had, then his wife. She left him when she found out he was sleeping with the neighbor. So ladies, be aware, these men don’t develop respect for women as they get older and have daughters of their own.

Davina33 · 2021-02-01T07:23:59+00:00

Yup, they don't respect us. They will tell you absolutely anything to get in to your knickers but if you sleep with them too soon, they see you as a slut and not girlfriend/wife material. They really do think we are free prostitutes and that's one of the reasons I do not like OLD. I don't do hook ups and never have, we are worth so much more.

SoybeanApocalypse · 2021-02-01T14:25:34+00:00

I think this message used to confuse me because I thought that FDS meant "training" men. Then I realized it's about avoiding these men for sex and relationships entirely and I am 1000% behind that

dancedance_83 · 2021-02-01T08:03:57+00:00

Reminds me of Bridesmaids when Kristen Wiig’s shitty sorta boyfriend (Jon Hamm) told her, “You’ll always be my #4!”

hdost34 · 2021-02-01T14:54:04+00:00

I’m an experienced dater (semi retired) and here’s the truth: these guys only know the PRICE of everything and the value of nothing. In their shallow minds if they are not paying for you, you have no value. These men have more respect for prostitutes.

eatchickpeas · 2021-02-01T16:27:20+00:00

men really enjoy dehumanising women

nyclaurco · 2021-02-01T18:04:06+00:00

Unless a guy is courting you, spending his money and being emotionally vulnerable he just sees you as a fleshlight, nothing more.

FriendlyPitch1 · 2021-02-01T17:49:31+00:00

Reason #1000 why hookup culture doesn’t benefit women at all and should be avoided

dembar126 · 2021-02-01T18:18:11+00:00

Men get mad at women for making them "pay" for sex with dates. Then they get mad at us and degrade us when we let them have sex with us for free lmao. You literally can't win. Men are determined to hate women.

SayNad · 2021-02-01T15:58:49+00:00

"Hookup culture" being "empowering" is the greatest lie ever created by the patriarchy. Why? Because once upon a time, men have to literally and metaphorically suffer to prove that he is the best man for the woman. That is just how precious the presence of a woman in a man's life is.

It is the male animals who have to show off their feathers, dance, fight, and make nests while the female simply pick and choose.

But of course patriarchy be like "I don't want to do the work anymore, I just want them all free" and proceed to gaslight the ever-living shit out of us and convince women that "hooking up without attachment" is the greatest gift a woman will ever get. They flipped the fucking script and we thank them for it.

Ughhhh.

essetea · 2021-02-01T09:39:19+00:00

My ex always used to refer to see with me as 'free sex' which confused me and sadly I was too naive to understand what he meant and wasted years

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-02-01T07:22:01+00:00

OLD is a cestpool, the pornsick men don't even see the women as human beings, just holes to use and dump their load in to feed their ego and so they can brag to their friends.

musicallymirrored · 2021-02-01T13:43:27+00:00

This needs to blasted everywhere. Too many women just don’t get it. Free sex doesn’t make a man value you.

c_a_t_lady · 2021-02-01T09:59:23+00:00

If I was named that or something similar in someone's phone, I would legitimately cry.

Honestly, I'd feel so bad and humiliated.

seraphinelysion · 2021-02-01T14:46:29+00:00

Charming. 😐

butterballnook · 2021-02-01T12:55:36+00:00

Things like this is why I don't think our sex culture (at least in the west) is empowering. Not to mention some women are like UberSex for men. I've seen tiktoks about women leaving a man's house and how awkward it is for them to drive home. Seriously. Why would you deliver yourself on a platter to some loser who cannot spell clitoris?

honeybeeroll · 2021-02-01T23:05:38+00:00

I think the core reason many of us were pickmes is because we were ignorant of the ugly ways men think about women and behave. I am curious if we presented a 100 slide PowerPoint filled with screenshots of tweets like this, and content from men on PUA, red pill, or simply just random men on Twitter who speak honestly about how they think of women, would it actually get a pickme or liberal feminist's to rethink their ideas on dating, sex, and men.

blackwidowe · 2021-02-01T08:01:40+00:00

Eeeeewwwwww.

weq1_ · 2021-02-01T16:54:27+00:00

What saved me from pickmeism was an older woman snarkily and rudely calling me a "cheap date". I felt so embarrassed at the time, but sometimes that momentary strong feeling can really shift your mindset. Another older woman had advised me not to sell myself short but that didn't get through my thick skull at the time.

Rememberthekant · 2021-02-01T10:53:18+00:00

And thats whyyyy you dont hook up

Diamond_fairy · 2021-02-01T13:07:17+00:00

🤢🤮

Imagine the rates of STDs.

crybabyhsinju · 2021-02-01T20:49:17+00:00

I used to be someone who thought they had to be a part of the hookup culture in order to be an “empowered woman” and seen as an “equal” to men, and I’m glad to have dropped that mindset after finding FDS. Hookup culture is just too damaging and toxic for most women’s sense of self-worth and happiness.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-02-01T07:37:48+00:00

Lol at the number 3.

berrylikeova · 2021-02-01T19:47:26+00:00

Ooh my bf of two years kept me in his phone as “firstname Okcupid” Another red flag. 😂

honeydewmelonz · 2021-02-02T00:05:29+00:00

That is brutal. I have brothers and grew up around male family members so I’m already familiar with this. I wish I could warn women but they don’t believe me LOL

TTIsurvivors · 2021-02-01T06:50:43+00:00

I hate this tweet so much. 😩

b0hemian_l0ve · 2021-02-02T01:02:35+00:00

I worked with a guy who referred to his NOW fiancé as “the lot lizard” before they started dating...so gross

Old-Leather2251 · 2021-02-01T17:57:44+00:00

🙌🏻

galian84 · 2021-02-02T14:28:30+00:00

There is absolutely nothing empowering about hooking up. All benefit for the male, none for the woman. It’s a rare guy that will make sure you get off, too.

I distinctly remember my mom telling me this, and then as an example, she talked about the song ‘Summer Nights’ from Grease. In it, she said you can see how differently men and women think.

I’m still embarrassed about the single hookup I had, on some guy I had a major crush on in my super pickme days, who just ghosted me afterward. I just thank my lucky stars I wasn’t dumb enough to have sex with him.

PiorkoZCzapkiJaskra · 2021-02-01T20:48:04+00:00

Save him as Free Dick 3 and treat him exactly the same

Title	You can feel as fake-empowered about hookups as you want. It doesn't change the fact that this is how men think.
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Date	February 1, 2021 5:56 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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