How much does muscle/good body factor into your dating choices and how much muscle do you like?

sillyme2323 · 2023-02-24T03:01:23+00:00

Athletic, bearmode, and strongman are my favorite.

But I haven't based my dating life on that. There's a lot of other factors I care about more.

FWIW, while I think most women don't like the bodybuilder look, I've heard bodybuilders say that the number of women who really love the look is much larger than the number of men who achieve it, so it's a successful niche.

Illustrious-Line-996 · 2023-02-24T06:54:28+00:00

Not much. Height and face are the pre requisites. Muscularity/physique are just afterthoughts.

CimZim · 2023-02-24T11:40:01+00:00

Based on your pictures, the Overweight body type is my preference, although I like a little bit more belly pudge than the model has. Just not all the way into obese where it's literal folds of fat. About 30% body fat on a man is the sweet spot.

I do not like muscular guys at all. Muscles weighed into my dating choices, with a negative value.

Aggressive_Grand_897 · 2023-02-24T03:47:57+00:00

Girls care about face more. A nice body can take you from a 7 to a 7.5 maybe 8 that’s about it. That’s why Timothy chálame, Leo decaprio, harry styles etc get all the girls. It’s the FACE. As long as your not fat body has diminishing marginal returns

Pajama_Strangler · 2023-02-24T03:37:12+00:00

Shout out bald Omni man

OfSpock · 2023-02-24T06:47:35+00:00

Absolutely ottermode. But I'd date skinny and athletic too. Fit guys's body looks weird in a way I can't put my finger on.

Katatonicsnake · 2023-02-24T12:34:25+00:00

None of those examples really do it for me, I guess it depends on a guy and their body measurements. And maybe I have been extremely lucky with the men I’ve met, but that “normie” doesn’t represent an average guy to me.

Ideal is Marlon Brando in A Streetcar Named Desire or Harrison Ford in Indiana Jones or Adam Driver in Girls.

ring_shopping · 2023-02-24T02:46:00+00:00

Can a nice physique save someone like is this guy way more attractive with muscle than if he was without or ottermode?

I'd guess his physique would make him more attractive to a good portion of women. Looking at his face though he doesn't look like an ugly guy he just has a shit haircut.

How much does muscle/good body factor into your dating choices

Tbh, not too much. Body is one of the last things that I would focus on. I don't think obese would appeal to me though.

strongman/builtfat,

My partner is pretty much this body type and I love it. Whatever body type he had I would probably love, but this is definitely the most attractive to me out of all of them because it reminds me of him.

houstongradengineer · 2023-02-24T02:50:54+00:00

Not too much difference, and anything between the extremes was just fine. I was looking for someone to fuck all the way up until I was 80, not a one-nighter. As long as they had like a "spark," I was good, and a lot of that was in a smile or some sexy banter. Even more of the spark comes from being a good communicator, supportive, reliable, and honest.

I didn't weight lift myself, though!!! Now we both are starting.

Jambi1913 · 2023-02-24T04:03:27+00:00

The guy in that pic looks fine - just needs a better haircut and more flattering glasses.

Out of the examples you posted, strongman, bearmode and athletic look the best. Fit is good. Ottermode looks underfed and overworked to me - body fat is just too low. The hyper muscular guys just look a bit ridiculous and make me cringe. Skinny and obese look unhealthy. Skinny fat looks bland and a bit weak. Overweight is actually not bad - wouldn’t turn me off.

A man’s physique matters, but it’s not a major factor unless it’s extreme.

PonderingPeaches · 2023-02-24T05:22:18+00:00

Bearmode & strongman for me.

Your normie and athletic examples are children.

The guy in the pic looks regular to me. Bad hair cut. Not ugly.

Body type isn’t super important. I don’t like a lot of defined muscles and I’d rather not have an obese partner for sex mechanics reasons.

Alert_Many_1196 · 2023-02-24T06:48:14+00:00

Love the bodybuilder/super ripped look which isn't popular with most women and is kinda niche thing but it's down to the circles you hang out with.

Spirited_Path_1973 · 2023-02-24T14:27:02+00:00

I’ll be honest I like my lanky gamer boys lol

northernlights190 · 2023-02-24T05:59:55+00:00

Personally, muscle isn’t that important, but body fat percentage is, and after that it’s all face. I like skinny men a lot, and yes I do mean “rail thin, very little muscle,” although very lean with very average to low-average muscle is probably my ideal body type.

The ottermode guy is probably my favourite of the photos you’ve linked, followed by the skinny guy. But a dude really doesn’t have to be so obviously developed as the ottermode guy for me to be into it. I’m not into super muscular or built. Bear mode and strongman for me are not attractive.

But having a low BF% is pretty huge for me, I just cannot be attracted to guys with a lot of fat. As long as they’re lean, then face is way more important than body.

hello0918 · 2023-02-24T04:10:19+00:00

Height is the biggest factor for women. If you match their height standards, your body type hardly matters (within range).

Silver-Tumbleweed351 · 2023-02-24T03:40:40+00:00

I’m fit so I’m attracted to the same. I like good posture and always notice an athletic gait.

The guy needs a better haircut and a change of glasses or contacts. But since he isn’t relaxed and smiling, I can’t tell what his potential is. He has an ordinary face, but I always notice big shoulders. He’s alright, but there is room for improvement. Just a nicer facial expression would make a big difference.

LiftSushiDallas · 2023-02-24T03:13:38+00:00

I like men with muscle, but muscle that comes with performance in lifting or a sport. Men that fixate on physique (trying to be the sex or beauty object) at the expense of finances and masculine competence (as men should do, be the success object) give off very unattractive feminine energy.

Men can have good physiques but they shouldn't be preening and obsessed with their bodies. Men are qualified on performance, not looks. A brokie with a six pack, especially over 30, is a failed man.

blebbyroo · 2023-02-24T02:41:47+00:00

I like athletic and bear mode from your options

In terms of the guy you posted with below average face and good body the good body helps a lot. He is still below average but could benefit a lot from a different hair cut, different glasses and a possible nose job (none of which are extreme) I think those three things could make him average to maybe even slightly above depending on how good the hair cut nose job and new glasses look on his alread good body

EulenWatcher · 2023-02-24T03:50:04+00:00

Visually I like skinny like this, although I think that k-pop idols go overboard and they should eat some more. Fit and bearmode are also attractive though.

But my attraction isn’t based mush on one’s physique. There’s probably a minimum threshold - like don’t be overweight, but I wouldn’t get attracted just because one 100% fit my visual preferences either.

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Financial_Leave4411 · 2023-02-24T03:52:47+00:00

A man’s personality and face help him more than his body in my book. As for the pics you gave overweight, bearmode and strongman were my favorites but I’m open minded regarding body type as long as he isn’t obese or bodybuilder it’s fine. Those two are just too extreme for me.

INFPneedshelp · 2023-02-24T03:36:20+00:00

Zero. I just would like an active person

lle-ell · 2023-02-24T06:28:23+00:00

Skinny, athletic and fit are the hottest ones. Body type is quite low on my list, though.

Ppdebatesomental · 2023-02-24T06:45:50+00:00

First no overweight guys.

Second good face

Third height is nice, but if he’s short,cute and not fat…...he’s still cute.

Other than not overweight? Honestly for me body is way down on the list

Can a nice physique save someone like is this guy way more attractive with muscle than if he was without or ottermode?

That guy needs a decent haircut and a pair of contacts, and frankly….less muscle imho. That body is actually a negative for me.

Of all the body types posted? Fit for me I suppose, followed by otter, athletic and skinny in that order. I do like the swimmers body…not the Michael Phelps elite athlete, but this https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D499RYRaFKxI&psig=AOvVaw0BOp0KARU-Irdbv1KaEXib&ust=1677307932057000&source=images&cd=vfe&ved=0CA8QjRxqFwoTCPjD7Y3Jrf0CFQAAAAAdAAAAABAJ

All of those guys have attractive bodies to me, second from the left is just about perfect.

farrahamelia · 2023-02-24T08:31:59+00:00

i don't really care about physique that much as long as he's not unhealthily obese or unhealthily skinny. what matters most to me is character, personality, and how much we click

januaryphilosopher · 2023-02-24T11:03:05+00:00

Moderately, I don't think I've ever wanted to date anyone with anything like a muscular body but it also doesn't overlap much with the my general "type" anyway. A "good body" to me is between what you'd call skinny and skinny fat (the "skinny fat" one looks a bit overweight though).

sweetestpineapple · 2023-02-24T05:27:05+00:00

My preference is fit/athletic but it’s more of a plus than a requirement. A bit of visible muscle, especially nice arms, is really attractive imo. I feel bad saying this but stomach fat is a turnoff. The guy in the picture has an unfortunate looking face but he also doesn’t seem to know his angles or what lighting to use and could easily get a better haircut. I think he’s benefit from switching to contacts or at least a different style of glasses. Also clothing choices and one or two pieces of jewelry can go a long way.

I_DRINK_ANARCHY · 2023-02-24T06:09:20+00:00

My most common range goes from skinny to athletic. I want a man who is fit and active, because 1. I am fit and active and 2. He's most likely healthy and will live a long life.

That being said, my husband is probably closer to bear mode and I love it. Strong, sexy, and always doing outdoorsy things.

I appreciate the visuals of jacked men, but I have dated and fucked many a dude who was barely any bigger/taller than me. They were hot, fun, and all around good guys.

Body builders and the like are not for me. Don't like the look, don't want to date a man who lives in a gym.

tinasnow-poty · 2023-02-24T13:32:36+00:00

I like athletic to jacked, maybe peak natty but not that example. Anything over that is off putting, especially when they’re extremely vascular. It looks like a paper cut could take them out. I would date a skinny or overweight before juicy and bodybuilder, but ideally none of those.

However, face > body type. Wouldn’t date an ugly (to me) guy because he’s jacked, however it’s better to be ugly and fit than ugly and unfit. Physique is pretty important to me but it’s not rigid, just as long as they are somewhat fit. My bf is a little bear mode rn and he’s cutting to get the fit look

yamb97 · 2023-02-24T14:34:03+00:00

Looks are secondary to personality of course but high definition is a bit of a dealbreaker for me, out of those pics bearmode or builtfat, jacked guy is pushing it a bit.

alphamaker420 · 2023-02-24T16:16:31+00:00

Overweight or bearmode are the most appealing to me, I think love handles on a man are insanely attractive and I like big arms. I think subtle abs are aesthetically pleasing but not as attractive as a little bit of belly. It doesn't really affect my dating choices much but I do tend to go for guys with the overweight or average body type more often than not, it just depends on the guy. Overall shape, size, and proportions are the biggest factors for me

Diddy_1978 · 2023-02-24T18:13:23+00:00

Personally, athletic/skinny, anything bigger is increasingly disgusting to me (and no it’s not fat shaming, I find repulsive more muscle than just athletic. I am totally not attracted to other body types. My dating pool is within those categories.

begayallday · 2023-02-24T18:24:37+00:00

I generally avoided dudes who were muscular because I just don’t find it to be attractive in the vast majority of cases. Even when I was young (like ages 10-18) all the guys I had crushes on were either chubby or skinny.

riceweight · 2023-02-24T18:54:17+00:00

Physique matters. I will date someone not in my ideal body shape, but they can’t be too skinny or fat. More jacked than I prefer is ok. I will not date someone who I cannot be physically attracted to though, that’s not fair to either of us. Physique won’t be the primary source of my attraction (I live in a college town and pretty much all the D1 athletes are NPCs to me) but it is a dealbreaker / must have.

Athletic is my preferred physique. My formative years were spent on the swim team so I frequently saw very fit boys, which defined what I’m attracted to. Btw, the ottermode pic you provided is actually too skinny/defined to be ottermode. He needs a bit more muscle and a bit more body fat to look healthy. I don’t need fully defined abs, you can get abs just by starving yourself. Good arms and pecs are where it’s at.

Also good jeans that highlight a nice ass are 🤌 never skip leg day boys

I feel like women’s preferences change with age. As young girls/early 20s women, we tend to be attracted to males in our age range ie boyish kpop idols and Timothee Chalamet. At my age (cusp of mid 20s) I’m attracted to healthy and athletic young men. Older women may be more open to bearmode/bulkier men since those muscles come with age and strength.

Agree that face is a big factor as well. Facial hair is meh, again older women may like it more since it’s a sign of age. Classically handsome is — defined jaw, straight nose, high brow. I tend to find my looksmatches more attractive though — open, “honest” faces, a good smile, plain and “basic”. Asian. Lol.

PS. By “older women” I simply mean “older than me”, I don’t mean to imply that 30/40/50 year old women are old lol

BlackPorcelainDoll · 2023-02-24T21:21:10+00:00

It's all about subcultures honey

TSquaredRecovers · 2023-02-25T00:44:40+00:00

As a woman, somewhere between normie and athletic. I'm not really interested in someone who's completely jacked...just not my type. Honestly, just a regular dude who isn't overweight is ideal.

Johnny_Autism · 2023-02-25T15:05:20+00:00

The skinny/ skinny fat examples are of men that have smaller frames, more petite bone structure, and the ones women her fawn over (dad bod, bear, strongman) are men with naturally big frames. The women here now going "We're not into muscles, just be big and cuddly" are saying be tall, big and naturally strong without trying to cheat your genes in the gym because that's for narcissist tryhards.

mantis_princess · 2023-02-26T05:25:22+00:00

Face and personality/how a guy carries himself is more important to me. Physique is not a primary interest for me and I like both lanky guys and some muscley guys and in between. I do not like anything above bearmode though and super jacked huge guys are not for me lol. Same for obese. So I guess I have dealbreakers but I have a wide range of likes and don't have any specific preference in that range

Limp_Angle_8378 · 2023-02-26T09:10:16+00:00

Do not workout it’s a waste of time women don’t care about muscles hence all those tall skinny white guys with Squared jawlines & blue hunter eyes the better aryan genes that so many women statically,culturally,& overall fawn over they don’t need to work out but there’s cases where some men it can benefit from working out if their face is at least a 7/10 for a white guy 8/10 for the rest.

Ok-Put3239 · 2023-03-01T04:34:29+00:00

I like dad bods.

Additional_Speech164 · 2023-03-04T05:18:48+00:00

Just need to have a fit body, don’t care about “ muscles” just a v shape for me. Face is probably the most important tbh.

Det_Steve_Sloan · 2023-03-17T15:25:14+00:00

'Bear mode' = Mark Wahlberg combining both steroids and human growth hormone for several months. Just FYI.

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