What do you being to the table

Wattehfok · 2024-01-14T20:54:57+00:00

This whole “what do you bring to the table” thing has to die.

Way to turn romance into a hostile negotiation guys. You’re fucken killing it.

Dr_Click_Click_Boom · 2024-01-14T22:11:23+00:00

Absolutely nothing.

Bikerbats · 2024-01-14T21:17:04+00:00

I brought me, and I'm a lot of fun. I like to have fun and try to make sure everyone I'm with is likewise enjoying themselves.
I brought me, a loving husband, who while not perfect was committed to being there until the end.
Attraction was simple: Someone fun and attractive.
All I wanted was what I gave returned. What I got was so much more.

Easy questions for me as they're all past tense, so no speculation involved.

AceOfSpadesGymBro3 · 2024-01-14T20:50:05+00:00

Bitch, I AM the table.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-01-14T23:44:30+00:00

1) I might not have been the best looking date, but I would be the most fun date she’d been on

2) being able to talk to and connect with people, with a lot of listening and a lot of making them laugh

3) just needed them to be fun to be around too. And, you know: like me back

4) my wife has been my best friend since we got together and she’s still my favorite person!

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-01-14T21:47:05+00:00

You do realize that most the answers you get are gonna be memes of what women on this sub say they bring. Also pretty sure this kinda post is against the rules

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-01-15T04:09:31+00:00

I am the table

Soloandthewookiee · 2024-01-14T21:14:53+00:00

What do you bring to the table in the attraction phase to attract a woman

I make them laugh, I engage with them on a personal level, and I have genuine interest in them as people.

What do you bring to the table beyond the attraction phase to keep a woman

By conveying confidence, showing that I have a fulfilling life on my own, and maintaining the pieces from initial attraction.

What do you require your partner or future partner to bring to the table to attract you

What do you require your partner or future partner to bring to the table to keep you .

That's difficult to answer. I don't have a specific type of woman beyond a few key qualities. Past that, there are a lot of different women and life experiences and I couldn't possibly say which ones would work and which ones wouldn't.

grillopie · 2024-01-14T22:33:41+00:00

the way this question is posed makes it sound like the answer should be a sales pitch, but thats really not how this question should be asked. this is a question you should ask yourself. not the other person.

since you are asking yourself, you also need to ask a few other questions in tandem.

what do i bring?
what are my shortcomings?
what do i need from the other person?

how can you find someone who appreciates the answers to 1, tolerates the answers to 2, and is able to give you 3?

theres really no need to ask someone else for their elevator pitch. you already should know roughly what you need.

PMmeareasontolive · 2024-01-15T05:22:33+00:00

It's a matter of compatibility. For the majority, sadly, I wouldn't bring much. But that one weirdo out of a hundred might find me funny, attractive, appropriately masculine, etc, where the others wouldn't. This isn't strictly hypothetical, I have met women who actually liked me, and they are awesome, but they are, unfortunately, bizarrely rare.

wtknight · 2024-01-14T21:07:43+00:00

I'm a nice American guy. The foreign women I've met seemed to like that about me.

one_time_animal · 2024-01-15T09:22:57+00:00

I'm 33 6'1'' BMI is middle of overweight now (210) and I make an 84% individual income (110k) a year with good growth potential. I don't have drug addictions, children, don't smoke, rarely drink. I don't have debt. Weaknesses are that I'm not social but since I have to work I feel as though I'm well liked at work. People have given me praise in ways that surprise me at work. I'm savings oriented, children/family oriented.

for # 3 and # 4 I don't kno. Apparently, according to OKCupid, let me just describe my last 5 matches

A 32 year old obese black women that has kids. Has her tits and ass hanging out in a few photos and I think her outfit screams feminist to me, but it doesn't say that, for what that's worth. Bullshit liberal arts degree that her profile indicates she thinks makes her smart. profile says she grew up in the hood
A probably obese black woman, 39 yo. I say probably because she only has one photo and I'm judging based off of her jowls. Essentially no information here
An obese black 25 yo woman with 2 pictures. Looks pretty hood to me. light on information
A think 23 yo black woman with a high school education and kids. Looks pretty ghetto. 3/5 of her pictures are of her ass
a 28 year old formerly obese black woman, one of her pictures is of her weight loss of 150 lbs. Profile says nothing about her but at least doens't have kids. Seems ok, doesn't seem ghetto, I like the way she dresses, I find her attractive. She ignored my message.

Mr_Chad_Thunderpenis · 2024-01-14T22:27:11+00:00

I am both a table and a 10. I know my worth. Do I need to say more?

exponentialtaxi · 2024-01-14T21:02:26+00:00

I am the table/I bring the table

FromAuntToNiece · 2024-01-14T22:45:51+00:00

Finances: I own my own car, have my own apartment (for rent), and have no student debt. This year marks the first to hit six figures.

I personally don't consider that well-established enough, because I didn't get the chance to become a homeowner, and because I still have an MBA to pursue.

I look much younger, anywhere from 10 years to 20 years. In addition to not smoking or drinking, it actually helps to have no beard and no balding hairline.

I stay indoors most of the time, but this explains the lack of skin breakdown from the sun.

I don't work out regularly, but I do have a body mass that is not clinically overweight.

I will edit the above, originally copied from a post in another subreddit, to answer the four questions systematically.

PowerGlove-it-so-bad · 2024-01-15T00:35:54+00:00

I'm easy to talk to, funny, and confident.
I'm a man's Man, thankfully raised by a 60's Dad. I stand out in the city without even trying cause most guys these days are too soft. Also, girls love when you can fix/solve things.
Easy to talk to. Not argumentative.
To be a wife which means to listen and not debate me on everything. I made it clear I'm looking for a wife, not a partner. A real woman wants this.

BCRE8TVE · 2024-01-15T20:50:42+00:00

What do you bring to the table in the attraction phase to attract a woman

No fucking clue because what women find attractive in men seems extremely arbitrary, self-contradictory, and changed depending on the weather, the cycle of the moon, and whether Mars is retrograde or not.

What I can do is be good-looking (working on a John Wick long-haired look), working on being more in shape (covid was hell for mental health, and therefore fitness routine as well), being moderately tall, being moderately attractive, having wide shoulders, being somewhat strong, and I dunno, having a black belt in martial arts so she can feel safe that I can defend her?

Again no idea because women seem almost pathologically unable to express what they find attractive in men, so I just have to do my best to be me and hope someone doesn't think I'm too ugly.

What do you bring to the table beyond the attraction phase to keep a woman

Being kind, caring, cuddly, good at cooking, wanting to build a life together, wanting to have a family together, wanting to be happy and sappy together, wanting to go on adventures together, climb a mountain and go camping together, wanting to enjoy a good book by the fireplace while reading tea together, wanting to grow old together.

But given women are always saying "We don't need no man" I have absolutely no idea if any of this is even attractive to women in the first place, because again women seem almost pathologically unable to express what they find attractive in men.

What do you require your partner or future partner to bring to the table to attract you.

Pretty much the same as what I offer. I can't expect to land a rich supermodel when I am neither rich nor a supermodel, but I hope I don't have to settle for someone who has twice my BMI and half my income because she couldn't land anyone better.

Been in an abusive relationship once, so above all I'd value kindness, caring, and loyalty, a good sense of humour, hopefully looking good (and honestly women it's really not that hard, don't be obese, don't be ugly, and men will be happy), and someone who won't nag me and make my life worse, but someone who will want to build with me to make a better life together.

Given I'm an atheist it probably won't work if she's religious, and very likely will not work at all if she's Muslim.

What do you require your partner or future partner to bring to the table to keep you .

Pretty much what I said above. I'll also throw in being financially literate so she isn't spending money like mad.

All in all it boils down to don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be a bitch.

I know I'm fat, and I'm working on it, but there is a difference between strongman fat (being able to benchpress your own weight) vs being lazy fat (fat from eating too much and never having exercised). I don't mind a bit of chub, so long as we're both on the same page that we are going to lose it.

NotReallyTired_ · 2024-01-16T00:48:56+00:00

I keep myself in shape, I go the barbershop every 3 weeks, I dress myself well, and I know to have fun and flirt.
I have a stable career that pays well, I know how to clean after myself, I can cook a couple of meals, and I'm attentive.
Cooperation, receptiveness, reasonability, caring, competence and a peace of mind. Basically if she's expecting me to live up to a certain to expectation for her, I expect the same from her.
To be able to make compromises, to not constantly chase excitement, consistent virtues, to be nurturing, and to have the tenacity to through through hell and back together.

FebruaryEightyNine · 2024-01-14T21:44:47+00:00

6ft4, handsome, look like a fitness model (more competitive amateur bodybuilder these days), huge dick, charismatic as fuck.
Earn about 250k each year with substantial savings and educated to degree level. Reckon I'll be on about half a million by 2025.
Feminine, youthful (at least 7 years younger than me...preferably 10+), slim with large hips/posterior, nice feet, girl next door look.
Good family values, non racist, likes to be super submissive, open to kids and marriage, educated to degree level (dealbreaker for me).

My fiance fulfills 3 and 4 many times over so yay for me I guess.

rakiim · 2024-01-14T22:44:37+00:00

tall-ish, jacked, young, well read, funny, spontaneity
good career, many hobbies, fulfilling social life
fun, pretty face and good body
interesting, well read, enjoys going along with me, supportive

Barely-moral · 2024-01-14T23:40:50+00:00

What do you bring to the table in the attraction phase to attract a woman

I am fit and dress well. That does not change that I am unremarkable.

What do you bring to the table beyond the attraction phase to keep a woman

Whatever she wants. I am water. I take the shape I need to take. I have no personality except the one I need to use at the moment. Any material benefit she asks for, she gets. My partner will never have to lift a finger if she decides that is the life she wants.

What do you require your partner or future partner to bring to the table to attract you

XX Chromosomes. Alive. Able to consent.

What do you require your partner or future partner to bring to the table to keep you .

Monogamy. Sex. Her best as defined by her past. So everything she did for, did with and tolerated from previous partners is what I get.

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Nihi1986 · 2024-01-14T23:36:24+00:00

Not much, honestly, because what I bring is mainly what a good friend brings, and that's not good enough even when there's whatever degree of attraction... I've been told I'm empathetic, honest, loyal, educated, good, handsome and funny. My life is quite a mess though, so... Even if it wasn't I'm sure they wouldn't find attractive long term, what I expect from a relationship is too peaceful to be attractive.

Edit: would love to say something deeper and more unique that 'I want my partner to be pretty and nice' but I can't help but being almost as shallow (or simple?) as most men I know.

DoinIt989 · 2024-01-15T04:44:24+00:00

Smart, witty, big dick.

RecreationalPorpoise · 2024-01-17T04:41:18+00:00

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I actually made a meme explaining what I bring to the table. It’s on my Hinge.

Title	What do you being to the table
Author	GeneralFig6053
Upvotes	17
Comments	152
Date	January 14, 2024 8:45 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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