I (26M) have slept with 70+ women over the past 6 years and last year I finally have found the one that’ll be my wife. Here are some dating tips I’ve learned over the years that helped me thrive in the dating world and led me to dating some seriously beautiful girls on campus and in life. I’m talking about girls that turn heads everywhere.

First Date

1.) Have fun!

Don’t take yourself too seriously. 99% of the time, the girl WANTS you to succeed. She wants to finally find her Prince Charming. Relax and don’t be so tense.

2.) DO NOT place women on a pedestal.

I don’t care how attractive she is or you think she is. Act like a fan, you’ll get treated like a fan. Act like a king, maybe you’ll find your queen. This means, she is your equal. Personally, my standards are high. So she better meet or exceed them or I’m placing her into the fwb bucket if anything.

3.) Don’t answer questions so seriously.

You’re going to be asking each other open-ended questions. If she asks what you do, you don’t have to tell her right away. Make her guess. Make it a game. Give her clues. Joke with her answers.

Example (Her): “So what do you do for fun?”

(You): “Have you heard of lemon fishing”

(Her): “wtf is that?”

(You): make up a quick fake 30 second story about “lemon fishing” and then at the end joke with her that she actually believed that. THEN after she inevitably laughs, you tell her.

4.) Listen!

Don’t just ‘hear’ the words she’s saying while thinking of what to say next. Actually listen to her and remember what she says. It will come in handy on later dates or even that night. She will be amazed at you remembering little seemingly unimportant details.

5.) Eye Contact

Look deep into her eyes while she’s talking. I’m talking about seconds at a time. She should feel like your fully engaged, and your mind is focused on her completely. This one is hard, because you feel uncomfortable when first learning but trust me it’s one of the most important things.

6.) Know your worth

If she’s super late, if she’s on her phone constantly during the date. If she’s essentially not respecting your time and your presence then you need to realize that no matter how she looks, she’s not worth your time. My date better treat me with the same respect I treat them with or I’m ending it quickly.

7.) Does she offer to pay? Look, if you asked her out to the date you should pay fully. But if she doesn’t at least offer to split or reach for her wallet, or express gratitude…that’s a see you later for me.

8.) Awkward Silences

Embrace the awkwardness, because believe it or not those little breaks between conversation are actually your friend. If you look deep into her eyes during these silences and just look at each other, instead of getting flustered or reaching for your phone…this will lead to a kiss most of the time. At least by the end of the night the sexual tension is very high.

9.) Touch

If she’s laughing, if your leading her somewhere, you gotta touch her. Not inappropriately, but rather light touches on the hand or elbow or shoulder. Then as you notice her not reacting or continuing to enjoy and affect the touch, you can start escalating the touch to a hug or brushing your foot on hers or touching your hand to her thigh. If she at any point looks uncomfortable, tone it down a few notches.

10.) Be confident

Don’t put down yourself or others for the sake of a joke. Don’t judge or talk down about others. You should be positive at all times, and be confident without being arrogant. Essentially, my mindset when walking in somewhere is that I own the place. I feel at home.

11.) Act like you already know her.

Get deep with the questions. Once you have done the surface level questions with your humor injected like above, then you gotta find out who she really is and what does she want in life. What’s her passion if money was no object and WHY.

Conclusion

Remember above all else that you are the one who is also qualifying her. Make sure that she meets your standards. Make sure that she doesn’t have red flags.

Most of the girls I’ve dated are VERY hot. But other than the 4 girls I’ve dated officially, none of them met my personal standards of what I was looking for in a relationship or wife despite their looks. So, the rest I mentally placed into a fwb or friend zone bucket where I don’t actually go out on dates with them or spend money on them. And I do this with honesty, I’m not shady with it. I let them know that I just don’t see them as a fit before they ask or get too deep.

All coming from a average looking Indian guy with a 10/10 personality and 10/10 confidence level.