Female Perspective On Online Dating

False-Clerk-5073 · 2021-04-28T07:38:58+00:00

And that's why I have stopped chasing girls and focused entirely on self development

obh101 · 2021-04-28T07:55:20+00:00

Why would she right swipe men who she doesn’t find attractive in the first place?

jazilli · 2021-04-28T03:35:35+00:00

In person approaching > online dating

OrzhovPalatine · 2021-04-28T03:55:18+00:00

just imagine you were getting 12 a day but they were all from girls who were 300 pounds or okay or even hot looking girls but ones who only wanted to cuddle and never have sex lol.

Hell many average guys dont even get that lol. Those 300 pounders are chasing the same dudes the 110 pounders are.

spamspamzoam · 2021-04-28T04:14:30+00:00

I think it was in a Reddit comment that I read:

online dating for men is like dying of dehydration in the Sahara desert. Online dating for women is like dying of dehydration in the Pacific ocean.

When you recognize this, use that info. Be different. Be fresh water.

Also, the hidden backstory to those fish photos... https://www.reddit.com/r/nextfuckinglevel/comments/mzx58v/this_is_how_noodling_is_done/

jackflag11302 · 2021-04-28T09:54:06+00:00

Our condolences to your poor friend who has to put up with 1000’s of matches who are not simultaneously Brad Pitt, Dave Chappelle, and Elon Musk. It must be discouraging to get attention from an endless stream of men who are not instantly perfect in every way, like she is.

kiradead · 2021-04-28T06:25:15+00:00

So when you hear that girls receive a mountain of messages

I never used Tinder seriously and I'm not a girl, but from my perspective this has an easy fix, and please correct me if I'm wrong. Just be more picky about who you swipe right, less likes => less matches => less messages. For guys the only easy fix I can think of is buy Tinder Gold and like back people that swiped right on your profile. Not really equal but that's the game ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ .

jobless or in a low-paying career

I'm currently in the process of making my profile so a question from my side. Should you add your job title to your profile or bring it up during the conversation?

OmegaClifton · 2021-04-28T06:40:39+00:00

As far as online dating goes, quality takes a back seat to quantity imo. Sifting through your options and deciding who you want to spend time on is vastly better than sitting there looking at an empty inbox. If I could choose, I'd pick "more matches" every time.

Shadow__Account · 2021-04-28T09:03:45+00:00

I like how people filter out high quality people by setting dumb ass standards and afterwards complain they can’t find a good high quality match.

GOATStPierre · 2021-04-28T08:55:55+00:00

It’s an illusion. When you get that many matches suddenly your standards go up. Same thing has happened to me (I’m a dude) - I found myself swiping right on some girls who were cute but not the hottest during a spell when I wasn’t getting a lot of matches. Now that I do have more matches I find myself being more picky and wondering why I even swiped right on some of these girls in the first place.

There’s a YouTube channel School of Attraction that explains the phenomenon really well. Because there’s so many more guys on the apps compared to women, it creates a massive abundance for female users. When you have 300 at least somewhat cute options your standards are going to go way up.

Edit: here’s the link: https://youtu.be/Cjf5hnXTBKM

Worth a listen if you have time IMO. Once you understand the science you get less emotional about it

itispinkcolour · 2021-04-28T05:40:28+00:00

Quantity always better than quality because quantity will eventually bring more quality as well

18cmOfGreatness · 2021-04-28T15:02:50+00:00

You basically compare average common guys on your own level to overweight girls who are at the 1% bottom of the population. An equal to a 300 pound heavy girl would be a 300 pound heavy fat guy who's also homeless, uneducated and desperate to get laid to the point of creepiness. Guys like this as rare as female whales.

You are looking for the top 5-10% of men, calling the rest "low quality", even if objectively most of them are at the same level as an average girl. It's the problem with online dating, women only consider the most attractive men and think that they "deserve the best". Only this part is almost right - " hot looking girls but ones who only wanted to cuddle and never have sex lol " and most guys would be totally glad to have a hot girl to cuddle even with zero chance to have sex.

Tryerd · 2021-04-28T07:11:36+00:00

I'm pretty sure online dating specially if your talking about tinder is all about looks. Rarely does anyone give a fuck about personality.

Babypant · 2021-04-28T07:23:33+00:00

Comparing men in low paying jobs to women who are 300 pounds fat is just idiotic.

I would do anything to get matches with jobless but attractive women and I don't care if they're slightly boring.

This comparison makes no sense. Just admit it, women have ridiculously high standards compared to men. That's it. That's why marriage rates are dropping.

You wanted equality and here it is. Now you're complaining that not enough men have at least as high paying jobs as you do. That's not how equality works. If every man is supposed to get higher pay than you, then men should be paid more and men should get more job opportunities than women. But you don't want that. You want equality, so deal with it.

If you want equality, then you should be fine with men who are in lower paying jobs or even jobless.

CrowbarSmash · 2021-04-28T08:20:14+00:00

I don't understand how you can come to a conclusion that a guy is boring on a profile. I think you can only determine that over their text game, or in person, and if they are boring maybe help him in that aspect and if he's onboard it could work right?

ice_and_snow · 2021-04-28T07:54:06+00:00

Lack of quality in there applies to woman as well, but they wouldn't know.

TimelyDab · 2021-04-28T11:46:08+00:00

Problem is 0 quantity = 0 quality too champ

JHighMusic · 2021-04-28T08:26:07+00:00

More proof that women care mostly about how much money you make. Same as it ever was...

Cybralisk · 2021-04-28T08:32:58+00:00

Girl's are just insanely over selective online, I'm willing to bet most of the guys your friend is passing on are not far off in attractiveness then she is. I've watched ex's and fwb's swipe on these apps and they pass on guys that I think are at least as attractive as me and some guys I think are better looking.

CHEEKY_CUNT1 · 2021-04-28T17:29:42+00:00

The problem that women like your friend, and so many other women these days have, is that they believe they are ENTITLED to a man who checks all the boxes.

-6 ft +

-In good shape and handsome

-High paying career

-amazing personality and charisma

-wants a committed relationship

The reality is, you're looking at about 1% or less of men who are going to check off all these boxes. Even the "high income" metric ALONE puts you at looking for about the top 10% or less of all male earners.

Meanwhile, are you (or in this case, your friend) a top 1% woman? Sure she's attractive, but is she a 10? Is she submissive? Can she cook, clean, maintain a home? Is she intellectual? Does SHE have a high paying job? Why is she entitled to a high value man?

I suggest you check out Kevin Samuels on youtube, he talks about this exact topic with women all the time.

Most yall out here are 6's at best thinking you deserve the top 1% of men and that's just not realistic.

aerial_coitus · 2021-04-28T03:24:33+00:00

I kind of want to light you up here, but I also simultaneously kind of appreciate the candor and honesty of this post. Fuck me running. Haha......

kylomorales · 2021-04-28T10:04:40+00:00

I understand what you're saying but if a hot girl only wants to cuddle me I'm so so happy to do that I love emotional connection and value it far more than sexual (I get your point though - I think better way of putting that comparison is "imagine if even the hot looking girls are there but are super boring to talk to" for me this works).

Anyway - I get your point, girls are surrounded by quantity of men but no quality but I would counter that and say that men are surrounded by no quantity with widely varying quality (usually low) because of the low pool of possible options.

I'd rather have 100 girls interested in me that I can sift through to see who might make a good match and I'm attracted to rather than have 0 matches and nothing.

If I ever go back to online dating I'll remember this post though! And I'll try to put together a profile that's actually attractive and get some advice from female friends

khaosten · 2021-04-28T10:52:50+00:00

I still feel like women on dating apps are mostly people I have no interest in when I’m swiping because I’m a more calm individual, some people say I’m boring, but I’d rather go scuba diving in the Caribbean than party in Europe and I feel that’s where the disconnect lies. I really want someone who’s also goal oriented and civil and I’ve had much more luck just participating in hobbies. So I say even if I match the quality of matches are just as low as what a women receives.

prolongedsunlight · 2021-04-28T15:33:39+00:00

I think your friend is asking for a lot considering the social-economically conditions we are living in. And I think this problem for the ladies, looking for physically attractive men with a good career who also live a fun lifestyle, will worsen. I assume that you and your friend live in a middle or high-income country with a high rate of urbanization.

In many of those countries, women have already overtaken men in terms of higher education attendance, which would lead to higher earning for women in the future. This makes men with high-earning, and high social status careers harder to find. I am not sure what does your friend thinks about men with high-earning but low social status jobs, but lots of women consider them less dateble.

For many men with a high-earning and high social status careers, their life is boring since they have to work long hours and have little time to do other fun things, for example, programmers, lawyers, engineers, and doctors. Many of them have little other interests, but many of those people have other interests in life. However, the question is if the ladies would consider those interests fun.

Also, big cities make it harder for single ladies to find their ideal men. Women with high education and high earning careers tend to live in big cities, so more competition. And they are all looking for similar men, good looking, good career, and fun lifestyle.

LewRothbard · 2021-04-28T17:06:07+00:00

But here's the thing: a huge number of the guys who message my friend fall into the following categories: [...] attractive-ish but clearly only interested in sex

It sounds like those guys' profiles are working exactly as they should to screen out girls like your friend. Why would a guy who is looking for casual sex want to match with a girl like your friend, who isn't looking for casual sex?

This is the ever-present problem with asking women to for dating advice -- "You don't ask fish how to catch fish . You ask a fisherman" -- their goals often don't align with want men are looking for.

MentalCelOmega · 2021-04-28T17:36:07+00:00

Shit, if things are so rigged against even higher-valued males, why even bother?

Fulgor_KLR · 2021-04-28T15:04:54+00:00

Most people in the world are boring, most people in the world are not in the 1% of wealth, most people of the world are average looking. Good look in your soulless search in the unrealistic world of dating apps.

parahacker · 2021-04-28T06:16:34+00:00

physically just not sufficiently attractive regardless of intention

Uhhh.... okay, I guess that's fair...

jobless or in a low-paying career (she cares about this a lot whether you think girls should or shouldn't, most do),

Uh huh, I mean this probably creates scarcity and she's probably not up to the competition for those men, but if she makes the cut sure...

attractive-ish but clearly only interested in sex,

Fair...

or reasonably attractive, with a decent job but very, very boring.

WHAT THE FUCK

No. No no no no no.

So, we're on r/seduction, right? And here we teach men and share stories about being 'less boring' to women.

But for fuck's sake there has got to be a line in the sand.

If this... princess wannabe choosy B\**** does not get a hammer to the side of her head as to what makes a marriage good and that men with jobs and money focus on jobs and money and keeps elevating her wants right out of the market then she is going to DIE ALONE.

This is just refusing to drink tapwater because it's boring and holding out for Perrier until you die of thirst.

Tell your friend she's being a fucking idiot and to just pick a man already. I can't even.

POOPY_CHALUPA · 2021-04-28T15:43:27+00:00

What does your friend bring to the table that she's able to be so picky besides being attractive?

Vavsilk · 2021-04-28T11:02:32+00:00

Personally I'd rather meet someone through real life rather than online

bls65 · 2021-04-28T16:27:42+00:00

A lot of what you point out is the same whether you are on-line dating or going old school face-to-face in clubs and bars. Women will always, and have always attracted more Direct attention than men. Although as you point out it sets up a quality vs quantity situation.

Most of what you talk about is just biology and a few thousand years of human evolution.

We as men are pre-wired to go out and "spread our seed" as often as possible. thus the more frequent messages in your friend's inbox.
We (men) are programmed to be attracted to women who appear to be in their prime to ensure the best chance of continuing the bloodline. natural cues such are full lips wide hips, long thick hair, etc. are all-natural indicators of youth and health. (largely the reason for the development of makeup)
Women are genetically wired to be attracted to men who appear to be able to protect and provide. this is both in physical appearance and in modern society the ability to provide monetarily. So your friend prioritizing stable income is not abnormal in the least.
Men will always compete for the most attractive (in an evolutionary sense) women in the group, And women will always compete for the most likely Provider and Protector in the group.

We as humans don't like to think of ourselves as slaves to evolutionary programming but things are what they are and the more you understand the reasons behind the behavior the better you are at navigating the playing field.

So, girls you're gonna have to put up with wading through the inbox to find the good ones because guys will not, and can not, stop trying. And guys, if you're not killing it in the working world and your physical game is weak, you're going to have a long uphill battle.

CenaSmackDown · 2021-04-28T21:51:02+00:00

I tried getting a high paying career. The technology sector typically has the best market caps for companies in the dow jones and stock market in general, so they have the most capital to use towards hiring someone, such as engineers and computer programmers to make their product. Unfortunately, my college didn't really have the resources to hire tutors for upper level ge classes, so as far as studying and preparing for tests, and doing the assignments, you were on your own for extremely complicated code. The professors, which all had doctorates and sometimes multiple doctorates were ruthless, not allowing a curve on tests, not giving very helpful study guides for tests and not allowing us a cheat sheet. For many of the lower level classes it was just multiple choice, but now we had to write out pseudo-code. Half the class ended up dropping the class to avoid an F, me included. So I look less valuable to an employer vs. someone who got a 4.0. I feel like I was shafted, but rarely talk about it. For a girl who either never went to college, or majored in yoga it seems a bit unfair for her to place all the pressure on the guy to earn large amounts of money, unless he was luckily born into a wealthy family. Unfortunately, you don't meet people who are understanding and willing to accept a guy making an average salary. You get girls all looking for outliers from the norm, when they aren't an outlier (in looks) themselves.

chiriami · 2021-04-28T14:52:35+00:00

In another word, a guy must be attractive, have good communication skills, looking for a serious relationship, and also must have a high-paying career. LOL.
Deleting my bumble account...

Abhi005 · 2021-04-28T13:48:14+00:00

How do a girl evaluate a guy as boring

NitronHX · 2021-04-28T12:02:43+00:00

or even hot looking girls but ones who only wanted to cuddle and never have sex

Damn i would be down for that cuddles 4 the win xD

cooooook123 · 2021-04-28T15:44:08+00:00

I counter with; building that career takes time. I'll be a low-income earner for at least a couple more years, if my degree works out. Right now, I usually just pitch my music business as a career. I can understand why that isn't terribly appealing, but it's something I'm very passionate about and have worked so very hard to curate. Ye' of little faith can see the door for all I care. Maybe my lifestyle isn't suitable for longterm companionship. I very much so think it is, however.

veeeerain · 2021-04-28T14:55:35+00:00

Interesting

heroyi · 2021-04-28T16:17:26+00:00

Not saying online dating is not harder for guys. All in all, it is. But you do have a chance if you can use quality to cut through the quantity.

This is the key. If you are in the elite club then online dating is easy pickings. But if you are not in there then you are SOL

Good news is that anyone can get into the elite club. Just gotta develop it ie no random cat pictures unless it is tasteful

KeyserSooooze · 2021-04-28T16:57:20+00:00

Not learning anything new here.

Online dating is much easier for men as it makes the rejection of being turned down less personal and easier for women to filter out less desirable men.

At the end of the day, both sexes want an attractive partner, who has a good career, is trustworthy, funny, smart, caring, and likes to travel.

Rev_Irreverent · 2021-04-28T17:48:18+00:00

Madam, you kinda failed hard to pretend you are not a woman.

cyrusol · 2021-04-28T23:32:52+00:00

physically just not sufficiently attractive regardless of intention

Why doesn't she swipe left on them in the first place then?

Going by Tinder algorithms that would actually improve her chances to get matched with more desirable men.

Seems like a self-inflicted obstacle. Or just validation-seeking behavior.

kickit256 · 2021-04-29T01:25:36+00:00

I mean, it seems like she's expecting to have a checked box in literally every category. Someone who's got every box checked is a 10 - is she a 10 in return?

ironmanalex97 · 2021-04-29T01:58:52+00:00

I can see and understand that what is considered the quality of guys might not be perceived as the greatest, but your also assuming that the girls who message back are of great quality, the truth is that the quality that men receive is just as low as what women receive. At the end of the day women live with an abundance of options for dating. Your friend just doesn’t like these options, because the guys are either ugly, poor, only into hookups, or they rate high on a lot of other aspects, but they’re boring. You then used an example of what if a guy got 12 messages a day and had low quality girls reaching out to men. The fact is a lot of men only receive messages or get responded from low quality women, whether they are ugly/fat, gold diggers, or even attractive/average but is very rude or entitled, or even extremely insecure. Just imagine being a man and let’s say you get 12 messages in a year, out of those 12 options the percentages of women who respond or even match with that you would consider to be actually viable are still much slimmer then the options women get. So let’s say your friend and your bf’s brother only like 30% of the guys they match with at the end of the day your friend’s 30% is still a lot bigger then your bf’s brother’s 30%

Aeon199 · 2021-04-28T06:11:56+00:00

jobless or in a low-paying career (she cares about this a lot whether you think girls should or shouldn't, most do)

Because men with ADHD, mild autism or anything along those lines just don't matter and should all just give up entirely, is that it...?

You realize there's often a reason for the low achievement, it's because society likes to exclude guys who lack a certain fluency in social manner, or cognitive tone.

It's always unsettling to see this confirmation firsthand, not that I wasn't expecting it. But paper is just paper; bread is just bread.

Whatever happened to character, interests, hobbies, personality, likes and dislikes, etc? What gives dude... just make the pain go away, please

I know someone's going to try and reverse this, but let's look at the issue at hand, first. I don't think the comparisons are so neat and clean, if you're going there.

A very large number of men say they are overlooked chronically because of job/education categories, and this problem is getting far worse due to the entitlement (and oversaturation) of online dating. This is now science, and if we're at the point where they're all saying, "What's the point of trying anymore?" about dating, it's a problem.

georginnna · 2021-04-28T10:10:36+00:00

I feel like online dating works best for people (men and women) who’s main love language is communication. So think witty people. It sucks when people are on online dating sites purely for validation and not because they want to get to know other people. But online dating is great for people that feel comfortable talking to strangers. With online dating you can ask the other person all kinds of questions without it being unnatural or awkward to weed out the people you’re compatible with. Personally I think meeting people in real life isn’t as good for me personally because I might get confused because I find the person attractive or because I have chemistry with the person. Which in my opinion is not enough to date someone.

tristian_lay · 2021-04-28T12:18:39+00:00

Makes sense, but one question-how is she getting all these messages if she’s not swiping right on all these unattractive or undesirable dudes? Does she also flat out ask for their income or just assume based on their profile description?

L1ghtn1ng_strike · 2021-04-28T15:02:48+00:00

So I have a chance if I “use quality to cut through the quantity”. Ok. Fair. Well, what if I fall in the “not sufficiently attractive” category? And why is your friend bothering to match with these guys in that case?

Also, your analogy of “imagine if they just wanted to cuddle and not have sex” doesn’t sound bad at all. I’m sure a lot of guys would be fine with that, at least for some time. Not every dude is a sex crazed maniac.

This post and your friend are both ridiculous.

JaikishanB · 2021-04-28T15:15:35+00:00

Shut up gold digger

kemar7856 · 2021-04-28T11:40:48+00:00

So much cap 🧢🧢🧢🧢 from the op 😂

UniqueAway · 2021-04-28T13:29:08+00:00

Your attitude is weird in my opinion. You are not looking for a date, you are looking for a husband right from the start. And why do you think that you would hit that jackpot and get a prince you described, he also would have many girls around why he would be with you and commit you for years? Especially while you are with him clearly for his status money looks. You are like buying apples from a market, looking for the shiniest one then want commitment. Why? Why I would commit if I am an apple chosen for my qualities? I am just one of the apples not a separate entity then I don't exist. You also don't exist 😜 Oh I know most girls are like your friend so none of them exist 🤣 If I find a girl who exists then I will commit 😀

Also, I wonder how old is she? And if she is that attractive as you think, or find herself attractive?

bls65 · 2021-04-28T15:21:55+00:00

Define, if you would please, "not sufficiently physically attractive regardless of intention." Thanx

Radenoughyet · 2021-04-28T15:26:40+00:00

I would say the main things men were doing wrong with me specifically (I was 29F) when I was doing OLD were:

Implying they wanted to hook up before we met up (even if I want sex, that takes all the romance out of it and feels gross)

Asking to meet somewhere I didn’t feel was safe, or not considering convenience for me- like asking me to meet at the bar next to their house halfway across town

Straight up telling me before the date we had to split the bill (at the time I didn’t mind paying but saying you only want to go out if we split it just isn’t tactful or appealing)

Talking about relationship expectations before we’ve met (I.e. “I’m looking for either a relationship or FWB”) this is just totally my preference and maybe some women like knowing up front but to me it’s too soon for that convo if we haven’t even met

Wanting to argue about politics on first date

Negging

Getting too sexual too fast with texts/seeming desperate

Revealing that they’re in some kind of dire situation early on that feels like a huge burden (actual examples: I bought this house and got ripped off and now I’m upside down on it, I’m miserable in my job and my boss hates me, I got cheated on recently and now I have trust issues, my friend is accusing me of sexually assaulting her, I have no friends, I married someone to stay in the country and now I hate them, I can’t find work and have been unemployed for a long time, etc.)

Porridgeislife · 2021-04-28T17:16:03+00:00

There is no "to an extent" online dating is for women full stop.

starsleeve · 2021-04-28T07:30:17+00:00

Honestly just be patient. Give people a chance only if you feel some sort of promising vibe. And most of all, don’t take it personally. It’s not personal - everyone’s dipping their toes in the pool and the pool is huge. And yeah ofc good people are pretty rare. Give it time, there’s no rush. But Ofc, I agree Girls have a hard time cause they’re usually seen as some kind of rare ‘commodity’ and many men expect sex or too much too soon.

Disklaimer · 2021-04-28T03:36:59+00:00

makes a lot of sense. thanks for explaining! i've always wondered what dating apps are like for women

Medium-Map3864 · 2021-04-28T10:37:55+00:00

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ShmoopyMoopy · 2021-04-28T12:38:37+00:00

When I’m on Tinder (not currently), I usually get to about 10k likes in about 2 months. Then my app kinda stops functioning and I need to start over. Yes, it’s a deluge of dudes. I match with about 15 of them. I meet with about 4, tops. The other 11 say things like “how big is your clit?” and “your name is is now ‘hole’”. And I present myself as caring and educated in my profile. And I’m clear I’m a single mom. Feels pretty damn hopeless most of the time.

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Asclepius555 · 2021-04-28T14:47:49+00:00

I used OLD about 4 years ago and put the bar really low just because I wanted to meet a lot of girls. I ended up in a relationship that wasn't good for me and ended that a year ago. Now I'm on OLD again and this time, I'm being really picky while trying to be realistic and it has been a much better experience. I have been on quite a few really good dates with quality women. I've tentatively narrowed it down to this woman that seems amazing to me and just seeing how it goes for now. Overall, I would say my pickiness has paid off immensely.

bath_junkie · 2021-04-28T11:47:44+00:00

On Facebook. Messages from unknown are unwanted and down right creepy. I find it disgusting

VanessaChaland · 2021-04-28T03:29:18+00:00

Wondering if there are any threads in this group that are *not* about shallow, vapid, vacuous people of so little substance and with a decent sense of priorities...

-chosenjuan- · 2021-04-28T16:06:39+00:00

This is true, I’ve been doing online dating my whole adolescence. The times I was the happiest was when I had 0 dating apps and was talking to girls face to face. In general my dating life has been a mess. Going from naive and stupid with relationships in general to hard lessons learned and disappointment after disappointment. Thankfully I found someone who is very caring and understanding through online dating by the end of last year and it happened unexpectedly. (Was forced to switch back to online because I moved countries and work/school was stressful). I personally think that it’s situational, but the chances are lower for men in an online setting. It’s part of life, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Years of rejection and negative feelings made me realize that relationships that actually matter are the ones formed with those closest to you. Whether it’s your peers or family. I think the true value value lies intrinsically, although you do get sacrifice the your youth and wasted opportunities to connect with women in your age group (18-23 so far for me). Either you learn how to be a psychopath/narcissist who manipulates social situation (PUA) or you take the virtuous road. I think I’m taking my way since it’s been rough and shitty. I wouldn’t change my life experiences for anything so far. I tell you what, chasing meaning over women has left me with less despair and more feeling of euphoria and happiness. I don’t know this paradox of life. Relationships are the most important thing at the end of it all. I know this, I feel it, I see it, nothing else matters. Not my ego, not my want to try to be someone important in the world, not my want to have a legacy, not my want to wish to be talented so bad or overly successful. I guess this is the conflict every feminist, driven, or narcissistic person suffers from. I came to accept that those around me matter the most and intrinsic relationships are more meaningful and fulfilling. I guess it takes some folks till their 25s or 30s for those late bloomers to figure this out. I don’t mind wanting a long term relationship, this is what humans reject when they choose to sleep with multiple partners and chase them for their sexual worth. This is what humans reject when they choose to try to be overly successful and focus on their careers(granted it not wrong to settle for a normal career). This doesn’t mean stop being driven and striving for more... this means being happy with what you got to work with. Sometimes all we need is to lose those closest around us to finally value this moment right now. Young person, we all suffer from the truth. Then why do we keep running away from it? I think it’s the social pressure of the same narcissists who hold all the power. Nothing will change, until we all collectively decide to make a difference. Sadly 10-20% of the population get a high off of acting hedonistic and actually get support from this new woke culture. I guess I’m living in the worst era, in fact I wish I was born during one of the major world war. Then my life would be meaningful. Humans collectively, fighting for a cause that is foolish is better than chasing something that is worthless. Maybe then, relationships would were more meaningful.

MagicGnome97 · 2021-04-28T13:58:20+00:00

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Ilovethaiicedtea · 2021-04-28T14:20:00+00:00

No matter how many matches a woman may get online dating, I can just approach more (they could do but its rare).

Big-Black-Cock69 · 2021-04-29T21:22:24+00:00

Where does she live shyyyt id date her

GreyDog777 · 2021-04-30T06:27:28+00:00

It’s just very risky people don’t show there weakness online matter a fact50% is lies u might get lucky but people are nervous to get out and meet or say something to the opposite sex and some people don’t like being someone saying or reacting to what they look like or maybe just scared because they don’t them and it can be dangerous weird and sick people out there but if u see someone that catches Your attention hell tell them let them know that ass is fine maybe not like that but u know what I’m saying doesn’t pay to be shy

HydroPlume · 2021-05-01T09:59:09+00:00

hot looking girls but ones who only wanted to cuddle and never have sex

Honestly, I'd be down for that

401kisfun · 2021-05-01T18:58:31+00:00

Doe SHE message guys on her own that fits all the criteria? How many reply and meet in person? THAT’s where a woman has the real advantage IMO

Title	Female Perspective On Online Dating
Author	Medium-Map3864
Upvotes	310
Comments	293
Date	April 28, 2021 2:50 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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