Swallow this.

cactiguy18 · 2019-11-22T16:42:51+00:00

But like.... what if you are social and get out almost every night and also aren't ugly.... then why are you single

rich_god · 2019-11-22T15:29:30+00:00

Actually, you’re single because you’re afraid of being in a relationship, because you have too much expectations and putting too much pressure on yourself and others.

ArmitageShanks69 · 2019-11-22T15:22:08+00:00

What about... you don't have social skills because you don't leave your house, and you don't leave your house because you're ugly?

SgtAutismo · 2019-11-22T18:29:05+00:00

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TableGrables · 2019-11-22T17:44:32+00:00

r/wowthanksimcured

Phauxstus · 2019-11-22T20:41:20+00:00

and also because you're ugly

Kevinclimbstrees · 2019-11-22T18:42:56+00:00

What if you don’t drink? Are you suppose to go out and drink sodas? I’ve done it and it’s incredibly boring. Not many other options to meet people on a Friday Saturday night except the bar, especially by yourself

trznx · 2019-11-22T21:14:52+00:00

Speak for yourself. I'm single because relationships require work and effort and I'm lazy and never finish anything I started.

MrQualtrough · 2019-11-22T18:28:14+00:00

Broad statement. You need to know the person to actually propose any kind of answer.

I have studied and completed psych, social psych, and a bit of biopsych but quit because it becomes too hard (neuroscience). Physical appearance is actually a very very strong factor. My social psych uni textbook actually says it is THE strongest factor and I can photo that of course.

After that is similarity, familiarity, and proximity as I recall.

Most desired personality traits are to do with similarity to the girl's own personality. Just a few are enduring such as extroversion, confidence, and low levels of neuroticism.

Ensarovic · 2019-11-22T20:22:49+00:00

Once I just send a follow request to a random girl, nothing special right? Then one day i look at my dm's and see the following: 'Who gave you the right to follow me you're ugly af.'

And just so you know she had like 700 followers already. Since then i haven't even thought about girls. In cloncusion: Yes i am ugly

martian009 · 2019-11-22T21:24:55+00:00

Actually you're single because you lack confidence and have a low self esteem 😊😊

functionalsociopathy · 2019-11-22T17:59:25+00:00

I'm single because I spent too long getting over my trust issues during by teens and early adulthood so now any of the women in my life who are worth being with are already in a relationship, engaged, or otherwise unavailable.

MrMcHappyBurger · 2019-11-22T18:17:52+00:00

Alright let's say in leave my house where now

Bobandjim12602 · 2019-11-22T17:09:10+00:00

Yes to all of those, also I'm ugly. Ha! I swallowed those no problem.

sayitonmyface · 2019-11-22T18:03:18+00:00

Don’t make an effort is more accurate

andrest93 · 2019-11-22T20:45:13+00:00

And I am also ugly

Wolf__Queen · 2019-11-23T00:18:20+00:00

I feel personally attacked

LandFarmer0 · 2019-11-22T18:16:29+00:00

how do i get social skills i don't even have friends. My early life was really abusive.

HeatLightning · 2019-11-22T18:50:22+00:00

There are tons of reasons why a particular person is single. Only the person in question can really say.

ZlatanAgrees · 2019-11-22T18:08:59+00:00

Because i dont know where i should go and how to learn social skills haha

gtrman571 · 2019-11-22T18:20:29+00:00

Agreed - Now how to get social skills?

Hoju2018 · 2019-11-22T20:39:02+00:00

This hit home hard

ashmajj · 2019-11-22T20:41:42+00:00

You are single maybe because you just want to!?

TheBackstreetNet · 2019-11-23T00:30:36+00:00

For me it's just the first part. I can chat up girls, I just never give myself the opportunity to do so.

iwantrootbark · 2019-11-23T00:48:00+00:00

Yes.

YaniMN · 2019-11-23T05:53:04+00:00

It has nothing to do with social skills. We just forgot everything about conversation or any social skills plus after 9/11 and high school shootings or any kind of shootings is making people really shallow and reserved and paranoid. Of course, we have learned to think like computers and we just do stupid short chat which is basically twittering.

Watch videos from the 1950s where people talk and exchange ideas respectfully and with class and mindful manner. Now is no sense and everybody wants to reassert themselves by all means necessary.

gdirulez · 2019-11-23T06:51:04+00:00

Why not both?

Got autism, in my case that means I can't handle sounds well and I'm a social wreck, so no bars for me or going shopping or other loud places, I'm ugly as well as overweight, the only thing I've got is dating apps and when in 4 months time you only get talked to like once or twice and 99% of the time they stop talking to me because ''haha small penis'' it destroys any and all self confidence you've got even further so at this point I'm fully convinced I'm just going to die without ever getting into a relatinship or having had sex.

Like it sounds nice ''just go out more!'' but it's not some magic cure that works.

neubiiAUT · 2019-11-23T10:24:09+00:00

i have social skills, i just dont trust women and let them close, they show interest, but i wont go any further. my love life is over... im 25

sayitonmyface · 2019-11-22T16:42:00+00:00

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chief_yETI · 2019-11-22T16:48:56+00:00

lack of trying, in other words

zzw30-brix · 2019-11-22T17:12:13+00:00

Well shit you’re right

mosin-nagat · 2019-11-23T14:29:57+00:00

I have social skills but I don't leave my home :)

GalaxyFireworks · 2019-11-22T17:49:04+00:00

I actually had the opposite problem where I was trying to find someone to introvert with me since I seem to spend hardly any time at home! haha

gigolobob · 2019-11-22T17:56:45+00:00

Hard pill to awallow

RossTheNinja · 2019-11-22T18:26:57+00:00

Why not both?

vexroa7v · 2019-11-22T18:33:26+00:00

Dang

HunkSeven · 2019-11-22T18:53:48+00:00

I feel attacked because I'm above average looking and fitted. Yet...it's the effing Sahara desert near me

Lucky_Knight1 · 2019-11-22T18:56:49+00:00

Ok so how do I get social skills?

How do I get a reason to leave my home?

😒😒😒

GrammarNazi25 · 2019-11-22T18:59:37+00:00

Yes but what if I'm actually ugly

bigboyish · 2019-11-22T19:13:56+00:00

Lol yes sirrrrrrrrrrrrrr

anon-nerd · 2019-11-22T19:14:23+00:00

I feel attacked.

AsterixLV · 2019-11-22T19:20:16+00:00

You don't say

NoFap_FV · 2019-11-22T19:41:21+00:00

Ok, swallowed the pill.
What now smart pants?

sayitonmyface · 2019-11-22T19:45:06+00:00

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11nealp · 2019-11-22T19:59:18+00:00

How does one acquire the socials.

sayitonmyface · 2019-11-22T21:23:52+00:00

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sayitonmyface · 2019-11-22T22:30:42+00:00

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sayitonmyface · 2019-11-22T22:42:32+00:00

Just putting this out there. If you have no social skills

https://www.youtube.com/user/charismaoncommand

These guys taught me most of what I use to meet people and make good first impressions as well as architypical people and their skills and how to add them too my arsenal of Charisma. Can also be a confident boosting channel.

Second. IF you're gonna go meet people. Why not start a kareoke bar. Cause nothing screams confidence like singing Agadoo to a crowd of strangers.

MeleeBroLoL · 2019-11-22T22:50:09+00:00

How to fix. Send help plz.

TeddehBear · 2019-11-22T22:59:25+00:00

Why not both?

eekozoid · 2019-11-22T23:15:47+00:00

Por que no los dos?

rap1102 · 2019-11-22T23:18:45+00:00

Oh fuck ow

-BroncosForever- · 2019-11-23T00:38:30+00:00

It could be both. So this post might be a slap in the face for some hahah

clitorally-minded · 2019-11-23T00:53:08+00:00

It's not the case that every one who has the same problem has it for the same reason, I see a lot of guys saying, "I don't meeting a lot of women because x and y and z so I never leave my apartment." Uh, how do you know that you wouldn't meet more women if you went outside once in a while?

Pollo_Jack · 2019-11-23T01:33:48+00:00

Jokes on you, met my wife in cal three. We're alone together. She plays the sims next to me while I play pvp games.

DennyBenny · 2019-11-23T01:38:41+00:00

I am glad I am not having to date in today's world.

ohsnapt · 2019-11-23T02:29:54+00:00

Triggered.

And also" you" watch porn and smoke weed and eat snacks

winningace · 2019-11-23T02:51:03+00:00

And, please STOP idolising social media thots! It's as effective as cat calling. You'll be an incel for life.

Theoldage2147 · 2019-11-23T03:36:51+00:00

No! I'm single because 5/11 and not 6 foot! I wan't easy pill waaaaa!!

plaze6288 · 2019-11-23T03:49:51+00:00

Yep this exactly. But girls don't grow on trees so I'm not sure the answer to this problem.

Older you get the worse it gets too so after you hit 25 might as well just prepare for being single forever

DigitalSodomy · 2019-11-23T04:42:04+00:00

Shut up

nibbi43215 · 2019-11-23T05:22:03+00:00

this is soo me :( I am weak at socializing with people and I dont know how to overcome this though i am trying

TiedHands · 2019-11-23T05:30:50+00:00

This is true for some, but mine is truly because I'm ugly. I have great social skills and am out and about all the time. I have a very cool social circle, etc. I just happen to be horribly unattractive and that negates it all.

lovelyafterthoughts · 2019-11-23T05:58:17+00:00

Same difference FeelsBadMan

SgtMajMythic · 2019-11-23T05:59:53+00:00

I think it’s both tbh

MentalRoutine · 2019-11-23T06:13:17+00:00

There are no places where guys can get their start out, especially for guys older than 25... How do you expect guys to learn anything if you make it too difficult to actually develop any confidence? Especially when girls have this expectation that guys will just magically know what to do when girls send them signals, and magically have the confidence to go for it despite never having any prior experience...

Fun2badult · 2019-11-23T06:54:43+00:00

That really is a hard pill

Drebodollaz · 2019-11-23T07:05:59+00:00

Lol you’re probably right. But I try my best

bradfordp · 2019-11-23T11:33:46+00:00

I have something different for you to swallow that would Make you popular!

redsing92 · 2019-11-23T11:47:43+00:00

True

thanoscarsdead · 2019-11-23T12:28:39+00:00

No I'm single because somehow no girl sees me as a potential partner lmao

BarracudaRP · 2019-11-23T14:30:35+00:00

Swallow This: There's profound wisdom in this post, but most of the comments are still excuses from Men who are not finding success. This comment is for you.

The Rules of Attraction cannot be negotiated. To educate yourself on attraction or seduction is good and fine. If you still aren't finding success with women, it's natural to wonder why. But to blame social media, dating apps, Society at large, feminism, or the success of other men with whom you are competing, is not only an excuse. It is a self-limiting thought that will prevent men here from finding the very things that they need the most (most often, identifying their own role in what has made them unattractive, such as being in a lack mindset instead of an abundance mindset. Women can smell your neediness a mile away.)

The Rules of Attraction don't change after you begin dating or even after marriage, this is not something you only need to master briefly. The core principle of Attraction is that you must work on yourself first as a man to increase your Value on the sexual marketplace, and to stop doing things that are so damn unattractive. You're not going to learn that by exchanging excuses with others who have the same problem.

Your internal frame (the way you see yourself, your world and your position in it) is crucial to displaying to others (women and men alike) that you are a high-value attractive man. Lifting weights is not just for Chads. Talking less shows you are high value. Practicing getting phone numbers is not just for professional pickup artists. This is also why JUST getting out of the house, or NOT being socially awkward is not enough on its own (although they help).

Being outgoing and friendly and having friends who tell you "you have a great personality", is not attraction. In fact, it's often quite the opposite. Attraction is generated, particularly in women, by men who are not afraid to say no, to take what they want, to walk away when they don't get it, and exercise a complete outcome Independence which comes from that frame mentioned earlier.

There are resources out there for men who are frustrated in relationships. I know, because I used to be one of them. There is no magic list of pickup lines (but once you're ready for live examples, RSDMax is a treasure trove). There is no arriving at some Holy Grail of attraction where I no longer have to participate in the game, or where I no longer have to try, but rather: I'm on a path of not only creating an attractive self, but intertwining it with my own process of self-actualization, if you can believe that from a random comment on a seduction Reddit.

Then at some point we realize that becoming the highest version of yourself is a much better mission than pussy, and that's when the real fun begins.

Dj_BigD · 2019-11-23T15:08:44+00:00

Easy pill to swallow for me...I've know that and been working on it for a long time and have improved greatly.

2019-11-23T15:56:51+00:00

but why are you attacking us defenseless folk like this ?

ArkaStevey · 2019-11-23T16:59:41+00:00

Seems about right

MrHazzy · 2019-11-24T05:10:30+00:00

Naw, I'm single because I loath myself. I wanna beat the living shit out of myself when I see my reflection in the mirror. But I'm working on it. It's hard. But first thing first. I have to learn to forgive myself and lastly learn to love myself. Because right now, I wouldn't mind if someone shot me in the head.

Seibzehn17 · 2019-11-24T08:49:11+00:00

Broe this sucks I can relate with the house part badly; my parents won't let me leave my house and I got a snitch grandmother that'll tell if i do

2019-11-24T16:48:48+00:00

I left my country 10 years ago. Still have no social skills and I'm NOT ugly!

largepaycheckaddict · 2019-11-22T16:41:32+00:00

I’m single cause deez hoez ain’t loyal bruh

2023Bor · 2019-11-22T17:26:35+00:00

belongs here: r/2meirl4meirl

sayitonmyface · 2019-11-22T19:12:40+00:00

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PEARP1MPLES · 2019-11-23T05:03:08+00:00

And I'm ugly

-empoleon- · 2019-11-25T08:21:22+00:00

Jokes on you, I’m all of those

Alliaenor · 2019-11-22T17:07:23+00:00

People who tell that are always good looking or at least average, that's funny

Highschooldropout001 · 2019-11-22T17:32:16+00:00

stupidest post ever

some people choose to be single

others do not want to be single

they go out and got social skills plus they look somewhat decent

yet they cant get a bitch

hruebsj3i6nunwp29 · 2019-11-22T17:24:29+00:00

(X) Doubt

AnneStaz · 2019-11-22T16:57:01+00:00

is this a suppository

eelnitsud · 2019-11-22T17:11:26+00:00

My trick to not finding a girlfriend is to always be traveling and working OT in an industry where there are no women.

Goldenpanda18 · 2019-11-22T17:22:44+00:00

I feel attacked, but seriously I needed this

SouthernOhioRedsFan · 2019-11-22T19:33:18+00:00

LOL! False!

Title	Swallow this.
Author	sayitonmyface
Upvotes	3822
Comments	361
Date	November 22, 2019 3:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/e0299v/swallow_this/
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