What do you all think about this?

Mcccy · 2021-08-14T20:26:37+00:00

A good question is how is her ex not in jail yet,

alxndrabo · 2021-08-14T21:46:45+00:00

I think there is a pattern of violent men in her life. I hope she breaks free.

Sage_Planter · 2021-08-14T19:43:27+00:00

It's all fun and games until the ex presses charges against the current bf.

I wouldn't want my boyfriend to fight my ex. It's just not a good situation for anyone.

radfem_babe · 2021-08-14T21:44:46+00:00

I may get some flack for this, but if it was just one time, the current bf wailing on the old bf, I would be okay with it. Four times, its a violence problem and I would be worried.

I also respect the other ladies in the comments who think its all a huge red flag. Going from one violent man to another. A peaceful man is high value.

I find a man who will protect me and defend me. Very attractive.

lessadessa · 2021-08-14T21:37:56+00:00

Seems fake

DontAskTwice-A-Roni · 2021-08-14T20:09:15+00:00

Avoid fights like the plague. Not just because you can be charged with assault, but because someone can seriously get hurt, and it doesn’t have to be you getting hurt for it to be a problem.

The term “one punch homicide” comes to mind. There have been several cases where two men get into an argument, one man punches the other just one time, and the other guy dies as a result of the injury. The man is then charged and finds himself staring down the barrel of 25 years to life.

It’s never worth it. Stay safe, and be careful. Only fight in self defense and only if you’ve exhausted other options. That’s my advice anyhow.

radsera99 · 2021-08-14T19:58:02+00:00

I was going to say I love it because karma but I read the comments and now I’m not so sure … anyways I hope the girl is ok

the_jaywalker · 2021-08-14T20:48:23+00:00

Yeah coming up next on things that never happened....

circescircus · 2021-08-14T19:56:55+00:00

I think there's a good chance her current BF is just violent and enjoys having an excuse to beat someone up. Like there is a chance him beating up her ex 4 times has little to do with her.

Even if he is doing this for her honor-- it's better to have a boyfriend who isn't in jail and convicted as a violent felon. It's easier to live a good life when you don't have to worry about being in a prison cell, or when you don't have to worry about your significant other being in a prison cell.

MyLifeIsWandsXIII · 2021-08-14T21:46:03+00:00

I wouldn't really want my current bf to be put at risk of either getting a one way trip to the ER at the hands of my ex, possibly dying, or being sent to jail so this is gonna be a no from me. I am not attracted to violent men either. If anything, I would much rather have his emotional support if that happened to me instead of having him go fight my ex like a feral gorilla let out of his enclosure.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2021-08-14T20:10:16+00:00

I hate the ownership implication. Ex scrote damaged current scrote's property, so current scrote lashes out.

A HVM would support you by going with you to the hospital, filing a police report and restraining order, helping you out around the house while you heal, and setting up cameras around the house for safety and peace of mind. Both these men are garbage.

Struggleis4real · 2021-08-14T20:03:38+00:00

And if this woman is accustomed to violence in her relationships, she might believe that this dysfunction is normal and then justify the current bf’s violence as “protection”. ):

Altowhovian93 · 2021-08-14T22:43:02+00:00

I think she needs to move away from her ex and her new man does not sound like an improvement.

Superb-Cancel9071 · 2021-08-14T20:59:26+00:00

This ain't it. He's not defending her in the moment. It's premeditated. Any show of violence that's not a defensive response to an immediate threat is a MASSIVE red flag and you need to block and delete immediately.

SturmFee · 2021-08-14T22:03:42+00:00

Two wrongs don't make a right.

Potential-Bid-245 · 2021-08-14T19:58:56+00:00

That is terrifying. The new boyfriend is going to turn that rage toward her and beat her up in the near future.

08__80 · 2021-08-14T21:03:54+00:00

So she traded one violent clown for another. This is not a cute story.

sassyheather · 2021-08-14T20:30:07+00:00

Just my 2 cents: my ex tried to r.pe me; my current boyfriend didn’t try to do the same to my ex and I wouldn’t want him to. I would much rather prefer my boyfriend do exactly what he did - listened, understood my trauma and made everything about me being understood and helped and not him executing revenge on my ex.

EurasianEmpress · 2021-08-14T21:01:41+00:00

I would want a man who would be willing and able to do this for me, but if there are other ways to ruin the ex’s life without facing charges himself then that’d be better.

wonkyeyes8877 · 2021-08-14T20:44:35+00:00

Nah. The ex needs to have charges pressed against him and a restraining order.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2021-08-15T00:26:31+00:00

Assuming this is real, I simply don't trust people who can be violent if it's not some form of self-defence. Often when someone uses violence for a "just" cause it can seem justified, but they can easily start applying the justice concept arbitrarily and it just leads to more aggression.

A HVM would help her build a case against the ex so he can be in jail and he'd help find a strategy so the ex can never get near her again, even better if they find a way of warning other women.

Beating the ex up four times shows he is capable of considerable violence and shows poor judgment because he can also end up in jail and he can get killed or seriously injured. It could weaken her case too if they take the ex to court. For once, the term white knight - and an unstable one at that - is justified.

I_know_right_AS_IF · 2021-08-14T21:21:58+00:00

My recent ex used to talk about wanting to fight my other ex...and it was just ridiculous. I'd tell him to stop talking like that. It's just unattractive. It's also a red flag, imo. He also made a joke about that ex dying...I was not happy with that and told him so.

The more I talk about this ex, the more relieved I am that the relationship ended 😓

yesbutnou · 2021-08-14T23:18:26+00:00

I feel like this is fake. Why is the boyfriend not in jail? Why didn’t she get a restriction order? If the ex presses charges against them they could possibly both end in jail. I mean the girl maybe no but the current boyfriend for sure would end up in jail.

AyemHerself · 2021-08-15T00:30:01+00:00

Why and how did they meet up on 4 separate occasions? One of them is trying to find the other and that's not okay.

MisandryFTW · 2021-08-15T01:09:34+00:00

It sounds like she found a second violent man. :(

Wild_Artio · 2021-08-14T20:42:31+00:00

No. Sounds like some Larry king live bs.

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-08-14T21:31:37+00:00

If he csn beat up anothrr man in a heartbeat he sure can do it to her......

Joohoneybee_002 · 2021-08-14T22:06:37+00:00

I would be okay with it once only because guy needs to see what it’s like fighting someone his own size instead of a woman. But repeatedly fighting him afterwards is over the top. That’s something that should be able to be settled once. Better yet, give him some legal consequences for the beating he committed in the first place.

Either way, I’m here for assholes getting punished for trashy actions.

Latter_Ostrich2875 · 2021-08-14T21:44:27+00:00

I’d want to get revenge and i want a partner who feels the same but I get why that might be a bad thing

her-vagesty · 2021-08-14T20:25:42+00:00

Most men only say they'd do this to the ex to make themselves look brave. I like a man who is true to his word.

AriaLuz · 2021-08-15T14:49:45+00:00

My ex almost broke my arm and my hand in a drunken rage. Forgive me if I have trust issues.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-08-15T09:05:50+00:00

men advocating for violence towards other men and justifying it as care for a woman = not kings but trash.

how does that help the woman in question? she needs therapy not her ex becoming more and more incentivized by the assault her now-bf perpetrates.

she exchanged one LVM for another.

dancedancedance7 · 2021-08-15T09:32:58+00:00

Her current guy isn't much better than the ex. The smart move would be to press charges and get a restraining order, which would actually protect her somewhat. Beating the guy up just builds aggression.

sewingmachinesavior · 2021-08-15T16:02:24+00:00

It’s only a matter of time until current BF violence is turned on her.

A HVM would never do this. He would elevate his woman’s status and ensure her safety in non violent ways unless the ex came back as a direct and intentional threat.

feelgoodlost_ · 2021-08-16T00:39:59+00:00

Let’s take a road trip, we want to talk toooo. What’s crazy is for the average run of the mill scrote you tell this too, they take note to do whatever happened times ten. Trust issues and intuition keep you safe from men whose gas tank is evil and lies.

Title	What do you all think about this?
Author	glendoraza
Upvotes	769
Comments	63
Date	August 14, 2021 7:37 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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