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| 342 | Intergenerational relationship trauma and breaking the cycle of abuseAt the same time my mother was married to an abusive alcoholic who was leeching off of her financially, I blinked and found that I'd invited the exact same sort of pustule into my own life. I was so deeply disturbed when I realized the similarities. I'd been so critical of my mom before. How could she not see that he was using her and unforgivably mistreating her? How was she so stupid as to believe she could change him? Why couldn't she see that he didn't love her, didn't even care about her? T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 03:20 AM |
| 434 | Never EVER take or send nudes. This poor woman had then used against her 12 years ago and then spread around town recently by her neighbor who got access to her case. The post was made by the woman's husband.Handmaids, PickMes, and LVW are rampant. High value humans in general are in short supply, sadly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 12:14 AM |
| 766 | Never EVER take or send nudes. This poor woman had then used against her 12 years ago and then spread around town recently by her neighbor who got access to her case. The post was made by the woman's husband.No matter how sex positive society supposedly gets, a woman's sexual history will always be used to shame and discredit her even when it's laughably irrelevant. Most judges are men, most prosecutors are men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 12:13 AM |
| 76 | Post where Will Smith was describing an out of hand party he threw for his wife, who clearly didn't want it. Obv gotta blame the woman for not being "grateful" for his "thoughtfulness".I saw one absurd piece of art that portrayed Jada as some Machiavellian puppet master literally pulling Will's strings, lmao. Isn't it interesting how when women wind up in abusive, toxic relationships the onus is on us to develop self worth and untangle ourselves and very rarely is any pity afforded to us, because we made our bed and we failed to choose a good partner and didn't immediately extract ourselves the very first moment there was ever a red flag, but when a man is POSSIBLY being manip… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 07:55 PM |
| 229 | ... and wait! when this doesn't work out, he asks his mommy to call her."I basically spilled my guts to you and was super honest with you." ⛳ It's crazy how often men'll try to employ this kind of farce of emotional intelligence and honesty. Once you know to pay attention for it, you'll see it everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 06:29 PM |
| 186 | Straight People Need Better Rules for SexMaybe some porn-inspired practices — those that eroticize degradation, objectification, harm — shouldn’t be mainstreamed. Maybe we do have a duty to others, not just to our own desire. The fact that the author felt the need to tentatively phrase these as maybes is so telling. Notice the lack of the words man, men, and male throughout this piece and then notice how often the word "we" is used. Why are we talking about sexual violence without identifying who's inflicting the violence and taking th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 06:20 PM |
| 26 | Women have it way harder then men in almost everything.It's not so much that we encourage women to put career first, but certainly to aim towards achieving independence because being in a situation where you're reliant on a man can trap you. I would love to be a stay-at-home mom someday but you best believe I'm going to have an escape fund set aside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 06:04 PM |
| 43 | Women have it way harder then men in almost everything.Under the illusion of giving us more freedoms and choices, patriarchy conned us into just doing everything. Several studies have shown that even if the woman is the breadwinner in her marriage she still does disproportionately more of the childcare and housework. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 05:58 PM |
| 69 | Women have it way harder then men in almost everything.Isn't it interesting how much Western society adopted from Judaism to inform their own faith and legal systems and sense of morality, yet we conveniently cherry picked and didn't take stuff like matrilineality, abortion rights, a woman's right to refuse her husband's sexual advances, etc. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 05:53 PM |
| 197 | Women have it way harder then men in almost everything.If women had to orgasm in order to conceive we'd be an endangered species. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 05:46 PM |
| 89 | Women have it way harder then men in almost everything.The only good compliments free of sexual/romantic intention we get are from other women. If men want to be complimented so much, they should compliment each other. They really imagine that we're being treated to some sort of wonderful experience by having men creepily compliment our hair or the leggings we wear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 05:44 PM |
| 138 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?We've BEEN waiting for MGTOW to go their own way. Like please, PLEASE go. Go in peace. 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 02:30 AM |
| 134 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?The funny thing is, you can comment on literally every other relationship/dating/sex sub with sentiments that're completely aligned with FDS and have tons of people upvote and agree. Something like, "A lot of men take advantage of the way women are socialized to employ weaponized incompetence." Most Reddit users would agree. I think it's the LVM/HVM designation that outrages so many of them. The "a lot of men" qualifier allows LVM to distance themselves from the issue being discussed. They can r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 02:05 AM |
| 536 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?Those are our fanboys, lol. They're more obsessed with us than we are with ourselves. I used to check those responses out but I realized time and time again they cherry pick things to criticize, take things out of context, put words in our mouth, etc. None of it is intellectually honest discourse. They're trying to minimize the uncomfortable cognitive dissonance our content stirs up in them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 03:54 PM |
| 93 | NVM Single DadsI know someone who tries to brag about what a great dad he is because he was "super involved" with his kids growing up. Bath time was one of the duties he took care of. Every night he'd give his boys a bath while his wife got a break and could go take her own shower or w/e. But then they had a girl and he stopped handling bath time because "that would be weird". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 04:28 AM |
| 111 | NVM Single DadsI'd bet my entire savings that he has child porn on his computer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 12:52 AM |
| 273 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?It is statistically unlikely that you'll encounter a compatible HVM who you're into and who is also into you. We don't want women to fall into a scarcity mindset, to lower their standards and settle for less, but the unfortunate reality is that we live in a patriarchal, misogynistic, sexist society and the result is that HVM are indeed in short supply. HVW outnumber HVM. Whether or not you choose to continue dating, knowing the odds aren't in your favor, is a personal choice. Dating factually op… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:46 PM |
| 40 | If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right.And the thing is, most women are going to initially be very polite when turning men down. It's when they won't take no for an answer that we resort to "violence". I've had this happen recently with two men who repeatedly asked me out despite me telling them no, with me gradually getting more blunt and more insulting. I actually asked one of them if he enjoyed being insulted, because at that point I'd already told him that he smelled repulsive (strong weed stench) and that even if I was currently… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:11 PM |
| 28 | If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right.I frequently get called intimidating as well. It's basically code for, "If someone comes at you sideways you're going to read them and hurt their feelings." Men can't handle the truth, they can't handle rejection, they can't handle being laughed at. They're so weak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:00 PM |
| 66 | If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right.However, before that, when I was 5kg heavier (not even all that much) and dressed in a way that was a bit more frumpy, I actually got MORE male attention from LVM types, and was treated much more nicely. I also had anxiety (and still do, but it was more obvious then. I was jumpy/nervous in normal situations. I definitely did not come off as strong, confident and happy as I do now). It's sickening, looking back, how lots of guys seemed to see me as "easy prey" and more amenable to approach, but t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:48 PM |
| 157 | The amount of pickmes on reddit is too highThere's so much role playing going on. Any time I read a post or comment that's supposedly written by a woman I ask myself if I've EVER encountered a woman who writes/speaks like that, and oftentimes the answer is no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:17 PM |
| 130 | The amount of pickmes on reddit is too highAll of these pickme's want to live in the fantasy that they too can be groomed by a nasty billionaire. This is it. They're romanticizing it, inserting themselves into the scenario in their heads and fantasizing about how wonderful it would be to get to shop at Hermes and drive a Porsche and vacation on a superyacht. Precisely none of them have stopped to think about the fact that virtually no one becomes a billionaire by being a decent human being. They're power hungry, exploitative, and have do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:05 PM |
| 48 | Have you ever witnessed/experiences a LVM turn to a HVM?Nah, I've only seen NVM become LVM or LVM become slightly less LV. Usually it's just guys who realized they need to hold down a job that allows them to house and feed themselves and that being a 200 pound leech is embarrassing. They're still pretty awful as people though. Watch porn, have substance abuse problems, subconsciously view women as subhuman, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 01:43 AM |
| 164 | But sex work is work, amirite?Nah, their fantasy woman is the untouched virgin who somehow knows how to deepthroat and ride dick like a pro. They want women to be highly sexual and skilled but only with them. It's irrational and illogical but that's men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:53 AM |
| 4 | Need advice on my hvmThe information that he's working two jobs to buy a new car because the one he has is falling apart isn't relevant, tbh. People who work multiple jobs can still feasibly request off and be granted the request. He didn't even bother to request off. If he'd wanted to, he would have. No one forced him to say he'd do the 5k with you. He let you sign him up for it and find a place to stay and then allowed weeks to elapse without telling you he hadn't requested off. This is LVM behavior. If he hadn't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:32 AM |
| 57 | Has any1 else noticed the Playboy label being plastered all over “trendy” clothing brands… it makes me so uncomfortable this is being marketed in an already porn saturated generation. Both PacSun and Urban Outfitters proudly promote these products despite historical misogyny. It gives me the ‘ick’.My boss' son has been asking for an ahegao hoodie, first for Christmas then his birthday. He's 12. He "coincidentally" also has a ton of behavioral problems and has been getting exponentially more disrespectful and aggressive as he gets older. She doesn't think there's any correlation between his unsupervised, unfettered access to the internet and the "mental health issues" he's been having. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 12:31 AM |
| 234 | Scrote high off confidence from “self-improvement” demands his female friend stop telling his hookups he’s sleeping around. Molly for president 2k24The more time passes, the more I realize men hate women gossiping among themselves because gossip has power....or at least deflates the fuck out of a posturing weirdo. 100%. Gossip is basically the exchange of information. Low value people revile it because it sheds light on their awful behavior and makes their social circle more aware of how they conduct themselves. Notice too how they often try to conflate gossiping with shit talking, as if someone doing something like warning their friend gro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 04:33 AM |
| 49 | Opinion | Consent is not enough. We need a new sexual ethic.Because as it stands, a lot of rotten guys are just manipulating vulnerable women (low self esteem, mentally ill, peaple pleasers, depressed, etc) into consent, knowing full well what they're doing. This is why the BDSM community's whole "safe, sane, and consensual!" spiel is so hollow. Like, at face value inflicting/receiving harm for sexual pleasure isn't safe or sane. And even if it hypothetically could be, how are you verifying that all involved parties are "sane"? Where're the therapists si… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:50 PM |
| 30 | Mommy issuesSomething that EVERY teenage girl needs to be made aware of before she starts dating is that LVM will try to get them pregnant. This is something that society just doesn't talk about, for whatever reason. We'll acknowledge that scrotes pressure women into having sex without condoms but we don't investigate why beyond the assumption that it must only be because it feels better. No, it's because they're trying to impregnate. Sometimes it's because they want to baby trap you, because they recognize… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:28 PM |
| 53 | I’m so sick of women having to question whether they are crazy for getting upset over things that are completely normal to get upset over!!!!Isn't it crazy how "ownership" of a child still defaults to the (presumed) father in so many ways? Like, without a paternity test hospitals should be operating as if the only legitimate, verified parent is the one they saw physically produce the child because that IS the only verified parent. Men should not be able to fill out and submit paperwork alone without the mother's approval. Her initial should be required on every pertinent page. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:01 PM |
| 102 | Guy on IG admits he’s a gold digger with this post 🤮I've been warning my little stepsister about how men take advantage of women financially and to look around and pay attention. One of her friends, a 19 year old, has a man 12 years older predating on her. He lives with his brother. I was like, "Watch, even though they've only known each other for a few months he's going to start warming her up to the idea of moving in together soon. And it won't be because he just likes her sooo much, it'll be because he can't afford to live on his own. He'll ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:36 PM |
| 148 | Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯I'm someone who wants kids and, if I ever have them, want to be a SAHM. It's inadvisable for women to become SAHMs for a ton of reasons. You sacrifice your career, your earning potential, your independence. You become dependent on your spouse and are much more vulnerable to being mistreated and abused. I know the risks and what I'd be sacrificing but I've always dreamed of having kids and I want to raise my children myself. But it's such nightmare fuel to imagine being swindled by someone who is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:02 PM |
| 22 | If you don't receive romance, act as if you were a man not receiving sex. Meaning dump. Women need romance like men need sex. It's not our want, it's our need.He'd probably have ghosted her early on. Very few men outside of religious communities are going to be up for no-sex-until-marriage. I've talked before about how I don't think it's advisable to wait until marriage to have sex. Even if a man is willing to wait, it's not really a guarantee of anything. Not that he actually loves you, not that he's actually committed to you. There are so many horror stories coming out of Mormon and Jewish communities. FDS does recommend waiting to have sex until ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 11:55 PM |
| 322 | Can we ask HVM to change in smaller ways?But what about a HVM who puts effort into dressing well, taking care of their skin, eating well, and staying active...but there's some stubborn pounds around the middle? If something like weight around the middle is a dealbreaker for you, move on. We discourage women from asking men to change not only because it's a fruitless endeavor the vast majority of the time but also because we need to learn to accept that people are who they are and sometimes asking for change can verge into hurtful and u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 11:33 PM |
| 60 | If you don't receive romance, act as if you were a man not receiving sex. Meaning dump. Women need romance like men need sex. It's not our want, it's our need.It basically just boils down to the age old, "If he wanted to, he would." If you have to beg, blackmail, or barter your way into marriage, that man did not want to marry you. Talk to any happily married man, even the low value ones (there are plenty of happily married LVM, though few of them are married to happily married women), and they'll pretty much all tell you the same thing: that they'd known within weeks, sometimes days, that they'd found the woman they wanted to marry. Then you have the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 10:30 PM |
| 416 | Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over you💯 If I wanted to teach a man emotional competency, I'd birth one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 06:22 PM |
| 196 | Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over youState what you want then leave when it's not met. Don't even state it. If what you want is basic human decency and empathy, he's either giving it or he's not. If you find yourself having to ask for it, he's not going to give it. At most he'll adjust his behavior for a couple weeks to pacify you before eventually slipping back into who he actually is. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. LVM aren't disrespectful and hurtful because you've failed to communicate to them… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 06:17 PM |
| 215 | From the tinder subreddit. I have no words.Men are so casually coercive. Imagine if women commonly said shit like, "You're not into cock and ball torture? You're so basic. So vanilla. Good luck ever finding someone. I'm not saying I want to do it, just saying you should be willing to try it if you want to find someone. Are you saying that if you found the perfect woman and she wanted to heel stomp on your balls in 6 inch stilettos, you'd turn her down just because of that? You're not allowed to ever complain about being single. You're yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 06:03 PM |
| 5 | Men are so damn dumb, insecure, and illogical. If you’re dusty just say that. Yeah every time I get up early to go to work and drive 30 miles to the office, it’s definitely to turn on men. No one wants you!!!!!!!!! I need some Zyrtec to clear the dust in my nose.It's amazing to me how INCREDIBLY common it is for women to be taken advantage of financially by their boyfriends/husbands. I know so many women who have a man laid up at their place, eating all their food and not paying a goddamn bill, underemployed or unemployed and nursing a habit or full blown addiction, yet LVM still try to pretend that men don't care about financial accomplishments. As if hobosexuals aren't a dime a dozen. My abusive ex moved himself in with me, didn't help pay for ANYTHIN… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:51 PM |
| 117 | If you don't receive romance, act as if you were a man not receiving sex. Meaning dump. Women need romance like men need sex. It's not our want, it's our need.The prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for reasoning, planning, judgment, anticipating consequences, and controlling impulses, doesn’t complete its growth until approximately early to mid 20s. She was probably 19 when this scrote sunk his claws into her. Society needs to start shaming older people who pursue 18-24 year olds. It's predatory. I'm so deeply sick of the, "18 Is A lEgAl AdUlT" excuse. 18 is an arbitrary age to set adulthood at, it has nothing to do with actual human… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:33 PM |
| 28 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.Successful men are definitely hypergamous but something I've noticed is how many successful women are hypogamous. My mother has a PhD, married a man with a master's and then later a man who hadn't even graduated high school. I've known multiple nurses who were married to men working in fields like construction and sales who'd only graduated high school. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 08:53 PM |
| 32 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.Nothing but pure facts. Fewer men are attending college and graduating these days which does somewhat diminish the dating pool for educated women, if they want an equally yoked partner, but so fucking what? I'd rather be alone than uneducated. LVM really try to sell us the notion that living in a trailer park is preferable to living in a penthouse just because we'll have more male neighbors there, lmao. They really think they're a prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 08:40 PM |
| 46 | The ad I got on a video about domestic violence. On International Women’s Day!And when men present themselves as having no problem doing the "woman" things, you still have to be highly cautious/vigilant. Men are increasingly saying they'd love to be stay-at-home dads but so many of them are just LVM looking for a route to become a professional leech. I've heard so many horror stories about stay-at-home dads who basically don't do anything other than keep the children alive. The moms come home to a wrecked house, discover their babies marinating in dirty diapers, that the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 08:02 PM |
| 111 | The next time you feel silly, know that there are men out there who will jeopardize their entire bank account funds for the chance to see breasts.but in reality it's her dad There's a woman on TikTok who did a storytime about how she found out her dad was subscribed to her OF. He'd paid her to "play with herself" while on the phone with him and she heard her mother in the background and recognized her voice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 07:32 PM |
| 119 | The next time you feel silly, know that there are men out there who will jeopardize their entire bank account funds for the chance to see breasts.God, that story pissed me off so much. He just assumed she couldn't possibly be qualified for the job and that she must have been an affirmative action hire. Like, it never occurred to him that most fields have so many competent candidates, even if a company did specifically want to hire a woman for diversity's sake it really wouldn't be hard to find someone who's both a woman and can do the work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 07:18 PM |
| 75 | Anyone else want to get married less the more you see married men leering at you or other women in the company of their partners?Most LVM don't even limit themselves to leering. I work with a lot of married men and 95% of them flirt with the women they're coming into contact with. Coworkers, clients, hell, the Postmates woman. There was one standout exception. Super Christian guy, still young but had married even younger. He gave me some faith because he was the one guy who'd never flirted with me, had never made sexual innuendos or inappropriate jokes, and had never given me one of those looks where you can tell they're … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 07:01 PM |
| 260 | This is why you never stay with a man who expresses interest in anal. What he really wants is to hurt and humiliate you.A new coworker was unloading on me the other day about her relationship. It's clearly unhealthy but she maintains that they're both "equally toxic and love it 🤪". But then she started telling me about how he'd pressed for anal for ages, despite having a really large dick. She said she gave in one night when they'd both been drinking. Mind you, he's a football player and she probably weighs about 115 pounds soaking wet. I highly doubt he was as inebriated as her. She said he shoved it in without … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 09:57 AM |
| 154 | I am just so... disappointedHe's 100% lying with the, "I totally only started watching porn because of the pandemic!" bs. This day and age, the vast majority of men watch porn. Of the rare few who don't, they used to but stopped when they realized what they were participating in and/or the impact it was having on them psychologically/physically. Of that former group of men who stopped for ethical reasons, if they're HV they will never start again. LVM tell half truths. He fessed up to the porn but with what he thought woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 02:04 AM |
| 71 | On men frequenting OF/internet models/cam girls etc : If this were the 90s would you date a man who carried around a box of swimsuit model magazines 📖 so he could ogle them a couple times an hour??Imagine if he carried around albums of pictures of various women he knows, peripherally or not. The woman he took one class with two years ago. The woman he worked with for all of three months before she quit. His best friend's little sister. His high school crush. His former babysitter. All of his exes. Then imagine that many of these pictures are at least relatively sexy. Selfies of them at the gym, showing off their gains. Pics of them at the beach, sun tanning. Imagine him pulling out those … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:18 AM |
| 83 | If he can't plan a date, he isn't worth going out with in the first place.I'm a simple person and don't really do extravagancies. I also loathe eating meals with people I don't know yet. In a perfect world, I would actually enjoy coffee and walk dates. But it's an imperfect world, and men use these low effort dates to avoid "wasting" money, energy, and time on women they're not actually all that into, women they're uncertain if they'll be able to finagle sex out of, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:08 PM |
| 21 | What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something?lmao, I avoid talking about it irl if there're any guys around because it's like a dog whistle for male nerds on the prowl for (what they think) is the rare and elusive nerd woman. But instead of actually appreciating a shared interest it turns into one-upmanship and them getting an attitude if you know more. Plus, so many of them missed the 500 Days of Summer memo ("Just cause some cute girl likes the same bizarro crap you do, that doesn't make her your soulmate") and if they find out you share… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:47 PM |
| 224 | What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something?I had an ex who touted himself as being a huge Star Wars fan. Neat, so am I. But when we'd talk about it, it became apparent that his interest was pretty surface level. He'd watched the movies and some of the animated series but for him it was very much, "Haha, laser sword goes brrrr!" Whereas I'm really interested in the political machinations, the questionable ethics of the supposed good guys, how I think the Republic was corrupt and so were the Jedi by virtue of being their lapdogs, how I thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:44 AM |
| 199 | Ali Wong’s “Don Wong” ShowThis cannot be overstated. When we talk about value we mean in terms of character, not wealth. In fact, the wealthiest people are some of the most LV on the planet. FDS does contend that if a person (man or woman) decides to date that it should be from a position of having their shit decently together but that can mean so many different things depending on what a person wants out of life. There are HVM living in rural cabins making no more than 20k a year, living largely off the land, and for so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:37 AM |
| 23 | Ladies please be careful about who you have children with. She is pregnant but he is trying to dictate how she gives birth… also he doesn’t know about the umbilical cord? 🥴I have a coworker who's had FOUR children with his forever girlfriend. Actually, he did throw an engagement ring at her so I guess she's technically his forever fiancée now. He has zero intention of actually marrying her though. They've been "engaged" for years and he still refers to her as his girlfriend and makes shitty comments about how much her body has changed and how much weight she's gained. It's really only a matter of time now until he leaves her for a woman who hasn't sacrificed her b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 08:23 PM |
| 292 | “She doesn’t bother to pretend she’s not being raped and that makes my pp sad”When I lost my virginity we'd both been drinking but I was much more inebriated. He shoved his tongue down my throat for maybe a minute, his idea of foreplay, before forcing his dick into me. I was enthusiastic at the time. I liked him and I thought he liked me. But I clearly wasn't remotely aroused enough so it was extremely painful. I told him several times how much it hurt but he didn't stop. He later complained about what a turnoff it'd been, me telling him I was in pain. I look back on that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:17 PM |
| 91 | Love is blind JapanOne instance in particular stood out to me: one of the men was always on his computer when they were on a getaway. So, the women took notice and expressed her concern to the other women. One of whom asked her if she communicated with him, and the woman responded that it doesn't matter because she already made up her mind that it's not going to work out. Good for her! I'm so sick of the insistence that women must cOmMuNiCaTe their expectation of basic decency and politeness to men. It's not like … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 06:57 PM |
| 31 | When your 11 year old son starts watching violent and degrading rape porn all you gotta do is let him know that it's totally not a guidebook nor an okay portrayal of women!I used to work at a supermarket and one time while I was helping a family bag their groceries someone groped me. I turned around fully prepared to slap them, but I was met with the back of a 10-12 year old's head. I looked at his dad and he was chuckling. Looked at the mom and daughter, they were up by the pinpad and appeared oblivious. Looked back at the dad and he still had this grin on his face like it'd been some hilarious prank. I wonder if he'd put his son up to it. I stared him down until… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 04:05 PM |
| 525 | When your 11 year old son starts watching violent and degrading rape porn all you gotta do is let him know that it's totally not a guidebook nor an okay portrayal of women!We are not a religious family so I have no moral objections about pornography other than the above mentioned issues when it comes to how women are portrayed. No moral objections to an industry rife with human trafficking, rape, abuse, coerced drug addiction, pedophilia, racism, etc., etc. No concern at all about how this will psychologically impact his child. Most 11 year old boys haven't even hit puberty yet. Jesus Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 04:33 AM |
| 237 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.I was in the early talking stages with a guy once when he asked me what I'm looking for in a man. I decided to test out, "Honesty and kindness." That same night I asked him if he had kids and he sidestepped the question. Spoiler alert: he did. Sometimes you give them the cheat sheet and they still fail. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 01:01 AM |
| 244 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.I personally don't think it's advisable to wait until marriage to have sex. A man's behaviors surrounding and during sex are hugely indicative of whether or not he's a HVM. If you wait until after marriage to have sex you're leaving a HUGE blind spot for a LVM to hide selfish, degenerate, and/or abusive behavior in, and then when you make the unsavory discovery you're already legally (and spiritually, I suppose, if you're religious) entangled. Sexual compatibility is another factor (though, of c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 10:10 PM |
| 736 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.100%. And women need to be aware that when a guy asks what you're looking for there's a good chance he's just checking to see what he should pretend to be that day/week/month. Whatever expedites getting in your pants. If you tell him you're looking for a good Christian man to settle down and start a family with, suddenly he'll start waxing poetic about how great being dragged to church by his parents growing up was and how he's totally always wanted kids. He could be an atheist who despises chil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 09:19 PM |
| 461 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.Her first mistake was telling him outright that she wanted to wait to have sex until an exclusive relationship had been established. Might as well have put the playbook on how to manipulate her right into his hands. Then she had sex with him before meeting a single friend or family member. The promise of plans to do so was enough to lull her into believing he was genuine. He was never going to introduce her to his family. Some friends, maybe, if he has LVM and Cool Girl friends who're used to hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 09:07 PM |
| 40 | I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.They don't truly view us as full fledged people, with our own inner thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings. It bothers them when something going on with us disrupts the comfort of their daily lives. My ex took issue with me going to a memorial service for my recently deceased friend. He didn't volunteer to go with me, so I didn't ask, and instead he worked a shift at his job. I was his personal chauffeur (he didn't have a driver's license or a car) but his shift ended around when the servi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 08:34 PM |
| 96 | I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.I'm in school right now for criminal justice. I really thought I could work in law enforcement, try to make things better from the inside. Idealistic nonsense. I've come to realize that policing is so incredibly corrupt, I want nothing to do with it. I literally just got out of class where the professor (a retired police officer) was defending no-knock warrants in the wake of Amir Locke's murder. Male cops are even worse than the average LVM. They're statistically more likely to be abusers and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 08:16 PM |
| 17 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"Not inherently, no, but context matters. There's a huge difference between only having one parent because they're a widow/widower, because they had you with a donor/surrogate, because your mother got pregnant during a random hookup and doesn't know the identify of the father, and only having one parent because you were blatantly and callously rejected by the other, who wished death upon you. It doesn't take a PhD in psychology to know this will be damaging to a child. Even if she hides the truth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 11:03 PM |
| 29 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"I aborted a pregnancy that I wanted to keep because the father was my abusive ex. It was conceived coercively, if not during one of the forceful incidences of textbook rape. I'm pro-choice, rationally I do not believe that an embryo or fetus is a child. But I have always wanted to have kids and something in my mind identified that embryo as my baby. It was a very painful decision to make and I still grieve, but whatever damage was inflicted on me was worth keeping that potential child from havin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:45 PM |
| 71 | Only mine 2019My dad is a LVM, never really bothered to warn any of his daughters about the dangers of men, but the one thing he did tell us was to never date a cop. After he and my mom separated he was living in an apartment complex and helped a new renter, a young woman, move her heavy furniture in (as an aside, when he was telling me this story he admitted that he'd basically scoped her out as a potential romantic partner when he would've been around 51 years old and wasn't even divorced yet 🤮). They built… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 08:29 PM |
| 17 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.If a man has kids something you have to ask yourself is, if he's a genuinely good man, why doesn't his ex want him anymore? And you can't believe his version of events. You need to talk to his exes, her friends, his friends, his family members. Is it really worth all that effort, having to play Sherlock Holmes? Probably not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:59 PM |
| 16 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.When I tried to tell my mom about what'd been done to me, she shut me down so fast that I can't help but wonder now if she had an inkling and chose to bury her head in the sand. I never brought it up again after that. I think that was actually more traumatizing. My mind easily accepts the truth that men are dangerous, untrustworthy, and will hurt me but I still struggle with the reality that I was never really loved by my mother and that I couldn't depend on her to protect me. It's such a perver… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:52 PM |
| 17 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.Not to be all, "Won't somebody please think of the children!" or anything but you're absolutely right. It's one thing when women are just fucking themselves over by accepting this kind of degenerate behavior, it's another when they bring children into it. Having kids really needs to be seen as a monumental, cosmic responsibility. If you aren't capable of putting them first ALWAYS, you need to not have them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:21 PM |
| 22 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.Someone even suggested that he's making hundreds of origami swans and selling them online! LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:15 PM |
| 42 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.He probably likes doing it with other people in the house. LVM are degenerate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:13 PM |
| 28 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.Next stop, the "broken mom" sub. 🚂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:10 PM |
| 90 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.Lundy Bancroft has written at length about how abusive men will weaponize psychological concepts and terms as yet another tool in their arsenal to control women and he's commented on how financial abuse is probably the most common form of abuse, and yet it's the least spoken on. It's so common nowadays for grown ablebodied men to be leeching off their girlfriends/wives, and society doesn't question it. Women are expected to shoulder the burden of pregnancy, birth, and newborn care, suffer the ph… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 07:05 PM |
| 159 | Scrote obviously has a porn addiction and is neglecting his kids and gaslighting his wife. I can't even with these men anymore.Ever notice how many men are supposedly crippled with depression but only when they conveniently have a girlfriend, wife, or parent to keep them fed and housed? Bet if they were facing the prospect of living under a bridge in a cardboard box their depression would become real functional real fast. Ever notice how homeless men often struggle with addiction problems, stemming from life shattering trauma like childhood sexual abuse or military combat? Then you have Rob over here, who's been bumming… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 06:29 PM |
| 212 | TW: r*pe very triggering, I almost logged off of the internet after reading this but I decided to post here so we can all seeNotice how at no point does he actually empathize with her. No comment on how horrific being raped must be, no mention of how worthless and hopeless she must have felt when the school brushed it under the rug. And not only did he fail to help her that night, he failed to help her when she made her accusation. He saw her talking to one of his fraternity bothers but it was totally unbeknownst to him that was the guy making her uncomfortable? Bullshit. He could have come forward as a witness. He ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 02:42 AM |
| 40 | It's too late, the Porn Industry won, the children are corrupted. Todays young people think rape is good and the people who think its bad are the problem. How do we protect kids, teens and young adults from being indoctrinated into Porn and LibFem culture?There are some communes where people have come together to try to live in a more natural, ethical way. I could totally get behind living with a small community of other likeminded parents to very intentionally raise children. But the problem would be, predictably, men. Any time you have a small community that relies on itself you inadvertently create situations that make it easier for sexual predators to abuse children. Too much trust gets placed in the men and there're fewer to no precautions i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 01:47 AM |
| 67 | It's too late, the Porn Industry won, the children are corrupted. Todays young people think rape is good and the people who think its bad are the problem. How do we protect kids, teens and young adults from being indoctrinated into Porn and LibFem culture?My first taste of true feminism was more than 10 years ago, online. I was schooled by a group of women who introduced me to concepts like that nothing develops in a vacuum. People nowadays are trying to act like we're all raised in sterile cleanrooms with zero influences, and that the various inclinations we develop are just a fascinating natural expression of human differences. They really act like being aroused by rape is the same as other unexplainable and harmless differences, like a prefere… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 12:56 AM |
| 190 | FDS Rules save the day again!I have an inexperienced 18 year old stepsister who I've been sharing FDS with. She's practically chomping at the bit to go out and let LVM use and damage her, literally talks about how she doesn't care if she gets hurt because she just wants to experience things. I've cautioned her that some experiences are so bad and scar so deeply, they will hinder your ability to ever feel happy again. It's a constant struggle against the social influences telling women that "sexual liberation" is amazing and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 10:08 PM |
| 40 | Journey into the oblivion! The angry scrotes in the comments are a nice touch 😂That's something that belies the cleverness difference between men and women. Women craft the most scathing insults, hands down. There've been numerous posts on Ask subs where people share the worst insult that's been directed at them, and the worst are by far from women. Mothers, sisters, friends, girlfriends, wives, exes, coworkers, bosses. Hell, even strangers. The best insults come from the ability to empathize and observe. When you can read someone and tell what makes them tick, what they'r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:53 PM |
| 85 | Just saw this posted at another community… 🤮I'm 5'9" and went from 230 to 150 and then built up some muscle so I'm now around 175. People who've known me at all these weights are surprised I don't talk about it more because they think it's such an accomplishment but I'm painfully aware that I struggle with image issues so it's not a vulnerability I want to draw attention to. I didn't lose the weight healthily, I developed an eating disorder and shed it really fast. If you meet me at my current weight, you will never hear from me that I us… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 11:29 PM |
| 162 | The audacity! Time to abandon or murder your pet, as all good women doThere is some serious hate lobbed at ‘horse girls’ that I’ll never understand. It's because horses are the most expensive, most labor intensive, and most time consuming pet and equestrianism as a hobby can be pretty expensive, especially if you're competing. LVM despise it when you have priorities that threaten their position as The Most Special Boy. As far as they're concerned, your favorite hobby should be the care and keeping of them. There's also the delightful dash of sexist scorn due to it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 11:18 PM |
| 13 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided.They are easy to sus out, that's the thing. I've read countless stories of abuse and have my own, and not a single woman has reported that there weren't any warning signs. They might still have rose-tinted glasses half on and initially describe things as having been great, happy, loving, etc. up until an overt instance of abuse, but with more detail you learn that there were red flags, often from the very beginning. It's an infinitesimally small number of men who can perfectly maintain a facade … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 09:42 PM |
| 17 | Men share their stories of when they treated women the worst.I agree. I think everyone, man and woman alike, has the ability to change. That's why it's important for this sub to not go private. Not only would it limit women's access to FDS content, it would limit men's exposure to the truth. I know some of them that've come here to hate read have had a seed of cognitive dissonance planted in them. Hopefully it sprouts, but I won't hold my breath. We can't even convince the average white American that they benefit from institutionalized racism and that if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 07:45 PM |
| 158 | Men share their stories of when they treated women the worst.The potential exists in men when they're still little boys and haven't been tainted yet by a misogynistic world that teaches them to innately view women as subhuman. Lord, I do not envy the mothers of sons. Imagine bringing a new consciousness into existence, one who has an endless capacity for empathy and kindness, and then watching as they're corrupted, robbed of their emotional potential, and come to consider you subhuman. You, who gave them life. I honestly don't know how any HVM exist at al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:58 AM |
| 25 | Does anybody else get tired of fake women's posts undoubtedly written by men?I get a special kind of schadenfreude when I come across the deluded fantastical writings of men who've clearly immersed themselves in anime and have spent more time jerking it to hentai than they have interacting with real flesh and blood women. Like, if you want to fetishize a culture for normalizing financially taking advantage of women, look no further than your own because East Asian cultures aren't it, lmao. If they'd direct their attention slightly southwest they'd come across India, the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 10:16 PM |
| 62 | Men say they don’t want whores for wives but in the same breath will say they expect sex in return for a $35 meal on the first date. I mean why else would she be going to this strange man’s house?Oh, they creep. They're obsessed with us. Then they like to cherry pick things to post out of context on other subs to strawman us. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:50 PM |
| 217 | Men share their stories of when they treated women the worst.I’ve been abused, assaulted, you just name it and over time (hate to say it) you kind of just stop caring. I think this might be the worst thing about having been abused. Like, you become so desensitized to it that it becomes normalized in your nervous system, and then future abuse you experience fails to set off alarm bells like it should. The first person who abuses you primes you for further abuse by people in the future, and then the abuse they inflict on you contributes to more desensitizat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:35 PM |
| 9 | I know somebody already posted about this but I just want to show how many people think that this kind of nastiness is okay! Sorry if it's not okay to post this again. 🤢🤢🤢Well, inbreeding is a tool used by farmers to select for certain traits in their livestock... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:21 PM |
| 9 | I know somebody already posted about this but I just want to show how many people think that this kind of nastiness is okay! Sorry if it's not okay to post this again. 🤢🤢🤢But don't forget! If we decide that the totally feminist choice to be pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen isn't for us, we always have the totally feminist choice to serve in the military (bonus points for combat positions) so that we too can participate in the slaughter of innocent foreign civilians. And if that's not for us, we have the totally feminist choice to become CEOs so that we too can enslave overseas laborers (bonus points for children). And if that's not for us, we have the totally… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:17 PM |
| 495 | Men share their stories of when they treated women the worst.Notice how many of them blame their behavior on alcohol. I used to drink socially a lot and somehow managed to never abuse, sexually assault, or cheat on anyone. If you date a man who drinks, look very closely at his relationship with alcohol. If he acts like he has to drink at social functions, frequently drinks to excess, drinks to get drunk, drinks alone, etc. and if his inebriated behavior leans even slightly towards disrespectful, never see him again. Also notice how relatively tame these s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 08:47 PM |
| 277 | Woman levels up, LVM ex is vengeful and escalating. She's trying to co-parent for their daughter but it's entirely one sided."He's angry because he didn't break you." Ding ding ding. Men like this are extremely dangerous. If he doesn't outright take his bitterness and fury out on their child, he'll do everything in his power to poison her against the mother. Imagine trying to co-parent with someone like this. Nightmare fuel. This is why it's so, so imperative for women to not reproduce with LVM. They'll not only make your life hell, they'll scar your baby. If you decide to keep a pregnancy in a situation like this you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 08:15 PM |
| 12 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenHVM aren't common so you will see a lot of LVM out in the wild conducting themselves poorly. The couples you know where one party is significantly busier than the other probably aren't very happy. A super common complaint women in relationships have is that their SO doesn't dedicate enough quality time to them. LVM who don't actually have the time for a relationship may find a way to carve some out in the beginning in order to secure a woman, but it's often not sustainable. The courting stops, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 08:03 PM |
| 173 | Pinnacle of being a privileged liberal feminist 🙄They love coffee dates and believe being abused during sex is just BDSM (as long as it's consensual, of course!), so I'm sure they will be. 🤞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:12 AM |
| 83 | Reaching out to make amends for former pick-me waysI'm confused as to why you think you owe them an apology. You were still a teenager when you met this man and he took advantage of your inexperience and naivety to groom, manipulate, and use you. I'm assuming they were closer in age to him than you, in which case they failed to protect you when they suspected what he was doing. They failed you. If he was sexually coercive with them as well, why should they be "understandably hurt and confused" that you didn't tell them what was happening? They d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 12:16 AM |
| 105 | Found on another sub. I was grossed out by how many people thought this was so cute and #couplegoals material 🤢But even the potty trained ones have trouble wiping their asses correctly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 11:47 PM |
| 10 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!If a woman has any doubt whatsoever as to her safety (and if the man is LV, there's doubt) she should 100% pass her abortion off as a miscarriage. My ex threatened to kill me if I ever got an abortion (way before he even got me pregnant), so that's what I did. I researched the various ways pregnancy loss manifests and picked the one that best applied to the stage I was at and how I aborted (medical). Came in handy when his fucking mom texted me, demanding I detail what'd happened. He wanted to k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 08:49 PM |
| 5 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!My abusive ex obsessively wanted kids and he and his fucked up family would 100% have abused them. He told me all about how his mom beat him up until he got too big, at which point his stepdad took over. He told me about how his mom continued to slap his younger sister around and how she'd hit his nieces. He acknowledged how much damage they'd inflicted on him, yet he stayed loyal to them and wouldn't consider cutting them out of his life. His childcare plan for when I went back to work after gi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 08:26 PM |
| 101 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenA lot of men won't approach women they're interested in if they feel that they themselves are lacking in some way. When a man encounters a woman he's really into, if he has any substance to him at all he'll want to date her the right way. But if he's unable to do that, he'll never approach. It could be that he's incredibly busy, going to school fulltime while also holding down a job, and he can't work out how he'd make the sort of time for you that you deserve. It could be that he lives at home … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 07:52 PM |
| 146 | A guy brought up porn half a minute after matchingIt is totally fucked up how normalized it's become but, on the other hand, it means that men out themselves really fast now. It used to be that you could have no idea your guy consumed porn until you discovered his stash of magazines hidden in the attic but now these dickheads tell you about it within minutes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:33 PM |
| 150 | A guy brought up porn half a minute after matchingIt's weird that it's a personality trait or a point of pride for them, now. That's not something you opened with 40 years ago, or even 10 years ago I remember when porn consumption was rightly considered gross and perverted and men had to physically go somewhere to purchase it, often some seedy "adult bookstore". I remember guys saying they wouldn't be caught dead walking into such an establishment, there was such a stigma. They could buy "nudie magazines" in gas stations, but that was also risk… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:27 PM |
| 68 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!I was pregnant all of 7 weeks and the day-long nausea and endless exhaustion was kicking my ass. I couldn't stomach eating until around 9pm, day after day. I worked a physically demanding job and couldn't fathom how I was going to manage long term. I was partially fooling myself into believing my (now ex) boyfriend would step up and start working full time so that I could eventually go on maternity leave. I don't know why, but he did me the favor of tipping his hand. It lends credence to those s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 04:25 AM |
| 30 | Men who try and escalate things too quicklyAlternatively: they're attracted to you but something about you is "unconventional", and they care more about what other people (primarily men) think than living their own truth. Plus size women deal with this a lot, as men pursue them for sex or downlow "relationships" but won't openly date them, but it can be over almost anything. If you're tall, hairy, have strong facial features, aren't super feminine, whatever. Plenty of men are attracted but they're such cowards that they don't want to adm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 04:04 AM |
| 24 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himYou're entirely right. Very, very few men can mask until marriage. It's likely there were plenty of red flags and instances of disrespectful/abusive behavior earlier on. But women are discouraged from identifying disrespectful/abusive behavior for what it is and then later, looking back and realizing what you'd chosen to overlook and make excuses for, it feels embarrassing to admit it. So I think that's why when women tell these stories, very often they paint it like their guy was sooo amazing u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:22 AM |
| 68 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himThere are some brides out there who actually think it’s funny, I’m sure, but I haven’t met them. I've come across the ones who pretend to think it's funny because in their sad PickMe minds, being treated like one of your husband's frat bros is the crowning I'VE-BEEN-PICKED!!! achievement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:02 AM |
| 110 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himThere've been several cake smashing videos that went semi-viral, where the bride was obviously on the verge of tears and struggling to pretend to laugh it off. It's so disturbing. I grew up being treated like shit and was mocked, laughed at, and demonized for objecting. The way these women stuff their feelings down, knowing that failing to maintain the easygoing, chill Cool Girl facade will cue their entire social circle to gaslight en masse, is familiar and nauseating. Imagine everyone you love… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:53 AM |
| 146 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himI like that she was told to make a mental note of those that don't value her happiness. This is such an important point. FDS teaches women to be especially wary about low value men in the context of dating, as they pose a significant threat, but it's important for us to be cognizant that the world is chock-full of low value people in general. Be selective about who you allow in your inner circle. The sad truth is that the majority of people are low value. They will urge you to lower your standar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:29 AM |
| 18 | Lily Tomlin WALKS OUT After Chad Everett's Sexist Remark! | The Dick Cavett Show (it happens between 6: 35 - 6:55even sexist men in the past were down for earning all the money then giving it over to the wife to control. Something that a lot of modern men who pine over the "good old days" conveniently like to forget. Women traditionally ran the household, which included its finances. She'd have open access to her husband's income. My dad liked to tell the story about how his mom was the youngest of a boatload of children and how she had so many older sisters, her home economics education was neglected. She… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 12:04 AM |
| 27 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?Hahaha, for real. I used to fantasize about the conditions under which I'd take my ex back again. In some alternate universe, if he both realized what a monster he is and recognized his own potential and did everything required to heal from his own trauma, make amends for the trauma he inflicted on others, got sober, got an education or learned a trade, truly worked hard, built a life for himself, etc. I'd take him back. But now I've gotten to the point where he could be named the next Secretary… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 11:37 PM |
| 30 | Ladies who have taken back an ex, did he change and what made you take him back?He did not change, predictably. I took him back more than once because the relationship was abusive and I was caught up in a trauma bond. I had no idea what I was experiencing. Being separated from him was physically excruciating. I was like an addict going through withdrawal. One of the times I took him back gave him the opportunity to reproductively coerce and impregnate me. He wanted to trap me. I got a traumatic abortion to escape him and I have PTSD now. 0/10, would not recommend. Don't tak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 11:19 PM |
| 27 | What could be better than this? India Plans to Criminalize Marital Rape, So Some Men Are Boycotting Marriage - VICEConsidering the imbalanced sex ratio in India as a result of rampant femicide, bold of these scrotes to assume marriage is even an option for them in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:24 PM |
| 38 | PIED confirmedAnd if you can masturbate to porn, knowing the horrific reality behind it involving rape, coercion, human trafficking, etc., you are broken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:20 PM |
| 56 | PIED confirmedLOL. What an impressive feat of Olympic-level mental gymnastics. He totally watches porn because no unbiased researcher worth their salt would make a conclusion like, "Masturbation has a positive effect on wellbeing. Porn is the most used masturbation aid. Therefore, porn is good!" I swear, scrotes have completely forgotten that you can masturbate without any "aids". It's called 🌈imagination🌈. Humans have been masturbating for some 300,000 years just fine without pornography. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:17 PM |
| 45 | Another reason why we don’t do coffee datesIs it okay to nope out if a dude is ugly, rude, no chemistry? Absolutely it is! This is one of the reasons we discourage women from letting men pick them up (along with it being dangerous for an unvetted, strange man to know where you live). If you drove yourself (or can take an Uber or public transportation or w/e) you have the freedom to end the date at any point and simply leave. It's so terrible how women will end up trapped on shitty dates because they have no way to get home and/or they're… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 10:06 PM |
| 174 | Another reason why we don’t do coffee dates100%. I know women sometimes think their dating prospects would be so much better if only they'd been lucky enough to win the genetic lottery, but plenty of LVM will put in effort up until they think they've got you. Just look at all the gorgeous celebrities who've been treated like dirt by their boyfriends and husbands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 09:57 PM |
| 150 | I Regret my Plastic Surgery: The Impact of the Patriarchy & LVM FathersMy LVM father found various ways to communicate to me that he was disappointed his daughters weren't prettier, by his standards. He's the type of scrote who fetishizes Asian women for being petite and delicate. Yet he decided to reproduce with a taller than average sturdily built woman and, being a taller than average sturdily built man, produced taller than average sturdily built daughters. Cue surprised Pikachu face. He lived and worked on a farm and here he had three daughters very physically… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 02:36 PM |
| 109 | Lil Miss Cheetah catches a Cheater red-handed 🥴😂Dear Lord. Even if he wasn't married, what is this beautiful woman doing trying to track down some lowkey ugly bald headed rando she bumped into at the beach, as if he's a prize? If he'd had any legitimate interest in her, he'd have gotten her phone number and asked her out. This is just one of many, many examples of why women shouldn't pursue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 01:55 PM |
| 72 | The male version of “ABCDEFU” is literally domestic violence and people are celebrating it.Also, in the original song the female singer insults every female relative of her ex, like what the fuck? The original was misogynistic enough To be fair, she only calls out the mom and sister and a lot of the worst LVM do have enabler moms, sisters, grandmothers, aunts, etc. My abusive ex's mom and sister were enablers to the nth degree. I can accept that men hate women and pose a threat to us, but it still somehow blindsides me when my fellow women thrust that knife in my back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 01:45 PM |
| 204 | The male version of “ABCDEFU” is literally domestic violence and people are celebrating it.Have you ever noticed how if you try to have that "playful banter" with a guy that so many of them claim to love, most men will cross a line because they have this gross need to one-up you in an extremely overblown manner? Like you'll playfully make fun of a guy's new shirt and he'll respond with something about how your dad abandoned you. Most men lack subtlety and originality, they aren't clever, and they aren't funny. They find the concept of violence against women to be hysterical (I can't t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 01:38 PM |
| 131 | The male version of “ABCDEFU” is literally domestic violence and people are celebrating it.I love this Dune quote: "My son displays a general garment and you claim it’s cut to your fit?" Jessica asked. "What a fascinating revelation." It's sooo revealing when a man takes a generalized statement/sentiment personally which is why those, "Not all men!" guys are to be avoided like the plague. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 01:27 PM |
| 58 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.A guy I once casually saw for a couple months started going around telling people I was his girlfriend. That was news to me, lmao. We hadn't had PIV sex (because of his porn induced erectile dysfunction at 23 years of age) and the couple of times we went out on a "date" I paid 50% (actually one time we went to the movies and I bought both our tickets 🤡). He also had the audacity to become demanding of my time, saying he thought it was ridiculous that we lived so nearby to each other but he rarel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 02:00 PM |
| 48 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.Men will orbit women as "friends" indefinitely in case sex eventually happens. That's it. That's how the mind of a LVM works. And if not sex, other social perks. It looks good to have friends, LVM will use their "girl friends" to make other women jealous (they love to triangulate), and since women tend to be more kind, generous, empathetic, etc. than men we're a resource they'll happily use to fulfill whatever needs they have (like free therapy). Just the other day I had a coworker's boyfriend t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:51 PM |
| 91 | This trended on r / starter packs with a lot of men gaslighting women’s experiences in the comments 🤦♀️A guy who wants to get to know me will approach me respectfully in person like an adult instead of sending a cheap “hey…”. 💯💯💯 So many women don't realize that the first approach is such a great vetting opportunity. I hear a lot of complaints from women about how hard it is to meet men irl, how they never get approached. That's a good thing. LVM are automatically filtering themselves out. If a man can't muster the courage to speak to you in person, he's not it. Those same guys who send the cheap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:38 PM |
| 23 | This is what we mean when we say don't go 50/50. You'll be doing 100% of the childrearing while he's at work and he will expect you to give up your savings as well.I know ONE. My grandmother remarried in her 40s to a widower (whose wife had passed years previous, so not one of those awful situations where a man gets remarried within months). He's a singularly decent human being and I've never met another man quite like him. He's kind, courteous, courageous, generous, etc. He's the type of person who does good deeds left and right but you'll never hear it from him, because he doesn't do it for recognition but because it's the right thing to do. When they me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:28 PM |
| 28 | How to not get anxious before dates?I'd get super anxious before dates and I realized it's because I have a lot of insecurities. Dates are a lot like job interviews and I realized that, were I to go on a date with a man of actual quality, I would be unqualified. We all want a HVM but we have to ask ourselves, "Am I a HVW?" I realized I'm not. Not yet, anyway. So I'm not dating while I focus on leveling up. I went back to school because I was always insecure about only having an associate's. After I graduate I'm going to pursue my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:06 PM |
| 72 | An Ode to FDSReddit loves to misrepresent us as a bunch of mediocre women demanding rich husbands (which is hilarious because literally nowhere do we equate wealth with being HV and we caution about the risks in becoming involved with someone who makes significantly more than you) but in reality FDS is very much about focusing on oneself and obtaining one's own happiness, health, and financial independence. From a dating perspective the first step in finding a high value man is to become a high value woman, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 04:36 PM |
| 100 | Man wants to bring his young daughter on a first dateI have a nephew who grew up with a revolving door of his mom's boyfriends, many of whom he was encouraged to call dad and form a father-son bond with only for them to leave within a year or two. It left him with all sorts of attachment issues. Scrote dads and PickMe moms inflict so much damage on their kids with this shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 03:58 PM |
| 71 | Average "Dating" Time Before Engagement in the Early 1900s: Two WeeksYuuup, you're entirely right. His behavior with the girlfriend was completely LV. If he hadn't seen his now wife at that show, I wonder if he'd have ever grown the balls to break things off with the girlfriend or if he'd have caved to her PickMe ultimatum. He's not an example of a HVM, just an example of how when men actually want to get married to a woman they usually know it pretty early on and their behavior and actions will reflect it. Women need to be aware that LVM can also be marriage min… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 04:26 PM |
| 115 | Weaponised incompetence is a manipulation tactic. It is not a cute “quirk” that men do and it’s also not funny to actively KNOW that they do this and defend it. Pick me’s are just so delusional.This is what I'd expect from a literal child who lacks the strength, reach, and dexterity to properly make a bed, who's still mastering their ability to focus. I'd praise a child for doing this well considering their physical and mental limitations. But a grown ablebodied man? Miss me with that utter bullshit. Men act like this and then really wonder why their wives don't want to have sex with them anymore. They behave like inept children by day then post on deadbedrooms by night pondering why t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:39 PM |
| 101 | Relation between abuse and surgery, beauty practices aren’t discussedAnd even if nothing she got done was corrective, how is it not considered violence that we live in a racist society that shits on Black features to such an extent that GORGEROUS Black women struggle with such bad image issues that they turn to shit like skin lightening and nose jobs? The misogynoir in this country is off the fucking charts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:31 PM |
| 161 | Average "Dating" Time Before Engagement in the Early 1900s: Two WeeksStephen Colbert is a very illuminating example, as well. He'd been dating a woman who gave him an ultimatum that they get married or break up. He didn't know if he was "ready" (aka, he lacked the emotional maturity to be honest with both himself and his girlfriend). While deliberating, he went to see a show with his mother and spotted a woman there and described it as love at first sight (not really though, they'd known each other as children and their families move in the same circles). That wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:24 PM |
| 188 | Some of the creatures lurking on online dating sitesI think this is one of my favorite things about patriarchy. No matter how low value the man, almost all of them feel entitled to a woman. They really feel like they deserve a relationship when even casually knowing them would be burden to anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:09 PM |
| 142 | Even OTHER men can sense LVM/NVM/ZVM’s red flags with women at the beginning of a relationship, such as “being too busy.”Because they want the benefit of the doubt to be extended to them, when/if the need arises. Eventually most men will find themselves in a situation where they're dating or even in a relationship with a woman they don't actually see a future with (or if they do see a future it's just to use her, not have an equitable partnership with her) and they want to be able to put in the bare minimum while reaping girlfriend benefits without her immediately recognizing that his failure to do something as fu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 01:48 PM |
| 40 | Have you found that men on OLD lie about wanting/looking for a relationship just to get laid?Has she encountered any men who turn down the doppelgänger, citing that they're looking for a relationship and not just hookups? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:34 PM |
| 77 | Have you found that men on OLD lie about wanting/looking for a relationship just to get laid?he said he needs to vet for sexual compatibility or he won't date me LMAO. I love when men say this, as if they don't get to bust a nut 99.99% of the time while virtually every woman who has the displeasure of sleeping with them is left unsatisfied. Men are out here fucking farm animals and fruits but still act like they have to carefully vet for sexual compatibility. They might as well say, "I want to know asap if you'll let me abuse you in bed and give me a porn star performance, including act… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:31 PM |
| 504 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceI always thought his weirdly close relationship with Zoë was inappropriate. He's closer in age to Zoë (9 years) than Lisa (12 years) and this info about the matching tattoos and him drinking with her and her friends while she was in high school (the first time they met, to boot) gives me the ick. He never behaved like a father figure towards her. You just know he was one of those "cool" creepy stepdads who'd do stuff like talk about his favorite sex positions with his stepdaughter because they'r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:09 PM |
| 47 | Bodyshaming and -negging: It has nothing to do with what you look like, but you NEED to leave at the first sign of it.When I first got with my abusive ex I weighed 160 pounds (at 5'9). Over the course of our short 7 month relationship I dipped down to 145. He had a way of making me feel so repulsive, I couldn't eat around him. He wasn't even as bad as some men I've heard about (when it came to the body shaming) but the comments he made dug so deep into my psyche, I'm still struggling with image issues. And it really will be any random scrote who pulls this shit. I have a coworker who likes to make jokes about h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 08:18 PM |
| 183 | Men wonder why they aren't able to be included in our discussionsOn a certain sub focusing on asking women questions I shared about the abusive relationship I'd been in and referred to my ex as a sociopath. He meets every DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for antisocial personality disorder. Asshole even did shit like kill pets. My comment was removed by a mod whose username identified them as a man for armchair diagnosing/contributing to the stigma of mental illness, lmao. The fact that so many of these subs are modded by men is astounding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:48 PM |
| 46 | Men wonder why they aren't able to be included in our discussionsPeople who are baffled should think about it like this: women in patriarchies are preyed upon by men, much like how prey species are targeted by wolves. We're in search of a guardian dog. How is it in our best interest to invite the opinion of any random dog, fox, coyote, or wolf when it is in THEIR best interest to lie to us, lower our standards, and lead us astray? We'll pass. We've come up with a formula to identify guardian dogs that will protect us rather than consume us and we have no inte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 06:42 PM |
| 136 | Although painful at first, this perspective will save you so much grief in the long run. A man who is sincere about you will not play mind games. If commitment is not spoken AND shown, it’s overAnd it gets so much easier to do with practice! When I first decided to start taking mixed signals as a no I'd still get in my head about it. What if he just needed encouragement? What if he's just insecure or timid? What if he's legitimately just really busy with work or overwhelmed by school, family obligations, etc.? But now I just shrug and move on with my life and stop spending mental energy on them. The why behind their mixed signals doesn't matter because the outcome is still the same. Yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 02:11 PM |
| 50 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flagI come from a broken, unhealthy home and I wouldn't begrudge any potential match taking pause over it. The trauma you experience during childhood scars deep. Most people don't heal from it. I have so many lingering issues that I still haven't worked through, it's part of the reason I'm not dating. But the thing about men is that they're generally less introspective, they're more in denial, less likely to seek therapy, and more likely to continue seeking partnership despite the mire that is their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:12 AM |
| 41 | I sure as hell enjoyed every minute roasting this scrote. Based on his response, he 100% deserved having his ass left 🤣You know that old adage about how men are supposedly so logical and are such problem solvers that they have a hard time letting their girlfriends/wives vent to them about their problems without suggesting all the ways they could theoretically handle/fix things? It's hilarious when you turn the tables and try to give men advice. They HATE it. I had one ex go on a rant about how he was going to behave super disrespectfully towards his boss which would clearly have jeopardized his job, as he was al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 05:53 AM |
| 14 | Forced Female Bonding Over Kids Though ChildfreeI like kids I have actual relationships with (like my nephews) and would love to have kids someday but I don't give a single solitary shit about random people's offspring. I know so much about the children of various coworkers who I've never even met, because they won't for the LOVE OF GOD stop talking about them. And they often don't even realize that their stories sometimes reflect very, very poorly on them. Like, why are you volunteering to me that you're a shitty parent? I've since long reso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:47 PM |
| 125 | I feel like I can't trust men99% of the time there will be signs that a man is LV. Only a small percentage of men are full on psychopaths who can completely mask for a year+. Remember that people's stories are always at least a little biased. Do you think the woman who was dumped after several years of helping her boyfriend level up is going to be entirely honest about the warning signs she saw early on, or is she going to construct the narrative that everything was perfect and that she was blindsided? Admitting that there … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:53 PM |
| 238 | There are only double standards (vent)Don't forget: E. Men are selfish, inept lovers. Cheating is far less appealing for women because we know we'll probably be left sexually unsatisfied, so what's the point? All we'd get is the thrill of a romantic dalliance and maybe some sort of emotional connection (another arena in which men are known disappointments). As an aside, I love how the orgasm gap continues to be blamed on women and our supposedly tricky physiology when research has shown that women who have sex with women orgasm way … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 06:25 PM |
| 11 | I'm scream-laughing at this and thought you might enjoy it too...I recently canceled a date because while talking in the days leading up to it he randomly hit me with THE cringist leading question, obviously trying to turn the conversation sexual. Up until then he'd been respectful and we'd been having really engaging, effortless conversations. I wish I could share what he said here but I naturally roasted him to my friends and it was such a weird question that it could be identifying. Everyone I've told has been just as bewildered as me. Like, a scrote tryin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 07:52 AM |
| 68 | Want To Meet Decent Men Online? Write a Bitchy ProfileEdit: it also goes against what Lilith, Savannah and Reaux said on the pod, that you shouldn't give a roadmap to men i.e. by telling them 'no hookups'. YUP. Women need to disavow themselves of the notion that men date in good faith like we do. When you write a profile like this, all you're doing is giving men a detailed guide on how to manipulate you. Does it "thin the herd" by making stupid, low effort men immediately pass? Sure. But a disturbing number of intelligent, high effort men are strai… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 10:14 PM |
| 69 | Imagine trying to pick up women by negging about living in a van down by the river. Yikes!Does he have any idea how messy periods are without access to running water, a toilet or even regularly picked up trash? This is something so bizarre to me about men, how few of them ever think about periods. If men had a monthly ordeal like a period I suspect women would be very conscious and considerate about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 09:26 PM |
| 53 | Lvm telling on themselves: "sex work is a valid profession" and yet he would "never touch that sk@nk with a 10 ft pole"The fact that they think we're interchangeable is so very telling. And when you look at the statistics showing most women fake orgasms, their ridiculous xyz move was probably never working with anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:06 PM |
| 181 | Just found this and I am so shocked! Nobody can tell me that this isn’t some form of abuseI came across the concept of "pleasure doms" on TikTok, which is unsurprisingly the smallest subset of "doms". Men who make their partner's pleasure the primary focus of sex is rare and extreme enough to be considered a kink, yet this is how women are expected to approach sex in regards to their male partners by default. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:00 PM |
| 86 | Lvm telling on themselves: "sex work is a valid profession" and yet he would "never touch that sk@nk with a 10 ft pole"Some men try to circumvent this obvious hypocrisy by acting like it's their duty to gain a lot of sexual experience so they'll be able to satisfy their virgin/low count wife someday, yet no matter how many sexual partners they've had men continue to be infamously inept and selfish in bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 09:37 PM |
| 139 | Lvm telling on themselves: "sex work is a valid profession" and yet he would "never touch that sk@nk with a 10 ft pole"I had a coworker in his 40s who I'd have a lot of interesting conversations with. I asked him once what he'd do if he woke up the next day and found himself in a female body. His immediate response was to say that all of his friends would be getting laid. Homoerotic undertones aside, it was so absurd that he thought he could have indiscriminate sex as a woman like that without any social repercussions. I told him as much, saying that if it became known that he was "easy" that people would treat … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 09:33 PM |
| 182 | Is FDS a new take on dating or just the pendulum swinging back?As women accrued more rights and financial independence, men benefitted from this "masculinization". More and more we started dating and having indiscriminate sex like men and entering into "50/50" relationships where we accepted the responsibility of helping earn income for the household. But men didn't meet us in the middle. They don't actually go 50/50. Studies have shown that women are still doing the lion's share of housework and childrearing tasks, even when they work outside the home and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 08:56 PM |
| 17 | Do you think most of us were very naive when we were younger?I was incredibly naive. I grew up a weird combination of sheltered, uninformed, and neglected/abused. It was the perfect combination to create someone prime to victimization. Being homeschooled in a weird fundie enclave shielded me from a lot of the horrors of the world while my parents failed to teach me important lessons (like that you should love yourself, have standards, and be wary of men) and neglected and abused me themselves so I had abysmally low self esteem and a desperation to be want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:45 PM |
| 10 | Is this a red flag?I also hate it when people insist on helping clean, especially when they load my dishwasher. I know that every dishwasher is different and so they may not necessarily know the optimal way to load it, but shit like spoons crammed in head down, nested together such that they won't get cleaned, fragile wine glasses loaded in when they need to be hand washed, etc. Irks me to no end. And let's not forget the relative who seems to have zero concept of cross contamination, who'll use a rag to clean up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:22 PM |
| 22 | Is this a red flag?Unless this is the type of family where guests are forbidden from helping (in which case she would have turned down your offer to help clean) and where members don't typically bring anything to the host's place for casual family get-togethers, this is LVM behavior. I suspect that were their roles reversed and it was him hosting, his sister would probably have both brought something and helped clean up. How men treat their female relatives (and the other women in their lives) is very telling and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:11 PM |
| 20 | Information to withhold initiallyThis is not a bad idea. I have a friend who married a much older hispanic guy with really macho controlling tendencies. He’s very controlling and even tries to run off friends, keep them from visiting calling despite her being a grown ass woman of 40. He drives cab which is an ailing business and she had a little job earning 17k-22k yearly. She had a little office assistant job when they met and he immediately got her pregnant. And then made clear after about 3 months that she 100% needed to ret… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:06 PM |
| 95 | Just a friendly reminder that men will date and marry women they don’t like.I remember the first time my ex insulted my appearance like it was yesterday. Just picked him up from his mom's house because he didn't have a car (I'm fucking dying typing this out, lmao 🤡). I'd previously and infamously dated a guy for a couple months who was preposterously beneath my league in every way, including looks. My ex had the audacity to turn to me from my passenger seat, completely out of left field, and say, "You know how when people saw you with [Hideous Guy's Name] they were prob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 08:56 PM |
| 267 | Red pill favourite Jordan Peterson doesn’t agree with their views on women and dating…I love how much it enrages men when women choose to simply remove themselves from the equation. A lot of us have standards that the majority of men aren't meeting, which means we're effectively celibate and opting to sit on the sidelines rather than continue participating in a losing game, and they can't fucking handle it. The entitlement is astonishing. It's like when a little kid throws a fit when the playdate ends and their friend packs up the toys they brought to go home. It'd be cool if the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 04:05 AM |
| 33 | Red pill favourite Jordan Peterson doesn’t agree with their views on women and dating…Yeah, it's a huge false equivalence. If all things were equal, mistrust of men as a class wouldn't be justified. But things are not equal. Historical and cultural context matters. Virtually every society on Earth is a patriarchy and that alone gives women due cause. I wonder if he's the type of person who believes reverse racism is a thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 03:42 AM |
| 55 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”This is why FDS recommends ending things with men once they've revealed themselves to be LV, without giving them any specific information as to why you're ending it. If you tell him the reason it not only gives him a bargaining position ("I'll totally stop talking to my ex!") it clues him in to the fact that his behavior is a dealbreaker for HVW, so in the future he'll be more careful to conceal it or adjust it (keeping his exchanges with the ex a complete secret, for example). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 06:18 PM |
| 142 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”If a man is especially misogynistic, I would be willing to bet money his line of thinking is "Oh, women are so dramatic and they feel like they're accomplishing something when we talk about things. Having talks with her is enough to make her feel like we are in a good place. I don't actually need to do any work." I don't think this is even just relegated to the especially misogynistic men, this is standard male practice. Every man I know has done this to the women in his life, starting with his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:43 PM |
| 171 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”The thing I abhor most about the JuSt CoMmUnIcAtE "advice" is that it keeps women in abusive relationships. The very first moment you notice abusive behavior you need to run, not stay and talk. There was a post on a sex or relationship sub the other day where a young woman detailed how her boyfriend had been "talking dirty" during sex. Telling her that her father didn’t love her (but that he’d make it better or something like that), that he was going to fuck a baby into her (🤮), that he’d seen a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:58 PM |
| 120 | Have you ever noticed that older women NEVER manipulate younger guys for personal gain? While men do it daily...I had a fling with a younger guy (22 or 23) and I ended it precisely because I could tell how naive and immature he was. I could read him like an open book, notably what he was insecure about. He was nervous around me, eager to seem older and to impress me. I realized how easy it'd be to manipulate him. And it wasn't so much that I found myself tempted to manipulate him but that I was hit with the gravity of how easy it would be to unintentionally damage him while he was still in such a pupa-lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 03:02 AM |
| 100 | Former supermodel Paulina Porizkova talks about life as an older woman.I had a 10 years older "FWB" (in reality he was no friend to me) whose idea of pillow talk after sex was going into detail about how gross he found things like sun spots. He said he found most women his own age repulsive and he wasn't even 40 yet. I was peak PickMe and even then I was side eying the fuck out of him. He was telling on himself, that even if he found the "perfect" woman 20 years younger than him, as soon as she had the audacity to start aging he'd be repulsed by her. Imagining an 8… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 02:38 AM |
| 21 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?I don't drink or do any drugs and I find that people often make the assumption that it must be because I'm a recovering addict and a lot of people won't touch addicts, even years sober ones, with a 10 foot pole. I've never struggled with substance abuse, I've just been sexually assaulted while drunk/high and vulnerable so many times that it's finally made being intoxicated highly triggering for me. Even the thought of being a little tipsy is revolting to me. And maybe it isn't necessarily becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 01:34 PM |
| 117 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?Hatred of cats is actually a huge red flag and a really useful vetting tool! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 10:30 PM |
| 84 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?I once embarrassingly had a crush on one of these guys. He'd post his hauls and random limited edition Juul crap on social media with captions about how he'd blown his whole paycheck, like he really thought it was something to brag about. After throwing myself at him for a month he finally asked me out on a date with an unspecific day and time and told me he'd get back to me and never did. My PickMe self was so bummed, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 10:28 PM |
| 197 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?He would intensely stare at people in public. Not like an occasional glance or harmless people watching at the park, full on weird prolonged staring. People in close proximity, too. In line at the grocery store, waiting for a McDonald's order, sitting in a restaurant. I'm surprised no one ever called him out on it but he had an intimidating/hostile air about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 10:22 PM |
| 121 | Be Wary Of Male DoctorsAnd even when they ask before bringing the student in, it's incredibly unfair to put women on the spot and pressure them like that. A lot of women have trouble standing up for themselves and easily get steamrolled. They don't want to be seen as difficult, sensitive, hysterical, etc. And if you say no there's this subtle implication that you're standing in the way of this person's medical education, making you unreasonable. Why isn't this question on the paperwork you fill out as a new patient? I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:28 AM |
| 83 | Be Wary Of Male DoctorsI got an IUD a month after a medical abortion. The woman doctor who gave me the medication was fine. The woman doctor I saw at my follow-up appointment was great. And then there was the male doctor who inserted my IUD. He made a shitty comment, obviously having read my medical history and seeing that I'd gotten an abortion. Something like, "Now that you know you're fertile, you know you need to be on birth control." I was in an abusive relationship. My boyfriend had been raping and reproductivel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:21 AM |
| 50 | “Promising Young Woman”Also there were women involved that were depicted as misogynist and complicit on what happened. The involvement of complicit women in this film was such a good element, something that I think would've been skimmed over or omitted had this movie been written, produced, or directed by a man because they haven't lived it and don't understand the significance. I think most women are accepting of the reality that men can't be trusted as a group, even if subconsciously, but many of us still make the m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:20 PM |
| 97 | Congrats scrotes! Your screeching into the void and constant harrassment of FDS and its members has continued to propel us to the front page!The toxicity they cite is very often hyperbole. I once saw them take a comment in which a woman had very tongue-in-cheek opined that men shouldn't be allowed to vote and framed it as misandry, lmao. They're also super sensitive about us calling them LVM and scrotes, saying it's derogatory, yet all over the internet (and irl) women are called b*tches and c*nts without anyone objecting to it. I've seen posts where we were being criticized for our "hateful language" in which they called us b*tches … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:27 AM |
| 13 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑You claim to support sex work but "I could never be a stripper haha" yeah 'cause you know it's degrading and you wouldn't handle it in the long run. It's akin to those women who're like, "I'm pro-choice but I could never get an abortion." Failing to realize that the only reason they feel the need to tack that on the end is because they secretly judge women who get abortions. They're secretly judging sex workers, too, but just like with abortion they want the public appearance of being a good fem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:23 AM |
| 18 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑lmao, is financially supporting some random woman on the internet who strips on cam for him but his worst nightmare is supposedly finding out that the woman who made vows to him, gave him children (who she then primarily raised alone), keeps house for him, plays personal therapist to him, schedules all his doctor's appointments for him, etc. is "just using him for his money", necessitating that she work full time outside the house and go 50/50 on all the bills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:09 AM |
| 28 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑A ton of LVM are actually perfectly happy to exploit and benefit off of their girlfriends doing sex work. And enough men have bad enough relationships with their sisters and mothers that they wouldn't care. It's the daughters that get them. Ask a "sex work supporting" man if he'd be okay with his own daughter becoming a prostitute and watch him balk. Even some LVM genuinely love their daughters and want the best for them and the ones that don't view their daughters as extensions/reflections of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 05:59 AM |
| 52 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑This is public too! That's precisely why she was so easily pressured into flipping. These days, you can't publicly be against prostitution and your boyfriend paying for the services of sex workers without being dogpiled. If you find it concerning that your boyfriend pays for OnlyFans and 3 alternative sites you're controlling, sex negative, slut shaming, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 05:50 AM |
| 19 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑This shit is so intellectually dishonest. What next? They'll be telling a woman who discovered her boyfriend is doing heroin, crack, and meth that he just supports local business and tax evasion (stick it to the man!). And if any of his dealers are PoC he gets extra bonus points for supporting PoC entrepreneurship. Liberal feminists really can't spot a wolf in sheep's clothing. Men, capitalism, and conservativism have been twisting feminist ideals and using the façade of feminism to make their g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 05:44 AM |
| 148 | I broke up with my boyfriend because he uses p0rnThey really will, lmao. They usually won't be truthful about the actual genres they watch and tell you something generic and "harmless", though. Very few men will admit irl that they watch hidden camera shit that was posted as revenge porn, racial fetish porn, "consensual nonconsent" porn, porn featuring actresses who appear disturbingly young, porn simulating incest, hentai, etc. And a LOT of men are watching the especially gross shit because porn has diminishing returns so men eventually start… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 11:22 PM |
| 89 | I can’t believe what I just found on Facebook! Most of the comments seem to agree with her. 🤡🤮I was primed for having no boundaries and getting into an abusive relationship by my fundie Christian upbringing. My parents and the environment I was raised in were so fucked. When women lack self value, 99% of the time it's an easy trace back to shitty parenting. Our parents really set us up for failure and misery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:49 PM |
| 15 | I can’t believe what I just found on Facebook! Most of the comments seem to agree with her. 🤡🤮When I was still in the clutches of a trauma bond after leaving my abusive ex, I would fantasize about taking him back and continuing to let him use and abuse me. My opinion of myself was so low, I was so lonely, and I missed him so much. It was insanity. The main thing that stopped me was reading on FDS about how LVM will often abandon their ride or die women after using them to level up their lives. I'd seen that play out in real life with women I know and I recognized my ex as the type of scr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:45 PM |
| 204 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.I also like to remember that LVM drop women with a quickness when they don’t get what they want (usually sex). Eugh, I read a post the other day on a certain dating sub wherein the guy was asking if he should stop seeing a woman because she hadn't put out yet when they'd already gone on a whole 6 dates (🙄). He tried to make it seem like it was an issue of sexual compatibility, with him assuming that if she could go 6 dates without wanting to jump his bones then it must mean she has low libido. B… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:20 PM |
| 91 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Dating is a numbers game. There’s a lot of men out there, but only a few are high value AND compatible with you. And this is why it's so important to decentralize men and relationships from your life in terms of fulfillment and happiness. Most of us here would love to find a HVM and have a great partnership with them but the reality is that our culture ruins the vast majority of men. Every woman on FDS should make peace with the possibility that she may never find one who's compatible with her. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:13 PM |
| 46 | Ladies: Don't be afraid to LIE. Nobody is entitled to any information about you, EVER.Only control freaks and abusers get all angry and indignant when you fail to show your entire underbelly. ☝☝☝ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:06 AM |
| 32 | Ladies: Don't be afraid to LIE. Nobody is entitled to any information about you, EVER.While I thought for example, discussing food issues might make him feel closer to me (lol smh), it was in fact a control tactic as he soon made incessant comments about my weight to feel mentally unstable and insecure. HOLY SHIT, it's like these assholes work from the same manual. I confided in my ex that I struggled with disordered eating (periods of heavy calorie restriction, sometimes not eating for entire days). He went on to do shit like say I'd squish him like a bug if I sat on his lap. I'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:02 AM |
| 1 | FDS and The Animal Kingdom ....Pregnancy is just one main reason why women should never go 50/50 but there are many more. Even if you never want to have children, the onus of birth control is often placed on women (with us the ones suffering the side effects) and we're the ones who have to deal with any unwanted pregnancies (incurring the possible trauma of an abortion or placing a child up for adoption). Due to the structure of our physiology, we're more at risk of contracting STIs than men. Economically, women are still bei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 12:24 AM |
| 256 | I am so glad I was banned from this sub-reddit so I don’t have to see clownery like this anymore!She thinks she’s manipulating him by…what, exactly? By having the slightest hint of a whisper of a boundary, lol. Women are terrified of having boundaries lest they be accused of manipulative emotional abuse. Meanwhile we're not allowed to accuse men of being manipulative and gross when they do shit like lust after Instagram models while being in a relationship. Softcore pornography includes lingerie modeling and "emphasis on the sensual appreciation of the female or male form" and a lot of Inst… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 11:49 PM |
| 76 | Made a 3 min tiktok about how dangerous life is for women, and pointing out actual male privileges. I pointed out that even if men actually experience more violent crimes, those crimes are pulled off by... MEN.Men really have the audacity to ejaculate inside women indiscriminately and then cry, "She baby trapped me!" When one of them gets pregnant and chooses to keep it. If I was a man, knowing full well that I have zero say in whether or not an unintended pregnancy is carried to term, I would not have casual sex. If I didn't want children at all I'd get sterilized (a reproductive right not commonly denied men but is routinely denied women). This is such a wild concept to most men. They think it's abs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:31 AM |
| 20 | Blocking is therapeutic.Or do you secretly get validation and pleasure in knowing that he is actively seeking your attention and/or forgiveness by bombarding you with texts? This is my weakness. I would love to think that my abusive ex was left just as destroyed as I was, that he's anguishing and beating himself up, but he's not. Him continuing to reach out a year later despite me going complete no-contact and never responding is a textbook narcissistic response to being the one discarded. They're so arrogant and pride… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:48 AM |
| 23 | I seriously question when men on Reddit say they've been in an abusive relationship with a womanIt's analogous to white people who claim to have experienced racism. It comes from a place of deep ignorance, privilege, intellectual dishonesty and, in some cases, it's an intentional manipulation tactic employed by men who're abusers. The vast majority of men will NEVER know what it's like to be in a relationship with someone who can easily outpower you and most of them can't wrap their minds around how that power differential implicitly informs how you interact with someone you're in an intim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:19 AM |
| 314 | Every one of my exes, though.When I finally broke up with my ex successfully for the final time he got pissed and threatened to violate me. I went complete no contact and had my brother drive me to his mom's house (where he'd lived before worming his way in with me) so I could drop off everything he'd left at my place. I didn't want him having a single excuse to show up and I never wanted to see him again. My brother walked the stuff up and left it on the stoop. It lightly drizzled a few hours later and my ex EMAILED me say… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:29 AM |
| 75 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"And therapy is actively harmful when an abuser is involved, and far more men are abusive than society is willing to admit. They go to therapy and pick up on terms and concepts they can use to further abuse and gaslight. I had a friend whose abusive boyfriend suggested couples therapy and then proceeded to win over the therapist and they both teamed up in blaming her for everything. He was so abusive that he almost strangled her to death several times and then would rape her afterwards. Imagine g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:57 PM |
| 74 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"☝☝☝ At those ages that's a huge developmental gap. We know now that the human brain isn't fully matured until around 25. Before then, we lack judgement and an appreciation of long term consequences. People need to stop getting married (or otherwise financially entwining themselves with another person) before 25 and it should set off alarms for people when someone over 25 enters into a relationship with someone under 25. 25 should be the new 18/21 tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:45 PM |
| 62 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"You're right, the good ol' "cOmMuNiCaTe". I saw one person suggest couples therapy as well. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:39 PM |
| 124 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"I was pleasantly surprised to see that pretty much everyone was commenting on how Not Right this marriage is and that his behavior is sus. But also a lot of people asking why finances weren't discussed before marriage... 8 years ago when she was 22 and he was 27. Not a lot of recognition that she was a naïve (very) young woman when they got married and that there's probably financial abuse occurring here. Someone mentioned her past post history where she revealed that she does everything around … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:31 PM |
| 61 | 44 years old with mommy issues🤡 the jokes write themselves atpI used to consider myself a natural nurturer. It's hard to say though if it actually came to me naturally or was rather a consequence of socialization (being raised fundie Christian, it's impressed upon girls that being nurturing is one of our main feminine attributes). Either way, I did legitimately get a lot of fulfillment out of taking care of pets, my younger brother, babies and children, and then eventually the men I dated. But despite what even pop culture was telling me (that men love to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 10:05 PM |
| 61 | How to Prepare to LeaveTrauma bonds are what keep women returning to shitty relationships. We're told over and over again that it's good to have closure when you end a relationship, to be the bigger person and try to be friends, etc. But women MUST disavow themselves of these bullshit notions. Ask yourself who they benefit, because it's certainly not women. Breaking up with your shitty boyfriend in person because society tells us it's rude to do it over text only gives him the opportunity to manipulate you. Extending … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 09:43 PM |
| 213 | "My well off husband is "guarded with money" because of pAsT eXpErIeNcEs and sits by as I flounder. How do I convince him I'm not a gold digger and ask him to please help me so that I can stop crying myself to sleep?"But don't worry, he's not a bad guy because he... ensures the rent/mortgage and utilities are paid (presumably if she comes up short with her share) as opposed to making himself homeless or trying to function without electricity, lol. Please be aware ladies, a man keeping a roof over his own head and thus consequentially also keeping his wife sheltered is bare minimum shit. That alone does not a good man make. ⛳ he makes any financial conversations she tries to have with him "unproductive" so sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 09:23 PM |
| 113 | Naomi Osaka documentary: Hard to watch due to her LVM boyfriendSimone Biles' boyfriend had never heard about her before they met and started dating in 2020. She was an Olympic superstar at the 2016 games. He's an athlete too (plays for the NFL) yet he'd somehow never heard about her DOMINATING the Olympics and had also never heard about (or cared to read up on) the USA Gymnastics sex abuse scandal?? So this dickhead clearly doesn't care about women's sports to have never heard about her (arguably the world's greatest gymnast) and doesn't give a shit about w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 10:03 PM |
| 28 | Reminder 👑Trust your instincts!My ex had raped me several times but prided himself on having managed to not hit me. Like, he really didn't think forcing his penis into me was physical violence. Most men are FUCKED UP intellectually and emotionally. This is also why you'll encounter so many men who claim to have been the victims in abusive relationships. Their conceptualization of what constitutes abuse is warped, they can't fathom what it's actually like being a woman abused by her intimate male partner. They can't comprehend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:23 PM |
| 63 | Women are conditioned to think that their unhappiness in relationships is normal"Bc every once in a while he does smth to make ur heart flutter so u ignore the fact that the majority of ur relationship is u constantly bein underwhelmed and under appreciated..." Damn, that hurt. The sad truth is that a lot of women were never made to feel special, loved, or appreciated by anybody in their lives so all it takes is one scrote occasionally making our hearts flutter to hook us like fish. If this applies to you, you need to take brutally honest stock of your life and the way your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:04 PM |
| 17 | Article about 3 women in their 40s who are unmarried. One HVW shares her basic standardsIf men are mad you're doing it right! I want this on a tshirt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 09:32 PM |
| 56 | Article about 3 women in their 40s who are unmarried. One HVW shares her basic standardsIt's actually pretty sad. Men are socialized in such a way that they're prevented from ever being able to experience what it's like to have a deep spiritual connection with your life partner, because first they'd have to actually conceptualize their life partner as a fully realized person. They'll intertwine their life with a woman they don't even like on a fundamental level as a person because all they cared about was how attractive she was and maybe how easy she was to live with. That's why th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 09:30 PM |
| 29 | Article about 3 women in their 40s who are unmarried. One HVW shares her basic standardsGoes to show that scrotes don’t value your job or hobbies. Just your 18 year old body and malleable personality. ☝☝☝☝☝ The majority of LVM will say no if you ask them whether they'd be friends with their girlfriend/wife were she a man. They don't care about your personality or your interests. They don't like you as a person, they like you as a source of sex, free labor (including emotional), and sometimes financial security. Patriarchal culture dehumanizes women. We're made into commodities and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 09:23 PM |
| 46 | NOT ALL MEN DESERVE THEIR GENES BEING PASSED ON TO THE NEXT GENERATION - ladies please be careful with who you decide to have kids withThat picture looks photoshopped but this is a very real issue, scrotes growing bitter that their girlfriend's/wife's body changed after carrying and giving birth to THEIR child. This is one of many reasons why I'm no longer attempting to conform to modern beauty standards. I'm hoping it'll help automatically filter out the type of man who thinks it's acceptable to expect a woman's body to "bounce back" and look like Emily Ratajkowski's three months after giving birth. These men grew up overexpos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 08:18 PM |
| 229 | Legit fucking terrifying that men like this exist.Did ANYONE in the comments explain to him that it's going to take a lot more than 40 days to rewire his brain? Or did they collectively fall all over themselves telling him there's nothing wrong with porn and "fantasies"? 17 years old. This boy is a CHILD. Porn is ruining entire generations. This makes me so scared and so sad for the future. I have 3 young nephews who're probably going to have unfettered access to the internet as they get older. They've already seen some disturbing stuff on YouT… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 07:47 PM |
| 154 | Once that honeymoon phase wonders off, she will (hopefully) see things differently.Notice she doesn't mention getting a single orgasm. Two hours of orgasmless oral. What a treat. Also, a man not wanting to do age/rape roleplay (🤮) doesn't mean SHIT. It just means that's not what he's into. When I was a kinkmeisha I had a guy lose his erection in the middle of sex because I put his hand on my throat. He had zero interest in doing anything remotely like that, it turned him off. His actual kink was non-consensual condom removal. Women need to stop assuming that just because a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 01:13 AM |
| 13 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyGod, one time my ex got so drunk that he could barely stand. Watching him stumble around like an elderly person who's had their cane snatched away was revolting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 09:50 PM |
| 70 | This!So many women get roped into relationships with manbabies because many of us have a maternal side, a desire to nurture and see growth under our care. Manbabies tap into that and take advantage. But the thing is, they never grow up. You're not going to see an asshole with Peter Pan syndrome grow over time into a capable adult and equal partner. So then not only are you left without a real life partner, you're left deeply unsatisfied because this being you've been tenderly caring for like a child … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 09:45 PM |
| 44 | They settle down when they get old. #geriatricMy dad didn't start having kids til he was in his 40s (turned 50 the year his youngest was born). Our lives have been such clusterfucks filled with abuse and neglect that it's hard to determine the root of our various issues but his geriatric genetic contribution certainly wasn't doing us any favors. I'm kind of glad that he's such a NVM that I've cut him off, otherwise it would be heartbreaking seeing him get old and decrepit. Motherfucker is old enough to be my grandfather and it's highly unli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 10:22 PM |
| 67 | Why the silver bullet “Parental Alienation” is a lie created by pedophiles to protect pedophiles. Remember ladies, these males walk among us. Be very wary of single dads. This poor mother and children.Kelly Rutherford's story shines a huge spotlight on why women should never involve themselves with men who they will be at the financial mercy of. Her ex is unbelievably wealthy, a financial shark, and was able to hire the expert on international family law. She didn't stand a chance. FDS gets misconstrued as encouraging gold digging but we would NEVER tell women they should get involved with uber wealthy men like this. The power imbalance will ruin your life if he proves to be LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 09:35 PM |
| 151 | Why the silver bullet “Parental Alienation” is a lie created by pedophiles to protect pedophiles. Remember ladies, these males walk among us. Be very wary of single dads. This poor mother and children.Pedophilic men are INCREDIBLY common. Law enforcement sometimes busts these online pedophile rings that'll have thousands upon thousands of members. Statistically, only a small percentage of criminals are ever caught. One of my criminal justice professors straight up said it's the dumb ones. The biggest bust was something like 70,000 members involved in just one online ring. How many more online rings are there that're clever enough to not get caught? How many rings offline that never get caught… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 09:06 PM |
| 100 | Why the silver bullet “Parental Alienation” is a lie created by pedophiles to protect pedophiles. Remember ladies, these males walk among us. Be very wary of single dads. This poor mother and children.This is one of the major reasons why I got an abortion. My ex had been a gangbanger and a drug dealer with a criminal record outlining his penchant for violence. He'd done jail time, claimed to have murdered two people (one in a stabbing and another in a drive-by, neither of which were ever connected to him), had killed animals, and told me he'd beat all his past girlfriends. He raped me, reproductively coerced me, emotionally tormented me, and threatened to kill me if I ever got an abortion. Ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 08:37 PM |
| 62 | Nearly spit out my coffee reading this 😂🙋♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 02:48 PM |
| 112 | Trust He SucksIt's genuinely disturbing reading the relationship "quandaries" on mainstream Reddit. 95% of the time the only rational answer is "dump him" but over and over and OVER again men will flock to the defense of shitty men, suggesting literally every possible excuse and explanation when the probable answer is far simpler and MUCH more likely: he's a terrible person. For priding themselves on how intellectual they are, they all seem to collectively throw Occam's razor out the window the moment they're… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 01:06 AM |
| 398 | Trust He SucksHanlon's razor (never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity) should always be accompanied by Grey's law (any sufficiently advanced incompetence/cluelessness is indistinguishable from malice). People (primarily women, lbr), are encouraged and pushed to try to get into the minds of the people who've wronged them. We're expected to exert every ounce of empathy we have, trying to piece together why they did what they did, what they were thinking, what their motivations … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 12:48 AM |
| 4 | "Abusive men come in every personality type... No psychological test can distinguish an abusive man from a respectful one." - Lundy BancroftFDS pointed me towards this book and it may have quite literally saved my life. If not for it I would have certainly taken my abusive ex back, yet again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:48 AM |
| 19 | Most Women’s first sexual experiences with men are traumaticI struggle with body dysmorphia as well. It really is a ride. Rationally I know that I'm in the best shape of my life and I've noted the signs that I experience pretty privilege but when I look in the mirror I can't possibly be seeing what everyone else sees. My perception is so warped. But I don't think we were born like this, we were taught to be like this. And I have faith that we can unlearn it and rewire our brains. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:43 AM |
| 42 | Most Women’s first sexual experiences with men are traumaticWhen I was a young teen I remember one of my friends telling me that her boyfriend had pressured her to let him put in "just the tip". Predictably, he didn't stop at just the tip. I remember being deeply unsettled. She didn't seem okay, either, but she was downplaying it. Neither of us had the knowledge to correctly identify it for what it was, which was rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:33 AM |
| 47 | Most Women’s first sexual experiences with men are traumaticI'm fairly certain I was molested when I was a child. My memory blacks out but if a child were to come to me and relay what I remember I'd immediately call the police. A man led me away to a secluded location under false pretenses (supposedly to spank me for misbehaving and he wanted to spare me the embarrassment of anyone seeing/hearing) and another man was waiting there. Everyone I've told this to irl agrees that it's a pretty safe assumption I was molested. Then my first sexual encounter as a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:26 AM |
| 68 | This is super sad — but scrotes say it’s just a “preference” right? Porn does sick things to the brainBody types should not be trends. ☝☝☝ This is why I find it so laughable when people act like the power of socialization isn't HUGE. You can socialize entire generations to be physically attracted to Renaissance chub, heroin chic, Brazilian butt lift exaggeration, etc. With a considerably small amount of effort (in order to sell razors) corporations were able to make men REPULSED by body hair on women. Some 300,000 years of Homo sapien existence in which 99.99% of men never once gave a fuck about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 02:28 AM |
| 42 | This is super sad — but scrotes say it’s just a “preference” right? Porn does sick things to the brainI always made a point of NEVER telling a guy I was seeing my preferences, even if they asked what my type is. Like, that's just so obviously and needlessly insensitive. And when you actually care about someone it doesn't matter if they don't check all your physical preferences. I love strong, muscular legs in a man (a rare quality since even the ones that work out tend to skip leg day) but I have never, NEVER, even hinted to a man that he had skinny legs. Why would I want to hurt his feelings or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 01:36 AM |
| 24 | This is super sad — but scrotes say it’s just a “preference” right? Porn does sick things to the brainMy ex was super abusive but somehow relegated himself to only "subtly" negging my body. He'd say shit about my ass like, "You already have a lil somethin' somethin', if you worked out..." But that was on top of shit like him insinuating I was fat (I was 150 pounds, 5'9") and reminding me that I'm not his ethnic preference. And the fucked up thing is that women are so conditioned to see the supposed merit or good intentions in these types of comments and to then internalize them that men don't ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 01:28 AM |
| 22 | Men who constantly accuse you of cheating are probably cheaters.My ex forbade me from hanging out alone with male friends (which I never did anyway, only in friend groups). Interestingly, his own homeboy wouldn't leave him alone with his younger sister (my ex would get his hair braided by her). Ex complained about it with some frequency because if he wanted to get his hair braided he couldn't just go over, he had to do it around his friend's schedule so he'd be home and my ex wouldn't be alone with the sister. Didn't matter that he was in a relationship, the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 12:35 AM |
| 199 | This is FDS Queen mood for life right here.They really have a hard time admitting that every single one of us could be married if we wanted to be. Yes, even us radical feminists. In fact, there's a subset of LVM that specifically enjoy "humbling" women like us. They get a kick out of seeing how many boundaries they can push, how low they can drag us down, just how many of our principles they can get us to sacrifice once they've manipulated our feelings of love. They themselves acknowledge that women have an "easier" time obtaining relati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 12:19 AM |
| 56 | Came accross this article about a scrote that can’t respect his wife if she becomes stay-at-home.He mentions that he was initially attracted to his wife because of her ambition, tenacity, and work ethic, making it obvious that he doesn't think being a SAHM involves any of those things. LVM don't view thoughtful, methodical childrearing as a worthy pursuit. They have no concept of what goes into raising a healthy and well adjusted child so they think it makes no difference whether a child is raised by an invested, committed parent or whether they're raised by a virtual stranger whose attenti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:47 AM |
| 310 | Are there men who don't look at porn?There're two main camps of men: those who watch porn and those who lie about watching porn. When scientists do studies on the impact of porn they're unable to put together control groups of men who don't watch porn because they basically don't exist. Even in supposedly devout communities like Mormons, they watch porn. Men who don't watch porn are exceedingly rare. Not all men who watch porn are addicted, though, as Dr. Gail Dines mentioned on the recent podcast. There are men who "only" watch po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:17 AM |
| 75 | "They're like brother and sister"They don't get to watch incest porn and then use the ol' "she's like my sister!" line to excuse their weirdly close relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 12:46 AM |
| 30 | Remember that a bad relationship can literally change the trajectory of your lifeNew Year's Eve 2019 I got involved with a man who would have destroyed my life. He was verbally and emotionally abusive (and I have no doubt he'd have escalated to hitting me eventually as he had with all his past girlfriends), raped me, reproductively coerced me, and got me pregnant. He'd wormed his way into living with me and had been taking advantage of me financially, not helping pay any bills. My tax refund and first covid stimulus went to him. He was such a monumental loser. High school dr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 12:32 AM |
| 201 | More leftist pussy policing & anti-reproductive choice rhetoric. Nice try Scrotes, but you can’t use Pride month to shame or bully women into sex with you. OUR VAGINAS, OUR CHOICE.Women have a higher biological risk for contracting STIs than men, with a higher probability of transmission from men to women than vice versa. Women also tend to get STI testing done more often than men (just one example: 48% of US women compared to 41.1% of US men aged 18-59 years reported having ever been tested outside of blood donations for HIV source). Men will straight up say they don't bother getting tested because if they do have something one of the women they've slept with will eventu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 05:38 AM |
| 21 | Any Behavior That Is Used To Manipulate Or Abuse, Is A Red Flag🚩Men cannot abuse every woman the same. It's similar, yes. But it's tailored to each woman differently. This is really enlightening. I'd noticed, looking back, that all the men I've been intimate with have found ways to criticize my appearance (usually via "teasing"). I have some amount of body dysmorphia, I've struggled with disordered eating for most of my life, and I have a really hard time accepting that I'm beautiful and that a man could be deeply attracted to me. I think these men were all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 05:07 AM |
| 465 | There is no obligation for you to stay with an unaffectionate man.If a man you're in a relationship with is neurotypical and not affectionate towards you, he doesn't actually like you. He's staying with you for convenience, for finances, for girlfriend/wife perks, for sex. The moment he has the opportunity to "trade up" (whatever that means for him) he will. And until then he'll take advantage of you and waste years of your life and possibly inflict trauma. It's a zero sum game with LVM and you're the one who's going to lose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 02:16 AM |
| 39 | Porn never taught me about passion and intimacyI'd started watching porn at a really young age and it fucked me up. Intimacy and sex became completely divorced in my mind before I ever even started having sex. I learned that my role during sex is to be as arousing to the senses for my male partner as possible and that his pleasure is paramount. I've almost never been able to just be in the moment, I've been so thoroughly programmed to be performative. And don't even get me started on the KinkMeisha shit. Someone shared an article on FDS not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:56 AM |
| 27 | TIL: The Left Hates Women Having Reproductive Choice with Their Whole Being. Their new tactic is to smear Sexual Selection as “TERF and Nazi propaganda” with doctored screenshots. Did You Know Not Having Sex With Men You Don’t Want To is Eugenics?YUUUP. Peel back the façade of mainstream liberal feminism in the US and all you'll find is patriarchy. It's not a coincidence that it pushes sexual "liberation", prostitution, PickMeism, Cool Girl mentality, "paper abortions", etc. You'd be really hard pressed to point out one tenet of this brand of feminism that only benefits women, most of it only or overwhelmingly benefits men. About 15 mostly male billionaires and 6 male dominated corporations control American news and media. Mainstream lib… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 12:38 AM |
| 41 | TIL: The Left Hates Women Having Reproductive Choice with Their Whole Being. Their new tactic is to smear Sexual Selection as “TERF and Nazi propaganda” with doctored screenshots. Did You Know Not Having Sex With Men You Don’t Want To is Eugenics?It's insane that a woman will more carefully select the stud she breeds her dog to than the man she chooses to reproduce with herself. When my sociopathic ex succeeded in getting me pregnant I was actually considering keeping it. Running through all the logistics, trying to figure out how I could keep him out of our lives. I could disappear, move across the country. He's a drug addicted alcoholic high school dropout with a criminal record so it's doubtful he'd ever have the resources to track me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 12:15 AM |
| 42 | TIL: The Left Hates Women Having Reproductive Choice with Their Whole Being. Their new tactic is to smear Sexual Selection as “TERF and Nazi propaganda” with doctored screenshots. Did You Know Not Having Sex With Men You Don’t Want To is Eugenics?And I guess they don't want to talk about how a lot of people of Jewish descent use genetic testing to avoid passing on diseases to their children. Vilifying people for not wanting to burden their children with genetic diseases or conditions that will negatively impact their lifespan and/or quality of life makes zero sense. It's thinly veiled forced birther rhetoric. It really makes them uncomfortable to even entertain the notion that a lot of men shouldn't be reproducing, not only because they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:58 PM |
| 40 | Ultimate pick me! And her parents think it’s “funny” 🤦🏼♀️Tell me your father has incestuous thoughts about you without telling me your father has incestuous thoughts about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:41 PM |
| 65 | I have no wordsMen who have relationships with their mothers like this are to be avoided at all costs. Being raised by a mother who goes to bat for you no matter what you've done warps your mind. I bet he didn't even have to twist the story. She'd probably defend him even if he went on a mass shooting spree. Society is already structured in such a way that the wrongs of men automatically get downplayed and forgiven, having a Jocasta mom makes a man a thousand times worse. Nothing is ever their fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:30 PM |
| 129 | I have no wordsNotice she describes the birth as the most traumatic experience she'd ever gone through. She wasn't just calling for her mom because it was a routine birth (not there'd be anything wrong with that), she was calling for her mom because the birthing experience was traumatic. Maybe it was especially long or painful, maybe she had complications, maybe she needed intervention, maybe she suffered a birth injury, or maybe doctors/nurses weren't listening to her and violated her bodily autonomy. She doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 11:12 PM |
| 2 | The Abortion Sub is being held hostage by a power tripping person without a uterus, Furry Porn Enthusiast, and *checks notes* Aimee Challenor supporterWowww, I hadn't seen the actual messages. So Cedar straight up said they think it's wrong to exclude the opinions of men because 🥺 it's wrong to make generalizations and to judge someone based on their labels uwu 🥺. Their inability to grasp that an abortion subreddit is probably never going to have a fun, friendly, community atmosphere is very telling. They were fixated on the no-articles rule (lbr, more fixated on the fact that it'd been made without consulting them because they're an egomaniac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 06:19 AM |
| 33 | The Abortion Sub is being held hostage by a power tripping person without a uterus, Furry Porn Enthusiast, and *checks notes* Aimee Challenor supporterThis is going to be long and I apologize in advance if I've gotten any details wrong but this is what I remember to the best of my ability. When the top moderator of a subreddit (essentially the owner) is inactive a user can petition Reddit for the position. Without active moderation most subreddits will fall into disuse or chaos, so theoretically this is a good system. Unfortunately, a few years ago it resulted in a user called CedarWolf being granted what is essentially ownership of "abortion"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 04:43 AM |
| 46 | The Abortion Sub is being held hostage by a power tripping person without a uterus, Furry Porn Enthusiast, and *checks notes* Aimee Challenor supporterI'm coming up on one year now since my abortion and this subreddit helped me immensely. I read so much, learned so much, commiserated with other women. It makes me physically nauseous to see this happening. CedarWolf ousted an abortion providing physician because they threatened their access to vulnerable women and masturbation material. They've been using us as fetish fodder. From what I've gathered they're supposedly MTF but literally nothing about the way their mind works resembles a woman's.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 02:35 AM |
| 145 | So guys do expect you to be a live in maid just because they earn more than you do. Nevermind the fact that if he lived alone he would still have to do them.It's highly unlikely that he even makes that much or works that many hours. LVM lie as easily as they breathe. He really wants to justify why he shouldn't "have to" lift a finger around the house, as most scrotes do. If he really makes that much he can afford a cleaning service. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 03:21 PM |
| 101 | Always be skeptical of men's relationship woes on Reddit. When my ex persuaded me to do poly so that he could cheat on me, the narrative he posted to reddit was "my girlfriend manipulated me into opening the relationship so that she could get a sugar daddy"YUP. I briefly and casually saw a guy years ago who apparently still talks about me to tell people I'm crazy. I'll spare you the multitude of disturbing details on this individual, but suffice to say he told me he was in love with me less than a month in and also started telling people I was his girlfriend when we'd never had that conversation. Just assume that every man is an unreliable narrator. It's crazy because I encounter women all the time who place blame on themselves for how their relat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 12:07 AM |
| 29 | Don't over-complicate your relationships: if a relationship is not making you feel good majority of the time, it's time to leave.Every time I’ve turned to Google or Reddit to ask for advice about a man... he turned out to be low value. And, if we're being completely honest, Reddit hosts a specific subset of LVM (introverted, nerdy, "intellectual") that isn't representational of the general public. Outside of FDS, Reddit is a terrible place to seek dating/relationship advice. When I was in the thick of an abusive relationship I turned to Reddit for help figuring out why my then boyfriend was withholding sex. Cue the slew o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 07:35 PM |
| 24 | Hmmm.. I wonder why this is?But unpopular opinion: even when the guy is determined and skilled a lot of women are uncomfortable with receiving pleasure in a heterosexual dynamic due to social norms, porn culture, and sometimes even pick-meism. My ex was the first guy who actually tried to get me to orgasm. It was less about his concern for my pleasure and more about satisfying his own ego, but he tried. Pulled out all the stops. I still could never reach orgasm with him. There was a mental block. I was so performative duri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 02:21 AM |
| 18 | Denial about pornography’s links to paraphilia, including pedophiliaThere was a guy who posted on one of the anti-porn subreddits about how he'd had a sexually explicit dream involving his INFANT DAUGHTER. He managed to make the connection and came to the conclusion that he needed to stop watching porn but jfc how do you come back from that? From your mind becoming so poisoned that any female, including your own baby, subconsciously becomes a target for depravity? How do you live with yourself? He also mentioned that he'd told his wife about it and how she didn'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 06:01 AM |
| 6 | A forced “Yes” is not consentYuuup. Men are REAL quick to fully grasp all the nuances of consent the moment they're in a situation where they can even incorrectly perceive that a gay man is making advances towards them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 11:49 PM |
| 20 | A forced “Yes” is not consentI came across a comment on Reddit once where a guy admitted to having raped a girlfriend of his when he was younger by applying pressure when she'd said no. He was ashamed, as he should be, and resolved to never do something like that again. Great. But then of course there were a bunch of replies from other men giving him cookies and patting him on the back for being SO COURAGEOUS, trying to make him feel better because "we were all stupid kids once but at least you've grown and realized your mi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 11:45 PM |
| 111 | This is straight up abuse. If you don’t like that she’s a makeup artist on TikTok, you can just break up with her, you don’t have to call her ugly and attention seeking in the process. Guys can never just leave with dignity, they have to make a whole ass mess out of itEvery man I've ever been in a relationship/situationship with has made at least subtle digs about my appearance/body, meanwhile I was always so careful to never say anything that could even be misconstrued as negative about theirs. They've been skinny, morbidly obese, "dad bodded" (🙄), shorter than me, acne scarred, etc. and I NEVER wanted them to feel bad about it. The thought of making them insecure broke my heart. I was attracted to them as a package deal, accepting of them as a whole, their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 12:39 AM |
| 7 | What in the fresh hell-- throw this man out of your LIFE and slam the lid shut 😡tbh for her sake I hope he's a narcissist who'll end up leaving her. Better than the alternative of one of those men who wants to keep his wife under his thumb her whole life, using and abusing her the entire time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 12:24 AM |
| 136 | What in the fresh hell-- throw this man out of your LIFE and slam the lid shut 😡Impregnation is a misogynistic man's main method of cementing ownership. They don't view women as full fledged people, they view us as potential property. And having a baby with one of these men is, in their minds, giving them the authority to exercise dominion over you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 12:18 AM |
| 134 | What in the fresh hell-- throw this man out of your LIFE and slam the lid shut 😡This is such an insidious form of abuse. Men do this precisely because they know it can easily lead to body image issues and to a woman feeling undesirable and repulsive. It's intentional. They know. They want to devalue you to the point that your self worth is so diminished that you can't fathom that you could ever do better than them, that you're actually lucky to have them. My ex abused me in a lot of different ways but the comments he made about my body burrowed into my psyche in an especial… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 12:12 AM |
| 8 | FDS is anti-redpill. We protect women from abusive men, including redpillers. Saying that FDS is "redpill for women" is literally victim blaming.It would be like if you saw a man beating the shit out of a woman and the moment she throws her hands up in a guard to block his punches, you dismiss her and then conclude that both of these things are equally violent and that these two parties are "abusing each other" Unfortunately, they really do collect statistics on what they call "reciprocal violence" in domestic abuse cases. Men who find out about it just looove to cite how a lot of domestic abuse is "AcTuAlLy ReCiPrOcAl", as if a woman be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 04:56 AM |
| 138 | My gynecologist told me the REAL reason she shortens IUD strings- it's because men try to remove IUDs with out their partner's consent.And remember ladies, it's tempting to want to think that only literal psychopaths would do something like this but experts like Gavin de Becker warn against that kind of mindset. Everyone (the male sex especially) is capable of violence and it's important to never let your guard down. Assume every man could do something like this. So many women don't realize they're with an abuser until they're so deeply entrenched they find it near impossible to escape, and it's because they weren't suspicious … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 04:47 AM |
| 86 | My gynecologist told me the REAL reason she shortens IUD strings- it's because men try to remove IUDs with out their partner's consent.I've had two different men take the condom off. One of them stealthed me and I didn't realize he'd taken the condom off til he pulled out and finished on me. The other one took it off super unabashed and proceeded to reinsert himself despite my attempts to stop him. It's such a violation and unfortunately really common for men to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 04:38 AM |
| 28 | Female friendships and misogynistic propagandaBtw, men gossip way more than women do about far more useless and disgusting topics. Another instance of male projection. Truth! I hooked up with a coworker once and we both indicated to each other that we'd keep it on the downlow. Before either of us even got to work the next morning both our departments knew about it. Him and his work buddies had a group chat and he went bragging. Then had the audacity to lie to me about it when I confronted him. I come across men claiming a lot that they don'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 01:25 AM |
| 28 | Men and their hygiene, or lack of itIt goes without saying that you shouldn't entertain men who have poor hygiene but society does such a good job brainwashing us that we can feel shallow for having the most basic standards. I once casually dated a guy whose apartment (he lived with his mom so it was actually his mom's apartment, lmao) was covered in mouse droppings. He explained that it was an ongoing issue because the other people in the building wouldn't all pitch in to eradicate them at the same time. But then he eventually ad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 07:01 PM |
| 6 | FDS has really opened my eyes TW: mentions rape, abuseIt's definitely not an accurate statistic. Even when they go by anonymous self reporting rather than reported crime stats, a lot of rape victims haven't mentally processed and accepted what happened to them as rape. A lot of the time their rapist is their current boyfriend/husband, someone they love and have intertwined their life with, so they push it back into the recesses of their mind rather than confront it and have it detonate their world. It's a kind of survival mechanism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:58 PM |
| 100 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.It also gives LVM more information to work with in the future for when they want to jerk around the next woman. You spell out everything they did wrong, they use it to hone their bullshit. With the next woman suddenly it'll be, "I used to pay for everything on dates because I totally believe that's a man's duty but then this evil woman took advantage of me so now I have a hard time trusting women who won't even go 50/50. 🥺" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:44 PM |
| 238 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.So, in reality, this guy had only taken her on two dates (to the zoo and to a supposedly high end restaurant) which in his mind somehow constitutes "a few dates". After only two dates he was already resentful that he was paying for "everything" and had the audacity to ask her to pay for her own sandwich on the third date. I'd bet good money that he expected her to have sex with him after the restaurant date and she didn't so now he's revealing his true colors. This is why FDS insists that men pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 05:40 PM |
| 56 | Peyronie's Disease (Permanently Bent Penis)I've observed the same thing, that all the men my age grew up with free access to internet porn and it really warped their minds. But I really don't want to date men significantly older or younger. Luckily some younger guys' parents were aware of how dangerous the internet could be so they didn't let them have computers in their bedrooms, monitored their use, etc. So there's some hope for the younger generations. But my own seems like a complete lost cause. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:19 PM |
| 17 | Thank you for posting that video by Lundy BancroftAnd what's really sad are the levels of abuse you'll find yourself justifying as the victim. I had a lot of trouble really wrapping my head around what I'd been experiencing as abuse abuse. Veiled threats, straight up promises to kill me if I ever got an abortion, disturbing stories about how he'd beaten past girlfriends, references to the firearm he could easily get ahold of, holding me down, raping me, etc. Society actively tries to teach girls and women that if you aren't being violently beat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:31 AM |
| 51 | This OLD bio made me puke in my mouth 🤡, men are getting delusional.If these scrotes really want traditional wives so badly they should get religious and start skulking their local fundie church. That would take actual effort, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:03 AM |
| 25 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.MY EX DOES THE SAME SHIT. It's been like nine months since I left him and went complete no contact and I still get calls and texts from burner numbers. How do all these scrotes have the same handbook? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:59 AM |
| 83 | Reject pornification and leave your pubic hair alone. It has a purpose, a job to do and it's healthy to keep itAs if men aren't actively growing beards specifically to hide their lack of jawline. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:33 PM |
| 7 | Conflicting beliefs with my therapist about 'all men'Therapists are only human. They arrive to their sessions with their own worldviews, opinions, baggage, etc. and it can color the way they treat patients. They're not one-size-fits-all and I think it's advisable to find another mental health professional who understands that we live in a patriarchy, that women are oppressed by men, and that they present a constant danger to us. So many of the mental health issues that women grapple with stem directly from living in a sexist, hostile society that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:29 PM |
| 137 | Guys who have a problem with sex during your period are LVMI'll never forget the time my ex initiated sex one night when we were going to bed. He knew I was on my period (I never made a secret of it) and I was wearing a big ass pad that he couldn't miss. We'd have shower sex while I was on my period but had never had period sex in bed before. I thought it was so sweet, took it as a sign of us becoming closer. But then afterwards he got up and turned the light on and was disgusted. His penis had blood on it but none ended up on the sheets or anything, so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:18 PM |
| 62 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.Sounds like she's officially taking ownership of all the LVM/NVM in the world. She can have my sociopathic felon ex. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:08 PM |
| 93 | Billie speaking facts!My ex launched a full on insidious campaign to try to make me believe I was ugly. It worked, too. I was so insecure and I allowed him to tank what small semblance of confidence I had. Interestingly enough, I'm now being pursued by an incredibly conventionally attractive coworker. He's never pursued anything romantic or sexual with anyone in the workplace before (he has the good sense to keep his professional and personal lives separate) but he's leaving soon for a better job and I'm the one he's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 04:19 PM |
| 18 | A first in Aoetearoa (New Zealand): Man convicted of rape after he removed a condom partway through intercourse without a woman's consent. 👏🏼👏🏼I had a supposed friend with benefits do this to me. It really fucked with my head and the full brunt of how violating it was didn't set in until a long time later. He's a coworker, too, so he's someone I have to see with some frequency. I hope he reads articles like this and squirms but that would probably require a level of self awareness that he doesn't possess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 03:54 PM |
| 109 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!And the part where she's like, "I don't want to feel trapped into spending hours having dinner with someone I don't like." Holy shit. Women really need to stop dating until they've leveled up their confidence, self value, etc. to the point where if they realize they don't like the guy they're on a date with, they end the date. Stop going on mediocre low effort dates just to circumvent your lack of spine. I'm similarly boggled when women say they go 50/50 on dates because they don't want the man … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:12 PM |
| 92 | Yes, you’re cheap. Good for this queen for turning down this low effort “date”!Yuuup. When men are truly and genuinely interested in a woman (not just trying to finagle easy sex or obtain girlfriend perks) they'll pursue her with gusto and pull out all the stops. They wouldn't be deterred because she wants to be taken out to a proper restaurant. A lot of women who follow FDS do prefer dates that happen to be cheap or free like coffee, museums, walks, etc. But because men are so disingenuous about their intentions the type of dates they take us on have become an important v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:04 PM |
| 19 | Bye b*tchNarcissists have similar thinking patterns. Luckily once you've dealt with one they all become pretty easy to spot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 09:28 PM |
| 27 | Bye b*tchHahaha. I once broke up with a guy (who I'd only been casually dating for a couple months) and he responded that he'd have to think about it. Like me breaking up with him was something we had to mutually agree to. These scrotes are delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 09:23 PM |
| 23 | ”Att vara hora är att vara skådespelare” (Translation: "To be a whore is to be an actor")I do not even remember what I was like as a person. I know I tried to forget something and I succeeded. I'm sitting here weeping. There are a lot of parallels between her life and mine. It sounds like she was probably molested when she was young but succeeded in forgetting it, and I similarly can't remember exactly what happened to me. The neglectful/abusive families, the self harming, the pedophiles on the internet, being raped, being depressed and suicidal. I never fell victim to addiction or … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 09:05 PM |
| 18 | DAE feel like weight is a major filter for LVMs?I've been 230 and I've been 150 (at 5'9"). Nothing shields you from LVM. If anything, they use measures like weight to try to gauge whether or not you're insecure and if they can use it to manipulate you. We've all heard the gross jokes they make about how fat girls suck dick better and will tolerate more mistreatment. In my experience bigger women get specifically targeted by a certain breed of LVM, the type who try to trap you for years (or life). I'm ~160 now and it's true that a wider variet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 06:47 PM |
| 24 | Creepy guy I ghosted, never dated, still mad months later 😂LMAO. Husband material right here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 06:29 PM |
| 25 | My nvm expected me to put the groceries awayWhen I was with my ex our lives revolved around weed. He had to smoke as soon as he woke up and before doing ANYTHING. The one time I managed to get him to go on an easy hike with me his mood soured when he realized he forgot to bring wrapping paper, so he couldn't smoke the weed he brought. His entire day would be ruined if he couldn't smoke. You need to have a come to Jesus moment and ask yourself if you want to stay with this self centered manchild who wants to structure his life around weed. | /r/askFDS | 30/03/21 05:51 PM |
| 13 | Sharing trauma, HVness, and exploitation of vulnerabilitiesI never told my ex much about my trauma history. Not that I'd been molested as a child, that I was neglected and emotionally abused (and sometimes physically abused) by my parents, not that my first boyfriend raped me, or that a FWB stealthed me. I did, however, confide in him that I've been depressed for most of my life, that I have a history of self harm, and that I have an eating disorder. That was more than enough for him to work with. I allowed myself the most basic level of vulnerability w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Why I almost left FDSXanax, too. My ex would turn me down with some frequency and it made me so insecure, I felt like the most undesirable woman on the planet, but when we were breaking up he let it slip that he'd been using Xanax the entire time we'd been together. Before we met he'd gone to rehab for his Xanax addiction and was supposedly not using anymore. It can both cause ED and a general decrease in libido. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 01:21 AM |
| 16 | Who wants to bet this scrote wanted 50/50 eQuAliTy when dating but now cannot handle 10/90 split of responsibilities where he feeds his own dog while she does literally everything else. If ya can’t wipe yo ass no EqUaLiTy for you!\Simon would like it noted that he also puts the rubbish out, pays for the cleaner, picks the children up on Thursdays and empties the dishwasher pretty much every time.* Fucking nauseating. Men will really say shit like this and then wonder why their wives don't want to have sex anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:39 AM |
| 11 | Who wants to bet this scrote wanted 50/50 eQuAliTy when dating but now cannot handle 10/90 split of responsibilities where he feeds his own dog while she does literally everything else. If ya can’t wipe yo ass no EqUaLiTy for you!He would have said they were 50/50 on this task, or even more 90/10. This is why I never trust a man's estimation of how many chores he does. Men are intellectually incapable of impartially judging how much they actually contribute around the house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:37 AM |
| 16 | Who wants to bet this scrote wanted 50/50 eQuAliTy when dating but now cannot handle 10/90 split of responsibilities where he feeds his own dog while she does literally everything else. If ya can’t wipe yo ass no EqUaLiTy for you!I have a coworker like this. We're a small department of only 4 people and he's the only man. Our previous department head was constantly praising him and stroking his ego and he flourished. He was actually a really solid employee. Just as long as someone was constantly telling him what a good little worker he was. Then our department head was transferred and we got a new one, and she doesn't lavish him in affirmations all the time. The quality of his work has noticeably dropped and he makes stu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:34 AM |
| 96 | % of prisoners that are women! Just wondered how the logical sex would explain this as I hear that male violence is NOT a legitimate threatTheir favorite argument. Meanwhile, in reality, the average prison sentence for men who kill their female partners is two to six years. By contrast, women who kill their partners are sentenced on average to fifteen years. And the majority of the time when a woman kills her intimate partner, she was being abused by him. But when a man kills his intimate partner, it's usually the culmination of him habitually abusing her. Apparently this is a common theme in sentencing when it comes to women who c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 07:00 AM |
| 28 | Shocking! I was not aware of this but here is yet another way women are used as lab rats for untested medication. A "reverse abortion pill" is regularly recommended for those who undergo medical abortion. They've already passed laws surrounding it.A sponsor of an Ohio abortion bill thinks you can reimplant ectopic pregnancies. Jesus fucking Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:46 AM |
| 50 | The nest post reminded me of this gem where a woman finds her husband's cumrags and thousands of piss bottlesHoly shit. Why is she still with him??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 06:35 AM |
| 15 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastFlashbacks to the one time I tried to sleep over at my ex boyfriend's, which was actually his mom and stepdad's house. He slept in the unfinished basement on an inflatable mattress. This was in January. In the northeast. He proceeded to get suuuper drunk, put on a movie at a really high volume (he had issues sleeping in silence), and passed out. I tried to go to sleep with him but the inflatable mattress was incredibly uncomfortable, there weren't enough blankets, and the action movie he'd put o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:52 PM |
| 5 | Men that do chores wrong on purposeI forgot to mention, his apartment complex had laundry rooms on each floor. And he generally disliked his family (especially his mom), so it's not like he was driving out to visit them because he missed them and getting his laundry done was an added bonus (which would still be ridiculous). He'd go out and spend the weekend in their pools, ignoring them and making them wash his dirty clothes for him. He made a "joke" once about me moving in with him that was obviously just him testing the waters … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:42 PM |
| 46 | Men that do chores wrong on purposeMy first boyfriend relocated for work and would drive home about once a month, a 3 hour drive one way, to have his mom and/or aunt do his dirty laundry for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 03:06 PM |
| 8 | Being a predator is relatable!18 is such an arbitrary age to set adulthood at, when it should be more like 25 based on when the brain finishes maturing. People act like it's impossible for someone in their 40s to groom someone in their 20s, as if you wake up on your 18th birthday and magically become a mature adult with life experiences and learned lessons under your belt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 06:10 AM |
| 64 | The men who “get it”. Saw this on a thread where a woman was love bombed by a guy for 2 months and was instantly ditched after they spent the whole day having sex for the first time. Scrotes are mad at him.Assuming a man (especially one who wants to sleep with you) has good intentions is dangerous. When a man says or does something that confuses me or doesn’t sit right with me, I think about what his selfish motivations could be. I’m sad that it’s come to this, but better safe than sorry. Distrusting men needs to be a default state. For our own safety we need to assume they're guilty until proven otherwise tbh. I wish I'd learned this lesson sooner, the first time a man hurt me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 07:17 AM |
| 44 | The men who “get it”. Saw this on a thread where a woman was love bombed by a guy for 2 months and was instantly ditched after they spent the whole day having sex for the first time. Scrotes are mad at him.I had a no-strings-attached thing with a guy who really did bring up his cancer stricken mother. The schadenfreude I felt was PALPABLE when we were watching a woman comedian's routine one night and she recounted her experience dating someone whose mother had cancer and how it made her feel like she could never break up with him. I hadn't had the courage to call him out on what bullshit it was for him to try to manipulate me with his cancer mom story but this wonderful comedian did it for me. He … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 06:54 AM |
| 10 | Do men even like women??What 44 year old, six figure income earning, coed screwing man is spending time on Reddit waxing poetic about it? Precisely none. The few scrotes who're actually living this life are busy working and sexually disappointing young women. eta: skimmed it again and saw he's claiming he's retired, but I'm not buying that either. Anyone who makes enough money to have a "retired six-figure life" at 44 is going to be a workaholic and they don't just retire early to aimlessly idle their lives away on Tin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 03:57 AM |
| 6 | Do men even like women??Must have taken him awhile to type it one-handed while he furiously masturbated with the other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 03:50 AM |
| 72 | He's not gonna change sis. You can do better! You still have plenty of time for a HVM, but you're wasting your time with that scrote! Think a HVM is gonna waste his time with a taken woman? Nope! You're disrespecting yourself when you lower your standards! Level up. Dump him. Love yourself.I'm so sorry. LVM have no compassion. This is why we encourage women to go complete no contact asap and to resist the urge to explain to a LVM your feelings and how his treatment was inhumane. They literally lack the empathy for it to be constructive, and the really sick ones will just use it against you. Please don't let him make you feel small or invalidated. He's a pitiful creature. Men like him exist in a deadened state, cut off from the full spectrum of human emotion. He will never be capab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 03:20 AM |
| 60 | He's not gonna change sis. You can do better! You still have plenty of time for a HVM, but you're wasting your time with that scrote! Think a HVM is gonna waste his time with a taken woman? Nope! You're disrespecting yourself when you lower your standards! Level up. Dump him. Love yourself.She could be suffering from a trauma bond, if he's especially heinous. That's the downfall of so many women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 03:10 AM |
| 81 | He's not gonna change sis. You can do better! You still have plenty of time for a HVM, but you're wasting your time with that scrote! Think a HVM is gonna waste his time with a taken woman? Nope! You're disrespecting yourself when you lower your standards! Level up. Dump him. Love yourself.🔊You still have plenty of time for a HVM!🔊 This is so true. My grandmother didn't meet the love of her life until she was in her 40s. She'd suffered through a marriage to an alcoholic philanderer until her kids were grown, thinking that's what was best for them, but as soon as they were older she got her divorce. Her current husband is one of only two or three exemplary HVM I know (it's possible I know more HVM, but I often reserve judgement because appearances can be deceiving). Everyone's in a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 03:08 AM |
| 179 | Elon Musk PAID to have the interview of ex-wife number 1 REMOVED from the internet bc she described his abuse towards her!I look younger than I am and end up getting approached by younger guys and even if they're only like 4 years younger than me, I notice the maturity difference. I can't even fathom being like 40 years old and wanting to date a 20 year old. That's repulsive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 03:42 AM |
| 26 | If you are asking yourself whether you should block himJust blocked one yesterday! He asked me to go on a date the following night and then canceled that morning. Messaged me claiming he hadn't realized what day of the week our date would be on and that he had exams due and was like, "Another time, I swear!" Boy, bye. I responded "lol" then blocked him. I maybe should have blocked without saying anything but he's a former coworker. He'd come into my workplace to ask me out in person and I don't want him to approach me there again, thinking I didn't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 02:06 AM |
| 7 | Can someone explain to my European brain this “joint account” bullshit?!When men get divorced they benefit by convincing everyone around them that they got shafted by the divorce and family courts but, in reality, men financially benefit when they get divorced. And because almost none of them seek equal custody (instead having their kids every other weekend or something ridiculous like that), they manage to dump all of the child-related responsibility on their ex wives. I don't care how much they pay in child support (which is usually laughable, anyway), it doesn't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 03:31 AM |
| 13 | A man with self awareness realizing men are the problem? This is rare.Talking about the reality that it's common for 14 year old girls to have been raped made this man tear up and lose composure and that's a level of empathy that the majority of men sadly lack, and that's what's at the root of rape culture. Men know it exists. They know how they benefit from it, how they condone it with their silence, how they participate in it. They simply do not give a shit about girls and women so, to them, it's not actually a problem that needs addressing. Most men don't view … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 02:55 AM |
| 34 | Can someone explain to my European brain this “joint account” bullshit?!Oh, it gets even worse. If you live in a community property state, anything acquired during the marriage — including the income used to fund those separate accounts — is considered "community property" and therefore belongs to both spouses. Residents of Alaska, Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington and Wisconsin fall into this category. The rest of the country operates under equitable distribution laws, which generally recognize that property acquired durin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:55 PM |
| 81 | THIS is why I’m so hard on my friends who say marriage is just a piece of paper. THIS. Nobody in this world will look out for us and our progeny, so WE must take out our own insurance policiesHe was never going to marry her. 8 years in and for 4 he'd been using the lame excuse that he wanted to get his business off the ground first. He stole her 20s from her and let her neglect starting a career under the false pretense that he'd take care of her. NEVER allow yourself to become a forever girlfriend and NEVER put yourself at a man's financial mercy. She's going into her 30s now with no job experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:38 PM |
| 206 | Just broke up with a porn sick man. Thanks FDS for helping me assert my boundaries and hold my own.Bravo! This is a great boundary to have for so many reasons and it really acts as an automatic litmus test. If a man watches porn, an incredibly exploitative industry rife with human trafficking, rape, and abuse, he's automatically a LVM. Studies have shown that porn usage correlates with reduced grey matter in key areas of the brain. It's detrimental to their own mental health and is linked to all sorts of relationship problems (the girlfriends/wives of men who watch porn having higher rates of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:28 PM |
| 101 | Because apparently doing chores in your own house is so rare that it is suspicious...I've noticed this trend online where "woke" men instruct other men that foreplay begins long before any physical contact and that if they want to get their woman in the mood, they need to begin earlier in the day with stuff like compliments and helping out around the house. Because the only way men can bring themselves to be verbally affirming to their partner and to behave like a contributing adult of a household is if they're incentivized by sex. Some of them get so close to hitting on basic h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:17 PM |
| 41 | Men engage in violence with other men in a whole different way than with women. With men, it's a "battle of the equals" where the other man is given a heads-up of what is about to happen. Women don't get a warning because men really don't see us as equals.I think it's probable that more than 50% of women have been raped but don't recognize their experience for what it was. Men benefit from our conceptualization of rape being incredibly violent and perpetrated by a stranger so that women are uncomfortable with even considering applying that word to what they experienced. There's a mental block, a lot of women have a really hard time identifying something like their boyfriend coercing them into having sex as rape. And then, of course, when they do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:58 AM |
| 28 | Men engage in violence with other men in a whole different way than with women. With men, it's a "battle of the equals" where the other man is given a heads-up of what is about to happen. Women don't get a warning because men really don't see us as equals.I was molested by a family friend when I was 8 or 9 (along with an acquaintance of his, who he brought me to). He'd known me since I was a baby. He preached at our church. I was friends with his son. I can't remember him ever behaving inappropriately towards me before it happened. He'd never taken much interest in me at all. The few times he was there when I'd go over to his house for playdates with his son, he'd stay in his office working. Then after he did what he did, it was back to complete … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:38 AM |
| 41 | Never let a man know how bad he hurt youMy abusive ex practically bragged to me that one of his previous girlfriends had told him he'd ruined her life. He mentioned it more than once. He fucking loved knowing that he'd left psychological scars. They really, really don't need to know how badly they hurt you. It won't change them (that would require a level of empathy they simply don't possess) and it won't give you the catharsis you so desperately want. It just gets filed away in their depraved mental masturbation repository. They deri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 02:11 AM |
| 6 | Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.I personally can't tell whether or not a guy has a condom on. I also can't feel if I've been ejaculated in. Different women have different sensitivity levels. I was also twisted at the time. Before FDS I would make a point of drinking and/or smoking before going into sexual encounters. I'd never dealt with the trauma of being molested when I was a kid and having sex while sober made me super uncomfortable. So maybe if I'd been sober I would have caught him taking it off? idk. But he definitely d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:51 AM |
| 28 | Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.Meanwhile it's FAR more common for men to use pregnancy to trap women. I know SO MANY women who're rotting away in shitty relationships with LVM because these scrotes got them pregnant. Now they're stuck paying half (or more) of the bills, doing 90% of the housework, almost all of the childcare, and look after the emotional and physical health of their manchild partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 11:39 AM |
| 38 | Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.I was reproductively coerced by my ex. The first time we had sex I was blackout drunk (he was mildly tipsy) and he didn't use a condom. When I foolishly carried on seeing him he resented that I insisted on condoms because we hadn't used one the first time (scrote logic). Like yeah, theoretically if one of us had an STI we'd already been exposed but I wasn't on birth control. Then a few months in we were having sex and he pulled out, took the condom off, not even bothering to hide it, and proceed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 11:29 AM |
| 25 | Men cause 100% of unwanted pregnancies. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.As a society we've kind of distanced sex from its primary purpose of reproduction (hence why most guys think cream pies are the hottest thing ever without consciously connecting the dots) but that doesn't change the way our primate brains work. Most men find the thought of impregnating a woman highly arousing, it's instinctual, and they have an innate urge to ejaculate inside women. They'll deny it if you ask them point blank but 99% of them will lose all composure in bed if your dirty talk invo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 10:58 AM |
| 20 | Pleasantly surprised by this guy in my DMs sharing a useful tip: men in homeless shelters are using online dating to find women to mooch off of, often after getting kicked out for abusing/cheating on another womanMy ex wasn't technically homeless but he had been living with his mom and stepdad for more than a year. They wouldn't give him a bedroom because they didn't want him to get too comfortable, wanted to give him some motivation to get his shit together and move out, so he slept on an inflatable mattress in their unfinished basement. He 100% latched onto me asap as a means to improve his living situation. He rushed our relationship along, we were literally only like 2 weeks in when he asked me to be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:03 PM |
| 32 | Pleasantly surprised by this guy in my DMs sharing a useful tip: men in homeless shelters are using online dating to find women to mooch off of, often after getting kicked out for abusing/cheating on another womanDude also lied about when his birthday was- wtf!? Maybe to make it harder for you to background check him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 02:46 PM |
| 56 | Other Women’s Subs Are Starting to Slowly Figure Out What We’ve Been Saying All Along About Males In Women’s Spaces. It’s Starting to look a little FDS-y out here.Another issue I've not seen addressed outside of FDS is the absolute horde of men roleplaying as women on Reddit (and the internet at large). I've seen some of the most ridiculous posts on sex and relationship subs that're obviously written by men posing as women and no one questions it. 9 times out of 10 if it's a post written by a "woman" about how much she just looooves anal or wants to explore being gangbanged, it's obviously a pornsick scrote. It can read like: "But she was, for the bathroo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 02:40 PM |
| 74 | At Least One Good Thing Came From The Vice Article!Spot on. The first step of fascism is to get people feeling like something they're entitled to is being taken away from them. The average man feels entitled to a woman, whether or not he thinks about it consciously, regardless of what sort of man he is. He was raised absorbing messages like that women were created to be a helpmeet to men. Men have difficulty fully recognizing women for the full fledged human beings that we are, with our own thoughts, feelings, and desires in life, and it disturb… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 02:22 PM |
| 323 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceIt's actually really sad how many of us have been deeply scarred by men, abandoned and mistreated by our fathers, abused, raped, and exploited by our acquaintances, "friends", boyfriends, and husbands, molested as little girls by the adult men who were unfortunately given access to us, and yet most of us are still somehow willing to give men a chance. We still hold on to the hope that we might actually find one who'll love, respect, and cherish us. Our capacity and desire for love is overwhelmin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 05:46 AM |
| 57 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceFDS contributed greatly to me finally leaving my abusive rapist ex for good. Imagine the mental gymnastics a "journalist" would have to do coming here and reading all these stories about FDS emboldening women to leave their abusive/shitty relationships and being like, "Wow, these women are so toxic!" Jesus fucking Christ. The intellectual dishonesty is astounding. Men truly don't want us living for ourselves and PickMes really resent it when other women decide to lead lives that don't revolve ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 05:31 AM |
| 153 | “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife”LVM: "Can't turn a hoe into a housewife!" Also LVM: Become their girlfriend's dedicated cameraman for her OnlyFans/camgirl site so he can keep leeching off her while she pays all the bills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 05:30 AM |
| 52 | Where to start...It's such objectively shitty LVM behavior to keep sexual pictures/video of an ex. The respectful thing to do when a relationship ends is to delete all that sort of stuff (but we can't trust men to do this, which is why FDS discourages sending nudes and making sex tapes). You're no longer with that person, you should no longer have access to intimate material of them. I'm pretty sure this ex wife he groomed when she was a teenager would be disgusted to know this asshole still has this video, ogle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 05:22 AM |
| 34 | Male Pandering At Its Finest.. Embarrassing.She's probably convinced herself her OnlyFans will still generate income when she's a senior citizen, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 02:00 AM |
| 36 | Male Pandering At Its Finest.. Embarrassing.I have a flat ass and it's literally never been a hinderance to "getting a man". Getting a man isn't an achievement. Having a great job, earning 50k+, having your own things, and having your own car, on the other hand, are achievements. Let me know when you're 80 if your ass keeps you fed and sheltered, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 01:55 AM |
| 139 | Women in college beware!They love this fantasy that fat women aren't actively and enthusiastically pursued by a lot of men. Philanthropy? She'll appreciate it because she won't know when it'll happen next?? Please. Fat women have easier access to sex than the average man will ever have. Men know this to be true and it infuriates them. And a ton of men are attracted to fat women but won't admit it because they're straight up cowards and they're more concerned with impressing their bros and fitting in than living their o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 01:41 AM |
| 39 | THIS Is Why FDS Advises Women To REFRAIN From Telling Potential Male Partners About Past Poor Treatment From Men...From The Horses Mouth On A Video Advising Men How To Game On Tinder. HORRIFIC.Something I pride myself on is that I never gave my abusive ex the rundown of my traumatic history. I was definitely taken in and manipulated by him, but if I'd naively told him about all the awful things that'd been done to me it would have allowed him to forge an even more powerful fake empathetic rapport and given him the ammunition to manipulate me even more thoroughly. He told me about all the abuse that'd been inflicted on him but all he got out of me is that I'm depressed, have self harme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 01:17 AM |
| 23 | Another reminder that hits close to home.history of being abused (not his fault, but it affects his everyday life unless he’s done his self work) YUP. No one really wants to acknowledge this but a man having suffered abuse (especially as a child) is a huge risk factor. The default state of a man in our society already has him at the emotional intelligence of a 5th grader. Empathy issues, anger problems, the inclination to burden their gf/wife with all their emotional needs, etc. Unaddressed trauma only makes it worse. And popular cultu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 01:02 AM |
| 18 | Another reminder that hits close to home.If you have trouble with anxiety, learn to really pay attention and give credence to people's actions and words. Intuition is a good shortcut to quickly weeding shitty people out but the truth is that 99% of shitty people out themselves pretty early on. They'll make a cruel joke at the expense of someone's appearance, say something lowkey racist, their actions won't align with their words (like they might say they loooove helping people but then you find out they don't do any volunteer work, som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 12:46 AM |
| 34 | Another reminder that hits close to home.Every woman should read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. Society has convinced people, especially women, that they should ignore their gut. The concept of a woman's intuition gets mocked. But it's literally your body's way of communicating to yourself nonverbal and subconscious information that you've picked up on. It's one of the last holdouts of primal human instinct and we're told to disregard it because we can't rationally explain it or justify it. But you don't need to rationalize or ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 12:29 AM |
| 12 | Pastor slammed for telling wives to ‘lose weight,’ look less ‘butch’And notice he conveniently doesn't mention that Trump's a billionaire (or perhaps misrepresents himself as one, but either way he has an obscene amount of disposable income). Men conveniently like to forget their end of the bargain if they want a super conventionally attractive wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 09:17 PM |
| 27 | I’m waiting until someone tells her that if a man is willing to rape a woman he wouldn’t care what her underwear says....and that rapists know exactly what they’re doing. Also yes that is a woman victim blaming in the comments.This is what happens when society successfully convinces a sexual assault victim that she was sexually assaulted because she dIdN'T cOmMuNiCaTe EnOuGh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:58 PM |
| 43 | I cannot imagine anything more disgusting than being pulled back for forceful kisses when I already moved away once. let’s get rid of these harmful romanticism, they’re destroying young girls and grooming them for more abuse as they grow into young women.I think it used to be that rapists had to be psychopaths/sociopaths, people incapable of feeling empathy. But the porn industry changed this. Boys start watching porn when they've barely hit puberty, often even earlier, and they consume endless footage that is visually indecipherable from rape (and then when you look into what the porn industry's like for the women involved, full of human trafficking, coercion, and actual rape, sometimes these boys are straight up just watching women being raped… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:43 PM |
| 110 | I cannot imagine anything more disgusting than being pulled back for forceful kisses when I already moved away once. let’s get rid of these harmful romanticism, they’re destroying young girls and grooming them for more abuse as they grow into young women.There was this one time when my ex was about to throw a balled up piece of garbage in the trash but instead threw it at my head. I wasn't amused. He tried to get me to laugh it off, saying he'd just been fooling around. I said I didn't appreciate having garbage thrown at me. He went to kiss me and I turned my head away, so he pushed me over (I'd been sitting on the floor) and got on top of me. He repeatedly forced me to kiss him while saying, "Don't resist me." His tone was cloying, like this wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:30 PM |
| 33 | Men who lie about their careersAny man who says “engineer” in his title that isn’t just an engineer or civil engineer, is self-aggrandizing. These same scrotes get infuriated when a PhD like Jill Biden uses the Dr. title. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:33 PM |
| 10 | Men who lie about their careersI know a guy whose Tinder profile claimed he worked in management an an international retail company. In reality, he's the head clerk of the frozen foods department of a small town supermarket. He's the only person in his department, so he manages no one. The company he claimed to manage at is the parent company of the supermarket chain... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:29 PM |
| 96 | Vet vet vet to prevent this!Why do men think that if they feel nothing during sex, it’s the woman’s fault? It’s you, dude. You’re dead inside. ☝☝☝ Stop inflicting your mediocre penis on women, stop watching porn, and go to fucking therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:13 PM |
| 41 | Vet vet vet to prevent this!"I hope you know how traumatizing it is for me for anyone to know I'm an abusive piece of shit. 😢" I had a former friend pull something similar. She was involved in a really fucked up "prank" that targeted me and when I told people about it she contacted me and asked me to stop, because people knowing about what she did and talking about it was hurting her. It's hard to believe people like this actually exist outside of movies and tv shows but then there they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:11 PM |
| 30 | Vet vet vet to prevent this!And notice the implication that it's normal/understandable for a 32 year old man to be this "immature". He only did what any 32 year old infant would do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:06 PM |
| 77 | Vet vet vet to prevent this!This is why FDS cautions women about having sex too soon. Delaying is a priceless vetting tool to filter out scrotes who want to use and discard you. Most men are emotionally fucked up as a result of the way our culture socializes boys, and then rampant porn usage only made it worse. Sex is not an intimate act for them. Having sex with a LVM will not make him suddenly develop feelings for you, it will merely lead to him discarding you (next day, next month, a year down the road after he's used y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 47 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menSingle hetero men are HIGHLY scrutinized by adoption agencies. When single men do make the cut they're usually gay, willing to adopt children with disabilities, and willing to foster-to-adopt. Single hetero LVM get filtered out, assuming they could even scrape together the $40,000. And, let's be real, the vast majority of men want nothing to do with fatherhood if it means having to do all of the work. They only enjoy having children when there's a mother they can pawn all the responsibilities of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 05:43 PM |
| 41 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.THEY are MEN! Hahahaha the poor widdle men are not going to have the retirement they DESERVE! You don't UNDERSTAND. They NEED to be in a place financially where they can be finessed by a 20something year old sugar baby so they have nothing left for their descendants to inherit. They EARNED this. Their entire lives they DREAMED of that sweet, sweet retirement when they'd have all the time in the world to ply disadvantaged, traumatized young women with their disposable income to touch their disgus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:29 PM |
| 30 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it."We thought, oh, we would see a baby boom. But we just haven't seen it," said Dr. David Jaspan, chair of the Department of Gynecology and Obstetrics at Einstein Medical Center in Philadelphia. Hahaha, good. I had an abortion this pandemic and they can die mad about it. Abusive sociopathic ex aside, why the FUCK would I bring a baby into the world during a global pandemic when I'm not financially prepared to raise a child?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:23 PM |
| 112 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.Some 60 year old wanker's opinion about how many kids I need to have to support his Social Security and Medicare entitlements is of no matter to me. lmao, exactly. And maybe if these dinosaurs had practiced the fiscal responsibility they all love to wax poetic about and saved up for retirement instead of churning out kids to psychologically scar who they probably couldn't really afford anyway, they'd be in a better spot. They love to punish women with their forced-birth bullshit. Well, Edgar, ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:19 PM |
| 129 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menThey call us fat and ugly knowing they would probably struggle to win a beauty contest even if their only competition was an Orc from Mordor. LMAO. I legit find Lurtz more attractive than 75% of men. The phenomenon of modern women who're financially independent and so refuse to entangle themselves with a man, knowing it's not of benefit to them, is something that already started happening in China. The United States and other Western countries are just starting to catch up. When women can suppor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:59 PM |
| 31 | I came across an interesting troll today who said that all of our lesbian and bisexual members are fake accounts. Said they are all new accounts and implied all are created by the FDS mods. So please ladies make your presents known in this poll.$5 says he's living at home, leeching off his mother. Men like this who're overly and hostilely concerned with the affairs of women who seem to have an abundance of free time are usually financially abusing a woman. It creates a really uncomfortable sense of cognitive dissonance in someone when they're a misogynist who only has a home and food because of a woman's hard work, and rather than make them reevaluate their decision to hate women it often just makes them double down on it. This breed o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:13 PM |
| 51 | I came across an interesting troll today who said that all of our lesbian and bisexual members are fake accounts. Said they are all new accounts and implied all are created by the FDS mods. So please ladies make your presents known in this poll.It's also apparently hard for them to wrap their heads around the concept that dating women doesn't require a fucking survival guide (which is what FDS essentially is) because other women don't present a danger to us. They like to pride themselves on being the supposedly more logical sex but then absolutely refuse to actually look at the statistics and draw the obvious conclusion that men pose a constant threat to women and that by even dating them we're taking on an unacceptable level of risk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:05 PM |
| 11 | What kind of fxcked up country allows this to happen to women? Oh...In the US we overspend on police and love to fucking militarize them, meanwhile it's an acknowledged issue that rape and domestic violence are underreported in large part because of the inadequate and abusive way the police respond to victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 10:49 PM |
| 18 | What kind of fxcked up country allows this to happen to women? Oh...I think the worst aspect beyond the horrific individual trauma is that the criminal justice system is complicit in allowing violence against women to go unpunished. One of the (many) issues is that the criminal justice system is disproportionately male. The men handling these cases are pornsick and misogynistic, too. In the US, male police officers are actually disproportionately more likely to abuse their wives and girlfriends than the average male. It's no wonder they don't really give a shit … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 10:45 PM |
| 31 | What kind of fxcked up country allows this to happen to women? Oh...When he refused to make an appointment at the sleeping center for help, we had an argument and he raped me in the middle of the living room in the middle of the day. I was so confused because it felt so wrong but I didn’t recognise it for what was, but told him to never do that again to punish me. That night, I woke up with his hands around my neck. My ex raped me following an argument as well and I also didn't recognize it for what it was. The psychology involved in these situations is so stran… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 10:32 PM |
| 153 | Trauma BondingThis is SO important for women to know about. A trauma bond will have you returning to an abusive relationship like a dog returning to its own vomit because it's not just psychological. There's a biological, neurochemical component that you will feel the effects of in excruciating ways when you try to leave the person you're trauma bonded to. I have never felt more miserable in my entire life than in the 6 months following me breaking up with and going no contact with my abusive ex. I threw myse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 04:36 AM |
| 8 | I wish I was as strong as some of you are.start investing your energy in yourself. Therapy, journaling, friends, books on recovering, hobbies etc. In time you will get strong. This is so important, OP. When I started my healing journey I had to force myself to invest in myself. I was so low, so broken, so full of resentment towards myself, I couldn't even see the merit in taking care of myself. It felt like I was watering a dead plant. But I forced myself to, because that's what I read here and elsewhere to do. You can take small steps … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 04:04 AM |
| 5 | I wish I was as strong as some of you are.I know what it feels like to have been let down, neglected, abused, and violated to the point where you have no self worth or standards anymore. It's so easy to step into that pitfall of, "They're mentally ill but so am I. They're not that bad." If they're making you unhappy then yes, they are that bad. I honestly don't think I'm a strong person. I still struggle with self esteem and depression. I mostly credit survival instinct for getting me out of my shitty relationship with my abusive ex. If… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:53 AM |
| 13 | On the “nOt aLL mEn” menDamn, that bit about erroneously thinking the solution to male violence is a man resonated. I was attracted to my abusive ex in large part because he made me feel safe from other men. People (especially guys) in our social circle behaved differently around me because they knew disrespecting me meant disrespecting him. But that is, of course, not actually a cure for societal misogyny or male violence and is actually just a form of sexism. The fact that a lot of people were more respectful to me b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:41 AM |
| 13 | LmaoI love the implicit insinuation that crops up over and over again that women are expected to grow up under these same awful conditions (with the increased risk of sexual abuse/rape) and yet still develop into functioning members of society. Those same girlfriends and wives having to play therapist probably went through hell themselves but society didn't give them a pass to burn the world down because of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:27 AM |
| 9 | LmaoMy abusive ex is a literal rapist murderer thief and fully expects that life will provide him with a woman who will love him anyway. That's one of the overarching qualities of LVM and NVM, they have such an entitlement. If I'd done half the things my ex has I would feel like the biggest piece of shit on earth and I would never even consider inflicting my presence on another person in any meaningful, intimate fashion. He's fully aware and open about what a monster he is, so it's not like he's one… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:23 AM |
| 29 | Advice for a man who married a gorgeous woman with whom he has nothing in common. I loved her response.I was like, bro, she's a management consultant with an MBA and makes 3x your salary. Pretty sure she's smarter than you! Oh my GOD, the secondhand embarrassment I'm feeling for this scrote rn. 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:51 AM |
| 77 | Advice for a man who married a gorgeous woman with whom he has nothing in common. I loved her response.And this is why it's impossible to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship with a LVM. They don't respect women as human beings so they will always be unsatisfied by partnerships with us. It doesn't matter if you check every box on his list, you will never be enough because he fails to recognize your very humanity. His soul craves partnership with another person but his mind is so poisoned he can't truly view you as a person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:48 AM |
| 143 | Advice for a man who married a gorgeous woman with whom he has nothing in common. I loved her response.(she probably isn't actually) Yeah, I don't get why reality TV watching is somehow shorthand for a lack of intelligence. Plenty of intelligent people watch reality TV for the entertainment factor. Lowbrow, trashy stuff can be highly entertaining. Is she supposed to watch nothing but documentaries and the news? I'd also bet a million dollars that her emotional IQ would blow his out of the water. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 125 | Advice for a man who married a gorgeous woman with whom he has nothing in common. I loved her response.Him: Haha, pp goes brrr! Also him: Oh no, I can't discuss quantum mechanics with her! This marriage is a mistake! If only there'd been some way I could have known this about her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:41 AM |
| 12 | Advice for a man who married a gorgeous woman with whom he has nothing in common. I loved her response.I have an acquaintance who I used to be childhood friends with who married a woman based purely on physical attraction. They have virtually nothing in common and he admitted that, were she a man, he wouldn't even want to be friends with her. She's not a bad person though, from what I know about her she's perfectly nice. He tried to leave her like a month after they got married but gave in to pressure from friends and family and went back to her and they popped out a couple kids. Now they live a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 02:38 AM |
| 29 | Imagine trying to find a gynecologist in network and these are the only options 😭😭🥺(male therapists cannot be trusted with vulnerable women IMO) I completely agree. It's a lot like white therapists and patients/clients of color. There are some things you simply can't fully wrap your head around unless you've experienced it yourself, misogyny and racism being the biggest two. Most white therapists haven't spent even 5 seconds thinking about the transgenerational trauma resulting from slavery and Jim Crow. Similarly, most male therapists haven't really considered the mental heal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:32 AM |
| 77 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"Exactly. For all their moral grandstanding about "consent" these "sex pozzy" morons only seem to care about consent when women are saying "yes" to men. If a woman says "no" to men they mock and demonize her for being "sex negative" and lame. This is something I've seen a disturbing amount of on Reddit. They'll describe a woman as emotionally abusive for "withholding sex" or for refusing to have sex the way her pornsick husband/boyfriend demands. Zero respect for our right to say no. Zero acknowl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:32 AM |
| 50 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"They should know. You're looking for a man, not someone you have to teach to be decent. They should already have it together. The fucking truth. I'm not looking to finish someone's half baked manchild. If I want to raise a baby I'll give birth to one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:25 AM |
| 66 | Making a man wait to have sex is a vetting strategy that has NOTHING to do with "purity culture"I'd like for the men who accuse us of purity culture to experience what it's like to try to get STD tested during a pandemic. Planned Parenthood wasn't testing. They told me to try the county department of health. They weren't testing. Referred me to a local community health center typically meant for underserved, at-risk communities. Thankfully they were testing but it doesn't feel good using resources that weren't meant for you when COVID already has them stretched thin. Then I'd like for thos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 04:23 AM |
| 65 | She didn't lieWhenever I talk about how the cultural expectation that women remove their body hair has us mimicking prepubescent bodies and that the practice was artificially indoctrinated into us by companies looking to sell a product, there's usually at least one woman who feels the need to chime in that she TOTALLY shaves her legs for herself. It's like they're incapable of recognizing that they weren't raised in a vacuum and that they internalized the sexism our society is steeped in. Do they honestly bel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 04:48 AM |
| 14 | 50-50 is a lie.It is child abuse to reproduce with a man like this. They will psychologically scar your child/ren. You're not making your potential child pay, you're saving them from a shitty life with an awful father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:28 PM |
| 111 | How men use their children as props in their OLD profiles and glorify doing less than the bare minimum of parentingI still don't know how I feel about dating men with children tbh unless he's a widower it's an automatic pass for me. Statistically speaking, he either got dumped for being a selfish prick or he left the mother of his child/ren in pursuit of greener pastures after he allowed her to sacrifice her body, career, independence, etc. to give him the gift of fatherhood (probably also leaving her with primary custody, the emotional labor of which is indescribable). It's incredibly rare for a HVM to have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:38 AM |
| 42 | How men use their children as props in their OLD profiles and glorify doing less than the bare minimum of parentingI'm still scratching my head as to what's supposed to be attractive about a man who couldn't hold together his relationship with the mother of his child/ren. They had literally every fucking reason in the world to love and cherish that woman and they weren't capable of it. And I'm supposed to be swooning? Fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:29 AM |
| 56 | This Child Abuse Expert Says Many Abusers Started by Watching Mainstream PornAbuse expert Lundy Bancroft published a book in 2002 (Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men) that lists porn usage as one of the indicators for whether an abusive/controlling man is statistically likely to become dangerous when his victim tries to leave him. Nearly 20 years ago he made this observation. Behavioral science has known for a really long time now that pornography contributes to men becoming violent predators but we still can't seem to get society to ackno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:27 AM |
| 110 | 50-50 is a lie.I was in a really fucked up, abusive relationship in which I was raped and reproductively coerced. His goal was to trap me with a baby asap and I am so, so lucky my survival instinct kicked in and took me to Planned Parenthood. This woman is in an abusive relationship. He got her to marry him 11 months into their relationship. He pressured her into getting pregnant soon after and is now being a callous, selfish asshole and it'll only get worse. I guarantee there's a lot more she isn't telling. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 06:16 AM |
| 23 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.This is a great idea. I wish I'd done it with my ex. I was approached by an acquaintance yesterday who asked for the opportunity to get to know me better. I pointed out to him that we're in the middle of a pandemic, he suggested we could talk online. As I mentally debated it he could sense my hesitation and asked me if he should ask again in a couple days. I appreciated that because it's giving me some time to think and evaluate him/the situation. I'm going to start a log right now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 07:31 AM |
| 702 | The ✨Perfect✨ WomanBody hair and cellulite are both secondary sex characteristics in adult women. It's such a perversion of nature that men find them repulsive. People really underestimate the power of socialization and sat by and allowed corporations to ingrain in both men and women that looking like a grown adult is unattractive, just so they could sell shit like razors and workout gear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:33 AM |
| 33 | How to be emotionally abusive 101My ex did shit like this. Made a point of letting me know he thought one of my coworkers is attractive. Told me my ass has potential if I do the right exercises. It spectacularly backfired because I bought into it to the point that I felt so unattractive and so undesirable, I couldn't fathom why he was with me. Came to the conclusion that he was probably using me, which he definitely was. He most likely thought that if he lowered my self esteem enough I'd never leave him, not anticipating that t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:49 AM |
| 71 | Why are they so lazy??Male psychology in a nutshell. Their greatest fear is rejection so ours must be too! What I'm scared of is being raped by yet another piece of shit like the ones I foolishly allowed access to my person despite them not doing even the bare minimum to demonstrate that they valued me or even saw my humanity. Me taking on the masculine role of pursuer meant they didn't get vetted, didn't have to prove themselves, and it left me wide open. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 06:45 AM |
| 93 | Why are they so lazy??Some men out there will accept the invitation of literally any woman just so they have a bangmaid and higher social status that comes with having a girlfriend. While they're with their placeholder girlfriend (who they probably don't pay for on dates that they also don't organize), they're also out initiating with the women they actually like ☝☝☝ This is observable fact. These men will get placeholder girlfriends and use them to get leveled up (using her for emotional and financial support) until… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 06:39 AM |
| 77 | Why are they so lazy??Women are like pizza to LVM. He may not be particularly hungry, he may not be in the mood for pizza, it may not be his favorite kind of pizza, it may not be very good pizza at all, but if it's free he'll gladly take a slice when offered. If men would turn down women they're not really interested in then I MIGHT consider the proposal that women should do some pursuing. But unfortunately that's not the reality we live in. A LVM will string a woman along for years for girlfriend/wife perks and easy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 06:35 AM |
| 5 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!I had a vibrator for awhile (it ended up breaking, lol) but it just didn't hit right. tbh, what I really crave is physical intimacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 03:22 PM |
| 13 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!This is spot on tbh. I have had very pleasurable sex but obviously without ever getting orgasms out of it I was never satisfied and would always be left frustrated. It's definitely more about the feeling of being wanted and the hope that someone actually gives a shit about me (spoiler alert, because they were all LVM and all sexually abusive in some form or another none of them actually did). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 03:20 PM |
| 5 | Don't trust porn when wanting to learn about "the sex" 😂I don't think he would have minded if I'd "accidentally" gotten pregnant. He'd already asked me if I wanted kids (I lied and told him no), asked if I'd ever been pregnant before (when he knew I don't have any kids, so basically asking if I've ever gotten an abortion, miscarried, or given a child up for adoption???), hinted at a pregnancy fetish, and mentioned that he was looking for someone to "settle down and have kids with" for his "legacy". He told me he makes 50k. Which isn't a bad income as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 03:16 PM |
| 19 | Y'all hear that...??100% behind this message in terms of women focusing on THEMSELVES and leveling up. But not behind it if the message is that we should lower our standards. Never lower your standards, but do strive to meet them yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 05:02 AM |
| 117 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!It’s a travesty that he isn’t even hot and is still pulling this shit Right?! Dude looks like he's probably about 5'6" and covering up a receding hairline. A lot of women hope that if they entertain the ugly little weirdo he'll be so thankful she gave him a chance that he'll treat her well. NOPE. It either just boosts their ego and makes them think they're hot shit or they'll be so insecure that they'll become toxic as fuck because they don't think they'll be able to hold on to you. I made this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:57 AM |
| 64 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!Pre-FDS I once approached a man proposing a FWB arrangement. He'd given me his number a few months previous, so I knew he was interested in me, but he'd said something that'd indicated he wasn't interested in a serious relationship. He was a scumbag with a fuckboy reputation and I found him repulsive yet was highly physically attracted to him. I thought that made him the perfect candidate. Someone I wouldn't develop feelings for, who wouldn't develop feelings for me, who I could have casual sex … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:48 AM |
| 79 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!If he puts in less effort once he gets sex he's not a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:30 AM |
| 122 | Reminder: Friends with benefits is a scam!I have a high libido but promised myself I'd stay celibate for at least a year after I got out of an abusive relationship last July. Realistically, it'll be longer because I'm not going to attempt to date before I've done a lot of healing and have built up self-love and I still have a lot of growth to do. No matter how much I crave dick it's been helpful to remind myself that not a single man has ever made me orgasm. I'm not ready to seriously date and casual sex is a zero sum game for women. Ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:25 AM |
| 31 | Don't trust porn when wanting to learn about "the sex" 😂I had a 40 year old "FWB" (who was no friend to me and was the only one benefitting) who thought the pull out method is a legitimate form of birth control. Scrotes are idiots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:04 AM |
| 43 | Don't trust porn when wanting to learn about "the sex" 😂The one time I tried anal the LVM I was sleeping with tried to go from my ass to my vagina. In hindsight I'm actually surprised I called him out on it and didn't allow him to do it. I said something like, "Do you want to give me an infection?" I had such low self esteem, no backbone, no boundaries. He'd stealthed me one night and after that never used a condom again and I just... allowed it. Despite not being on birth control and despite him not knowing his STD status. Total madness. He also fin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:02 AM |
| 27 | if a man uses the term “simp”, cut him off. men lose it when they see a woman genuinely being loved.Have they not heard of love? I'm pretty thoroughly convinced that LVM are incapable of love. It doesn't factor into their equations because they simply can't fathom it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 06:49 PM |
| 74 | if a man uses the term “simp”, cut him off. men lose it when they see a woman genuinely being loved.They want to make women so insecure and desperate for them. A ton of men are deeply, DEEPLY insecure and this is how it manifests. Most of them know they're low value, even if only subconsciously, so they try to target women who're even more insecure in the hopes that they'll be afraid of losing a man even if he's objectively low value. Ladies, it doesn't matter what you look like. It doesn't matter whether you have a successful high paying career or you're grinding away at a service job that pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 06:47 PM |
| 14 | A man who is not respecting his own health is not ready to be in a relationshipI'm not changing anyone's diapers or becoming a full time nursemaid when they're old and sick. My ex had been told by doctors that he was probably going to develop pretty severe osteoarthritis. His joints were already really bad and he wasn't even 30 yet. And it's not like it was genetic, it was from years of him being a reckless thug and constantly getting injured in fights (he survived being stabbed 10 times), breaking his hands punching people/things, and doing shit like jumping off fire esca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 03:08 AM |
| 14 | A man who is not respecting his own health is not ready to be in a relationshipThis is so incredibly true. How someone takes care of their body/health speaks to their maturity level. If they eat like a toddler, rest assured they have the emotional intelligence of one. If he constantly whines about his aches, pains, and ailments but won't do anything about it, he's trying to coax you into a mother/nurse role in which you'll either take care of him yourself or schedule all his doctor visits for him (and remind him of these appointments, of course!). Married men live longer t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:56 AM |
| 89 | Saw this on tik tok and I thought it was sweetA huge part of why so many women have such low standards is that very few of us get to see what loving, healthy relationships actually look like. All we see around us is low value men doing the absolute bare minimum and we really get brainwashed into thinking that's just how it is and what's to be expected. It's even in most of the media we consume, the biggest exception being romance movies which get lambasted for being unrealistic (and even a lot of romance movies have LVM characters). And now… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:34 AM |
| 17 | Never let anyone shame you for taking precautions!When I went no-contact with my abusive ex I got to find out how many ways there are to circumvent being blocked. If someone has your phone number and still wants to text/call you, you're not going to be able to stop them unless you change your number. Definitely think twice about giving someone your number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:13 AM |
| 85 | If men have anything it’s the audacityjust uglier and will give you uglier kids. LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:07 AM |
| 53 | Creepy teacher sexualizes underage high school kids. Sleeps with on in their early 20s. Proceeds to act like a moral god while other creeps applaud his judgement."Yes, and anybody who contends otherwise is being dishonest with themselves and you." This is something that depraved pedophiles the world over parrot. They want so desperately to think every man is just as much of a sick degenerate as them, but it's not true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 02:04 AM |
| 24 | Literally every guy I meet that I’m nice too thinks this. It’s why they hate women who are snarky. Unkind women are the worst thing on the planet according to them.I thank my lucky stars that the flavor of ASPD I got caught up with was stupid sociopath and not intelligent psychopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 03:44 AM |
| 29 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.It's important because it has cultural significance. Artificially manufactured by companies or not, Valentine's Day is a thing and it's here to stay and men know that it's typically important to women. They know. So it serves as a useful vetting tool. If they do nothing, if they halfass it, it's because they simply don't care to do something special for you when they're fully aware there's a cultural expectation that they do something. Would it be okay for a man to do nothing for you on Christma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 12:46 AM |
| 6 | Reminder to watch out for white-worshiping menThe sad thing is that it worked on me, at least for awhile. I already had low self esteem and a truckload of trauma issues so it was easy for me to just internalize it rather than be like, "wtf, why is this loser constantly trying to make me feel like shit for not being the race he prefers?" And this is why it's so, so important for women to get themselves right before they date and enter into relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 11:58 PM |
| 98 | Queens don't waste our energy on greasy ass napkins.My ex would say shit like this all the time. "I'm a different breed." When I found him he'd been sleeping on an inflatable mattress in his mom and step dad's unfinished basement for a year. They didn't give him a proper bedroom because him staying with them was supposed to be temporary and they didn't want him to get too comfortable. He had a part time job at a deli and often worked as few as 16 hours a week, and he'd call out or go in late all the time. He was an alcoholic with a Xanax addictio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 03:43 PM |
| 13 | WHO is teaching us? Maybe the sky high rates of rape and murder? The abuse women receive on a daily basis? Nah, #notallmen! But please don't dress like that to the party.And what does ugly/unattractive men have to with it? These were normal looking men. He’s trying to say we’d enjoy being raped, kidnapped, and brutalized by attractive men and that’s bullshit. And totally ignores the reality that a lot of victims were raped by men they'd had consensual sex with before like husbands, boyfriends, FWBs, etc. I was sexually abused by all my intimate partners. My most recent boyfriend was the worst out of all of them and, while I'll be the first to admit I can have we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 06:03 AM |
| 7 | WHO is teaching us? Maybe the sky high rates of rape and murder? The abuse women receive on a daily basis? Nah, #notallmen! But please don't dress like that to the party.I wish someone had taught me to fear men. I was molested by two men when I was a child and as an adult have been sexually abused and/or raped by every man I've been intimate with. And terrible experience after terrible experience I naively never developed a grudge against men, didn't let it sour me against men as a whole, when it should have. It would have been so much better for my mental, emotional, and physical health for me to develop a fear of all men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 05:43 AM |
| 38 | Reminder to watch out for white-worshiping menAny kind of fetishization of race needs to be a deal breaker. It's fine for men of color to have a preference for their own race, but if you're not that race and a guy feels the need to vocalize his preference then it's probably a manipulation tactic. My ex is Black and Latino and he felt the need to tell me on multiple occasions how I wasn't his type, because he prefers Black and Latina women. It was part of his overall campaign to drag down my self esteem and make me feel like I wasn't good en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 05:26 AM |
| 56 | This is how we arrived hereI read a really disturbing account once where, iirc, a woman described how she found out that her husband's friend had made sexually inappropriate comments about the sounds she'd made while giving birth (moans of pain). I guess the scrote was in the birthing center to lend "emotional support" to his bro and could hear her laboring from the waiting room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:07 AM |
| 44 | This is how we arrived hereOne of the worst times I was raped was when I was crying and my (then) boyfriend forced himself on me. He'd raped me before but on this occasion I put up more physical resistance than I ever had before (my typical trauma response is to freeze or fawn). He had to peel my underwear off as I struggled to keep it on, then force my hands out of the way so he could insert himself into me. I know intimately how soulless he is but that was a new depth. What kind of sick fuck can get hard in the presence… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 08:03 AM |
| 8 | Is it just me or...Definitely not too angry. Women are rarely angry enough. We're forced fed the rhetoric that men are logical beings yet we have to tip toe around them to avoid hurting their delicate feelings, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:23 AM |
| 39 | If he wanted to, HE WOULDFingers crossed for lesbians. God, I wish that were me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:20 AM |
| 35 | Guys making fun of noises you make during sex. Just why?I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend raping me and he later had the audacity to complain that me saying he was hurting me was a turnoff. The vast majority of men are scum. And remember, nobody is as nice as a guy who hasn't fucked you yet. They'll do whatever it takes to get you into bed and once they've achieved that, all bets are off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:16 AM |
| 8 | Just finished her book, very much recommendJust bought it! I didn't know it was out in English yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:12 AM |
| 16 | mUh SpErM qUaLiTyIt's such a huge fucking red flag when someone waxes poetic about blue eyes/blonde hair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:07 AM |
| 80 | I was lurking on a subreddit and found this "HVM" lmaoLMAO. Future isn't half the man the one raising his son is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:04 AM |
| 49 | I was lurking on a subreddit and found this "HVM" lmaothey don’t care about status They didn't want those sour grapes anyway! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:01 AM |
| 186 | I was lurking on a subreddit and found this "HVM" lmaoThey really like misrepresenting us as gold diggers despite the fact that we say, exhaustively, that wealth doesn't make a man HV and that women need to be financially independent. It's easier to straw man us than to try to come up with actual rebuttals to our points, because there are none. We're substantiated by studies, statistics, objective observation of the world, and our experiences. There are the people who came here, actually bothered to read, became deeply uncomfortable by the cognitiv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:54 AM |
| 223 | If your man respects you, he won’t let you into a dirty and untidy home.🔊 If he has any respect for you, the house will be clean when you get there. 🔊 A high value man's home will never be dirtier than standard "lived in" anyway, but when he knows you're coming over? He'll have it guest-level clean. Women need to stop tolerating slovenly men. If he doesn't keep his own place clean then he sure as shit isn't going to help you keep a house you (hopefully never) have together in the future clean. Women will really pull a surprised Pikachu face when the guy whose place … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:14 AM |
| 10 | Women are 6x more likely to end up divorced if they are diagnosed with cancer or MS, than if their male partners were facing the same illness. Credit: IG @wokeblackprincessI only know two high value men and one of them is my uncle who's stayed with his wife who has MS. And that's not even what makes him high value, that's just the basic bare minimum that any spouse should do but it's so rare in men that it's noteworthy. "In sickness and in health" means nothing to most men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 02:50 AM |
| 225 | No questions. Blocked 🙅🏻♀️🚫I'm so glad messages like these are finally getting out there. Why would you EVER call someone out for breadcrumbing? You actually want someone like that in your life? Or have you just deluded yourself into thinking reading them the riot act is going to change them? Block them and get on with your life. Stop spending energy on people who don't deserve it. And be more discerning about who you allow a presence in your life. idc if it's a husband, boyfriend, potential romantic partner, friend, or f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 10:03 AM |
| 31 | I’m so sorry for sharing this...LADIES. Pilonidal disease. A type of skin infection which typically occurs as a cyst between the cheeks of the buttocks. Mysteriously occurs more often in males than females. I had a male friend who had to get surgery because his ass cyst got infected. These guys don't wipe their asses properly, don't wash their asses properly, and they get infections. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 05:01 AM |
| 106 | Is this a red flag? My boyfriend got rather upset over a misleading photo of us over the holiday and it really put me off.have been dating for a 4 years now 🚨 Red flag. It doesn't take 4 years for a HVM to propose. Men will commonly admit that they knew within a month of dating whether or not they thought they'd found the woman they wanted to marry. A HVM would have proposed to you already. Only LVM drag out the boyfriend/girlfriend stage this long. had he known we had heirloom jewelry 🚨 Red flag. What's with this collective "we"? I actually had to go back and reread to double check and see if it was his mother w… | /r/askFDS | 02/02/21 07:48 AM |
| 141 | This Sub is so empowering that I can't stand other relationship subredditsAnd it's really fucking disturbing how differently they respond to scenarios, depending on the roles and genders involved. Man: I make really good money at my firm, more than enough to support my family on my sole income, and my wife has been a SAHM (which she's done a really good job at, to her credit). But now our kids are in high school/college and she's saying she doesn't even want to clean anymore! Asked if we could get a weekly cleaning service since it's something "we" can easily afford… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:57 AM |
| 50 | This Sub is so empowering that I can't stand other relationship subredditsI love that the advice here is always to respect and value yourself enough to simply leave. Stop wasting time trying to communicate when it doesn't work. Stop trying to make a grown ass man love, value, and respect you when he clearly doesn't. Stop trying to change people. Prioritize yourself, always. On other subs people clutch their pearls when you tell women to just cut their losses and leave. "wHy Do PeOpLe AlWaYs JuMp To DiVoRcE oVeR tHe SmAlLeSt ThInGs?!" "yOu ThInK sHe ShOuLd ThRoW aWaY [… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:14 AM |
| 21 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedlmao I hope his coworker is the water cooler talk type and this blows up in his face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 10:19 PM |
| 116 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedThe other very sad thing "We both want kids, and he's said we can have kids without a marriage." I'll never understand why people act like getting married is a bigger deal than creating human life together. Why would you ever be willing to reproduce with someone you wouldn't marry? If you think you can do better than them, if you don't trust them, etc. then whyyyy would you have kids with them??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 10:14 PM |
| 35 | LVM hobbies only exist for instant self-gratification or attention.I love the outdoors. Camping, swimming, going for walks, bike rides, hikes. If it's outside, I'm in. I love to travel (before the pandemic I'd use my vacation time to travel for a couple weeks every summer). I love live music and going to concerts. I do Postcrossing on and off, cross stitch, dabble in watercolors, go antiquing/thrifting (I'm really into home decor and love to decorate my space), and I read voraciously. News articles, Wikipedia, books. If I'm not at work or doing one of my other … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:12 AM |
| 13 | Should I tell him how wrong he was to assault me?I'm so sorry he did that to you. That was rape. You were crying and in pain. A non-rapist wouldn't have kept going. I experienced something similar when I lost my virginity. I kept telling him it hurt. He'd dedicated about 5 seconds to foreplay. He later complained that it'd been a turnoff, me telling him it hurt. I didn't say no either, but consent isn't only verbal. A non-rapist wouldn't have kept going. I understand that urge to contact someone who violated you, to tell them they're a sub-hum… | /r/askFDS | 28/01/21 07:06 PM |
| 43 | I just read 85% of affairs start in the workplace"He's already in a relationship you should leave him" lmao. "Sorry to have to be the one to tell you that you're the side chick. Yes, even though you're the one living with him wearing the ring." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:34 AM |
| 40 | A male once told me 'If his apartment is too well done/tidy, there's an 85% chance another woman is in the picture' and shit has added up sinceIt reaks of entitlement, they have no idea/ concept of the time and energy expended into making a house a home. This is one of those things I despise men for not acknowledging. Women turn houses into homes and they try to act like there's no value in that. But we've all seen how they live when there isn't a woman present. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:33 AM |
| 21 | I just read 85% of affairs start in the workplaceI work someplace that has a blasé attitude towards coworkers dating/sleeping together and it lulled me into thinking it wasn't a big deal. Huuuge mistake. I now get to work in the same building (though thankfully not the same department) as the former FWB who stealthed me. I wish I could go back in time and introduce younger me to FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:29 AM |
| 44 | I just read 85% of affairs start in the workplaceDating at work is a TERRIBLE, TERRIBLE idea and you should never do it. I don't care how HV that man appears, he is not worth jeopardizing your career, your livelihood, or your work history over. Your independence and your income need to be a priority in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:25 AM |
| 320 | ...what’s YOUR worst case?It's a lot like how a ton of white people refuse to acknowledge the systemic racism that runs rampant in the US. It's something white people have had the privilege of never having to experience, witness, or think about, so as far as a lot of us are concerned it either doesn't exist or couldn't possibly be as bad as people say (otherwise surely we'd have heard about it!). Nevermind that slavery wasn't actually criminalized in the US until December of 1941 when they actually bothered to start pros… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:16 AM |
| 379 | ...what’s YOUR worst case?It's so depressing talking about my experiences on Reddit (outside the protective enclave of FDS), having been molested as a child and sexually abused by every man I've been intimate with in adulthood, only to receive a barrage of "nOt AlL mEn!!!" if I dare to insinuate whatsoever that there's a worldwide problem with a good majority of men. Imagine having your head so far up your own ass that you think a woman encountering predator after predator makes her a mythical statistical outlier (despit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 07:00 AM |
| 33 | Another example of why vetting can never end, no matter how long the relationshipThat's what I did when it finally sunk in that my abusive ex was trying to baby trap me. I'm lucky he wasn't very smart, because that dumb motherfucker started dropping his façade (which wasn't even that good to begin with) not even a week after we found out I was pregnant. He really thought he had me. If he'd been conniving enough to love bomb and hardcore future fake for a few months, he probably would have. But at only 6 weeks from conception? When it wasn't even a fetus yet*? Boy, bye. *Not … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:38 AM |
| 59 | They will always make “single mothers” the villains to shift blame from male predators or male parental child neglect.Wow. So that girl was the victim of a predator, abandoned by her mother, probably no one in her family sat her down and explained in detail how much her life would be impacted if she kept the pregnancy/baby, and it's possible no one did her the kindness of offering to take her to get an abortion. It's probably also safe to assume she was raised internalizing the anti-abortion rhetoric that's rife in this country, so even if she made the free choice to keep the pregnancy when offered alternatives… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 08:50 PM |
| 31 | Men who want kidsLet them know about the husband stitch too while you're at it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 07:16 AM |
| 70 | Men who want kidsI have a cousin who's an accountant and lives in the suburbs just outside a major city. She was debating continuing to work after having her first daughter but when she did the math she realized her entire salary would be going to daycare, so now she's a SAHM until her girls are older. Unless you live near family who're willing to babysit for free, make really good money, or can finagle working from home and multitasking, continuing to work while your kids are still young is unrealistic. And eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 07:15 AM |
| 124 | How do we slow down our own sexual impulses?Literally tell him it's going to take awhile before you're ready to have sex. If he tries to push that boundary then he's a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 05:07 AM |
| 121 | "Most women dont have a problem with their boyfriends watching porn" - 27yo MI've come across a lot of stories of women saying they do that shit where they point out attractive women to their man so they can "check her out together" because she's just SO cool and sexually liberated and NoT lIkE oThEr GiRls. It's hard for me to think of anything more obviously a play for male validation. It's so pathetic and desperate and I have a really hard time imagining that men don't see through it. And when they know you're that fucking pathetic and desperate they'll use it to their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 04:24 AM |
| 18 | Forgive yourself if you can't follow FDS principles perfectly. It's okay to slip up as long as you recognize your mistakes and you vow to do better next time.This is probably one of the hardest things to grapple with for us women who want to have children. All my life I envisioned a future wherein I'd be happily married, have children, and stay home to raise them. Now I have to face the reality that this future will likely never happen. I debated whether I still want to have kids if I can't do it under those ideal circumstances. And I do still think they're ideal. I do believe it's better for children to have two high value parents, rather than just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 07:56 AM |
| 72 | What factors are associated with recent intimate partner violence? Findings from the WHO multi-country study on women's health and domestic violenceLundy Bancroft notes that financial abuse is a LOT more common than people realize. My ex moved in with me, wasn't paying any bills, barely ever paid for food, had me driving him all over the place yet never contributing to gas, insurance, or repairs, and he even had me buying weed and booze for him. He could straight up just ask to "borrow" cash and I'd give it to him. The one time I called him out on taking advantage of me, his vibe got so dark and threatening it disturbed me. And it lasted fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 05:21 AM |
| 76 | What factors are associated with recent intimate partner violence? Findings from the WHO multi-country study on women's health and domestic violence✅ Cohabiting with a partner prior to marriage ✅ Not knowing his relationship past and how he's treated exes ✅ The woman is the breadwinner Paying the groom's family a dowry ✅ Your partner's mother or your mother was abused ✅ Different levels of completion of formal education ✅ Frequent drunkenness Bingo! What do I win? Oh, trauma? Okay. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 05:03 AM |
| 368 | Saw This On FB and Loved It, Thought You Queens Would Enjoy It.I think about this interview almost daily. Men are a luxury. You don't need them. Be your own rich man. I also think a lot about something I read once that went something like, "If you were independently wealthy would you still want to be in a relationship? Would you wait to be in a relationship to have children?" And it dawned on me that (for myself, at least) the desire for a man is pretty linked to the desire for financial stability and security, the end goal being an environment in which you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 04:59 AM |
| 3 | I saw this on another site and just had to share it here. Holy f.Oh, it gets worse. Him not brushing his teeth might have been the least bad thing about him. I'm pretty sure he has antisocial personality disorder. He was abusive and tried to babytrap me. He has such a grandiose, narcissistic self image that it was like he couldn't even acknowledge all the ways he stood to improve his life, much less take action to actually do it. He talked about his present situation like it was a temporary bump in the road, but he'd been living with his mom and stepdad for m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 04:46 AM |
| 21 | LVM (BF) Is Showing Out! Help?!"Are you my girl or my roommate?" THEY REALLY SNITCH ON THEMSELVES. THIS IS IT, LADIES. This is at the heart of the LVM mentality. When they're living with a roommate they know there's an expectation of equality, that everyone should contribute to the household and clean up after themselves with no expectation of anyone expressing gratitude for it because that's what you do when you're an adult and you don't get cookies for it. But when they're living with a girlfriend they fully expect to have … | /r/askFDS | 23/01/21 07:48 PM |
| 38 | Why the fuck would a grown ass man need help with grooming, nevertheless help US pay for it?hElP yOuR gUy LeArN hOw To WaSh HiS aSs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 09:04 AM |
| 61 | Armie Hammer scandal is waking up some libfems about "kink" cultureI'm so glad women are finally waking up and realizing this. It's time to usher in a new era of feminism. Sex positivity was coopted by corporations and men to use us, as they always have. If mainstream culture and 99% of men are in support of it, it's probably not good for us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 09:02 AM |
| 40 | I saw this on another site and just had to share it here. Holy f.The truly sad thing is that there are so many PickMes out there with such low standards for themselves that he really may be able to turn around and immediately replace her. When I first got with my (now ex) boyfriend he ended a situationship with another woman to pursue me instead. He was living with his mom and stepdad, didn't even have a bedroom (at night he'd sleep in their unfinished basement on a blowup mattress he had to stow away every morning), no car, a shitty part time job, alcohol an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:48 AM |
| 48 | Vetting men while on a date: he should dress like he wants to be there and value you enough to be on time.Alternatively, he's so low value that he doesn't EVER put effort into his appearance or details like being on time. He could very enthusiastically be going out with a millionaire supermodel and still show up in stained jeans and a crusty hoodie, because someone told him the lie that he deserves to be accepted and loved JUST AS HE IS and he believed it. And that's who he is, low value and low effort. Avoid these men like the plague. When I was a PickMe I dated a guy like this for a minute and he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:44 AM |
| 48 | Paige Lorenze put out a great statement about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Armie Hammer.It's hard to blame women when we're raised in such a fucking quagmire of bullshit that molds us into PickMes with no self worth. It's almost gotten to the point that if you weren't blessed with decent parents, you're a lost cause. It wasn't until I discovered FDS that I came across all these concepts collected together and presented in such a logical fashion with so much evidence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:29 AM |
| 248 | Dumped Him For Suggesting That I Pay Rent to Temporarily Stay at His HouseAh, third wave feminism. Giving "enlightened" men an excuse to financially take advantage of women since 1991. This shit is so insidious and common now. So many men benefit off their women not only in all the wifey ways but also financially. Tell me HOW we're expected to be available (and traditionally femininely groomed) 24/7 for disappointing, orgasmless sex, do a disproportionate amount of the childrearing (after our bodies and health are ravaged by pregnancy and childbirth), a disproportiona… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 08:20 AM |
| 49 | Paige Lorenze put out a great statement about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Armie Hammer.I'm someone who consented to sexual abuse. I self harmed as a child and teenager and going into adulthood it segued into allowing men to abuse me instead. I believe I was molested when I was a child (there's a blank spot where the memory should be, but I can remember everything that happened immediately leading up to it) and it resulted in a ton of behavioral issues that went unacknowledged and unaddressed by my parents. I had such low self esteem and contempt towards myself. And it wasn't just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 05:18 AM |
| 123 | Paige Lorenze put out a great statement about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Armie Hammer.God, this shit pisses me off. The BDSM community doesn't get to "no true Scotsman" fallacy their way out of this. Abusive "doms" are the rule, not the exception. Talk to any "sub" who's been active in the scene and you'll likely hear countless horror stories about all the "fake doms" they encountered, how difficult it was to locate a guy who'd truly respect her boundaries, listen to her safe words, engage in aftercare, etc. These women are already "consenting" to all sorts of abuse but that's no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 04:56 AM |
| 129 | Paige Lorenze put out a great statement about the abuse she suffered at the hands of Armie Hammer.I've been traumatized by sex that I consented to. Men used to get in trouble for seducing women. It used to be a recognized phenomenon that you could hijack someone's libido and use it to manipulate them. Traumatic bonding is "the misuse of fear, excitement, sexual feelings, and sexual physiology to entangle another person". It's a very powerful manipulation, using someone's instinctual drive to copulate against them. And when someone isn't taught how to master their own instincts, to learn how … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 04:46 AM |
| 21 | What do you think about this?Personally, I have a hard time wrapping my head around the concept of a truly HVM being incapable of being attracted to a woman in her natural state. Yes, hairy legs and all. Women should be allowed to exist in as natural a state as men are allowed to exist, without having to wear makeup or remove body hair. I'm not going to hold myself to a standard that I wouldn't hold a man to. tbh, if a man can't find a natural woman attractive he's probably pornsick. There is not a single logical reason why… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 08:02 AM |
| 33 | The Tea ☕️Flashback to the post over on AITA or Relationships the other day in which a guy was complaining because his wife didn't have a job and didn't work - aside from keeping house and raising their children, which he said she was great at. He also made more than enough to support them alone. He just straight up doesn't respect that housework and childcare are work. Thankless, 24/7 work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:16 PM |
| 6 | At least we realized our mistake... 😅I was going above and beyond doing wifey shit for someone who was abusing me. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 01:33 AM |
| 30 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyI wish I'd thought to record some of the shit my ex said/did to me. It's fucking crazy being in the thick of it. You find yourself questioning your own memory of what happened and what was said, even if it only occurred the day before. I'm coming up on 6 months out of the relationship now and wonder if I should type everything up, because I know it'll only get foggier the more time goes by. But part of me also doesn't really mind forgetting. idk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:42 AM |
| 80 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyThe abusive mindset is largely framed around entitlement and ownership. Most abusive men don't become overtly abusive until some criteria for ownership is met inside their heads. It's different for each of them. For some of them it's when you agree to be their girlfriend, for others it's when you get married, for some it's when you move in together or purchase a house together, and for some it's when you've gotten pregnant or had a baby together. At that point, they now feel they own you and, as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:35 AM |
| 101 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyI get how attached you can be to your pregnancy, I've been there. My embryo felt like my baby in my mind, truly. But I couldn't justify cursing a child with my ex's genes, much less allowing him to inflict his abusive presence on them as he surely would have (he was unfortunately obsessed with having kids because he said children have no choice but to love you, the fucking narcissist). Women need to take a LOOONG hard look at the men they're reproducing with. Think about what your kids are poten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:58 AM |
| 122 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyShit like this makes me so glad I got an abortion. I struggled for months afterwards, ngl, but I've finally found peace. This isn't what I wanted for myself and it's definitely not what I wanted for my baby, an abusive NV husband/father. I feel so bad for women who gave men like this children they didn't deserve. Imagining being trapped with a piece of shit like this in my life for the rest of my days makes me nauseous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:31 AM |
| 25 | Growing up with pickme family membersLast time we visited, my single cousin wanted to “fix my man a plate,” Wowwwww. That's bold. What'd she think would happen, he'd fall head over heels for her PickMe charms and leave you for her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:32 PM |
| 14 | List of AccomplishmentsGOOD. YES. I love hearing about these upward trajectories. Life is what we make it. Get out of the passenger seat and seize that fucking steering wheel. 🎊🎆🎉🎇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:27 PM |
| 6 | Almost burnt outI wish that was a totally unfounded concern but we've all heard the foster care horror stories. The world is truly an awful place to be a child without adequate care and protection. It usually takes some pretty dire circumstances for a child to be removed and placed in foster care, though, bad enough that foster care is preferable. If they do determine that the child is being neglected their first step is to try to work with the parents to eliminate the need for removal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 09:05 PM |
| 9 | Almost burnt outI Googled around and as far as I can gather, reports are kept strictly confidential and all the parents are told is something along the lines of, "We received a report that your child may have been abused or neglected." I don't think they give details because then it would obviously be easy for the parents to deduce who reported them. But please research it yourself based on your specific location, if you do decide to report. It's possible for them to correctly figure it was you but keep in mind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 08:46 PM |
| 10 | Almost burnt outWith incidences like this it's more about creating a record than anything. One hairdresser reporting to CPS that they suspect a child is being neglected based on severely matted hair may not result in anything happening, and indeed if CPS investigates it may turn out that the child isn't being neglected and this was a one-time thing. But if that child IS being neglected, your report will go on record and possibly join other reports or lend credence to future reports that may one day result in ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 08:07 PM |
| 6 | Almost burnt outThank you for telling her this. It's a message she certainly isn't being taught by her own mother, sadly. I was neglected growing up. My siblings and I were "homeschooled" but my parents were separated and our mother, who worked really long hours, had us on weekdays. So we were essentially left to our own devices. It's really weird looking back because I have no idea what my mom was thinking. Did she really expect children to look after their own hygiene? I didn't bathe regularly, I didn't brush… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 07:53 PM |
| 61 | Why is she cleaning his apartment before she moves in?I really enjoy cleaning TikTok but I wish it didn't get infiltrated so often by PickMes cleaning up for their scrote boyfriends. Could also do without having to witness people pouring half a gallon of Fabuloso and Bar Keepers Friend in their sink. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 04:30 AM |
| 18 | Why is she cleaning his apartment before she moves in?LMAO. Flashback to when I made poor life choices and had a 40 year old FWB. He once proudly announced to me as I stepped into his apartment that he'd shampooed the carpets. I think he really must have thought that'd send me swooning. They know, ladies. They know how low the bar is. They know how fucking gross men are and that it'd take only the bare minimum for them to stand out. If they're not willing to do that bare minimum then they straight up just don't care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 04:26 AM |
| 11 | This New York Times article might have confirmed my belief in the patriarchy. Are you fucking kidding me.... there is NO SHORTAGE OF SPERM!!!What the fuckkkkkkkk. This man looks like a garden gnome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:47 AM |
| 13 | This New York Times article might have confirmed my belief in the patriarchy. Are you fucking kidding me.... there is NO SHORTAGE OF SPERM!!!I found out I was pregnant in late May. I was debating keeping it, even though I was in a really shitty abusive relationship and I knew he was trying to baby trap me. I called around to see about even getting an appointment with a OB/GYN who takes my insurance and was stonewalled at every turn. No one wanted to see new patients. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:44 AM |
| 15 | Women are WAKING UP! 👑 found this on r/sex 👀Men are either high value or low/negative value. Overwhelmingly, reproducing with a low/negative value man is not going to simplify your life or come with perks that make his involvement worth it. His monetary contribution will not make up for him being low value and low effort. Him neglecting your children when he has custody of them on the weekends isn't something that should be regarded as a welcomed reprieve for yourself. There's also no guarantee that his family will be decent people. The m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 04:49 AM |
| 23 | That’s what I thoughtYou were actually looked down on if your wife didn't have access to your pay envelope or your checkbook. My dad's mom was the youngest child of a TON of older siblings, including a bunch of older sisters, so she was infamously babied and never really learned how to cook, clean, or run a household. She had free access to her husband's checkbook which led to a bunch of (humorous, in hindsight) shenanigans because she didn't really know what she was doing and had no idea how to budget. Still had fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 01:28 AM |
| 24 | Men bullying children online 🤦🏾♀️The viewer demographics of YouTube channels geared towards kids, preteens, and teenagers are fucking disturbing. A LOT of grown men are watching content created by children for children, and many of them are pedophiles. I find it highly suspect when parents allow their children to be exposed like that. The money they stand to make doesn't justify it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 11:11 PM |
| 16 | Nailed it!! It’s their birth right to objectify and disrespect their partner. So stop being insecure and accept your mistreatmentI'm sorry you went through that, too. These scrotes lack any and all empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 11:04 PM |
| 24 | If he doesn't prioritize you, he's worthless, booIt's the fucking constant littering that gets me. Even the "considerate" smokers I know who take pains to ensure no one else is exposed to their smoke still flick their butts all over the place like the world is their ashtray. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:57 PM |
| 12 | If he doesn't prioritize you, he's worthless, booMy ex reproductively coerced me and then kept smoking weed around me when I was pregnant, which is obviously bad because of secondhand smoke but it also exasperated my nausea that was making me lose weight. When I was debating keeping it one of my primary concerns was birth defects because I was unable to provide it with adequate nutrition. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:53 PM |
| 84 | Women are WAKING UP! 👑 found this on r/sex 👀I think something a lot of women haven't really admitted to themselves is that one of their biggest aspirations in life is motherhood, not a relationship. We've linked the two so thoroughly in our culture that women can't conceptualize having children outside of a relationship. Is having children in a HEALTHY marriage ideal? Yeah, maybe. But men aren't stepping up anymore, there literally aren't enough HVM to go around, and so women are suffering through dead end mediocre relationships with LVM … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:48 PM |
| 39 | He sounds like, erm, the last 6,000 years of patriarchy and all of the mainstream, woman hating religions. Sure men have women’s best interests at heart, as evidenced by history!Where are these so called "good men"? That's the key. Good men comprise like 1% of the male population (if I'm being generous) so this is basically the same thing as saying trust no man. I've literally only encountered two good men my entire life, my grandpa and one of my uncles. That's it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:10 PM |
| 80 | Nailed it!! It’s their birth right to objectify and disrespect their partner. So stop being insecure and accept your mistreatmentI was in an abusive relationship in which I was being reproductively coerced. He succeeded in getting me pregnant, I got an abortion and passed it off as a miscarriage because he'd told me he'd kill me if I ever aborted. The next day I broke up with him and asked him to move out. His behavior during the midst of what he thought was a miscarriage was absolutely appalling. It may have been an abortion, something I set in motion, but it tore my heart out. I want to be a mother someday and ending my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:05 PM |
| 4 | I feel so bad for her... his penis is more important than her boundaries.Thank you. "Doesn't take no for an answer" is rape. It doesn't matter if you say yes eventually, if the ability to say no is removed consent literally no longer exists. This is very true. You can't really consent to sex in a relationship when there's the implicit understanding engulfing the two of you that should you say no or try to resist, he'll rape you. I count that my ex raped me 4 times but those were just the particularly bad times that almost anyone would agree were fucked up. Looking ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:49 AM |
| 11 | I feel so bad for her... his penis is more important than her boundaries.I always felt bad calling it rape bc I know other women experience more trauma or violence. Please don't feel bad. My ex raped me 4 times. Once when I was blackout drunk, once when he took the condom off and kept going despite me protesting and trying to pivot away, once when he finished inside me when the agreement he'd coerced me into making was that we wouldn't use condoms anymore but that he'd pull out, and once by physical force when I was crying and he had to peel my clothes off while I re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:28 AM |
| 35 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?Because they're gold diggers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:49 AM |
| 25 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?He mentions not walking/ubering to her place instead "out of pride" - even thought it would cut his budget in half. LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:46 AM |
| 117 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?And why does he need to drive his car to her place? She lives in Manhattan. He could easily take public transportation. tbh I have a hard time understanding why someone who only makes 80k living in NYC would even have a car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 12:45 AM |
| 7 | Derrick is such a male FDS supporter! 🙌 #realitycheck #straightfactsWhy does it blow their minds so much that we'd rather be single with pets for companionship than be in mediocre/toxic/abusive relationships? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 04:30 AM |
| 32 | Pickmeisha cuts "bae's" ice in half, or "nightly routine for my incompetent adult ward"Merriam-Webster definition... 1: a member of any of various peoples (as in antiquity) who lived or were reputed to live chiefly in caves 2: a person characterized by reclusive habits or outmoded or reactionary attitudes Pretty apropos, imo. 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 01:55 AM |
| 119 | Pickmeisha cuts "bae's" ice in half, or "nightly routine for my incompetent adult ward"This is satire but it's in direct response to the TikTok trend of PickMes filming all the ridiculous shit they do for their ungrateful, troglodyte boyfriends/husbands. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:37 AM |
| 218 | In my life, maybe two men have taken nice photos of me. The rest seem to be on some passive aggressive mission to make us feel awful about themselves.🔊 They do it on purpose because they don't want you to know how beautiful you are, that you're out of their league, and that you can do better than them. 🔊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:34 AM |
| 5 | Somehow I ended up getting alerts for the dead bedrooms subThank you for your kind words, it means a lot. 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:32 AM |
| 191 | I was pleasantly surprised at the amount of likes and comments in agreement that this got. Hopefully more people, especially of the younger generations, are realizing this!It's giving me so much hope that these Generation Z kids are seeing through the bullshit the porn industry and even liberal feminism has been trying to spoon feed them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:30 AM |
| 6 | Somehow I ended up getting alerts for the dead bedrooms subI came to that conclusion too, that he's a sociopath. He meets every DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for antisocial personality disorder. It's a relief that others see it too, even just from snapshots like this. He got me so mentally messed up that I'd keep questioning my perceptions and what I'd observed and experienced. It's kind of embarrassing telling people about all the things he did to me and all the things he told me he'd done to others. It was way past the point of red flags, yet I overlooked… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:08 AM |
| 80 | Somehow I ended up getting alerts for the dead bedrooms subI posted there pre-FDS when I was in an abusive relationship. My ex would withhold sex. I'm not sure if it was a manipulation tactic or if he just wasn't all that attracted to me, or both. There was one particular time that he made me feel so undesirable, that sex with me was such a chore, that it might have actually saved me. It really got me examining the gut feeling I'd had from the very beginning, that he wasn't deeply attracted to me and that he was using me. I shared the incident with DB a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:22 AM |
| 86 | NYT Journalist Nicholas Kristof, whose article exposed Pornhub and instigated the unverified video Purge, has set his sights on Reddit. Reddit ALSO hosts underage rape videos, involuntary porn, pedophilic content, and extreme sexualized violence with zero verification.I can't with the women who try to cast us as prudish because THEY watch porn with their boyfriend and LOOOOOVE IT. Like, congratulations? You turned getting sexually aroused at the exploitation (and very probably, at LEAST once, the rape) of a girl/woman into date night. You should be really proud of yourself. You're so radical and liberated! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 05:03 PM |
| 240 | NYT Journalist Nicholas Kristof, whose article exposed Pornhub and instigated the unverified video Purge, has set his sights on Reddit. Reddit ALSO hosts underage rape videos, involuntary porn, pedophilic content, and extreme sexualized violence with zero verification.Japan gets internationally lauded for its low crime rates, including crimes of a sexual nature, but in reality sex crimes there are horrendously underreported. There's a shit ton of pedophilia and human trafficking going on. These men are from the same country/culture that carried out the Rape of Nanjing and we're all supposed to believe that Japanese men are docile and harmless? Nah. First of all that's racist and plays into the stereotype that Asian men are feminine. Secondly, men the entire w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 04:56 PM |
| 44 | Reminder that the idea of “withholding sex” isn’t real because sex isn’t something anyone is entitled to get.The few times I tried to refuse sex with my ex he'd force me. It was such a mindfuck, not only because this man I thought I'd fallen in love with was raping me, but because he'd actually withhold sex and physical intimacy himself to manipulate me. Led to a really surreal exchange the one time I called him out on it. Went something like, "You know... it's kind of messed up that you can turn me down... but I can't say no." He actually sat there for a pace, thinking, before responding, "You're righ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 06:46 AM |
| 75 | Joking “insults” are still insults and reveal an LVM. Name calling is never ok.I had the strangest conversation once with a coworker a few years back in which I referred to Adele as beautiful. He scoffed and made some shitty comment about her being fat. This coworker's girlfriend is fat. Super gorgeous and also undeniably fat. She's also REALLY short so her BMI was definitely much higher than Adele's, who's like 5'9". I was dumbfounded. And the unfortunate thing is that she's still with him. He's also super short himself and balding. She could do so much better, find a HVM… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 06:22 AM |
| 32 | LOOK, It's LVM.Their rebuttal is that the person doing the asking out should pay and that obviously if a woman asks a man out it's because she thinks he's worth paying for, lol. Case in point as to why women should never do the asking out. It makes men feel like they're hot shit. The audacity of a LVM expecting a woman to pay when she's already spent 2-3 hours getting ready, bathing and using expensive beauty products and makeup, removing all her body hair, styling her hair, picking out the perfect outfit from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 06:07 AM |
| 20 | LOOK, It's LVM.When he talks about how he advised his friend to knock up Nia Long before they'd even had their first date. 🤢🤮 How is that not some blatant gold digging, baby trapping bullshit? If this was a woman talking about how she advised her friend to get knocked up (and then she did), men would feel some type of way about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:55 AM |
| 122 | Joking “insults” are still insults and reveal an LVM. Name calling is never ok.I've especially had issues with men I was involved with "jokingly" insulting my appearance. I've had people be like, "You know they were doing that because you're attractive and they wanted to drag down your self esteem, because then it'd make it harder for you to leave them, right?" And that's the same assessment I'd make from an outside perspective, if I found out this had been happening to someone else. But the shitty thing is that it worked and these scrotes really did successfully lower my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:46 AM |
| 75 | If his friends are trash, he's trash.My ex swore up and down that he was trying to turn over a new leaf and that he was out and would never gangbang or deal again. But he kept hanging out with all his active gang member dealer friends. He was at a cookout when some stupid Blood vs Crip fight broke out and he still thought I was being unreasonable to ask him to stop socializing with them when they were going to get him shot or stabbed (again). And that's not even getting into the obvious moral implications of hanging out with a bunc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 11:07 PM |
| 57 | I felt like this belonged here. Someone who disrespects ANY boundary you set doesn’t deserve to be in your life.Shout out to my former toxic friend group that pulled a really fucked up prank on me, played dumb and said they didn't know how it'd look from my perspective, didn't apologize in the aftermath, and then attacked me for talking about what'd happened with other people. And this was right after I got out of an abusive relationship so I was already in a mental tailspin. Good fucking riddance. ✌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 10:54 PM |
| 4 | This is what he may be thinking about you. Be careful of these guys who disguise themselves as your "friends". He called a stranger(a woman) a land whale without even knowing her. I called him out this is what his response was.We all grew up watching the same movies and shows and reading the same books that detail how comments like these are ugly and hurtful, and that it doesn't matter if the target never hears it, it's still a reflection of what's going on with your heart. Yet so many men still manage to grow up like this. A lot of women do, too, but they tend to be more subtle about it because they know it reflects poorly on them. Men will just straight up reveal that they're an asshole and then get offended and arg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 05:05 PM |
| 118 | At least ONE male will admit it!!Okay but how do you supposedly get 20 women strung along like that at your beck and call, if not through false pretenses? He somehow doesn't think he's part of the problem of black women being used and abused. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 04:59 PM |
| 88 | My ex tried to come back and this is the exact reason why I left him in the dumpster where he belongsTHE biggest favor you can do for yourself at this stage is to read Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft. Bancroft is an abuse expert with credentials and qualifications about a mile long. He was at the forefront of the conception of programs for abusive men, and in these programs he worked with 1000+ abusive men. He's served as a clinical supervisor on a further ~1000 abuse cases, as a custody evaluator, as a child abuse investigator, and as an exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:11 PM |
| 45 | My ex tried to come back and this is the exact reason why I left him in the dumpster where he belongsWhen I left my abusive ex I blocked him on everything and went no contact. He got through that with apps/websites that generate temporary numbers or something. Then he got a new phone number and started texting/calling from that. I haven't responded to any of it, but his newest number I haven't blocked. It causes me a lot of mental anguish when he texts me but he's dangerous and unstable and I'm worried he'll eventually snap. I'm hoping he'll give me some warning first, texting or leaving a voic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:48 PM |
| 88 | Talking of low bars, you might want to look in the mirror sisSpoiler alert: Your husband expecting you to do shit like pick up his dirty underwear off the floor is actually him being a bully. You don't make someone you love, cherish, and value clean up after you like a maid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:40 PM |
| 173 | My ex tried to come back and this is the exact reason why I left him in the dumpster where he belongsAbusive men love getting you into couple's therapy. Most therapists aren't equipped to deal with or even recognize manipulative abusers and often become a flying monkey for the abuser. I had a friend whose severely abusive boyfriend convinced her to go to couple's therapy and it turned into a nightmare scenario, him and the therapist ganging up on her and insisting she was partially to blame for their relationship problems because she didn't CoMmUnIcAtE and CoMpRoMiSe enough. And of course she c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:35 PM |
| 56 | My ex tried to come back and this is the exact reason why I left him in the dumpster where he belongs☝☝☝ This is what crosses my mind any time a man tries to describe his ex/girlfriend/wife as abusive. Such claims should be dismissed automatically and actually flag that man as a plausible abuser himself, because it's such a common tactic for abusive men to claim they're the abused party. The power imbalance between the sexes both societally and physically means women simply can not abuse men the way men abuse women. Anyone who claims otherwise is denying that we live in a patriarchy and is deny… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:29 PM |
| 54 | Any man who aspires to be a “house husband” (even joking) is LVMThe sad reality is that even though there are some men who have the disposition to be house husbands and stay-at-home fathers, this toxic patriarchal culture we grow up in ruins that potential in most men. Actually keeping house and being the primary caregiver to children requires more selflessness, nurturing, and skill than society allows boys to grow up with. It gets snuffed out in them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:18 PM |
| 331 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...At the end of the day he chose pixels over you, a real flesh and blood woman. Men like this are so pathetic. Their ancestors would think they're insane. Imagine if in some medieval town a man found some parchment with drawings of naked women on it, and when confronted by his wife and given an ultimatum, chose the parchment over her. He'd become a town wide laughing stock. People would point and laugh at him every time he stepped outside. This sick male obsession with images of women isn't health… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:01 PM |
| 24 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.Bonus points if his job entails no physical labor at all yet when he gets home he's too exhausted to help clean, cook, or look after his own goddamn kids. Mysteriously, the only thing he does have energy for is video games and masturbating to porn. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:47 PM |
| 18 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.This is what my ex likes to text/email/leave me voicemail saying, that he would never have hurt me! This is after he raped me on three separate occasions, reproductively coerced me, told me he'd kill me if I ever got an abortion, told me about how he'd put his hands on past girlfriends, and threatened to violate me when I broke up with him for the last and final time. In his mind, somehow, he doesn't think he hurt me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:44 PM |
| 9 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.I can't wait to see this movie but I wish they'd been realistic about what these guys' apartments actually look like, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:39 PM |
| 42 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.lmao, reminds me of the time a pickup truck (because ofc it was) stopped for me at a crosswalk. He waited until I was almost all the way across (even though he could have continued on his way after I was halfway across) to sarcastically shout out his window, "You're welcome!" Like... He expected a thanks... For stopping at a crosswalk for a pedestrian... Such a gentleman. Probably went to work and complained that women these days don't appreciate traditional men like him. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:36 PM |
| 15 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.My ex had this whole cringey speech he'd do (idk if he even came up with it himself or if he stole it), usually while intoxicated, about what a survivor he is and how he'll always come out on top. Something about how if he was thrown into the jungle with nothing but his bare hands, he'd come out wearing leopard skin. How he'd always find a way to provide for himself. He's one of the most unambitious, lazy, self-sabotaging people I've ever encountered. When I met him he was working part time at a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:30 PM |
| 9 | Dear men, we don’t give two shits what you want. Signed, A real womanThey really like to push the false narrative that men don't care about a woman's financial status, which is an outright lie. The majority of LVM are gold diggers, if not flat out financially abusive. The only way they can move out of their mom's house is by finding a girlfriend to move in with and go halfsies with (in reality she pays a bigger share because he'll claim that all the homemaking she does is her preference so she should pay for it). Scrotes fucking love a woman with money. Maybe not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:14 PM |
| 53 | Friends with benefits for what?When I was a Cool Girl™ I had one particularly shitty FWB. He stealthed me (secretly took the condom off during sex), claimed that pulling out was totally effective birth control (and I was dumb enough to go along with it), and I'm pretty sure he finished inside me once. I'm incredibly lucky I didn't get knocked up or contract an STI. Then there were the fucking mind games. He didn't like how unattached I was and actively tried to get me to develop feelings for him because he wanted the ego boos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 05:08 PM |
| 111 | Ladies this guy is on to your games! He knows you want to dig his gold and he will NOT stand for it.I actually think prenups are a great idea. Sit down with your fiancé and a lawyer and outline how much money you get if your marriage dissolves because of cheating and/or pornsickness. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:32 AM |
| 22 | Same, Queen. No more walking on eggshells or living in fear always anxiously anticipating the next outburst.I never saw my ex completely melt down but he'd warned me about it. His mom even asked him about it once, if I'd seen "it" yet. She wanted to know if I'd seen that side of him yet and stuck around. He was sexually abusive but hadn't escalated to hitting me and I think that's probably only due to the right conditions not having been met yet. He just needed more pent up rage and a catalyst, some reason to justify it in his mind. I was a huge fawner so I was good at deescalating things. If I'd stay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:51 AM |
| 32 | Same, Queen. No more walking on eggshells or living in fear always anxiously anticipating the next outburst.I wish I would have ran in the beginning of the relationship when he admitted to having anger issues, but I was naive and never thought his anger would ever be directed towards me. It seems so obvious in hindsight, doesn't it? But I foolishly didn't think he'd turn his anger and other issues my direction, either. But of course he did. Abusive men always do. That fantastical archetype of the man who's mean and threatening to everyone but the woman he loves (who he cheeeeerishes) doesn't exist. Sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:44 AM |
| 36 | Same, Queen. No more walking on eggshells or living in fear always anxiously anticipating the next outburst.I'd always considered myself a strong, outspoken person but when I got into an abusive relationship I discovered that my response to threatening situations is to fawn. I kind of don't even recognize myself anymore. The trauma bonding was intense and I'm still not over it, unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:39 AM |
| 23 | Same, Queen. No more walking on eggshells or living in fear always anxiously anticipating the next outburst.Even if he's doing it "playfully," or in a way that doesn't seem blatantly aggressive... One time, very early on in our relationship, my ex threw a balled up piece of garbage at my head. It was out of nowhere. We'd been hanging out, having what I'd thought was a good time together. I was sitting on the floor and when I didn't laugh it off or let him downplay it he "playfully" tackled me into a horizontal position, trying to get me to laugh. He tried to kiss me and when I angled my face away from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:33 AM |
| 56 | I'm so curious if anyone understands why she wants to be made to feel bad even though he made her cry and bought her bad gifts.“They know” was the biggest life changer for me. They know to buy nice, thoughtful gifts. They know what they say is hurtful. They know. 💯💯💯 THEY. KNOW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 04:30 AM |
| 118 | I'm so curious if anyone understands why she wants to be made to feel bad even though he made her cry and bought her bad gifts.My first serious boyfriend made a LOT more money than me. Like, six figure salary compared to my part time minimum wage. I found myself consistently spending more money on him than he spent on me. Our first Christmas he got me a set of pillowcases and I got him a really nice pair of headphones that cost like $280. There's a reason why FDS focuses on traits like generosity. Most women, even LVW and PickMes (ESPECIALLY PickMes), are generous. Most men are not. If a man isn't generous with you, he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 04:25 AM |
| 169 | Her man of 6 years faked a proposal. I’d leave in a heartbeat.Since I have made hints at leaving, he is VERY attentive (too late bro, maybe you’ll find it hilarious), and is always talking about our future. Christmas was taken up a notch too. This is the beginning of a cycle he'll try to trap you in. He'll be contemptuous and lowkey emotionally abusive and when you object to it he'll be on better behavior for a bit, only to resume being cruel. This sort of shit traps so many women because it wreaks havoc on the psyche. It's great that you've seen through i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 04:11 AM |
| 105 | Her man of 6 years faked a proposal. I’d leave in a heartbeat.The life of a childfree woman isn't less valuable and she shouldn't waste away in a dead-end relationship either. But if you're a woman for whom having biological children is a life goal then you really, really don't want to miss your window of opportunity waiting on some LVM to decide if he actually wants you or not. You can psychologically heal from being with a LVM, you can invest in yourself and level up in the aftermath of freeing yourself from him, but one thing you can't do is get back yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 04:06 AM |
| 5 | How do you even vet for this?My abusive ex has one of those names. I think you're on to something. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 03:55 AM |
| 43 | Thank you FDSLeaving an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to accomplish. People who've never been in one don't really know the full extent of it. You should be so proud of yourself, and know that we're proud of you too. Now you can take all that energy your piece of shit ex was draining from you like a leech and invest it in yourself so that you and your child/ren can have a beautiful life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 01:24 AM |
| 15 | All the pick me’s in the comments agree.. meanwhile I can’t be bothered to raise a grown man. NextI got caught up in this shit for 7 months and it took such an emotional toll. He kept claiming he was serious about building a life with me but he never took action. Instead, he abused me and tried to baby trap me. idk how women survive this for years on end. I would want to jump off a bridge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 12:10 AM |
| 26 | Porn addiction can cause men to become desensitized to sex. Wonder why he doesn't want sex with you? The answer is porn. This is a scrotes' own admission.If you're in a relationship and something feels off about your sex life it's either a porn addiction or he's using sex as a manipulation tactic. Every woman should read Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft. Withholding sex is one of the many tactics employed by abusive men. Porn can still factor into it (they'll masturbate so their sexual needs are somewhat fulfilled, which enables them to maintain willpower in withholding sex from you) but if the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:58 PM |
| 10 | What’s your dating experience in nyc like?I live in the Hudson Valley and would like to formally request that NYC stop sending up all their thugs, gangbangers, drug dealers, etc. If they look like they just crawled out of some shithole Bronx traphouse and still have a gemstar in their mouth the PickMe inside me I've been trying so hard to reform is like "👀". 😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:35 PM |
| 7 | Boy...At 9 minutes we get to the point: a woman was talking to him about her day, her work and her family. He is not interested. There is no SEXUAL ENERGY!!! Women do this all the time. Stop wasting his time!!! Unless he gets laid, a woman talking is BS. It’s all crap. A woman MUST give him SEXUAL ENERGY!!! Translation: I don't view women as thinking, feeling beings. If she isn't giving me sexual gratification I don't care about anything she experiences or says, and even if she is giving me sexual gra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:20 PM |
| 41 | All of these are instant dealbreakers for me, what about you?It's a casual chain restaurant and most of their dishes are probably microwave meals, the type of place you go after 10 years of marriage with your kids after a trip to the aquarium. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:12 PM |
| 8 | All of these are instant dealbreakers for me, what about you?LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:10 PM |
| 84 | How do you even vet for this?For me it’s any man You can just stop there. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:08 PM |
| 18 | How do you even vet for this?I'm so sorry. I hope you know it has no reflection on your value as a person. There's something deeply disturbed about men who can do something so callous like calculatedly fool a woman into thinking they're someone they're not. It's a form of evil and it's almost pitiable because people who're that twisted up inside will never find happiness, not that they deserve it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:07 PM |
| 295 | Her man of 6 years faked a proposal. I’d leave in a heartbeat.You can hear her start to say, "I knew it." She knows deep down that he's never going to propose (and if he ever does it's going to be because he's finally decided he'll settle since his dream woman hasn't stumbled into his life yet and he's 38). Women need to stop wasting away in these dead-end relationships, especially if they want kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:01 PM |
| 54 | How do you even vet for this?At the end of the day the sad truth is that some men are such psychopaths that you can thoroughly vet them and they can convincingly pass as a HVM for years before pulling a 180 and doing something like this. It's the gamble you take, entering into a relationship with a man, and you have to make the very personal decision on whether or not you think it's worth it. But that's why FDS repeats over and over to never stop vetting and to never become financially reliant on a man. At the very least yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 10:41 PM |
| 96 | How do you even vet for this?Avoid ✍ men ✍ named ✍ Mark/Marc. ✍ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 10:34 PM |
| 77 | Royal Pickme"Charlene, who was accused of trying to run away three times before she married, was seen in floods of tears on her wedding day to Prince Albert in 2011" That's absolutely tragic. She strikes me less as a PickMe and more as someone who has really low self esteem who was pressured into following through with the marriage (similar to Princess Diana). She tried to escape, very much wanted to NOT be picked. These royal families are cesspools. Very rarely can someone grow up with that much wealth and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 10:25 PM |
| 19 | Can’t even imagine an HVM even in my fantasies.I feel the same way, as if just imagining my ideal relationship with a HVM is merely setting myself up for disappointment so I don't even want to engage in that type of daydreaming. I'm continuing to focus on leveling up so I can live my dream life solo. Maybe the mental block is a psychological godsend to keep us focusing on ourselves? | /r/askFDS | 26/12/20 03:46 AM |
| 7 | Y’all... 😂 💁🏻♀️ Merry Christmas Eve!This was the deciding factor for me in getting an abortion. My ex was an abusive sociopathic rapist drug addicted alcoholic. My own father's a LVM and his neglect and coldness towards me contributed a lot to my low self esteem. My ex would have been 100 times worse. He wouldn't even have had the decency to be an absentee father, he would have fought for custody or visitation and if he was miraculously denied that he'd probably have gone off the deep end and done God knows what. Getting an aborti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:48 AM |
| 50 | Even with LVM admiting their porn addiction scrotes still cant accept it and Pickmes play to their sideI once made the mistake of giving a homely guy with a good personality a chance. If I'm honest, calling him homely is being generous and he turned out to not even have a good personality. I was way out of his league in every sense of the phrase and he was so pornsick that we never actually had PIV sex because he couldn't maintain an erection. I asked him to try not watching porn or masturbating for awhile to see if it'd help and he didn't have the willpower to stop. I'd laugh if it wasn't so fuc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:37 AM |
| 38 | I have to be honest, I hate stuff like this. It romanticizes settling for the bare minimum by saying "only REAL women settle.." also referring to women as females is so obnoxious !?Love, effort, attention, and answered phone calls is still too much for LVM to provide. Most of us here at FDS learned the hard way that asking for nothing but the bare minimum results in below average relationships. When you don't respect yourself enough to have higher standards you get crumbs. Leave yourself vulnerable to being emotionally taken advantage of by a LVM and you will be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:25 AM |
| 78 | A huge piece of the puzzle that is misogyny is mothers.I've heard so many stories of women being terrorized and abused by LVM and their pickme moms being completely in on it. There's a lot of evidence that supports my suspicion that my abusive ex's mom was encouraging/instructing him to baby trap me. The first time we ever hung out was at their house NYE and she told him to keep me drinking (I saw the text). He later went on to have sex with me that night when I was blackout drunk and could barely hold myself up doggy in bed, and he didn't use a con… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 03:36 AM |
| 179 | Women die younger who get married--Men die 7-18 years younger if single! You're just a tool for their survival Studies state some reasons why--men get driven to the hospital having a heart attack. Are taken care of by women. Caretaker.And don't forget: a woman is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after a diagnosis of cancer or multiple sclerosis than if a man in the relationship is the patient. If you get sick, your LVM husband is probably going to leave you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 03:14 AM |
| 39 | B I G FACTSIf it weren't for abortion I would be over 8 months pregnant right now with my abusive rapist ex's child. Good on those women who can recover from being reproductively coerced by a monster and go on to live fabulous lives, but I don't think I'd have been one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:54 PM |
| 18 | Why girls and young women NEED FDS! 🗣His ex-wife left him for the same reasons I did. tbh in the future if I ever date again I want to speak to his exes. If he's a HVM who conducted himself in a respectful manner I don't see why he'd have a problem with it. He can talk to my exes too if he wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:48 PM |
| 76 | This reminds me of the time when my ex made me fill foolish for wanting to be a bakerThese same type of guys are the ones who've wormed their way into living in their hairdresser girlfriend's apartment, not helping pay any bills and eating all her food. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:39 PM |
| 235 | Thankfully all the comments said he was in fact the a**hole"My mother (67f) said that I should have been nicer but that she understands." Mothers need to stop doing this, condoning/justifying/downplaying/empathizing with their LVM son's shitty behavior. Raising a son in this quagmire culture needs to be done carefully, with deliberate purpose, or they will grow up to be a LVM. Enabler moms are disturbingly common, it's crazy. The dad can have a good head on his shoulders and call his son out on his bullshit but the mom will shield her precious baby from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:33 PM |
| 35 | Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work.I've heard so many LVM SAHD horror stories. It's similar to their approach to cleaning. Their standards are all "coincidentally" low, so just like they think a bathroom can be clean when there's piss on the floor and that the level of cleanliness is just a "matter of opinion" or "preference", they'll do shit like dress your child inappropriately for the weather and argue with you that winter coats aren't strictly necessary and that's just your personal preference and you need to accept that his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:18 AM |
| 18 | Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work.It's so telling that he outs himself as not wanting to live in a money-free commune, most likely because those people live pretty frugal, minimalist lifestyles with shared living spaces and everyone pitching in with agriculture and stuff like that. He clearly just wants to bum around all day playing video games and wants his wife to subsidize it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 02:10 AM |
| 119 | LADIES!!!!! This!!!Additionally, learn to recognize when you're trauma bonded to someone. If you miss someone who was abusing you it's not because you love them, it's because they manipulated your brain chemistry and got you addicted to the hormones that were being released in response to their cycle of abuse. Never break no-contact with someone who abused you, no matter how painful their absence is. It's quite literally like you're an addict jonesing for a fix. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:51 AM |
| 64 | Yet another example of women bearing the emotional load. 😑This is something I'll never understand about male psychology, how little they're invested in their own children. We're supposed to be biologically hardwired to be obsessed with our offspring yet so many dads just don't give a shit. Picking out gifts, especially for kids, is fun. Getting to watch them open them and see how happy it makes them is even better. But they can't be bothered. It's depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:10 AM |
| 76 | How dare a mother try to protect her daughter! Read the comments for some more 🤮"I think I'd know by now if he was unsafe around kids." One of the men who molested me when I was a child was a family friend, known to my mother for years. He was one of her college students who she'd mentored and he ended up converting and joining her church. He was married with a son my age. If someone is male, they're suspect. End of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:50 AM |
| 6 | Don't get trappedI came really close to being baby trapped by an abusive rapist. If it weren't for abortion our lives would be fucked. I still grieve my potential baby, wishing there'd been a way I could have safely kept them, but even in some hypothetical fantasy version of events in which he miraculously left us alone (which he wouldn't have) they'd still have been saddled with his awful genes and I found that unconscionable. We owe our children more than that. They deserve to have fathers who're a cut above t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:32 AM |
| 4 | 🤡 They just never stop, do they? Between the audacity to ruin a girl’s future and the pick me behaviour, idk what’s worse tbh.My ex is an addict (Xanax, alcohol, and weed) and even without him being into "heavy" stuff he was such an awful person to be around. He lied about still using Xanax until towards the end of our relationship when he dropped it on me like a bomb. I have no idea how much he was taking a day but Xanax is one of those drugs you build up a tolerance to so you have to keep taking more and more to get the same effect. He could have been spending $25+ a day on it. He only worked part time. Makes a lot o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 03:53 AM |
| 15 | How can anyone possibly think that buying your coworker a sex toy is ok?I had a coworker give me a gift card for a local sex shop one year for secret Santa. It made me uncomfortable but I was such a Cool Girl I didn't say anything. I ended up giving it away to someone who offered to take it off my hands because I definitely did not want to pleasure myself with something he'd essentially purchased for me. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 03:32 AM |
| 35 | "But WomEn aRe jusT as AbusIve As Meeennnn!" 🙄Women simply can't abuse men the way men abuse women because we don't live in a matriarchy and women aren't inherently the much physically stronger sex. The average man could literally kill the average woman with his bare hands if he wanted to. Even skinny and/or out of shape men are deceptively strong compared to the average woman. People need to stop ignoring the societal and biological disadvantages women are at and they need to stop making false equivalencies. It's intellectually dishonest. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 03:19 AM |
| 14 | Men really do miss the days where a man could just forcibly impregnate a woman and then abandon her on a whim, leaving her desperate and penniless. This is why we vet ruthlessly.The decision on whether or not to keep a pregnancy being a woman's choice alone, with the man facing financial repercussions against his will if she chooses to keep it, may be the ONLY instance in this entire godforsaken world where women wield actual power. And men can't fucking stand it. They're so used to the status quo being that they have the upper hand in virtually every arena in human existence, not getting to control this one thing infuriates them. Of course, they do have the option of c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:56 AM |
| 88 | Stop over explaining yourself. LVM don’t care about your feelings, and nothing you can say will change that.My abusive ex bragged that one of his exes had told him he'd ruined her life. He refused to elaborate when I asked what he'd done to her. LVM absolutely get a kick out of knowing they've hurt you, even psychologically scarred you. They want to know that they've altered you for life. I wouldn't say my ex ruined my life because I refuse to give up on myself, but I'm the lowest I've ever been in the wake of my relationship with him. I'm broken. But I will never let him know that, will never give hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:39 AM |
| 59 | I understand she's happy but damn, what kind of loser husband does she have who doesn't care whether she climaxes or not?? As long as he gets his, all is well 🤬She was masturbating while his penis happened to be inside her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 11:12 PM |
| 278 | Another Failed Flex from the LibFem Logic FilesHad sex with a terrible person, opened yourself up to the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy, opened yourself up to the possibility of contracting an infection or disease, opened yourself up to the possibility of abuse, and no matter how mentally resilient you are, sleeping with someone who treats you poorly takes a psychological toll. I am so, so tired of liberal feminism constantly pushing the false narrative that casual sex with men is healthy. It isn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 09:37 PM |
| 59 | “WhY dOn’T fEmAlEs RePoRt It MoRe?¿?¿?”Considering that the vast majority of rapes are perpetrated by someone the victim knows, like a boyfriend, ex, family friend, caretaker, etc. clothing really has nothing to do with it at all. And the rare instances of rapes committed by total strangers tend to be very opportunistic. I read one story where a middle aged woman was on a work trip and had a stranger break into her motel room and rape her. He was staying in another room and noticed she was alone and his decision making process was as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:38 PM |
| 53 | My husband of 3 weeks now, said he wished he married his x instead of me.PLEASE read Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft. You are going to recognize your husband in those pages and I hope it jumpstarts your survival instinct and gets you the hell out of this marriage, if the comments here alone aren't enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:46 AM |
| 46 | Pickme wants more "consensual non-consent" pornA disturbing number of women feel "empowered" the closer they get to the mindset of a LVM. They fail to realize how low they're stooping, that they're trading their souls away for the illusion of a safety blanket. I'm sure Cathy feels super radical, prioritizing her sexual gratification over the wellbeing of women and girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:38 AM |
| 86 | Pickme wants more "consensual non-consent" pornRape fantasies are common among women because it's common for women to have been molested, assaulted, and raped. It's an unhealthy trauma response, Cathy, and it doesn't justify participating in the molestation, assault, and rape of women and girls. Go to therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:30 AM |
| 43 | Physical abusers will try to pass off episodes of violence as accidents. Here's how I think I was able to tell the difference.He also pointed out that when these guys "lose control" and start breaking shit in a fit of rage, they conveniently never break any of their own possessions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:26 AM |
| 32 | This made me chuckleI've seen the same shit over there! When women do baby trap it's usually some desperate PickMe who's been strung along as a forever girlfriend for 5+ years who's deluded herself into thinking it'll turn her LVM boyfriend into a family man. This is literally the only way men are at a biological "disadvantage". It's not their body, it's not their choice. If they don't want to father any children they need to not stick their unfixed dick in women. I have zero sympathy for them tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:05 AM |
| 19 | Men are really weird 🤨The rare guy doing 30% of the work is the one with the PickMe girlfriend who gets on social media ranting and raving about what a great man he is because he "babysat" the kids for an hour so she could bathe herself. "How did I get so lucky? 🤡" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:53 AM |
| 19 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationYou are 100% right and it's incredibly fucked up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:49 AM |
| 10 | Advice from a father to his daughter. Thoughts?100%. My ex could fight and had hands and a body that reflected it, covered in scars. It made me feel safe in the beginning, being with someone who could physically protect me. But I was naïve and didn't take it for the huge red flag it was, that someone who'd been in countless fights like that had to have been seeking it out. The man whose sense of masculinity is founded in his ability to dole violence is a dangerous one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 03:44 AM |
| 52 | The LVMS of the world let out a collective scream of pain: PORNHUB removes 80% of video uploads because of child abuse and rape.From the very beginning they should never have allowed unverified content, for obvious reasons. But their purpose as a company is to make money via exploitation and this shit was very lucrative for them and they were able to get away with it for nearly 15 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:16 AM |
| 110 | This made me chuckleHe should have his balls crushed in a vice and whoever carries out the task can feign innocence because they saw it in a porno and totally thought he'd like it. But word of advice, be careful with asking questions. Most men will lie about stuff and they can base a fake façade off of the types of questions you ask, presenting themselves as your ideal HVM long enough to reel you in. The Dumb Fox approach is pretty helpful. It's from a book that isn't strictly FDS though so it doesn't focus as much… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:10 AM |
| 49 | Men are really weird 🤨Independent, successful women intimidate men. They know that they bring very little to the table, so if one of their big selling points isn't that their income is higher then what's the appeal of them? That they're addicted to video games and porn? That they're only going to do maybe 30% of the household and childrearing tasks? That you'll never experience an orgasm at their hands? Very few of them will admit it but they prefer a woman who'll be financially reliant on them because it puts shackl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:50 AM |
| 38 | Men are really weird 🤨And the cognitive dissonance involved in hating gold diggers without being able to recognize yourself as one. I know SO MANY GODDAMN MEN who didn't start living an actual adult life until they got into a long term relationship because they literally couldn't afford to without pooling resources with a woman. They have the audacity to criticize gold diggers when they couldn't afford to move out of their mama's house til they got a girlfriend to go halfsies with. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:35 AM |
| 96 | This made me chuckleAnd a lot of them are out here trying to baby trap, especially if you're a woman who has her shit together. My ex started reproductively coercing me 2-3 months into our relationship. He wanted to leech off of me indefinitely and a baby goes a long way towards facilitating that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:30 AM |
| 187 | This made me chuckleWhat a rapist piece of shit. I hope he gets what's coming to him someday. I had someone who was supposed to be a casual FWB stealth me, knowing I wasn't on birth control. He pulled out but that's not reliable and at nearly 40 years old he probably knew that full well. He'd talked about how he wants to have kids so an "oops" baby probably wouldn't have been unwelcomed by him. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:27 AM |
| 211 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationI really hope there'll be a cultural shift towards pornography no longer being accepted in mainstream society (or at all but that's probably aiming for the stars). More and more research is being done showing the negative impact it has on the brain and we're seeing the resulting quality of men who've grown up watching porn on the internet from a young age. Doctors are beginning to note how erectile dysfunction, something generally only seen in elderly men and men with health conditions like diab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 01:22 AM |
| 41 | This guy is just wasting her time and wants advice on how to continue wasting it. Upset that people are taking "her side". Trying so hard to be the victim."... but I want to trick her into staying with me until I can find another woman who I think is an upgrade." He will leave her the moment he finds some PickMe who'll give him the kInKy sex he so desires with the frequency he demands (ideally without him having to fulfill any of her emotional needs in order to put her in the headspace for sex, she'll just be horny, ready, and waiting 24/7 regardless of how poorly he treats her). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:37 AM |
| 46 | This guy is just wasting her time and wants advice on how to continue wasting it. Upset that people are taking "her side". Trying so hard to be the victim.9 times out of 10 when a woman doesn't want to have sex more often it's because the guy she's with isn't putting in a modicum of effort. He doesn't date her, he doesn't woo her. She comes home after working her 9-5 and has to clean up the same messes every day that she's been begging him to stop making since they moved in together. He plays video games and doesn't give a shit that she's doing all the housework alone. Then later when she collapses into bed, exhausted, unappreciated, feeling like … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:29 AM |
| 10 | Name calling is not flirting.Definite LVM behavior. Every guy I've dated has done this. Not lighthearted ribbing about something like me showing up an hour too early to everything, just straight up insults that weren't really even veiled as jokes. Some guys do it "sarcastically" out of their own insecurity. They know you're out of their league so they sarcastically act like you have flaws you don't, the joke being that it's SO obvious you actually don't have these flaws that it's fUnNy. And then some guys do it out of pure … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:20 AM |
| 20 | A 🚩 I rarely see discussed: complaining about their health while making poor health choicesLMAO mine loved to wax poetic about JROTC he'd done for like half a school year a decade ago (before he got expelled from the school for viciously assaulting another student because the kid annoyed him by having his headphones up too loud). That was his reason for resisting going on walks with me and flat out refusing hikes - he'd "already done enough walking in JROTC". 🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:02 AM |
| 26 | A 🚩 I rarely see discussed: complaining about their health while making poor health choicesHoly shit, yes. My ex was constantly complaining about some sort of ailment or other. He was 27 and apparently falling apart. Smoked cigarettes and spliffs every day, diet consisted purely of meat, dairy, refined carbohydrates, and a lot of junk food. The one time I pressed him to eat some fresh vegetables he told me it was super disrespectful and that it was comparable to if he tried to pressure me, a vegetarian, into eating meat. 🙄 Acted like going on short walks was excruciating. The entire t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:56 AM |
| 85 | How arent porn watchers embarrassed?Men are widely considered the more logical sex but they become so easily enslaved by their base urges. Most of them have little to no self control and this is reflected in them indulging every gross impulse they have. These are grown ass men who won't even drink water or eat salads, whose entire diets consist of microwaved convenience foods. Of course they'd sit around all day furiously fondling themselves to pixels like an understimulated primate at a zoo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:37 AM |
| 79 | 🤮 “ion see shit wrong with this” EXACTLY why we don’t do dinner at home dates ladies - the queen in this story up and left!!Dishes aren't even expensive. You can get some really nice looking sets at secondhand shops and even the dollar store has decent options. This sort of foolery is just maliciousness. Some men really get a kick out of seeing how close they can get to living like wilderness dwelling hermits, and especially out of seeing how far they can get women to lower their standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:32 AM |
| 8 | This comment thread reminded me why reddit is a terrible place for advice. This woman got cheated on and some of the comments are advising her to go to counseling before considering divorce. FDS would never.🙄He also said he didn't want to throw away everything we have. i.e. he doesn't want his comfortable life upturned in which he's probably leeching off of her financially and emotionally. I'd bet good money she comes home after her grueling shifts and cleans house and cooks. If your spouse cheats on you they don't love you anymore and they probably never really loved you to begin with. You don't emotionally destroy someone you care about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 07:35 PM |
| 27 | This comment thread reminded me why reddit is a terrible place for advice. This woman got cheated on and some of the comments are advising her to go to counseling before considering divorce. FDS would never.🙄I even saw one arguing against her telling her family and friends what her husband did because “she might want to reconcile and it will be hard when her support system is against him.” Having been in an abusive relationship where I kept things from family and friends because I knew how bad it'd make my ex look (because it was bad), I will never do that again. You should be able to tell your loved ones about the shit that's going on in your relationship. If it makes them hate your partner that's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 07:31 PM |
| 9 | It's a Power Thing - don't give it to themAt most the only thing you'll teach him is how to better fool the next woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:03 AM |
| 201 | Why I don't date "nice" guysAnd most asshole boyfriends/husbands don't start out that way. They're smart enough to put on an act until the woman catches feelings, then they'll start dropping the façade and catch her up in a trauma bond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:56 AM |
| 3 | Another example of a woman encouraging another woman to accept lessThen I fail to see how your comment was relevant to the original post, lol. Saying "I love you" to female friends and them saying it back is obviously a non-issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:34 PM |
| 52 | The guy “friend” who secretly likes youBefore FDS I foolishly got with my (now ex) boyfriend without knowing him from a hole in the wall. My two guy friends vanished. I think it was partially because my ex gave off a dangerous vibe but also because they were both salty that if I wanted a relationship I didn't pick one of them. They put in the time and effort of "friendship" with me, so clearly they should have been at the front of the queue! Look around, ladies, really look. How many men do you know who're good friends with a woman w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 06:24 AM |
| 24 | Another example of a woman encouraging another woman to accept lessBe aware of the fact that most of your male friends are probably attracted to you and would eagerly hook up with and/or date you if given the opportunity. Women aren't wrong to feel uncomfortable with their boyfriends having close friendships with women. A LVM will make a forever girlfriend out of a woman while cultivating friendships with women they perceive as more attractive or higher value in the hopes that someday he'll get the opportunity to sleep with or date them. Evidence | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 06:01 AM |
| 35 | Another example of a woman encouraging another woman to accept lessThe main issue here is that she's one of those women who hasn't accepted the fact that 99.99% of men want to sleep with their female friends. Most men are simply not emotionally sophisticated enough to have genuinely platonic friendships with women. They have a really hard time seeing value in women they aren't attracted to so it's unlikely for them to strike up friendships with such women in the first place. And virtually any woman they're attracted to they'd sleep with/date if given the opport… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:54 AM |
| 68 | 🙄🙄🙄 wayyy too much /sJust asking them to not watch porn because it supports an industry that simultaneously harms and dehumanizes women/girls and gives men sexual dysfunction/abusive tendencies is asking too much. On that one criteria alone 99% of men are disqualified. This is why we must learn how to be happy and fulfilled while single. Self fulfillment is top priority, always. Cultivating fulfilling non-romantic and non-sexual relationships that satisfy our social needs is second priority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:37 AM |
| 370 | Guys need to stop being comfortable about things that don’t affect them....Those pathetic scrotes just fucking loved snitching when they found out someone on their base or w/e was gay. Men: I can excuse my platoon buddies raping the women in our unit but I draw the line at homosexual relationships! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:52 PM |
| 284 | Guys need to stop being comfortable about things that don’t affect them....I have a coworker I'm on friendly terms with who told me his then girlfriend (now wife) told him one of his friends made her uncomfortable. He'd make advances and say inappropriate things when her boyfriend left the room. My coworker seemed uncertain what he should do, because as far as he knew his friend was a perfectly nice person. I had to sit him down and literally be like, "John, your girlfriend wouldn't lie about this. She wouldn't exaggerate. Men often behave differently around women than… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:47 PM |
| 26 | Me and the other girls in my theater class in high school were constructing props in the library late at night and we all had a tearful heart to heart about all the abuse we have received by men. That night we learned that each and every girl had been raped and/or beaten by a bf or family member.It's eerie how similar our mothers are, down to the lack of tenderness towards their own children. Maybe they thought if they raised us like that it would make us stronger and less susceptible to being victimized. But, of course, that isn't how things work. I hope both our families are able to heal and prevent this trauma from impacting further generations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:07 PM |
| 14 | Me and the other girls in my theater class in high school were constructing props in the library late at night and we all had a tearful heart to heart about all the abuse we have received by men. That night we learned that each and every girl had been raped and/or beaten by a bf or family member.I work closely with two other women who've also experienced abuse/rape and it's awful that we have it in common but it's also been therapeutic to be able to talk and joke about it. At the risk of giving unwelcomed unsolicited advice, ignoring it won't help. Please find some sort of venue where you can talk about it, be it therapy or even Reddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:36 PM |
| 33 | Me and the other girls in my theater class in high school were constructing props in the library late at night and we all had a tearful heart to heart about all the abuse we have received by men. That night we learned that each and every girl had been raped and/or beaten by a bf or family member.And they probably besmirch you as being dramatic/not letting the past go because you have a simple standard that EVERYONE should have: refusing to socialize with pedophiles/rapists. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:30 PM |
| 29 | Me and the other girls in my theater class in high school were constructing props in the library late at night and we all had a tearful heart to heart about all the abuse we have received by men. That night we learned that each and every girl had been raped and/or beaten by a bf or family member.My coworker and I literally just confided in one another the other day about being molested when we were little girls. Sometimes I really don't want to live on this planet anymore. Men are such a disease. I hope to be a mother someday but how can I ensure my children are never traumatized by some sick male? I can't, realistically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:27 PM |
| 70 | Me and the other girls in my theater class in high school were constructing props in the library late at night and we all had a tearful heart to heart about all the abuse we have received by men. That night we learned that each and every girl had been raped and/or beaten by a bf or family member.My mom and I recently had a conversation about all the ways men have hurt her and it was extremely painful. We have a complicated relationship, mostly because she put me in the role of co parent and therapist very early on, but realizing that most of her decision making is rooted in trauma from molestation, rape, and abuse was eye opening to me. Shortly after escaping my abusive ex I kind of had an emotional breakdown while talking to my mom and revealed to her that he'd been raping me. Rather t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:21 PM |
| 16 | Mom's 'nagging' text about baby's car seat saved his life in car wreck. She leaves the baby with him for one day to go back to work from maternity leave and he almost kills the baby. Calls herself a ‘nagging wife’Being stuck co-parenting with an irresponsible man is my definition of hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:10 AM |
| 4 | I saw the violence my ex fiance was capable of and it made me realize something.This is something my abusive ex actually did me the courtesy of warning me about. He told me that if we were going to be together that eventually at some point I would see "it". Someone would push just the right (or wrong, I suppose) buttons, threaten the right way, disrespect him enough, whatever, and he was going to lose control. And he warned me that when it happened I shouldn't try to intervene. imo, just like with any other sort of abusive behavior men give themselves permission to give in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:08 AM |
| 2 | How does a HVW act when running into a LVM ex?I have a coworker who's a former FWB who stealthed me and started playing mind games, trying to get me to develop feelings. Before FDS I was still friendly with him and would chat if we crossed paths at work. I'm the one who ended our arrangement so I thought it was magnanimous of me or something. Logically I knew he'd pulled some pretty fucked up shit but I hadn't really absorbed it, at least not enough to hold it against him. I was still sipping the Cool Girl koolaid. These days I'm very dry w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 02:53 AM |
| 19 | As women, we need to start decentering men and refocusing on ourselves and the other incredible women in our lives.I'm feeling this on a deep and spiritual level. 🙌 I'm getting the two women coworkers in my department Christmas presents and the man NOTHING. The women have already hinted that they're getting me something too, while the man hasn't mentioned Christmas at all and when I asked him what he got his daughter for her recent birthday he was like, "I don't know, lol." Because his wife took care of it. 🙄 I'm done putting effort, thought, and consideration into my relationships with men when they've lite… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 01:04 AM |
| 161 | Thoughts?I had a casual FWB stealth me one night. I was massively insecure with low self esteem, so rather than respond appropriately (be disgusted and never see him again) I took it as a compliment and from then on we never used condoms. Aside from the fact that pulling out isn't effective birth control, this guy was a fuckboy and casually hooked up with a ton of women. He didn't give a shit about the potential STDs he could be giving me. He was 10 years older than me and did nothing but use and manipul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 04:55 PM |
| 34 | This makes me so sad 😶Damn, even in my darkest PickMe days I never begged to give someone a blowjob, and I have an abusive ex who'd withhold sex as a manipulation tactic. Imagine how bad that must feel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 07:37 AM |
| 43 | Rando PMs an active FDS member (me). Biggest takeaway here? To those women here wondering if they are GOOD ENOUGH: all you have to do is be a woman to be a prize. That’s it. Even the worst of the worst redpillers will tell you!Even the women I know who I wouldn't classify as HVW due to unfortunate PickMe mindsets are overall lovely human beings. Their PickMe ways are mostly only a detriment to themselves (with their children, if they have any, causalities) but as acquaintances and coworkers? Fantastic. I started in a new position a couple months ago and I work closely with three people, two women and a man. There simply is no comparison between the women and the man. It's like there're three adults in our department, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:43 AM |
| 124 | Yeah, we’re always to blame. Your Peter Pan complex is totally our fault. Shut the fuck up and buy some furniture and eat with utensils, you Neanderthal.Men don't like living like this, they're waiting for the right PickMe to come along and turn their dime store Patrick Bateman apartment into a home for them, preferably at her expense. Do they really expect us to believe that men will shell out $500+ a night to stay at a nice hotel while on a dream vacation, but that they wouldn't want to live like that at home? Sure, Jan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:55 AM |
| 154 | Rando PMs an active FDS member (me). Biggest takeaway here? To those women here wondering if they are GOOD ENOUGH: all you have to do is be a woman to be a prize. That’s it. Even the worst of the worst redpillers will tell you!I've been sexually abused by every man I've come into sexual contact with, starting with when I was molested as a child by two men. More than half of all female homicide victims are killed by their boyfriends/husbands or exes. Loving this tutorial mode! 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:47 AM |
| 88 | Rando PMs an active FDS member (me). Biggest takeaway here? To those women here wondering if they are GOOD ENOUGH: all you have to do is be a woman to be a prize. That’s it. Even the worst of the worst redpillers will tell you!It's true. We have virtually limitless options when it comes to the quagmire of LVM out there. That's why there isn't really such a thing as a female incel. BUT. Multiple dating options all the time ≠ much easier life. This is something they really can't seem to get through their thick skulls. Women do not benefit by default the way men do by being in relationships. Men benefit by default by taking advantage of their girlfriends/wives in a multitude of ways. This is directly reflected in the sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:39 AM |
| 32 | Oh my sweet brainwashed summer child… Communication is not a vaccine against catching feelings from someone who wants to roleplay being a boyfriend without the commitment.omg, the ONE time I ever did anything with him outside of his apartment (he took me to a concert) he PDAed the shit out of me. I've had actual boyfriends who showed me less affection in public. These manipulative fuckboys are everywhere and somehow almost never get called out for the mind games they play. They intentionally try to get women to fall in love, intentionally break hearts, and they aren't vilified nearly enough for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 04:28 AM |
| 67 | Oh my sweet brainwashed summer child… Communication is not a vaccine against catching feelings from someone who wants to roleplay being a boyfriend without the commitment.I had a fuckboy FWB who forehead kissed me. They 100% know what it means to women, that we tend to interpret it as particularly affectionate and that it has no place in a casual arrangement/hookup. They do it on purpose, like they do a lot of other things, to confuse us and try to get us to catch feelings. We're easier to manipulate when we have feelings and it's an ego boost for them to get a woman to fall for them. Scrotes, man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 03:18 AM |
| 7 | Big sighJoke's on you, my felon didn't have a driver's license so instead of him borrowing my car I just became his personal chauffeur. 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 03:05 AM |
| 18 | Dating is like a box of chocolates✅ Sociopath ✅ Felon ✅ Mommy issues ✅ Un(der)employed Gotta catch em all! 🙈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 01:38 AM |
| 26 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄We can't even get men like Brock Turner adequately punished when they're caught red handed in the act of raping someone. You're more likely to get struck by lightening than to have your life legitimately ruined because of a false rape accusation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:33 PM |
| 15 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄I honestly think they should start screening people (boys, lbr) for low EQ. They're on the lookout for all sorts of other conditions and disorders and those usually get caught by the school system, but low EQ isn't considered an issue in and of itself so it goes unaddressed. It is a disability. These boys grow up and destroy lives, primarily those of their future spouses and children. God, there was a post on r/AmItheAsshole (I think it was) the other day where a 15 year old boy was showing his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:26 PM |
| 37 | 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄Exactly! Or do you go through life highly concerned that someone is going to falsely accuse you of burglarizing their house, to the point that every time you come across the topic you feel the need to remind everyone that false burglary accusations occur and they RuIn LiVeS? They don't actually believe that women are going around making false rape accusations, not really. These men pride themselves on their logic and the statistics show them false rape accusations aren't statistically significan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:11 PM |
| 42 | Grimes talking about having unprotected sex with Elon Musk is horrifying yet painfully relatable: a "sort of tragedy", "sacrificing your body and your freedom", "capitulation", profound commitment"Also accused her of being emotionally manipulative because she openly grieved the death of their son. He's a monster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:48 AM |
| 86 | Grimes talking about having unprotected sex with Elon Musk is horrifying yet painfully relatable: a "sort of tragedy", "sacrificing your body and your freedom", "capitulation", profound commitment"Pregnancy is peak vulnerability and maximum helplessness and if the father is LVM, you will feel it to your very core. Truer words have never been spoken. When my abusive ex successfully coerced me into getting pregnant I went into survival mode. I really have no other way to describe it. I disassociated and let my instincts take over and they took me to Planned Parenthood. I couldn't cope with the thought of having a baby with someone like him. I've never felt that vulnerable before in my life.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:43 AM |
| 8 | If you needed a sign from God, this is it!I'm preaching to myself tbh, lmao. This is one of the biggest holdovers from my PickMe days that I'm still struggling to unlearn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 02:02 AM |
| 16 | The amount of times I see posts like this makes my eyes roll so hard that I’ve probably fractured my optic nerve. The entitlement is realLow self esteem and lack of confidence really just mean the man doesn't think he has much to offer in a relationship, which is probably true. But instead of doing something about it, instead of investing in themselves and leveling up, they just stay that way. Stagnant, unambitious, unhappy with themselves, and somehow expecting a woman to not only be okay with that but also be the one to start the relationship. Nah, fuck that. If you have low self esteem and a lack of confidence you should NOT b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:58 AM |
| 119 | I'll just be single then lolI don't even think it's that they want to be chased. They just want vagina to become as abundant and low value as dick is. They would LOVE to have the overabundance of sexual opportunities that women have. Every single one of us could get on Tinder and have a hookup within hours if we wanted to, likely with a man objectively several points higher than us on the 1-10 attractiveness scale. The same isn't true for them and it makes them feel some type of way, idk if it's fury or envy or what but it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:51 AM |
| 315 | I'll just be single then lolIt's so intellectually dishonest when people make this sort of argument, that there's no reason women can't or shouldn't be the pursuers. Men do not respond to being pursued the same way women do. When a woman is pursued, she typically will not entertain a man she doesn't consider up to standard. When a man is pursued, he often will entertain a woman he doesn't consider up to standard. What does he have to lose? He stands to gain social capital, whether by having casual sex with her or by enteri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:34 AM |
| 55 | Just through the whole man outI'm someone who gets wet super easily and it's led to men thinking it's cool to engage in ZERO foreplay. Men don't know how to make love anymore. To them, foreplay isn't part of having sex. They don't find it worthwhile in and of itself. They (sometimes) begrudgingly do it just so they can stick their dick in you easier. Especially these generations that've grown up watching porn, the only goal of sex is for them to nut as soon as humanly possible. I wonder if they even genuinely enjoy sex or if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:14 AM |
| 93 | If you needed a sign from God, this is it!And stop using LVM to boost your ego. It's not a compliment that they want to fuck you. 99% of hetero men want to fuck you. Rather than boost your own confidence you're really just boosting theirs and giving them a false impression of their value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:54 PM |
| 23 | “its pretty cool cuz she doesnt care if i fuck up my life”I would definitely appreciate it if LVM were upfront and like, "My life is fucked up. I have no interest in improving it. I will resent you if you try to help me. And I know I'm too insecure to cope with having a partner more attractive than me." All we really want from them is honesty so we can cut the bullshit and stop having to inspect them for a year+ to make sure they're not fucking lying to us. I can't stand all the goddamn lying and future faking. 😣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:52 PM |
| 42 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendlmao, yet they don't want to hear a THING if you bring up how they're still living halfway up their mother's uterus. 🤔 My ex once tried to pressure me into telling him I loved him. He'd told me he loved me, but I'd never said it back. In the course of the conversation/argument he demanded I list off who I do love, because I guess he wanted to know who qualified if he didn't. He got SO fucking salty when the only person I said I love is my younger brother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:32 AM |
| 37 | Do not ever, ever put yourself into the situation where your last friend is your boyfriendThis is incredibly valuable advice. My abusive ex realized before I did that my friend group was toxic af. It's a textbook tactic for abusive men to try to isolate you but it's even easier for them when all your friends legitimately are garbage. Looking back, he encouraged me to distance myself from them but he never encouraged me to forge other friendships. He wanted to be the only person I had so that I'd have no one to turn to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 05:31 AM |
| 2 | Why have I seen so many "girlfriend cuts boyfriends hair in quarantine" posts but not ONE post where the boyfriend cuts his girlfriends hair?My NVM ex couldn't/wouldn't even brush my hair right. 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:05 AM |
| 96 | No way this wasn’t done on purpose so she’d never ask him again...I have a 10 year plan to get myself situated so that I can have kids alone if need be. One of the few perks of being a woman is that it's much easier to become a solo parent, whether biologically or through adoption. I'm not going to wait around hoping the right HVM materializes. If I do I'll probably never get to become a mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:03 AM |
| 152 | No way this wasn’t done on purpose so she’d never ask him again...There was one disturbing post where a woman detailed how she was being sexually assaulted by her husband on the regular, living in fear of his unwanted hands on her body. And a disturbing number of women were commiserating in the comments. But none of them identified their experiences as sexual assault or rape. When I was with my ex I knew in the back of my mind what had happened every time he'd raped me. It took me some months to finally verbally identify it for what it was. I can't imagine goi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:56 AM |
| 168 | No way this wasn’t done on purpose so she’d never ask him again...It's shit like this that makes being a single mom easier than being married to a manchild. This must be like having an adult special needs child, only you share an inherent maternal bond with your child, you took on the responsibility of caring for them for life when you decided to reproduce, and they don't typically lowkey resent you. I read a similar story on Reddit awhile ago, only it didn't come to light how incompetently the husband had packed their kids' bags until they were already at the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:48 AM |
| 55 | I’m glad more and more women are being more aware of how 50/50 is a mythAlso about your story: she probably gave him tons of support while he was coming up. So that was her money too 🙄 This is very true! Most wealthy men don't get to be that way without any support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 01:21 AM |
| 12 | Florence Pugh defends her age gap relationship with Zach BraffTrue "love" knows no age, age is just a number. (Nevermind that it's always women under 25 that repulsive old men "fall in love" with though. That's just how true looovvvvveee goes /s) lmao, right? How come I never see any men in their 50s with women in their 70s? 🤔🤔🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 01:13 AM |
| 16 | Florence Pugh defends her age gap relationship with Zach Braffjfc. Explosive anger and jumps to physical assault so it's a pretty safe assumption that he's probably abusive. I hope Florence wakes up and soon. eta: It actually did get aired! They edited out the assault but you still get a disturbing glimpse at Braff's anger issues, screaming and cursing in a kid's face (he had to clarify that he wasn't going to hit him so the other adults would let him get close) and telling him he's going to jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 01:03 AM |
| 29 | Florence Pugh defends her age gap relationship with Zach BraffI became an adult when I was 18 years old. In my experience, only people who're still young or who're still incredibly immature believe this. You're not magically an adult just because the earth's gone around the sun 18 times since you were born. It's a meaningless, arbitrary age to set adulthood at and actually has no basis in science. The human brain isn't finished developing until ~25 (meaning Florence is still in an underdeveloped stage of human growth) and even then, you can't gloss over th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 01:00 AM |
| 6 | Florence Pugh defends her age gap relationship with Zach BraffOh nooooo. 😨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:50 AM |
| 11 | He has no job, doesn't help with the house, nor parents... Why bother???I mean, I had an ex who definitely thought he was power playing me by never giving me a compliment and just saying I looked "fine." My ex would neg me to lower my self esteem but then also forbid me from hanging out with male friends or even speaking to a former FWB in a purely professional context (the guy's a coworker). Like, you want me to believe that I'm unattractive but you clearly recognize that these other men are attracted to me and the competition threatens you. So which one is it? Are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:36 AM |
| 15 | He has no job, doesn't help with the house, nor parents... Why bother???My ex reproductively coerced me and got me pregnant to try to trap me with a baby. Told me I'd have to keep working (so he could keep leeching off of me) and that our moms could just watch the baby. Men do this shit intentionally. Women need to stop letting LVM trap them with babies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:29 AM |
| 41 | He has no job, doesn't help with the house, nor parents... Why bother???This guy came from a REALLY shitty upbringing so I kept thinking that he did so good for himself considering these things. Women are too empathetic for our own good sometimes. This is what kept me with my abusive ex for so long, knowing how terrible his childhood had been. It made me downplay the bad, give way too much recognition to what little good there was, and every time I tried to leave him it made me feel like I was turning my back on some poor little boy rather than a grown man who's ful… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:26 AM |
| 210 | I’m glad more and more women are being more aware of how 50/50 is a mythI'm not much of a cook but when I was with my abusive NVM ex I bent over backwards to keep him fed. There were a few things I could make that he liked (he despised most fruits and vegetables), so I'd cook those dishes at his request. Otherwise I was buying him prepared foods from the grocery store or ordering delivery. I was constantly going back and forth to the kitchen for him, too. He lived like a king. But, just like with your shitty ex, it wasn't enough. He wanted more homecooked meals but … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:13 AM |
| 392 | I’m glad more and more women are being more aware of how 50/50 is a mythMost men don't make enough anymore to support a household on their income alone (which isn't entirely their fault, the economy the way it's become) but still feel entitled to that 1950s lifestyle like they have a housewife waiting at home. It makes no fucking sense. And then the ones who do make enough to support a stay-at-home wife seem to inevitably grow to resent her, based on a bunch of r/relationships and r/AmItheAsshole posts I've seen. I remember one post where the guy was straight up wea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:04 AM |
| 79 | May be FDS or may be that after I saw myself in a picture with my “hot” crush I was more attractive... either way, even hot men are meh now.I still find men physically attractive (unfortunately!) but then their personalities/behavior come into play. Like the cute coworker who has really interesting hobbies but who randomly felt the need to tell me his younger sister is more successful than him. Like, okay? Is she single? You trying to give me her number? The super hot guy who's been flirting with me for years who turned out to have a child with his forever girlfriend/"situationship". The absolute scrotery. I had to run into them gro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:55 PM |
| 136 | LVM pushes woman to the brink of insanity on thanksgiving so she throws the WHOLE turkey out of the balcony and has a breakdown.The brain will pump you full of all sorts of hormones that make you think you're in love and deeply attached to this other person, effectively making you an emotional hostage. This is why it's so, so important to not allow yourself to develop deep feelings unless you've thoroughly vetted the man first, and even then they can pull a 180 on you years into the marriage. But at least in circumstances like those you can count yourself a victim of a highly sophisticated manipulator and take some solac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 10:34 PM |
| 27 | ̶M̶y̶ HisBecause they benefit immensely from this. The statistics show that women do a disproportionate amount of housework (and childcare) even when they're working the same number of hours outside the home as their supposed partner. Even women who earn a higher income do more housework. That translates into a lot more free time for men. It's intentional. They know what they're doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 01:21 AM |
| 11 | ̶M̶y̶ Hisimo, it's either clean or it's not clean, half-assed or actually done. LVM have created a false reality in which there are different levels of clean. And I'm not talking clutter, I'm talking stuff like the bathroom sink. There's only one version of a clean bathroom sink. Yet they'll always pull some, "Sorry I don't clean it to your standards!" shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 01:18 AM |
| 45 | What‘s wrong with having sex with „Chads“? No woman wants casual sex with an ugly or average dude unless she is a desperate one imo. Why do men want to LTR beautiful women out of their league but shame us for wanting sex with hot men only when casual sex is shallow?I casually dated a straight up ugly guy once. If I was a 7 he was a 3. I'd thought he had a nice personality. He did not. He was grotesquely pornsick, which turned out to be a blessing in disguise since it meant I never had PIV sex with him because he couldn't stay hard. This scrote was in his early 20s, getting the opportunity to be naked with a woman way out of his league, and he couldn't stay hard. He had way more interest in doing weird porn shit than having actual sex. He had a disturbing o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:35 PM |
| 84 | I just read this in the comments. This is not just a joke, this will happen if we women don't fight back against whore culture.The crazy thing is you will actually come across libfems so deranged that they've deluded themselves into thinking they wouldn't find it disturbing for their 7 year old to tell them they want to be a "sex worker" when they grow up, that they'd have no problem with it and would even encourage it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:23 PM |
| 72 | There's a worrying amount of posts where the woman has no idea she deserves respect and bodily autonomy...I was like OP. I was raped and sexually assaulted by men I was dating and most of the time I wasn't even able to identify it for what it was, it just left me feeling incredibly awful and I turned it in on myself and thought I was at fault. My self esteem was in the shitter. I was a PickMe, seeking validation through male approval (primarily the approval of the men I'd date) so I was primed to downplay mistreatment. I wasn't raised right. I was neglected and emotionally abused by my parents. No o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 12:18 PM |
| 22 | A pick me and her bf, animatedWhere did you get this footage of me? 🙈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:50 AM |
| 6 | I was harassed by a man who stared at me like this: Is this the sociopathic sexual predator stare?This is the same sort of expression my sociopath ex often made. Dead shark eyes and that sneer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:25 AM |
| 1 | He simply does not want to meet your needsI'm definitely fearful-avoidant, From Wikipedia: Fearful-avoidant attachment patterns of behaviour are demonstrated by those possessing an unstable or fluctuating view of self and others. People with losses or other trauma, such as sexual abuse in childhood and adolescence may often develop this type of attachment and tend to agree with the following statements: "I am somewhat uncomfortable getting close to others. I want emotionally close relationships, but I find it difficult to completely tru… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 08:38 PM |
| 10 | Most men are vultures waiting for vulnurable women to abuseHe eventually discarded her. He'd found a new target to victimize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:15 AM |
| 42 | Vogue promoting FWB and age gap relationships to a probably 90% female audience - yikes.Wooooow. "Come on, ladies. Intentionally traumatize yourself. It's an experience!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 02:51 PM |
| 52 | Vogue promoting FWB and age gap relationships to a probably 90% female audience - yikes.However, no man I spoke to about it ever wanted to be my friend. The closest you'll get is MAYBE them using you for companionship whenever they're lonely, or to soothe their ego if another woman has rejected them, or maybe them trying to get you to catch feelings because they find it validating. True friendship with men is incredibly rare and incompatible with casual sex. It can exist with a vetted HVM with whom you're in a committed relationship, male relatives, and the diminishingly few men wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 02:49 PM |
| 206 | Multiple Shitsonality disorder 💩Women are PickMes for men. Men are also PickMes for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 02:36 PM |
| 157 | Most men are vultures waiting for vulnurable women to abuseFDS doesn't normally condone having male friends because it's an acknowledged fact that 99% of men are only friends with women they'd sleep with, so they sort of loiter around you hoping sex or a relationship will occur at some point, but it might be worth having one or two (preferably HV, if you can find them) guy friends because damn, if it isn't a good vetting tool. My abusive ex told me I wasn't "allowed" to hang out with my guy friends alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:31 PM |
| 228 | Most men are vultures waiting for vulnurable women to abuseMe having enough take his drink from his hand, pull him up off the couch and walk him to the door with him sputtering behind me that I'm acting crazy and need to calm down or he'll put me in a mental hospital. I had a friend who was in a severely abusive relationship (he was raping her, beating her, and almost killed her a couple times) and threatening to have her committed was one of her ex's favorite go-tos. One time he even drove her to a psychiatric hospital to be like, "This is where I'll p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 01:24 PM |
| 160 | Never date the Devil’s Advocate. You may just end up in a psych ward.And keep in mind, there's about a zero percent chance this telling of the story doesn't present him in the best light possible, assuming it's not peppered with outright lies. This man is abusive. He didn't like the uncomfortable inkling when he started to realize it, so he came to Reddit to be soothed. I hope his wife realizes what he's doing to her and leaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 12:17 PM |
| 166 | Vogue promoting FWB and age gap relationships to a probably 90% female audience - yikes.LMAO. They're "sustainable" because you're giving scrotes exactly what they want, access to your body, mind, and time without any reciprocity or culpability. The majority of men in relationships halfheartedly fake these things because it's their only avenue to sex. I had a 10 years older FWB. He'd do shit like try to get me to hang out for a couple hours with him before we got down to sex, as if I was interested in watching a movie on his gross couch. He started playing mind games, like inviting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 12:10 PM |
| 9 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.God, this hurts. I spent both my tax refund and my stimulus check on my shitty NVM abusive ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:27 AM |
| 37 | That really puts it in perspectiveI think way more women are raped than people realize, probably more than 1 in 3. Most women don't even want to conceptualize what they've experienced as rape because it was their boyfriend/husband whom they love and they rationalize that they could have stopped it if they'd emphatically said no or gotten physical, or they think because they gave in and "allowed it" in order to avoid rocking the boat that it was consensual. It took me awhile to really accept that my (now ex) boyfriend had raped m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:49 AM |
| 8 | LVM takes advantage of a "friend", rapes her, try to bend the story and gaslight her, still believes he did nothing wrong and reddit agrees with himSeveral holes in this story. We're supposed to believe he got drunk beyond culpability after only 2 drinks (not that such a point actually exists but even by his own logic this doesn't add up). He went to bed and conveniently gives no information on how much time had passed, not even an estimation. So not only was he probably not drunk to begin with, he went to sleep and she'd probably stayed up drinking (and take note, he also conveniently doesn't know what she was drinking before when they wer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 04:53 PM |
| 18 | Pickmeishas found in the wild!Not only are you just buying your own ring, it's a $500 ring. If a man proposes to me with a ring that I can't turn around and pawn off to escape him if need be, I don't want it. Your engagement and wedding rings should be like little escape funds on your finger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 07:00 AM |
| 43 | On the front page today 🤦♀️ why can't men, as a gender, understand what systematic oppression isI'm sorry. I will never believe that 40% number. Where are the stats to back that up? Since abusive men love to flip the script and claim to be the one being abused, the abuse/domestic violence statistics out there on the rate at which men are abused are useless. If they're not self reported (which are particularly useless) they're drawn from police statistics, which aren't reliable. I'm supposed to trust the judgement of some asshole cop who barely graduated high school (who's probably abusive … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 06:54 AM |
| 52 | On the front page today 🤦♀️ why can't men, as a gender, understand what systematic oppression isWomen fail at suicide more often than men because we're more selfless. It doesn't matter how depressed a woman may be and how much she may want to die, she'll have difficulty justifying putting her loved ones through the experience of her suicide. So women tend to change their minds at the last minute and dial 911 before they die. Women also take into account what kind of scene they'll be leaving behind if they commit suicide, hence the preference towards methods like pills. The methods men pref… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 06:34 AM |
| 3 | This was posted by my long term HVM friend. He truly gets it!Women all over the world provide without appreciation, respect, or love but RARELY do you ever encounter a man who doesn't get on a fucking bullhorn every time he does what he's supposed to. Ideally no one should have to provide without appreciation, respect, or love but a man considering it his duty to bear up and just do what he's supposed to even in the absence of positive reinforcement is a refreshing concept, considering how this is the daily reality for millions of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 07:08 AM |
| 6 | Tiktok pickme FTW! I am kisses, she is Dead.make sure you pay for your own drinks so he doesn't think you owe him anything Nooooooooooo. I don't know why women act like this is a good tactic. Paying for your own drinks does NOT change the quality of the man. If he'd feel like you owe him because he paid then he's still the same entitled asshole even if you've temporarily sidestepped the issue by paying yourself. These are opportunities to test a man's character. Don't pass them up. And if he pays and then acts like you owe him, KICK HIM T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 07:03 AM |
| 33 | What do you consider female beauty?To me, beauty is encapsulated in this page from a Shel Silverstein book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:55 AM |
| 7 | How to Know You’re A REAL “High Value Man” 💎To be fair, the majority of men can't be trusted. That's one thing these controlling LVM are right about. But they're also aware that there are better men than them out there, men who'd treat you right and actually value and take care of you. So they fear monger to keep you from ever trusting anyone else to decrease the chances of you leaving them. Better the devil you know than the devil you don't, they hope you'll figure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 01:57 AM |
| 63 | Female hypergamy is a lie. The reality of the "80/20 rule" is that 80% of women are quite literally equal in value to the top 20% of men. This is why we are seeing so many single high value women, and single low value men.I'm bi and had a conversation with a coworker of mine wherein he had trouble wrapping his mind around the concept that bi people would have any interest in men and would choose to date men. If you're not hardwired to be attracted to only men and have the option of women, why would you EVER go for men? I really had no logical argument against what he was saying, lmao. I honestly don't know why I'm still theoretically willing to give men a chance. Heteronormative culture, perhaps? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 01:30 AM |
| 37 | How to Know You’re A REAL “High Value Man” 💎It's nice if you bought your woman a Birkin bag but did you also bring her herpes because you have no sexual discipline? 💀💀💀 It's nice that you can teach her how to shoot a gun, how to self defense, but did you also teach her or convince her that no man can really be trusted? This hit me where it hurt. I had that awful dichotomy with my ex where he made me feel safe from the outside world and everyone else because he knew how to fight and always stood up for me, but then he became the person I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 01:09 AM |
| 35 | How are some women so accommodating to men who literally don't change their underwear?This is very true and I actually prefer intact penises. But the whole reason why circumcision gained so much traction in the US is precisely because people didn't think it was realistic to expect boys and men to clean themselves properly. As a culture we were really like, "Teach them proper hygiene and insist on it? Naaah, we'll just chop the skin off!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:58 AM |
| 59 | Female hypergamy is a lie. The reality of the "80/20 rule" is that 80% of women are quite literally equal in value to the top 20% of men. This is why we are seeing so many single high value women, and single low value men.They are obviously SO biased in favor of the men (likely being a bunch of ugly hobgoblins themselves, so the motivation is clear) and nitpick the women, it's hilarious. There's also some lowkey racism going on, I noticed. An average white woman was ranked the same as a gorgeous woman of color. An actual quote: "Generally cute and young looking, but these somewhat straighter shaped eyebrows do make you appear more serious and dull." Her EYEBROWS make her look DULL (also, he said this about an Asi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:54 AM |
| 70 | Female hypergamy is a lie. The reality of the "80/20 rule" is that 80% of women are quite literally equal in value to the top 20% of men. This is why we are seeing so many single high value women, and single low value men.Don't believe me? Go to r/ truerateme and compare the men vs women who are rated 5/10. The women who are fives are all gorgeous, the men who are fives look like trolls. Holy shit, I went over there and you weren't exaggerating. These two people were ranked ~5. And these two as well. I'm fucking dying. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:34 AM |
| 16 | Wow!When I was in the midst of an abusive relationship I was so deep in denial, I was irrational. I wanted to look at everything as an isolated incident. I'd also come to Reddit seeking relationship advice (on all the wrong subs) and leave out very pertinent information because I KNEW it would prevent anyone reading from being able to focus on what I desperately wanted to view as an isolated event. Straight up like, "Is it a warning sign that the guy I'm dating stood me up?" leaving out the bit wher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:20 AM |
| 21 | Wow!"All my friends agree with me" GTFO scrote! You know you didn't tell anyone this bullshit. I work with someone I used to have a FWB arrangement with (I have an unfortunate Cool Girl past) and my abusive ex tried to forbid me from speaking to him, even though I only ever talked to him as much as necessary for us to do our jobs. He said he didn't care, that I needed to find some way to do my job without ever talking to him. He tried to pull this "my friends agree with me" shit, too, as if that'd m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:16 AM |
| 100 | Wow!He's not stupid, he's abusive. He views her as his property and/or an extension of himself. This is textbook abusive male behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:09 AM |
| 38 | How are some women so accommodating to men who literally don't change their underwear?I had to come to Reddit for resources like FDS that I couldn't find anywhere else. Most women use this platform a lot differently than the average male user. I am introverted and disordered though, lmao. But at least I attend to my hygiene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:05 AM |
| 49 | How are some women so accommodating to men who literally don't change their underwear?I got 3 UTIs during my 7 month relationship with my NVM ex. I had to start peeing after sex religiously and start taking a cranberry supplement. He took showers every day but he wasn't circumcised and I think that played a hand. When we'd shower together he appeared to clean his dick properly but for all I know that's just because I was standing there. The male physiology is just plain hostile to the female body, even under ideal circumstances, and most of these scrotes can't be bothered to try … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:01 AM |
| 34 | How are some women so accommodating to men who literally don't change their underwear?Some years ago the whole concept of free bleeding became more common knowledge on the internet and I remember how absolutely disgusted and enraged men were. It was like a visceral reaction. I read men calling women who free bleed some of the worst names and insults imaginable. Most women who free bleed only do it the last couple days of their period because the flow has stemmed so much that it's comparable to average discharge, and most women have underwear that's been inadvertently stained anyw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:44 PM |
| 37 | How are some women so accommodating to men who literally don't change their underwear?This is something I always try to keep in mind when I'm reading posts and comments on Reddit. The Reddit userbase is not representative of the general population. It definitely skews more introverted and disordered. The average well adjusted social male isn't on Reddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Quick Survey - How Did You All Find FDS?Someone was calling FDS the female incels. This never ceases to amaze me with how intellectually dishonest it is. None of us are involuntarily celibate. And as for the actual message being put out here, it's completely different. We're not a group of people who belong to one of the most privileged demographics on the planet spewing vitriol about a marginalized group. We're a marginalized group who've been abused, sexually assaulted, raped, and used who've gathered together to try to learn how to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:33 PM |
| 23 | Scrotes who have the audacity to gaslight you into thinking the woman in a typical age-gap relationship is the predatory one 🙄 clearly it’s the woman with half the life experience and two-thirds the physical strength with the power advantage!YES. My ex claimed his mom didn't have to work if she didn't want to and that his stepdad was such a man that he could support them and their daughter on his own and he'd always hold them down blah, blah, blah and yet they were always struggling to get bills paid on time. My ex was even giving her money while he was living with me, not helping pay any bills at my place. He claimed he wanted to be like his stepdad someday, able to take care of his woman, when there was zero evidence he was actual… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 07:34 PM |
| 9 | Male Gold Diggers (flip for second image)Whyyy even date a man who can't afford his own PS5? Google says it's $500. I spent close to that on a fucking light fixture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 04:06 PM |
| 67 | Scrotes who have the audacity to gaslight you into thinking the woman in a typical age-gap relationship is the predatory one 🙄 clearly it’s the woman with half the life experience and two-thirds the physical strength with the power advantage!I know this because, growing up in hee haw country, several guys tried to latch on to me. I wasn’t wealthy at all, but I worked full time and went to college, and then graduate school. My area's version of this is hood guys who have criminal records, shitty credit, and no work history (because they make their money doing shit like trapping and popping checks), so they quite literally can't get by on their own because they can't even rent an apartment by themselves. They actually NEED a woman in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 03:53 PM |
| 83 | Scrotes who have the audacity to gaslight you into thinking the woman in a typical age-gap relationship is the predatory one 🙄 clearly it’s the woman with half the life experience and two-thirds the physical strength with the power advantage!lmao, so they were insinuating Amber Heard was only with Johnny Depp for his money? When the word is that his $650 million fortune was squandered through irresponsible spending and mismanagement? And Amber was already a millionaire herself? Do people really not realize that women who're already independently wealthy don't marry men for their money? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 03:34 PM |
| 137 | Scrotes who have the audacity to gaslight you into thinking the woman in a typical age-gap relationship is the predatory one 🙄 clearly it’s the woman with half the life experience and two-thirds the physical strength with the power advantage!I've had it revealed to me by a shocking number of women in relationships that they're paying most of the bills at home. My own mother is in a marriage where her leech of a husband only covers some of his own personal expenses like his car (which she helped buy) insurance and cellphone bill. He doesn't even help pay for groceries (other than his alcohol). And what does he bring to the table in return? Absolutely nothing. He's an alcoholic who cheats on her and has given her a black eye. He resen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 03:21 PM |
| 110 | Scrotes who have the audacity to gaslight you into thinking the woman in a typical age-gap relationship is the predatory one 🙄 clearly it’s the woman with half the life experience and two-thirds the physical strength with the power advantage!I still can't get over how all these average scrotes are so preoccupied with the boogeyman gold digger. Unless you're a millionaire you do not have to worry about being "targeted" by someone as calculating as Anna Nicole Smith. And even with situations like J. Howard Marshall and Anna Nicole Smith, he knew what he was doing (and I'd argue that she probably brightened up the last 14 months of his life). Rich people are finely attuned to when someone is trying to use them for their money. It's a c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 02:59 PM |
| 30 | Just a reminder that men negating your self esteem is a form of controlA man who makes digs at you is emotionally abusive. They'll usually start with making "jokes" about your appearance and if called out will try to brush it off as them ObViOuSlY joking. Some of them will even make you feel crazy for questioning it, pointing out that you're beautiful so it's cLeArLy a joke and you're overreacting for taking it otherwise. You'll feel that pressure to be the hot Cool Girl who doesn't take offense. But from there it'll only get worse. Once he has you taking these "jo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 05:58 AM |
| 58 | He simply does not want to meet your needsI have a fearful-avoidant attachment style (I had a really shitty childhood and unfortunate involvements with LVM/NVM/abusers only reinforced my issues) that easily reads as cold and dismissive and men HAAATE it. I seriously question whether men truly dislike clinginess/neediness based on the way men have responded to me being distant and behaving as if I have no needs. Meanwhile the men I've been with have consistently been incredibly demanding, controlling, jealous, etc. Dealing with them was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 05:45 AM |
| 137 | "I love your cooking" is NOT a real complimentI'm so glad my ex was left unsatisfied by my cooking, lmao. He was always so wistful about his mom's cooking. Boy really thought he could manipulate me into trying to compete with his black/Puerto Rican mom when I'm a basic white vegetarian who's delighted by a microwaved potato with butter. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:16 AM |
| 198 | Human decency? Don’t know her.Not that this guy has EVER done this, but women would see straight through it. It's just a different spin on when men immediately turn to insulting you when you won't entertain them with that, "Fuck you then, you're ugly anyway!" type shit. So childish. See whose confidence really gets destroyed when the "ugly" girl also wants nothing to do with him. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:06 AM |
| 164 | It’s sad that this kind of behavior from men is so rare.I'm a really good gift giver and the only person who reciprocates is one of my sisters. I appreciate the hell out of her for it but holy shit, how do we live in such a capitalistic culture with so many holidays and birthdays that're mainly centered around gift giving, and everyone manages to suck so badly at it? They really took that "it's not about the presents" sentiment and abused it to be inconsiderate af. Notice that people who suck at gift giving are also mysteriously the same people who c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:54 AM |
| 111 | Low brow humor... haha woman fart, so funny 🙄 A hvm wouldn’t do shit like this.I work at a bakery and if someone placed an order like this I'd accidentally lose it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:43 AM |
| 44 | ALWAYS ask for STD paperwork prior to any sexual contactI do consider it rape, rationally, but I've unfortunately experienced a lot worse so it's like my brain is ranking everything on a scale and what he did pales in comparison. He's actually the most considerate person I've slept with, sadly. The bar is so low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:18 AM |
| 35 | ALWAYS ask for STD paperwork prior to any sexual contactidk if this is nationwide but the Planned Parenthood that serves my area has an online patient portal you can login to and view your patient records including the results of any tests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 07:24 AM |
| 110 | ALWAYS ask for STD paperwork prior to any sexual contactEugh. Flashbacks to when I was a Cool Girl with a FWB who stealthed me one night and then never put another condom on again. At the time I took it as a compliment because I interpreted it as meaning he'd decided I was trustworthy and "clean" (he'd gotten me to admit to not having a high "body count"). Meanwhile he was hooking up with other women at the same time our arrangement was going on (or so he claimed, idk if he was as successful a fuckboy as he'd have led me to believe). I stopped to con… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 07:20 AM |
| 8 | This is how a narc ex will email you after you block them, and try to pull you back in. Obviously I’m not going to reply. In the past I would have. Thanks to fds it’s getting deleted and I’ll finish nuking this email. Notice the “poor me, woe is me” 🤮And it never is their last and final contact, unfortunately. 😂 Also why can't any of these scrotes proofread? I've actually had to guess at the meaning of some of the shit my ex has sent me because of his penchant for run-on sentences. You claim to love me yet you couldn't be bothered to send me something comprehensible? Sure, Jan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 03:02 AM |
| 15 | Men asking for money?That is to say often times men will target women they suspect of having lower self esteem or lonely and leverage that vulnerability for financial gain. Sometimes for years. So not only are they cared for like a child, they are provided for too. This was meee. I was such a Cool Girl™ PickMe that I didn't see any of the warning signs. He'd thought I had a higher position with my company than I do. He got me blackout drunk the first night we ever hung out so that he could sleep with me without a co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 02:49 AM |
| 5 | Men asking for money?My ex would ask to "borrow" money and then never pay it back, literally not once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 02:09 AM |
| 94 | Patriarchy 🤮I was molested by a family friend who preached at our church. Fuck churches and fuck organized religion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 01:42 AM |
| 16 | Has anyone told a real life friend/family/acquaintance about FDS?tbh if you have to hand a man a manual on how to treat women he's probably a lost cause. Either they view women as full fledged people with their own thoughts, wants, needs, and dreams or they don't. It actually takes having a daughter for a disturbing number of LVM to realize the full humanity of women. 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 01:37 AM |
| 9 | Has anyone told a real life friend/family/acquaintance about FDS?I told my mom about it because she's in an incredibly shitty marriage in which she's being taken advantage of financially and occasionally physically abused, but she's such a PickMe that nothing will get through. She's read books like Why Men Love Bitches and The Gift of Fear but no amount of information helps. I think at the heart of it is that she has some narcissistic tendencies and has NEVER been able to admit when she's wrong (has never apologized to me once in my entire life), so admitting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 01:33 AM |
| 29 | How to be HVM around your semi-famous crush?Sis, you need to take a step waaaay back and reevaluate. First of all, FDS does not condone crushes. Crushes are infatuation and they cloud your judgement. Secondly, you need to stop thinking about how to alter your behavior to (ostensibly) attract and/or impress this man. Don't do that. You're either making daily strives in your life to embody high values or you're not, and your decision to do so shouldn't be predicated on a man but for your own benefit. | /r/askFDS | 13/11/20 06:55 PM |
| 17 | Block and delete, never repeat...this is more a message to myself but I thought I'd share it here with you lovely ladiesBlocking and going no contact is the biggest power move. Also has the benefit of bothering the majority of them, even the biggest fuckboy scrotes. They're used to the novel length texts and emails. What they're not used to is radio silence and being cut off completely. I broke up with my abusive ex going on 4 months ago now and he still texts me (unfortunately there're a ton of ways to generate numbers to text someone from, so it's not really possible to entirely block someone anymore) even thou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 07:17 AM |
| 64 | I really hope she will get away from him... He honestly sounds like a lunatic.This is also what the red pill would call both people being abusive, or even just her being abusive if they're real far gone from reality. I've encountered a lot of average people who argue that most abusive relationships are actually ReCipRoCaLlY aBuSiVe. They'd really take a situation like this, where the factually physically stronger male initiates violence by grabbing his girlfriend and shoving her to the ground and where the factually weaker female defends herself by getting up and pushing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 07:03 AM |
| 125 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.My ex prefers older women and I think this is why. It's the ultimate LVM tactic. Go for a woman significantly older than you because that'll up the chances of her really putting the "mommy" in bangmommymaid. Unfortunately for him I'm only 2 years older and haaated the maternalistic role he'd angled me into. I am never going to do another grown man's laundry again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:33 AM |
| 167 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.Dude openly admitted he stalked Lisa Bonet and had designs on her before he'd ever even met her. It probably wouldn't have mattered what her personality was like, he'd picked her and had his mind set on her so he was going to make it happen. He's always been creepy and has gotten a pass because he's attractive. Christian Grey syndrome. "... Ever since I was, like, 8 years old and I saw her on the TV, and I was like, 'Mommy, I want that one' I'm like, 'I'm gonna stalk you for the rest of my life,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:23 AM |
| 8 | Does anyone else get triggered from casual sex scenes in movies/TV shows?Seduction is coercion, essentially, and it's EVERYWHERE in tv, movies, and books. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:01 AM |
| 17 | Does anyone else get triggered from casual sex scenes in movies/TV shows?I also get triggered by sex scenes. I've been raped but it's not rape scenes that get to me, it's the scenes that portray sex in a positive, healthy way. I've never had sexual contact with someone who didn't hurt me sexually. When I see scenes that show casual sex it brings me back to the times when the men who abused me were like that, because the truth is they weren't awful to me every time we had sex. Especially my most recent ex, who I broke up with ~4 months ago. He could be very passionate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:59 AM |
| 28 | Seeking advice and discussion about the harms of porn useBothers me so much when we critique porn and guys conflate porn with masturbation and go "uR cOnTroLLiNg wHaT i dO WiTh mY bOdy" There're 500 comments saying this every time there's a post on a relationship/sex sub by a woman who's experiencing the devastating effects of a pornsick boyfriend/husband. None of them find it at all concerning that they can't separate masturbation from porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:37 AM |
| 107 | THIS is why we have FDS - at least he’s more honest about it than some men are. Gross!!Is he paying for this or does he just expect someone to play his bangmommy for free? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 01:19 AM |
| 38 | Daily reminder: Do not waste your energy on the wrong people🚨This includes friends and family members!🚨 It's a sad truth that the average person is actually kind of shitty, including women. Women are less degenerate, less dangerous, and cause less damage on average than men but they can still be self centered and myopic. Vet everyone in your life and stop entertaining people who aren't on your level. I see so many posts on subs like r/relationships and r/AmItheAsshole that boil down to people continuing to allow toxic individuals to take up space in thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:52 PM |
| 45 | Women having standards = bad. Posted on a sexist subredditThat uncomfortable cognitive dissonance, tho. They recognize themselves in these dating red flags and don't want to acknowledge it, much less do the work to address it and better themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:44 PM |
| 43 | Women having standards = bad. Posted on a sexist subredditAs much as women have been taught the false narrative that we should be nurturers in our relationships, caretakers, all forgiving, tolerant, etc. men have been taught that they can and should expect to be accepted as they are and that if a woman won't have them, major flaws and all, then she's shallow. That's why us having standards rubs them the wrong way so much. They feel entitled to relationships and love even when they are horrible human beings with shitty personalities and no prospects. Vi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:42 PM |
| 366 | Poor woman, awful husbandAnd she's a new addition to the friend group, the friend of one of his friend's girlfriend. So far removed that she could easily have turned a blind eye or callously laughed along. Women like her are a gem. There are unfortunately a lot of LVW in this world for whom sisterhood means nothing. How many women in this group chat knew about this cruel nickname, never objected to it, and didn't tell her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:45 AM |
| 334 | Poor woman, awful husbandShe gave this man children. Her areolas probably got bigger when she got pregnant, as is totally natural, leading to this sick nickname. She sacrificed her physique in order to give him the sacred gift of fatherhood and he's mocked her behind her back to all his friends in return. This man doesn't deserve to ever touch another woman again. And she can't even come up with an equivalent nickname for him. It's not like if he were to have gained weight. There's no male parallel for how and why her b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:39 AM |
| 70 | They NEVER learn, do they? 😒🤦🏻♀️Us: God, the hordes of shitty low value men trying to use and fuck us that we have to sift through just to find high value men who truly respect us is a Herculean task. Let's share some tips with each other to prevent being used for sex and/or wife/girlfriend perks by scrotes, so we don't end up in miserable relationships/situationships. We've been there, done that and we can't tolerate it anymore! Obtuse LVM Reddit scrotes: Wow, these women must be involuntarily celibate! They really don't want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:13 AM |
| 367 | Whelp it’s the end of an era y’all. r/UnpopularOpinion moderators and their selective application of the rules only on women who have actual unpopular opinions that they don’t personally like strikes again.Reddit hates women, just like the world at large does. It is known. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:47 AM |
| 58 | He even starts by saying he's adding backstory to make himself look better. I have no words.I got super sick late January into early February. I think I may have had Covid but they weren't routinely testing for it back then, at least not in my state. I developed a really bad fever with chills, a bad days long headache, I completely lost my appetite, was fatigued like I've never experienced before, and I started passing out. I'm the type to downplay it when I get sick so it took me passing out, hitting my head, and my brother telling me he was going to call an ambulance if I didn't let … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:52 AM |
| 11 | We should pray for her...The last time I was at his place I noticed mouse droppings floating in the standing sink water that his dirty dishes were soaking in. Soaking in mouse shit. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 12:03 AM |
| 5 | Actions speak louder than wordsIt enrages me now too, in retrospect! "Only" wanted to hurt. "Only". If he killed someone, was it that he "only" wanted to murder them? It's such an insidious way for them to both acknowledge and downplay exactly what they did. They 100% meant to hurt you but you're supposed to not take it seriously for some reason because it's "only" exactly what they meant to do. Shit's bananas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 12:01 AM |
| 25 | Actions speak louder than wordsLVM are such pitiable creatures. Imagine being so emotionally two dimensional that you can only conceptualize crying as a manipulation tactic, because you lack the ability to feel that level of sadness and you lack the ability to empathize with other people. What a sad state of existence. What even motivates them in life? Because if you can't feel lows you probably can't feel highs either. And if you can't empathize with anyone you're missing out on a huge chunk of the human experience. Empty sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:49 PM |
| 12 | Actions speak louder than wordsMy ex, when I was gently advising him not to do something that would jeopardize his job: "You're a condescending asshole." Me: cries My ex: "I only said that to hurt you." My ex: "Stop crying. I love you. I never want to hurt you." ????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:44 PM |
| 9 | Great reminder Ladies, DON'T FALL FOR POTENTIAL!!My ex fell in love with my potential too. I sought help several times, but always gave up. She deserved better and I'll never forgive myself. They knowingly let us pour our love and support into them fully aware that they will give up and break our hearts. They have the audacity to date and enter into relationships, knowing this is what they're bringing to the table. They know, ladies. Stop trying to build up these men who will only disappoint you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:41 PM |
| 14 | Pictures of scantily dressed women cause a region of the male brain associated with tool use to light up. Their brains literally categorize us as something to be used. The "hostile sexists" studied showed no brain activity that indicates they recognize women in bikinis as humans with thoughts.We absolutely do. I'm definitely someone who leans more nurture over nature. I believe that humans are exceptional, that we're not slaves to our biology like other species are. We have sentience, the ability to introspect. I believe everyone is fully capable of harnessing and controlling whatever primal instincts humans may still have. There's no excuse in 2020 for men to be pigs who dehumanize women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:34 PM |
| 26 | This is what a HVM looks like: Warrick Dunn helped provide families with a positive home environment so that children can thrive educationally, socially and economically.Staying guarded and putting yourself first when it comes to men can easily be misconstrued as selfishness but really it's just survival. LVM will destroy your life if you give them the opportunity. But don't let the way society is (misogynistic as fuck) turn you jaded and bitter. Turn that selfless, generous spirit that so many women have towards something constructive like fostering a shelter animal or volunteering with a charity. Don't let LVM snuff out your light. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:31 PM |
| 22 | Pictures of scantily dressed women cause a region of the male brain associated with tool use to light up. Their brains literally categorize us as something to be used. The "hostile sexists" studied showed no brain activity that indicates they recognize women in bikinis as humans with thoughts.Dressing modestly 24/7 won't weed out LVM, it'd only help them skirt under the radar. If your dog flips out every time it sees a squirrel through the window you aren't changing the behavior by drawing the curtains closed, you're merely circumventing the issue and leaving it unaddressed. Go ahead and dress appropriately, which may sometimes mean dressing "scantily" or sexily. Just stop entertaining men who've indicated they view women as less than human under any circumstances. These men inevitab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:12 PM |
| 52 | Pictures of scantily dressed women cause a region of the male brain associated with tool use to light up. Their brains literally categorize us as something to be used. The "hostile sexists" studied showed no brain activity that indicates they recognize women in bikinis as humans with thoughts.This is a more recent study about the damaging effects of pornography. "From eroding the prefrontal cortex, an area of the brain critical for impulse control, to damaging the dopamine reward system, researchers evaluate the impact of viewing pornography on the brain." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:02 PM |
| 21 | Pictures of scantily dressed women cause a region of the male brain associated with tool use to light up. Their brains literally categorize us as something to be used. The "hostile sexists" studied showed no brain activity that indicates they recognize women in bikinis as humans with thoughts.I think a modern study with a bigger sample size would be even more damning, probably why no one is doing it. Is there grant money to be had in proving that the average man is a degenerate? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:59 PM |
| 38 | Pictures of scantily dressed women cause a region of the male brain associated with tool use to light up. Their brains literally categorize us as something to be used. The "hostile sexists" studied showed no brain activity that indicates they recognize women in bikinis as humans with thoughts.You're right. It definitely should be studied more thoroughly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:57 PM |
| 31 | Pictures of scantily dressed women cause a region of the male brain associated with tool use to light up. Their brains literally categorize us as something to be used. The "hostile sexists" studied showed no brain activity that indicates they recognize women in bikinis as humans with thoughts.Some of the men studied were worse than others. The "hostile sexists" who view women as controlling and invaders of male space are the ones whose brains were especially apt to not view women as humans. Men have the ability to rewire the way their brains work and it is their responsibility to do so. There are subs like r/nofap where men talk about their journeys with abstaining from pornography and masturbation, and a lot of them find it changes the way they think. It just takes more self awarene… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:52 PM |
| 19 | We should pray for her...I once dated a guy who would wear the same t-shirt and pajama pants day and night for easily more than a week. When he showered he'd pile them on the floor that often had MOUSE SHIT on it and then just put them back on, often the same boxers as well. It's so embarrassing looking back and realizing my standards have always been pitifully low. 🙈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:26 PM |
| 31 | Living on your own = "sky high demands"It's weird to me that almost none of them think to spin it as moving back in to help their aging parents. But I guess they know they wouldn't be able to keep that ruse up for very long, or that it would take more effort than they're willing to put in. They might actually end up accidentally helping their parents. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:20 PM |
| 25 | Living on your own = "sky high demands"Scrote: "Used to live with ex when I was 20. Studied, worked, now with parents" lmao. My ex's mom was defending her son once, going off about how he used to have a really nice apartment in NYC but then his girlfriend broke up with him. That in conjunction with him getting into trouble with the law (yet again) and then going to rehab spurred him to move in with them upstate, ostensibly to get his life together (spoiler alert: he never stopped using, didn't stop dealing, and had zero intention of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:14 PM |
| 50 | He isn't treating the new girl better. Even 'ThE BoYs' know.There is no such thing as a LVM who's miraculously changed and is now treating his new girl better. He might get better at drawing the honeymoon/love bombing phase out longer, he might get better about spacing out the incidences of treating his girl like shit, he might have found a girl who'll lie to herself and others to project the image of a healthy relationship, but rest assured, sooner or later that relationship is going to be shit. LVM don't change, they adapt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:59 PM |
| 166 | Pictures of scantily dressed women cause a region of the male brain associated with tool use to light up. Their brains literally categorize us as something to be used. The "hostile sexists" studied showed no brain activity that indicates they recognize women in bikinis as humans with thoughts.And these studies only involved bikini pictures. The average man watches porn every day, sometimes multiple times a day, and this quite literally inhibits his ability to view women as thinking, feeling human beings. Their empathy for us gets turned off, they no longer view us as humans but rather as tools to be "pushed, grasped, handled". They go out into the world and interact with us with this perverse filter on. And people still want to argue that pornography isn't absolute poison. If a man w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 09:48 PM |
| 28 | Let us treat our wives as our motherGestures like these are fine and part of loving relationships when done mutually but it's a recognized phenomenon that it's the woman who overwhelmingly does stuff like this for her man, but men rarely do things like this for their women. We often end up in these caregiver roles within our relationships with men that're nonreciprocal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 03:41 AM |
| 64 | Let us treat our wives as our motherA coworker of mine who's in his late 40s was refreshingly singing his wife's praises. She rescues cats and keeps really good care of them, they are so well suited for each other that they complete each other, they mutually agreed that they didn't want children, etc. I was enthralled, amazed to finally encounter a man who seems to genuinely love his wife. Then he said, "I haven't had to dress myself in 25 years. Every morning I wake up and she's already laid out my clothes for me!" Sigh. Of cours… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 03:38 AM |
| 25 | Dr Ramani’s Level Up!!Her videos helped me identify my ex as someone with antisocial personality disorder. It helped me a lot to recognize that I'd unfortunately invited something even lower than a LVM into my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 03:32 AM |
| 10 | Women express love by being servants?No, no, no! The REAL Louboutins that he paid for. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 03:18 AM |
| 10 | “Women are toxic, jealous and fake friends”And if that man is interested in you and knows a friend of him is also??! Get ready to hear a fucking rant about everything that is wrong with the “friend”. The fucking TRUTH. I had a male friend who I suspect had a thing for me but he never verbalized it beyond making "jokes" when we'd been drinking. When I told the friend group about how I was considering striking up a FWB arrangement with a guy we all know (back when I thought that shit was empowering, lol) suddenly "friend" brings him up a l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 03:16 AM |
| 16 | Women express love by being servants?A disturbing number of men will cry "mY lOvE lAnGuAgE iS pHySiCaL tOuCh" to excuse them disrespecting their SO's boundaries and/or hounding them for sex. Pretty soon it'll be, "My love language is ANAL. When she refuses to do anal she might as well be slapping me across the face and telling me she doesn't love me!" It sucks that the love language concept, which stands to genuinely actually help people with their relationships, gets twisted around so often by LVM and PickMes to maintain the statu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 03:04 AM |
| 26 | Women express love by being servants?"Not knowing that most women's love language is actually acts of service! :)" I like how she doesn't bother to stop and wonder why women the world over all coincidentally supposedly have the same love language (while women whose love language is gift receival are vilified 🤔🤔🤔). Might stumble into some "third wave feminism, idk". She accuses the girls leaving the comments of being "inmature" when the teenagers she's criticizing are clearly more educated on this topic than she is. How embarrassing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 02:58 AM |
| 165 | men like this are why I’m happy being singlePlanned, perhaps, but not ardently wanted. Waaay too many people decide to have children without it ever having been a dream of theirs and without a solid understanding of what parenthood actually entails. They do it because it's the expected next step or it's what their SO wants, never really taking stock of what they actually want. These are the people who will later anonymously admit that they regret becoming parents. An actual deep-seated desire to become a parent is something most LVM lack.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 02:43 AM |
| 34 | When you miss them, read this.Or the person they pretended to be maybe 20% of the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 01:29 AM |
| 18 | Pickme MusicIt’s akin to when you’re following a guy and you see his favorite music is all self-pitying and sad or misogynistic rap. LMAO. 75% of what my ex listened to was self-pitying, sad rap. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:52 AM |
| 75 | Never trust men. Yes he may be "joking", but he is serious. Never live with male roommates.I had a couple male housemates once. Huge Victorian house where we all stayed isolated for the most part. We were all initially strangers but I struck up a sort of casual acquaintanceship with one of them. We'd watch movies together sometimes and talk about music in the kitchen if he happened in while I was cooking or doing dishes. I wasn't attracted to him in the slightest but one day he randomly felt the need to let me know that he wasn't attracted to me, despite the complete and total absence… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:49 AM |
| 45 | Never trust men. Yes he may be "joking", but he is serious. Never live with male roommates.Yuuup. My two male "friends" mysteriously vanished pretty soon after I got with my abusive (now ex) boyfriend. It got back to my ex that one of them claimed he could take him in a fight and he confronted him about it. Poof, gone. I suspect my ex verbally warned the other one off after I told him we'd hung out. Poof, gone. Neither of them were going to risk getting the shit beat out of them by hanging around me hoping sex might fall out someday. If they'd been real friends they would have at leas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:40 AM |
| 94 | Male doctors and making small talk about your truamaThis isn't even necessarily about his doctor ego. A lot of men get turned on hearing about the awful things that've been done to women and how we've been traumatized. I alluded once to a guy I was seeing that I'd been raped in the past and he started pushing for details. Creepiest shit ever. I hope you report him and find a new doctor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:16 AM |
| 89 | Straight up abuse then love-bombing. Is this how women convince themselves with BDSM? X-post from one of my radfem FB groups.🤮🤮🤮 I will never get over how scrotes are convincing society that abuse is okay as long as it's their kink (and as long as they've found the right traumatized woman who thinks she likes it). As if adding a sexual element to it doesn't make it even more horrific. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:11 AM |
| 58 | Men will shamelessly use you if you let themMy ex was using me. I'm not even sure he was genuinely physically attracted to me, or if he even found anything about my personality charming. On the contrary, he would make digs at my appearance and would criticize integral parts of my personality, like my sense of humor and silliness. He actually had me feeling self conscious for using a silly voice to talk to pets, for fuck's sake. So if he didn't think I was hot, didn't like my personality, and didn't love me (he abused me so that rules out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 04:53 AM |
| 37 | Looks like Warner Bros has asked JD to resign.He was attractive in his prime but he's aged like milk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 06:58 AM |
| 18 | Me @ my ex who always needed homework helpI think you hit the nail right on the head! Sure, he was fine letting her earn his degree for him because he lacks the intelligence to have done it himself, but it was just another manifestation of her mothering him. She does everything for him, I'm surprised he wipes his own ass. He definitely feels emasculated by it and resents that she doesn't pander to him enough while doing everything for him that he can retain some sort of sense of masculinity. But of course instead of stepping up and doin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 05:38 AM |
| 84 | Crushing on OnlyFansMen are so easily manipulated. They're lucky women tend to be kinder and more empathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 04:21 AM |
| 51 | On a thread about facefucking... the last response is especially horrifyingI tried anal once because I was curious and the guy I was sleeping with had a thing for it. His dick was on the smaller side and he was considerate enough to go slow and use a lot of lube so it didn't hurt but it also wasn't pleasurable in and of itself. I used a vibrator at the same time. It was an interesting experience, I guess. But then it turned out that he wasn't considerate enough to put a condom on, he tried to go ass to vag (I literally had to stop him and ask if he wanted to give me an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 04:13 AM |
| 278 | Be alert...cuffing season is here.It's imperative to find a PickMe in time for Christmas! That PS5 isn't going to buy itself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:54 AM |
| 109 | Been in this type of relationship before, doesn’t end well."She always spoke good about everyone..." This isn't a good quality in a person. A friend to all is a friend to none. I know people like this, people who get along with EVERYBODY. They never stand up for their principles, never call people out on their bullshit, have no loyalty, and are in general a walking doormat. LVM love women like this. She'll sit by and watch him treat her friends like shit and hit on her sister and not say a word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:52 AM |
| 76 | Been in this type of relationship before, doesn’t end well.There's not even any reason to take his word on what kind of person she was. Best case scenario is he's idealizing her and minimizing any bad traits she had. Worst case scenario is he flat out lies about her because he's realized he stands to benefit tremendously by making his girlfriend struggle to fill her shoes. In no time at all it'll be, "Well [dead girlfriend] LOVED anal!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:47 AM |
| 239 | The goal should be: Power couple at the end of the world.I'd prefer someone more like the dad from A Quiet Place. Puts his family first, has a self sufficient farm with his wife, doesn't bother anyone (getting his wife pregnant under those conditions is certainly questionable, but I digress). It's sociopaths/psychopaths who'd become warlords tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:37 AM |
| 53 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?I said in the past I have gotten openly judged for telling people I don't shave my legs when I'm not in a relationship. I don't shave my legs at all anymore. You weren't raised in a cultural cleanroom. It's quite literally impossible for you to be doing all this just for yourself. You're the product of the society you were raised in. You were taught that there is intrinsic value in being beautiful and you internalized it. Just because no one else sees it doesn't mean the fulfillment you get out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:24 AM |
| 73 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?lmao, and then all the scrotes of Reddit flood in to make excuses for him. "He probably just had his heart broken back in elementary school and now he gets scared by intimacy. Give him space, have no expectations, and ask for nothing but you should definitely keep making yourself sexually available to him 24/7." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:07 AM |
| 45 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?I like body hair, too. But it's objectively unfair that men find women with body hair repulsive (which makes zero sense from an evolutionary standpoint, that they'd be grossed out by a secondary sex characteristic), yet most of us find men in their natural state attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 03:04 AM |
| 50 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?This was me! Except it was my house and I'm the one who'd pay for the food. 🤡 And the sad thing is that I actually did enjoy it. I loved spending time with him. I didn't need or want anything fancy. All that got me was being taken advantage of and never appreciated. He realized how low my standards were and put in zero effort. I won't be ready to date again for a long time but you best believe I'm going to be demanding when it comes to dates in the future. Chilling and vibing at home like this i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:58 AM |
| 110 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?It's getting really close to a culture where women spend more money on dating than men do. We're already there and we have been for a really long time. I would hazard to say we've been at that point since the very beginning of modern dating. A woman's contribution to a date is herself and looking beautiful. She spends a shitload of money on beauty products, hairstyling, makeup, fashion, etc. Men pretend they don't care, but if that were true they wouldn't all be pursuing the same traditionally f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:49 AM |
| 97 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?Most women are 100% convinced that their beauty regimen is for themselves. It's one of the greatest tricks society has played on us, convincing women that shit like routinely removing all body hair from the upper lip down is something we do for ourselves. We're subconsciously terrified of just existing in our natural state to the point where we won't wear shorts in public on a sweltering 100°F day if we have prickly legs. In the past I have gotten openly judged for telling people I don't shave m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:32 AM |
| 13 | Me @ my ex who always needed homework helpHe had the spelling, sentence structure and vernacular of a 10 year old. God, it's disgusting in hindsight. I bailed a friend out once and wrote a paper for him because he'd procrastinated and it was due that night by 11PM or something but he also had to cram for a test the next morning. I warned him that he would have to rewrite it in his own words, because it would NOT sound like him. He could barely string a sentence together. He blew me off and turned it in as-is and his professor called him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:05 AM |
| 36 | Me @ my ex who always needed homework helpThe same scrotes who fuel your ego telling you you're so smart and capable in order to get you to do their work for them are the same ones who turn around and make "jokes" about how stupid women are. They've been riding on our coattails since the dawn of humanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:01 AM |
| 41 | Me @ my ex who always needed homework helpMy mother, a PhD, straight up earned her husband's bachelor's degree for him. She had him take as many online classes as possible so she could just outright take the classes on his behalf and for any in-person classes she wrote all his papers, did all his assignments, and figured out what she had to drill into him so he could pass in-class tests. PickMe of the year. And did he pick her? Hahahaha. He cheats on her and has physically assaulted her on at least one occasion that I know of, giving he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:58 AM |
| 38 | Me @ my ex who always needed homework helpThis shit is INCREDIBLY common. An overwhelming number of Nobel Prize winners were "aided" by their wives, i.e. their wives did at least 50% of the work only for the men to get all the credit. This is present in every facet of our society, from science to entertainment. For example, George Lucas' ex wife (Marcia Lucas) is singlehandedly responsible for the success of Star Wars. She did win an Academy Award for her film editing but her contribution ran so much deeper than that. She prevented Geor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:50 AM |
| 23 | This hit.My mother is a PhD and one of the biggest PickMes I know! I picked up so much toxic shit from her growing up and I'm still having to do the work of unlearning it. She's basically become my personal model of what not to do and how not to behave. It's sad that education doesn't necessarily translate into independence and the ability to just exist and be happy on your own as a single individual. She's on her third marriage with yet another LVM. 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:34 AM |
| 101 | This hit.I personally consider stealthing (when a guy takes the condom off secretly) to be sexual assault which means that I have been sexually assaulted and/or raped by every single man I've slept with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 05:31 AM |
| 57 | This hit.I'm 30 years old and it wasn't until this year that I told anyone (two siblings) I was molested as a child and raped by my first boyfriend. There's a wall of silence. I would venture to say that the majority of women have been sexually assaulted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 05:29 AM |
| 43 | Society sees this as the norm for motherhood, how many sleep deprived fathers do you know? 🤡Stories like yours are unfortunately not uncommon. Some men can keep up the HVM facade for years, even decades, until the right/wrong life event or curveball comes along and the act falls apart. You're absolutely right, it doesn't matter how much you vet and look for signs of trouble, something like this can still happen. We can do our best but still not be able to entirely circumvent the innate risk associated with partnering with men. This is why we encourage women to never stop vetting and to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:25 AM |
| 52 | Society sees this as the norm for motherhood, how many sleep deprived fathers do you know? 🤡My sister's husband got 6 months of paid paternity leave and he went back to work way before that, leaving her alone with newborn twins and a two year old. She had postpartum depression. He didn't really seem to give a shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:16 AM |
| 139 | Anyone else notice this?Reproductive coercion is a lot more common than people realize. And society tends to assume that if anyone is reproductively coercing it must be the baby crazy woman, right? Nope. Probably 9 times out of 10 it's the man, trying to entrap the woman. Nothing will sidetrack a woman's life faster than a pregnancy, nor plummet her standards to such incredible new lows. Pregnancy leads to countless women settling for shitty relationships with LVM, NVM, and abusers. My abusive ex reproductively coerced… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 06:55 AM |
| 268 | Anyone else notice this?My abusive ex (who'd later go on to reproductively coerce me) was one of those assholes who essentially thinks that pregnancy ruins a woman's body. I asked him how he reconciled that with his desire to have children, knowing what kind of impact it would have on his partner's body. His response was that it'd be okay, because it would be him who was responsible for changing her body. 🤮 Gives you some insight as to why these scrotes look down on single moms so much. They don't like there being any … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 06:25 AM |
| 66 | Subtle but still gotta get called outIt actually makes me swoon to imagine a man, appropriately at each step when the signs are there that I'm receptive, asking things like, "Can I kiss your neck?" and saying things like, "Please, let me taste you." There probably aren't many women who don't find it thoroughly romantic for a man to be respectful and incredibly hot for a man to be undone by us. Apparently not many LVM have caught on to this. Or maybe they're too self centered to not prioritize their creepy boundary-pushing desires f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:05 AM |
| 74 | Subtle but still gotta get called out"It would not be fun to ask for consent before you touch a girl or kiss or take off her bra etc." Fun for who? Because I think it can be incredibly romantic/hot for a man to ask for permission. There are definitely romantic/sexy ways to get consent. Anyone who claims otherwise is unimaginative and most assuredly bad in bed. But, of course, the unspoken sentiment here is that it's no fun FOR MEN to ask for consent. Because they get off on pushing boundaries. These are men for whom rape porn was t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 06:58 AM |
| 66 | r/sex told an ABUSE SURVIVOR not to be scared of someone who wants to STRANGLE and HIT her 🤡🤡🤡The only man I've encountered who was very much NOT interested in anything remotely BDSM related was a Gen Xer, so I think you might be on to something. I actually made him go soft once just by guiding his hand to my throat (I was a misguided Kinkmeisha at the time, sadly). Millennial men may be a lost cause. Most of them grew up with unfettered private access to the internet, and parents too naive to realize what that would entail. A lot of Millennial men started watching hardcore pornography b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 05:30 AM |
| 29 | r/sex told an ABUSE SURVIVOR not to be scared of someone who wants to STRANGLE and HIT her 🤡🤡🤡To quote Mugatu, I feel like I’m taking crazy pills. I find myself saying this almost every single day. How is this the reality we're living in??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 05:20 AM |
| 40 | Maybe because he isn’t the right guy for them 🤷🏻♀️I made a concerted effort with my ex to let my walls down because I thought that's what you had to do to make a real go of an honest, intimate relationship. He turned out to be an abusive sociopath. Worst mistake of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 05:16 AM |
| 64 | Before you get the ring, please know his political views. For reals!!This is what makes the Dumb Fox act so indispensable. Don't voice your own opinions early on, which just gives men the opportunity to mirror you. Give a nonjudgmental air and lull him into a false sense of security in which he feels safe voicing his actual viewpoints. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 11:11 PM |
| 72 | In case any of you need to hear this todayThe right one will pursue YOU. If you ever find yourself chasing a man, sis, you gotta stop. That man does not want you and even if you eventually "get" him, that man will use you for sex and girlfriend perks until he finds a woman he actually wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 100 | Having a baby with a LVM can cause some of us our lives, make sure he is HVM so you leave your children in the right hands and it will be worth it.I got an abortion to avoid giving an abusive NVM a child he didn't deserve. It is the hardest thing I've ever done and I'll have to live with it for the rest of my life, but I earnestly believe that if you have children you have a moral obligation to do everything in your power to give them a HV father. If you reproduce with a LVM (or worse) they will abandon, neglect, mistreat, or flat out abuse your child/ren. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 11:01 PM |
| 44 | This is just so dumb it makes my head hurtI have a history of being the pursuer with men and it never turned out well. All it got me was being used for sex and/or girlfriend perks. The average man is a scrote and he'll figure sex with you is better than no sex at all (or that getting girlfriend perks from you is better than no girlfriend perks at all) so he'll be happy to go along with the flow if you do all the work, even if he feels "meh" about you. A man being willing to have sex with you is absolutely meaningless. A man being willin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 05:21 AM |
| 3 | How to love yourself over/over. - Tonya TkoThank you for sharing this! She seemed really familiar and then I realized I used to watch her videos back when I was in college ~10 years ago. I never should have stopped. I've been struggling a lot with self esteem and loving myself lately. My ex broke me down. The part about how we're the manifestation of the dream of an ancestor of ours who persevered hoping for a better future for their descendants really resonated with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 02:18 AM |
| 74 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatWhat a fucking scrote. The cherry on top is that he's not even attractive. Receding hairline, fivehead, eye wrinkles for days, near constant neckbeard. How do such beautiful, successful women fall for his bullshit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:39 AM |
| 38 | !!!I'm the loneliest I've ever been in my entire life. I broke up with my abusive boyfriend which led me to really scrutinize the quality of all my relationships and I realized that almost everyone I've invited into my life wasn't treating me right. My main friend group had a very mean girls quality to it, another friend tried to groom me to have a threesome with her and her fiancé, and I hit my limit with my mother's narcissism and my father's callousness. Cut my friends out and distanced myself f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:50 PM |
| 17 | Always look into a man’s background before meeting them like this (it’s free):I searched my ex and for some reason the only criminal record result is from 10 years ago when he assaulted someone at 17. This happened in another state so maybe that's why? He's definitely been convicted of other crimes since then as an adult. Did two stints in Rikers. This is a really great, helpful resource but keep your guard up, ladies. Don't assume that just because you can't find a criminal record that he's not a criminal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 07:20 AM |
| 147 | I Tried Femdom And It Was Nowhere Near As "Empowering" As The BDSM Community Would Have You BelieveMy abusive ex loved it when I took control in bed and got dominant. He liked to have his hair pulled, to be bit, scratched, have a hand around his neck, be spoken to in a degrading manner, and for me to be bossy. I suspect that I probably could have done something like slap him across the face in the middle of sex and he'd have enjoyed it. He mentioned that he'd like to try having me tie him up. He wasn't super demanding about it (yet) and I never took things very far because I didn't actually h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:13 AM |
| 2 | 20-minute video where a guy discusses how a man can know instantly how he feels about a woman. "Just being in her presence has been one of the most wonderful things he's experienced in his life"Very true. imo, if your engagement has lasted several years with no end in sight you're not actually engaged, you're a forever girlfriend. But hopefully one who got a decent ring out of the situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 01:53 AM |
| 24 | Leave him in the dust..."eVeRyOnE jUsT gIvEs Up ThE sEcOnD tHiNgS gEt HaRd!" Because women should totally be encouraged to stay in relationships in which they're being mistreated/abused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:22 PM |
| 10 | There is way too much wrong in this post. Why do young women allow themselves to be used like this???LMAO this was me with my scrotey 10-years-older FWB. "I drive 45 minutes to his place but he lets me spend the night (SO generous) and one time he fed me chick'n nuggets!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:20 PM |
| 56 | Saw this and instantly thought FDS.Been there, done that. Never again. If I want a human being I have to take care of I'll birth one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:12 PM |
| 59 | Can attraction grow for a HVM?You know how you can be super attracted to someone and then they do something that immediately kills ANY and ALL attraction whatsoever? Like they're rude to a cashier, mean to a pet, throw garbage out their car window, etc.? In the same way I think it's possible for a switch to flip and for you to suddenly find yourself attracted to someone once the right thing about them is unveiled. I think it's worth dating a HVM for a bit who you're not immediately attracted to, to see if getting to know him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 10:08 PM |
| 3 | 20-minute video where a guy discusses how a man can know instantly how he feels about a woman. "Just being in her presence has been one of the most wonderful things he's experienced in his life"Everyone has different standards for what makes a man HV, but imo a HVM shouldn't take 35+ years to figure out that he wants to get married. I can understand him not having found the right woman yet, sure, but if he's spent the last 15-20+ years screwing around and being emotionally immature/unavailable then I wouldn't really consider him high value. He's just a guy who's realized the clock's ticking if he wants to do the standard settle down, get married, have kids routine that so many people f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 09:54 PM |
| 18 | 20-minute video where a guy discusses how a man can know instantly how he feels about a woman. "Just being in her presence has been one of the most wonderful things he's experienced in his life"I agree to some extent, but some men want A wife, as in ANY wife. They don't necessarily propose marriage very quickly because of the particular woman he happens to be dating. This is true. A HVM will propose in a timely manner but a proposal does not alone indicate that a man is HV. Women need to be careful not to conflate the two. We also need to be on the lookout for future faking. My ex told me he'd marry me if I got pregnant. I got pregnant and he didn't propose. The most he did was make co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:47 AM |
| 69 | 20-minute video where a guy discusses how a man can know instantly how he feels about a woman. "Just being in her presence has been one of the most wonderful things he's experienced in his life"☝☝☝ It's not in the best interest of the woman to marry a man she's known less than a year but that's because so many LVM are duplicitous and will hide what type of person they are, and some of them can keep up the act for over a year. That's why we focus so much on vetting here. But it's entirely understandable why the man would want to get married so quickly. Women are, on average, better people than men. This is a statistical fact reflected in crime rates. We also tend to be more upfront abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:39 AM |
| 35 | The irony of this post is that the comments are full of people saying that they had experienced abuse and were using BDSM as a coping mechanism. The lack of self awareness and denialism within the kink community is just astounding.This is also a huge component. BDSM has become so normalized that if you don't at least dabble, you're considered boring. Men expect it because they're all pornsick and the PickMes are encouraging it because everything's a contest to be the Coolest Girl™ and a bunch of them are watching porn now too. There was a time when blowjobs were risqué, now if they're not part of your average sexual repertoire you might as well be a nun. Same thing is happening with anal and BDSM. Porn is predictably dese… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 01:26 PM |
| 19 | The irony of this post is that the comments are full of people saying that they had experienced abuse and were using BDSM as a coping mechanism. The lack of self awareness and denialism within the kink community is just astounding.Sure, there are women out there who are into BDSM and come from trauma-free backgrounds, but I am willing to bet that those women make up the minority, not the majority. tbh I seriously doubt that a woman from a healthy 100% trauma-free background could genuinely enjoy BDSM. People lie. To themselves, to their loved ones, and especially to strangers on the internet. A lot of women aren't even consciously aware they were sexually abused as children because part of their coping mechanism was buryi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 01:08 PM |
| 75 | The irony of this post is that the comments are full of people saying that they had experienced abuse and were using BDSM as a coping mechanism. The lack of self awareness and denialism within the kink community is just astounding.Considering that the vast majority of women have been abused at some point, emotionally, physically or sexually, whether in childhood or as adults, how are we to control for this factor when determining whether or not women's supposed enjoyment of BDSM is a manifestation of trauma? Where's the control group? There isn't one. In the words of Cersei (rip her character): Everywhere in the world, they hurt little girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 12:59 PM |
| 66 | I’m really curious...is “showing a bad financial situation” a thing on OLD in Canada? My male friend said “Maybe they’re trying to show you that they’re money smart” it’s not attractive to me at all and I don’t think I’ve seen this kind of profile from other countries..The final evolution of the hobosexual is the wants-to-trap-you-with-a-baby-sexual. Once this advanced male has located the ideal rent free abode accompanied by an adequate bangmommymaid, the only thing left is to secure the arrangement with offspring. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 12:49 PM |
| 14 | No, thanks 😒:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 12:42 PM |
| 60 | NVM always think that you bring single is somehow a sign of your “lack” of worthThis is why I say "female incels" don't really exist outside of the rare cases of women with extreme disfigurements/diseases, but those cases probably have more to do with self esteem issues and a lack of putting themselves out there. Regardless of what you look like, if you're a woman with a nice personality you can get a boyfriend. Men aren't a rare prize. Show me a woman who's supposedly involuntarily celibate and there's a 99.99% chance we're actually just looking at a woman with some standa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Someone got butthurt after going through my posting historyThe only reason to not get married, having been together for 12 years, is if she continuously rejects his proposals. I think there was a story here recently about an older woman whose boyfriend was proposing once a year and she kept saying no? That's it. That's the only reason. But if he's not asking it's because he's not actually in love and is holding out just in case he meet cutes the perfect 20 year old coed at the dog park or whatever the fuck. Some men are so delusional that they will hold… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 12:30 PM |
| 22 | Never emotionally drain yourself for the other person in a relationship!This is very true. How many women were badly raised and still taught themselves how to be emotionally mature adults? I was severely neglected growing up and have put a lot of blood, sweat, and tears into healing myself and continue to strive towards an emotionally healthy state. It's something I think about and work on literally every single day. The number of men who do the same are infinitesimal. They just throw their hands up in the air and blame their parents and proceed to do zero work on t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 03:55 PM |
| 19 | Every man I’ve asked to get tested, whined about it.When I brought up getting tested with my ex his excuse not to was that he'd gotten tested when he was in jail back in like 2016. He'd had sexual partners since then. 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 07:21 PM |
| 15 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?"Is he looking for a woman in her 20s or 30s as an incubator for his "legacy"?" I had a scrotey FWB who was 39, had never been married, no kids, who thought he really needed to have one or two kids at some point, "necessitating" him to date younger. But he also just found women his own age generally unattractive, because of course he did. 🙄 He asked me if I want kids someday and I lied and said no because I didn't want him making any designs on me, lmao. So glad I don't do FWB anymore, much less… | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 06:55 PM |
| 14 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?My general rule of thumb is that if the older person isn't old enough to have fathered/mothered the other, both parties are 30+, both parties are financially independent, and neither has a preference/history of age gap relationships, then it can be healthy. He can be a HVM in every other discernable way but if he doesn't date women his own age RUN. There is something psychologically disturbed about men who're incapable of finding women their own age (and even older) attractive. He will dispose o… | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 06:49 PM |
| 27 | Not the pickmeshas getting excited over the bare minimumA lot of "gamer girls" feel the need to qualify that they play ACTUAL video games, not phone games like candy crush. PickMe nonsense. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 04:21 AM |
| 61 | Men telling on themselves lol. Just a reminder a HVM will never let you take on unneeded stress!Yeahhh my abusive ex would generously help strangers in public and I thought it was such a good sign, but it was performative. He also did it because he was nominally Muslim and it was a "thawab" thing for him, accruing rewards in return for the performance of good deeds. I had an abortion that I had to pass off as a miscarriage to escape him (he'd been reproductively coercing and raping me) and when I was in the middle of medically aborting at home (having an emotional breakdown myself because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:07 AM |
| 45 | Men telling on themselves lol. Just a reminder a HVM will never let you take on unneeded stress!"She was a girl who for a ringing phone dropped exactly nothing." J.D. Salinger was a scrote but that one line still resonates with me to this day, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:02 AM |
| 5 | Men telling on themselves lol. Just a reminder a HVM will never let you take on unneeded stress!Even my abusive sociopath ex wouldn't let me carry heavy shit. The bar is so low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:59 AM |
| 11 | Boys be like...I wonder how true this is. I'm pretty convinced my ex is a sociopath, which I'd define as someone who isn't completely lacking a conscience or empathy (someone completely lacking those things I'd refer to as a psychopath) but who certainly experiences those things very weakly, and who is deeply selfish, manipulative, and who ruthlessly takes advantage of others for their own gain. But when he drank he was like a completely different person. Incredibly vulnerable, drowning in sorrow. He was haunt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:49 AM |
| 27 | Good men hold other men accountable. End of story.This is actually another thing Lundy Bancroft specifically mentions! The issue of abusive men quibbling over word usage. An abused woman might refer to what'd been done to her as hitting but he'll object to that because it was "only" slapping. And abusive men do this specifically because society at large enables/approves of it. It might get out at an abused woman's workplace that her boyfriend is abusive and people will talk about it around the watercooler asking each other shit like, "Well, is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 02:32 AM |
| 25 | Good men hold other men accountable. End of story.and men won't stop abusing women until men realize they they could have been (or perhaps have been) abusers. I think this is what's at the heart of so many men minimizing or turning a blind eye to abuse and rape. They know that they're guilty of having raped or abused someone themselves and they don't want to do the uncomfortable mental work of facing it head on. It's much easier to raise the bar for what qualifies as abuse and rape to an absurd level, so that nothing you did qualifies. So they'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 01:36 AM |
| 5 | Real HVM shit😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:42 AM |
| 97 | Real HVM shitMy first serious boyfriend was a programmer living in a major city, so he made really good money. He was in his mid twenties, had barely started his career, and had a higher salary than my scientist + tenured professor mother who'd been in her field for 35+ years. I was working part time as a grocery store cashier. At the time I thought it was important for me to help pay for dates (🙄) but I couldn't afford to pay for half when he only wanted to go to expensive restaurants, bars, theaters, etc. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:39 AM |
| 48 | “PoRn iS eMpOwErInG” ok sis"Porn makes women believe that giving men a 10 minute blow job then going straight into rough sex is a good sex deal for a woman." 90% of my sexual encounters. Depressing as fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:54 PM |
| 47 | Friend found my boyfriend on Tinder, how do/should I bring it up with him?I know FDS doesn’t like the girlfriend label Where did you get this impression from? We're fine with the girlfriend label, we just don't think women should be strung along into forever girlfriends or interpret the girlfriend/boyfriend relationship status as evidence of commitment from a man (because it's not). But I do have a hard time wrapping my head around why you'd consider a person you've known all of 1.5 months your boyfriend. There shouldn't be any emotional intimacy or commitment this ea… | /r/askFDS | 12/10/20 09:45 PM |
| 46 | And there are STILL men AND WOMEN in the comments saying "not all men 🥺🥺🥺". DisgustingThere was a survey done that showed 1 in 3 college men said they'd be willing to "use force to obtain intercourse" as long as nobody would find out and there would be no consequences. And that 1 in 3 was probably just the ones stupid enough to not be able to read between the lines and realize they were admitting they'd rape under ideal circumstances. It was an anonymous survey but the smarter men would know better than to admit to that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:39 PM |
| 25 | Translation: You are Extremely Smart, but you are So Lacking in Common Sense! 🤡🥴Hahaha. My ex pulled a version of this. Tried to play up his street smarts because he felt inferior up against my formal education (he dropped out of high school, I went to college). He'd never been steadily employed in his 27 years and kept having setbacks at his then job because he'd lose his temper at work over trivial shit and behave unprofessionally. Yet he was the mature/grown one because he'd "experienced so much". He was recently fired because he got caught trying to steal $200 worth of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:34 PM |
| 29 | Men find new ways to astound and disappointment me every single dayIf a guy just “clicked the lights off and went to bed” while we were arguing, there’s a 0% chance of me “getting my ass up and coming to the bed”. That’s not what a women with self esteem or self respect does. Yeah, this is nothing but fanfiction. I guarantee this man isn't speaking from experience. Even most PickMes will tough a night out on the couch after an argument (or better yet, make the man). It's standard human behavior to seek distance after you've been wounded in an argument and amend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:22 PM |
| 146 | Why we insist on dates with meals.If he doesn’t text that’s fine, I got nice company and a nice meal. He didn’t waste my time with a walking date or coffee date. He made an effort and we got a chance to assess each other for compatibility. And this is what it's really all about at the end of the day, demanding to be respected enough that your time isn't wasted. So many women are foolishly putting in the same amount of effort for a coffee/walking date (that they go Dutch on) as they would a nice meal date (that the man pays for) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:34 PM |
| 65 | Nothing like bragging about your proposal with a $76 ring while playing video games to the freaking New York Times.PickMes just love to flaunt how unmaterialistic they are until they're standing in a pawn shop, desperately trying to scrape together enough money to leave their cheating/abusive husband. Bet in moments like those they sure wish they'd insisted on actual gold and valuable gems! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:23 PM |
| 23 | Hope she drops this pathetic scrote, rooting for the FDS-minded momWhat kind of man doesnt even take out the trash? Exactly. It's bad enough that society has decided that "men's chores" are intermittent, easy tasks like mowing the lawn and taking the garbage out, this guy is so incredibly low value that he can't even meet that basic standard. They like to accuse women of trying to emasculate them when they do the job just fine on their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:20 PM |
| 52 | Hope she drops this pathetic scrote, rooting for the FDS-minded momto which ny girlfriend replies "of course he does!", virtually lying for me. So this guy just... blatantly admits that his girlfriend feels embarrassed enough about the fact that he does nothing around the home that she's lying to her mother about it, yet he feels absolutely no shame. Scrotes, man. "What do I do?" Uh, maybe start doing some fucking chores, asshole, and stop taking issue with a loving mother being concerned that her daughter is being taken advantage of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:17 PM |
| 13 | The 2020 pickme hall of shame award goes to you, Nichol Kessinger 😡I get sociopath vibes off him and psychopath vibes off her. Both obviously lack empathy and are incredibly selfish but he's hot headed, stupid, and sloppy whereas she's cold, calculating, and managed to come out the other side of this without being prosecuted for her involvement. What a match made in heaven. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 06:46 AM |
| 62 | If this is real, this is the most pathetic thing I've ever seenYou’re begging some average guy to commit to you, at his workplace His workplace being Target. Like he's some catch she's afraid to let slip through her fingers. Lord have mercy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 06:40 AM |
| 5 | LVM husband reacts to wife's rape story with anger and physical abuse. She leaves quickly and notifies him about divorce. LVM cries crocodile tears but this QUEEN is not having it!You shouldn't keep it from them. You will be able to be 100% honest in a healthy, loving relationship with a HVM and in fact this honesty is an important vetting tool. If a man can't handle information about your sexual past and traumas in an appropriate and compassionate way, he's not a HVM. Everyone has different timelines but generally you should have a good sense after ruthlessly vetting a man for a year whether he's HV or not. It's around the one year anniversary that he should propose. Mar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 06:22 AM |
| 4 | LVM husband reacts to wife's rape story with anger and physical abuse. She leaves quickly and notifies him about divorce. LVM cries crocodile tears but this QUEEN is not having it!Don't tell men you aren't in a committed relationship with (who you've been vetting and continue to vet) about your sexual past and traumas. But if your goal is to have a happy, loving, fulfilling relationship with a HVM you really should open up at some point. Yes, you risk being hurt, but this is part of the vetting process. You need to know how your man responds to the knowledge of your sexual past and traumas, if he'll weaponize them against you or not, if the information will change the way… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 06:06 AM |
| 7 | What would you do if a NVM took you to a grocery store and gave you $50 on your first date? I’d take the money and go straight home.LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:47 AM |
| 10 | What would you do if a NVM took you to a grocery store and gave you $50 on your first date? I’d take the money and go straight home.Ripping it in half would also be a power move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:46 AM |
| 17 | What would you do if a NVM took you to a grocery store and gave you $50 on your first date? I’d take the money and go straight home."the sooner you find fertile ground to plant your seed..." Calm down Jedidiah. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:45 AM |
| 4 | He has hurt me, but i dont want to hurt him.My ex was abusive. He psychologically manipulated me, raped me, and reproductively coerced me. I got an abortion to escape him and it traumatized me even further. I should hate him. And yet I don't. Part of me actually worries that if I'm wrong about him (which I'm definitely not) and he's not a sociopath then he must be in so much pain right now. I cut him off overnight and blocked him on everything and the one time he tried to approach me in person (while I was at work, Jesus Christ) to "apolo… | /r/askFDS | 11/10/20 04:55 AM |
| 12 | "A garbage collector? Give him a bar of Irish Spring and marry him.""10 lOgIcAl and sMaRt reasons why you should lower your standards and fuck me..." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:22 AM |
| 58 | "A garbage collector? Give him a bar of Irish Spring and marry him.""Sorry, ladies, but you probably can't have it all -- at least when it comes to love." LMAO. If demanding my equivalent in a man means I'll never find love, then I'm perfectly okay with that. 🤷♀️ Why do so many people encourage us to lower our standards, settle, and likely be miserable? Oh wait, they don't actually care about our happiness and fulfillment. The LVM just don't want their supply of bangmommymaids compromised and the PickMes want company. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:21 AM |
| 39 | I never get a good vibe from the “brutal honesty” guys.It skeeves me out so much when men on OLD include pictures that feature children. I think their thought process must be, "Women love kids. This'll make me look like someone who prioritizes family, as if I'm a decent human being." When in reality it just looks exactly like it is, like they're using the children in their lives as props to try to get laid. Absolute degeneracy. If I had kids and found out their father/uncle/cousin/whoever was using them like this I would go apeshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:15 AM |
| 37 | I never get a good vibe from the “brutal honesty” guys.Notice he says you'll get along if YOU can deal with sarcasm and brutal honesty. It's not, "We'll get along if we can be mutually truthful with each other and build a rapport based on a shared sense of humor." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:11 AM |
| 22 | Found a discarded notebook at the thrift with this inside, sis is a queen.Our golden tablets. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:09 AM |
| 106 | The myth of the “honeymoon phase” 🙃☝☝☝ We've all encountered those elderly couples who're clearly deeply in love, who tenderly care about each other after some 60 years of marriage and do things for each other every single day that demonstrate their love. When I was a grocery store cashier I had an elderly man come through my line who had to budget his purchases carefully (probably living on retirement and social security) and when I gave him his total he told me to take something off so that he could prioritize getting his wife'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:01 AM |
| 62 | The myth of the “honeymoon phase” 🙃My abusive ex started withholding sex as a manipulation/control tactic. Thanks to Lundy Bancroft I now know that this is something abusive men do because it can get women to behave more to their liking, to seek their approval in everyday life, to become compliant, accommodating, and nonconfrontational, in the hopes that intimacy will resume. Because when you're in an abusive relationship sex can easily feel like the only time your significant other actually cares about you (even though they real… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 03:53 AM |
| 192 | I felt my brain cells vanish after reading thisShe was groomed by him. They met when she was a teenager iirc and he's significantly older. He's been quoted as saying he had designs on her from the moment they met. He's fucking gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 06:30 PM |
| 10 | I'm at a loss.Him casually referring to abortion like it's just another form of birth control actually makes me nauseous. My abortion scarred me even though it was necessary. It's something I think about every day. It's a wound that won't heal. And he just openly admits that he wants her to risk having to experience getting an abortion because he thinks he's "missing out". All that matters is him and his happiness, apparently. What a selfish little scrote. Also "me losing arguments with her was a turnoff". Je… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:09 AM |
| 30 | Professions of undying love.My abusive ex love bombed the shit out of me but he also snuck in this insidious shit. He loved talking (especially during sex) about how we were made for each other and how he never wanted to be with another woman ever again, that I was it. He even had me saying it, that I was made for him. When I finally left him for the last successful time he wouldn't leave me alone. Wouldn't stop trying to drag me back in. I'd blocked him on everything but he'd use apps that generate a random phone number s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:58 AM |
| 32 | Boyfriend's "RULES"What a delightful look into the life of a bangmaid broodmare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:50 AM |
| 58 | I recently realized that, when assessing mental illness patterns in women, 9 times out of 10 the root cause is some shit a man did to them (molestation, rape, abuse, etc) or some shit a man failed to do FOR them (be a father, be a good husband, etc).And the 1 time out of 10 it's not a man it's usually a PickMe mother. 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:48 AM |
| 150 | Hard to choose just one flair for this NVM...I don't want to be on this planet anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:45 AM |
| 53 | *internal screaming, forever*My NV ex had an awful toothache that he just... neglected to get looked at. He brought it up a lot and I'd be like, "You should really go see a dentist." And he'd agree but then just... never make an appointment. I think he was really holding out to see if I'd break down and make the appointment for him. He'd already insinuated that he was going to have me do his taxes for him next year. And it's shit like this that results in married men living longer. Because they're such absolute children tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 07:50 PM |
| 4 | *internal screaming, forever*My ex didn't brush his teeth before bed. Only in the morning. And when we showered together I never saw him clean his ass. At the time I hoped that he did it when he showered alone and just felt awkward doing it in front of me or something. 🙈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 07:46 PM |
| 20 | Murder Red Flags: If you have experienced these, you are at higher risk of being murdered.For some reason people think that if there's horniness involved in the choking, that makes it okay. As if no fucked up scrote has ever been turned on while killing his wife/girlfriend/ex. But no kinkshaming! 🙃🙃🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:15 PM |
| 24 | Murder Red Flags: If you have experienced these, you are at higher risk of being murdered.I broke up with my abusive sociopath ex in July and can check off 11 of these things. People act like I'm paranoid for feeling unsafe. He just got fired from his job yesterday. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:12 PM |
| 15 | I HAVE NO WORDS.Notice his choice of cat emojis. Definitely a furry degenerate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:07 PM |
| 70 | On a Facebook Post about an expensive proposal, you're bound to have many Pickmeishas appear in the comments! Some of these are hilarious, some are downright sad.Imagine having such low self esteem that you'd be thrilled with scraps and crumbs. Mushy peas? Really? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:03 PM |
| 5 | Standards? Whats that?HAHAHAHAHAHA. This was me. Except he did get convicted and he lived within walking distance of the deli he worked at. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:33 AM |
| 8 | And on today’s episode of men are oppressed...And men's estrogen levels rise when they do stuff like cuddle after sex and help take care of their offspring. Guess what activities a lot of LVM actively avoid, circumventing nature's method of reducing the toxicity of their testosterone to try to make them family oriented? 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:18 AM |
| 45 | Another hilarious rendition of “my bf is a gross slob but let’s teehee it away”This is Shay Mitchell. Gorgeous millionaire actress and model. And she's tolerating this shit from her boyfriend. 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:00 AM |
| 118 | FDS Media Coverage! “Reddit's Female Dating Strategy turns love into a game. Does it work? - ABC Life”"When it becomes a survival game, then that's a negative scenario." Dating men IS largely negative and FDS absolutely IS about survival, and that's what makes it what the women of the world need so desperately. So many women are taken advantage of, raped, abused, and murdered by their intimate partners. How can anyone know the statistics and treat the very real threat posed to women lightly? It's not a game, this is our lives on the line. Violence against women and the expectation that we keep h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:55 AM |
| 65 | Which one of you ladies did this? 😂According to "the rules" book, the old fashioned one, men who don't stand up for you in front of family and friends typically don't end up marrying you. And even if they do marry you, what do you have to look forward to? A lifetime of him shitting on you in front of his friends and family and allowing them to do the same. Hard pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:50 PM |
| 14 | Found on fbNot helpful that feminist comedians only joke about “muh vagina” and try to be as crude as male comedians. They are just lowering themselves to speak their language. I used to really like Nikki Glaser but now I recognize her as being a giant PickMe who seems to have actually suffered a lot of mistreatment in her life, but she doesn't seem to want to recognize it for what it was. The only jokes of hers that I still find funny are the ones that're at the expense of men, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 09:45 PM |
| 54 | Wtf why are men literally obsessed with anal sexI made the mistake of telling my abusive ex that I'd done anal ONCE with a FWB (whose dick was on the smaller side). From then on he felt ENTITLED to anal from me, despite me telling him I was pretty sure it'd hurt with him because his dick is bigger. He was literally like, "You KNOW it's going to happen, right?" He also started doing that shit where we'd be having sex and change positions and he'd start trying to press in the wrong hole, like trying to test and see whether I'd let him. Like he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:35 PM |
| 21 | An advanced Pickme spotted in the wild, commenting unironically:Spoiler alert: the guys who don't want to put money into a date also don't want to put in time and effort. I dated a broke asshole and he wouldn't even go on walks with me without complaining up a storm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:22 PM |
| 2 | A Seeming-HVM Explains Why He Won't Leave his Forever Girlfriend for Someone Else He Likes More, Using Economic Theory as ExplanationThe problem though is that men like this exist in every workplace. Changing jobs probably won't help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:33 AM |
| 58 | Padma Lakshmi recalls abstaining from sex due to painful endometriosis. Her bridge troll husband Salman Rushdie, who is 25 years her senior, became enraged at her and called her a “bad investment”Their May-December romance began when she was a struggling model-actress and Rushdie already a global symbol of free speech... Lakshmi was 28 and single, Rushdie was 51 and married to his third wife. 🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:42 PM |
| 34 | Why do Christian Dating Coaches ALWAYS Women have “Unrealistic Standards” for men and we need to lower our expectations. 🙄 I’m tired of these Pick-Me grifters exploiting women in God’s Name.She says women have changed, but how? We've always been hypergamous (much to the chagrin of incels and the manosphere). We have ALWAYS aimed to match up with men of equal standing or higher. It makes logical sense. Men, on the other hand, are concerned more with physical appearance and pliable personalities because the average LVM is shallow and wants to take advantage of his woman. Why else are so many of them attracted to qualities like innocence? And yes, the fact that women are more educated… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:00 PM |
| 125 | Why do Christian Dating Coaches ALWAYS Women have “Unrealistic Standards” for men and we need to lower our expectations. 🙄 I’m tired of these Pick-Me grifters exploiting women in God’s Name.The unspoken insinuation is that women should lesser themselves so that men can continue appearing/feeling superior in comparison. If you stop bettering yourself then your expectations will be easier to achieve! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 10:50 PM |
| 8 | Mean Girls is a great representation of what happens when pickme culture is rampant.lol thank you for your patronizing concern, FDS Newbie. You'll notice all of this is past tense, that I identify MYSELF as having been a PickMe, and that I concluded it saying I learned my lesson. I was homeschooled growing up so a lot of these dynamics were lost on me at the time as things were happening. I wasn't actively aware then that my three female friends probably resented me for reciprocally casually flirting with the one male friend (and fyi everything that happened surrounding him try… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 10:08 PM |
| 88 | Some of them got nailed by Segmund FruiedLundy Bancroft straight up calls this shit out for its incestuous undertones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:19 AM |
| 7 | Acknowledging you have no HV friends in your life and deciding to go forth alone...? Anyone experience this?I discovered FDS, left my abusive boyfriend, and then my 3 female "friends" decided to pull a prank on me that involved waiting for me to get off work at 12am and making me think my abusive ex was waiting for me in the parking lot. Yuppp. I immediately cut them out of my life. I'd stopped talking to my 2 male friends before this because I realized they were hoping sex would fall out of me at some point. I'm currently friendless. I still have work friends I suppose but no one I socialize with in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:14 AM |
| 129 | PSA: if you wouldn’t tell your hypothetical daughter to marry someone just like her father, you do not need to be having children with that man.Something my sister told me when I was with my abusive ex was, "Would you want your sons to be just like him?" It was very sobering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:26 AM |
| 55 | This is why you don't marry after 10 years together"My family already told me if I so much as meet up with him or look at him or even say his name, they're disowning me." GOOD FOR THEM TBH. I feel like way too many families have this hands off approach when it comes to their daughters' relationships like, "Whelp, it's her life and she can make mistakes if she wants." But I wish more people realized that when a woman is emotionally compromised it can be incredibly hard for her to make rational decisions and she will set herself on fire to keep so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:24 AM |
| 73 | This is why you don't marry after 10 years togetherWhy is it always nurses getting taken advantage of? Like, sis. You're educated and self sufficient and have an amazing career. The median salary for a registered nurse in 2018 was $71,730 a year. Whyyyy are you settling for mediocracy? 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:16 AM |
| 159 | Man freaks out over girlfriend’s period products, then apologizes and begs her not to leave him. She needs to throw the whole man awayIt’s upsetting she’s still considering a second trash can like that was ever a reasonable solution in the first place. Yeah, like this guy was going out of his way to inspect the garbage and even had to go digging at one point to see her tampons because she tested him by covering them with other garbage. What would keep him from just looking through the separate garbage and still getting indignant that she has the audacity to menstruate? Nothing. Because nothing about his behavior is logical, it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:08 AM |
| 128 | Man freaks out over girlfriend’s period products, then apologizes and begs her not to leave him. She needs to throw the whole man awayMy abusive ex followed this step-by-step pretty faithfully. Moved in with me within a couple months, no car, was financially dependent on me (aka leeched off of me), started testing my boundaries, had me questioning my reality, then whenever he went too far it was straight to the promises of change. Once you're familiar with how abusive men operate (and hopefully more women start to learn without having to experience it firsthand) the signs are so obvious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:04 AM |
| 98 | Mean Girls is a great representation of what happens when pickme culture is rampant.Storytime, lol. I have a working theory that the women in my former friend group turned against me because of guys. Before FDS my "friend group" (I can see now they were never truly my friends, pack of LVW and LVM) consisted of three women I'll call Beth, Kate, and Gem and two men, who I'll call Dean and Aaron. When we'd get together to smoke, drink, watch movies, play card games, etc. Dean and I had a tendency of flirting with each other. I was never legitimately attracted to Dean but I was a P… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 06:53 AM |
| 26 | Wife of John Lennon’s killer Mark Chapman reveals he told her of his plans two months before the murderMy mom found out shortly after she married her first husband that he was already married and had a wife and kids living in another state. Then he went to prison for raping someone and she waited to find out how long his sentence was going to be before leaving him. Some PickMes are literally insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:27 PM |
| 82 | Need help translatingHe's presenting himself as submissive but submissive men are almost never actually submissive. They dominate from the bottom. They're incredibly demanding about how you dominate them (so are you really dominating them or just following their orders?) and their kink tends to revolve around feeling humiliated for being treated the way women get treated. They're gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:18 PM |
| 57 | “To be honest, I just want to f*ck this girl to prove to myself I can, and move on with my life. I’m determined to make this happen” - Ugly scrote wants help manipulating a “9/10” woman 🙄On the off chance that this is even remotely true, notice how he confuses his creepy obsession with conquering her for "emotional attachment". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:02 PM |
| 33 | No a laundromat is NOT A DATE !!Ten years later following a protracted 6 years of dating wherein he was low effort the entire time and had to be arm twisted into proposing to her, they now have 2 young children and she can't wrap her head around why he doesn't do anything nice for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 10:58 PM |
| 64 | American murder, family next doorShe had previously been in an abusive marriage Damn, I didn't know that. Out of the frying pan into the fire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 10:55 PM |
| 13 | when the wife & husband are both shallow 😄 (23F/31M)Their obsession with hair defies logic. I have pretty long hair and I've noticed men treat me better when it's down vs if I have it up in a bun. Including the same men I see every day at work. I obviously have the same face and I'm dressed the same way, but when my hair is down they find me more attractive and treat me differently. It's like men have no sense of object permanence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 03:05 PM |
| 8 | Omg Sis, you are so lucky! 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 #blessedhunTypically though, women who bulldoze through red flags and marry losers usually wanted to be mothers more than anything, That was me. 🤡 Now I've realized I don't actually need to involve a man in my life to become a mother, beyond some anonymous guy's contribution at a sperm bank. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:29 AM |
| 4 | Omg Sis, you are so lucky! 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 #blessedhunHAHAHA. Do you think she got picked? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:26 AM |
| 14 | But god forbid you don’t take care of a LVM when he has his “man cold”When my ex got food poisoning for a couple days I put together a $50 care package for him and dropped it off at his house. Bone broth, ginger ale, Pedialyte, bread sticks, saltines, etc. I got him multiple flavors of everything because he's a picky eater and I wasn't sure what he'd prefer. When I got sick he made me drive over food that'd been misdelivered to my house because he forgot to change the address in his app. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:50 AM |
| 62 | We not doing this anymoreWhile seeing him through thick and thin she probably helped him level up, and once his life was in order (courtesy of her) he probably got to thinking he could do better. LVM don't have an ounce of loyalty in them. If they think they can do better they will leave their girlfriends/wives in a heartbeat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:46 AM |
| 37 | We not doing this anymoreIt's very sobering to know that, had I stayed with my abusive negative value ex who literally has nothing going for him in his life (criminal record, shitty part time job, no car, lives with his mom and stepdad, alcoholic, addicted to Xanax, entirely dependent on weed, etc.), there's no reason to think he wouldn't have eventually left me. Especially if I helped him level up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:43 AM |
| 48 | What is with this special breed of fuckboys?Definitely an ego/control thing. I approached a man for a FWB arrangement and we agreed that things would automatically be over if one of us found someone we wanted to seriously date or if one us caught feelings. He had the audacity to be like, "Well, I'm pretty sure you're already in love with me, so..." I definitely was not. He also invited me to an expensiveish concert and I went because I love live music and I was actually interested in cultivating the "friends" part of "friends with benefit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:01 PM |
| 3 | This is from a sex subreddit with 1.7 million members. 94% upvoted. Awarded. People in the comments reassuring him that it's okay and that he's not a bad person, someone even instructing him to reframe it as a "ravishment" fantasy. This is what's wrong with Reddit and society as a whole. Stay safe.I couldn't stomach reading very many comments but guess what I mysteriously didn't see? Anyone suggesting he seek therapy. 🤔🤔🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 07:50 PM |
| 276 | when the wife & husband are both shallow 😄 (23F/31M)lmfao. "I went out of my way to marry someone significantly younger than me because I wanted a young, sexy wife but I expected her to always be attracted to my geriatric ass even when I've stopped taking care of myself. 😭😭😭" There are definitely shallow women out there but 99% of the time when a woman starts rejecting her man's advances it's because he's not treating her right, meanwhile when men reject their woman's advances 99% of the time it's a manipulation tactic, he's pornsick, or because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 07:49 PM |
| 4 | This has to be a joke, can’t believe this is real 😂😂😂This is a joke but I was legitimately doing shit like buying my chronically dehydrated ex lemonade mix packets to try to convince his nearly 28 year ass to drink water. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:42 PM |
| 8 | When I start talking to a guy who seems really great, but then I find his Facebook and see that he has an awful sense of style, no pictures of him smiling with teeth, and has like 10 catsYeah, I love cats but I don't think I'd ever want to be outnumbered by them, lmao. Plus, the general rule of thumb is that you should have at least one litterbox per cat. Who has the space for that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:38 PM |
| 14 | Yikes.Violence isn't okay until you add sex to it, somehow. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:34 PM |
| 22 | This has to stop. The bar is SO low for men!Yeahhh my abusive ex had a pregnancy fetish and reproductively coerced me. For awhile I thought he was just trying to trap me with a baby (which he was) but looking back, he loved dirty talk that centered around knocking me up. I asked him once how different vaginas feel woman to woman and he said he'd observed that they're not as tight if the woman has had kids (🙄). I asked him if that wasn't a deterrent to him wanting kids and his response was that if it was him who'd caused that change in a w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:30 PM |
| 143 | This is how you should treat a guy who cancels just two hours before and treats you as a second option for a first date 👋🏼😊I had a FWB who invited me to his NYE party but then said he'd have to ask his friends if it would be alright, because supposedly they didn't normally bring "outsiders" to their friend group parties. It was his party, his apartment, and he was pushing 40 but I was like, whatever. Get their okay and get back to me. A couple days later it's the afternoon of NYE and I hadn't heard from him so I messaged him to find out what was going on. He told me he hadn't asked them yet but that he'd let me know… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:51 PM |
| 26 | Is going 50/50 on rent the norm?I feel like I'm taking crazy pills sometimes because everywhere I look I see men shamelessly financially leeching off the women in their lives, yet we're the gender that gets besmirched for gold digging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 49 | Is going 50/50 on rent the norm?If he wants the joy of your companionship (and sex, let's face it) in his home at all times then he should treat you like a queen. ☝☝☝☝☝☝☝☝☝ Getting to live with a woman is a LUXURY and should be something that realistically the average man can't afford (considering the average man can't seem to live independently). But men feel entitled to us. They feel entitled to leech off of us financially while expecting us to bring warmth and love into their lives, act as their own personal therapists, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:34 PM |
| 29 | Is going 50/50 on rent the norm?There are a TON of LVM out there seeking to use women to subsidize their lives. This is something that's somehow gone uncommented on by society at large despite how incredibly common it is. This is why it's so important to be independent and to have your own place. If your boyfriend wants you to move in with him, what's the draw? That you get to pay his rent/mortgage? That you get to become his bangmommymaid? If a man wants you to live with him, it better be a damn tempting proposal that DOESN'T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:23 PM |
| 8 | The biggest danger to a woman's life is a manMy abusive ex did time for illegal possession of a firearm but was adamant that once we got a place together he had to get a gun, despite the fact that if he's even discovered in the same house as a gun it would basically mean an automatic prison sentence because of his priors. I was such a delusional PickMe at the time that I was like, "Couldn't I say it was my gun?" And he said that wouldn't matter, law enforcement would assume it's his because of his criminal record and the fact that he knows… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:49 PM |
| 40 | So this is where all the FDS super fans have gone... (community created by an angry anti-FDS smoothbrain)$5 says this guy can't actually afford for a hypothetical wife to be a SAHM. Scrotes wanna wax poetic about traditional values while they work part time at the dollar store and live with their mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:36 PM |
| 4 | Why even swipe on me when he can obviously see what I look like!This may be the only justifiable reason to not immediately block once a man has revealed he's LV. 😂 More LVM should have their negging met with negging tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:30 PM |
| 5 | Why even swipe on me when he can obviously see what I look like!LMFAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:27 PM |
| 12 | If you have to fake orgasms for the guy your with he’s not the one! Don’t clown yourself.I was a PickMe so I was seeking validation. What I got was technically raped because he took the condom off in the middle of sex without telling me. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:21 PM |
| 2 | If a man is trying to elicit your sympathy, he is probably a sociopath. PITY, not wrath, is the #1 early red flag for sociopaths. Avoid such people at all costs. They are irredeemable, so don't bother trying to "make it work" with them. Just block and delete.If they show signs of psychopathy and have admitted to killing animals and claim to have killed people, I'm inclined to believe them. There are a lot of murders out there that go unsolved and largely uninvestigated because the police don't care about the victims, and that's precisely why those victims are targeted. For my ex it was rival gang members because the police don't really give a shit about gang members being murdered and for yours it was probably homeless men because the police don't g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 07:19 PM |
| 9 | Dating someone that sucks but their kids or pets are awesome, amiright?My FWB's only redeeming quality was that he'd adopted a shelter dog and took really good care of him. In his bedroom he had two full size beds pushed together and one of them was the dog's. But he was otherwise a LVM, through and through. The scrotiest of scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:19 AM |
| 40 | If you have to fake orgasms for the guy your with he’s not the one! Don’t clown yourself.Super prevalent. Every woman I've talked to irl about it says they fake it, usually to avoid hurting the man's feelings or just to get him to stop because she's over his fumbling. My ex estimated he'd slept with ~40 women and he claimed he'd made every single one of them orgasm. He got annoyed when he was never able to get me to orgasm. Straight up accused me of lying to him. I told him I wasn't lying, but that every other woman he's slept with (especially the one night stands) probably had. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:11 AM |
| 34 | If you have to fake orgasms for the guy your with he’s not the one! Don’t clown yourself.I was shivering once in bed following sex with my FWB because he was too cheap to turn his heat up and all he had was a thin ass blanket the size of a postage stamp. He said something that insinuated he thought it was orgasm aftershocks or something. 🙄🙄🙄 He never once made me orgasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:06 AM |
| 114 | HVM love FDSSomething a HVM is most assuredly not doing is spending his time shitting on women on the internet for having standards. These scrotes out themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:02 AM |
| 72 | I literally got downvoted and told not to kinkshame because i said i never had rape fantasies. (:(:Exactly. I think I was molested when I was a child (I was brought into an empty house by a man to be "spanked" and another man was waiting there for us, but I can't access the memory of what happened after that), I lost my virginity (I guess? Since I can't remember what happened to me when I was a kid) to my first boyfriend raping me, and I recently escaped an abusive relationship in which I was being raped. I used to have full blown rape fantasies and I still find myself aroused by the thought … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:58 AM |
| 6 | Dear FDS please stop using the phrase: "Going Dutch".LMAO you guys refuse to do away with Zwarte Piet but you're going to come here crying that this phrase is racist? Okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:50 AM |
| 204 | I literally got downvoted and told not to kinkshame because i said i never had rape fantasies. (:(:Most women have also experienced sexual assault in one form or another, and this is one of the many ways the trauma rears its head. That doesn't make it healthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:46 AM |
| 3 | This is why you should never date a man who does steroids. Juicy meathead sub be like "FDS is MiSrEpRuHsEnTiNg us!!!" Also juicy meathead sub:Most studies support a link between adult criminality and testosterone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:43 AM |
| 3 | This is why you should never date a man who does steroids. Juicy meathead sub be like "FDS is MiSrEpRuHsEnTiNg us!!!" Also juicy meathead sub:Yup! Steroids can be natural as well as synthetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:51 AM |
| 25 | What a HVM looks like in a long distance relationship (necessary due to college and church obligations); these are ON TOP of being able to text, video call, etc.I love how they casually say shit like this, not realizing that it makes them seem like someone who's either massively incompetent or like they perhaps have some sort of learning disability. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:26 AM |
| 11 | What a HVM looks like in a long distance relationship (necessary due to college and church obligations); these are ON TOP of being able to text, video call, etc.Freaking adorable! Since leaving my abusive ex he's continuously tried to reach out to me in the most low effort ways. Phone calls, voicemails, texts, and emails. Never once anything mailed even though he knows my address (he used to live with me and had stuff shipped here) and I'd sent him cards in the mail. We'd watched a movie where someone did that despite living in the same town as their SO and we'd laughed about it. He'll text/email paragraphs about how sorry he is and about how he just wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:22 AM |
| 41 | It’s like these idiots just don’t even care 🙄 the point of a dating app is to get to know people KyleLMFAO! "I'm different. I'm not like other boys." Does he not realize that the Manic Pixie Dream Girl shtick doesn't usually work on women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:13 AM |
| 188 | When the trash takes itself outHonestly, it's better to just unmatch/block the moment they hit you with the, "Walk in the park?" LVM bullshit. Don't give them the opportunity to chameleon into something they're not when they realize you have high standards. He's already revealed himself as a LVM and you're just wasting your time. A HVM will NEVER suggest a "date" like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:11 AM |
| 104 | This is why you should never date a man who does steroids. Juicy meathead sub be like "FDS is MiSrEpRuHsEnTiNg us!!!" Also juicy meathead sub:Trenbolone, like testosterone, is an anabolic steroid. It's three times more powerful. Think of all these disgusting comments and sentiments expressed by these scrotes, but reduced in power. Still fucking gross. And that is what the average male is like. Women need to know that these steroids, natural or not, have a HUGE impact on male behavior and are (along with socialization, imo) responsible for the higher rates of depravity encountered in men compared to women. Some men have naturally highe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 08:05 AM |
| 4 | My HLM turned out to be an abusive LVMIf a man is the sort of abuser who only starts to really abuse once he feels he possesses someone, then you're probably not going to see signs until his criteria for ownership are met (cohabitating, marriage, children, etc.), so there's no specific vetting process that will necessarily help you identify that they're abusive sooner. They can be perfectly nice to everyone else in their life, their family members, friends, coworkers, acquaintances, and even the woman they're dating (in the stage be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 11:06 PM |
| 7 | My HLM turned out to be an abusive LVMLuckily if you follow FDS you have a zero tolerance policy for LVM, which should weed out not only the vast majority of LVM but also abusers too. OP said their husband was "stubborn", which is a red flag behavior that an FDS woman would cut a man loose for. His abuse may not be readily apparent but LVM behavior will be 99% of the time. It would take a special kind of psychopath for a man to flawlessly pass himself off as HV for years. Men like that do exist though, so there's always a latent ris… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:18 PM |
| 1 | 👑 Stay Queens, my Queens! 👑Unfortunately for a lot of us it's been there, done that, lived that hell, never doing that again. It's like that Beyonce lyric, "I could have another you in a minute." Literally any one of us could obtain some LV scrote to leech off of us tomorrow if we wanted, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 06:48 AM |
| 47 | My HLM turned out to be an abusive LVMHave you read Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft? If not, I'd highly recommend you do. The signs that a man is abusive can lay dormant for YEARS until certain criteria are met, depending on the man. For some guys it's when you officially become their girlfriend, for some it's when you move in together, for some it's when you get married, and for others still it's when you have kids together. At the heart of the abusive mindset is an overinflated … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 06:38 AM |
| 29 | FDS helped me recognize how I was not doing my son any favors the way I let him treat meHe's probably already watching pornography if he has his own device with internet access, so OP should definitely look into blocking that and having a very frank conversation with him about why it's unacceptable. Nothing will ruin a boy faster than porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:54 AM |
| 12 | Confession from a self described "Daddy Dom" when I criticized his kinkIf there is undeniable proof that they're a pedophile and have harmed a child (either directly or by possessing child pornography) they should be executed. They aren't adding value to society, they can't be fixed with therapy, their recidivism rate is astronomical, they have a tendency of escalating, and they ruin the lives of their victims. Execute them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:50 AM |
| 10 | Confession from a self described "Daddy Dom" when I criticized his kinkA disturbing number of pedophiles are married men who prey on their own children. Most men can get it up for anything, so even if they're a pedophile and would rather be preying on children they can still easily have sex with adults. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:47 AM |
| 51 | Confession from a self described "Daddy Dom" when I criticized his kinkidk about therapeutic but some states already chemically castrate pedophiles. I'd bet that if a pedophile sought out elective castration that he could obtain it somehow, without having to wait for it to be court ordered only after he's scarred a child for life. But, total shocker, probably none of them have done this because they aren't willing to get castrated for the sake of children or to relieve themselves from these urges that they supposedly find so repulsive. I don't believe it when they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:38 AM |
| 9 | Anyone see the post of the girl that got jaw surgery one r/damnthatsinteresting?Exactly. We really need to stop grouping men in with us, as if we're the same type of human when we're clearly not. Most men bomb emotional intelligence tests. Imagine being someone of average (or above average) intelligence but everyone around you has painfully low IQ. That's what women are dealing with when it comes to men, from an emotional intelligence perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Sailor Moon FDS momentsOkay but Mamoru was constantly negging Usagi and wasn't he in college when she was still in high school? LVM energy tbh. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:00 AM |
| 35 | It’s not possible to tell if a man is high value after a few dates/weeks/months. Vetting is an ongoing process, and you should be glad that it isMy sociopath ex ruined my life as it was. I got pregnant because he reproductively coerced me, got an incredibly traumatic abortion to prevent him from harming my potential baby, and had a big promotion at work rescinded because HR interpreted him stalking and harassing after I left him as me "bringing my personal life into work". Yup. I'm looking for another job now. I'm a fucking wreck, ngl. I have some faith that I can rebuild and be stronger and better off for it, but holy shit is my life an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:14 AM |
| 56 | PROTECT YOUR WOMB LIKE ITS THE LAST THING YOU DOThen if scrotes accuse you of being a gold digger you can truthfully say "but won't you think of the children!!???" This is actually such a good point that for some reason never occurred to me. It makes perfect sense that any woman with an eye towards starting a family would be super selective and only entertain men who're financially stable, and there's nothing wrong with that. That's actually the responsible thing to do. Scrotes themselves, when pressed, would probably admit that they also wou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 08:39 AM |
| 45 | PROTECT YOUR WOMB LIKE ITS THE LAST THING YOU DOI can't advocate enough for birth control. Who you have children with (if you want children) is literally the most important decision you will ever make. It has repercussions that will impact entire generations. Generational trauma is real. It is better to risk never having children than to have children with the wrong man. And be kind to yourself and do your best to avoid ever having to get an abortion by sorting out your birth control situation. I know a lot of women walk away from their abort… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 08:35 AM |
| 9 | HVM anticipate your needs!His face was like thunder but he forced this quick fake flash of a smile when he looked at me. It was eerie and hard to explain. When my mother met him she said that he seemed creepy - like his smile didn’t meet his eyes MY EX HAD THE SAME SMILE, OMG. It's like he'd suddenly remember that smiling is something people do that's expected of him too, so he'd flash that smile that had no warmth behind it. It kind of reminded me of the type of smile little kids do when they're forced to smile for a pi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 08:14 AM |
| 15 | Stay aware100%, aberrations of nature. And they bring such instability to the world as a result. I do still have some faith that there are a small number of good men in existence but they have to fight an active, never-ending battle against their own biology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:54 AM |
| 28 | Something doesn’t add upHAHAHAHA why do they always have underwear like this? One of my pandemic "dates" with my ex was going to Walmart to buy him new underwear. And yes, I paid. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:50 AM |
| 17 | HVM anticipate your needs!My ex initiated sex once, KNOWING I was on my period (I was always very open about when I got my period and I'd worn a pad to bed this night, so even if he'd forgotten me mentioning it there was no mistaking the giant pad), and then got grossed out afterwards because there was blood on his penis. He told me he'd expected me to stop him if my flow was heavy. 🙄 It wasn't even heavy, didn't get any blood on the sheets or anything. At this point in our fucked up relationship he was rationing sex as … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:48 AM |
| 7 | Men who are disgusted by body hair on women usually look like gorillasHVM don't mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 10:46 AM |
| 51 | ✨Y’all heard?✨What really grinds my gears are these guys who expect you to have a baby knowing full well their salary can't support it and you will be forced to keep your full time job. My ex and I discussed early on what we want out of life, our dreams and goals. We both said we wanted kids, and I talked at some length about how I want to stay at home when I have children until they're in grade school because I don't really see the point in having babies just to pay someone else to raise them (or foist them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:29 AM |
| 19 | I'm fuming. Why is he reviewing her like an object!!!It's shit like this that makes some women flock to jealous men. My ex was a piece of shit but he would never in a million years have done something like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 10:46 PM |
| 31 | I just got my IUD taken out and I couldn’t be happierIUDs don't agree with everyone, unfortunately. Doctors need to accept that. My copper IUD is settling in just fine but I have a coworker who had one who was bleeding out for months on end and her doctor basically refused to remove it, telling her to just give it more time. Why are doctors like this??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 118 | Divorcing my porn sick husbandGood for you! This will be a new lease on life. And with FDS you'll be much better equipped to filter out LVM in the future, if you decide to date again. Men like your ex are such pathetic losers. Imagine ruining your life because you're ruled by your sexual urges. Some men are barely better than animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 10:39 PM |
| 328 | This is just so sad... I don't feel like i want to date men anymore after being exposed to what they really think... and dealing with horrible men. I just can't take it mentally lolThe average man has zero empathy. They can acknowledge that women are being fucked over by society, are grappling with all sorts of feelings of insecurity, that we've probably been used and hurt before by men, and yet they will openly talk about how this benefits them in their quest for casual sex. They're bordering on psychopathy and then want to cry, "Not all men!" when women talk about all the messed up things they say and do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 10:35 PM |
| 21 | I hope she peed after sex, because if a man lives like this, he for SURE doesn’t wash his dickThat situation just gave him the opportunity to show you who he really is and what his priorities actually are though, it didn't change who he is fundamentally as a man. There are a lot of couples who go on happily for years, sometimes decades, cruising along because there's never been a speed bump in the road. But realistically, eventually there will come a time when character is tested. And the longer it's been and the more you have invested, the more devastating it is to come to the rude awak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 06:44 PM |
| 6 | I would like to inform you all that NOT ALL MEN are violent misogynists.My ex. 😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:07 AM |
| 7 | Another FDS queen by the sounds of itI wish I'd been smart enough to dip that first night when my ex felt the need to tell me I'm not his type and that he prefers Spanish speaking Latina and/or black women who're significantly shorter than him. Should have peaced out immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 04:03 AM |
| 23 | "Women in a nature setting are to be conquered" (and yes, this man is married)In a 1976 study anthropologist Jane M. Murphy, then at Harvard University, found that an isolated group of Yupik-speaking Inuits near the Bering Strait had a term (kunlangeta) they used to describe “a man who … repeatedly lies and cheats and steals things and … takes sexual advantage of many women—someone who does not pay attention to reprimands and who is always being brought to the elders for punishment.” When Murphy asked an Inuit what the group would typically do with a kunlangeta, he replie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 02:28 AM |
| 13 | The gaslighting this woman experienced is unreal. Let this serve as a reminder of why not to get involved with a LVM.I was reproductively coerced (including raped) by my manipulative, abusive ex. I kept trying to leave him but would crumble and end up taking him back. It was a vicious cycle. He eventually succeeded and got me pregnant. I terminated. It was the hardest decision I've ever made but it was the only right decision, the only decision not founded in selfishness. Women need to wake up and acknowledge that having babies in bad relationships is selfishness. My ex threatened to kill me if I ever aborted … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 12:05 AM |
| 29 | The term “gold digger” is men projecting their own scavenging ways onto womenIf he’s negging your looks, it’s because he knows you’re out of his league. My ex loved making digs at my looks to chip away at my self esteem. Unfortunately, it worked. 😞 One of the many things I'm going to work on while leveling up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:24 PM |
| 17 | Don’t be Bob the Builder for a man.LVM rarely change though, not even by being in a relationship with a HVW. They just sometimes land with the right PickMe sucker who'll tolerate them longer. I'm not the first woman my abusive ex tried to trap with a baby. He thinks there must be something chromosomally wrong with his sperm or something because two previous girlfriends of his "miscarried". I'm pretty sure they did the same thing I did, got an abortion and passed it off as a miscarriage to escape him because he's psychotic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 09:07 PM |
| 13 | Who pays for a date? A men's website gives their answer.I dated a guy for a minute when I was a PickMe who did 50/50 and he said it confused the hell out of him at first when I wanted to split the bill, because he assumed it meant I wanted to back out of anything romantic with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 11:29 AM |
| 5 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.Even my abusive sack of shit ex said he wanted both sons and daughters. I don't know how so many women tolerate their husbands/boyfriends just openly admitting that they don't want girls and will favor boys. He will be a fucking prick guaranteed if you only have daughters. And studies have shown that marriages are more likely to end in divorce if a couple only has daughters. LVM prioritize sons waaaay more than anyone wants to openly acknowledge, to the point that if they don't get any with wife… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 11:18 AM |
| 19 | I'm collecting links, anyone wants to chip in?Scrotes like him will always prioritize their sexual gratification to the point of pornsickness. These little freaks masturbate themselves into erectile dysfunction and the ones lucky enough to have conned some poor woman into being in a relationship with them sit in dark rooms neglecting her in favor of furiously touching themselves to (often degrading/violent) images of women (and often girls). Even if you could convince them (which you can't), they're not even worth convincing. It'd be like t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 11:07 AM |
| 35 | I'm collecting links, anyone wants to chip in?Lundy Bancroft, an expert on domestic abuse who ran programs for 15 years working with thousands of abusive men, lists pornography usage as one of the (many) warning signs that an abusive man may dangerously escalate when his wife/gf leaves him. If an abuse expert who's worked closely with abusive men judges that porn usage is correlated with violence, I'ma believe him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 10:54 AM |
| 3 | What would you do?No amount of money is worth your dignity. If it were, we'd all be gold diggers here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:53 AM |
| 26 | Life will test you the minute you decide to be a HVW.I am supremely lucky. I've never won a single contest in my life but I had sex repeatedly with two fuckboys who each had astronomically high partner counts (and stopped using condoms with both of them eventually 💀) and I managed to not contract anything (or anything that Planned Parenthood tests for, at any rate, and I haven't gotten symptoms of anything). The world works in mysterious ways. Never taking risks like that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:20 AM |
| 3 | What does it mean when a guy says "I like myself when I'm with you"?My abusive ex told me he liked that I encouraged him to be better. I tried to get him to take his meds consistently, to find a new therapist in the area, to stop selling drugs, to stop doing drugs, to stop smoking, to stop drinking, to stop hanging out with his gang member friends when he claimed he wanted to leave that life behind, to stop having emotional outbursts at work that sabotaged his advancement, to stop eating like shit, to get adequate sleep, to return to actually practicing his reli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:01 AM |
| 44 | High Earning, Well-Educated and Well-Dressed Does Not a HVM MakePeople criticize FDS to try to misrepresent us as gold diggers when we repeatedly caution women that a man isn't HV simply because he's rich. My first serious boyfriend was high earning, well educated, and well dressed. I lost my virginity to him raping me. He insisted on doing things and eating at restaurants that I couldn't afford, then lorded paying over me. He was a high functioning alcoholic (and refused to admit he had a problem even though he grew up with an alcoholic mother) with erectil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:48 AM |
| 3 | Ooooooof!LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:37 AM |
| 4 | If you are serious about levelling up, you need to get comfortable with taking accountability for your actions and behavioursBeing accountable for your actions is not the same as blaming yourself for how other people have treated you. Accountability is about examining why you decided to stay in a relationship where you were used. Accountability is about reflecting on past decisions so you know not to make that mistake in the future. Accountability is about examining your behavior, practices and beliefs. This is all very, very true. I was doing some soul searching last night when I found myself missing my abusive ex ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Pick your friends CAREFULLY!she basically told me she was having a pity-party for herself because “no one has ever said those things to me” I'm actually lost for words... It's like they can't wrap their minds around the concept that these sentiments coming from an abusive man aren't romantic, they're controlling, manipulative, and abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 07:07 PM |
| 7 | Wow. This is sad.What you do is if he hesitates to pay whatsoever, you ghost him. Block and move on. And if he pays and then later insinuates that he feels entitled to some action because he paid, you ghost him. Block and move on. This is at the heart of Female Dating Strategy. You need to acknowledge that 99% of men are low value if not negative value or straight up abusive. If you're actively dating you are going to encounter A LOT of men who aren't high value. The goal is to separate the wheat from the chaff … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 06:54 PM |
| 30 | Is this too much?The only one they'd actually open is the horny one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 01:01 AM |
| 48 | Makes me 😤 to see a gorgeous queen put in effort for date night while her man does the absolute leastAfter the "date" he'd probably immediately get on r/datingoverthirty or a similar subreddit to complain about catfishing. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:47 AM |
| 14 | Don't put up cameras and don't internalize it as "your own insecurities." If the person you're dating doesn't want to honor your requests on a dealbreaker issue, then you leave. Don't even waste your time wondering if they have an addiction. Put yourself first and just go.OP claims to be a woman. It's possible they are, but keep in mind that there a TON of men who like to roleplay as women on the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:44 AM |
| 9 | Don't put up cameras and don't internalize it as "your own insecurities." If the person you're dating doesn't want to honor your requests on a dealbreaker issue, then you leave. Don't even waste your time wondering if they have an addiction. Put yourself first and just go.Not to mention the moral and ethical issues with porn. A LOT of these women are victims of human trafficking, most of the ones doing it "willingly" are actually doing it out of financial duress and wouldn't be doing it if they had other options, most of them only do porn for a few months because of the mental and physical damage, and it's an open secret that substance abuse is rampant (a coping mechanism that further takes away from actual consent), as is sexual assault/rape. Most men today have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:43 AM |
| 5 | Pick your friends CAREFULLY!In the wake of me leaving my abusive ex one of my LV "friends"/coworkers (who knew my ex was abusive) asked me, "Isn't it nice to be wanted?" He'd been harassing me, sending me texts, emails, trying to call me, hitting up other people trying to get them to talk to me on his behalf (including her), and leaving flowers for me at work. I was being walked to my car after work because I was legitimately scared that he would approach me in the parking lot. And she thought it was a good idea to romanti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:29 AM |
| 148 | This girl’s boyfriend is clearly so generous! Is even worried about how much toilet paper she uses 🙄I love how there's this running "joke" that women use a lot of toilet paper, meanwhile GROWN FUCKING MEN are routinely leaving skidmarks in their drawers as reported by their poor significant others. Considering we're not the ones leaving our asses caked in shit, I think we're using the right amount of TP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:16 AM |
| 2 | How should a non-exclusive, potential partner support you when getting IUD?I got my IUD a month after getting an abortion, which I had to pass off as a miscarriage because my abusive ex was reproductively coercing me and told me he'd kill me if I ever aborted. He clearly wasn't thrilled by it, but I'd been emotionally ruined by the abortion and even he could see the change in me. I told him I couldn't handle getting pregnant again and he didn't really even respond when I told him I was going to get an IUD. He knew that would tip his hand. What kind of monster would tel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:10 AM |
| 17 | Just a reminder to women that cellulite isn’t this evil thing that only ‘fat’ people have. Most women, including well known celebrities have cellulite.It should be highly concerning to any thinking, feeling person that all these contrived beauty standards being thrown on women mimic what the body of a prepubescent girl looks like. The beauty industry could have pushed the narrative that super muscular hairy women are attractive. They'd have been able to peddle all sorts of fitness related foods and products and all sorts of hair growth treatments. But that's not the direction they took, for some STRANGE reason. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 08:46 PM |
| 205 | Wow. This is sad.People act like teaching girls to pay on dates will magically fix the issue of men feeling entitled to sex because they paid. It doesn't fix shit, it just side steps the issue and avoids confrontation. If he's the type of guy who expects sex because he paid, a woman should know that asap so she can cut him off immediately and move on. Avoiding the issue doesn't make him a better man, it just allows him to hide who he is longer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 08:39 PM |
| 54 | Got banned from r/datingoverthirty due to inviting women to FDS via PMAnd they don't just watch the show, they rush on down to the stage when it's opened up for audience participation. Practically stampede. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 08:31 PM |
| 49 | Love shouldn’t be hardMy abusive ex told me that EvErY rElAtIOnShIP hAs ItS uPs AnD dOwNs when I'd try to break up with him because he was making me fucking miserable. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:25 AM |
| 75 | Men who demand a 50/50 split on the dinner bill never apply this to the housework divide!!I've seen people sneering at "push presents" and I'm like??? People pay surrogates $50,000+. A $2000 handbag is the least a husband can do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:58 PM |
| 254 | Love shouldn’t be hardAnd women REALLY need to stop mistaking misery and drama for passion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:55 PM |
| 46 | This is such a mess. He didn't do one thing right or research anything or even make sure the ring came on time. This is anything but romantic.Even if everything went wrong and it was completely out of your control, why would you not postpone and do it a different day? Way to basically say, "I already put in this measly amount of thought, time, and effort and I'm not willing to put in an ounce more. You'll get this ringless proposal and you'll like it, otherwise I'll tell all our friends and family you're a shallow ingrate." This is the type of guy who almost burns down the kitchen the first time he tries making pancakes, so he uses it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Facebook photos, and photos for validation.No, it was definitely her. We'd give her shit for it irl and she'd just laugh it off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:23 PM |
| 19 | Facebook photos, and photos for validation.I had a friend group (emphasis on the past tense, they're all LVW) and this one "friend" in particular would always hijack our group chats to start flooding us with selfies, sometimes sexy pics she'd take for her boyfriend. It was like clockwork. As soon as she noticed we were all there talking, she'd start spamming and try to derail the conversation so we'd all focus on her. There is no reason why I should ever have seen this girl's panty clad ass, and yet I have. She even asked once "jokingly"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 08:44 AM |
| 6 | LVMs be pulling out all the red flags in the most unique ways....WHY DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT ON A COUPLE'S RETREAT ALONE?I'm a single mom, and the worst people I've ever dated were single dads. I typically only date childless men because they tend to have less baggage. tbh it's probably not that the single dads are worse people, it's just that there are more opportunities for how awful they are to become apparent. Those childless men would probably come off just as bad were you to see the way they'd interact with the mother of their children and the way they'd be negligent and shirk off their fatherly duties, if t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:12 AM |
| 22 | LVMs be pulling out all the red flags in the most unique ways....WHY DO YOU WANT TO GO OUT ON A COUPLE'S RETREAT ALONE?I always suspect of single childless guys who purposely seek out single mothers to date. The risk of pedophiles alone is Yikes. If I had kids I don't think I'd touch childless men with a 10 foot pole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:06 AM |
| 65 | FDS fun fact: The posts that get reported the most on Female Dating Strategy are the ones that go something like "why are men so ugly?" Most of these reports are for "targeted harassment against me"The lying is seriously out of control and none of them seem to think it's an issue. I grew up in a conservative Christian household and had it drilled into my head that lying is a SIN so as a result I've discovered that I tend to be more honest than the average person. Lying is actually a huge blind spot for me because I have this naive expectation that everyone is probably as honest as my family. It's taken me an embarrassing amount of time to realize how often people actually lie, and now I ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:56 AM |
| 37 | FDS fun fact: The posts that get reported the most on Female Dating Strategy are the ones that go something like "why are men so ugly?" Most of these reports are for "targeted harassment against me"“My son displays a general garment and you claim it’s cut to your fit?” Jessica asked. “What a fascinating revelation.” ― Frank Herbert, Dune | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:47 AM |
| 89 | Theory: Why would men search for someone in real life when they can just jerk off at home?I had a FWB who was a Tinder enthusiast and would hook up with a new girl every 2 weeks or so (or so he claimed, anyway). He admitted to me during pillow talk that he's actually deeply insecure. There's such a stereotype that women seek out male validation (and that's true, a lot of women do) but men somehow avoid getting stereotyped as seeking female validation. SO MUCH of their self worth is derived from their relationships with women and it's something that doesn't get talked about a lot, pro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:44 AM |
| 10 | Quarantine beards are a tragedy .. from Ryan Gosling lookalike to Ryan the Hobo. Why do they all do this??I haven't removed any body hair since getting out of an abusive relationship back in July. I was never doing it for myself, I was doing it to appease men and now I don't want male attraction in any way, shape, or form. Got a mustache and unibrow forming, literally don't give a shit. It's pretty liberating to just stop giving a fuck and to exist in an unaltered state as nature intended. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:39 AM |
| 31 | Quarantine beards are a tragedy .. from Ryan Gosling lookalike to Ryan the Hobo. Why do they all do this??Women should use the pandemic as an excuse to stop shaving, too. 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 10:59 PM |
| 3 | Couples on YouTube/ in the media who are actually good couples?It's literally a running joke among their fans that she's a hired caretaker. Like... that shit speaks volumes. I wonder if homegirl just wanted to immigrate to the US and at the time Ethan was a little less physically repulsive and seemed like a viable opportunity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:19 PM |
| 5 | Couples on YouTube/ in the media who are actually good couples?Hahaha, to have been a fly on the wall when Future found out that Russell took Ciara as his date to the WHITE HOUSE and she met Barack Obama. What the fuck did he ever do for her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Couples on YouTube/ in the media who are actually good couples?Kyuho & Sarah of 2hearts1seoul Canadian wife and Korean husband living in Korea, childfree with their cat. They both work as freelancers doing stuff like translation work (and now make a little money off their YouTube channel). They mention with some frequency that they don't make a lot of money so they have to be careful how they spend, but it's by choice. They're both college graduates, Kyuho studied overseas and is fluent in English (which could stand to make him a really good salary if he wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 08:07 PM |
| 5 | Nope. He is not going to be my projectI did all of this for my abusive ex. I was so incredibly tender with him, because I felt tenderly towards him. I held his face in my hands and kissed his forehead, eyelids, cheeks, tip of his nose, and mouth. My hands were always in his hair, playing and soothing. I'd hug him all the time, often from behind. I rubbed his back, held his hands, spooned him til he fell asleep most nights. On the rare occasions when he got drunk enough to tell me things he said he'd never told anyone else, like when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:30 PM |
| 111 | Swallowing a load is suuuper empowering, guys. Girls who think it’s not are just annoyingLMAO, you're absolutely right. Women do tend to talk about their sex lives a lot with friends but not like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:18 PM |
| 4 | An LVM date wet dream🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:16 PM |
| 28 | This is the 2nd time I got a dm from an ugly male lurker on this subreddit. I trolled him a bit and then blocked. Don’t they know how pathetic they look? 😂 they’re literally only proving us right.lmao, he's like a male PickMe. "PICK ME! CHOOSE ME! NOTICE ME! GIVE ME ATTENTION! 😭😭😭" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:13 PM |
| 129 | In contrast to RBG’s husband, Justice Sotomayor ended up divorcing her husband because he feared he wouldn’t be as successful as her and that she didn’t need him.Masculinity so fragile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:11 PM |
| 20 | Friendly reminder to all the women who are told by LVM yOuRe bEiNg dRaMaTicMy boss/mentor at work keeps pulling this shit on me. Will come up to me bugging out about various things and when I respond basically calling him out for questioning me, because I've literally never failed him and I always get everything done and it doesn't actually help me for him to run up on me stressing the fuck out, he tells me to calm down. 😐 I've started heading him off at the pass when I see him rushing over, body language stressed, and tell him to calm down before he can even open his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:04 PM |
| 56 | Men know men are trash and that’s why they’re so overprotective of their hypothetical daughters.He told me, if you can’t trust your partner to wear a condom, then you should not be having sex with him. And that is the motherfucking truth. Every guy I've been with has pressured me to let them take the condom off. One took the condom off and didn't tell me and my abusive ex would just blatantly take it off in front of me, ignore my objections, and keep going. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 05:56 PM |
| 141 | Men know men are trash and that’s why they’re so overprotective of their hypothetical daughters.And meanwhile he doesn't give a shit if his sons have casual sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 05:50 PM |
| 44 | Men know men are trash and that’s why they’re so overprotective of their hypothetical daughters.Notice these men are never like, "I'm going to love my daughter so hard that she fully knows her value and has standards to match. I'm going to foster her talents, encourage her to work hard, and support her endeavors so she's an independent, strong young woman with a healthy self esteem. I'm going to equip her with all the tools she needs to see through bullshit so that she can protect HERSELF. But I'll still be there for her, day or night, no more than a phone call away." No, their solution to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 05:48 PM |
| 12 | UGH!My ex could barely read. He said the only reason he learned how is because when he was like 9 one very persistent teacher made him stay after school every day for reading lessons. His older brother is legitimately illiterate, didn't have the good luck of crossing paths with a teacher like that. It's a sad state of affairs that kids are growing up in the US unable to read, flying under the radar. It's more common than people probably realize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Confessions of a former pick meMen who don't really love me. 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 02:45 AM |
| 5 | Why are you so obsessed with us? Aren’t you supposed to be “going your own way”?Meanwhile, literally no FDS woman would ever in a million years give enough of a shit to do this to Men (supposedly) Going Their Own Way, incels, whoever. This is so incredibly pathetic. I've made a lot of mistakes in my life and have displayed some pretty poor judgement, but at least I've never been this pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 01:21 AM |
| 10 | Why are you so obsessed with us? Aren’t you supposed to be “going your own way”?Yeah, I went through and looked at like 10 random accounts and it was all attractive women. None were discernable as much older than 30, but we know women age better than men. 😂 Are our feelings supposed to be hurt that a bunch of NV scrotes don't want to masturbate to us? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 01:18 AM |
| 7 | Why are you so obsessed with us? Aren’t you supposed to be “going your own way”?And definitely remove your full name, if it's in your bio. If your real name is your username, consider creating an alternative to follow the FDS insta. These scrotes will try to dox you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 01:15 AM |
| 5 | Yes ladies! We need to start reciprocating!👏🏾I was seriously considering saving up to buy my (now ex) boyfriend a PlayStation 5. It's like watering a dead garden, hoping against hope that it'll thrive, not accepting that it's barren of any life. I had really strong feelings for him (that I now realize were actually from traumatic bonding) but he treated me like shit. I just wanted him to love me. I thought that if I demonstrated enough to him how much I care about him he would come to reciprocate. He told me he loved me. Obviously once I'd… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 12:55 AM |
| 9 | Charlize Theron Reveals She Hasn't Dated Anyone In 5 Years: 'I Don’t Feel Lonely'Yup. The story I read is that he tied her to a chair and then beat her with a bat. Then he either managed to intimidate her into recounting to the press saying that he'd never been violent with her, or she actually felt sorry for him like many abuse victims do so she publicly backtracked. But it's all on record. He may actually be a sociopath. His current wife is a virtual child bride compared to him, someone he'll easily be able to manipulate. I wish they could court order domestic abusers to n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 05:25 PM |
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