Because women go through it, you can't ask for respect for your male body

Itrusttheinternett · 2021-10-16T11:50:32+00:00

It's a common response. Men will experience something and complain about it and women will say "haha, now you know what it feels like to be a woman!"

Okay, yeah, as a joke that's funny. I can take that, but the problem is it's not a joke. That's literally all you are contributing to the conversation. Which leads me to think that my experience is nothing but entertainment for you and that you don't believe I warrant any compassion because "women have it worse". I should just "suck it up", or even worse "man up" and stop being a "cry baby", good job re-enforcing oppressive gender roles.

When people act like this it's a red flag and it's usually part of a pattern of self-centredness/ obsession. They can't spare any brain space for other people's problems (so they quickly dismiss them) every second has got to be a directly self-serving one.

Wafflefanny · 2021-10-16T12:32:43+00:00

If you view suffering as a competition, you can't let an opportunity go by to "win".

If all these women really go through this problem, and they all claim to, you might think they would have sympathy for others enduring the same scrutiny, rather than scorn.

Affectionate-Sun4979 · 2021-10-16T13:03:24+00:00

I've yet to see people go on pages about frightening surge in suicide cases concerning women and say "now you know how it feels to take the lead in suicide stats"...

evenmoremeancomments · 2021-10-16T11:23:32+00:00

What was it? "Why do men self insert into every woman issue with 'but what about men?'" or something

Dynged · 2021-10-16T16:35:51+00:00

As if men and boys dont deal with body image issues or creepy ass women making wildly inappropriate remarks about our bodies. Female narcissism truly knows no limits.

BeNice_777 · 2021-10-16T11:55:37+00:00

There is something pathological about the way so many women dismiss any men's issue, request, or concern. It's as if they tend to fear that even the slightest acknowledgement of men will diminish them personally.

I don't know if this is good or bad, I just know that it means whenever you're with one of these types, you are very very alone.

ringleader- · 2021-10-16T12:34:15+00:00

Do we all see how women typically make EVERY situation about them?

mensmod · 2021-10-16T13:46:51+00:00

In my experience, it is women commenting on other women, or women commenting on their own bodies in anticipation of what they think men think.

PigletRadiant · 2021-10-16T14:01:38+00:00

This seems pretty obvious that nobodies body should be a talking point.

Lupus_Noir · 2021-10-16T17:16:29+00:00

"Now you know what it's like to be a woman"

Ok, so now you try being a man, who has always had these issues, only that it wasn't deemed acceptable by society to talk about them. They act as if men have only know started to have problems.

iiikric9 · 2021-10-16T14:08:38+00:00

Feminists complain about how Men are not allowed to show emotions or even express any frustration of going through something vageuly similar that supposedly only women go through.

At this point, they're literally gatekeeping about these things and then wonder why men don't like showing emotion or vulnerability.

ZangryGrapes · 2021-10-16T15:21:57+00:00

Finally, a female that stands for men's rights

his_purple_majesty · 2021-10-16T16:40:09+00:00

As if people haven't been commenting on his body his whole life. As if "now" is the first time it's ever happened to him or to a man in general. These people have no clue what is going on.

RaRaRaspudding · 2021-10-16T22:02:39+00:00

And this is why I’m scared to speak about it in public. I’m a guy (and gay but I think this still applies here regardless of sexuality) but I had women comment on my body, good and bad and it makes me feel uncomfortable. It’s even gotten to a point where a woman grabbed my ass at my friends wedding. It was really awkward and disrespectful. I already get it bad with men in the gay community with guys objectifying my body to the point I have body dysmorphia and also been taken advantage of with guys purposely getting me drunk and spiking my drinks so that I couldn’t say no.

So when I told a women about it what did she do? Nothing but said the same thing “now you know how women felt”

Is that it? Is that I get? This has literally traumatised me with men and women saying and doing things to my body, literally violating my body and to you its a competition? This is why there’s little to no support for men for issues like this (and trust me I have faced so much more). It’s because we get shut down by feminists or too scared to speak out because they see men who do speak out get shut down. I still to this day have to figure out how to deal with this on my own. It’s hard to say the least.

Nathaniel66 · 2021-10-16T14:10:49+00:00

I'm a guy. Used to have long hair (over 1m long). Close to 40 my hair were starting to shedd. Women in my famil said: "you should cut it, they don't look so good". My response was: "you shold loose some fat, it is not healthy". Oh the shitstorm. It wasn't important that haird i mainly genetic and you can do very little to help, while they can do pretty much with their weight.

At the end i asked:

- why is it ok to say things like that to men, while we have to be very careful not to hurt women?

- because men can take it, they are different

- they take it cause they have no other choice

And there was a silence.

YesAmAThrowaway · 2021-10-16T12:08:05+00:00

These pepple simply don't care about women. All they seek out is feeding their ego by shitting on everybody else, even if it means using women's frequently lived experience to do so.

ElfmanLV · 2021-10-16T12:35:40+00:00

We should make women die during their jobs, make them go to war, cheat on them, and then take their children and money. When they complain, we'll tell them, "Finally! Now you know how we've felt for centuries!"

OctaviaPinfold · 2021-10-16T22:41:51+00:00

As if the male body wasn't a constant talking point and critique among women... not to mention they're the first to ridicule a man if they don't find him attractive or make jokes about his penis.

There's no inherent difference between how men and women think and what they talk about, only the opportunities and circumstances differ, but those favor women for some time now.

ZeldaVelveeta · 2021-10-16T16:37:34+00:00

The last message, so important and true. If a woman shares an experience and is one upped by men, she is mad. This is about Jonah and his request.

No-Perspective5346 · 2021-10-17T06:04:42+00:00

But these are the same people who say men make everything about themselves. Interesting.

Happyfuntimeyay · 2021-10-16T17:04:21+00:00

Said the guy that had surgery to improve his appearance....

Lonely-Active8187 · 2021-10-16T21:15:51+00:00

Says the fucking guy modeling on magazine covers. Fuck I hate celebrities

mortar098 · 2021-10-16T22:47:13+00:00

What happened to the whole “I hate mean cause they make everything about themselves”?

TheChewychopsuey · 2021-10-16T23:20:00+00:00

“How can I make this about me?” - also women

Legitimate-Ad-6267 · 2021-10-17T02:46:10+00:00

They of all people should respect his wishes the most since they've gone through it. That mindset has no logical backing.

nosleepincrooklyn · 2021-10-17T03:19:05+00:00

*don’t comment on my body

Cnn makes an article about it

Tanoki1 · 2021-10-17T03:28:06+00:00

Yes people should already know that body shaming is bad!

Neatche · 2021-10-16T13:22:07+00:00

Shout out to my boi; Jonah! Love you!

I love how sweet and consciderate he is, despite so many jabs that he has had to endure.

Out off respect, no punch line, just like the male body is not a punch line.

Z0mbleBee · 2021-10-16T15:04:40+00:00

I've been body shamed for being skinny my entire life. The fact it's seen as okay because it's about a skinny person not a fat person makes the problem so much worse. It hurts just as much and destroyed my confidence for years. Even as a kid it was just people constantly going at me. I'm mostly past it but it still sometimes effects me

TFME1 · 2021-10-16T20:18:02+00:00

Typically Hollywood douchebag mentality. Look at me! Look at me! Give me millions of dollars, just don't have any opinion about me or my body, despite me making fun of other people's bodies.

Fucking hypocrite.

BuddhasRoadTrip · 2021-10-16T21:37:44+00:00

Male or female, if I saw you killing yourself with drugs, I'd say something.

It's the same with food.

Karnaje · 2021-10-17T11:57:55+00:00

Pretty funny to think that Jonah has just discovered what happened to women while he's probably been bullied much more than the average woman because of his weight.

Also, it's delusional to think that men generally do not face inappropriate talk about their appearance : recent studies has made it quite clear that this phenomenon is also very common towards men, and following issues such "eating disorders" remain vastely undiagnosed among men as it has been framed as a woman issue.

Yes society is more judgemental towards women body overall, but god, many men won't have any issue to understand what it feels like, because many of them have been bullied because of their body shape. Only the difference is that they don't talk about it as often because it's less acceptable for men to complain about body-shaming.

Hound_of_Hell · 2021-10-17T12:34:46+00:00

Women: Men need to speak out about their problems and show their emotions instead of hiding them
Men: *speaks out*
Women: Well now you know what its like as a woman, stop complaining

miroku000 · 2021-10-16T16:54:37+00:00

For a model, their physical appearance kinda is a talking point. For an actor maybe there is a bjt of a grey area. But I think their appearance is still in the realm of discussion for their profession.

ares395 · 2021-10-16T18:39:06+00:00

Pretty damn sure Jonah also went through that shit all his life, probably even worse than most women.

2021-10-16T18:39:50+00:00

...but, but, but wHaT aBoUt MeEeEeE???

milan_69 · 2021-10-17T11:09:54+00:00

True and much respect to Jonah Hill

MeanCompetition4044 · 2021-10-16T20:08:19+00:00

Difference is men bring something of value to a relationship besides their body

MASTERoQUADEMAN · 2021-10-16T13:44:33+00:00

I think this is why people are so curious about his body. It changes so frequently. But I get what you’re saying.
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EnvironmentalWar4627 · 2021-10-16T12:48:12+00:00

People just try to interject themselves and say 'what about us'. Its pathetic.

Check out this post that has hundreds of upvotes about 'now you know how we feel'.

Gingerchaun · 2021-10-16T11:43:13+00:00

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Random_182f2565 · 2021-10-16T12:26:18+00:00

But he is an actor, his body is part of his performance.

I don't get it.

woodenmask · 2021-10-16T17:48:42+00:00

I common women's bodies all the time. Because I want to.

Poh_Lar_Bare · 2021-10-16T22:13:02+00:00

Boxes, always thinking in boxes. Experiences are human. What I experience and feel a multitude of others, from all of humanity, are experiencing. It isn’t a female or male experience, it is a human experience.

MisterNavit · 2021-10-18T18:40:24+00:00

Oh poor women being criticized for their body, while those "toxic, privileged males" get criticized for their bodies, their wallet, their careers, their behavior, their car repair skills and the sins of other men. Oh and of course you also get branded as a toxic incel if you call a woman out on her bullshit.

OverSavior · 2021-10-16T12:52:22+00:00

I mean, when the law that made women eligible for draft passed, there was a crapton of people saying things similar to "now you know how it is for men", too. Am I wrong?

FUNCTIONING_HUMAN · 2021-10-16T13:42:21+00:00

What a pathetic sub.

overtrick1978 · 2021-10-16T16:15:41+00:00

I’m confused. Is he going trans now too or what?

Fearless_Spot_9593 · 2021-10-16T13:09:08+00:00

If you don’t want people critiquing you, get out of the spot light. Instead you just wine people are saying things I don’t like.

lego_vader · 2021-10-16T15:45:43+00:00

the point women are making is that their situation hasn't improved over eon's and the source of these problems is all 'woe is me'.

man the fuck up and call out douchebags who treat anyone with disrespect and teach your children to do the same. then we can start to have a sense of peace, equality and enlightenment.

all you guys are doing is bitching about women who don't sympathize with you very well because you haven't been listening to or helping them.

MoveIll6737 · 2021-10-16T17:49:49+00:00

no you men are missing the point ….. this is the issue. You think everything is a fucking competition , men sound like fucking all lives matter. YOU SOUND LIKE ALL LIVES MATTER IGNORANT PEOPLE.

Bubugacz · 2021-10-16T15:06:34+00:00

Literally none of those comments say he's not allowed to make that request.

seriousoftubes · 2021-10-16T14:32:18+00:00

That guy is a rollercoaster seems unlikely put 100 pounds back on? Nope nothing happen this post is actualky against his wishes want no acknowledgement whatsoever

Techn0way · 2021-10-16T14:36:40+00:00

Who tf is talking about his fat body anyways? Lol

NoKenjataimu · 2021-10-16T20:18:55+00:00

Now you know what it feels like to be mansplained, asshole 😎

Sewud · 2021-10-16T21:25:09+00:00

Ok, but the women saying "now you know how women feel" aren't commenting on his body?

PBJ-2479 · 2021-10-16T20:09:02+00:00

Tbf, if you're reading Facebook comments and screenshotting them, it's more of a diss towards you lol

Panderjit_SinghVV · 2021-10-16T21:52:52+00:00

Far more than men women earn by having an attractive body. It’s always an option for them if they decide accepting an affirmative action job is too demanding.

It makes far more sense to criticize a woman’s attractiveness because it is more often important to their ability to live a comfortable life.

Title	Because women go through it, you can't ask for respect for your male body
Author	baneyney07
Upvotes	2563
Comments	331
Date	October 16, 2021 10:56 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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Now you know what it feels like to be mansplained, asshole 😎