When you’re trying to bring a girl home with you and she asks you “what are we gonna do?”, what’s a good answer?

Calamity__Bane · 2022-07-08T18:49:49+00:00

She wants to hear something that’ll give her plausible deniability, she already knows what’s up.

OkConcentrateNow · 2022-07-08T20:53:28+00:00

You are going to help me fold my laundry

frumpi · 2022-07-08T16:50:43+00:00

"Let's read the Bible and definitely not makeout"

imsexc · 2022-07-08T19:06:22+00:00

Lets watch some porn on my flat screen mirror

ZachMoore88 · 2022-07-08T17:46:47+00:00

It might be best to have an activity already built-in and invite her to tag along.

Example: "I'm gonna head home, have a glass of wine, and play MarioKart. Wanna come?"

7GoodVibes · 2022-07-08T20:00:22+00:00

Partly, it depends on how it is asked. Flirty? Genuine curiousity? Matter of fact?

You don’t need to be super creative here. Simple, truthful answers work just fine.

“I’ve been wanting to watch xyz movie and I bet you’ll like it, too”

“I learned a new song on my guitar, I’ll play it for you.”

“I taught my cat how to juggle, you’re going want to see it! No, really, I saw this really cool book the other day and I thought you might like to read it.”

Or whatever your interests happen to be. Those are just random examples.

She 100% understands what going to your place means, she isn’t stupid. Let’s put this way, she wants a reason that she would be able to tell her friends, her parents, whoever, without being judged. She isn’t likely to want to say “oh, I went over to bang this guy I met.” Basically, saying anything plausible gives a woman a valid excuse to not be called a slut. “Well, I went to his place to watch a movie, and things just sort of happened.”

maronics · 2022-07-09T00:20:16+00:00

The same thing we do every night, Pinky. Try to take over the world.

reddit_guy666 · 2022-07-08T19:38:19+00:00

Netflix and chill

mjornir · 2022-07-08T16:21:54+00:00

what we both are comfortable with

hagakurejunkie · 2022-07-09T04:08:04+00:00

"We're gonna switch cars and rob a bank."

She KNOWS you want to fuck her, if she's in, she's coming. When you get back to your place, say "I need a drink before we go", she'll follow.

Proceed to hand her black clothes and a towel for a mask. Make the towel huge and ridiculous. Reassure her that she looks the part, she'll say no, then say "Fine, we'll do it another day, wanna watch a movie?"

Simple.

OKKira · 2022-07-08T18:46:37+00:00

When I ask guys this I'm looking to escalate. Honestly, I'm not looking for reassurance that you're not going to murder me if I'm already in your home. A little late for that.

I feel like guys who ask questions like this were raised in super prudish households who think that women don't get horny. I'm horny all the time. All my girl friends and I ever talk about... is cute outfits, the bachelor, and the guys we're sleeping with. And that's because we're horny.

On top of that, most girls, to some degree, are submissive and we want to be ravished. Not like, roughed up, but to receive emotionally intense sex. So when I ask a guy what we're going to do, I'm really asking, what are you going to do to me?

CanUnusual8729 · 2022-07-08T20:23:01+00:00

Say something ridiculous in a sarcastic way with a smirk. For example: “I want to introduce you to my goldfish.” Tongue in cheek. She’ll get it and that should lighten up the situation without having to be explicit about it. If she keeps asking in earnest she may be hesitant about going back with you. Or she may like you and want to go back but doesn’t want to go all the way right then. If she plays along and returns the smirk you’re golden.

solidsnake1626 · 2022-07-08T22:18:34+00:00

We'll figure something out

Baby_Grooot_ · 2022-07-09T05:49:38+00:00

Netflix and chill

ittybittyme4u85 · 2022-07-08T21:05:13+00:00

Just say, whatever you want. If she wanted to have sex there would be sexual innuendo from her throughout the date leading to heading to your place. If there was no innuendo then maybe she does just want to hang out and see what happens. Offer watching a murder doc chicks love them. Lol

TheMatthewFoster · 2022-07-08T16:58:01+00:00

Hold eye contact for a second before asking to build tension and then ask her „what’s on your mind?“ or if you want to take it further say „i hope you’re not planning something naughty“

Of course the frame should be set properly and you should have introduced the topic of sex beforehand.

What always works, is if you frame it in a fun way away from you and show understanding of her position. For example if it’s about meeting for the first time don’t expect her to come directly to you from the start. I like saying stuff like „no worries, I’ll gladly meet in an open space. Don’t wanna wake up in an ice bath with my kidneys missing“

SwoleMountain · 2022-07-08T20:54:09+00:00

Depends on the type of girl, but normally just the upfront honesty and non apologetic answer of "I'm about to rail your ass" works well.

anderfernandes · 2022-07-08T18:31:34+00:00

This is a classic shit test. Use one of the 5 possible ways to respond to any shit test.

2022-07-09T13:22:49+00:00

Depends on the girl. There is no all-woman answer to this. Also depends on you, what you would be happy with from the evening.

I’m someone who is quite anxious about sex, the only guy I didn’t really know who I went home with basically said something like we can hang out, make out and whatever happens happens. No pressure to do anything more, we don’t have to have sex, if we just hang that’s cool. (Obviously paraphrasing but that’s pretty much the content, and it was in reaction to him reading clear body language that I was truly unsure)

The fact he recognised I was into him but wasn’t ready, stated explicitly that we didn’t have to have sex and clearly meant it is why I went home with him.

I’ve never gone home with anyone like that before because I was always worried by doing so I was sort of agreeing to sex.

Hfduh · 2022-07-08T21:07:48+00:00

What would you like to do? 🤷🏻‍♂️

boxmail2800 · 2022-07-08T21:37:12+00:00

Well after bible study we can work on affirmations and then make out. Or cake and ice cream.

solidsnake1626 · 2022-07-08T22:26:27+00:00

Nothing pre-planned, they almost always come off as cringy and rehearsed. You kinda have to read the situation and energetically respond, the words dont really matter.

2022-07-09T03:57:03+00:00

I probably just casually say “ idk, probably something we’ll both enjoy”

victorymilkshake · 2022-07-09T04:43:16+00:00

“I have a great bottle of wine back at my place” works 100% if she wants to go back with you.

DivineSwine_ · 2022-07-09T04:46:27+00:00

"nothing more than you want"

badfrankfilmz · 2022-07-09T05:18:57+00:00

Watch a dvd

TaskCurrent · 2022-07-09T05:33:25+00:00

I want to head home and play with a kitty. You wanna come along?

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-07-10T05:46:35+00:00

At my place?

I would let her through the door and show her the living room and my bedroom. If she goes into the bedroom, it's on.

Not much to say.

2022-07-08T19:37:49+00:00

That sounds like a clear hint she wants sex. For the sake of science just say “fuck”

If you get a bad result then you know plausible deniability is the way to go with the next one

tes_befil · 2022-07-08T17:21:21+00:00

My go to: food and wine. I can cook so ill suggest that and if she's comfortable with it ill usually have at least one bottle of wine laying around.

great_account · 2022-07-08T18:18:50+00:00

"Whatever you're comfortable with"

Opening-Twist-2362 · 2022-07-08T23:38:02+00:00

I don't know, just thought that we might get to know each other better. I know that there are things I would like to know about you, and that you can get to know what kind of guy that I am.

cadetgusv · 2022-07-08T23:10:03+00:00

Magic we’re going to make magic happen😉 I have my magic wand here I’ll wave it around , you would be my lovely assistant won’t you?, the show will be spectacular! O no your not into magic? Well for this next trick I’ll need a volunteer then😎

TheRealSlimN8y · 2022-07-09T05:36:43+00:00

Man you just got be upfront. If you wanna have sex, you tell her something like “well I was thinking we could take it to the bedroom” - and if she says no, you drop it. There’s literally nothing wrong with making the assumption and verbalizing it as long as you don’t move forward after a response that isn’t affirmative consent. You really just gotta trust yourself and hope for the best.

davenh123 · 2022-07-08T19:01:41+00:00

Tell her you want to fool around. She’ll get the idea

FractalGuise · 2022-07-08T20:47:00+00:00

Tell you you gonna beat that pussy up.

Crooklar · 2022-07-08T21:07:57+00:00

Sleepy lions

yyuyuyu2012 · 2022-07-08T21:22:01+00:00

Get ice cream and tell you a story Georgina ;) .

RenegadeBS · 2022-07-08T22:18:40+00:00

Let's cuddle and watch a movie

ncsakira · 2022-07-08T22:50:57+00:00

Drunk binge watching game of thrones... Works all the the time

m7h2 · 2022-07-08T23:39:05+00:00

watch a movie or drink something talk whatever you want to do

Digital-Bionics · 2022-07-08T23:50:11+00:00

Seduce her there and then

2022-07-09T00:01:47+00:00

Have a few drinks on the balcony.

Don't explain too much, she knows why she is going back to your place.

Thony311 · 2022-07-09T00:18:34+00:00

If we are out having a drink, i invite her over to chill out and sober up a bit.

Also had success with saying i have more drinks at mine and its quiet

Ambitious_Rabbit9120 · 2022-07-09T02:01:25+00:00

" Make a couple of drinks and either game or watch a movie. Also, cuddling is an option "

Total_Obligation_371 · 2022-07-09T04:41:23+00:00

Jesus Christ, the women's responses to this question are exactly why you don't take dating advice from women.

sippycupjoe · 2022-07-09T04:51:42+00:00

Hot passionate love making?

Meraxes9 · 2022-07-09T05:24:34+00:00

Say " we're gonna have some fun 😉" then bust out the switch ans play Switch Sports.

StillRaindrops · 2022-07-09T06:11:35+00:00

Are you not women enough to know?

DrumminD21 · 2022-07-09T06:44:16+00:00

"I'm gonna fuck the shit out of you."

Elbynerual · 2022-07-09T06:44:38+00:00

Tell her "we're gonna take off our pants and play slip and slide".

I'm kidding, I always just immediately break out into singing "I can show you the world" from Aladdin. Never fails.

Additional_Plant_539 · 2022-07-09T06:57:10+00:00

"Science experiments, a bit of chemistry. And we definitely WONT be making out all night" cheeky smile, and then just sit with the tension.

mrmelovic · 2022-07-09T08:28:44+00:00

"I'll show you my collection of butterflies"

Aphrodites-Brat · 2022-07-09T08:48:32+00:00

First time having the girl over, you don't want to be too pushy, or suggestive at first. Even if she wants to get in your pants too, being stuck at a guys house is kinda scary the first time, and if the guy is too horny off the bat its worse. Since now she is at your house for the first time, and the door is closed she may feel trapped. So its good to suggest\have a plan for regular activities to relax for for a bit first and if she seems flirty, feel free to flirt back with her. Try to keep it on her pace, she wants to feel safe and not like your a creepy guy who is gonna make her regret coming there.

SeanBatemanJr · 2022-07-09T09:28:57+00:00

First of all it’s preferable to START dates at your house when possible, it’s a good time management trick among other things. Second a good reason to return to your house after being outside might be as simple as drinking a bottle of alcohol you’ve bought (or coffee if you and/or her don’t want to get drunk) — in my opinion the more simple and honest, the better. But sometimes it’s also good to have a prepared reason you NEED to return to your house if you meet some resistance with the first approach or it doesn’t work logistically: for example saying your socks are wet and you need to change them, or you have left something important at your house or need to check something on your computer for a couple of minutes etc. Of course depending on the wibe you might be more direct and risky, and jokingly tell a girl you are going to make out or fuck — or instead to tell her not to dream she is gonna get any tonight. These depend on your calibration and being sure they are appropriate in the situation.

urelatedissues · 2022-07-09T09:32:11+00:00

‘Were gonna watch Netflix and split a bottle of wine’

ittybittyme4u85 · 2022-07-09T09:35:38+00:00

A little roll play action

Soberskate9696 · 2022-07-09T09:42:23+00:00

Swedish fisting

abhilives · 2022-07-09T10:08:09+00:00

My answer typically was "watermelon sangria"

ThatRollingStone · 2022-07-09T10:29:56+00:00

“I want to show you my Lego collection”

Bruh if you’re older then 21 it’s pretty obvious.

froze_gold · 2022-07-09T11:04:33+00:00

Plausible deniability - "We're going to play Uno and I'll show you around my awesome pad.. before I make you mow my lawn ;)"

I once got a girl to come over by telling her I wanted her to see how cool my fridge was. My basic, stupid fridge. She was DTF from the jump tho.

davedude97 · 2022-07-09T11:30:06+00:00

Pillow fight

wenjtap · 2022-07-09T11:51:21+00:00

It depends on the eyes she gives you and when she asks. For instance, sexy eyes when you walk into the house… vs. judgey eyes at the bar. Typically both mean something playful and a little dirty. But one means safe and playful and the other means agresiva and playful. (All woman are not the same. These statements do not correlate to all woman and all situations. I take no liability.)

Kadabrium · 2022-07-09T14:22:56+00:00

Elons big rockets blah blah

Many-Leader2788 · 2022-07-09T14:27:00+00:00

"We hopping on Metal Gear Rising rookie"

hancockcjz · 2022-07-09T14:43:04+00:00

Netflix and weed

FrankieColombino · 2022-07-09T14:46:04+00:00

“Get a good workout in”

2022-07-09T15:00:43+00:00

I want to measure your body up with my flesh ruler

ResponsibilityOk5490 · 2022-07-09T15:04:01+00:00

Say “A noice cuppa tea” in an exaggerated British accent.

Kennymacdougall · 2022-07-09T17:58:20+00:00

Why care? It doesn't matter what she wants to hear. All that matters is what you want to do. And if she doesn't want to come then she was never really into you at all.

Seriously, if she would ask that, she has to be the dumbest girl in the world

PeanutEminems97 · 2022-07-10T14:26:12+00:00

Let’s bake a cake naked

Title	When you’re trying to bring a girl home with you and she asks you “what are we gonna do?”, what’s a good answer?
Author	mjornir
Upvotes	203
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Date	July 8, 2022 3:59 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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