On average, how many women do you sleep with in a year?

QuellonGreyjoy · 2021-12-27T00:15:17+00:00

I'm still a virgin and can't get laid. That's why I'm here. Got two kisses this year

noonewonone · 2021-12-27T00:21:50+00:00

It varies by year.

1-2 in my early 20s 3-4 in my late 20s 6+ in my 30s

greenlight144000 · 2021-12-27T01:52:48+00:00

I’m a 22 year old kissless virgin….

Disturbed_Aidan · 2021-12-27T01:06:22+00:00

QuellonGreyjoy · 2021-12-27T01:02:52+00:00

Before college: 0
First few years of college: 1-2
Later years of college/20s: 5

As I got more experience you stop caring about body count and I fully stopped caring after I hit 20.

The main improvement was more confidence and experince to seal the deal in certain situations. Also significantly improved the standard of the numbers. I now have a genuine abundance mindset, much better self worth and am especially happy they aren't always situations involving alcohol. One night stand is still fun but now I try to go for at least 3 solid high quality FWB a year over say 10 ONS. Better sex and more fulfilling for me.

Tyrthesemiwise · 2021-12-27T03:05:42+00:00

About once a year. I'm not bad looking or even inexperienced, I'm just real depressed.

last_life_ · 2021-12-27T02:02:38+00:00

Who cares honestly. You're either going to feel shitty about not sleeping with enough women or overly confident in yourself and better than others. Both are toxic tbh

DocRock3m · 2021-12-27T07:29:03+00:00

Don’t base your worth on the body count. This is what I tell myself everyday. I haven’t even kissed anyone and I am very touch deprived, even standing next to males is good.

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2021-12-27T03:02:50+00:00

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aidsjohnson · 2021-12-27T03:56:03+00:00

I fuck hookers, so it’s a lot

GabberFlasm · 2021-12-27T04:18:45+00:00

I prefer to be in a relationship so most of mine vary wildly, but the most sex I've ever had was when I was with a girl who liked bringing other girls home from the bar for us to hook up with. Over the course of two years together we slept with roughly 60-70 women if I had to put an estimate on it.

Edit: just to add, I got out of a bad relationship this year with someone else and have had zero desire to be with anyone at all, I only slept with 4-5 people this year.

dbake9 · 2021-12-27T02:14:58+00:00

If all is going as planned, one

delusionalubermensch · 2021-12-27T01:55:57+00:00

Depends on the year and where I am geographically and in life. Record is 17 when I was clubbing and living in NYC. Now in Denver as just a guy living his own life it’s between 3 and 7 depending how hard I’m trying. Could pump those up if I wanted to. It just takes a lot of effort.

yenencm · 2021-12-27T07:22:26+00:00

About 203 - my wife has multiple personalities

SkyBison13 · 2021-12-27T01:22:16+00:00

I’m on a solid 3 girls per year cycle. About the Same age, attractiveness, and background as you

Kind-Standard-536 · 2021-12-27T02:38:26+00:00

This year 7, the most of any year but I’m normally in a relationship and told myself I was going to stay single for a while and just enjoy my own youth. 26 yrs btw

DarthFarris · 2021-12-27T03:05:57+00:00

27m, at least 1 a year. The past 4-5ish i've dated a few people for about a year, so it's hard to say what I could have done.

Early 20s I think about 3-4 a year. Struggling a little bit in my later 20s because I look really young (20-22ish), so women my age aren't really interested. Also, just moved cities and loads of people in my new city just assume i'm gay???

I think it really depends on how large your network is.

2021-12-27T03:19:16+00:00

Lotus_82 · 2021-12-27T05:36:16+00:00

I used to get laid a lot in my college fraternity years and the rest of my twenties, now I’m basically at 3 a year and I really don’t feel the need for more.

I don’t have the same need for sex and attention as I did in my twenties and I’m also done “experimenting”. I know myself, my kinks, my needs, which makes me less hungry for one night stands.

Shadow__Account · 2021-12-27T08:50:20+00:00

Who cares dude, find out what is a good amount for you don’t look at what others are doing for your happiness or life enjoyment, but look at yourself. I have these thoughts every now and than too where I start counting and sort of insecurely look at it from the outside how it comes across and if I need more for my year quotum and I just want to slap myself after that when I realize how stupid of a metric it is.

Woujo · 2021-12-27T01:58:27+00:00

This is not something any guy should worry about. Seduction is not a race against other guys.

XtraSaucyy · 2021-12-27T01:12:35+00:00

I started at 19 and by 23 I’m at 22 bodies and now I have a girlfriend. What I noticed is if you’re trying to get more it comes down to game, personality, and experience.

SolarDeath666 · 2021-12-27T05:33:04+00:00

Currently, I'[M] 26 and am lucky to sleep with one girl per year. I graduated college 2 years ago, and during my 6 years in college, I only had sex with 3 different girls and none of them happened to be from the college I went to (Summer Flings and a LTR from High School.) For the majority of my college years, I focused on academics and felt like dating was too much mental work while balancing my taxing Computer Science degree in the mix.

It's been 2 years out of college, I just bought a house, and want to try and focus on that part of my life I've basically neglected, dating and trying to expand my social network. I'm more than financially stable on my own and am confident that I finally have my shit together, so I have some catching up to do socially. I regressed since the Pandemic, and need to break out of my shell, AGAIN, and push my comfort zone far more often. Just need to check my ego/fear of rejection at the door and just go for it.

MVPDoncic · 2021-12-27T06:36:23+00:00

20 years old virgin...

Smooker137 · 2021-12-27T07:20:57+00:00

0 I don't even care anymore

Hagi89 · 2021-12-27T09:54:00+00:00

7-8 but it started 2 years ago when I broke up. Also it’s nothing to be proud. Wish I would meet someone, and fall in love again. It’s way better then just sex and hook ups

slayershark · 2021-12-27T11:36:50+00:00

6-7 ;For reference I am a 20 year old college student

Agitated_Character41 · 2021-12-27T01:31:54+00:00

Are hookers women? If so, scores.

DocRock3m · 2021-12-27T03:34:40+00:00

You wouldn't believe me if I told you. I'm now disgusted with myself.

Edit: Good thing I'm so God damn pretty.

diegggs94 · 2021-12-27T04:44:39+00:00

Tbh, I’ve had a lot of sex. I was living at home until late august this year and that slowed me down a lot, but I’m still ending the year on 16 bodies. It’s really not what your goal should be. I really don’t keep count, I just went back to what I can remember from this year, but I’m easily over 100 lifetime. I wonder if I could sit down and count it out but it would be tough

Kobe_curry24 · 2021-12-27T05:29:11+00:00

Sleeping with whole lotta women is great and best guys can do this but if you can’t figure out one women it means nothing at the end

2021-12-27T21:21:09+00:00

If someone is on this sub, the real answer is between 0-1

DocRock3m · 2021-12-27T03:11:51+00:00

Lost my v card and have decided to wait until I’m successful in order to attract high value women.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-12-27T04:05:01+00:00

Hit 41 this year, breaking my previous record of 36 in 2019 and before that, 25 in 2018. 2020 was a bit of a setback, as you can imagine (I only slept with 12 new women that year).

YoY since I lost my virginity (18yo), my average has been 16 per year, but since I got good at game (22yo), which I define as 10+ lays per year, it's been 24 per year. I'm 28yo now.

FalconVita · 2021-12-27T03:12:03+00:00

jordan20x1 · 2021-12-27T03:55:00+00:00

Eh once a year. My confidence is 0.

isyhgia1993 · 2021-12-27T03:57:20+00:00

I think where you live matters more than physical attributes. I mean with no standard for women, some of my friends can pull of dozens a year. They are not really good looking or athletic, just still got the frat boy vibe. Also, ahem, race matters.

Vainistopheles · 2021-12-27T04:11:00+00:00

On average, 0.03 per year.

ElHombreG · 2021-12-27T06:04:03+00:00

I’m in my early 30s and I’m averaging about 30 a year. My 20s were not like this. Lucky if I got 5.

GarlicTraditional227 · 2021-12-27T07:14:47+00:00

I joined the military and Limme tell you going overseas was the worst shit. My drought lasted like 2 years. I started to lose my mind so I just gave up and went to a soapie with my homie. But before then I hadn’t had GOOD cheeks in 5 years. Anyways a few months later my homie set up a pussy appointment for me (some cucks wife wanted to get fucked by a bbc). Worst sexual experience of my life. I never returned to her😷. But I think that might’ve been back in September. Once I get a car I’ll get back on track cuz then I can pop out more. But god damn it’s been rough. Don’t join the marine corps and for the love of god don’t go overseas

2021-12-27T07:26:05+00:00

I haven’t French kissed yet. HAHAHAHA

MaraSalamanca · 2021-12-27T07:29:50+00:00

Around 25-30 these last few years thanks to OLD apps.

qazxsw134 · 2021-12-27T08:43:38+00:00

Wow the numbers were lower than I expected tbh.

I wonder what the average is between men and women. I’ve slept with 20+ different guys a year. A ton more if I tried.

harveyspecter666 · 2021-12-27T10:24:13+00:00

This year 5 Best year ~20

lydiakinami · 2021-12-27T11:30:35+00:00

Zero. My entire life. I've got my demons to fight, which is also related to a mental condition, but I also am looking for a relationship, so even in dating I'm not trying to sleep with anyone but just try to see if I 'click' with someone. That has yet to happen tho.

2021-12-27T15:32:28+00:00

1 in the last 2 years. Covid kinda has been restrictive. only person I’ve been with too.

Krative_Lifestyle · 2021-12-27T15:41:03+00:00

Its averaging about 1 a year. And covid is really hurting that. If it wasn't for covid I would be doing 2 or 3 a year.

Chronfidence · 2021-12-27T01:21:16+00:00

8-12 a year when I’m single

TheLastDumpling · 2021-12-27T09:32:33+00:00

1, I’m in a relationship, and I enjoy her company much more than having sex w multiple randos. She’s the best! Stop worrying about numbers and find someone who makes you whole, bests

2021-12-27T01:11:58+00:00

No woman cared who I was until I put on the MAGA hat.

khanhlam09071998 · 2021-12-27T02:43:31+00:00

23M and 30+, maybe i'm not that bad ?

lana_del_reymysterio · 2021-12-27T07:23:25+00:00

Bit late to the party here but I'll share anyway....

I'm M24 and in the five years since becoming sexually active, I've seen the amount of women I've been with increase each successive year.

Almost all (probs like 90-95%) of the women I've been with have been from Tinder or Bumble. Get quite a lot of matches/attention from decently attractive (and up) women on dating apps, not much interest from women I meet IRL first. Don't go out to bars/clubs much and when I have, I've never bothered with trying to pick up girls (people generally don't talk to people outside of their social groups here).

Age 20: 3 women
21: 6 women
22: 7 women (one of which was an exclusive relationship)
23: 10 women
24: 19 women

Appearance wise, the women have been around 6-7/10 on average I'd say.

TheTruth221 · 2021-12-27T01:02:01+00:00

i try to hit at least 52 in a year one per week ideally 690 a year

darkhawk0011 · 2021-12-27T07:24:48+00:00

Well one jt is and she would probably be my wife 😅

2021-12-27T09:46:39+00:00

Lots of fake people pretending to be genuine in here. What you're doing is not cool. It's all just an act! Talking about "escalating" "closing" etc.

GoldenMaCfishGillz · 2021-12-27T11:59:28+00:00

Why don't you base your self worth on something more like, finding a quality person to have a real relationship where you actually learn how to please a woman and have meaningful intimacy and it's not a one hump pump and dump? Or some skank who let's any hot guy from an app paint her walls? As a female 3.7( on average according to photofeeler.com) I get all kinds of extremely hot guys on dating apps... 8s all day.. 365... But are they even worth fucking? No, they disease ridden, selfish lovers, out here just trying to wrack up numbers... It's gross and you don't even learn anything if you don't practice with the same person a few times.

Neil1398 · 2021-12-27T12:07:52+00:00

This year I slept wit 10 different women. I plan to do way better next year and probs coulda slept with more, because I’ve had way more near pulls, but it’s better than my previous years of 1-2.

Just for age I’m 23 turning 24 in a week.

Not gonna lie though, it’s not all that though. I remember I slept with 3 girls in 3 days and sat in the car the next day wit my wing and cried wit him. It was a horrible day for daygame and we just kept getting blown out. It started to feel pointless and all I valued was the one girl that gave a shit about me and still does

BrummieAMN19 · 2021-12-27T13:28:24+00:00

20M before discovering "formal game" around 25/yr

This year I've slept with 50+ girls this year with the majority coming in the last 6 months.

Next year I'm aiming for my new years resolution to hit 100+ lays in a year and continue that stretch until I hit 400-500 lays in my mid to late 20s.

truthbomb999 · 2021-12-27T18:00:21+00:00

On average, how many women do you sleep with in a year?

20-30+ but I'm a very active swinger. I go to multi day sex parties where I average 3-5 a day I think the most I've done in a day is around 10, but it's way different than dealing with vanilla women.

BlancheCorbeau · 2021-12-27T00:10:05+00:00

Is that 3-4 people, or 3-4 times per year regardless of playmates?

The first is actually drifting toward the high end averages, the latter would be pretty low (but nowhere near record breaking).

Also, this is a useless stat to track, especially as a condensate of multiple years. What you should be looking at is your trend. Graduated high school at 18, now 21, 9 lovers since high school… is three a year, with three lays a year. Meaning, you have had 3 one night stands a year… which means your pursuing people who can’t give sober consent, or you suuuuuck in bed.

But that’s just taking in averages. The reality is hopefully more inconsistent, which may reveal deeper truths worth exploring.

Also, define girlfriend (in the context of having one ex-gf that you “on average” slept with once).

prtkjnn · 2021-12-27T01:10:47+00:00

CapitalArm3810 · 2021-12-27T01:57:23+00:00

tuchad1997 · 2021-12-27T02:22:10+00:00

zero xD

Langhalz · 2021-12-27T02:34:49+00:00

0,01ish

PaleontologistNo2785 · 2021-12-27T03:27:34+00:00

SuaveFuck · 2021-12-27T03:53:30+00:00

zero.

Painkiller_830 · 2021-12-27T04:02:20+00:00

i’m 20, average is around 3. Past couple years have been anomalies though.

2020, about 9 or 10. Was going through a really bad break up, trying to fill the void blah blah blah

2021, maybe 6 or 7. Years not over yet though 🤩

Saxon2010 · 2021-12-27T04:08:57+00:00

Around 10 the last couple years and significantly less the previous years. I am 30 year old male.

kibutsuzihuihui · 2021-12-27T04:31:44+00:00

3 in life time)(21m) cause of insecurities yes

poolalej · 2021-12-27T04:52:39+00:00

Zeroooooooooo not even a kiss

Virginity is not cool

TowelSmacker · 2021-12-27T04:58:01+00:00

Since I turned 25 I’ve averaged about 5

TexRetroTech · 2021-12-27T05:01:17+00:00

10 or 12. In my fifties

idkbbitswatev · 2021-12-27T05:12:15+00:00

2 a year

2021-12-27T05:18:22+00:00

I had sex with 8 women this year...

It's prolly more than that but I only have sex with really attractive people. 28 year old athlete, model looking type of guy.

thedancinghippie · 2021-12-27T05:32:07+00:00

In my mid 20s, maybe 10-12 a year on average. It was like 2-3 when I was younger

2021-12-27T05:38:37+00:00

Been married a long time now, but in my 20s about 6 a year.

NilacTheGrim · 2021-12-27T06:40:28+00:00

At my peak was something like 30 per year. This was in my mid-30s. I'm in my mid-40s now and am in a serious relationship, so 1 per year. :)

willgo-waggins · 2021-12-27T06:59:13+00:00

When I have a steady GF or SO of whatever type it’s one.

But otherwise it depends on mood and whether (these days) I have a stable of reliable and steady FWB’s.

My current count since I broke up with my longer time GF (1 1/2 years +) and counting her as one is 17 for this year but I have absolutely slowed way down for my single periods as that includes GF through July 1 and two different longer term FWB and semi regular dating situations. It also includes jumping back into the swing lifestyle for a couple months after the breakup and that accounts for all but GF and four others. Kind of how it rolls for me but if I’m steadily playing in the Lifestyle the numbers skyrocket as it will often be multiples per party and more than one party in a given week.

el_guero_0123 · 2021-12-27T07:09:43+00:00

before this year, it was 8 total in 14 years(LTR - ~5yrs and FWB's)

this year, i decided i would fuck as many women as possible and have averaged 1 to 2 a week since february ( i live in México, in a city with a university and have done verrrry well amongst the students, the locals and on tinder as well)

biggest takeaway from this year is that i want to be in a relationship and only like sex once or twice a week.

MauPow · 2021-12-27T07:55:12+00:00

Zeeeeerow

Brandondrsy · 2021-12-27T08:01:28+00:00

Over the last 12 years, on average, 0.

shermankdz · 2021-12-27T08:17:03+00:00

DonSpiro92 · 2021-12-27T08:54:49+00:00

This year zero..

ShortGuitarPlayer99 · 2021-12-27T09:00:48+00:00

22 and ive only been with 2 girls till now. Honestly, i kinda feel like a virgin with how standardized is for men today to have multiple partners starting from early on.

MisterSisterFister12 · 2021-12-27T09:05:01+00:00

About 10

red951t · 2021-12-27T09:37:34+00:00

I'm 65 and I have 4 that I regularly see and one part time. Have sex usually 3 - 4 times a night. I'm not the only one who initiates the sex

robml · 2021-12-27T09:57:32+00:00

For me it depends on the work schedule. If I'm so busy with work/studies then probably 1-2 otherwise more but I usually opt for recurring with beautiful girls with personality at this point.

NiceWetTissue · 2021-12-27T09:59:10+00:00

0 in my life. 25 yo. Gonna kill meself if its 0 next year

trynnaplayitcool · 2021-12-27T10:06:16+00:00

I haven't slept with a woman in a few years :/ but I swing both ways lol so I am still active hahaha

Yanksfan28gg · 2021-12-27T10:15:27+00:00

I’m 23 and have only had sex once with a hooker cause I never attempted to get laid until this year. I did manage to kiss 7 girls tho and got a couple dates as well. So I’m hoping (praying) that 2022 is the year for me.

3SidedDie · 2021-12-27T10:52:20+00:00

0,5.

I usually get a girl each even years. 2021 I didnt got one, lets see what 2022 brings to me

2021-12-27T12:27:15+00:00

ca 0.5 - let's say I started at roughly 20yo, and now I'm 50.

0-21: 0.

22-42: 14.

43-50: 1.

2021-12-27T12:44:53+00:00

More than I want.

looneylovableleopard · 2021-12-27T12:47:52+00:00

That would be F(x)=x² / ((0.5x+2)*4^0.5 -4) -x at any given value for x

elusiveclownface · 2021-12-27T13:02:22+00:00

antonthecad · 2021-12-27T13:22:13+00:00

This year I've slept with 33 new girls and probably 40 overall. But this has only been from July to the end of October as I was in a relationship, then I needed break from women entirely.

But on average it's probably around 25 a year...2 new girls a month sounds about right.

xdanx47 · 2021-12-27T13:58:58+00:00

have noticed i don’t really like hookups, gave it a shot at uni, find it hard to enjoy w people I don’t know well only 4 people all in all

SaltoDaKid · 2021-12-27T14:09:32+00:00

Was at 3 starting the year been more in a long relationship to have sex. But this year been casual dating openly with 5 girls and talking heavy with another girl who seem like another one to add to the list. But tbh it’s not as cool as it seem. Sex is cool but I really like honest normal function female who doesn’t feel like I’m only in this relationship for sex. Idk maybe I haven’t found good FWB. Or maybe i want a real relationship.

DharmaInHeels · 2021-12-27T14:16:48+00:00

48 Bi F here…. About 10.

Worfs-forehead · 2021-12-27T14:16:54+00:00

itsonlybliss · 2021-12-27T14:26:48+00:00

Beezus333 · 2021-12-27T14:37:09+00:00

BounceThatShit · 2021-12-27T15:11:32+00:00

After the first lockdown in the UK, I managed to have sex with 9 different girls in a month. Let me tell you it was fucking exhausting. The pent up frustration made me go balls to the wall. You literally have time for nothing else. I’d suggest doing what I used to do before fucking corona. If you’re not looking for long-term fwb I’d just try getting a new girl every 3/4 months. But you need to let them know the deal and don’t go leading girls on. I made some good friends put of that tbh

jugeknotevaj · 2021-12-27T15:24:52+00:00

Zero. Please send help

MeTarzanAaaaahhh · 2021-12-27T15:42:02+00:00

I (m52) think it’s been 11 different women in four years since I got divorced. Some of them I’ve been with more than once. They wanted the same thing I wanted. Just fun with someone we were attracted to. I met half of them on dating sites, and the other half in person.
I wasn’t ready for a relationship for a long time after divorce. I recently met a super nice & beautiful woman who I’m spending new year’s with. I’m hoping this turns into something really fun and more long term.

thetallfashbeast · 2021-12-27T16:57:56+00:00

I usually never do game in my hometown, but went on an exchange program for 3 months and slept with 5 girls (all who i consider 8+), some of them more than once, easiest way to learn and develop game is to move to a student city / or do an exchange, people there are far more open to everything and it can be a great confidence booster

wchimezie · 2021-12-27T17:49:06+00:00

Same age as u but so far just 3 this year but that’s including my ex that I dated for almost 3 years and lost my v-card to. We broke up earlier this year and after her I’ve been with two other girls although I still sometimes mess around with the ex from time to time along side the newest girl I’ve been messing with haha🤪 9 is pretty impressive tho man. Hopefully I’ll reach that number in the next year or two.

2021-12-27T19:34:40+00:00

2021-12-27T19:50:47+00:00

I was a virgin until a year ago…partly based on religion. This past year, I actually fucked 80 different women. However, it was not worth it. I became obsessed with having sex with as many women as possible and got stressed out a lot by it. Also, a lot of the women were only 3’s or 4’s, which made me feel shitty afterwards for lowering my standards. This was all of Tinder and Bumble. Definitely do not recommend. Focus more on self-improvement and not just racking up bodies.

betterme2610 · 2021-12-27T19:59:33+00:00

10 this past year after my divorce and going to the gym consistently. But honestly you can’t sleep your way out of personal troubles and it’s a bad measure for the value you bring to others and the quality of life you can live. Seeing someone now consistently and it’s nice to feel cared for over playing the dating/sleeping around games imo. It’s not a competition out there and everyone has their own speed and progression.

TeslaNicole · 2021-12-27T20:05:37+00:00

Probably 50-70 this past year. To many and to busy to keep track.

hellisempty666 · 2021-12-27T20:53:12+00:00

It really depends on what I call my "sexual cycle" when I am on I can have sex with multiple girls a week when I am off any physical context except of my own disgust me.

H8beingmale · 2021-12-27T21:11:49+00:00

sounds like you figured out how to get laid quite early in life

sheepdog2142 · 2021-12-27T21:21:52+00:00

Well for me atleast I got a girlfriend about 4 months ago and before that it was about 23 women this year. So my number is 24 in 2021.

2021-12-28T03:22:01+00:00

I have never even gotten a number in a non platonic setting. Never been on a date. And have a hug count of one. M24 here.

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